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The gift of 

Miss Emma F. I. Dunston 




Of the Moral and Inftrudive 

Sentiments, Maxims, Cautions, 
/zW Reflexions, 


Contained in the 

Hiftories of Pamela, Clarissa, and 
Sir Charles Grandison. 

Digefted under Proper H £ a d s^ 

With References to the Volume, and Page, both in 
Qdavo and Twelves,- in the rcfpe^lLve Hiftories. 

To which arc fubjomed, 

Two Letters from the Editor of thofe Works : The 

one> in Answer taa Lady who ^va3 folicitous for an additional 
Volume to the Hiftory of Sir Char tjs Oranaison. 

The other, in Reply to a Gentleman, who had objed:ed to S»r 
Chari-es^s ofr«rM Compromife in the Article of Religion, .ha<l 
' he married a Roman Catholic Lady. 


L O N DO*N: 
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By a Friend. 

\LVTARCH., that juftly admired 
philolbpher, who has greatly ob- 
liged the world by his wricings, 
and, amongft thcfe, by the many 
curious Apepbthegms he has given us of 
the wife and good men of antiquity, tells 
us, "That Socrates, meeting one day with 
" Menon, whom he confidered as a man well 
" exercifed in all the varieties of converfa- 
** tion, as well as a great proficient in fpecu- 
«* lative wifdom, afk'd him. What is Vir- 
" TUE ? And that Menon anfwer'd. There 
" were propervirtues for Youth and Old-age, 
A 2 "for 


** for Man and Woman, for Magiftratc and 
" Private perfpn, for Malhr and ServaLnt. An 
'* anfwer, which (the writer fay^) excited the 
**^ admiration tod applaufe of Socrates," 

But, what would this wife heathei^ kave iald> 
and how much greater would have been his 
tranfport, had his friend Menoh, by way of 
anfwcr, prefented hioi with writings, in w^ifh 
ht had entered .rtunurcly into the nature of'i^e 
Virtues proper for fuch different ^^j, ^exesy 
and Stations ; had he defcribed thefe focial ex- 
cellencies, ft) i^eSingfyj AS tdf conlma»d atten- 
tion, fo accurately^ as to prevent mlftake, and 
fo inviHngfy^ as to engage imitation ! 

But a delineation" of moral Virtuej> like 
this, was, beyond the powers of human Rea^ 
/ony and the utmoft efforts of antient Pbilofo^ 
fhy. And it is to Revelation (that greater 
light to rule the moral world) that we owe the 
more perfisd knowlege, not only of Religion^ in 
matters relative to God, but of Virtue alfo, in 
^natters relative to ourfelves^ and one another. 
No wonder* therefore, that what Menon only 
mentioned in the general, and what even So* 
crates could not have defcribed juftly in the 
particulars, (hould have, been executed in thefe 



htter times, with greater clearneis and pre- 

And yet, whatever improvements have beea 
made by Chriftians in the fyftem of Moral 
Duty ; how powerfully foever men are now . 
exhorted to a6t like reafonable and religious be* 
ings ; how ftrongly foevtr thofe exhortations 
are enforced by the furer and more animating 
f^iiidbions of the Gofpel ^ yet — is it not toa 
vifible, that immorality and irrcligion ftill ob- 
tain in the lives of inany^ and, perhaps, (dread- 
ful thought !) of the majority ? And fhall noC 
every man, who is convinced of the real im* 
portance of virtuous principles and praftices, 
and of the very frequent apoftafy from them> 
fland forth, and prevent, as far as in him lies, 
this alarming degeneracy from growing more 
prevalent ? 

Many (it is acknowleged, with pleafure and 
viixh gratitude) have been the laudable at- 
tempts of writers, in our own country, to ob- 
tain this end ; and thefe both from the dergy 
and laiiy. And a valuable acceffion has been 
made; within the laft fourteen years, by an 
author modeftly ^amnpnous^ in his Three 
Works called, Pamela^ CLARrssA, and 


tc preface; 

Sir Charles Grandison! Work^wfiicti 
amiably illuftrate, and ftrongly enforce, the 
proper Virtues of Man and Woman^ Parent 
find Childj Old-age and Touth^ Mafier and Ser- 
vant ! Each of them commuicated in a re^ 
giilar colleSHon of Familiar Letters^ ** written^ 
to the moment, while the heart is agi- 
tated by hopes and fears^ on events un- 
^*^ decided." A method which muft engage 
more ftrongly, and prove far more intereft- 
ing to, the reader, than a cold^ unanimating^ 
narrative of events long fince determined. 

With fuch a knowkge' of life and manners,., 
as is difplayed in thofc Works ; widi a capa- 
city to entertain with wit, and enliven with' 
humour, as well as to correct with delicacy,. 
end exhort with dignity ; we cannot but 
greatly refpeft the man, who,. In an age liket 
ibis, has attempted to fteal upon the world 
reformation, under the notion of amufement-^ 
who has found the expedient of engaging the 
private attention of thofe, who put themfclves^ 
out of the reach of ptblic exhortation ; pur- 
fuing to their clofets thofe who fly from 
the pulpit ; and there, under the gay air, and 
captivating l^mblaoce of a Novell tempting 



them to tibe peraftl of many a gerfuaiive 

In Older to render theie Letters mom coin« 
[detely ufeful^ u this vojume are €oUe6ted^ 
their various important Maxims^ digefted un^ 
der their general heads ; With r^fer^nces frctn 
each Maxim to its proper volume and page^ 
A woik diis^ that has not been more pro- 
du&ive <^ trcnible, than (I prefume) it wiU be 
of entertaimneat and advantage* 

Sintentiom Mamm$ and Mbralj^ori/ms^ coU 
kitting into a point, an^ conciiely, but ftrongly^ 
expreflii^ deviated ibou^ts^ beatitifid Jenti--^ 
ments^ or infiruStive: kffms^ have always beea 
wdl neceived by the public. They have beeo* 
confidered as the firft ftrol^. of a picture, in^ 
which are feen the juftnefs and beauty of the^ 

painter^s d^fign^ though it has not the co«^ 

The masckm of fiutg^ for inftance^ drawn» 
up by Lord Hau fax, have been greatlyii 
efteemed \ as being the refult of long, expe*^ 
rienccy and found policy. And the waxims of 
RocHEFOucAULT have met with a reception 
j>erhaps too favourable \ as tlicir teridency 

viii PREFACE, 

feems to be, to difgrace human naturg^ and de* 
ftroy all the virtues. And indeed the tranflator 
of them fays, " I muft confefs, I have not 
*^ read any thing in this age, that has given 
** mc a greater emtempt for man." 

The very reverfe of this, is the plan on 
which the following Maxims are grounded \ 
namely, on the real dignity of human naturej 
in order to animate man to a£t up to his 
genuine grcatnefs. *^ It exhibits man, as he 
*' really is; a compound, probationary be- 
** ing : fallen indeed from the primitive fer-- 
** feStion of his nature, yet ftill great and 
** amiable in the Jincerity of his virtues : frc- 
^^ quently rebelling againft the facred laws of 
*' reafon and revelation, and then always an 
enemy to his own happinefs, and the peace 
of fociety : But fometimes fo worthily im* 
proving the graces and the gifts of heaven^ 
as to fecure the bleffing of others, and the 
applaufe of his own mind ; and advancing^ 
" within his proper fphere of adion, the lal- 
** vation of himfclf and his fellow-creatures,. 
^* by a life exemplary in all the duties of a 
** Man and of a Chriftian I** 

Such is the great plan, fuch the benevolent 



P R E F A C E. it 

fcheme, of thofe three colleftioni of Familiar 
Letiers % which have been already trahflated 
into feveral foreign languages, and received 
in our owit country With oncomnrion favour; 
But as the narrative part of thofe Letters was 
only meant as a vehicle lot the inftruSive^ no 
wonder that rtiany readers, who are defirous of 
fixing in their minds thofe maxims which de- 
ferve notice diftinft from the ftoiy that firft 
introduced them, fhould have eften wifted and 
prefled to fee them fcparate from that chain of 
engaging incidents that will fometimes ileal 
the moft fixed attention from its purfuit of 
ferious truth. 

For the ufe therefore of all fuch as are 
defirous of r$pfat^ly inculcating on their own 
minds, and the minds of others, tte import- 
ant Maxims^ which thofe three works con- 
tain ; and who would refer themselves oc- 
cafionally to the volumes for the illuftratioa 
of thefe maxims ; this General Index both of 
Maxims and of References is now offered to the 
public in one pocket volume. 

I (hall only remark farther, that the Hifle^ 
ries may be confidered as the Lives of fo ma- 
ny eminent perfons, and this coUeftion of 



Maxims, as the Mor.als.> And I prefume, to 
add, with all due deference to the fentiments 
of others ; — that Thefe Lives and Morals , will 
perhaps lad as long, probably be as much ad- 
mired, and certainly prove much more exten- 
fively beneficial (as they defcribe perfons ex- 
emplary in private and common life), than the 
Uves and Morals of the Heroes of the truly 
illuftrious philofophcr mentioned in the be- 
ginning of this Preface. 


or THE 

Moral tfW Inftrudive Sbntimekt* 

Contain^ in the 

Hiftory of P ^^M E L A, 


The Numera]f, f, it, iii, iv. denote the Vofaimes 5 the iirft Piguf«s 
refer to the OtiTavo Edition ; tlMfe ijkIoIU thus [ 1 to the i4 
«Qd fttbfequeikt Editioos of the TwcJvcl 

O W great will be the Xbndemnatlon of the 
lUch^ at the great Day of Account, whei>* 
they (hall be a(ked» What ufes they made of. 
the oppoitanities put into their hand to do ' 
good to their indigent fellow- creatures; and 
are able only to fay— " We have lived but to ourfelves ; 
" XVc hejiped up treafores for thofe who came after us, • 
** tho* we Knew not but thgy would make a- Hil! worfe 
^ nie of them, than we ourfelves .have done,'' ii. 207, 
208. [201, ^02], 

Little knows the narrow -minded man the pleafure^ that 
fill the he^rt of a beneficent perfon, on reBe^Ing on the * 
good be has been enabled to do to worthy objeAs, ii. ': 
ap7. [ioi],- [$r^ Beneficence. Zi*^ Ridi, - 

2 /.dvantage*-? 

f Si^tixtxtas, Ben. eitfrmed ftm- 

Advantages of Mm over Womeny o^ing ti 

iVomen ibmfelves. 

The love of praife, and lo be flattered and admired, 
v^hich predominates in the fex, from fixteen to fijcty, 
gives' the nen great advantages over thefi, iv. 465. 


The readinefs with which women are apt to forgive 

the men who have deceived :^thdr Mromen ; 

And that inconiiderate notion of too many of them, 
^at a refiHrkUd rtkeniXtkis the' heft husband^ are great en* 
couragements to vile men to continue their profligacy, 
iv. 466, & fcq. [407, & feql. 

Virtue and Sobriety are mfely as beautiful parts of a 
xnan*€ chara£iec as of a woman's. The moft abandoned 
of men think thefe Graces indifpenfable in the women 
they hope to marry— Shall women oi prudfence difpenfe 
with them in the men they choofe for partners for life ? 
iv. 467, [408]. 

, The foolifli vanity which fome women have in the 
Hopes of reforming a wild young fellow^ which others 
of their fex have in vain tried to do, has often cod them 
the happinefs of their lives ; and given, at the fame 
time, great encouragement to men to continue in their 
guilt; and to add, to their other vices, that of hypocriiy, 
if tb^ think the objefl a pfiz6 worth feigning for, iv. 
467, 468. [409]. 

The truelty of women to an unhappy creature, who 
has been betrayed by the perfidy of her Lover 5 while 
they fcruple hot' to admit among them the vile feducer, 
is another great encom'agement to bafe and artful men, 
iv. 468. [409]. 

[Ste Advice to Young Womtn. Femde Dignitj* Lore. 


P B R 8 N s mav the rather hope to be extricated from 
diflicaldes and dif&eifes, if they h^ve' not involved them- 
felves in them by thfeir vanity and prefomiifiOiiy i. 266. 


In fome apprehended evils, the very event -wc dreads 

often brings relief, i. 288. [229]. 

What weiook iipon tt our greateft nnhapoo^ar in a 
difficalty we are involved in, may poffibiy be tke erilr 
haftening to its crifis, and happy dbiyj may enfoet i* 
288. [230]. 

How knows a perfon, ftroggling with Calamity* whaT 
ends the Almiehty has to bring aboat, by^ the trials he' 
is exercKed with ? Was not Jofi^\ exalutioa owing tcr 
)u% unjuft impdlbaanent ? i. 2§8. [tjol. 

DiffareiTes, howeter heavytat the time, appear iighC/ 
and even joyoar, to the relieving mind, when worthily 
overcome, ii. 57. [79}. 

In a deep diibers, we are apt to engage everf-bodf 
in it ; and to wonder that things ahimate txA inanioliattt^ 
wear the fame face they did while our hearts were free^ 
and eaiy, iv. 170. [154}. [$/# BeneficeiKe. Refigaation^ 

Advice H yotmg. married Womem. 

Young married Women who grow neg^igetft in^ 
their drefs, (hew a flight to the hafband^ that they Ihewed 
not to the lover ; and as good as declare, that they ^are^ 
indifferent about preferving the heart, which perhap^ 
they took no fmall pains to ehgage, li. ifj. [207]. 

Bee Drefs. High Life. Huftand and, Wife. ' M^ri* 
riage. Wife. 

Advice t$ Tou9ig fVmen. 

A YOUNG Woman, of whatever degree, who keepi( 
men at a modeft ditlance* will be fore to be the more 
valued for it, even by thofe who had formed de£gns npoa 
lier honour, i. 9. [8]. 

A truly worthy and modeft Young Woman will valii^ 
herfelf more on being defcended from honeA'pa^reiits/ 
though poor, than if (he were high-born, and l^er pa- 
rents unwordiy, i. 1 1 . [9]. 

The Young Woman who, at the rei^ueH of Tier pr^-.* 
tended lover, keeps, fecret the indecencies offered to hep 
by him, encourages him to repeat them, 1. 26, 27. [22]. 

Tie angerofafuperior to aYoungWbmap, who has' 
had the virtue to repulfe him, is to oeconfidered by her 
as her glory, i. 2*8. [^j]*; ^ , 

. . B a She 

4 Sentiments, t^cc. ^MrdSled frem 

: Sbe tkat is more afhamed of dHhonefty thanof po* 
irerty^ will not be es^ily o.vercoAie, i. 29. 44, 45. [24.54]* 

. : A Young Woman whofe .virtue Jj'aiibeen Ipm^ atj^mpt*' 
cd, yet throws heffelf into the fame perfon'a!|eCHii^afiy, 
^continues where h^is, whdi ^e can avoid^ity ought 
to charee herielf with the confeqaehces, :if {he receives 
Hffw iaaigiiities, i. 50, 93. [41. 72, 73*) iii.taj;^* [201]. 
Thofe things cufgrace not. men, in > the eye of the 
ifoHd; vt4ucb.r^n Women, i. 54. r44]. 

The man who Js capable ei rudenefs to a Woman, to 
wliom he profeiTes honourable love, onght to be rejed- 
ed as'an hu/band, by-aM^oman of virtue and fpirit, for 
liis fdke« a$ well as for the fake of her own honour, i. 

How jnnch belter is it by^od fame .and integrity, to 
get every one's good word but one, than by pleaiing 
that one, 85 incur tke cetffute of every-body c&e ! 1. 70. 

[573- * 
A man profeffing hononr to a Woman, has it gene* 

rally in his power to convince her of his fincerity by 

more than words, i. 228. [181.] 

Wicked men will ftoop to the moft degrading mean* 
ntb to obtain a favourite end, !• 338. (270]. 

If a Woman knows a man to be alibertine, yet will, 
without fcrupk, |^ve him her company, he will think 
half the cerev^y between them is over ; and will pro- 
bably, only want an opportunity to make her repent of 
her Confidence in him, lii. 230. [182]. 

When a man wi(hes a Young Woman of inferior cir- 
cnmftances to confide in his Honour, he ought to be ex- 
plicite, and not leave it to her to explain,- in her own 

{lerhaps /m hopeful way, what he means by die word, 
n ihort, the word Marriage is as foon fpoke^. as the 
ptotd Honour, iii. 437. [345] . 

Men frequently take little liberties with" Women ; and 
ms thofe are received, are encouraged or- difcouraged 
from greater ; fo that it is in a Wontan*s power, effeSu- 
ally to over-awe an audacious prefumer; and obtain 
even fuch a one's good opinion and efteem, iii. 469 to 
473. [371 to 375]. 
A Young Woman iviU bo in left danger when (he 


nither fears an enenif in the acsqitaiiitailce ihe fcvoort 
of the other fex, than hopes a friend ; efpmallv at ft 
much depends upon the ifioe either of her donbc» or 
of he# confidence, iv. 446* [390].' 

A prudent Woman will not want to be reminded 
with regard to her condu^l to fops, coxcombs, and pret^ 
fellows, that (he is not alwajrs fecare in their €ompaa]r» 
by her fuperior good ienfe ; unce good Generals trafting 
lo'their firength and ficill, have been often defeated bjr a 
weak enemy, iv. 447. [J91]. 

. The wife of a fetf-sbdminer muft exped a very cdd 
and negligent husband, iv, 448/ [3Q2]. 

The Young Woman who will adrntt into heir oompaa^f 
any man who fliall be of opinion, and know it' to be 
i«ri, that' it is his provkice to aik» hers to> deny, will 
expofe her reaatation, if not her virtue, to great rifque^ 

iv. 449- t393J- * , , ^ 

Prefnming men are always ready to conttrae eveiy 

little civility in their own favour, fM. 

Men have gencraUy mote hardnefs of heart than Wo- 
men ; ^whence the latter, when they meet not with men 
4»f honour, engage -upon very unequal terms, iv. 454^ 

itisib caflomary with.Meilto make promifes and 
vows, and to fet light by thbin whe'i;! madq,- .that a. Wo< 
man ought not to reeard anjc ^^S 'th2y -either fay or 
vow, that carries not deniopibratibn with it, ihiJ. 

The difference in the education of men and Wometr, 
misgive the former great 'advantages over the latter* 
even where-genios^s are equal, iM. 

A man who is worthy of the Woman he ^etends to 
lovef needs not, generally fpeafcing, take indirect meuia 
to obtain her in marriage, iv. 455. L39^]* 

Hope, in material cafes, (hould never be.nnaccom-* 
panied by fear, iv. 458. [400]* , ^ , 

When a. Youn|^ Woman begins to find in her own 
heart an inclination to a man, pretending love to her ; 
then, if he be not a man of undoubted honour, is her 
daaffer doubled, as ought to be her vigilance ; fmce (he 
hMM0irJi(f to guard againft, as well as him, iv. 45^* L40i](« 

A pradbtt woinan will not truft to her lover's m^rc v 

B s . .0^ 

f^ Sqitimf nts, <kc. ^i^Hlfaltid from 

pit huHowty but to,her own dHcredon ; and the rather, 9% 
it he mean well, he him&lf will yalae her the more for 
it; jf.jiot well, (he wiU dete^ him the fooner, c&W. 

The doubt which a Woman ha$.of .her lover's honour 
ji needfttl, .not prefeive.her own, bot.his. If ihe 
ivronga him, fht can.make.him amends by iolUinces of 
greater coij^fidence^ when ihe pleafes : But if yefierday ihe 

f ranted him little favours, he will not allow her this 
ay to. recede ; till at lail, perhaps, ihe puts herfelf out 
of her own power into his, in order to manifeil the iq^ 
fiitodvon. generofity of her affisdion for him» iv» 460. 

There lave been cafes,, where a man huufelf, porfu- 
ing the dilates of his encroaching paffion,. ani finding 
^ Woman conceding, has taken advantages, which prd- 
^ably at Bx& he,did AOtprefume^o think of, iiid. 

See Advantages of Men over Women Cautions t^ 
.young fenatU SirvoBts. Credulity.^ Female Dig^ 
nity. Flattery* .Heroic P^avriy. Hiftories.M^ 
Char.aBi£ri. Libertines. Love* Low idfe Ma- 
ktxi .BrhteviQur. tQ female Servants* Parents euml 
CJnldreM, Promifes. JEUunances. Ten»ptatioaa. 


It is giving a .b^e man tgo much confcquen^e 49 
the common ^oncern^or iife,.,to be .YJoleiitly angry wlt^ 
.^niW^ 373-' C?.94]- " /K^irPiiEon. 


Baihfulndrs. Sheeplibnefs. 

Bashful people frequently confound thexnfelvai 
by endeavouring to ayoid confiifion, i. 77. [59*1 
'' Balhfuinefs, eveh to ^a faplt, is always to be pre- 
ferred to an. uijdiftinguiihing and* hardy confidence, vi. 

383. [335J. 

' Sheepiihnefs is a damp upon merit, iv.tSj. [33^7. 
Yet it may be looked upon as an outward fence or in- 
iplofure to virtue, whi<;h may keep off the lighter attacks 
of immor^jty, iv. 384. [335]. ' 

It may be expeded that a iheepiih youth is docile* 
humane, eood-humoured, dilHdeut; while a mind that 
aever lioims *it&If is' be coaofiitedy iiapetuous, 
.«?er.beariag, inconig^hje, iv, 384. lusl* 

See Merit. Modefty. % 


V 1 a T V E ^nly is the true Beauty, i. 18. [15]. 
Beauty, witnout goodnefs» is but a ikiu«deep perfec- 
tion, -st. 416. [365, 3643. 


T %E po^er of doing good to worthy obje^s, is the 
only enviable circumilance in the lives of people of fpTr" 
tane«i. 14. [11]. ii. 13a [120J. 

The beneficent heart gives benignity to die counte- 
.nance, i. 14. [ii, la.] 

Where die power of douig a beneficent adion is 
.vaild]^, there is nearly as much merit in the will to do 
it, as in the fa£t, ii. 163. [160]. 

The fortune of a perfon who has the blefling of a be- 
aeficent heart, is the more valuable to him, as it enables 
him to reward merit, .where«ever hie -finds it, ii. 163. 

The pleafure of doing good to our aot unworthy fel« 

' low-creatures, .who.ftaim in need of xmr i^elief, is of it- 

felf aitifficient rew^d ibr our Beneficence, .were there 

to be no after-remuneration, . 91. 207. [aoij. Wh 369. 


What joy is it in the power of the wealthy to dve 
ihemfelyes, when-ever diey pleafe, by comforting thofe 
iWbo ftruggle. with undtierved diftr^s I iii: 1 5. [ 1 2 j. 
A .behelcent he^ may be called the gift of God, iii» * 

61. [48.] . ' ' 

Nothing in human natureis io God*like, as the difpo- 

fition to do good to our fellow-creatures, iii. 62. [4Q*1 ' 

A generous mind, when it grants a favour, wuf^o it 

.witka grace, ii. i8. [47.] 

9a Aiis9& to 0^ RiA. Ohari^. »^Rioh« 

B 4 * CakimnyJ 

If SendmentSf &c« extfatftd fnm 

Calumny. Cenfure. Cenforioufnels. ' 

A G o o D perfon will rather choofe to be cenfared fifr 
doing his daty, than for a defeat in-it/iii. 300. [237.] 

Wkit evil anions to pafs uncenfured, good ones would 
lofe their reward.; and vice, by beipgput on a foot with, 
virtue in this life, would meet with general counte« 
Aance, iii. 342. [270.] 

No one is exempt from Calumny. Words fatd» thb 
occafion of faying them iiot known, however jufUy re- 
ported, may bear a very different conftrndion from what 
they would have done, had the occafion been told, iv. 
211. [182}. 

Cautions to^ young Female Servants* 

Th B lead freedoms of a mailer to his handfome Fe- 
male Servant, and even his fniiles, when he is alone with^ 
her, are to be apprehended « by her, as meaning too 
much for her honefty, i. 6 42. [5.35]. 

She is then to be moft apprehenfive for her virtue, 
when (he finds her heart elated with joy and gratitude 
lor the difiindtion he pays her, i. 6. [5]* 

No riches, no favour of the great, can compenfate 
for the lofs of virtue, i. 6. [63- 

The youn|; woman who facrifices her virtue to the 
diftin£Uon paid her by her mafter, may well be faid to 
be too grateful, i. 6. [6]. . 

A handfome Female Servant ihould not wifli to live in 
the honfe of a fingle roan, fince (he will be likely by it 
to fttffer in her reputation in the world*8 eye ; may be 
Biore fubjed to temptation : and if he marry, will not, 
moft probably, be contiiuied in her place by hit wife, i. 
la [8}. 

DSftance, regulated by civility,, aad a freedom from 
wide, will make a young woman in fervice re^ieded 
\j her equals, ^nd valued by her ibperiors, i. la. [loj. 

Great favour ihewn to a handfome young womaA of 
hm fortune, by a man.of high, is to be luipeAed, i. 

Happy ooght to be tk Servant ia her own reflezioo, 


who is difinifled for refdifi|; oompliance widi die wicktl 
win of her mijfler, i. 79. [oi]. . . 

Iitiioceiice is th)e Iweeteft companioii' a yoong Cftatoit 
can have, ibid, ..... ^ , ^ . 

Seg Advice h y^tmi JFmeit. Crtdnlitjr. . Heroic 
Poverty, lA^e, Low Li/e.' M^Stcn Behnnmt 
to Femak Strv^Ktsi Promifes. TempTtrions. 

Charity, Alms-giying, 

Wh E N we reflect, that we ferre a M a s t ■ a» who 
cxaAs from us no hard terms, bat only r^uires of us 
to do jaftice, and fhew mercy to one another, it muA bp 
a great inducement to ads of Charity and Beneyolcno^ 
iii. 42i.[^33]. • 

Bat were there net that indaceaient, Ae pleaime tliift 
attends fuch ads, is of itfelf a high reward to a bene* 
ficent and generous mind, 42a. [333]* 

{See Pamela's methods of Charity to the Pttr mad Sidt 
*' aroMfd her in the Co vnr %r, in. 421. V fif^ 

There are hardlv any cafes which require more judg|> 
ment in difHnffuimtng between objeds worthy and an* 
worthy, and what is, and is not. Charity, than thofe we 
call charitable cafes, iii. 4|3. [3^2.] 

Such as make a trade of begging, and are as tenacioui 
of their iland, as others of their freehold, are not thofe 
who deferve relief : 

As do the induftrious poor who are reduced by fick« 
neft, eafualty, or. misfortune ; or even by miftake, not 
wilfbl or periifled in ; who fi|^h in fecret, and cannot 
make known what diey fuffer, iii. j.34. [342, 343.} 

The tender treatment of a fick fervant is a great es^ 
cooragement to all the reft ; as they will fee by i^ how 
they will be taken care of, (hould they happen to be ill^ 
iv.59. [48]. 

For a particnlar account of P omelets Chanties im 
Town, fee iv. 59. iS feq^. [45!, ^ fiq^ 

The worthy indigent, become io by^ unayoidable acci<^ 
dents and calualties^ are to be diftingoiflieditt 6ur ads of 
\ ftoift thi^e who have brought upoa themfelves 

B J warn 

^antai^d^dfftrcis, by (beir.extr^vag^ui^e or wiKuL-iEoHjf^ 

her religious duties at homey in order tf 'pi^fijt 
- ^&fea. p|34,&feq]* . . 

See Addre\& to the Rich. Adverfity. Beneficence. 
Confolation to the Poor, The Poor not jo be de- 
J^ifed by the Rich, fhe Rich. Sicknefs. 

Chastity* ^^f Virtue. - 


' Th^at ftrioafn^fs in giving advice, will be moft 
Ji^Ay to be efficacio^ on agi^y mi|:id» that is.n^ngled 
with Chearfulnefs, and throws not a cloud overipno* 
jl^^t.eBJoynientB, ii«i5l. [156]. [S^e2zx^t& and Children. 

Children in their early Infancy. 

y^,if,.MB,^ is an admirable .nourifiier both to the once 
WJagMad the tw^^^^ . 

It is a moft mconuderate, fooliih, i^nd pernicious 
Sfi&om in nurfes, . to awaken - ijhe Child from its noui^- 
}l)g ueep, for fear It fliould fuiFer from hanger, ibid. 
. ^^I'orif Sy by cramming and Huffing the little bowels of 
Infants till diey are ready to burft, occaHon indigeftions, 
lirhicbtarn to bad humours, ibid. 
. Infants can have no corrupt ^tafte to gratify. All ia 
them is pure, as out of the hand of nature : the food 
therefore that is given them ihoold be plojn ; all that is 
|iqt fo, muft vidate and oiFend : 

* iipw .bad then is the cuflom which nurfes l^aye, tck 
xnix wine or fpirituous liquors, however fmall in quan* 
tUy, in their liq^uid food, on pretence of break^g the 
^ind generated m their bowels I iv. ^z8. [286. J 

r Chjldren ihould not be ufed to pl^yiic; Thfagiyeo^ 
fiiem by way of precaution, as it is called^ introduces 
^e^nefeffity of phyfic* Would a parez^t bfget a dis- 
order where there is.none? or, by i^equent lue, render 
l^e faHo^ry force of medidne ineffimi^al^wlic^ it was 
ijf^ted? ibid. 

if^m «r-iPA K«»A^ W 

* find fijuatb^d rmnut ^wth 4nylUrt isfi' pr a doz£H 
times} blanket ufon blanket wr4^t rpu^dit: J^s 
head ofpKeJffed with Meeting uppn eovifing: its 

. arms f intoned ckfe to its bqij : pts }egs bundiod nP 
as if to prevent tbojk kindly fintchings *w.hi0h 
ought to be promoted as Jo m^y efforts for growth 
and enlargement t lying ^ nuferable little capti'vt' 
on the nurfe* s lap : its head pinned iy fiays to tjhe 
Jhoulders ; goggling e^nd flaring nvith its eyes, tkt- 
only organs it has at liberty^ as if fupplicating fur 

• freedom to its fettered limhs^ iv. jz8. [^87]. 
Children in arms will, by their tondnefs or diflil^ 

€)i cbeir attendants, let a parent Iqaow the treatment 
they nieet with b^^eir b^cl^St iv. ^76. [32^.]; 

Children bov) to he treaPed -fn their Infantile 
St^te^ .with aV.ym to the Ctdtimtim if thw^ 

C H,i L D R E fi\s minds dfc foonfr Qa^abte pf coltiva-^ 
tion, than is generally imagined, iv. 225. [)^.] 

lyiay QOt the Child which can tell i^s vfantSy aod loake 
Jcnpwn . Its iiiclin^tipns, be e^fily n;ia4e fen^bk of wh^t 
is expe£led hqufi it, if prpper n^ethods be ^kea wi^ 
^t? iv. 326. [Z84]. 

For, fometimes figns and tc^ps, And ^ven. iQoks,. 
jl^niforniiy.prai^ri^, will do as vi^etl as words; as we fee 
in fuch of the young of the Brute Creation as jat^ ztp 
difppfejd rtQ doij|e(ti^jitc,.^..jto teach |opra6lifc ^ofc 
^itue tricKs of whic)i tl^ docjlity q£ ^leir. nsft^riS jpajc^y;. 
th^m capable, ibid. 

TJi^re m fuch a iia^uial ccmn^xion^i^d pvo^ef^on be>- 
tween the infantile and more adult ftate oi Qhildrens* 
minds, that thofe who would know how to account for 
their inclinations, ;fi^d Q/Qt bip.iK&fiUy inattentive to 
them in. |Lhe fprmf r.ft^tip, ibid. 

Ev§ry creature has i^ 94tural Or inftip^ve point^gj^ 
as they *n^ b.e ,calle4, teacjupg }t to choofe i^^s goo^ 
>nd to ay6id yijiat |^ l^unfid tait. In Infants^ the der 
lire thfiy have ta.l>e carried abrp^^ ipi^o the^^ ^^ if 

B fr The 

t2 Sentiments, ^c. Mra0id fr&m 

The wifeft ought not to be above attendtaj to the tttti 
rules for the management of Infants. If the Child has 
not good health (anJ are not earljr rules the founda- 
tion of that blefing?) its animal fundions will play but 
p4K>r1y thro* weak and crazy organs^ \r. 330. [287]. 

At two or three years old, or before, the Buds of 
ChUdrens minds will begin to open, a watchful Parent 
will then be employed^like a ikilfnl gardener, in defend- 
ing the flower from blights, and affifting it thro* its feverad 
Cages to perfe£yon9 iRd, 

An unreafonable appetite is to be checked at its firft 
appearance, iv. 33 il [289]. 

But if fmall and innocent indulgences will lead the 
Cluld to an obfenrance of its duty, it may be complied 
with in fnch, ibid. 

Great yigflance fliould be exercifed orer the tempera 
'<^f Children, when their notices of things and peribna 
grow firong and fignificant, iv. 41 2. [360]. 

Childrens, future tempers, as to benevolence, may be 

SitfkA at by their willingners to patt with any thing 
ey are fond of, iv, 41 3. £360]. 
Children fhoidd not, be allowed to enter too early 
into difcourfe with grown people ; nor to g^ve their 
opinions on fubjeAs, unlefs called upon to do fo ; 

Since knowledge is obtained rather by hearing thaii 
i^aking, iv. 417. [364]. 

Yet they ought to oe encouraged to a(k queftions for 
their information, ibid. 

Pumila obfimfis to htr Bilht that nature has gi^en 
two ears to one tongue, as if it meant, that weihould 
hear twice as much as we fpeak, ibid. 

See Education. Maternal Dtuies. Parents an/ 

CliSidxcn and Servants. 

Too great a diftance kept up between Children and 
■Servants, snay fill the former with an arrogance that ia 
not warranted by any condition or rank to ^eir fellow- 
creatures ; and, if care be taken, hv good examples of 
fuperiors, to make good Servants, nich will not defervk 
to be treated contempoiOttSy^ if. 359. [313]. 


the Hiftdry of PAMitii; k} 

The principles of nnhrerral benevolence and kind- 
nefs, efpecially to inferiors, ihould be earl^ Incolcated 
in the minds of Children of birth and conditiotty ir. 
361. [315]. 

No part of their fuperiority will be hereby loft, fayt 
Mr Lode ; but the diftindiion increa(ed» apd their au* 
thority ffarengthened, when love in inferiors is joined 
with outward rdheCt, and an efleem of the porfon has 
a fliare in their fnbmiffion,iy. 360. [314]- 

Domeftics, adds Mr. Lecie, will pay a more ready 
and chearfnl fervice, when they find themfelves not 
fpnmed becaafe fortune has laid them below the level 
of others, at their mafter*s feet, i^/^. 

There is a pride, a felf-love, in human minds, that wit! 
feldom. be kept fo low, as to make men and women 
hnmbler than they oueht to be, iv. 36 1 . [3 1 5]. 

That fuperiorit^r will be beft maintained, which is ac* 
companied by humanity and kindnefs, and is grounded 
on the perfections of the mind, rather than on the ac- 
cidental advantages of birth and fortune, iv. 363. [316. j 
See Edocation. Parents atid Children. Servants, 


To be a Clergyman, and all that is compaffionate 
and virtttoos, onght to be the fame thing, ili« 190, 

The failings of fome of the Clergy onght not to 
make impreffions upon any one, to the difadvantage of 
the fnndbon in general, iii. I93* ['53-] 

This indifcriminate cenforioufnefs, fiys Pamela^ Is « 
very common fault, and frequently indicates an uncha* 
ritable, and perhaps profligate heart, feeking to level 
chara^ers, in order ^o cover enormities they will not be 
inffamded to amend, iii. 194. [154]. 

The prefence of a Clergyman known to be good, 
will be always an awe npon free and forward fpirlts, 
iii. 268. [212.] 

A tmiy good Clergyman will be cautious of doing 
any thing that will require a difpenfation, and which 
would be onlawfal without it^ iii. 328. [258]. 


T|ht i^;^^eBt whidi the Cler^ give to one an^er, 
juakes it the lefs to be wondered it, that the j!aity i^e 
.them with.difr^fpc£i, iiL.jiS. Us^]. 

Where a '(mall ftipend out of a good benefice is paid 
to-, the in^n,w.ho dpes ^^1 thediUy, k may be faid, that 
the principals help the invidious to a method of eAimat- 
lOg the value of perfoj;ming the facred Service, iii. 32j^ 

" He who takes two livings, when one of them would 
afford himLa.hanclfome maintenance, as good as declares, 
.that he is refolved to maJ^e thejnoJlpf their profits, iii. 
329. [260]. 

One of the caufes of the cpjitempt of the Clergy is 
,the infufficient provifi^n made for thofe of the inferior 
order, iii. 331. [261], 

See the Corwerfation hetween Mr. S. Pam^/a, and 
their Friendf^ onlmfirof nations f Pluralities, icc» iii. 
327,fcf/^f. izs^f^/eg-} 

Bad as the world is, a prudent Clergyman will always 
peetiyi^reipeft, iii. J36. [265]. ^ 

^ A good Cflergyman will be unwiUvig to leave his 
flock, tho* for a richer benefice, if he find his miniftry 
among them attended with good efFedls, i6id. 

Many people can receive benefit from one jntn^s 
preaching, who cannot by that of another, tho' the abi- 
lities of both may be equal, iii. 336. [265]. 

There is a, great deal in ^4^li very, as, it is called, sh 
va way, a manner, a deportment, to engage people^^s 
attention and Hking, ih'd. 

Where the Sock loves the Shepherd, his work is eafy, 
'and more than half done ; where it does not, let hlqpi 
have the .tongue of an angel, and live the life of a faint» 
lie will \>t heard with indifference, and oftentimes, as 
his fubjed may be, witji difgufl, iii. 336, 3J7. [265^ 

Afpfdent re«u-d to worldly. ^nterefi misbecomes nqt 
thechara^er of a good Clergyman, iii. 3^37. [a66^ 

Pi^ that ^1, worthy Clergymen were not fet above 
yi^XlXf aad that. not only for their own (akes, bf|t for 
that of their hearers ; f;nce independency gives a man 
j{j|l^&^.befide8 the power of doing good, which wiU 


iolunce that refocd, and, of jMiifcqiiettCfr^vt.gteater 
efficacy to bis docmnes, tbU. 

Temptatkins ihottU not be laid in the ifuyr fj^ of 
good men, left they (hoald be overcome by thepi ; ai 
uereby weaken .infiaenceswhic&,^Qm fuchy are. of hi| 
.confequence^to the public weal, iii/jjS. [267]. 

It is' of public concern. that we reverence the func- 
tion in general, notwithftandii^g the failure of indiv;- 
duals in it, iii. 341, {^269]. 

God's providence is a better reliance than the richc^ 
benefice, iii. . 546. [27 5] • 

T^he m'anrledation and rewafd of merit do not a)<- 
ways go together, iii. 347. [273], 

See tffe Hardfi)i^ njJhich the inferior . Clergy lie iafdet% 
more than aty other hody of meM^ as fet fartb ^ 
Mr. B. iii. 350, (ifeq. \i'76, &fiq]> 

Worthy young men, wKo have but jull quitted tol- 
lege, *and have made. the imprpv^ent of their minds 
their chief ftudy in it, know -little of the world ; a^d, 
depending on the goodnc^is of their own hearts, are niote 
liable to-be impofed upon, than meit- of half .tjietr 
underftanding, iv. 287. [2493* •* ' * - 
See Patrons. Religipn. Tythes.. 



• I^r is necefflary, in order tp yreferye the refpeft due 
tp a good Clergyman, that his vVife ihould be near^y^ 
if not quite, as unexceptionable in her miners, ai 
himfelf, iv. 274. [238! 

How (hall a good Clergyman be .iible to purfue hijp 
ftudies with comfort to hin^pfelf, or with ^edificatipn ^ 
his flock, if he be made uneafy at hope ? ibid. 

And how, can it be e;(pe&ed th^t his ijenvile P-ariihi- 
pners will regard his public prQachinj;, if he jtas jutq 
influence over t^e private, congpft pf hi» Wi^ ?,iv.27jS^ 

l^^l ' ■ 

*Th'e Wife of a country Clergyman ought tp kno^ 
fomethingof o^cbnomy and hou^o\d\^i^ageiment, iy^ 

^'lhelS?uid not delight ixi^dxe^, fo^Pc^ jf^p^wglit to 


*i6 SeffdmehfcSj &c txtr^Btifinm 

>te widi tlie wives and daughters of the principal fami- 
lies in her nefghbourhopd, i&V. 

Whoever thinks of being a Clergjman^s^Wift, (fi^f 
Tamtla to btr Polh Barhnvty confirming tie above rules^) 
fliotthl refolve to be at good as himfelf; 

Should determine to fet an example to her female 
neisrhbours; and (hew how much weight her hufband!s 
doctrines have with her ; 

Should be hamble, drcumfpe^^ gentle in her tem« 
-per and manners ; frunl; 

Should refolve. to iweeten.his labours; and to be 
•bltgine to the poor as well as rich ; 

Should be careful that her husband get no dilcredit 
by her means, which would weaken his influence upon 
his auditors; iv. 274 to 280. [238 to 243]. 

' CoMBPT. SeeVMiQMntertmmments^ 


The man who being not bom to an eftate is not 
fatisfied with a Competency, will hardly know any limk 
to his defu-es, iii. 348. [275]. [See Heroic Poverty. Tbt 

G)n(cience. Confcioufneis. 

All outward finery is nothing* weighed againft a 
good Confdence, 1.17. [14]. 

The great man who will permit his Confidence to be 
his preacher, will fiand in lefs need of a chaplain, i. 
ioc. 1*3]. 

. There are cafes in which the Confcioufnefs of fecret 
guilt will relbrain a pleafure, that in a happier fituation 
It would have been e^ally delightful and laudable to 
manifeft, iii. 508. [403]. 

What a poor figure does the proodeft man make an- 
iler the fenfe of a concealed guilt, in company of the 
innocent, who happens to know it, lii^ 511. [405}. 

How would the innocent j)erron, who fears an unjoft 
Jfudge, tremble, were {he net innocent, and to appear be* 
tore a jnft one I i. 40. [3 3]. 

See Confolation to the Poor*, Hesoic Poverty, 
^ Jlefignation* Shame* 


the Ui/taryifpAUtLAm^ 17 
Conjugal Piety » 

A GOOD wifey who 18 intent apon doing ber duty to 
God and her huiband, cannot bat hope for a mote 
elevated companionihip than this traimtory ftate caa 
yield to her and the man of choice^ iii. 190. [150]. 

What a dreadful cafe is hers, who being as exem* 
plary in the performance of her general duties* as ho* 
man frailty will allow, looks upon the fole objed of her 
earthly love, the father of her children, as an onhapw 
Ibnl, deftined, without a miracle, ^ to a ieperate ana 
miferable exiftence forever, iii. 190. [150, tcs]. 

But ' what tranfports, at times, muft fhe Know, who 
(hall be bleiTed with the hope of beine an humble in* 
ftrument to reclaim a partner fo dear to ner ; 

And, that heart in heart, hand in hand, they (hall one 
day ilTue forth from this incumbered (late into a blef- 
fed eternity, benefited in life by each'other^s example ? 
iii. IQO. [151]. 

What exalted happinefs mu(t that man and wife know, 
who, one . fpirit as well as one Heffa, join in the faiae 
prajfers and thankfgivings, both in their public and pri* 
vate duties, iv. 407. [355]. 

See Hufband and Wtfi. Libertiaet* Love, 


In all the inevitable changes and chances of this 
mortal life,. the worthy mihdwill cdmfort itfel^ that 
Providence befl knows what is eood for it, ii. 57. [79}^ 

The very evils moH xireadea-by a worthy mind, are 
often turned by an all -wife Providence, to it^ honouf 
andliappinefs,!!. 57. [79]. & 

^/« Adverfity. Kefignation. ^j * 

Confolation /tf the Poor. . j 

In the midfi of poverty and misfortune, God^s good* 
neis is the kon^ft mftn^s fureft reliance* i« 6. [6]. 

The next world, not this, is the rewarding place for 
the virtue aiid honefty of the fullering Poor, i. 7. [6]. 

Let none even thiiUt children a burden, where it maf 
happen th4t the merits of fome oaeof themmay be the 


means of raifing all the re(l, and a^ benefit and credit to 
honeft parents, i. 265. [210]. 

While the virtuous Poor c^ be bkiTedwithtContei^ced 
minds^all day» and fouiid flcjep at night ; and the hours 
.of night beaj: fo oear a proportion in number to thofe 
of the day, may not.^uch* even at the worll, be faid to 
pafs, at leail half their lives with more comfort than the 
voluptuous and diftemper'd great I iii. 143. [i I3> 1 14-] 

Honeil Poverty is not fuch a deplorable thing as fomie 
imagine, iii. 143. [114]. 

Poor people, who live low, very feldom» .wJl^n taken 
ill, want any thing but, reviving cordials ; and, after- 
wards, .wholfome kitchen phyfic ; and then the ivheela 
of nature being unclogged* (new-oiled, as it were) will 
go round again with eafe and pleafantnefs, by aid of 
,that ejcercife which If&eir labour giv^s them^ iii. 428. 


While the rich and yolnptijpus are. obliged to under- 
go great fatigues to keep theirs in order, iii. 429, [333]* 

Great inconveniencies attend people in ^entf^I Vifc, 
which thofe in lo<wer know npthing of. Were the CQ»- 
venlenci^s and inconveniencies of the one and the other 
to be weighed, perhaps the difference, as to true happl- 
nefs, .would .not be fd great as the latter imagine, if it 
did not turn in their fayour,.iii. 461. [365]. 

See Adverfity. Charity. Heroic P$vefty. Low 
Life. Profperity. Refignation. 

Content. Sie Confolation #tf «&# Pcor. Heroic P^* 
werty. Low I4fe» 


Th B plain Englijh of the politeft addreTs of agON 
tleman to a lady, is, I am .now, dear .madam, the 
humbleft of your fervants : Be b good as to allow me 
to be your Lord and Mafter^ iii. 195. [i 54]. 

The man who is fond of his .owii perfoti> is not; for 
that reafon, iike]y to be the more fond of that of His 
wife, iii. 197. [157]. 

The more condefcending a womaa in Conrtlhip it. to 
^her lover, the lefs intitled will he generally think tier to 
his complaiiance^iii, ^\Zi [3^5]* 

. Com* 

Compliments in Coordhip are poured ont upon a 
woman, like a bafiy fiiQwer, which feldom laus> iiL 
413. [sag. 

Men of a rank ibperior to the women they profefs to 
love, do not always mean marriaee, when they promifi 
it : Bmt if they do mean it, they wul never leave a douht 
of their hononrable imentionsy iii. 439* [347i« 

My hufbznd, /ajs Mifs Damfordy gyving hir reafins 
for refujittz tht mddrift of a 'weak man, mad be a man qf 
fenfe, and give me room to think he has a judgment fu- 
perior to my own, iv. 283, [246]. 

He will otherwife do wrong-headed things : I fhall 
be forced to oppofe him in them: He will be tenacious 
and obftinate'; pe taoght to tafic 6f prerogative, and 
call himfelf a man ; yet not know how to behave as 
one $ and I ihall deipife him of courfe ; and fo be 
deemed a bad wife, when, I hope> I have qualities that 
would m9ke« 9ie a tolerable good one, had I a man of 
ienfe for my hulband, Hid. 

^SSflr Adviice to Tmng IVomen^ Ubertines. Love* 
PJWmr Love. Marriage. 


WHEay CredftUty ma^ endan^^er virttte, a yoa^jg 
woman cannot be too vigilant againU prefepts made to 
her,. or favours confeired upon her^ with an unfparing 
hand, L 16. [14.] 

Things we wiQi to be trye^ are apt to.gain too xead^ 
Credit with us, ii. 15. [45]. 

The moft innocent heart is generally ibt moft cre« 
dalous, iii. ^^$, [217]- iv. 455. [398]. 

As Credulity is too apt to be the fault of a good-hu* 
mourM.perfon, fnch a one cannot be too much guarded 
agsunft the advantages, which jcvery one is ready to 
uke of him or her, iv. 453^ [396]. 

See Advice to Toung Women. Love. . 


Therb is a right and a wrong in every thing; 
and let what will be the Cuftom, a good man will not 
do all he may do without incurring apen^i -iii. 345. 

20 Sentiments, &c. extraSled from 

It was once thought unfeemly to employ men-attend-* 
ants in' womanly omcesy iv. 276. [240] 

Pamela thus ixpreffes her/elf on this/uhje3i A tea- 
kettle in a man's hand, which would be fitter to hold 
a plough, wield a flail, or handle a fcythe, has to me 
a ftrange look, iHd. 

This is like my low breeding, Ibme perhaps wonlH 
fay ; bu< I cannot call thofe things polite, that I think 
vnleemly, iiiJ. [See Falhions. rublic EntertainTmints. 



T H B perfon who is worthieft (o live, is fitteft to die^ 
111. 484. [384)1 

There is fuch a natural repugnance between life and 
Death, that nature will ihrink when it conMs to the 
•trial, let us have ever fo much fortitude when we yietw 
Death at a diflance, Iv. 1 14. [97]. 
' Whenthe poor 'foul (lands fliivering, as it were, on 
the brink of etemity^and from- a confcionfaefs of a 
pafTed mif-fpent life, has nothing (trong but its fears and 
doubts, how confoIat6ry muft be the advice of a good 
perfon, encoureging a reliance upon the mercies of an 
all-merciful God? IV. 271. [23c], '- 

A prudent mind, that coniiders the uncertainty of the 
time of its departure hence, and the certainty of the 
event, will be always preparing, till prepared, iv* 

4«- C?4]- 

- And what can be a better preparative than charity to 

our fellow-creatures, in the eye of that Majefty, which 

wants nothing of us but a thankful heart, and that wt 

do juft and merciful things to one another ? iM. 

. See Charity^ Proiperity. Sicknefs. ^ 

DiPFiDCNCE. , Sie Bafikfulnefs. Merit. Modefly* 

Double Entendre. 

Wi c KB D words are the prdude to wicked deeds t 
the opportanity only feems to be wanting, L 52. [42]. 
. . jgrf LibcrtiflCfc, Old Rakes. 

I I Dre& J! ^J 

/^D'mEss fuited to degree, or ftation/gives i high- 
nktadce of prudence, i. 6.0. [49]. 

'Wbile the man of Body takes the greateft care to fet' 
oat and adorn 'be part for which he thinks himfelf moft 
yalaable, the man of Mind will beilow the moft pains 
in improving that mind ; 

, Perhaps to the negleft of outward appearance; which' 

is a fault on the other iide, iv. 448. [391]* ' 

See Advice to young married Women. Caftom. Faihioo. 

Duty to Superiors. 

Those commands of -Superiors which are contniy 
to our firft Duties, are not to be obeyed, i. 36. [30]. 

The befl fecurity an honeft fervant can give for the 
performance of her Duty to her principals in abfencc^ 
1.^, not to be remifs in her Duties to the Almighty^ 
from whofe eye nothing can be hid, iii. 101 . [80]. 

The fervant who msikes not Religion the bafis of his 
Duty to his mafter, will be apt to be mifguided by 
convenioice or ielf-intereft, if temptations offer, ibid^ 
See Children smd Servants. Example. Servants* • 


A Fins or genteel Education is generally of more 
diiTervice. than benefit co a young woman 4»f no fortune* 
i. 125. [99], 

People in a high condition generally fo educate their 
children, as not to fuffer them to hear the leaft contra- 
di^oD tojheir violent wills; which indulgence, as they 
grow op, multiplies not only their own difquiets, but 
Uiofe of every one elfe, who have concerns with them, 
i. 406. [ii. 52]. 

Tutors ihould treat thar pupils, with regard to fnch 
of their faulty habits as cannot eafily be eradicated, as 
pmdent phyficians do their patients in chronical cafes ; 
rather with gentle palliatives than harfli extirpatives ; 
which, by means of the refinance given to them bV the* 
habit, may create fuch ferments as may utterly aefeac. 
dieir intention, iv. 205. [^65]^ 

A generous mind will choofe to win youth to do its 


zi Senekxietitil, &c. exfrdffid from 

duty, by mildnefs and good ttfage, rather than by feve- 
rity, iv, 33«. [289]. 

It muft be painfal to fuch a one to be always incnl- 
eating on his children or pupils, the dodrine of felf- 
denialy in cafes of an indifferent natare, by methods 
quite grievous to. his own, i^/V. 

Encouragements given to children, (hould, however, 
be innocent ones ; and not fuch as ihould lead to lax* 
ury, either of food or apparel, ibid. 

The Almighty, by rewards and punifhments, makes 
it our intereft, as well as our duty, to obey him ; and 
can we propofe to ourfelve^, for the government of our 
ofaiidren, a better example ? ibid. 

We mud not exped from children, at an e,ix\y age, 
tkat they ihould difttnguifii beyond fadts, iv. 333. [290J. 
. Grown people have an eye to the reward for fervice 
performed; nor will deferve to be thoaght lefs good 
or virtuous, that they do a painfnl doty, and even that 
they fubmit to be fervants, for Ihe reward's fake, ibid. 

Self-denial is indeed an excellent dodrine to be in- 
culcated into children's « minds; and it muft be done 
early too ; but we mail not be too fevere in enforcing it ; 
for a duty too rigidly infilled on, will make it odious, iv. 
334. [200]. 

A child ihould not be either compelled or induced 
by rewards, to endeavour to mafter a ftudy or byafs 
(that is not an indifpenfable requifite to his future life 
or morals) to which it fhews a natural or' riveted aver- 
fion, iv. 335. [292]. 

If the Education and Studies of children were fuited 
to their inclinations and capacities, many would be 
made ufeful members of fociety, that otherwife would 
make no figure in it, iv. 336. [292]. 

If, as the child grows up, its mind can be; raifed 
from the love of the reward, to the love of its duty for 
the duty's fake, it Ihould by all means be done, iv. 336. 

The child which can be brought to prefer its duty 

to its appetite?, (m Mr, Locke frotofes itjbould) wants'but 

little of the felf-denial of the wlfeft philofopher, ibid, 

l£ tht dtAd fefufes obedience^ the pai^nt nruft iniift 

* s upon 

upon it : Tlie necdflity of uliiig feverity may be the idbe^ 
A wife parent will therefore make as few things as pof-' 
fiWe ncceffary parts of its duty, except they are likely 
to affeftits future morals, iy. 357. [295]. 

Chil^en, from their beginmng to talk, Mr. Loch 
Jaysy fhould have about theixi Tome fober, difcreet per- 
fon, u4iofe card it ihoaid be, to keep them from the in- 
fedionof bad company, ir. 338,*339. fa^f]- 

An acquaifttatk:e wltn the mtffes, in the Education of 
youth, contributes not a little to foften the manners. It 
gives a delicate turn to the imagination, and a kind of 
poliih to the mind in fcverer ftudies, iv. 353. [30S]. 

However, it is not to wi&ed, that a youth (hoaM 
have foch flh)&|; inclinations that way, as to make that 
delightful. amti^ment hh pred6manant pldfioii; iinee wo 
fee very few poet$ whofe warm imagihiitioiJs do not 
run away with thett judgments, iv. 354'. [308]. 

And yet^ in order to learn the deM languages in ^ir 
purity, it will be' necefTary to ftndy the antient poets; 
\^hich camiot fadl'of giving youth a reKfti for poetry in 
general, ibid, 

Latin and Language, in' Mr, hbcKis judgment^ is the 
leaft part of Education, iv. 3&6. [337]." ^ 

See his method Sj nvhich a mother mer^ teatb her fin 
Latin, 'd;ithodt her undefftanding it berfei/i and* 
Ptmela^t redfonings ttpvn ity iv. 385, bf feq. [}37, 

Bee alfb his mtthod of ififtru&ing a child at once in 

Latin and French^ Arithmetic^ Geography^ Chrono^ 

logy^ Hijiory^ and Geo^tryi *witb em inftance in 

pointy as quoted hf Pamela; ir.^%Si [340]. 

Languages and Sciences, and all othet accomplifli* 

ments of £dncatit)n; will be to no purpofe, Mr« Locke 

obferves; but to make* the worfe and -mofe dangerous 

man, if the tutor makes it not his chief care to form the 

mind of Ills fchokr, fa as to keep ottt' evil and vkious 

habits, iv. 386. [338J. 

On ^ Home uid School Ed vc XT ton. 

M«. Locke, for feveral weig^ reafoAs» prefen Sh 
Home ta a Sehooi £diica(ioni but makes knezt to im« 


^4 SentiinentSy &c. eoifstftiftm 

poflible to procure fuch a tutor, as he thinjcs n^ceflaiy 
to direA it, iv. 338. [Z94]. [Sei TuTOa. 

It is impoffible, -^he fays, that in a Scb9ol Educatioii, a 
mailer can have a great number of boys umler bis eye, 
any longer than they are in School together, iv. 342. 

Hence Patmla takes occajton htunhly to freprfe it as #t 
matter for her Mr* B^s <onJideration and iUtermina* 
ttQHp W^bether there cannot be found out ^ 

A middle nvay (j/'Education between both. 

Cannot, ajis Jbey fome mailer be engaged, who 
ihali be fo well rewarded for his care of a few, as fhaJl 
make it worth his while to be contented with thofe few I 
SMppofe live, fix, feven, or eight, at mod, whofe mo- 
xfiih apd good breeding he may attend to, as well as to 
their learning ? iv. 343. ^ feq^ t^99* ^ fi{\^ 
^ The farther this mailer lives from the friends of the 
young gentleman, perhaps the better it will be, ibid. 
. He mould be a man 01 mild temper ; bat flridl in his 
difcipline ; 

: One who makes it a rule not to give corre£lion for 
Knall faults ; or fill every other method has been tried ; 
. i^^ho carries fuch a juft dignity in his manner, with* 
iMt -the appearance of tyranny, that his looks may be of 
^eai^ force than the chidings of fome ; and his chid* 
ings than the Uripes of others ; 

. And who will rather endeavour to (hame, than terrify 
a. youth out of his faults : 

* She fuppofes, that this gentleman ihould allot a par* 
ticolar portion of time for the profecuting of the more 
iuented iludies ; 

' And before the youth was tired with them, ihe fup- 
pofes anotlicr portion ihould be allotted for writing and 
af iihmetic ; 

. And then, for a relief to his mind, that the dancing- 
mafter (hould take his part ; 

Innocetit recreations to fill up the refl, at his own 
choice I in wHich, diverted by luch a rotation of em* 
fioyments (all rendered delightfol by their fuccefiive 
variety)^ hcwOttUliardly wi^topaftnmchtimei 


the SSfi4fy i^/ P a ii s i a; 25 

Siace the dft&cing itfelf wfll anlwer liodi parts ; that 
of good breeding, and that of ex^dfe ; 

And thas dHferent Studies may at once be m a fe Ml . 
Moreonrery the emulation which will be raifed where 
there are feveral youns^ gentlemen, will greatly leflen the 
trottble of thettttor, and adrancethe leammg of thepopik t 

An emalation which cannot be obtained in a honne 
edttcatibn, where ^ere is but a fingle youtfa^ to be tdcen 
care of; 

Sach a mafter, not having a great nmnber of fekvants, 
will be better able to anfwer for their condu^ and be- 
hatioar ; 

The young gentlemen will have young gentlemen for 
^eir companions ; all under the influence 6f the fame 
precepts and example ; 

And as little honours and diftiff6tions muft needs be 
very attraftive to the minds of youth, fuppofe, as a re* 
ward for fome excellence, the excelling youth fhould be 
fet to read at a little defk raifed a ftep or two, to his 
mafter and ichoolfellows, fbmetimes a little portion from 
the bed: tranflations t>f the Greek or Roman hiftories, at 
other times from the Bnglilh hiftories ; 

The mafter explaining difiicult paftages and cnftoms, 
as the youth proceeded i 

Might not this, in a very engaging manner, initiate 
them into the knowlege of the niftory of paft times, 
and of their own country ; and lead them, in the mafter^s 
abience, to paf^ fome of their vacant hours in die lilee 
laudable manner ? 

Why may not like triumphs on excelling be as incen- 
tive to engage children to conquer difficult talks, as the 
Roman triumphs, their civic and maral crowns, were 
to the heroes of old ; fince men, as the poet obferves^ 
are but children of a larger growth ? iv. 346. [301]. 
£ut if a Home Education // chofin, to *wHtb Pa^ 
fff/fa, as *ivelt as Mr, Lotke inclines 9 Jhe thus expi^ 
tiates upon the qualities of a tutor ; iv. 349. [^304]. 

He ought to be a mail of free and generous principles ; 
yet not tainted with fceptical or heterodox notions, . 

Who has travelled, and preferved his moral charader 

ttnimpeached ; 

' C Whofe, 

«&6 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfrom 

Whofe behaviour and carriage is eafy, unaffedied, j;en- 

Who is not, on one hand, dogmatical, pofitive,.or over- 
)>eanng; on the other, yielding, fuppliant, fawning ;^ 

Who will ftudy the child's natural bent, in. order to 
4}ire6t his genius to the attainment which he is-mofl likely 
to mailer: 

In order to preferve the refped); due to his own char 
jader with every one, he muft not be a tale-bearec, a 
whifperer, a bufy-body in the family ; 

Muft, on the contrary, have a benevolent turn of 
mind : Be ready, without officioufnefs, to compofe dif- 
ferences 5 . 

Who will avoid the foppiHinefs in drefs, by which the 
petit -maitres and French uihers at boarding-fchools often 
4iftingui(h themfelves ; fince peculiarities of habit, and 
uncharadleriftic appearance, generally denote a wrong 
iead, iv. 350. [304, & feq]. 

^s in a home education it 'will he 'very tlijffic^lt to 
Meef children^ as Mr. Locke requires^ from the con" 
njerfation cf femjants ; 

It will be a fecurer as well as more laudable method, 
for parents to iniift upon the regular behaviour of the 
vrhole family, than to expedl that the child and its tutor 
ihall be the only good ones in it, iv. 355. [310]. 

Nor is this fo difficult to be eiFeded, as fome ma^ 
imagine* If, on the hiring of a new fervant, fobriety of 
manners, and a virtuous converfation be inMed upon, 
a^ indifpenfible conditions of their continuing in their 
fervice 4 and if the principals take care to fupport their 
InjunAions by their own example, it would be feen, that 
jf their fervice did not find them gbod, it would make 
themfo, iv. 356. [310]. 

And why ihould not this be thought a pradicable 
fcheme, when it is confidered, that fervants, when taken, 
are generally at years of difcretion ; and have the ftrong 
tie ol'intcreft, fuperadded to the duty we require of them, 
to influeiice them ; and which they muft needs, know 
{let diem have contraCled habits ever fo evil) are as right 
for them to difcharge, as for us to exad £rom them j iv. 


' the Hifiory (/Pamela^ - 27 

A bad perfon wholly convinced, is half reformed, iv« 

359- [3>3]* 
The Home Education is only to be preferred to that of 

the private fchool, or univerfity, in cafes where the pa- 
rents fet a good example in their families, and take care 
of the morals of their fervants, iv. 364. [318]. 

The emulation fo ufefiil in a School Education to lead 
children on in their ftudies, and duties, would be obtained 
in an home one, if the child of fomehoneft neighbour, of 
middling or low drcumflances, of like years, and of 
an ingenuous and modefl difpofition, were taken into the 
family, and put under the care of the fame tutor, and 
on a foot as to encouragement, as each excelled, iv. 
367. [321]. , . , 

See the ath ant ages of fucb an adoption^ as tt nuy hi 
■ called^ to the child if a man of ^fflnjtnce, and the 
geuerofity and propriety of fuch an infitution, as fet 
forthy iv. 368, 369. [321, J 22.] 
The noble dodlrine of independence ihould be early 
inftilled into the mind of a youth ; and how unworthy 
of a manly fpirit a flavifh dependence is, iv. 369. [322]. 

As a child is indulged or checked in its. early foUies, 
a ground is generally laid for the happinefs or miiery of 
the future man, iv. 370. [323]. 

The rcftive tricks which horfes, dogs, and other ani- 
mals have learned when young, are hardly ever to be 
mended when knit; and yet, fays Mr. Locke, none of 
thefe creatures are half fo wilful and proud, and half 
fo deiirous to be mailers of themfelves, as men, ihid. 

Shame is a litter, and, generally, a more efFe£lual pu- 
niihment for a child, than beating, iv. 371. [324]. 

See Pamela s opinion *of the proper manner of infliS" 
ing funijhments on a per^erfe child ^ iv. 371 ,' ^feq. 

And of the pel fan proper to infliSl it^ IV. 373, £sf^. 

[326, l^ feq.'\ 

When the child has commlttedTome Eiult, for which 

his parents hold him in difgrace, he (hould be In difgrace 

with all the refl of the family, till, thro^ ihame, he is 

convinced of his error, iv. 378 [330]. 

Xhe plays and fports of children are as falutary to 

C 2 thern^ 

28 SefltiiMiltey kc. Mra^ifrom 

thed!, as lilbdof tbA wtirk are to gtoWn peHims^ iv. 
381. [333]. 

^/^ Pamirs opifii^ of tht pliythiiigi md di*^rfions 
ofchilMn, iv. 38i,ef A- [3i3» 3341- 

f^/Childfe^ /ft tbnr Infitntiie State. Childrett Afti 
Servants. M^ttrtitX Duty. ?9XfilSt^ ettii Ckildre^, 
Travelling. Tator. 

Female Edvcation. 

In the £dtication 6f a young IsCdy of flrOiig paftons. 
It will be beft to endeavour, till (he can be taught to 
love virtue for its own fake» to toAdudl her f^/irit to pro-' 
per ends, rather than tbtally to fubdu^ it, iv. J03. [263]. 

There may be a decent pride in humility » iv. ^3. 

A young lady may behave With fo mtch true dignity, 
as fliall comotand refped by thd turn Of her eye> fooner^ 
than by aeffuming fpee^h, ibid^ 

A young lady {hould be told, that it is no honOiir to 
t>e better born than fervahts, if jhe be tot better behatred 
too, itiJ. 

And that humility is a erace that fbiMi in a high eon- 
lilitlon ; but cannot, equal^ in a !ow one ; beCattfe a per- 
Ibn in the latter is already, perhaps, tdo.jAuch humbled. 

Women in their education, Pamela fays^ are generally 
Ibrced to ftrugelc for knowlege like the pGbt feeble in- 
fant who is pihioned, legs, arms, ktd head, on the 
narfe's lap, iv. 347. t302j. 

If its little arms happen, by |;reat chance, to pAti fihee- 
^om, and expilnd, thev are inftantly feized, and Aftened 
,^own to pafllye behaviour by the tyraiink nuiffe, itid. 

So wh^ft a poOr girl, in Ipke of her harrow education, 
breaks into notice, her genius is immediatlily xAmtd by 
f^ing employments, and (he ts kept back, as if it were 
Apprehended flie would become die envv of her own 
lex, and raife the iealeufy of Ike other, ilid 

It is the intereit of ihen, that more pdns ftlotild be 
taken in the educatioii of women fttiik generally il, i^. 

See Pamela's fintinunts as Juriher giink tn tii ^Aum^ 
tion ofgirb, iv. 393. [343]. Mr. 

theHift(nyofl?Auzhh. 99 

Afr. B. fays» tliat if the wits of men were equal to 
thofe of women, aioch time and p^iins mi^bt he fpare4 
ia t)^^ Sducatipn of the fbnper, i. 'ji'j* [ii. 17]. 

Nature, y^/ h^ ^e^chc^ women whajt i^ not attained 
by men, but in a long coorfe of labour and flndy, ihid. 
See Children and Servants. Education. Female 
Dignity: LiTfe. M9.teroal Duty. Parent! aad ^ 


Ev vr dw^Us with th^ poor, %% weU a^ with th^ riclp^ 
i. 60. [49]- 

Nothing more excM^ the Enry of won^cn in genera!, 
thaq the feeing pne of their own clafs fet abore them io 
drefs and appearance, ii. 39. [64]. 


G a B A T is the forc.e of Example, whether bad or 
^ood^ in fuperior^s, ii. aaa. \zzi\f iv. 357. [311]- 

A good matter, from the king tQ the peafant, will ge- 
v^eraUy make a good fenrant, 270. £;^7q]. 
. M^. B*s Example in marrying beneath hi9 degree, not 
tp be jpleaded by aMiy one who is npt oitirely independent ; 
who 18 not of full aee ; who ha^ npt a fortune fufiictent 
tQmake hipielf andthe womau happy» ioi. 186. {147, 

The inp^apioM&efs of children oug^t not to be won- 
ixtA. at by thpfe parents, who hardly ever ihew ^em 
that their ow^ i^aions are goirerned by r^afoa^blp or 
moral wtiy?*, iy. 365, £319]. 

Can the gl^ttQ;^9^« f^er expeft ^ fc^lf-deoying ib|i.? 


Wixh how m a gr^u:p xff\^ ^ n?j^ who wiQ be often 
dUg^iftd in liqw^y pre^^ A>brUt^ to hAs<:Jt»ildren ? ihi4- 

An irreligious w?A> pcty ? ^V(. 

WiU f fsac^t^ viipCp hand^ Are fi^ldom without c;^r4s 
or dice in theufi, b^ obferv^ in lej^os agaiuft the per- 
nicious vice of gaming ? ibid, 

Jmpo^blc^ epcQ^I>t when ^e.<iW^ kfm^ the p^iouf- - 
ne& qf iis;6;h^'$ vi9es,,h^ tfrp g^a^e n W *<^a x^ ^ 

C5 « 

go Sentiments, &c. ixiraUed frofH 

a kind of fea-mark, to warn him to iliun thofe rocks on 
which his father has fplit, iv. 366. [319]. 

Bee Duty to Superiors. Education. Maternal Duty, 
Parents and Children, Penitence. 


Faftiion. , 

I N fpite of Faihion, it is in every man's power to pre- 
fcribe rules to himfelf, which will be allowed by every 
one, when it is known he will not depart from them, ii. 
217. [209]. 

It is the cudom of the world to give way to iniquitous 
pra^icesr, and then to plead the Fafhion againfl the at- 
tempt to reform them, i, :j23. [177]. 

See Cuftom. Public Entertainments » 

Female Dignity. 

The woman who thinks meanly of herfelf^ is any 
man's purchafe, iv. 246. [213]. 

See F.amelas cfinion of the equality of genius in men 

and iJi'omen, nvere tie latter to Jba*ve the fame ofpor^ 

tunities of imfro^ement that the men have^ ir. 

395, ^feq, [345, ^yJf.]. 

. The wits, as they would have themfelves thought to 

be, who treat women with contempt, generally treat as 

freely, the moH facred fubjefts, iv. 398. [348]. 

To what does the contemptuous treatment of the one 
half« if not tlie better half, of the human fpecies tend 
to, but to render the fex vile in the eyes of the moft vile-; 
and to make women the fubjeds of the attempts of pro- 
fligates, iv. 399. [349]. ^ 

. Since, when a woman is no longer beheld with that 
dignity, with which the innocence "of her mind, and per- 
haps the graces of perfon (hould facredly, as it were, en- 
compafs her, her very excellencies become fo many in- 
centives to bafe wretches to endeavour to ruin her, iV. 

399- [349]- 

The generality of men are far from being formidable 

Co the fex, if women do juftice to themfelves; and to 

what their characters require of them, iv. 447. [391]. 


the Hificry. ef P^mb la* 31 

See Advantages 0/ men emer luomen. Sec Advice /» 
Toung IVomen. Love. Wits. Writers*. 

FHial Piety. 

C A L I. me, fays Tamela to her parents^ in her exalted 
condition^ your .Daughter, your Pamela, I am no lady 
to yea. I have mor^ delight to be called your comfort, 
and to be thoaght to ad worthy of the leilbns you taught 
me, and of the examples you fet me, than in any one 
thing in this life, my bounden duty to our common be* 
nefaflor excepted, iii. i8. [15]. 

I am fure God has bleffed me for yOur fakes, and ha» 
thus more than anfwered for us, all our prayers : We 
only prayed, that God would preferve you honeft, and 
me virtuous; and fee how we are crowned with bleflings,. 
that make us the admiration of all that know us^ iiir 
19. [15]. 


Flatt&ry and pretended Admiration aref the engines 
by which men make their firil approaches to the hearti 
of women, iv. 235. [203]. 

The perfon ought to be defpifed ^ho attempts to be- 
fpeak the favour of a faulty. man by Flattery, or by 
teeking to extenuate his failings,, iv. 400. [349]. 

See Advantages of men over women, AavicctoToun^ 
IVomen. Love. 


Forgiveness of injuries is the mark and privilege 
of a fuperior mind, iii. 82. [65]. 

T^w. Pamela reafons nvitb htrfelff when her mafter re^ 
quired her to forgive Mrs, Jefwkes ; 
twill forgive thee, fince thy mailer and m//(/ will have 
me do fo, iii. 82. [65]. 

And, indeed, thou art beneath the refentment even of 
fuch a poor girl as I am, iUd, 

I will pity thee, bafe and abjed as thou ar£: Arid 
(he, who is the objeA of my pity, is furely beneath my 
anger, ibid. 

My eye that ufed to quiver and tremble at thy haughty 

C 4 , cye^ 

3% Seodmcnts^ && mtraSedfif/im 

eyc^ iKall now, thraugh >coBfcioiu digmtx, look domn thy 
fcoulingguiixyioiieijitoiblf covdem&at^ £[3. [69]. 

^ Bear the reproach f>f thicie own wicked heart, low, 
vile lyoman I That WiU be panlfhment eironeh for thee, 
without cxpofing my^lf to the iinputation ofdofoeading 
fo Bear to a level with thee, a^ Co reieot tky paft boie* 
neb, whea tkoa haft no power to hmt me. 

Se0 her reafinin^ en fhh fliiftS fmfiud fr^m p. 83, 
to 91. [66, i^ftq.\ 

OeaHenefs of nattirey atid plaeabtcnefs of dlfpofition, 
are graces of the fair fex, iii. 91. [7a, 73]. 

I have no notion, fa^ F^mla, of diat fiigkt diftin- 
Ak)n that is often made betwe^sn fwrtet and forgimt : I 
fmifi fiHgive, hut nev^r wi^l fcrget, lii. 91, 92. [73]. 

When I would ra^er fay, adds jht^ that I wtH re- 
member fuch an a^ion for my ftttitre guard % but I will 
try to forget 'it, as often as it occurs to my memory, if 
the remembrance of it will occafion a breach in xoy cha- 
rity, ihid. t 

Oficnders, fmote with true contrition, will be the lefs 
able, from a generous Ibrgivenefs, to ^lence the reproadiea 
of their own hearts, iii« 99. [7^]. 
5«^ Religion, £fr. 


It is a great pkafnre to be able to defeend with eafe 
and reiignation from high to humble hopes, when fuch 
cannot be anfwered with ianooeime, i. 8s. [63]. 

An humble, and fieady mind cannot meet with Teiy 
fliockive ^appointments^ let Fortune^s wheel turn round 
as it will, ]. 82. [64}. 

h becomes a good peHbn in diftrefs to make a virtue 
of necefiity, and to try to bring real good out of the 
appearing evil, iv. 191. [164]. 

Sii Pamelf^s ixamph in a ietf talandhy fir the ilht» 

firation of this doffrtnt^ ill. 192, (^ fiq. \\i$\. 
See Adverfity. Heroic Po*uirtj. Sicknels. 


In order to preferve the bands of a Ibid Frtendihip, no- 
thing fhould be permitted to lie unreveakd on the minds 


tike Hifif^ rff^n%%h* 31 

9f 4thar IHendy that fM^ be ^p^e of l»«^Qg CQ^Spa^ 
iato offoice or dilobl^gat^, ii. 1.94. '[491]. ' 

Tiie ^«ft ^ora^de tie3 pf Fr^4&ip are t]^e w^ch 
jrdVlt fioin AO union of ii>ui4& f^ri^e^ ^ppa r^^om 
princ^li^, iv. 415. [363I. 

^## Love, PUk^omc I<*pyi^. 


Gaieml InfiruStions. 

Jf o pnt oug^t tp smdce a meafi cpi^rt to ^^bf f^on» 
.of a fiipe^or; aor do wroi^ witl^ opea ^^s, iii, 8^. 

pqe pevfoo will ihine in o^ne wa3r, anq^^r ips^nothcrj 

each CO be refpe^led ihould k^ep within -his ow|> Cplifi^ 

of exoeUepce, iii. 1^5. [138]. 

Let as give praife to thp §004^ ilfyrf^fy ^ the |)ad» 
and every one try to j^men^ pn?, 114^ J4?. [^i^9i. 

Wc (hoald never leave till to-morrow, the thjng /rf» 
ffr to be 4ppe,thaty^jbe^kme\today, fli. 3^. [.:*37]. 

A prudent woman will not preferve fuc^ ktter^is s^^d 
papkr4, however innocefif, as me cares not l^er h^P?2nd 
Aould f*e, left any doubts, in cafe pf hi^ (urviyoFfhip, 
flipnl^ arife from them pf hfx condfi^t, wrh^n ^e is ^ 9 
morey and which the papers themfelves do not fally ex- 

fl^ iii. 475. [376J. 

No hnfband, no earthly power, cs^n ^^ippfiCp with^a 
dlvioe^bUg^t^, iv. II. [9]. 

Art flipi^ never t|i,ke {^ace of nature^ t>ut be.£ubfe|-- 
vient tP it, i.r. 50. [41]. ' 

Where there are beauty and wit on one $de, ai>d youfh 
^i. ftroqgpaApni on the other, it ispfefumptupos to 
rciy upon our own ftrength, iv. 23,7. [205]. 

T^ 6s& af peana^cps pf evil ^pold be avpided, /^/V. 

Eaiily p^i%iap$» .4t ir^> ip^y tl^^t breach of n^orals 
bf Appt) whi^h whiten neglpfie4, the W/^ves q£ paffion 
will widen, till tjiey l)ev 4P^n ^U Wfpr* lhei», AV. ^53. 

Things will imavoi4ably happf n in this life, in tl»c 

C 5 9|r 

34 Sentiments, &c, extraSedfrom 

our feektng by oar own wilful mifmanagements to make 
ourfelves unhappy, iv. 254. [221]. 

The finner, whom the Almighty gracioufly ofFcrs to 
reclaim rather by mercies than by judgments, ought to 
take care th^t he brings not upon himfelf the judgei^ 
ments by flighting the mercies, iv. 264; [229]. 

General Obfervations. 

H E that is mean enough premeditatedly to do one bad 
diing, is not likely to flick at another, i. 20. [16]. . 
' Men who offer unworthy things to their inferiors, put 
it in the power of fnch to be greater than thcmfelves, i. 
24. [19, 20]. 

There is fafety generally in poverty j danger too often 
ID plenty, i. 29, 30. [24]. 

Indignation gives bodily flrengthi i. 37. ['$1]. 

Every thing is pretty that is young, i. 70. [58]'. 

Riches and power never want advocates, i. 89. [70]. 
•154. [194]. 

How eaiily da people, who give way to vice, go from 
bad to worfe! i. 108. [85]. 

AfFeded concealment excites curioiity, i. 203. [256]. 

We are apt to approve or disapprove of an enterprize, 
SIS the event comes out to be prosperous, or other wife, i. 
.227. {^285]. 

There are no men fo bad, but there are women as 
bad, ii. 5. [37]. 

The world often judges of pafl a6lions rather by the 
event, than by the reafon of the thing, ii. 18. [46, 47]. 

A little weighr turns the fcale, when it hangs in equal 
balance, ii. 42. [66]. 

Perfons who doubt themfelves, are leaft likely to do 
aroifs, ii. 55. £77]. 

The prefumptQous, the conceited, the thoughtlefs^ fel- 
£om efcapc falling into great errors, ii. 56. 1^77]. 

Gentlenefs of temper, and meannefs of fpint, are too 
very different qualities, ii. 14&. [153]. 

Themoft thoughtful beginnings proraife the xnofthap* 
py proceedings, ii. 177. [177]. 

No^xttan wajits capacity to be honefl and jqft, iii. )•• 


ibe Uifiory ofPAUBLA*^ 35 

He who will not be fatisiied with a competence, will 
not with a redundance^ iii. 32. [26]. 

The man who maintains a licentious theory, too pro- 
bably wants only opportunity and temptation, to carrjr 
it into pradice, iii. 189. [150]. 

The moil agreeable fubjeds are feldom ftarted in ft 
large company, iii. 276. [21 S]. 

A good caafe will bear a ftrid A^rutiny, and (hine the 
brighter for it, iii. 297. [235]. 

It is in every one*3 power to prefbribe rules for his 
own condudt, when he lets his viiiters fee what they are, 
and that He will not be put out of liis laudable way, iii. 
301, [237-]. 

People who would avoid bufUe, in endeavouring to 
do fo, fometimes make it,, iii. 313. [247]. 

The reafon why fo little good, (as generally is the 
cafe] is done by public bodies of men^ may be thus ac- 
counted for ; An individual cares not to pull down upon 
himfelf the odium of a bad a&ion ; but when there are 
many to (hare it among them, every one is lefs fcrupu- 
lous, iii. 334, 335. [264]. 

A bad mind, a covetous or oppreiCve nature, will be 
the fame, whether the perfon be a clergyman or lay- 
man; a married man, or fmgle, iii. 339. [207, 208]. 

Failing, when one has a llomach to eat, gives one a 
gloomy and mortifii^d appearance, iii. 417. [329}. 

He who is premeditatedly guilty of a bad adlion, will 
not, when fumedled, fcruple falihoods to endeavour to 
exculpate himielf, iii. 450. [356]. 

One fault generally is the parent of more,- iii. 473, 


A#edation and falfe politenefs are often attendants on 

ceremony, iii. 501. [397]* 

We are all of us very ready to be perfuaded on the 
fide of inclination, iv. 23. [19]. 

A woman hardly ever takes a journey, but (he for- 
gets fomething, iv. 64. [53}. 

• The world h^s fometimes, by its report, united two 
people in one caufe, who otherwife, perhaps, would' 
Live b^en but common acquaintance, iv. 251. [218]. 

C 6 The 

3^ Sendments, &c. txttaSed from 

The greateft mifchUfs often arxfe from the flightefk 
beginnings, iir. 25^. £219]. 

Indifferent pleas will have force in favour of a pro- 
pofai or argument, to which we have no repugnance, iv.. 
^16. [^75^. 

By gral'ping at too much> we fometintes lofe what W6 
were in pofTeflion of, iv. 407. 409. [356]. 

When our hearts are engaged, we are for making 
€very cafa we hear or read of, applicable to our awn, 

iv. 445- [3^93- 

The perfon who admires any particular good qualities 

in another, gives a kind of indired aifurance, that ihe 

has die fame herfelf, iv. 453. [396]. 

' Genius. 

A Modest perfon will endeavour to know the tX' 
tent of his Genius, and not fuppofe himfelf equal tp 
every fubjedt, l^ecaufe he has fucceeded in one, iv. 326. . 

It is no fmall point of wifdom, to know Qur own ta* 
lents, ibid. 

Good Men. 

Good Men, thd* low in the world, are fit for all 
companies, and are prefent to every laudable occafion, 
ii. 124. [134]* 

No confideration of ihtereft, or even of friendfhip, 
will induce a truly good man to do a bad thing, iii. 
339. [268]. 

While a bad man will not want a pretence to dlft>lay 
his evil qualities ; nor flatterers neither, if he be rich or 
powerful, to defend him in the worft he can do, ibid. 

Good Wife. 

It is the part of a Good Wife to extenuate her huf- 
band's faults, and to endeavour to give the world a 
good opinion of him, iii. 196. [156]. 

It will be a great comfort to a good woman, who has 
married a libertine, if ihe can find that lus Hccntioilf- 
nefs is reduced to notions oidy, iii. 197. [156]. 

Sti Clergyman'/ "^1^, Conjugal ftV/jr, Hofband 
and Wife. Wife. Giati- 

tke Hyhty ^Pamela. 37 


T ii£ m^rf hfii»blft will be « woirUiy perfoo, as the 
more obligejd, ii. 5a. [75]. 

Qreat kindnefs ffUwn ]to a worthy inferior will make 
him double his diligence to deferve it, ii. 56. [78]. 

A grateful heart will be deliehted in every opportu- 
nity given it» to be ufeful to its benefactors ; nor will be 
Itouted by the value of the benefa6UQU» ii. 141 . [147]. 

Gratitude 13 a noble gift, which, on proper oc^on9» 
will make a perfon ftuceptihle of it, fpeak and write. 
as well as ad, above himfelf, iii. 17. [14]. 

When your worthy minds, my dear parents, /ayi Pa- 
9uia tQ bertf (<wbofi hearts ivire narfioFwing 'with Grati- 
tude for the benefits heaped upon them hy Jm; B^s houniy) 
are Ukely to be too much affeded by your Gratitude, 
raife your thoughts upwards, and confider who it is that 
enables him to blefs ns ; 

Aod pray for him and for me. For him, that all his 
a^iions may be of apiece with this noble difpofition of 
mind : For u^, that I may continue humble, and con- 
(ider myfelf bleiTed for your fakes, and for the fekes of 
perfom, ftall I (ay, equally worthy ? And. to be a re- 
warder, in the hapdi of providence, of tbi3 its bountiful 
agent, iii. 17, 18. [14. isl- 

A juft perfon greatlv benefitted by another, tho' that 
other change his mind, and even injurioufl^ treat him, 
will lament that change, but bear gratefully m oiind the 
foroier benefit;, iv. 16S. [144, 145]. 


That man muft be the moil abandoned of men, who 
attempts the honour of a woman entrufted to his pro- 
t$Gdm9 iii. J8S9 189. CI490- 



Hapipinbss to a gentleman, a Miolar, a philofo- 
pher, feMom reik in a ^eater or leiftr iacome ; on the 
contrary, it is ofteiieit to be fiMmd in ^eompelcncy^or in 

asaecBiocrity, iiiii S4^» [^4}' 


38 Sentiments, &:c. exfrafftdfrom 

We all know by theory, that there is no permanent 
happinefs in this life, : But the Weight of the precept is 
not felc in the fame manner, as when it is confirmed t9 
us by a heavy calamity, iv. 255. [221]. 

See Competence. Heroic Po*uerty. Low Life, Mar- 

Heroic Poverty. , 

A N honefli poor man will be aprehenfive for the vir- 
tue of his daughter in fervice, when fhe is fet above her 
condition in drefs or appearance, efpecially if fhe be 
handfome, i. 5« [4* 5]. 

Riches and fplendor are a difgrace rather than a cre- 
dit, when fet againft honefly and a good confcience, i. 

s- [5]- 

A poor honeil man would rather live npon bread and 
water, than fare fumptuouily at the price of his child^s 
virtue, ibid. 

Such a one would rather fee his child covered with 
rags, and even follow her corpfe to the church-yard, than 
to have her prefer worldly convenience to her virtue, i. 

How much happier a choice is poverty with honefty, 
than plenty with wickednefs, i. 41. [33]. 

Innocence, in a low fortune, even in a fimple mind, 
has many advantages over guilt, the" furrounded with 
riches, and boafting its knowlege, i. 43. [3.5]. 

Next to God's goodnefs. Jays Pamelas I owe every 
thing to your piety and good lefTons, my dear, my dear 
poor parents ! I fay the word poor with pleafure ; for 
your poverty is my pride, as your, integrity fhall be my 
imitation, i. 79, 80. [62]. 

To return from plenty to a low condition, may, foyr 
Pamela^ be a little hard at iirft ^ but woe be to my proud 
heart, if, on tryal, I find it unhappy, in fuch a cafe ;. 
for I will make it bend to its condition, or break it, i. 
110. [94]. 

Nothing is mean that is honeft, ihid^ 

Come to my. arms, fays Pamela to her third hundk, 
mfhich contained her ovun mean afparelt VKy dear third par- 
cel, the companioa of my £Overtyi and the witneu of 


the tiiftory of Pamela. 39 

my honefly ; and may I never have the lead rag that is 
contained in thee, when I forfeit a title to' that innocence 
which I hope will ever be the pride of my life 5 and then 
I am fare, it will be the higheft comfort at my death, 
when all the riches and pomp in the world will be more 
contemptible than the vileft rags that can be worn by 
beggars, i. 124, [98]. 

A worthy woman will either renounce or return thole 
prefents which were defigned to be the price of her 
ihame, ibiil. 

See Addrck to the Rich, Advice to Towig fTomett, 
Confolation to the Poor, Cautions to young Fema/e 
Servants. Love. Low Life, Matters Beha*uiottr 
to Female Servants* Poor not to he deffifed hy the 
Rich, Servants, Temptations. Virtue. 

High Life^ a PiUure of //, from Infancy to 


Mr. B^s reafons given to his Pamela ^ vohy people of 
hirthf and born to high fortune^ are often mere un- 
happy in marriage^ than thofe in middle life. 
We arc generally educated wrong, fays he. We are 
ufually headftrong in our wills, and being unaccuflomed 
to controul from our Craples, know not how to bear 
it, ii. 345. [SH]- 

Humoured by our Nijrses, thro' the fault of our pa- 
rents, we practice firft upon them, by an infolence that 
ought then to be reftrained, ibid: 

Next, we are to be indulged and favoured at School* 
Our learning generally fucceeds with us accordingly; 
and we reward our mailers as we did our nurfes, with 
greater infiances of our infolence than obfervance, ii. 

346. [3»4J- 

After our wife parents have hrihed. oar way tfaro^ the 
cnftomary forms, we are Drought home, very little ia- 
proved in our learning; and then, our Parents take 
their deferved turn, ibid. 

After we have, perhaps, half broken their hearts, ,a 
Wi PB is loofeed out for the youn^ man. Family and for* 
tone are the firft motives ; affe6bop> if at all to be cob- 


49 Seodm$i^9 &c. ^»^ifrm 

Xuted» the USt, And two pqopi^ tbo^ educated, tlitt$ 
from their ii^faiipy indulged (the wotmau, in h^r way nQ 
left hunioiuodj ^nd ^C9 more negle^pd ia her ed»cai> 
tion ^Q ^ in^uD,) lire brought together } ^nd what can 
b^ expe^dy trnt that they ihovild mgft cordially joiq, 
when i^arriedy$igue paqh Qther ? ihi4- 

Neither of them having ever been fnhjecl tp <;ontrouI, 
Wf h^dly t9 coQtradiQion, the pi^n cannot bear it Irom 
one, whpife new reUtiqn to him, and vow of ^b^diance* 
he thinks fhoald oblige her to yield up her will entirely 
$ohi$; ii. 347. [315]. 

The!Eady9 welUn^ad in nothing, perhaps, but rpmances^ 
tfiinks it v«ry nngallant, now, i^ the firil tiine to be 
controuled, s^nd that by the man from whom (he ex- 
pelled nothing but tenderpefs, iHd, 

So great the difference between what they both ex- 
igt^frpPh afid i|nd i», ^ach ^ther, iio wonder tbatmif- 
underilandings happen j tb^t tbeie ripen into quarrels ; 
that a^s of unkindnefs pafs, ibid. 

Appends to pare^its and giijirdians often -efiAie. If by 
mediation of u'i^nds areconciUs^tion takes pjace, it hard- 
ly ever holds \ fpr why I The fs^uU i^ in the mwds of 
both, and neither of th^m thinks fo } 

Whemce the wound, not perinittqd to be probed, is bvit 
ftinn^ QMfir ; «nd> itt Uift brej|l|s out with inore violence 
than before ; 

Separate bed^ aie often ^e CQnfeqiieiice : Perhaps 
«lopem$!Ql9 i guilty Qnes fometimes : li not an uncott- 
^uerable indifference ; po^ibly, ayerQoq, i^y. 

BseHfam»%, Un^i^ Mf^ms^Ss%- Husband ^^Z 
^i/e. Wife. 


Haiories and Ckar^am pf particular Ladies. 

Op Miie Stapylton ; a young lady ov^-ffin with 
MmsBtic Botiow, andhtTing an l^li.opi«km of thofe 
dP love at jirftfight» i/r. 437. [a%»J* 

Of Mi£i Com ; a yoimg lady Qf IQO «ende and tfo 
vnifferv'd a temper ; bearing infaits from Aer lover} tie* 
ctfftng ids fiicdoms with her peribn ; and on his ^|s be- 
mg fSoiiilnted, m erikMin g '^n^etopcwmit to km, iy. 4^, 


Of Mifs S. ; a^ young lady deem^ witty, cenforioos, 
and much rather ineiiaed to exenfe the ftducers of the 
odifflr ia^i i$m l^fidneed p( her oim ; tho* heriidf not 
free from danger from her owa impnidttiOBy iv. 441* 

[385]- ., 

Of Mifs Lucas ; ia love with a young g^deman of 

fre« pprinieifilesy her fnperior in fortiiAe> who declined 

declaring himfelf as to marriage, tho* he had the coa* 

feat of both fathers to the match ; $lul. 

Ss€ thf €9nch*fifn rftbnrf(Witulft9ri0$^ !▼. 471, 47*« 

TheHifiory of Coqy6Tii.i.A. Her faulty education, 

character, cataftrophe, iv. 481. [419]. 

—*-—*—*—— of PavpiAKA. Her faotcfr cdacatiout 
chara^r, cataftro^j iind. 

■ ' of Frofusi ANA. Her faulty education, 

chara£ler, catafbophe,- iv. 485, &/if« \M\%^ M^ 

— — — of Pr*u©««tia. fier virtuous educa- 
tion ; Aae cfaaraiEkar, hapmr mania|;e. Her exeellenca 
WL all Ae diiti^fl of foc»al life, 488, fa M^ [izy.isf fif.} < 


A WOMAN sMift not always taioe her notioiis of Honour 
frx>m thofe of a man pretending love to her, i. 227. 

True politenefs le but another wood fer Virtne and 
Honour, iv. 490, [429]* 

See Advice te Tiung Wmm^ L^botines. Love. 
~ Promifes. 

Human Lift. 

Wh AT a poor thing i9>Hiiman Life in iits heft ei^oy- 
ments ! Subje^ to imaginary evils, when it has no real 
ones to diHurb it ; and that can be made as afFe&oaily 
Mhappy by apprehenisons, of even remote contingeii- 
cies, as if we were ftrttegUng with the pangs of a praant 
diflr^! ii. 434. [3B7J. 

This ifobeciili^, duly refUded upon, txoiild ca«yiote 
tts« that the world is ttot a place for the imtaortajl mind 
to be oonfindl to ; aod^ that theie moft be an h^neafter, 
in which the whole foul ftiall be ia.(i«M» '^<^* 

See Death. Religion, l^c. Human 

42 Sentiments, &c. extraHed from 

Human Nature. 

Human Nature, in its corrupted ilate^ is the commoa 
fewer of iniquity, iii. 339, [268 J. 


A N humble and teachable mind is a great blefllng, i. 
119. [943. 

Of all human graces. Humility is mbft to be prayed 
for by a perfon exalted from a low to an high condition, 
ii. 152. [156, 157]. 

A young woman of low birth and fortune, exalted 
by marriage to high rank, ought to retain her Humility, 
as well to do credit to her own good fenfe, as to the 
judgment of the man who raifed her, ii. 338. [307]. 
See Pride. 

Hufband and Wife. 

^ A WOMAN behaving with paifion and difrefpeA to her 
Hufband, difgraces herfelf as much as (he does him, in 
the eye of the world, iii. 482. [382]. 

The very women, who thenifelves love dominion, will 
defpife the man who bears infults from his Wife, as well 
as the woman who offers it, ihid. 

The Wife, Mr. 5. fays^ whofc paflions arc kept un- 
der an eafy and genteel controul, is' under great obliga- 
tions to her Hulband, ihid. 

The woman who contends not with her HnA)and in 
fmaller points, will have a title to. indulgence. in thofe 
greater which may not be points to which (he is indif- 
ferent, iii. 497. [394]. 

A woman''s behaviour to her hu/band after marriage, 
ihould be as delicate as is confiilent with her plighted 
love. A carelefnefs in drefs, inelegance in her perfon 
particularly, ought to be as ftudiouuy avoided, as if ibe 
were ftill a fingle woman, iii., 902. [398]. 

Conjugal delicacy is good policy as well as high de- 
corum, both in Hufband and Wife, iv. ^i. [41*] 

A prudent Wife will not leflen her Hufband» by re- 
vealing to her friends thofe errors^ which (he can con- 
ceal, iv. 157. [i35]. 


the Hiftory of Fame l aJ 43 

Such a one will not fuffer her Hufband^s conduct, 
however faulty, to be arraigned in her prefence, by any 
of his pretended friends or companions, iv. 160. [i3S]» 
See Pamelds hehawour on fucb an occafion^ iv. 1 6o« 

The Hafband*s breach of daty cannot warrant a fail- 
ore in that of the Wife, iv.. 166. [1+3]. 

Patience and forbearance, and not upbraidings, are 
the weapons by which a good Wife will endeavour to 
fabdae a faulty Hufband, iv. 166. [143]. 180. [15^]. 

In matrimonial mifunderilandings, a prudent couple 
will fo behave, on making up, as not to leave room for 
future heart-burnings from the fame'fource, ibid. 

How much better is it to be the fufferer than the of- 
fender ! iv. 167. [144]. 

See Pamelas noble Sentiments on Mr^ B^s apprehended 

relapfe into bis former guilty courfes^ iv. Letter 

XX vi. [xxvi]. 

The generous forgivenefs of an unjuftly-treated Wife, 

demonilrates in her a fuperiority of foul, which (he has 

reafon to glory in, efpecially while (he can fhew more 

companion than contempt of him, iv. 167. [143]* 

When a man £rft begins to waver in his fidelity to his 
Wife (attraded, perhaps, by another obje£i) then will a 
prudent woman double her afliduities to make his home 
and her company agreeable to him : By a contrary con- 
dufl, (he may eftrange his afFedions from her for ever, 
iv. zt\. [217]. 

\See Advice to young married Women, High Ufe* 
Marriages. Uf;e^ual Mzrrxzgts. Wife. 


Impartiality. Partiality. 

We (hould never have our own cafe in view, when 
we give our opinion of general rules, iii. 186. [147]. 

We are too apt to argue, in generals, with a view to 
juftify our particular pradlices, rather than according to 
reafon and juftice, iii. 502. [398]. 

Impropriations. See Clergy. 


44 Sentimenli, &c. extta^edfnm 


.On « way to make our low relttioAa lufipkr^ ft$ w«U 
as better, att^ixxw^ i« to xo^ke our ftvoitr ^ tbfm the 
price of their Diligence and Indailry, iii. ^z. [^6]. 
Su Relations. 


A KBPT mifircis is the flavc of a flav«, i. *2A, 

C1783. ■ . 

^^ Adviee to Touttg Women Cautions to yoimg fi- 
fnmle Servants. Heroic Poverty. Honour. Li- 
hertines. Mafters Bfhan>idur to fcmaU ^irmants* 
Promifes. Temptations. Virtue. 



A Lavybr who is a good man» will be moce notai 
ior eompoiipg d^renccs than promoting fiMta, lii. %%» 

libertifie^. Raket. 

ViKTyi and vice change name^ and q^ides wi^ 
Libertine men, i. aj^. {%il^ 

Libertiaei who fcrimle not to attempt the virt9« of the 
wives, the fiflers, ana daughters of ouiers* are t^ moft 
jeaWsof the chaftky. of their own, iii. j6. [45]. 

Some Lihe/tines make a merit of oQt attempting a 
married woman : This (hews, that their paflions are, fo 
far as they adhere to this pj^ncipie, in their own power ; 
and it encreafes the crime of thofe, who robbing a fingle 
woman of her hoDOur, .depsire iker of that prote6Uon by 
majTia£;e« which ev^n fucn R^kes a^i tb^^wlves pretend 
to hpla inviolable, iii. 287. [226]. 

Clumfy Rakes borrow the wit they ret^Ie. Their 
wickedne& ojjy is what they may call their owa, iv. 
400. [550]. 

Libertines muft not be allowed to judge of women in 
general. They can judge e&ly of fkofe diey have been 


A^ U^k9ryof Pambla« 

ttoft icqniuited witk: And irfae ore they' iai. 412. 

It i< well that rakifii Angle nitti 4o not intereft any* 
^f^ very intunatelx in tlieir kMkhs (nr prcfervation. 
Nttktter the f uhiic nor fhrirale need to be nrach concern* 
•d about themi fince their n^xt h^s eaanoi well be 
irorfe commonweahh's^nen than tbeyi^nd there is a 
chsace thftt they may be better, iii. 462. [365]. 

WhJit has not the wtetch^o anfwer for» who fports in 
deftsoyittg a virtdoas chara&er ; and in throwing upon 
the town, a poor creature whofe love of him, and con- 
fidence in him, were liU h^ crime? Iv. 4^5. [}9Sj. 

And wko, othei^wiie, mig^t hnve made a worthy 
figare at the head of fome reputable family ; and an ufe- 
fill iiiember of the commonwealdi^ propftgatiug to 
numbers good example, inftead of infalny, diieafe, and 
tuiti, iv. 456. [398J. 

To fay nothing of what is ftill Worfe, the occafioning 
eoo probably, the lofs ci a foul ; fince final impenitence 
ido gineriilly foUowt the firft facrifke, which the poor 
wretch is feduced to make of her honour, ihid. 

The MCion that a refarmidRah m^H the heft^ bufigmJ, 
is fl moft prefum^uoos, dangerous, and pernicious oncj 
iv. 456. [4073, 

Mr, S's example not to bepUadedin defence ofit\ and 

wfyi ibid. 
&ie Advantagps bf Mm mftr IFomen, Advice to 
ToMgWomen, Credulity. ^^TSkULt Dignity, ICeep- 
iUg. Matters Bebm/i&ur to bis Female Servants. 
Love. lA^tMtJif-ft fi^t, Promiies. Reform- 
ntion* Vhtue. Wit« Writers. 


1 1 is t Mamejible fign of Levi, when we are ready 
t6 think well of a perf<m againft sil appearances of de- 
merit, iL 4. [tj}. 

Where we love, we dwell on every little incident 
mtax tan nU^e ft^t the adnintage df the eh^ed, it. 5. 

Love, when permitted to reign in a tender boiem, !• 
aft abfolute tyrant, requirii^ unconditional obedience. 

46 Sentiments, &c. extraBtdfrom 

and deeming every inftance of difcretion and prndence, 
and even too often of virtue, an a£l of rebellion againft 
its ufurped authority, iii. 77. [61]. 

How often do the blemilhes of thofe we love, appear 
to us as graces f Crimes diemfelves will be conftrue^, 
by inconiiderate minds, into homan failings ; and thofe 
are made a common caufe of; and excufed, or, at leaft 
extenuated, by each perfon, for his or her own fake, ihid* 

People deeply in Love generally think too highly of 
the beloved obje^, and too lowly of themfelves, iii« 
78. [61]. 

Love, or the paffion mif-called Love, puts its votaries 
upon the meaneft a^ons. It levels with the duili the 
proudeft fpiric, iii. 2^5. [178]. 

True Love, bears not the thought of any objed, but 
of that it fighs for, iv. 74. [62]. 

Wrong methods taken with a generous fpirit, in % 
fuppofed beginning Love, are often the means of bring- 
ing about the event moil dreaded ; and which, perhaps, 
but. for thofe wrong methods, would have come to no* 
thing, iv. 251. [218]. 

Perfons in a beginning liking, who have not had an 
opportunity to. declare themfelves, will neverthelcfs find 
out a filent language, that (hall be full as expreflive as 
the plaineft woros, iv. 277, [240]. 

The paflion which is generally dignified by tiie name 
of Love, and which puts its votaries upon a thonfand 
extravagancies, ufually owes its Being rather tp ungo- 
verned fancy, than to folid judgment, iv. 459. [401], 

Were we to judge of it by the confequences that ufu- 
ally attend it, it ought rather to be called raflinefs, incon- 
^deration, weaknefs, any thing, but Love, ibid. 

When once we dignify the wild mifleader \^ that name, 
all the. abfurdities which we read of in novels and ro- 
mances take place ; and we are induced to follow ex- 
amples, that feldom any where end happily, butin^or^ 
ihid, .. .* . 

Love operates differently in the two fexes. In wo* 
men it is generally a creeping thing; in man an en^ 
•croacher, tbii* 

ibe Hijiory of/PAU^hA. 47 

Real Love fills with awe and reverence, the heart of 
die man who boafls its impreflion, iv. 470. [411]. 

It is pure in word and deed. The leaft indelicacy 
even of thought, cannot mingle with it, ibid. 

If therefore a man, be his quality or fortune what it 
win (the higher the worfe) prefume to wound the ears 
of the woman he profeiTes to love, with indecent words 
or images : 

If he is continually preffing her to place a confidence 
in his honour : 

If he be regardlefs of his behaviour to her» or befoie 
her : 

If he requeft favours which a modeil woman ought to 
rofufe : 

If he treat either her perfon or drefs with boi&rous or 
rude freedoms : 

If he avoids urging marriage to her, when he has a 
fair opportunity of doing it ; or, 

Leaves it once to her, to wonder he does not fo urge ^ 
her : — 

In any of thefe cafes, he is to be fufpefted; and^hlt 
vifits ought not to be admitted, ibid. 

See Advice to Toung Women. Libertines. Platonic 
Love. Pfomifes. 

Love at firfi fight. 

Lovi, at firft fight, fuppofes fach a fufceptibility of 
paiiion, as, however it may pafs in a man, very little 
becomes the delicacy of the female chara^er, iv. 462'. 


There are many chances to one, that a liking fo. pre- 
cipitate, ends unhappily, ibid. 

What room can therebe in fuch a Love, for caution, 
for enquiry^ .for the difplay of merit and fincerity ; and 
even for the afifurance of a grateful return of Love/ iv. 

Love, at. firft fight, is a random (hot. It is a demon- 
ftration of weaknefs. In* a woman, it is a giving up 
the negative voice that belongs to the fex^ even while ih'e 
dpobts to meet with the afiirmative ione from him (hie 
wi(hes to be hers^ ihid* 


48 SenCuhent^ ^« ta^lrathdfhm 

Stfch a pafficm in a womaii^ Ihews diat her heart has 
been too much in the power of her eye ; and that (he 
hasi p&rmstttd her fancy to be mach moi'e bafy than her 
judgment, iv. 463. [40c]. 

On the leaft favourable impreiHons of this kind, to a 
man to whofe charafter and merit ihe is a ftranger, a 
Woman ought immediately to retire into herfetf, ihe oaght 
to refled upon what (he owes to her family, to her cha* 
ira^er, and to her kx, in order 10 check fuch a random 
prepoiTeffion ; which, as there are fo many undeierving 
inen to one who has real merit, may more probably make 
her the prey of a bafe man, than the wife of a worthy 
ttne, iiid. 

A Love of this fort may be ftopt at a firft liking, if a 
young woman broods not over the egg till (he hatches it 
into Love, iv. 464. [405]. 

Sfg fetnm Dignity. Love. 

Pktonit Love. 

Flatonic Love is an infidious pretenixon, that 
bften betrays even worthy minds into ruin, iv. 253. 

The perfon pretending Platonic Love, may be com- 
pared, where the beft is meant, to the fly- buzzing about 
the blaze, till it.fcorchet its wings, iv. 253. [220]. 

Or, to fpeak dill ftronger, Platonic Love is a bait of 
the grand deceiver, to catch the unexperienced and 
thoughtlefs^ ibid. 

Old age only can fafely determine the barriers of Pla- 
tonic Love, iv. 254. [220]}. 

It ought not to be pretended to, till the parties, the 
man at leaft, can number fome years beyona his grand 
climacteric, ibid* 

Need there be a (bronger pxoof of the danger of this 
pre(eniion, than this ; that it is hardly ever fet on foot, 
but among young people I ibid. 

Priendihips, begun with (piritual views,.' between men 
and women of really worthy mads, have often ended 

£(0fly> itid. 


I the Hifiary of fAu% l;a» 49 

Low Life. -^ 

T M B man who was born to a ioV lot, is not always 
the happier, whatever be his talents, for b^ing lifced in* 
to a higher fphere, iii. 429. [339]- 

To make fttch a one eafy and happy in his ftatton, 
is generally as much as ought to be aone for him, or as 
he ooght ta wifli for ; 

Nfiiv« poverty is not a very grievoas ftate, wheitt 
health b aot denied, and indnftiy and diligence are not 
wanting ; 

Labour is neceffary to health : Moderate labour, 
which brings with it fubMeace to a poor man, is far 
from being an evil ; 

Content alone is the blefling ; if^ that, be wanting 
where therp is a competence, it will probably be fo in 
affluence ; 

He who has pafTed the meridian of life, (hould be ra- 
ther follicitous to improve his circumftances in the way 
he has been ufed to, than to aim at a higher and more 
daneerous iituation ; ' . 

ifas be talents Tor a higher fphere, he \yiU make that 
figure in his lower, that will exalt him among his com- 
peers, and make him highly ufeful to them ; but which 
will give him little or no confequence among his fupe- 
riors i who by the' advantages - of education, added to 
talents, mnil be aiivays his fnpciiors ; 

The peer and pealant are equally links of the great 
chain of nature, and equally ufeful in it ; "' 

See thefe and other Reflexions af the like natHre^ iii. 

429^^433- C339>M42]- 
■ ^ee Confolation to the Poor. • Heroic Pcmerty^ . Rc- 


Magnanimity. - 

,./ » 

A NOBLE mind will feek to fubdue an enemy by 
ads of kindi^efs, ii. 232. [221]. 

It is the mark of a fuperior mind^ when guilty of a 
faulty to be above extenuating it, iii. 193,, £15^]. 

D 'A 

'^ ScfftlftftAIS) ice. exfM^^Wi 

A good perfon will think it mach better to TufFer him* 
felf, than to be the caii& Df atidther's unjuft fuffering, 
lii. 265. [206]. 


Marriagc» even where the profpeds are happy» is 
'A folemn and awful engagement ; and, as it is a -flange 
of life that can never be recalled, willfil a thOiight»l 
iniad widi anxiety on its approaches to tt» ii. 151. [145] . 

If a oiodeft young woniaii, on the day of her nup- 
tials, cannot forbear thinking apprehenlively on the ereac 
chan^ of her condition, though with ihe man oT her 
choice ; how much to be pitied mufl ihe be, who is com*- 
pelled to marry the man me cannot lore, and perhaps to 
the lofmg of himlheconld? ii. ifio. [179]. 
. : Such joys flow from virtuous and mutual love^ as the 
narrow mind of the libertine cannot comprehend, ii. 
-200. [196.]. 

A man or woman may have as good a chance far 
happinefs in marriage, with a perfon of fortUBe, as with 
one who has not any, iii. 185. [147]. 

With a man of fenfe, a woman of tolerable prudence 
mull be happy in Marriage, iii. 195. [155]. 

There cannot be any great happinefs in the married 
life, except each iii turn, give up their, own humours, 
and lefier inclinations, iii. 489. [587]. 

Moft of the roifunderftandings among married people, owing to trifles, to petty diftin^iions, to unguarded 

J)etulances : Who would forego the folid fatisfa^lioAs of 
ifCf for the fake of triumphing in fach poor conten- 
tions, could they overcome in them ? iii. 497. [393]. 

No man, even by Marriage^ can da-comfdete }uftice to 
the woman he has robbed of her honour, iv. 302. [262]. 
The wife, Pamela oh/(r<uej\ is abfolutely her hufl>and*s. 
Every excellence by which ihe is adorned, redounds to 
his honour, even more than to her own ; in like manner, 
as no diihonour diferaces a man fo much, as that which. 
he receives from a bad wife, iv. 395. ['345]. 

See Famelds fchemt tf behaviour ^ a itamtd hmf- 
bandi to his wtleamed but dociie-nvift, in trder to 
fromotg the haf^n^s of both^ ibid. 



e^ Hifhfry of 9 Aiit LA. ^ 5i 

Sf€ Coortflitp. ^High Uft. Hq&mA mntt Wif4t. 
hmt. Unequal Mdxn2.%&, Mattrnal i>«r;. M»- 
&re{s of a /nm'fy. Pride. Servants. Wife. 

Unequal Mmistges. 

It is a difficnlty for a perfon exalted from a low de« 
gree, be (he ever fo pradent, to know how to be humble 
withoat meannefs, and to aflame dignity without arro- 
gance, iy. 52. [43]. 

A yoahg woman married greatly above hecfelf, has no 
reafon, Fzimela fa^s^ to think all the world her own upon 
it ; having to encounter with the ill-will and contempts 
of her hufband'^s relations ; with the tnvy of the reft of 
her fcx ;' her iiufband perhaps treated contemjptuoufl/ 
on her account ; herfelrconfidered as the loweft of hia 
family, and a difgrace to it, iv^ ^%y [43]* 

Tho* Pamela xsoAt fo ^re'ata ^ure in the ftation to 

whidi (he wis exalted, it is much more' likely, that the 

generality of low-defcended women, lifted up. like hef» 

would have their heads made giddy by their exaltatioii> 

than imitate her, and (hineas ihe did,iv. 394. [344]. 

^he re/ult iu that thofe ' miarHsigei «tw generoHy ihe 

happiefifitn'mbich sat equaHty-^f hirtb '<md iegrte 

are attended to. . . . / 

M A « Qjx £ R, A D E s . Ste Public Entertainments. 

Mafter's Behaviour to his Female Servant. 

The man who ofiers freedoms to his female fervant, 
deferves not, however, rich and po\yerflil9 to be called a . 

gendeman^ i. 19, 20,21. f 16* 17] • 
JeiBng from a Mdler tp a fervan^, becomes ncyt his 

ftation, i. 43. [36]. 

It is hot to'be-expefted that a feiVant (homld keep her 
diftance toher mafter, when he departs fiom ills to her, 

i. 44. [S«% 53; [43I. . ^ . ^ 

If, fays Pamela to her maper^.on a certain occafim^ you 

couid be To much afraid otyonr own fervants knowing 

of yoiir attempt upoji. a pops unworthy creature who 

is under your prdle^Vion, furely yon Qu^ht more 

afraid of God Almighty, In whofe prefence we all ftand 

Da io 

5^ SeiidmentS) &c. extraS^ed from 

in every a^on of our lives, and to whom the greateft> 
as well as the leaft, are accountable^ let them uiink as 
,theypleafe, i. 105. 196. [82. 155, 156]. 

When a Mafter throws ofF the maik, and in private 
avows a particular regard to his fervant-maid, me has 
every thing to fear, if meftays inhis fervice, i. 1 34. [io6]>. 
An honed fervant, fo circumftanced^ will refufe to ac- 
cept of fuch prefencs as (hall engage her gratitude, and 
l)e above the merit of common fervice, i. 136. [io8j. 

A Mafter of an uniformly good chara£ler, will make 
all around him eafy and happy, iv. 359. [313]. 

See Advice to Toung IVomen, Cautions to young Fr- 
mah Sewants. Duty to Superiors. Heroic Po^ 
nferty. Libertines. Low Life. Promifes. Ser- 
vants. Temptations. Virtue. 

Maternal Duiy. 

Those mothers who. can make the nurlery, and firft 
education of their children, their delight, have a pleafure 
to which other mothers are flrangers, iv. 378. [330]. 

Good habits and diligence cannot be too early incul- 
cated in the minds of^children, iv. 381. [333]* 

What joy, what merit, muft that mother have, who, 
in her child's education, has prepared the way to the 
inflrn6Uon of a tutor, and given him up a mind half cul- 
tivated to his hands f iv. 390. [341]. 

At the fanie time having improved herfelf* not only 
in fcience, but in the knowlege of human nature, by 
tracing in him what all men have been from infancy to 
Tiper years; watching the daunings of reafon, and de- 
lighting in every emanation of that ray of divinity, ibiJ. 

What mother, who loves her children, can think ihe 
ean take too much pains in cultivating their minds ? iv. 
417. [365] 

See the defertption of Pamela in her nurfety^ furround^ 

edby her children ; iv. 474, t^feq. [415. ^ fe{\. 
See Children in earfy In/ancy. Children in their /«- 
fantile State^ Scc. Children and Servants. Edu- 
cation. Fenutle Education. MiftrdTs 0/ tt Fa- 
. m'fy. Pride. Servants. Wife. 



the Hiftory of Fame la. 53 


To find out, to praife, to reward, extraordinary Mc«' 
lit, is next to having it one's felf, iii. 415. [528]. 

The man who> on a firll acquaintance^ is not forward 
of fpeech, may be thought tp have a merit that lies 
deeper than common obfervation can.reach, iv. 10. [8]. 
See Baihfulnefs. Modeily« 

Miftrefs of a Family. 

A Mistress of a Family fhould never be nnpre* 
pared to receive fuch company as her hufband (hall think 
at to introduce to his table, ii. 215. [208]. 

Nor will ihe» if prudent, ihew difcompofure on be- 
ing brpken in upon by unexpected gueih, ii. 221 . [211]. 

She will be facetious, kind, obliging to all her guefis ^ 
and if to any more than the red, to thofe who have the 
leafl reafon to exped dillindlion from her ; and who are 
of the loweft jrank at table : Thus will (he cheer the 
doubting mind, and aiTure al) the refl, ii. 221. [213]. 

Nor will fhe, if polite, fufFer herfclf to be dillurbed 
at the blunders of carelefs fervants, however difconcert-" 
ing to the oeconomy of the table thofe blunders may be, 

A good Miftrefs of a Family and prudent manager, 
will do more with her fervants by kindnefs and good 
homour, than a mifbefs of another character will do b]r 
anger, by paffioir, and continual fault-finding, iii. 29;. 

She will pdake herfelf millreft of the ficmld-he^ the 
ivhy^ the ^wherefore^ and the hotxj^ iii. 297. £254]. 

She will do every thing with difpatch, clearing all-as 
(he goes, and leaving nothing to come- over agam, that 
can be performed at once, ibid, 

)&y which means every hand will be clear to under ^ 
take a new work, as (veil as her own head to diredl it. 
There will be no hurry or confufion ; but every coming 
hour will be unincumbered with the duties of' tHe laft, 

A new married Miftrefs of a Family, generally oa 
the entrance into her charge, makes as many enemies a| 

D 3 ^ flie 

54 SeptjnaefHs^ &|c. t^htaSied from 

fhe difmiiTes fervants ; y«a, siore> ' iince the friends 
of thofe difinified, are ufually to be included in the 
XLumber, iv. 58, [48]. 

For an account of famfy ord&r and otconomy ; harmony 

; a?ttong fernjontSy &c, at Mr. E*Sy fee iv. bo to 

63, [50 /o 5a]. 

^et Childriea and Sertoanls. Qergyman'/ Iflfe^ 

Hufband and Wife, Marriage. Maternal Dutym 

Pride. Servant. Wife, 


- Those who doubt themfelvcs moft, generally err leaft, 
ii. 152. [157]. 

- A 'modeft woman who docs not exprefs her di{plea- 
fure, at flagrant liberties of fpeecK taken before her, by 
nien of profligate charadlers, will be thought by theoi an 
hypocrite, iii. 133. [105]. 

Modefly is always a fign of merit, iii. 320. [252]. 
Over- Modtfty borders nearly on pride;* And too li- 
beral felf-accafatbns are generally but £0 many traps for 
praife, iv. 50. [41]. 

See Baftifulnefs. Merit.. Modefty. Re6litude'. 5^ 
Mind, Shame. 

Moral Man. 

A MORAL Man ought not to be fatis£e<L with lum« 
felf>till he alfo becomes a religious man,iv. 407. [35^3* 
See Good Mm* Religion. 

Nuksss. See Chil^Tren in fieir Infiimy. Mat«fnal 
.' NtJitsBRy Tales. See iv. 474. bffeq. [41$. i^fig]* 



'.It it thtf snftck of a poor condition, to ree^ve fa- 
vours ; of a rich mind to confer them, ii. 52. [75]. • 
. .It te otte of the xnoft weaSy fituationa that a truly 
muM mindxan be in, to laboiur under the weight of 


ike H^^qf Vauzla. 55 

fiidi OUigationa to a geaerous benefadoTt as it is fen- 
Hble it can neither delerve npr return, iL izo. [130], 

See Addrefs to tie Sich. Beneficence. Chiirit/. . 
Gi:aidtj^de. Low Lffi* T^be Rich^ 


O&f TiKATB pe(q4e, who have adapted a pafdcular 
^oiidii&, frequently ch0O& rather to perM in an error, 
than own they haye been in one, tii. 218. [i72]. 

PeorLe who ttle tsty to hide their age, turn a fubjs^l 
of reverence into one of ridicule, iv. 308. [268]. 

See Pamelas ohfirvations en the affeSation of Mifs 
J^(fy S'Wjnfordy a maiden of fifty -fi'vcy ^wanting t9 
be thought younger than fie ivas, iv. 308 /« 31 1. 
[268 /• 270]. 

Old R^^f. 

Ak'^oM Rake, and an ojd Beau^ are contemptible crea* 
tares, i;i. 227. [2173. 

A man in years, who allows himfelf in taking inde- 
cent liberties of fpegch befrre yQnxk% people, efpecially 
before his own daughters, not only expofes himfelf to 
}ttft fidkirfi^, bat ihgcn to infiilis, and is ufterly inexcufe- 
^bl«i iii- 15*^ £l^S'J- 16c, &fej. [i|i, &feq.] 

What in.orf cm(«#pti|bl^ cblirai^ cs^fi there be, thaii 
that of a man whp car^s l^s vicfss ii^to old ag^, retain* 
11^ a, f 2^99 fpr his juvenUe follies, even after the power 
01 iinning has left hijn ? iv- 167. [144]. 
Set Deiible Entendre* . Xiibertines^ 

Opepla. See Public Ent^tatnmmts* 


Parents and Cbildnn. 


Tfls diibbedient Child. entitles not^tf^lf ^o t^& hexast 
fit of its Parent's prayers, i. ^7. [22]. 

The virtue of a Child gives vigour to tl^ mind an j 
period o<" a^wonhy parent, i. 47. [39^, 

C 4 to^ 

5^ Sentiments, &c. extraHed from 

Poor Parents are as muck intitled to their children's 
diity, and to be confuited by tliem in weighty articles, 
as if they were rich, i. 237. [180]. 

Parents in doing for their Children who are in mis- 
fortune, ihould weieh well, whether even their own im- 
poverishment would retrieve their Children's unhappy 
drcumitances ; and whether, in other words, it would 
not add ruin to ruin ; and that of helplefs old age co»* 
perhaps, that of fturdy youth, iii. 8. [7]. 

There cannot be a greater happinefs on this fide the 
grave, than thofe Parents know, who, by the tried vir- 
tue of their Child, are raifed from narrow to affluent 
circumftances, iii. 9. [8]. 

It is unhappy for Parents when they behold the botUes 
of their children grow up to ttie ftature of men and 
women, and their minds keep not equal pace $ but are 
ilill thofe of boys or girls, iv. 290. [252]. 

Set Children in their early Infamy, Children in 
their Infantile State, &c. Children ami Servantt. 
Education. Example, Filial Pictjf. Heroic 
Foverty, Hufband and fVife. Marriage, Ma- 
ternal I>uty. Mifbrefa of a Family. Wife. 

PaHion. Paffionate, 

Passionate people, if of ingenuous minds, and not 
conceited, may, by a proper behaviour* b^ overcome; 
and when they are, will be as acknowl^ing> as before 
they were impetuous, iii. 220. [174]* 

Paffion, when violent, deforms Ind debafes the noblefl 
minds, ii. 320. [293]. iii. 203. [231]. 

Our PaiTions are given us for excellent purpofes, and 
may be made fubfervient to the nobleft> iv. 303. [264]. 
See Anger. Pride. 


Patrons are, in a great meafure, accountable for 
%he morals and fitnefs of the perfons they prefent. Had 
1 twenty livings in my gift, fays Mr, B. I ought not 
to prefer my brother to any one of them, if his 
moralft and charaders were no| likely to do honour 

. to 

tie H^hry ^f Pa m s l a. ' 57 

to the Cbarch, as well as to my prefeotatioiii iii. 356. 

Set for Mr. B*s opinion of thofi patrons^ tvohofiohin 
a living fa/lsy rah the regularly -bred clergpuant hjf 
getting fome kinfman admitted into it, he be everM 
defeQi'Vt in Morals^ Chara^er, or Learnings ill. 
357. [281], ' v , 

See Clergy. 


SvDDEN repentance and amendment, where a perfbn 
has had a bad view upon another, are to be fufpe^ed; i. 
102. [80]. • 

Yet, as divine grace is not confined to fpace of time, 
and a» remorfe may have fmitten the heart of a once 
ili-defigning man, it is good to preTerve our charity, 
yet not depart from oar caution, ibid. 

That Penitence is the moft likely to hold, which takes 
place before cialamity and affii^on feiaaes the heart, iii. 

May the divine goodnefs, fays Pamela to the penitent 
ytnukesj enable you to perfevere in the couffe you have 
entred upon ? iii. 138. [no]. 

When you can taile an all-furpafling pleafure in fettin^ 
an example that may be -of advantage to the fouls of 
others, you may be a/Tured, that you are in a righc 
way ; and that the woe that is pronounced agaipft the 
prefumptuous (inner, belongs not to you, ibid. 

Two things only, addsjhe, let me caution yon againft. 
That after your Penitence, you return not to your 
evil ways ; and that you defpond not in the divine mer* 
cy, ibid. 

Next, to not commiting a fin, is the repenting of it 
when committed ; and the refolving, however tempted^, 
to avoid repeating it, iv. 301; [262]. 
See Reformation. 

Plats. Set Public Emertcdnnantu ' 

PLVRALtTias. ^n Clergy. 

: k. 

D 5 ^ TPolitical 

.> . ■ ■ ..... 

Political Ohfervations. 

A Msw&Bit of parliament can nei^er anfwer to bis 
^nfttttrefits, or to bis cotifcience, his non-attendance on 
the national. Imfinefs, iii. ytS, [tot]. 
■ ShacrM any gbod motion ""be loftby tmc, or bjr a few, 
every abfent member has it to reprokcK kimie£F, with 
the evil confequences of its failure, iiw i^. {102]. 

A good man will nothfi atyvbnri to party. He would 
be glad to give an admin itlration every vote. Tho{e 
wtlio arcL alwit3rs laoppofitbn 10 a mmStry, mnSt be 
f^medfoes wtong ta well u they^ iiik aio. {i^]. iv. 
154. [132]. 

Yet,: kk a cbnftitkHiob like lAm Bridfli,. where eack of 
iktQ kgiilfttive poivers ii ^dbfigned tb be a ehnck on. the 
9ikiwv there ina7<htappenx:a£M» w^iere aatkppofilsQtt may 
be neceiTary for its prefeiratioeD, ihdi 

. . Poor n^ t9 hd^ifod iy tbi Rich^ 

The greateft families have fome among therfi, who 

are onBappy, and low in life ; and (halt any of fuch, re- 

{broach a lower .horn with having tfwenty poor relations, 

' bccauCe they themfelves have not perhaps above^^^f 

ai. 28*. [22}'. 

Poverty is a very necelTary Hate, in the Tcale Of heinj^^ 
3fii. 28. f2j]. 

W1)b liiaU he affiamed of their poor relations, who 
hsive done nothing to be afliataied of? ihU, 

Let not thofe who reproach others for being \om^ 
l$6rn> give occafion to retort the reproach for low adUons^ 

. We fhpuld endeavour to judge of, one another, as 
jGo3, at the raft da;^, will judge of us allj ^d then, 
tlTe hbne/l peaTant will ftand fairer in our efteem^ than, 
the guilty peer, ibiJ. 

Every one. Jays Famela^ who ads judly and honeftly, 
will I h)ok upon aa;a[|^.«eladoa» whether he he fo m 
not ; and the more fuch a one wants fscf. alliftance. die 
more intitled to it ihall he be, 3S A^dl altb tSj 'tw&D^ 
a8, 29.r23]. 

-'- -i t : Whila 

Wh9e diofe who de^rv« it not, mtift oxpeA nodung 
from me, but compalBoa «id my pray^irsi wtre ^y my 
brothers or iifters, ibid. 

It k trH»e» «^^i >!&£, had I not beetf poor wid lowly^ 
I i&ight not \ap94b thought tb»9 v but if it bo a rij^t way 
of tMokifig, it is a bleffing that I wm fe : And diat 
fliaU never be- aiatfter of reproach to ae^ whidi« one 
day, willy I bope, be matter of juiiAeadoA, ihid^^ 

Relations. The Rich. 

There is 9, fecret pleaf|ire io hearing ourfelres praif^ 
cd : But OQ foch occaflons, a worthy mind will rather 
refolve to merit the praife, than to be pufed up witl^ 
it, i. 9. [8]. 

Praifc given to die worthy, will be an incentive to 
deferve more praife, rather than to pride and arrogance 
i. 14. [12]. iii. 07. £77]. . 

PeHons only who are not ufed to praife, will be vaio 
of it, ii. 13.1. [139]. iii. 33- f??]- 

Can a ^ood perfon fit down with eafe, under a praife 
he knows he deferves not ? iii. 97. ijyli' 

Jf ^ wom^n difclaims not the praifes attributed to her, 
&e gives an earneft that (he will endeavour to deferve 
theni^ Nor> if ihe be good, will fhe reil, till ihe does^ 

Kind admonitions, doathed in the agreeable ihape of 
|trai.% will nx^e a geiiero9s mind reiplve to merit the 
applaufe conferred, iii. 298. [?35]. 
' .Th^ Prajfe-of tho^ w^ fieverence^ is the nobleU incite- 
mi^ to dyty^i iiid.^ 

' Praife of friends in ps^fence £ho^ld npt bc ^Ttn at the 
^pi^ce of th^ *bfeftt, iij. 312. 12^6}. 

Pride. Proud 

• FiEePi.ft inrottd of their dbfcent, aad defpifmg thofe 
idio hiwf a^that to hoaft o^ never think what a ihort 
ftage life i^^ 9^d that a tim^ k caBi|ng when they and 
die meaneft ihall be on a level, iii^ 2y. [54}. 

X) 6 The 

€o Sentiments, &c* extras id from 

The philofopher, who looked on' the fkoll of a king* 
and that of a poor man, faw no difference between 
them, i^dm 

'the rkheft princes and the pooreft beggar are. to 
have onf great and juft judge at the lad day ; who wiU 
fiot diilingtti(h between them according to their. ranks 
when in life, but according to the negledied opportuni- 
ties afforded to each. IJow much greater then, as the 
opportunities were greater, muft be the condemnation of 
the one, than of the other ? ih'J. 

Keep me, heaven, fays Pamela, Jrom a high condi- 
tion, if my mind ihall ever be fo m^aUf as to be proud, 
ii. 28. [54]. 

The proudeft families had their rife ; and perhaps, a 
few centuries ago, the popreft, had they kept records of 
theirs, would have been able to vie with them in an- 
ceftry, ii. 28. [54, ssl^ 

And who knows, but that a century hence, the now- 
delpifed families may revel in their ellates, while their 
defcendants may be reduced to the others dunghills f 

And, perhaps, fuch is the vanity, as well* as change- 
ablenefs of human affairs, in their turn, fet up for Pndft 
of family, and defpife the others? /^;V. 

Providence difpenfes various parts for people of dif- 
ferent conditions to ads ii. 29. [55l- 

Little reafon have thofe to be proud of their birth^ 
whp forget what belongs to civility and good manners^' 
5. 147. [1521. 

Proud hearts, tho^ convinced of error, come not dowit 
ijlatonce, ii. ^39. [308}. 

The world loves to mortify Pride, and in cafes of 
the pride of upftarts, will always remember, what fucK 
would wilh it to forget, iii. 5, [4], 

To. what childifli foUies does pride fometimes make 
even perfons.of difcpetion. floop, when perverfeaefs geti- 
the better of good fenfe ! iii. 2ij. [i73]. 

Proud and conceited people frequently, confine poliie- 
nefs, good fenfe, and penetration, to an approbaoon o§ 
ih«ir condui^ and judgment, iii. 219, [ij-sJ 

# - ^ tt 

the Hiftofy of Tamela.^ 6t 

It Utde becomes Pride to do any thing that wants 
an excnfe, iii. sao. [174]. 

Ttiough a cenfure lies againfl thofe who are poor 
and ProUd, yet is Pride fooner to be forgiven in a 
poor perfon, than in a rich one ; £Oice in the latter iris 
infult and arrogance ; in the former; it may be a de^ 
fence againft temptations to dtihonefty ; and, if nuuu« 
fefted on properoccafions, may indicate a Jiatttral brave* 
ly of mind, which the* frowns of fortune cannot de- 
prefsy iv. 304. [264J. 

Pride may be made a fubftitute to virtue, in high, 
nth, and inconiiderate female minds ; and as it may 
keep fuch from engaging whh improper . perfons in 
marriage, and from other m^an . adions, it is not to be 
whoUy fobdoed in young people, iv. 30c. [265]. 

Wfcrction, and ripey years, may add. to their du 
iUngaiflUng factthy ; for, as fome have no notion of 
Pride feparate from arrogance and imperioufnefs, fo 
others know no diiference between humility and mean* 
neis, ihiii* 

The more diftindion a proud person aims to obtain, 
the lefs he will have paid him, iv. 363^. [^17]. 

Pride is meannefs, i^U. 

Sie H|i»oic Foverty. . Humility. T0e Voox not tA 
bt dejftfed ly the Ruh. Prosperity. Re^'tndc o£ 
Mnd. Religion. The Rich. -^. 

Promifes. Vows. 

A UAH need not makePromifes to a woman wha 
fiiews a readinefs to confide in him without,, and allows 
him freedoms fhe. ought not to indulge. him. in, iii; 440. 

[3473- ^ - ..„ . • . 

A prudent man win never be drawn in to make a 
blindrold Prbmife, iiL 357; [382]. 

See Advice to Toung Women^ Libertines^ Love« 
Temptations'. Virtue. 


A woiiTHT heart will ever, in Prosperity, look, up 
with thankfulnefs and humili^ to the gradoo&Firfl Caufl 
rf aU bl6fci;si i^. 2QI. £,196]. . . 


' Tbete is itoliving; ia.tksi mteoiM, evto, in. tins lioft 
profperous flate, without meelisg wdck nanfr occafiotts df 
gmf and ooncer A, ii. 2^1. [221]. . 
> It is €t it ftioilid be io» to wean us ffom.a W0tld of 
whick iv« fiuMild beolih^nrtiertoo fond r iike travellers oii 
a journey homeward^ wlio,* meting with good entertaia* 
Bient at (bme ann on the Y^tLy^ pot up ijpeir :reft thore, and 
nevscr think of their j«Brney'B end^.iiv 2^^ [221]. 

The thaftkfalnefa of atraly: wonky mnd^ as w^ m 
its humility, will encreafe as it is bleffcd with PiofpArity^ 

". 373- [30]- ; ', ' / ' ^ 

Minds greatly elated on a pro^eroiis torn of fortnney, 

-give room to think, that they bnild theavkappinefiB ott 

the enjoy menus of this life, iii, 7, [6]. 

What makes us, a^sPamiifa, inonrxhotf profettroot 
condition, be always intermingkn^ oof feavr of wkat 
may happen, whereby we le^en the pleaiste^ of wkkk 
W£ are in fuil pofle^n ? iii. 145. [1 15]. 
.Is nattkis appnekenfivenefs implanted in onr natarea 
for wife and good ends, that we may not foi^et tkat 
there h a ibetter and more perfisdily kappy ftaas,>to whick 
we ought to^pire 1 iiiid. ■- ■ ' ' * . •. 

If u), what an ufeful monitek' do we carvyiin oar bo- 
ibntSythatfhail makeUs con&derand vefled wken in Pro- 
l|)erity'; and in adverfity teack^is CO bear np to kopes of 
a happier lot? ilfid. 

A very happy fitaati<£^ of affairs^ ^ill, of itfelf, (fo 
imperfect are our worldly enjoyments,-) fill ns with ap- 
prekenfiom oa erery oooafiom that^oiets ^ romtnd o^ 
•f quitting this Mle,^ lai; 4918 . jffty*) [^78. ^} . 
. St^l^caxk. I4OW £i>^; fteiigoa. jn^ 

People of quality j. Zadj Danery fayt,^ to places^ 
Piri>)ic EfttertatRinents, drefl^d out and adorned, -as if 
they thought themCelves [and indeed ^y are} parts of 
it ; and genefklly are too ^nn^k j^afed with themfelves, 
to be able to atten4 to -what they hear or fee. iii. 46. 

The Town P iv oiJ Ic us ' ate j>retty ^mch t!i« fame, on^ 
wintor as another i a few* Vmaftiotts iu ibglMomJbiiiy if 
^ ^ .and 

md dMfe contnved bjr ngeBiou pnrfom, wto ' get dtcir 
breaii by diverftfying them, iv* 6^. [53 ]« 

5^^ Famelc^i notions in general of theatrical ferform* 

ancesy iv. 67, 6&. {56* jy]. 

The paflion of Loveis generally treated by play -writers, 

as if their aim was to raife 4 whirlwind which was to 

fweep down reafon, xeligion, and 4ecency, and to carry 

away before it, every dtity^ iv. 6^. t57]- 

So that all the example thi$ veJiement pajQoii can fet, 
is, to fliew a difappointed lover how he may xage, ilorm^^ 
ziefent and revenge, ibid, 

$££ particular fy Famelds ohfirtuati^ns on the trag^ify of 

The DisTaEss'p Mother, iv. 6^ to 88. 7^57 t^ 

745.— 0» the comedy ^alPd ThQ Te^dsji iius« 

B».nnf iv. 88 /« 98. £74^ 83].---Ojh tlu Op£ra, 

iv. 99 /9 104. £83. to 88}.T— Oxr Masque a aobs^ 

iv. IQ4 1» 1 1^4 ,[88 /« 95]. 

£very tiation has its peculiar excellence in tafte; 

that of the French, is comedy and harJequinery 1 that of 

the Italian, mufic and opera ^ that of the Englifh, mafcu* 

line and nervoas fenfi^ both in ^cagedy and comedy, iv. 

100. [84]. 

Why xzm^'we, P^tmeU a^s, keq> to oar own paiti. 
colar nasiocal excelleiice, and iet «odi«ra fstam t^itin t 

When once we, in general, prefer found ^ feafe, we 
ihfl&l deviate from oar own wonhinefs, and, at beil, be 
bot tiie apes, ^s well as dupes, of thoie we may Ovive. 
to imitate, but never can reach, intrch left excel, ii4d. ^ 
When eboie iR^h^ atidcrftand iidt Itabaft/ MCorn &om 
an Opera peniM^i In that foilgttagf, -and. are ^AtedtheiYr 
o^aion loa whi^ tkey have wtki or heaid^ "whiit bat ^km 
COS they «ai£iver,«t bdb,«r-The^n«r^ iiifiiie ; the uoink' 
pany fplendidi the mu£c ravitbing 'for the time: Thei 
a£Uon, hmwewr, not extraondinaryj the language unin- 
telligible ; and, for all theie rea(iaift,tiiB iQftrtl^«i& iioi» 
A all, i». 40I. [85}. 

Ttofe are leaft «<> be tpk&ei^ at MafqiieradsB, -aiiiiir 
o^r the like free and{>rotfiiici]Otts meetiags^f ihe two 
faies^ wb^^Bir«f<iiid«ft^ g<^itg to ^OoMy Iv. 959* [M7§* 

64 SemimentSf &o MraSiedfrom 

Poblic places are rockis to the reputadons of wbnleB 
who are not vigilant over their condud, iv. 487. [4*6]. . 

Rakes. Ste Libertines. Old Rakes. 

Reditude of Mind. 

A GENKROUs and truly deferving perfon will not be 
puffed- up by the Compliments made either to her mind 
or to her perfon ; iince, did. fhe, on comparifDn with 
fome others, feenr to merit .the diftindlion paid her, ih« 
will reflect that fhe owes not to herie]f the talents or 
form for which (he is admired, ii. ^2. [75]. 

A worthy perfon will be able to pray, that God will 
fruftrate her moft de'firable wiihes, if the poifeflion of 
them would corrupt her heart, and make her proud ^d 
vain, ii. 5c. [77J. 

See Humility. Modefly. Pride* 


How greatly, yS^r/ Afr. 5. 9 ft hU refomitd fiatty da 
the innocent pleaiures I now hourly enjoy,, exceed the 
guilty tumults that ufed formerly to agitate my unequal, 
mind! iii. j. [^]. 

Ofie fuch hour, /ays he, to his Pamela, as I now enjoy, 
is an ample reward for all the benefits I pan con&r oa 
you and yours in my whole life, Md, 

How will it anticipate low reiiedioa, /ays be, when it 
will be feen, that I can bend my mind to partake withr 
your parents, (on my retiring to viiit them in their farm) 
m a fummer month or two, the pleafores of their humble 
but decent lile» lit. 5. [4]. 

And ihall I not be rewarded for it too, with better 
health,, better fpirits, and a better mind ? ibid. 

Happy is the man who leaves his vices* before th'c^ 
power of committine them, leaves him, iii. 271. [214]. 
. The man who referms in the prime . of Ufe, and be- 
fore he is overtaken by fome awakisning misfortune,, 
nay be called one of the happieft of thofe who have 
^rredy ibid. ^ 

the Hiftdry of F am n la. 65- 

A too great aiming at perfection will be apt rather to 
difcourage others than allare them, iii. 301. [237]. 

Good people aiming to reform evil ones, fiiouLd pro- 
ceed as able generals do in atliflicult liege. They 
flionld gain ground inch by incH* and then intrench and 
fortify, in order to maintain what they have gained ; 
and not, by rnfliing at once upon an attack, fiibjed 
themlelves to fuch a repnlfe, as may oblige them tg aban- 
don an hopeful enterprize, iii. 301. [238]. 

In ether words^ Very great ftridnefles all at once En- 
joined, are not fit for a beginning Reformation 1 but for 
Wronger chriftians only.s and therefore poffibly, in the 
former cafe, may do more harm than good, iii. 302.^ 

^Ims Pamela encourages a deffmding gentkwjomany en 
a fick hed^ nuho bad called herfelf miferakle, if all 
the good Pamela Md^ and her exemplary behaviour , 
nvere no more than tiecejfary for fal'vation. 

Don*t be ca^ down. The Almighty gives us all a 
light to walk by in thefe our dark paths, and it is iscf 
humble opinion, he will judge us- acccrdtne to the un-' 
ftrced and unhiaffed ufe we make of that light, lit. 302; 


1 diink it is ^ duty to do feveral things which* psf'^ 
hapfey the circumftances of others will not permit them 
to do. in each cafe our judgments are as a law to each, 

Circnmftances and fituation miy oiake that a duty ia 

one perfon*s cafe, which may not be fo in another^s; 

iii, 302. [238]. . t 

See Pamelas method of deihtion in her farruly^ 303, 

iff feq. [239, &?/^^.3 

The fincerity of a man^s Reformation is the lefs to be 
doubted, when he can bear being gently told by a friend 
of his paft errors, iv. 401. [350]. ^ - 

Reformation, begun hi the bloom of youth,^ in full 
health, and, humanly fpeaking^ altoeether fpontaneoaily^ 
is indeed an hopeful one : But, as Utcred teih muft have 
been got over, by. a' man who was^ at any time of life a 
hbertine ; as the fences of virtue muil hare buen brokea 
down by fuch a one ; it is better that a woman of virtue 


6$ Sentimcats, tfc e^tn^dfhm ^ 

and honour prefers the man who. always fhewed a fa- 
cred regard to thofe tefls^ who never broke down thofe 
fences, iv. 466. [408]. 
Se^ Religion. 

Relations^ - 

. PamrlA r$4f(m ^ fil^ows fwitff hst fathi^^ nnJb^ com* 
Ji/itiii,/ter $» tie offer fntidt' him hj JkvertU. ^f their 
relations^ tofer^oe him in culti*vating the farm and 
' ^^ei committeti tp bis care by Mr, B, 

W«. ar« apt 10 ejcpe^ oier^. regard froj^ relatiopt* 
they morQ indii^gfiKj» fi;<m ii»^ th^.A^i^ngers ^vn ha^ve 
icafon/or, iii ^5. [20], ,. < , 

If you bear with their faults, there will be no end of 
impoiitionsi if you dilmifii them, you will have dieir 
Ultwill; they wiU impute to pride ai|d unnatoralnefs, 
your very juftice. Your profperous lot will mfe you 
xnemies, who will believe them rather than you, ibid. 

The world, moreover,. wiH be.ap^ to.: think, you. are 
c^rwding iifiQtn oiir be))efa^r;a ti^^ienouft fmi^y ^ low 
and indig«ii» p0ople«. ^' they ;^il|Quld be. ^v^^ fo 4eiiirv*» 
\A%^ ibid* •: . . i . .i '..,}' I . 

One would not therefore, for //^^/V fakes, accj^pt of 
their jEfcfvioetr.iifpeGiflly'a^- they 4iAy,(erve otju^m.^lth 
c^fdJ benefit .tojt]it^»^ve$K% 35;» [m.]. 
. for I would QPt that any of them ili^ot^d. be lifted om 

of his ftation, and made independent atMri BVexpeiK^i 

if i}ie& own-todilfoy wcmM/not miikfi tliemrf^ i 4>d' I 
yvould MYerfofU];^, restfoAably, ^ xcwivfrd thejiir i^u^jK 

in the way of their callings, iii. 26. [2t]. 
. If y^vtfe^eive ion9te.of tfcew,. wiU not. oth«rs «xj>cft 
to be equally favoured ? Aitd may noit this (bw the feeds 
eif oavy among themt and occafion ill • will to yfm. ? Hid- 
' Mr. B. him&lf will perhaps, wbisn he vifits you for % 
month or two, as he propofes, be under f(Hiie polite dif^ 
icttlty how to arotd taking notice of people who are 
your rdatioR^ itbo' wt^ffi they not fo, their offices would 
not intitlo them W' it, ibid* 

i And; if fehey at^ inodeft «nd .wocthy, woidd not hit 
mere than cotnoson nofticef of thfAi X^f them. 9nder 
equal di&ciilly ) Hid, 

ike Hi^^ory of V/kUz la; 67 

As for myMf, bdiere me, I could fit down and re- 
joice watk the meanefl and remote^ relation I have : 
Qat to tlus worid^s eye, I moft, if 1 have ever fe mtichr 
reluctance to appear fuperior in theirs, endeayour to be- 
have fo ptopcxly as not to give additional diicredit to 
his choice, iii. /2j6. {21]. 

And will you not have it in your power, without .in- 
juring in the kafi our common benefador, and without 
incurring cen&re for your partiality, to do kinder things 
by any of oar relations, when n^t with you, than y6fr 
Cuk do, were they to live with you^? iM» 

There are undoabttdly more happy perfons in loi;^ 
than in high life ; one wonld not, thererore, eaconrage 
in any of our relations, fuch a proud ipirit, as fhould 
ouifce them want to raife tfaemiSves by favour, rather 
than merit, zBii/. 

1 am fure, tho^ four or five years of different life had 
pailed with me in my old lady's days, I had, at a cer-^ 
tain time, a pleafure which I cannot exprefs, in the thought 
iOf'working for my living with you, iBid. 
; iSte Humility. Law Life, Pride. Sewants, 

. Religion^ Rdigious G^^im^^MT.' 

' R^ELicibN, VhicTi is of itfelf the moft chearful thing 
in the world; is often made unlo^ly by the fournefs of 
its profeflbrs, iii. j2q.^[25.2.J.« 

KeligibusConfitteiatig^jis, to a; mind Rightly turt^cd, 
wiUlighten the hieayjefl; misfortunes, iv,. 193^, E^J^J* .-. 

It IS hot'to be ex}>e£ldl thatoiTended gracf; i£p'uli5^rff 
peatedly offer itfelf' to a willful 'tranfgreflbr,iv. 408. 

C356]. ; . 

Who (hall prefume to fcrutinize into the dealings, of 
the Aliii]g4»cy with his creatures • when real good often 
proceeds Mm appearances grievous to us? ir. 408,-410. 

Vain is o«r d^)endanee upon oar owfi^ithgth,- in the 
p ci fonu aacc of our Religious duties, or evtn in llhat 0f 
our ^ial ones, iv. 409. f 35 73- i .1 . i- 

Noching hot R«liglouft Ceniidepa^ibns, attd a iftM^l 
don to watch over the Very firft appearances of cviU 


68 Sentiments, &c. exira£led from 

and to check them as they arife, can be of fufficient 
weight, to keep fteady to his good purp'ofes a vain young 
man, too little accuftomed to reftraints, and too much 
ufed to play upon the brink of danger, ibid. 

See Pamelas pious reflefiiotfs on the death o/M*'S' yer^ 
*vois, and her faithful butler y iv. 420, ^ fef, 
[367, i5ffeq.'\ 
In lamenting for our departed friends, we ihonld not 
forget to be thankful for thofe mercies which are conti- 
nued to us by the divine goodnefs, iv. 423. [370]. 

The beft inflrud^ion will be ineffe£tnal, if the method 
of conveying it is not adapted to the tafte and temper 
of the perfon intended to be amended by it, iv. 444. 

See Education. 'Reditude of Mind. Reformation. 

Rbfentancc. See Penitence. 


Reproofs of beginning faults are the kindell 
things that a parent, a mafter, a friend, can give to ar 
friend,. a ftefrvan^, a child; fince tlusy will keep a dacile- 
mind from committing greater, ii. 194. [191]* 


Rei»xjtati.onJs a tender flower, which the lead fVoft 
will nip, the leaft cold wind will blaft ; and when once 
blafted, it will never flourilh again ; but wither "50 the 
very root, iv. 479. [419]. 


When all human means fail in the appreheniion of 
the defpairine heart,, then, if humble and teiigned to 
the divine will, does the Almighty often raile up a 
friend to extricate it from its diftre/Tes, i. 2S7. [229]. • 

The very things of which we are moft apprehcnfirc 
often become the caufe of the happinefs of a prudent 
pf^on, who places his reliance on Providence* ii. 1 1 $v 

the Hifipry ef Bam t LA. 69 

7^tu majf theunfrofperous foort afitr great cRfafpoint' 
mentSf comfort tbemfii'vts nvitb old Mr, Atulrenvs^ 
if thiy are as good and as diligent as be 'was, iii. 
141. [jii]. 
Let us take comfort that we did for the bed. We left, 
as we ooght, the ifiUe to Providence^ and that has turn- 
ed it as it pleafed. 

All the bu£nefs is, our lot is not caft for this life. 
Let us reiign ourfelves to the divine will, and conti- 
nue to do our duty. 

Our troubles will be quickly overblown. This fhort 
life will foon be paiTed ; and, I make no doubt, we fliall 
be happy in a better. 

See tbe refi oftbe affeSing fcene^ Vol.. iii. X41 to 

143. [112 to 114J. • . :? . 

See Religion. 

l^bt Rich. Riches. 

The Rich and Poor are equally links of xiature^s 
chain, and mutually fupport each other, ii. 29. [55]. 

Men of fortune, wantoning in the fun-beams of a 
dangerous affluence, too often take more liberty with 
the reft of the world, than fuits either juftice, or, on 
reflexion, their own peace of mind, ii. 69. [88]. 

How happy is the Rich man, who having -meditated 
fome great evil, is enabled to ilop fhort oi the perpe- 
tration of it I ii. 114. [125]. 

If fuch a one refolves to do good to the perfon he in- 
tended to injure, but did not hurt, he will have double 
caufe of joy, becaufe he able to conteniplate on 
the good J^e does, without the leaft inward reproach, 
ibid, ■■' ' ^ . \ •'..'.;. • • 

How. many ways have the Rich to make themiclve^, 
and their fellow creatures, happy f iii. 117.' [93]. 

No one defpifes riches €k deicent/ who hat a title to 
either, iiis 18c. [147]. 

Riches, with rf»a/ merit, in two competitors, ought 
10 Kaire a iireferonce given to the perfon who is in pof- 
feflion of them (0i{^£iDg'{he>affe&ions of a young wo- 
man difengaped) for the fake of the eoaveniendes ^ey 

iDjiag with tWB# ifeW. 

• But 

But to pecnut &khe8 to be (be fjiriacipal indacement, 
to the ne&le^ Y>f £up«rior merits that k a fault which 
many pcrlons fmart for, whediet the choice be their own, 
or impofed upon them by thofe who claim a title to their 
eb^dimce, iUd. 

God every-wh^re:pr/Qvides the^afflncntwidi objedts for 
their beneficence, iv. 194. [167]. 

See Acjdrefe ^ th Jtich^ . . ^Profpent^. 


f H ft man who himftlF rs not a(hamed of being re- 
proached for doing hb doty, wi!t torn the edge of Ridi- 
cule againil the ridiculers, and obtain the ^pplaufe of 
^^ewifeandgood/^* 5. [4]. 

Romances* /Homabtic ^me of Life. 

'. Th-£II£ is a tim^ .of life with all young perfons, that 
may be teracied TIfe romantic ; which is a very dancetoiis 
period ; and requires therefore a great gnacd of pru- 

4#»ce,i.iv- 454; [j??]- 

. :See Pamela^ s Qpimon of nmfels and romanct^i and the 

. hurt 'wkich jifung per/oniy of lively imaghuttitmsy 

may receive by bang indulged tn^ too keen a taftefor 

; fUeh kind ^f 'writings i IV. 454. 461* [597» 403]' 

Romances in general are calculated rather to fire the 

liSi^Hiation, than to inform the judgment, iv. 461. 


• The hero in diem is ufually diftingitiihedby tihs, tour- 

Jiaiaiei}t8, marvelloas &nd impoobable aiiarentuiss, which 
he is continually hunting after, in order to fhew 4us 
priGiwefiti by eaga^ing with monflers* that never 'had be- 
ing, bot. in the writer Vimagiaaticni, \sbid, i 
c Tiue heroine, on the other hasxdi is; in thenl^ taneht 
to confider her father^s houfe as an endianted caftie; 
herfelf as a pniimar in k, iuid her lover is to -bj^ak the 
charm, rand kt Jber at^Ubeity* She is. to be ;piit npoa 
.citoilMBig of MiaUa, to dsqp from wnuiows^ ito leap down 
,^iftcjpioe9#/!andjalll» ihev thcTioldntcjof a mad paf- 
iion of which ihe ought to be ^aflmmtd^ te is 
X taught^ 

tan^lit. by tliem^ to tedk Hi^tK^r pabenits^ t^r gnariMans, 
as tyrants ;' tb^rewti the v<»ice'6f teafon in th6 w^ves of 
indi&itjiet lo4Fe, to the debAkmtnt equally of h^erfelf^ her 
family, and (ex, tbid. 

What can be gatherod from fueh book», for the con* 
daft of feiflnan life? ibid. 
5iwWit. Writers. 


A MODEST Scholar is a companion forf>errons of the 
firft quality, iii. 316. [249]. 
Set £'dii;catioh. Tutor. 

/.Self-Intereft. ' ^ , 

. * . ' " ' * 

S E l1p-In T E'R EST changes manners, and overcomes 
diflike to the very perfons we, bat for that, fhould think 
bttt indiilemntly of, i. 19. [48}. 

So felfilh are the hearts of poor mortals, that thqy ai^ 
apt to^ducnge as favour goes, ibid. 


A Gentlewoman 'born,' fet iattke liead of the 
houlhold-aifairs of people of condj\tioa^ will, if fhe is 
difcreet, command the refpeCl of the domeftics of both 
fexes, i. i«. ffo]. ■ i . • . 

Fumilay ih ^ienv of her extt/tatii^ refohvis. 

That fhe will endeavour not to go .too low in her gra- 
titude to her tnailtr: Nor, to carry herfelf' too -high to 
the ibrvalfts : j i - , . 

But yet will notii^k to gain the good.iidU^of the latter 
-t>y meaiinerit or debaienvefnt : . 

Tkalc flw will aim at-an unitorm andvegukrcoadiifi. t 

Willin?, 4uy«rever, to conceal involoatacy errors, as 
flie wDuld be to hove her own forgiven.; 

And not Moht coo indulbions <to diHeover real once, 
that might be of no bad confequence^ and unlikely to 
ht repeated^ 

Yet not to>eoiiMbl'^ch as:Mightenooin-fl|[^.bad heaits. 
Of ondean hmi4'> lii^.eafts^iFb^^wiagemghtenfne^io 


^% ScfHi^ments, &c« eictraSei from 

their principal ; or where the morals of the traufgneflbrs 
ihould appear \yilfully and habitually corrupt : , 

In (horty fays Jhe^ I will endeavour, as much as I can, 
that good fervants, in me, fhall find a kind encourager ; 
indifierent Ones be made better, by infpiring them with 
a laudable emulation i and bad ones, if not abfolutely 
irreclaimable, reformed by kindnefe, ej^ppftalatiqn ; and, 
if thofe are ineffe^ual, by menaces ; but moft, hy a 
good example ; 

All this, adds (he, if God pleafes, ii. 153. [157]. 

The reputation of the principals of families lies more 
set the mercy of their Servants) than is generally con- 
fidered, iv. 58. [48]. 

Servants who will do their duty with kind words, ought 
not to be treated with imperious ones, iv. 302. [263]. 

The miftrefs who 'fpeaks as haughtily to Servants on 
common as on extraordinary .occauons, when they do 
.amifs, weakens her owki authority, and will be regard- 
ed no more in tlie one cafe, than in the other, iv. 303. 
[263]. ^ 

The mafler or miilrefs who is always finding fault with 
Servants, frerquently occafions more faults to be com« 
mitted, iv. 303, [264]. 

.See Example.. Miilrefs of a Farmly* 

Shame. Shamelefnefs. 

It is not the Shame of having committed a wicked 
adlion, but of detection, that often gives a bad man 
confufion of face, iii. 454. [359]- 

What an abjedi thing is it for a perfon to be guilty of 
fuch actions, as ihall put it in the power of another, 
- even by a look, to mortify him ! ibid. 

If a poor wretch can be confounded, by the difcovery 
made by^ a fellow-creature, of iany wicked a'fiioa com- 
mitted by him, which he hoped to conceal, how muft 
he appear before an unerring and omnifcient Judge, with 
a conlcience more condemmng, than the accufations of 
a thoufand witnefies ! ibid. 

Thofe who confidently delight to raife bluflies in the 

, modeft cheeks and laugh when they fnccced, ihew them* 

felves to be paft modeily; and that they would think it 

3 a dif- 

the Hiftory of Fauela^ yj 

a difgrace to change cQantenaitce, whatever were the 
occaiion, jii. 460. [363]. 

See Confcience. Modelty. 

Sheepishness. ^^^ Ba(hfulnefs. 

Sicknefs. Vifiting the Sid. 

People labouring under an indiipofition or malady, 
flioold not add a difficulty of being pfeafedy and an im- 
patience of fpirit, to the concern which their attendants 
and relations have for their illnefs, iii. 13T. [104]. 

It is not beneath a perfon of the higheH quality to vi* 
fit and comfort one of low degree, who is contending 
with ficknefs> or who is ftruggling in the pangs of death, 
iii. 485. [384]. 

The confolations of women in health, to women in ^ 
fick or fuffering Hate, are, as it may be faid, fympatheti. 
cal ; while thoTe of men to the latter, may appear to the 
fufferer as fpringing more from their fortitude, than 
tendernefs, iii, 486. [384]. 

A tender mind, in apprehenfion of a crlfis in the 
dangerous malady of a child, or near relation, fuffers 
more in abfence from fufpence, than it tould do, were 
it prefent, and faw the hourly progrefs of the diHemper, 
iv. 258. [223].- 

See Pamelas bebanfiour and reflexions fwhen her be-* 
lo'ved child twas in danger from the fmall pox, iv. 
Letter xxxvii. 
See Death. Religion. Refignatlon^ 

Spiritual Pride. 

Spiritual Pride is the mofl dangerous and the mod 
arrogant of all forts of Pride, iii. 135. [108]. 


A GOOD landlord will employ a lawyer for his Steward, 
with a view to do right things, rather than oppreflive 
ones, iii. 23. [19]. 

Stile in Writing. 

N o Stile in Writing can be commendable^ which is 

E nc>fc 

'74 Sentiments, &c. extracted frm 

not pUdn, iimple, eafy, natural and unafieded, ir. 452* 
[395]" P^* Writing. 


Hb only who gave life, has a power over it, i. 28$. 

To the follvmng effkB nafons Pamela ^ at the fottJ- 
Jide, nuhen Jhe laboured under a temptation to drotvn 

If, defpairing of deliverance from an andeferved di- 
ftrefs, I deftroy myfelf^ do I not, in elFefl^ queftion the 
power of the Almigh^ to deliver me : 

And (hall I not» in that cafe, be guilty of a fin, which, 
as it admits not of repentance, cannot of hope to be for- 
given ! 

And wilt thoa, to ffaorten thy tranfitory griefs, heavy 
as they are, plange both foul and body into everlafting 
jnifery ? . 

Hitherto thou art an innocent falTerer, wilt thou make 
thyfelf a guilty aggreflbr ? 

How do r know but the Almighty may have per- 
mitted thefe fnfferings, as trials of my fortitude, and t% 
snake me wholly rely on his grace and affiftance ? 

Wilt thou, in one moment, fufFer all the good lefibns 
of thy honeil parents, and the benefit of their examples, 
to be thrown away upon thee ; and blemifh, in this lafl 
a^, ^ whole life, which they have hitherto approved of? 

What, prefumptuous Pamela, dofl thou here ? Quit 
with fpeed thefe dangerous banks, and fly from thefe 
dafhing waves, that feem by their murmurs, this flill 
night, to reproach thy raftinefs. 

Whilft thou haft power left thee, avoid the tempta* 
tion, left thy grand enemy, now, by divine grace, fe- 
pulfed, return to the afTault with a force that thou mayeft 
not be able to relift ; aiid left thou, in one moment, de* 
ftroy all the ,convi£lions which now have awed thy re- 
bellious mind into duty and reiignation to the divine will, 
i. 285 to 290. [227 to 231]. 

Set Religion. Refignation. Temptations* 


iif€ Hifiary of Pam£ la. f$ 

Swearing and Curjh^. 

Swearing and Coriing is always profligate, but tbc 
moft profligate is that which is pradifed in good hu- 
mour, and without provocation, iii. 459. [363]. 
See Libertines. 



She who can glory in the honefty of her poor pa« 
rents, islikely to be foperior to Temptations, i. 20. [i6j. 

Temptations are fore things ; but without them, we 
know not ourfelves, nor what we are able to do, i. 20. 


Temptations fhould be avoided. It is prefumptuous 
to truil to our own ftrength, i. 29. 56. [24. 46], 

Women who give way to Temptation, contribute all 
in their power to make libertines think the whole fex 
alike, i. 109. [85]. 

A generous woman tempted by her fuperior, may not 
be proof againft his kindnefs, tho* (he might againfl his 
anger. Such an one therefore fhould fly from a Tempter, 
that can change his behaviour to her from the one to the 
other, i. 133. [106]. 

An honell heart is not to be truHed with itfelf in bad 
company, i. 243. [193]. 

None are tried or tempted beyond the power given 
them to reM, i. 287. [229]. 

See Advice to Young Women, Libertines. Lo^e. 
Promifcs. Public Entertainments* Virtue. 


Persons travelling into countries where the rcligibn 
eilablifhed is different from tlieir own, fhould be careful, 
on the one hand, not to give offence to the people they 
are among ; on the other, not to make compliances hurt- 
ful to confcience, and difgraceful to their own religion, 
iv. 412. [360]. 

The French poUtenefs, and the Englifh franknefs of 

£ 2 hearty 

y6 Seotiments, &c. extraH^d frtm 

heart, may make ^ mixture not difagreeable in the be- 
haviour of travelled people, iv. 418. [365]. 

The honours paid abroad to Englifh travellers, more 
than to thofe of any other nation, fhould be an incite- 
ment to them, as well for their own credit, *as for that 
of their country, to behave worthy of the diilindion, iv. 
420. [3673. 

The/ufy'eS c/Txzvemng, or making the grand tour, 
entered upon in the follo^wing particulars. 

The age of young gentlemen, ^om fixteen to twenty* 
one, an improper one to fet out upon their travels ; and 
why, iv. 430. [376]. 

Mr. Locke thinks from (even to fourteen, a much 
more eligible one, ihid, 

H the reafons he gives for this age determine not, he 
propofes, that the young man's Travelling be fufpend« 
ed, till that more fedate time of life, when he may travel 
without a tutor, and be able to make his own obferv'a- 
tions I and is thoroughly acquainted with the laws and 
faihions, the natural and moral advantages and defe&s^ 
of his own country, iv. 431. [376, 377]. 

Pamela defcants on the advantages a youth may 
reap by home travelling, before he enters upon a foreign 
tour ; propofing the age of fourteen or fifteen for be- 
ginning it, by excariions in the fummer months, be- 
tween his other ftudies, and as a diverfion to him, ihid. 

She is of opinion, that thefe excurfions might be 
made to moft advantage in company of his father, as 
well as tutor, and gives her reafon for it, ihid. 

If his father cannot accompany the youth, (he pro- 
pofes what may be of the next greateft advantage in 
this fcheme of home- travelling, to both fon and tutor, 

That the young man vifit the fea-coafts, as well as 
inland parts of Creat Britain and Ireland, and the other 
principal circumjacent iilands, iv. 432,433. [378]. 

That he look into the art of navigation ; the curious 
ftru6tore of a (hip, as he is a native of the greateft ma- 
ritime kingdom in the world : Prom which knowlege, 
tho' but in theory, he will be taught to love and value 
the Britiih failors^ an ufeful and brave fet of men, who 


fh Hiftory 1/ P a m s l aI 77 

are the nataral defence and fafegoard of the realm, up. 

433- (378]. 

With the advantages which he will obtain by this 

knowlege of his own country, he will be qxksdified to go 
abroad, and be better able to judge of tlie differenC 
cuflomsy manners, and forms of government of foreign 
countries, iv. 433. [379]. 

All his enquiries will be pfrtinent and manly: AU 
occaiions of that ignorant wonder, which expofes to ri- 
dicule the raw young men fent abroad, would be taken . 
away. He would make the beft acquaintance^ having 
fomething to inform them of in relation to his own coun- 
try, in return for the information they give him of 
theirs. He would contradi worthy friendihips, and be 
looked upon as one of the rifing geniuses of his country, 

See Edacation. 


Tutors who make youth learned, do not always 
inake them virtuous, iv. 193. [166]. 

Too little regard is generally paid to the merit and 
fervices of modeft Tutors,^ in the families of the great, 
iv. 338. [295]. 

The ableft and moft diligent Tutors are generally to be 
xnet with among the unprovided-for fcholarss who will 
hope to be in the way of preferment, and will therefore 
be more affidoous in the duties of their charge, iv. 339. 


JndiJ^enJihle goad qualities of a Tutor ^ enumerated from 

Mr, Lockey iv. 338, iff yjy. [294, ^ feq."] 

See Mr, B^s reafons for recommending Scotifi Tutors, 

iv. 35i,&^y^f. [306, {«fy^£.] 

See Education. Travelling. 


Farmers and landholders who grudge the parfon his 
dnes, feldom confider, that they farm and pay the land- 
lord for no more than nine tenths of the lands they hold : 
Nor does the porchafer, that he bays an eitate with that 

E 3, in- 

y8' Sentiments, &c. extracted from 

incumbrance upon k, and pays the lefs on that account, 

iii. 35«- [277]- 

Not to mention, that the parfon has the fame right to 
his doe, by the laws of the land (to fay nothing of an 
higher claim) that the gentleman has to his eftate, or the 
tenant to nine tenths of his produce, Hid, 

Are not the clergy in thefe proteflant kingdoms, the 
fathers, the fons, the uncles, the, brothers of the laity ; 
many of whom, however, grudge them a maintenance, 
iii. 352. [277]. 

What greater opportunities have three fons out of 
four, of the fame father, to grow rich ; one of whom 
is brought up to the law, one to trade, one to phyfic, 
over the fourth, brought up to the cloth ? And who 
gr\idgc& thm their acquifitions ? iii. 352* [278]. 
See Clergy. 



The appreheniion of a vapourifh perfon will ever^ 
more be aforehand with events, iv. 159. [136]. 


A PRUDENT perfon having to do with a deiigning ' 
one, will always diflrufl moft, when appearances are 
faireft, i. 333. [266]. 

Virtue. Chaftity. 

Tempt at ions are bleifed trials to thofe who have 
had ftrength of mind to refift and fubdne them, i. 47. 


With what pleafure can a chid who has reiifled temp- 
tation, look up to her honed parents, to what (he would 
have had, were ihe to approach them as a guilty crea- 
ture ? 48. [40]. ^ ' 

The true Chaftity is, when the perfon refills tempta- 
tion in hatred of the fin, rather than from the apprc- 
henfion of inconflancy in the tempter, i. 54. [44]. 


the Htfiofy ofFAUEtAl 791 

Many a man has been made aihamed of. his wicked 
attempu, by a refolute repulfe, who woaU have gloried 
in them, had he fucceeded, i. 56. [46]. 

It is glorious in a perfon of low condiidoBy to repnlfe 
the bafe attacks of one in a high one, i. 63. [52]. 

A virtuous perfon of low fortune, labouring under the 
oppreflion of the great and rich, and in the power of 
fuch a one, will refolve to be innocent of wilful crime, 
and if injured, will leave it to the Almighty to avenge 
thofe wrongs, which ihe was unable to avoid, i. 513* 

See Mr, B*s frofofals to Pamelay and her mile r^eBion 
of thenty 1. ^iZs^feq' [250, fef y^^.] 

An higher and iincerer joy arifes from the contempla- 
tion of a pure love, than can be known by the gratifica- 
tion of a fenfual appetite, ii. 40. [65]. 

If Virtue reftrains not the mind, vain is the watchful- 
nefs that is ufed to with-hold the perfon, ii. 45. [69]. 

The love of a man who choofes a woman for the 
beauties of her mind, will be augmented, if (he juftifies 
his motive by her prudent condua, tho* thofe of perfoa 
fade, ii. i6q. [170]. 

An high rortune is but an accidental advantage, and 
fet againft the riches of the mind, and an unblemilhed 
virtue, weighs little in the fcale, ii. i8j. [183]. 

The great, tho* at the time they may oe difpleafed 
that they are not obliged in an nnjuft command, will» 
generally, when they coniider the cafe, value the more 
for it the fervant or humble ^end who difobliges 
them from principle, ii. 337. [306]. 

Women of birth and education who forfbit dieir ho- 
nour, are much more inexcufable, than thofe of meaner 
decree, who have not had the opportunities they have 
had, of knowinz their duty, iv. 239, [207]. 

The failure of the latter may proceed from ignorance ; 
but that of the well-bred will oe attributed to inclina- 
tion or appetite; and, not to mention fuperior motives to 
duty , what a difgrace does that bring upon their fex,what a 
triumph does it give to the other ? iv. 204. 207. [208]. 
See Advice to Toung Women, Cautions to young Fe^ 
male Servants, Female Dignity. Heroic Po'oer>' 

E 4 ty. 

$o Sentiments, &c. mraSidffom 

ty. Libertines. Love. Love at firfi fight. Pla'^ 
tonic Love. Modeffy. Promifcs. Public Enters 
tainments. Rectitude of Mind* Religion. Re- 
putation. Refignation. Servants. Virtue. 


Wh AT pleafure can tbofe over-happy perfons know» 
who, from their affluence and luxury, always eat before 
they are hungry, and drink before they are thirfty, iif. 
143- ["4]. 

Vows. ^^/ Promifes. 


Mk. B» acquaint s bis Pamela nvith n»hat his expeSa^ 

tioHs of his ^wife*s behawiour to bim^ tvouU ha've 

been, baififi b$en a frinafs \ as follows: 

. I muft have been morally fure, fi^s be^ that ihe pre* 

ferred me to all other men. She muil have borne with 

my imperfedions. She muft have ftudied my temper : 

And if ever (he had any points to carry, any defire of 

overcoming, it muft have been by iweetnefs and com- 

plaifance : 

And yet, fays he^ not fuch a flaviih one, as (hould 
make her condefcenfion feem to be rather the efFed cf 
her infenfibility, than of her judgment and affe6iion : 

I fhould have thought I ought not to have defired any 
thing of her, that was not reafonable to be complied 
with ; and that then fhe fhould have (hewn no rdudance, 
vneafmefs, or doubt, to oblige me, even at half a 

Yet if I were not always in the right, I (hould expert 
that (he (hould bear with me, if (he law me determined ; 
and that (he (hould expoflnlate with me on the right ^A^ 
of compliance ; 

This would have (hewn me, that (he diflFered from 
me, not for contradidion fake i but defired to convince 
me for my own ; and that I ihcTuld another time uke 
litter refolntions. 


the Hifiory of Fame t a. 8i~ 

In all companies fhe mafthave Hiewn, that ihe had ao 
high opinion of, and regard for me, whether altogether 
deferved, or not. 

And this the rather, as fach a regard would be not 
only a reputation, but a Security to herfelf ; fince, if 
libertines ever attempt a married woman, their iirft in- 
citement, next to their own vanity, arifes from her 
known indifference to, or contempt of, her hufband. 

I (hould have expedled, therefore, that ihe would 
draw a kind veil over my faults : That fuch as fhe could 
not hide, fhe would endeavour to extenuate ; and (hew 
to every one, that I had her good opinion, whatever 
liberties the world took with my character. 

She muft have valued my friends for my fake ; been 
chearful and eafy, whomfoever I brought home with 
me ; and whatever faults fhe had obferved in me, have 
never blamed me before company ; much lefs« with fuch 
an air^ as fhould have (hewn, that fhe had a better opi* 
nion of her own judgment than of mine. ^ 

I know, proceeds If, my own imperfections : They 
are many and great ; yet I will not allow that they fhould 
excufe thofe of my Wife ; or give her room to imagine: 
I will bear faults in her, which fhe can rectify, becaufe 
(he fees greater in me. 

Upon the whole, I expeft, adds he to his Pamela^ that 
you will bear with me, till, and only till,, you find me 
capable of returning infult for condefceniion ; and till 
yoo think I fhall be' fo mean, as to be the gentler for 
negligent or pertinacious treatment. 

And then (your behaviour fuch) I fhould fcorn my« 
felf, if there were one privilege of a Wife, that a 
princefs, were fhe my Wife, might expe6l to be indulg- 
ed in, that I would not allow to you, ii. 349, & Jeq, 
[316, Csf/^f.] 

See her ohfewations on the alove expe&ationSf ii. 355, 

&feq, [320, £sfy^^]. 
See Advice to young married Women, Good Wife. 
HighL/y>. Hufband tfW^it/^. Marriage. Ma- 
ternal Duty. Miflrefs of a Family, 

E s Wit. 

ti Sentiments, &c. extraSfedfrm 


^ Wit is a wild quality, that does not always confine 
itlelf to exercifes worthy of a right heart, ill. 189. 
[150]. ' 

Could a ftandard be fixed, by which it could be de- 
termined what is, and what is not Wit, decency would 
not be fo often wounded as it is by attentpts to be witty, 
iv. 110. [93]. 

For Wits who treat women with contempt. See Fe- 
male Dignity, 


How careful ihould good Writers be, of propagating 
lewdnefs and immorality ; fince the works of foch are 
likely to live after them ; and may help grofier minds 
to convey ideas which fuch would not otherwife be able 
to introduce into decent company, iii. 290. [228]. 

But if good Writers fhould be thus careful, what 
have wiqked ones to anfwer for, who throw down, as 
much as in them lies, thofe facred fences .of virtue, 
and lay the fair inclofure open to the invaiion of 
clumiier and ftill viler beafts of prey than themfelves ; 
who, tho* defUtute of yvit, yet corrupted and armed by 
it, fill their mouths as well as hearts, with the borrow- 
ed mifchief, and propagate it from one to another to 
the end of time \ iv. 399. [349]. 

And who otherwife would have pafed by the unin- 
v'aded fence, and only (hewed their teeth, and fnarled 
at the well-fecured fold within it, iv. 400. [349]- 

Great talents make a man more capable of mifchief; 
and, mifapplied, encreafe the evil of his prances, iv. 
490. [350]. 

See Pubhc Entertainments, Wit. 

X, Y. 

Young Widows. 

Young Widows, moft particularly, ought to be 
watchful over themfelves and their reputation, for rea- 
fons too obvious to need enumerating, iv, 223, [193]. 
See Reputation. 


the Hifiory »/ Pamela. 83 

If a man, in the prime of Youth, could as eafily 
look forward twenty yean, 'as he can near as many 
backward, what an empty vanity, what a mere nothing 
would be all thofe grofler gratifications, which now 
give wings of defire to a debafed appetite? iv. aiz. 

I'here will come an honr, when now what gives a 
Vonth the greateft pteafure, will have no part in hi» 
confideration, but as the fcflefiions on it will yield him 
mifery or comfort, iv. 213. [184]. 
Sie Death. Religion. 




Moral and Inftrudive Sentiments 

Contuned in the 

Hiftory of CLARISSA, 

The Nomerils, i, ii, iii, Arc. denote the Volomet 5 the firft Fif^uves 
reftr to the OQaTO Edition \ thefe iaclofed thus [ ] to the 3d 
and rubfeqoent Editions of th^ Twelves^ 

AdverGty. Afllidlion. Calamity. Misfortune. 

R£AT allowance ought to be made for 
the warmth of a fpirit embittered by unde- 
ferved Difgraces, vol. i. p. 206. [2i4]. 

People in Misfortiflie are apt to conftroe 
even unavoidable accidents into flights, or 

neglects, ii. 54. [h^]* 

Adverfity is the ftate of trial of every good quality, 

ii. 58. [149]. 

People in Adverfity (hould endeavour to preferve laud- 
able cuftoms, that fo, if fun-(hine return, they may 
not be lofcrs by their trials, ii. s^- 3»o- ['49- "*• 

**^' When 

86 . Sentiments, Sec. extraHed from 

When Calamities befal as, we oaght to look into oar« 
felvesy ind /ear, ii. 151. 160. [238. 246]. 

Misfortunes are often fent to reduce us to a better re- 
liance than that we have been accuidomed to fix upon, 
ii..i59. T. as. [ii. 245. v. 338,330]. 

No one is out of the reach of Misfortune. No one 
therefore ihould glory in his profperity, ii. 159. [245]. 

Be a perfon^s Provocations ever fo great, her Cala- 
mides ever fo heavy, fhe (hould always remember, that 
ihe is God^s creature, and not her own, ii. 175. [261]. 

Perfons in Calamity, when they wi(h for death, (hould 
be fure that they wi(h for it from proper motives. World- 
ly Difappointments will not, of themfelves, warrant fuch 
wi(hes, iii. 129. [266]. 

Adveriity will call forth graces in a noble mind, which 
could not have been brought to light in a profperous 
fortune, iii. 277. See alfi ii. 344. [iv. 64. hee alfo iii. 


People in Afflidion or Diftrefs cannot be hated by ge- 
nerous minds, iv. 85. [278]. 

People who thro' Calamity are carelefs of their health, 
will not perhaps be able to efcape death when they wonld 
wi(hto do fo, vi. 14. 41. [342. 370]. 

In the fchool of Affliction we are taught to know our- 
felves, to compaiTionate and bear with one another, and 
to look up to a better date, vi. 56. 191. [vi. 386. 

vii. III]. 

The unhappy never want enemies, vi. 157. [vii. 74.} 

The perfon who makes a proper ufe of Calamity, 
may be faid to be in the dired road to glory, vi. 192. 
vii. 112. [vii. 111. viii. 31], 

Perfons who labour under real Evils^ will not puzzle 
themfelves with ^#ir//tf»ra/ ones, vi. 192. [vii. 112.] 

Calamity is the teft of integrity, vi. 277. [vii. 201, 

Difbefs makes the humbled heart diffident, vi. 286. 
[vii. 212]. 

Calamity calls out the fortitude that diflinguifhes a 
fpirit truly noble, vi. 386. See alfo iii. 277, v. 212, 
[vii. 318. Seiaifoiy, 64. vi. ^^^"^ 


tke mtiry i/ Cl a r i s s a^ S7. 

Certainty in a deep Diftrefs is more eligible thaa 

fufpenfe, vii. 81. [423]. 
See Confolation. 

Advice and Cautions to Women. 

E V E R V one's eyes are upon the condnft^ the vifits^ 
the vificors of a young Lady made early independent, i. 
120. [us]. 

Encroaching and defigning men make an artillery oS 
a woman's hopes and fears, and play it upon her at their 
pleafure, i. 122. [126]. 

Artful men frequently endeavour to entangle thoughtlefs 
women by bold luppofals and offers, and, if not checked, 
to reckon upon filence as conceflion, i. 143. [149]. 

Women (hould be cautious how they give up their 
own fex in converfation with the other, in articles that 
relate to delicacy, i. 177. 267. [183. 276,277]. 

Women, however prudent and refcrvcd, fhould be 
careful that they do not give the man they intend to en- 
courage, reafon to think that they balance on other com- 
petitions, i. 194, 195. 200. [i. 202. 208. iii. 173]. 

Men who want to get a woman into their power^ 
feldom fcruple the means, i^ 241. [250]. 

A woman who lends an ear to a Seducer, may, by 
gentle words, be infenfihly drawn in to the perpetration 
of the moil a;/0/r»/ a£ts, ii. 162. [248]. 

When women once enter themfelves as Lovers, there 
is hardly any receding, ii. 209. iii. 153. [ii. 293. iii. 
289, 290]. 

The man can have no good deiign, who affedls to a 
meek-fpirited woman an anger which is evidently ma- 
nageable, ii. 274. [iii. 1 3 J. ^ 

A daughter ought to look upon a man, who would 
tempt her to go off with him clandeflinely, as the vileft 
a»d mod felfifii of feducers, ii. 279. [iii. 18.] 

The woman who will correfpond with a known Li- 
bertine, indiredlly defies him to do his worfl, ii. 319. v. 
68. [iii. 56. v. 318]. 

A woman who i^ above flattery, and defpifes all praife 
bat that which flows from the approbation of her own 


%% Sentiments^ &c. extn^^dfrm 

heart, is, nwraUyJ^aHng^ ont of thereach of fedodlion, 
ii. 337. [iii. 73']. 

Women onght t6 be careful not to give caaie to tiie 
man they love» to think lightly of them, for favours, 
granted even to himfelf, which may be fnppofed to 
fpring from natural weaknefs, ii. 345. [iii. 81]. 

Women ought not to think gentlenefs of heart de« 
fpicable in a man, ii. 397. vi. 401. [iii. 130. vii. 


That man^s natural difpofition is to be fufpeAed, 

ivhofe politenefs is not regular, nor conftant, nor wrought 

into habit ; but appears only in fits, ilarts, and {allies, 

211. 7. [I52J. 

An acknowleged Love fandUfTes every little freedom ; 
^nd little freedoms beget great ones, iii. 24. [168]. 

To give a woman an high opinion of her own iaga- 
city, is (the meafure that a defigning man often takes to 
bring her to his will, iii. sg. [168 J. 

I k)ve, when I dig a pit, fays Ltyvelace^ to have my 
prey tumble in with ^cure feet and open vf^% ; for then 
a man can look down upon her with an 0«ho, charmer ! 
^ how came you there ? iii. 25. [168]. 

A woman in courtfliip, for her own fake, ihould fo be- 
have to the man fhe intends to marry, ihew the 
world, that ihe thinks him worthy of refpe^, iii. 30, 

, Libertines coniider all thofe of the Sex over whom 

they obtain a power, as fair prize, iii. 103. iv. 156. 

[iii. 242. iv. 355]. 

There feldom can be peculiarity in the love of a rakiih 
heart, iii. 106. [245]. 

The confidence which a woman places in a man, for 
his refpeAful behaviour to her, ought to be withdrawn 
the moment ihe fe^s in him an abatement of that 
reverence^ or refpeft, which begot her confidence, iii^ 
153. [290]. 

If a woman be not angry at indecent pidlures or verfes 
fhewn her by a Libertine, but fmiles at them, (he may 
blame herfelf, if ihe fuffer from his after-attempts, iii. 
145. [282]. 

4 ' Even 

ibe Hifiary cf ChAKissAk 89 

Eren innocent freedoms are not to be allowed to a Li- 
bertine, iii. 146. [282]. 

To be puniihed by the confeqoencei of our own choice, 
what a moral, infultinglj fctfs Lovilaci^ lies there f iii* 
148. V. 13. [285. v. 259]. 

A jadgment may be generally formed of the reading 
part of the Sex by their books, Lw)^L iii. 150. [287]. 

One concefiion to a man is bat a prelade to another, 
iii. 153. [290]- 

The man who complains of the diftance a Lady keeps 
him at, wants to come too near^ iii. i^fo. [289]. 

A man who means honourably will not be fond of 
treading in crooked paths, iii. 1 56. [293]. 

How vain a thing is it for a woman, who has put her« 
felf into the power of a man, to fay, what (he ivill or 
will not do ! iii. 158. £294, 295]. 

How canja woman, who (treating berfelf unpolitely) 
gives a man an opportunity to ran away with her, ex» 
pe£l him to treat her politely ? iii. 1 70. See alfo ii. 
285. iii. loi. [ii. 306. See alfo nu 24. 240].' 

The man who makes a flagrant, tho* unfuccefsful at^ 
tempt, and is forgiven, or expoltulated with, meets with ' 
encouragement to renew it at an opportunity which he 
may think more favourable, iii. 188. 269. iv. 134. 
See alfo iii. 21. [iii. 322. iv. 55. 331. See alfo iii. 164]. 

Women of penetration, falling accidentally into com- 
pany with a Libertine and his aflbciates, will make thena 
refleding-glafles to one another for her own fervice, iii. 

2>i. [343J- 

One devious ilep, at firft fetting out, frequently leads 

a perfon into a wildernefs of doubt and error, iii. 250. 

[iv. 37]. 

The man who is backward in urging a Lady to give 
him her hand at the altar, ought not to prefs her to fa« 
▼our him with it at public entertainments, iii. 252, 253. 
[iv. 40]. 

Libertines, in order the better to carry on their de- 
figns npon the unwary of the Female Sex, particularly 
againfi tbofe tvho are frudifi^ frequently make pretences 
to Platonic Love^ iii. 357. [iv. 142]. 

If a woman fuffers her Lover to fee (he is Ipth to 6\i- 


90 Sendments, &c. extraSedfr^m 

oblige hiniy let her beware of an encroacher, iii. 361. 

[iv. 146]. 

The Libertine, who by his (pecious behavioor can 
lay afleep a woman^s fafpicion and caution, is in the 
way to complete all his views, iii, 390. [iv. i/f]. 

If a woman will keep company with a man who hat 
reafon to think himfelf fufpeded by her, lamfrrey fepfs 
Lovelace J it is a very hopefal fign, ibid. 

Women are apt to allow too much to a kneeling Lover, 
iv, 26, [215]. 

Nine parts in ten of women who fall, fays Lovelace^ 
owe their difgrace to their own vanity, or levity, or to 
want of circumfpefiion and proper referve, iv. 46. [237]' 

Libertines, equally tyranmcal and fufpiciousy expefl thaC 
a wife flionld liave no will, no eyes, no love, no hate, 
but at their diredlion, iv. 57. [248], 

Travelling together gives opportunities of familiarity 
between the Sexes, fays Lo^elacey iv, 62. [253]. Womem 
therefore fhoidd he choice of the company they trofvelnvith. 

Women ihould be early taught to think highly of their 
fex ; for pride, as Lovelace fi^s^ is an excellent fubflitttte 
to virtue, iv. 117. [313}- 

A woman of the brighteft talents, who throws herfelf 
into the power of a Libertine, brings into queflion thofe 
talents, as well as her difcretion, not only with himfelf, 
but with his lewd companions, to whom, in fecret tri- 
umph, he will be proud to fhew his prize, iv. 1 46. vi, 
131. [iv. 344. vii. 46]. 

A modeft woman fallen into grofs company, ihould 
avow her correctives by her eye, and not affe^ ignorance 
of meanings too obvious to be concealed, iv. 148. 


A woman who has put herfelf into the power of a 

deiigning man, mnft be fatisfied with very poor excafes 

and pretences, for delay of marriage, iv. 150. [349]- 

Want of power is the q^ly bound that a Libertine puts 
to his views upon any of^the Sex, iv. ici. [349]- 

A fallen woman is the more inexcusable, as, from 
the cradle, the Sex is warned againft the deluiions of 
men, iv. 162. [361]. 

Men prefume greatly on the liberties taken, and 


the Hiftcry 0f Claili%%aI 91 

laughed ofF, in Romping, iv. 174. SeeaifoW. 4. [▼• 
I. See al/o iv. 191]^ 

A Lady confcioas of dignity of perfon (hould mingle 
with it a fweetnefs of manners, to make herfelf beloved, 
as well as refpedcd, by all who approach her^ iv. 210. 
[v. 41.] 

A man who infults the modefty of a woman, as good 
as tells her, that he has feen fomething in her conda^» 
that warranted his prefamption, iv. 294. [v. 128]. 

A man who has offered the laft indignity to a wonian^ 
yet expe& forgiv^enefs from her, muft think her as weak 
as i&^ is wicked> iv, 294. 365, v. 311, [v. 129. 203. 
vi. 224]. 

The woman who behaves with difrefpeft, either to 
her accepted Lover, or to her Hoiband, gives every vain 
man hope of landing well with her, iv. 302. v. 396. 
[v. 136, 137. vi. 315]. 

ClariiTa apprehends that Lovelace might have ground 
to doabt her condud, from having been able to prevail 
upon her to correfpond with him aeainft paternal prohi- 
bition, and the light of her own judgment, iv. 358. v, 
220. [v. 196. vi. 126; 127]. 

The niceft circumftances cannot be too nice to be at« 
tended to by women who are obliged either to converfe 
or correfpond with free livers, v. 21. [268]. 

A woman who, when attempted, defcends to exfoftu* 
UuioHj lets the offender know^ that (he intends to for- 
give him, V. 48. [296]. 

A man, whatever are his profeifions, always thinks 
the worfe of a woman, who forgives him for making 
an attempt on her virtue, v. 49. [297]. 

A man, who offers indecencies to a woman, depends 
for fecrecy and forgivenefs upon his own confidenf:e, 
and her baibfolnefs, v. 70. [320]. 

The woman who takes any indire£t fleps in favour of 
a Libertine, if fhe ek^ipe fre/ent ill-treatment from him, 
intitles herfelf, when his Wife, to £is future jealoufy 
and cenfare, v. 93. [344]- 

She who puts herfelf out of a natural proteAion, is 
not to exped miracles in her favour, v. 1 1^. [vi. 21]. 
The woman who hopes to reclaim a Libertine, may 


92 Sentiments, &c. ixtraSiei from 

have reafon to compare herfelf to one, i^o, attempt- 
ing to fave a drowning wretch, is drawn in after him^ 
and periihes with him, v. 219. vi. 4. f [vi. 125. 3763. 
' Men take great advantages even of women of. cha- 
racter, who can bear their free talk and boafts of Liber- 
tinifm without refentment, v. 286, 287. [vi. 1^8, 

'99]- ...... . ' 

Chaftity, like piety, is an uniform grace. If in Ipok, 

if in fpeecfa, a girl give way to undue levity, depend 

upon it, fays Lovelace, the devil has already got one of 

his cloven feet in her heart, v. 316. [vi. 229, 230]. 

That woman muft be indeed unhappy, whofe conduA 

has laid her under obligations to a man's filence, vi. 9. 


, A bold man^s effrontery in company of women muft 
be owing to his low opinion of them, aiid his hi^ one 
of himfelf, vi. 33, [362]. 

A good woman who vows a duty to a wicked man, 
knowing him to be fuch, puts to hazard her eternal 
happinefs, vi. 4c. [37c]. 

How dreadfully funk is the woman who fupplicates 
for marriage to a man who has robbed her of her ho- 
nour; and who can be thankful to him for doing her 
fuch poor juftice ! vi. 45. [375]. 

How muil fuch a one appear before his friends and 
her own, divefted of that noble confidence which arifes 
from a mind unconfcious of deferving reproach ! vi. 46. 


How does fhe fubjedt herfelf to the Violator's np- 

braidings, and to his infuits of generofity and pity, ex- 
erted in her favour I ihiJ^ 

It mud cut to the heart a thoughtful Mother, whofe 
Hufband continues in his profligate courfes, to look 
round upon her Children, with the refledion that (he has 
given a Father deilin*d, without a miracle, to perdition, 
vi. 46. [376]. 

It would be as unpardonable in a Lady, /ays Lo*oelace 
(in the true Libertine fpirit) to break her word with me, 
as it would be flrange, if I kept mine to her. In Love 
cafes I mean ; for as to reft, I am an honeft moral man, 
vi. 317. [vii. 244], 


the Hiftery ^ClarissaJ 93 

If a woman is confcions of having (hewn weaknefs 
to a man who has infulted h^r modefty, fhe may then: 
comex to a compofition with him, and forgive him, vi. 
372. [vii. 302]. 

I never knew a man, /ays Mi/s Honve, who deferved 
to be thought well of for his morals, who had a flight 
opinion of our Sex in general, vi. 396. [vii. 328]. 

If a woman confents to go off with a man, and he 
prove ever fo great a villain to her, (he muft take into 
her own bofom the ^wbole ref roach, and a fhare of his 
guilty bafenefs, vi. 397. [vir. 328, 3 29]* 

Offences aeainft women, and thofe of the ^oft heinous 
nature, conftitute and denominate the Man of Gallantry^ 
vii. 19. [358]. 

The pen, next to the needle, of all employments, 
whether for improvement or amnfeme^t, is the mod 
proper and befl adapted to the genius of women, vii. 
-z-jii. [viii. '201, 202 J. 

The woman who negle£b the ideful and the elegant^ 
which diilinguilhes her own Sex, fpr the fake of obtain- 
ing the learning which is fuppofed peculiar to men, in- 
curs more contempt by what fhe foregoes, than fhe gain^ 
credit by what fhe acquires, vii. 278. [viii. 203]. 

The practical knowlege of the domeflic duties is the 
principal glory of a woman, vii. 278. [viii. 204]. 

The woman who aims at more than a knowlege of 
the beauty and graces of her mother tongue, too oftea 
endangers her family ufefulnefs, vii. 279. [viii. 204]. 

Young Ladies fhould endeavour to make up for theii^ 
defers m one part of their ^education, by their excel- 
lence in another, vii. 282. [viiL 208}. 

Sei the articles Courtlhip. Duty. Hufband and 
IVife^ Libertine. Marriage. P.SLTQnts and Chil" 
dren. Keile^ions on Women, Vows. 

Air and Manner. Addrefs. 

A I R and Manner are often ' more expreifive than 
words, i. 6. [7}. . ^ . 

That Addrefs in a man for which he is often moff 
valued by a woman, is generally owing to his aflfurancei 
i. 231. [239]. ' . — ' 


94 Sentiments, &c. extra&edfl^om 

A conceflion fhould be made with a grace, or not at 
aH, hi. 159. [295]* 

What a mere perfonal advantage is a plauiible Addrefs 
without morals ! iii. 214 [iv. 3Z]. 

A fpecious Addrefs frequently abates even ^jufify-coii'- 
ceiv'd dilpleafarc, vi. yy. [4>o]« 

There is a Manner in fpeaking that may be liable to 
exception, when the words without that Manner will bear 
none, vi. 339. [vii. 267]. 

Anger. Difpleafure. 

ANcaa and Difguft alter the property, at leaft the 
appearance, of things, ii. 4. {98 J. 

People hardly ever do any thing in Anger, of which 
diey do not repent, ii. 33. [125]. 

A perfon of hard features fliould not allow himfelf to 
be very angry, ii. 76. [166]. 

We ihould not be angry at a perfon's ftot doing that 
for us, which he has a right either to do or tb let alone, 
ii. 158. 214. iv. 120. [ii. 244,24$. 298. iv. 316, 317]. 

Faulty people (hould rather be forry for the occadon 
they have given fer anger, than refent it, iii. 33. [176]. 

Nothing can be lovely in a man^s eye with which he 
is difpleaied, iv. 183. v. 12]. 

An angry or offended man will not allow to the per- 
(on with whom he is difpleafed, the merit which is his 
due, iv. 193. [v. 25]. 

Angry people 4hoald never write while their paffion 
holds, iv. 362. [v. 200]. 

Anger nnpoliihes the molt polite, V. xj. [261]. 

The Difpfeafure of friends is to be borne even by an 
innocent perfon, when it unqneftionably proceeds from 
love, V. 276. [vi. 187]. 

An innocent perfon may be thankful for that Dif- 
pleafure in her friend, which gives her an opportunity 
©f juftifying herfclf, v. 276. [vi. 1 87]. 

But then it is ungenerous in a difpleafed friend not to 
acknowlege, and afk excufe, for the miftake which 
caufed the Difpleafure, the moment he or ihe is con- 
irinced, v. 270. [vi. ^9^'}^ 


the Wfiifry of Clarissa. ^ 95 

People of little underftandiog are moft apt to be angry 
when their feaie is called iato qoeftioii, vii. 228. [viii« 
152]. [See PaffioA. 

Apprehcnnons. Fear. 

Til E tender mind, drawn in to purfue an irregular 
adventure, will be ready to ftart at tvtty unexpeded ap- 
pearance, i. 230. [238]. 

The moft apprehenfive beginnings often make the hap- 
pieil concluflons, ii. 93. [182]. 

The certainty even of what we fear, is often more 
tolerable than the fufpeafe, ii. 157. [243]. 

The very event of which we are moft apprebenfive, 
is fometimes that which we ought to wiih for, ii. 237. 

Threateners, when they have an opportunity to put 
in force their threats, are feldom to be feared, ii. 273. 
ui. 1 1 J. 

It is better, in a critical and uncertain fituation, to 
apprehend without caufe, than to fubjed one's felf to 
furprize, for want of forethought, ii. 382. [iii. 115]. 

Evils are often greater in Jfprehenjion^ than in reality, 
iv, II. [203]. 

An eaipieft difavowal of Fear often proceeds from 
Fear, iv. 291. [v. 126], 

Few men fear thofe whom they do not value, iv. 
398. [v. 1263. 


Beauty. Figure. 

Co ME LI MESS, not having fo much to lofe as Beauty 
has, wiU hold when Beauty will evaporate or fly oiF, i. 

7- [7J- 
Perfonal advantages are oftener fnares than benefits, 

a. 186. ii. 353. [i. 194. iii. 88]. 

Tho* Beauty is generally the creature of fancy, yet 
are there fome who will be Beauties in every eye, i. 
196. [203]. 

A good Figure, or Perfon, in man or woman, gives 
credit at firft %ht to the choice of either, u 268. [277]. 


^6 Sentiments, See. extraSfed from 

Men» 'more-efpecially, ought to valae themfelves ra- 
ther for their intellediial, than perfonal qaaltfications, 
i. 268. [278], 

The pretty fool, in all (he fays, in all fhe does, will 
pleafe, we know not why, li/V. 

Who would grudge the pretty fool her day ? i^d. 

When her butterfly flutters are over, fhe will feel, in the 
general contempt fhe will meet with, the jufl^ffeAs of 
having negle£led to cultivate her better faculties, /^V. 

While the difcreet matron, who from youth has main- 
tained her character, will find folid veneration take place 
of airy admiration, and more thjui fupply the want of 
the latter, i. 268. [278]. 

A lovely woman, whether angry or pleafed, will ap- 
pear lovely, iii. 194. [328]. 

That cruel diftemper, which often makes the greateft 
ravages in the fineft faces, is not always ta be thought 
an evil, v. 3. [248]. 

Goddnefs and generofity give grace and luibe to beau- 
ty, vi. 21. [350]. 

y Blufhes. Blulhing. 

Silence and Blufhes are now no graces, /ays Lo<ve* 
irce, with our fine Ladies, iii. 168. [304], 

A diflindiion is to be made between the confufion 
which guilt will be attended with, and the noble con- 
fcioufnefs that overfpre^ds the face of a ,fine fpirit, on 
its being thought capable of an imputed evil, iii. 168. 


Hardened by frequent public appearances, our modern 

fine Ladies would be as much afhamed as men, to be 

found guilty of blufhing, La?*vel. iii. 165. [304]. 

The woman who at a grofs hint puts her fan before 

her face, feems to be confcious that her filufh is not 

quite ready, Love^ iv. 309. [145]. [SeeModtiky 


Cenfure. Charafter. 

The world, ill-natur'd as it is faid to be, is generally 
more juil in giving charadlers (fpeaking by what it feels) 
than is oifually imagined, i, 114. [119]. 


the Hiftory of Cl ARissAr 97 

Thofe who complain moft of the Cenforiournefs of 
the world, perhaps ought to look imJDard for the occa- 
fion oftener than they do, i. 114, 1 15. [119]. 

A wrong ftep taken by a woman who aims to excel, 
fabjeds her to more fevere cenfures from the world, 
whofe envy (he has excited, than that world would caft 
onalefs perfed character, i. 120. [125]. 

Characters ytry cood, or extremely bad, are feldom 
joftly given, i. 160, [172]. 

We fhould be parcicalarly careful to keep clear of the 
faults we cenfure, i. 367. [ii. 59]. 

Hafty Cenfurers fubjeCt themfelvcs to the charge of 
variablenefs iu judgment, ii. 70. [160], 

We (hould always make allowances for the charaflers,' 
whether bad or good, that are given us by interefted 
perfons, ii. 125. [213]. 

Many, of thofe who have efcaped cenfure, have not 
merited applaufe, ii. 126. [213]. 

Good people, fays Lovelace \or rathir thofe 'who affeSi 
to he thought good'] are generafly fo uncharitable, that I 
fhould not chufe to be good, were the cgnfequenc* to 
be, that I muft think ha.r4l7 of every- body elfe^ iii, 
218. iv. 332. [iv. 6, 7, V. 169]. 

Where reputation is concerned, we fhould not be in 
hade to cenfure, iii. 196. [330]. 

We fhould never judge peremptorily on firft appear- 
ance$, ihid. • . • 

Every man and woman, fays Lcvelace, is apt to judge 
of others by what they know of th^mfclves, iji. 268. 

A man who proves bafc to the confidence a woman 
places in him, juftifies the harfh^ll cenfures of fuch of 
his enemies, as would have perfuaded her to rejedi him, 
iv. 294. [v. 129]. 

Charader runs away witb^ and bya^les all mankind, 

V. 7. [253]-' 

In the very Courts of Juftice, Charafter acquits and 

condemns as often as fadt, and fometimes in fpite of 

fad. Love/, ihid. 

It is not alway Jufl to cenfure according to events, v, 

^9. [vi. 179]. 

- F Difficult 

98 Senti9Vl2ts, 8fc. ^tr^^edjmn 

Difficult Titrations ;nake feeming ocjc^ipos for Cen- 
furc unavoidable, vi, 305. [vii. 231]. 1 

Cenforioufnefs and jiarrpwncfs generally prevail with 
thofc who ^iFed to J)e thought rjiprc pious than .their 
neighbours, yi. ^6^. [vii. 294]. 
. Very few Ladies wpuld be condemned, 'Or CFen ac- 
cufcd, in the cirqle of Ladies, ;were die/ prefect, vii. 
2.74. [viii. 199]. 

Human depravity, it is feared, will oftener juftify 
thofe who judge harihly, than thofe who judge favour. 
ably; yet will not good people part wi^ their chadty, 
yii. 274. [vjii. 200]. 

Neverthelefs it is right to m?ike that charity coxUiil 
with caution and prudence, itiJ, 

Charity. Beneficence^ Benevolence, 

Benevolent fpirits are fufficiently happy in the noble 
con icloufnefs that attends their Benevolence^ i. 2. 283, 

[3- 293]- . 

'Tis a generous pleafure in a Landlord, to love to fee all 

Ijiis tjcnants look fat, fleek, and contented, i. 73. [76]. 

That fpirit ought not to have the credit of being call- 
ed bountiful, that referves not to itlelf the power of 
being juft, iii. 49. 303. [192^ iv. 89]. 

In cafes where great good is wifhed to be done, it is 
grievous to have the will without having the power, iii. 
290. [iv. 76]. 

True Generofity is Greatnefs of foul : it incites to do 
more by a fellow -creature than can be ftriitly required 
of us, iii. 308. [iv. 94]. 

Innocent and benevolent fpirits are fure to be coofi- 
dered as aliens, and to be made to fuffer, by the jgenuine 
fons and daughters of earth, v. 279. [vi. 190JT 

A beneficent perfon diverted from her coarfe by ca- 
lamity, will refume it the moment ihe can, and go on 
doing good to all about her, as before, vi. 23. 109. 
£^52. vii. 22]. 

The power of conferring benefits is a godlike power^ 
vi. 279. [vii. 204]. 

A truly generous and beneficent perCbn will, in a fod- 
den di^efT, find out the unhappy before .^e fighing 

. . iicarc 

faeari4soverw]idaied h/it, yii. ^64. Suaf^iiL 30^. 

[viii. Sy, See alfo iv. 94]. 

A .prud^t perfon will fuit her Charities to the per^ 
fon^s-uToplfvay^ of lif«, vii. .1B4. £«rir^iv. $6. {viiu 
106. See alfo 17, 247]. 

Peribtisbleis'd with a4Ri^/,.£wuld be douUy careful 
to preferve to themfeket the/idnitery .of .doing good, w« 
188. [viii. 110]. 

The honeil, iDdaftrioas, . la:ba]irbg paor , ixrhom iiick- 
oefs, .han&ae^t ^ unfoceieen accicbnts have .reduced, 
ought to be the principal pbjci6b jof our Charity, viu 
x88. [viii. Tio,.Lii]. 

Small helps will iet forward the Ibher and indaftrkmg 
poor: An ocean x)f wealth svill. not he iii£cient forthp 
idle and profligate, vii. 189. [viii. iii]. 

It is not Ciiarity to rdieve the difiblate, if what is 
given to them deprive ^he worthy poor of fuch afliftance 
as would .fet the wheds of their it^duftry going, ihid, 

TJiat Charitv which provides for the morals^ as well 
as for the bodily wants of the poor, gives a double 
benefit to the public, as it adds to the number of the 
hopeful what it takes fromlhat of the .profligate, vii* 
287. [viii. 213]. 

Can there be in the eyes of that God, who requires 
nothing fo much from us as a^s of beneficence to one 
another, a charity more worthy than that of providing 
for the fouls as well as bodies of our fellow-creatures I 
vii. 287. [viii. 213^], 

See Generofity. 

Church. Ckrgjr. 

The Church is a good place to begin aTeconciliauoA 
in, if people mean any thing by their prayers, /^ Lo<ue^ 
laciy i. 196, 197. [405]. 

Who ^hat has views either worldly or cruel, can .go 
to Churchy and exp^A a bl.efiing ? »• 2^7. [301]. 

It is a juijter fatire upon >hiunan nature, than upon 
the Cloth» if we fuppofe, that thqfe who have the %2 
opportunities of bcipg good, are l^fs perfe^ than others, 
iv, 249. [v.. 81]. 

F a i^r#. 

]^oo Sendments, &c. 4xtrali4d frcm 

Frofiffional as. we)! as national reflexions are to be 
avoided, iv. 249. fv. 81]. 

The Church ought to be the only market-place for 
women, and domeftic excellence their capital recommen- 
dation, V. 27. [274]. 

' A good Clergyman mail love and venerate the Gof- 
pfsl he> teaches, and prefer it to all other learning, vi. 
137. [vii. 52]. 

The young Clergyman, wlio throws about to a Chri* 
fttao audience fcraps of Latin and Qreek from the Pa- 
gan QlaBics, (hews fomethtng .wrong either in his heart 
or head, or in both, vi. 137. [vii. 52,53]. 
% A general contempt of the Clergy, etven Lovelace con- 
f^tsy is a certain fign of a man of free principles, vi. 
353. [vii. 282]. 
« ^es Confcience. Death. Religion. 

Comedies. TragecJies. Mufic. Dancing. 

Libertines love not any Tragedies, but thofe in 
which they themfelves a^ the pafts of tyrants and exe- 
cutioners, iii. 358. [iv. 143]. 

' Libertines (afraid to truft themfelves with ferious and 
iblemn reflexions) run to Comedies, in order to laugh 
^way compundion, and to find examples of men as 
immoral as themfelves, ibid. 

Very few of our Comic Performances give good ex-» 
am pies, ibid. 

Mr. Lo'velace^ Mr. Sinclair y Sally Martin ^ Polly Norton, 
Mifs Fartingtony love not Tragedies. They have hearts 
too feeling. There is enough in the world, fay they, to 
make the heart fad, without carrying grief into our di- 
veriion, and making the diflreiFes of others our own, 

«i- 358» 359' [i^* ^\i\' ^ ' 

The woes of others, well reprefented, will unlock 

and open a tender heart, LoveL iii. 362. [iv. 146]. 

The female heart expands, and forgets its forms, when 

its attention is carried out of itfelf at an agreeable or af- 

feding Entertainment, Lavel. iii. 362. [iir. 147]. 

Womeny therefore, fhouU bg cautious of the company 

they go with to fuilic Entertainment j. 


the Hijtofy of Clakissa^ lat 

Muiic, aiid other maidenly amuicments, are too gene- 
rally given up by women, when married, v. 8. [254]. 

Mufic, /ays LtrvelaeCy is an amafement that may be 
neceiTary to keep a young woman out of more aditv 
mifchief, v. 9. [154]. 

Wine is an opiate in. degree: How many women, 
fays Lovelatey have been taken at advantage by wine and 
intoxicating viands ! v. 65. [31^]- 

Dancing is a diverfion that women love ; bat they 
oaght to be wary of their company^ v. 68. [317]. 

Women to women, when warm'd by Dancing, Mu* 
fie, ^r. are great darers and provokers, v. 68. [318]. 

Perfons whofmg and play tolerably, yet plead in« 
ability, wifh not always to be believed^ vii. 282. [viii. 


Condescension that proceeds from force, or even 
from policy, may be often difcovered to be forced, by 
obferving the eyes and lips, ii. 84. [174]. 

Condcfcendon is not meannefs, iv. ^o. [218]. On 
the contrary, the very word implied dignity, iv. z8^. 

[v. 13]-. 

There is a glory in yielding, of which a violent i^irit 
can hardly judge, iv. 30. [218]. 

Zy Gentleneis and Condefcenfion, a requeHer leaves 
favourable imprellions upon an angry perfon, which, on 
cooler refiedion, may pring the benefit denied at the 
time, iv. no. [316]. 

That Condefcendon which has neither pride nor in- 
fult in it, gives a grace to the peHbn, as well as to the 
action which demonflrates it, iv. 184. [v. 13J. ' 

Confcience. G^nfciouihers . 

Persons of Confcience will be afraid to begin the 
world unjuftly, i. 78^ [81]. 

A woman who by lurprize, or otherwife, is brought 
to fwerve, lofes all that noble felf- confidence, which 
otherwife woold have given her a viEble fuperiority over 

F 3 her 

itfZ Sentknents; 8rd extrdSidfhm 

lier tenjpter, ii. 592. Suaifo*iu 169. [iii. 125. St^ 
alfo ii. 255] 

How uneaiy are our refkftioiu upon erery doubtful 
occurrence^ when we know we have been pret^ailed upon 
to do a' wrong thing ! ii. 399. [iii. 132]. 

It is a fatisfadlion to a worthy mind, to have borne 
its tefiimony ag^inft the vile actions of a bad one, iii. 
lou [240]. 

Self-complaifancy k netiffary to carr)^ a woman thro' 
this life, with tolecabie (acbfadion. to herfelf, iv. 23-. 

The look of every perfdn will be conArued as a re- 
proach, by pne who is confcions of having capitally 
erred, vi. 47, Sw os^ iii. 205, [vi. j^^. S^e alfo iii. 

As to the world, and its cenfures, fays Clarifa^ how- 
ever defirous I always was' of. a fair fame, I never 
thought it right to give more than a fecond place to the 
world's opiniort, vi. 8iS, &/. See alfo i. 263. ii. 214. 
iv. i8o. [vi. 4T9. See alfo i. iji;. ii. 298. v. 9.] 

A pure intention, void of aH unduttful refentment^, 
is what nruft be my confdiadon, fays Clafiffa^ what^er 
others maythink of thfer nreafuros 1' hscve tak^n*, whcti 
they come to be known, vi. 19.5.' [vii. .1 14]* 


1*H0*SE w»lio KaVe rib't deferVed iil-ufage, havd'r^afoa 
tb be' the cafier under it, ii. 62. [153]. 

Who w'duld not witK patience fuft&ineveri a' great 
evil, could fhe perfuade herfelf, that'ie might inbf! pro- 
bably be diTpenfed in ofder to prevent a' ffilf^rr^/^? 
Iii; i'34. [271 J 

How nVuch lighter, on rtfleclion, will'tKiB' fame evfli 
fit on the heart of one who has not brought them upon 
Lerfelf, tha*i ijq^one 'fi'M has? mi 13*4!. See alfo ii. 
9J. 158. [iii. 271. See alfo ii. 180. 244].. 

There i5 one' com"inort point iti which a I'rfialf meet, 
err widely as they may, iii. Ijd. (iv. 37]. 

Patience and pe*rfeVeranV5€ ovftCdm^ Che greatdflfdif- 
fi-cultles, iii. 262. pV. 4*].' 

Bf a'perfon ii cfSlatoiity cardOftfldCf'Kfeyftlf ^B'c^lted 


upon to'givfe aw exathple of patience and* refignarioA^ 
fhe will find her mind greatly invigorated, iii. i-^j. [W. 

All natore, and every thing- init, has its bright and 
gloomy fide. We fhodd- not always be thinking of the 
worft, iii- 163. vi. 367. [iv. 147. vii. 297]. 

My mind^ f^s Clariffct to Lovilace and Tomiinfin, i» 
prepared for advcrlity. That* I have not deferved the 
evilsl have met with, is my Confblation, iv. 362. v. 210. 
275. 280;' 263-. [V. 200. vi; 116. I86^ 191. I94}^ 

There muft be a world after this to do jufHce to in* 
jared innocence, and to punifli barbarons perfidy, v« 

45- [^951- 

We often look back with* pjtfafiire on the heavieft 

griefs, when the caufe of them is removed, v. 5^ 

No one-oagfat ta think the worfeof herfelf for having 

fufiFered what fhe could not avoid, v; 89. [340]. 

Tefmpcfrary evils may be borne with, becaafe they arc 
A^/ temporary, v; 131. fvi. 33]. 

None arc madfe to fuffer beyond what they can -bear, 
and therefore wj-^/ to bear, v. 2 to. [vi. 116]. 

We know not the- mothods' of Ph)vidence, nor what 
wife ends it may have to ferve, in its fcemingly fevcrfe 
diipcnfations, v. 210. [vi. ir6]. 

A patient and* itxnocent fafierer will look to a world 
kfeyond this for its rewurd, v. 268. [vi; 178]. 

Many happy days may perfons greatly unhappy live 
to fee, if they will not heighten unavoidable accidents 
into gaihy dfefpondency, v. 280. [vi. 19 r]. 

We fhoidd*, in an heayy evil, comfort ourfehves^ a{& ' 
wc would in the like circumftances comfort others y v, 
381. [vi. 192]. 

This world is defigned but for a tranfitory Hate of 
probation. A good pcrfon, confidering herfelf as tra- 
veiling thro' it to a better, will put up with all the hard- 
(hips of the journey, in hopes of an ample reward at 
the end of it, v. 344. [vi. 260]. 

Had I, fens Clariffd (dr'a^wtng mar her end) efcaped 
the* evils I labour under, I might harve been- taken in the 
midil of fomc gay promifing hope ; when my heart had 

F 4 beat 


beat high with ddire of life ; and when the vanity of 
this earth bad taken hold of me, vi. 48. [377]. 

What happinefsy On reflexion, does that perfon en- 
joy, who has not a£led unworthy of herfelf in the time 
of tryal and temptation ! vi. 127, 128. [vii. 41, 42]. 

All the trouhlts of this world, as well as its joys, are 
but of {hort duration, vi. 191. [vii. in]. 

Things the moft grieVyOus to human nature at the 
time, often in the event prove the happieil for us, vi. 
203. See ai/o vi* 116. [vii. 123. 5^^ ^^ vii. 30]. 

We remember' thofe we have long loft, with more 
pleafure than pain, vi. 258. [vii. 181]. 

Solemn impreifions that feem to weaken the mind, may, 
by proper reflexion, be made to firengthen it, vi. 278. 
[vii. 202]. 

Where there is a reliance made on Providence, it 
feldom fails to raife up a new friend for every old one 
that falls ofF, vi. 279. [vii. 204]. 

There is often a neceffiiy for a confiderate perfon*s be- 
ing unhappy, in order to be happy, vi. 287. [vii. 212]; 

Good motions wrought into habit, will yield pleafure 
at a time when nothing elfe can, vi. 314. [vii. 240]. 

Perfons enured to affiidions, and who have lived in 
conftant hope of a better life, and have no flagrant vices 
to reproach themfelves with, are the fitted comforters of 
friends in dillrefs, vii. 161. [viii. 82].- 

When a man has not great good to comfort himfelf 
with, it is n^t^fays Lowekct^ to make the beft of the 
/////^ that may offer, vii. 219. [viii. 143]. 

7'here never was any difcomfort happened to mortal 
man, but fome little ray of Confolation would dart in, 
if the wretch was not fo much a wretch, as to draiv^ in- 
Aesid of undraiu the curtain, to keep it out, vii. 219. 
[viii. 143]. 

^^f Adverfity.' Confcience. Death. Grief. Hu* 
man Li/e, Religion. 

Controul, Authority- 
No extraordinary qualifications are to be expe€led 
from a man, who never, as a child, was fubjeA to Con- 
troul, i. 6^, [67]. 


Young Ltdies on whom parenUl Controol is known 
to (it heavily, give a man of intrigue room to thinks 
that they want to be parents themfeives^ Z^W. ii. 221. 
[iii. 58]. 

A generous mind will then only be jealous of Controul^ 
when it imagines its laudable friendfhips, or its generofi* 
ty, are likely to be wounded by it, iii. 212. r344]« 

A man, by feemtng afraid of Controol, o/tea fubjeAs 
himfelf to it, v. 179. [vi. 84]. 

People awed and controuled, tho* but by their own 
confcioufnefs of inferiority, will find fault, right or wrong,: 
with^diofe of whofe reditude of mind and manners their 
own culpable hearts give them to be afraid^ vii, 272* 
[viii. 197]. 

Sei Duty. Parents and Children. 

Covetoufnefs* Avarice* 

A CovSTOus man ads as if he thought the worltf 
made for himfelf only, i. 7. [8a]. 

Covetous people may bear with every one's ill word» 
fince they are fo folicitous to keep what they prefer to 
t^try one's good word, i. 88. [91]. 

The difference between obtaining a fame for eenerO' 
iity, and incurring the cenfure of being a roifer, witt 
not, prudently managed, coft Mty pounds a year, i. 1 14. 

A mifer's heir may, at a fmaQ expencc, obtain t^e 
reputation of generoiity, iUd. 

When was an ambitious or covetous mind fati«fied with 
acquiiition? i. 122. [127}. 

A prodigal man generally does more Injuftice than s 
covetous one, i. 209. [217]- 

What man or woman, who is covetous of wealth, op 
of power, d^dres either for the fake 0/ making a right 
ufe of it? iv. 362. [v. 20 1 2- 

Time is the only diing of which wa can be allowably 
covetous, fince we live but once in this world,, and wheik 
gone, are gone from it for ever, vii. 295. [viii. 22 il. 
S^e Self. 

F i Coutv 

Cbuf tlEip. 

RivniiEiirfet to artvomari \n C(mrtjhif\% die Id^ tb-b^ 
difpenfed with, as, generally, there is bat littfe of it 
fkewn afttitwdtehy i. 8-. [gj. 

' A very ready cohfoit often fobjeftj a woman to coil- 
tempt^ i. II. [r'l}^ 

If a ihafn cannot nrtktJ a* woman in ComtfliTpow'n hcr- 
felf plea/edvi\x\i him, it isas »2ar^, aAd ofcet)times'«tof^, to^ 
Ifi^r purpofe, tomakehtr^yzz^j? with him, Lri*veL r. rS. 

That dtfgaft mnft be linccfe, which is conceived On s 
iSril^viiit-, and coniirnred in every j^ftcr orfe, i. 97. [ i oi]. 

A woman who fhews a very great diflike xb a La^er^ 
whom afterward i!ie is- iAdtrcetf to fAarry^ had Heed to 
have a doable ihare of prudence, to behave unexception- 
ably to her hiijhimdi i; 199?.' 261, 3/3^ fi. 207. 270, 

m • »• 65}. . . ^ 

He who perfevefes in his addrefies to a woman- whofe 
averfion or diflike to hini he has no reaTon to doubt, 
iVahts the fpirit that diflinguifties a man, i. 20J?. [216}-. 

Very few people in Courtlhip fee each other as they 

are^ i. 381. [ii. 73]- . 

, Our Courtlhip -days are our beft days : Favour de- 
Kroys Courtfhip, diftance encreafes it, Mi/s H(nve, ii, 

37- [^30]- 

, A woman in Courtfhip has reafon to refent thofe paf- 

fiohs in her Lover, which are predominant to that he 

pretends to have for her, ii. 49. [141]. 

One of the greateft indignities that can be cafE on a 
woman in Court{hip,.is, for a man to be fo profligate 
as to engage 'himfelf in lewd purfuits, at the time he 
pretends his whole heart to be hers, ii. 71. [161]. 

A woman accuflomed to be treated wi& obfeauioiiT- 
nefs, will expeft obfequioufnefs to the end of the Court- 
fhip chapter, y^^yj -M^/i //b^zf^, iii. 27. f 171]. 

The man who exprefles high refpe^ to a woman, is 
entitled, if not to acceftancey to ci'vilitj^ m, 387. See 
alfix. 248. [iv. 171, See aifoi. 257}. 

A wife man will not difcourage that difcretion in a 
miftrefs, which will be his glory and fecurity in a ^fe^ 
iv. sr. [219], . The 

theH^ltwy of Cr^hti (M'a* 107 

The woman who in. Cocrtfhip tfeats haughtity or ill 
the man fhe intends to haYe, gives room for the world 
to think, either^ That (he has a niean opinion of him, 
arhigh one of herfelf, vi. 305— [vii^ 231.] — 

Or» That (he has not generoficy enoa^ to ufe mo- 
derately the power which hi« gptat afte^on gives her, 
vi. 305. — [vii. 231, 232]. — 

Such a woman gijires reaibn ta fvceiivers tO" fuppofe 
(and to prefume npon ity that the man t<rwhom-(he in- 
tends to give her ba«d has no- {hare in h^p heart, vi> 
3P5. [vii. 232]. 

And if (he fhew that regard- to^himi^yil^r xnorriage, of 
which ihe iheVved none before ^ it will be conftraed as- a 
eomf^iment to the Hmjhand^ made at^ the eKpence of the 
Wife\ and even of the-ji«»>-dislicac/, vi. 306. [vii/ 

Such a OBe will teach the world, by her example, to- 
deffife the man, whom, when fa^r Hufband, fhs would 
wi& it to rej^^s ibidi, 

To condefcend with dignity> to coniniatid with kiad-- 
nefs, and fweetnefs of manners, are points to hr aimed 
at by a wife woman: in Coostfhip, vi. 307. [vii. 233]. 

She ihould let her Lover fee, than fke has generoiity 
to approve of and rewacd a well-meant fervioe : 

That>{he has ^ mind that lifts her above the little cap- 
tious follies which fpme attribute to< the fex : 

That ihe refents not (if ever- ihp has reaioa to. be diC- 
pteafed) with pride, or thro' pstniance : 

Th«ir by infiftiA^ on ^vA» poiots, fbe aioia not tO' 
come at,, or to fecure, great ones, perhaps not proper tO' 
be carried : 

Nor leaves room to fuppofe that fhe thinhs» fl^)hasi{b» 
much caufe to doubt her own merit, as to; malce J& jieed- 
fid to put her, Lover upon difagreeable qf arrogant 
trials : 

But kit rcafon be tbc pdn^al'giHdr of her anions : 

iknd.then file wiU hn»lly. ever fail of tha«pefpc<^ whkb 

wU make her judgment .4/^ marriage confuked, fome- 

times with a preference to a man's own ; at- other times 

.ai addigtatioi coa^temaition of his)< vi« 307^ [viL a.33,. 

I 6. Whe» 

io8 Sentimeniss^ &c. e^traSted fr^m 

^htn judgment is at a lofs to determine the choice of 
a Lady who has federal Lovers, fancy may the more 
allowably predomijiate, vi. 313. [vii. 240]. 

Women cannot put the queftion to a Lover, Whethei 
he mean honourably or not, in his addrefs, without af- 
fronting their own virtue and perfoiial graces, vi. 335-. 
[vii. 263]. 

l^hey Jhould therefore never admit of the addrefs of a 
libertine. . 
The woman who in Courtfhip ufes ill the man (he in- 
tends to have, refleds not on the obligations her pride 
is laying her under to him for his patience with her, vi. 
406. [vii. 339]. 

See Advice to Women. Hulband and Wife. Liber- 
tine« Love. , Marriage. Parents and Children. 
Reflections on Women. Vows. 


Women are fometimes drawn in to believe againft 
probability, by the unwillingnefs they have to doubt 
their own merit, ii. 51. [142}. 

Superilitious notions propagated in infancy, are hard- 
ly ever totally eradicated, not even in minds grown 
(Irong enough to defpife the like creddoos folly in other?, 
k. 198. [283]. ' 

Credulity is the God of Love*^s prime minifter, and 
they are liever afunder, ii. ^$5. [iii. K19}. 

Credulity permits us not, till we faffer by it, to fee 
the defeats of tfaofe ^ whom we think highly, iii. 243. 
[iv. ^o}. 

We are all very rtady to believe what we like, iv.. 
11& [^314}. 

iee Coanfliipv Love. Lover. 

Cruelty. Hard-hearteJnefs. 

Th AT Cruelty which children are permitted tO' (hew 
to birds, and other animals,, will moft probably exert 
itfeir on dieir fellow- creatures, when at years of mattr- 
lity, iii. Z26. \W. 14}. 

i.el the parentis of Cbch a child ezpeft a Lovebce, iv. 
144. V. joo. £iv, 342, vi* 212], 


tbi ISficry 0f Ct ahi ssa. 109 

When we reflect upoa the CrueMes daily pra&ifed up- 
on fuch of the animal creation as are given us for fooo, 
or which we enfnare for our diverfion, we (hall be oblig- 
ed to own, fays e<ven Lo'velace, that there is more of the 
favage in human nature, than we are aware of, iii. 22$, 
229, 230. [iv. 16, 17, 18]. 

Infinite beauties are there to be found in a weeping 
eye, Lo<veL iii. 235. [iv. 23]. 

Hard-heartedneis is an eilential in the charaAer of a 
Libertine, iii. 324. iv. iti. [iv. 109. 317]. 

No heart burfts, fays the favage Lovelace , be the occa- 
iion for forrovv what it will, which has the kindly relief 
of tears, iv. 254. [v. 67]. 
See Libertine. Tears. 

Death. Dying- 

Melancholy obje£b and fubjeds will at times ini'^ 
prefs the moft profligate fpirits. \Jhi^ fhwld not thert* 
fore be run a<way from, ^ iv. 152, [^50]. 

What is Death, but a ceiTation /rom mortal life ? vi. 

47- [377]- 

It is but the finifhing of an appointed courfe, ihU, 

The refrelhing Inn, after a fatiguing journey, ibid. 

The end of a life of cares and troubles, ^hid. 

Thofe men who give themfelves airs of bravery Ofi 
reflecting ujpon the lafl fcenes of others, may be ex- 
pedled, if ienfible at the time, to behave the moft plti* 
fully in their own, vi. 237. [vii. 159]. 

What a dreadful thing is Death, to a perfon who ha» 
not one comfortable reflexion to revolve ! vi. 240. [vii. . 

What would T give, fays the departing Belton^ to have 
but one year of life before me, and to have the fame 
fenfe of things I now have \ ibid. 

See alfo the dying BeltoiCs pleas to his Phyfidany and 
treatment of him, and of his ^wn Sifter, becaufe 
they could gpue him no hope, vi. 264 to 16^, [vii. 

The feeds of Death are fown in us when we beg^ to 

lire, and grow up till, likef ramfant weeds, they choak 
tlfe tender flower of life, vi. 266. [vii. 18$]. 

In beholding the Death cff a friend, we are afFefted 
as well by what mxiil one day be our own cafe, as by his 
agonies, vi. 267. [vii. 191]. 

To be cut off by the fword of injnfed friendfhipL is. 
the moft dreadful of all Deaths, next to Suicide, vi- 
269. [vii. 193]- 

Keflgnation in Death, and reliance on the Divine 
mercies, give'great comfort to the friends of the dying, 
vi. 270. vii. 146, 147. [vii. 194. viii. 66, 67 J. 

A good confcience only can fupport a perfon in a fen- 
fible and gradual Death, vi. 383. vii. 22* [vii. 314, 

It is a choice comfort at the winding up of our (hort 
dory, fays Clarifay to be able to fay, *• I have rather 
** fuffered \viyinG$y th^ii ofered xYkCBky^ vit. 60. [401]* 

Nothing that is of confequence- fhould be left ta be 
done in the I ail incapacitating hours of life ? vii. 72. 

78. [414. 420]- 

See Clariffas noUe behaviour in the agonies of^iath^ 
vii. 85 to 90. [viii. 3 — 8]. 
All fentiments of worldly grandeur vanifh at that un- 
avoidable moment which decides the delliny of men, 
vij. 97. [viii. 15]. 

What, in the lalt folemn mdments, mull be the re- 
flexion of thofe (if capable of reflc£lion) whofe ftudy 
atid pride it has been to ffeduce the innocent, and to ruin 
the- weak, the unguarded, and the friendlefs ; perhaps, 
too, by thcmfelves made friendlefs? vii. 97. [viii. 15]. 
See the Jhocking and outragious hehavicur of Sinclair 

at her Death, vii. 129. [viii. 49, & /eq.l 
See aJfa the ^violent Death of Lonfelace^ vii. 319, Gf 
feq, [viii. 246^ ^ fi^-X 
What are twenty or thirty years to look back upon ? 
vii^ 112. [viiL 31]. 

In a long life, what friends may we not have to mourn 
for ? ibid. 

What temptations rnvf we not have-to enconnter with ? 
' &the lofs of a dear friend,, it is an Kigti fatisfaOioiL 

ti^bc able' to rdlc€l, tSat vrtf hat'e no aSs ofitnfeindnefs 
to reproach chirfclves with, vir. it 8. [viii. 38]. 

Time only can combat with advantage very heavy de- 
privations, vii. 163.. [viii. 84]'. 

N'ature wil! be given way to, fill Ibrrpw^ has in a man- 
ner exhaufted itfelf ; then reafoti and religion will come 
in feafbnably, with their powerful aids, to raife the 
drooping heart, ibid. 

See Confolation. Grief. Religion. 

DeJicaey. Decency. Decoruin. 

Much difagreeable evil will arife to a womanr of the 
leaft Delicacy, ffom a Hafband who 15 given to wine, i. 
i6d. [269]. 

What young woman of Ddicacy wotrld be thonglt to 
Itave inclitttitiom fo violent, that flie cbirW not conquer 
them ? or a ikUI fo fttabbom, thtitt ftre would not, at the 
crrtrdaty and advice of her friends, attempt the conqueft \ 
i. 34». [ii. 1S\ ^^ 

Punftilio is out of doors the moment a Daughter f^wci^^ 
deftinely quits her Father's houfe, ii. 203. [28^8]. 

How inexcufeable are thofe giddy creatures, who in 
the fame hour leap from a Parent's window to a Huf- 
band^s bed ! ibid, 

Nuiiiberlefs arc the reafons that might be given why 
a woman of the leaft Delicacy fliould' never think of 
going off with a man, ii. 279. [iif. 18], 

A woman who goes off with a man has no room ei- 
ther to praftife Delicacy herfelf, or to expeft it from 
the man, iii. 294. 29&. 301. [iv. %o, ^4. 87]. 

A confent, in fomc nice Love- cafes, were better taken: 
for granted, than aiked for, iiK 308. [iv. 93], 

Few, very -few men are there, who have Delicacy 
enough to enter into thofe parts of the female chara£ler 
which are its glory and difunAion, iii. 309. [iv. 957. 
• Over-nicenefs may be uildeir-nicenefs, iv. rSo. [v. 9]. ' 

Men need not give indelicate hints to women on tub-' 
je£ts that relate to themfeives, LonteL iv. 279^ [v. 112]. 

A man who is grofs in a woman's company^ adds be, 
oaght to he knocl^d dowtf with a club, ibtd. 

Delicate women, make dfdtcatC WOtttefl, and dfO de- 
ctntmeo, v, 11. [25^]- There 

1 1 2 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfhm 

There are points fa delicate, that it is a degree of 
diOionour to nave a vindication of one's felf J&om them 
thought neceflary, v. 230. [vi. 137]. 

The free thiaes that among us Rakes, fays Belford^ 
pafs for wit and ipix'it, mud be (hocking (laff to the ears 
of perfons of Delicacy, v. ^jj. [vi. 295, 296]. 

See Advice to Women, Courtihip. Duty. Liber* 
tine. Love. Marriage. Men and Women^ ^r. 

Defpondency. Delpair. 

I F we defpondy there can be no hope of core, iK. 
125. vi. 65. [iii. 263. vi. 396]. 

To defpond is to add £n to fin, iv. 10. [197]. 

When a profligate man, on being overtaken by a 
dangerous iickneis, or inev^able calamity, defponds, 
what confolation can be given him either from his paft 
life, or his future profpe^ts ? vi. 50. [389]. 

This is the caufe of my defpair, fays Belton^ that 
Godi\juftice cannot let his trnrcy operate for my comfort I 
vi., 240. [vii. 163]. 

See Confolation. 


To condemn a Deviation, and to follow it by as 
great a one, what is it but to propagate a general cor- 
ruption ? ii. 75. [165]. 

The Deviation of a perfon of eminence is more in* 
excufable than that of a common perfon, iii. 50. [193]. 

In unhappy iituations it will be difficult, even for 
worthy perfons, to avoid fometimes departing from th& 
iimple truth, iii. 64. [206]. 

Hotv necefary is it then for fuch perfons to be careful 
that they do not, ly their o^wn incoifff deration^ in* 
vol*ve themfeives in dijicuhies ! 

Worthy perfpns, if inadvertently drawn into a Devia- 
tion, will endeavour inftantly to recover their loft ground,, 
that they may not bring error into habit, iii. 64^ [206]. 

A criminal Deviation in one friend, is likely to caft a. 
ihade upon the other, iii. 1 1'8. [256]. 

To the pure every little Deviation, f^s to'velace^ 
feems offenfive, iii. 216. [iv. 4]* 


tbe Hijiory (/Clarissa. 113 

* One devious Aep at firil fettiog out» frequently leads 
a perfon into a wildernefs of doubt and error, iii. 250. 
289. [iv. 37. 75]. 

When we are betrayed into a capital Deviation, lefTer 
Deviations will hardly be avoidable, iv. Z2^/\y. 55]. 

She who is too ready to excufe a wilful Deviation in 
another, renders her own. virtue fufpeftablc. Jam. HarL 

vii. 5- [343. 344]- 

See Guilt. Human Nature, 

Dignity. Quality. 

Upon true Quality and hereditary Diftindlion, if 
fenfe be not wanting, honours and affluence fit eafy, i. 
260. [270]. 

If we a/Tume a Dignity, and difgracc not by arro- 
gance our affumption, every-body will treat us with re- 
fpe6l and deference, i. 320. [ii. 11]. 

Hereditary Dignity conveys more difgrace than ho- 
nour to defcendants who have not merit to adorn it, il. 
136. [223]. 

Gentleman is a title of diftindlion which a prince may 
not deferve, ii. 397. [iii. 130]. 

The firfl Dignity ought to be accompanied with the 
firft merit, iii. 232. [iv. 19]. 

Grandeur, fays Lovelace, always makes a man^s face 
fliine in a woman's eye, v. 85. [336]. 

People who are fenced in, either by their Years or 
Quality, (heuld not, fays Lo<velace, take freedoms that 
a man of fpirit ought to refent from others, v. 302. 
[vi. 214]. 

True Dignity admits not of pride or arrogance, v. 
382. [vi. 301]. 

Some men have a native Dignity in their manner, 
which will procure them more regard by a look, than 
others can obtain by the molt imperious commands, vi. 
a6o. [vii. 183]. 

The man who is good by choke, as well as by educa- 
tion, has that polity in himfelf [tbaf true Dignity], 
which' ennobles haman nature, and without which the 
moft dignified by birth or rank are ignoble, vi. 314. 

[vii. 240]. 


XI4 Scfttfmcntsf, &c. i^traSleiffom 

Women who will not affume fome little Dignity, and 
cxa€l rcfpcft from men, will render thcmrelveis cheap, and 
perhaps have their roodefty and diiRdence repaid with 
fcorn and infult, MifsHc^e, vii. 253. [viii. 177]. 

S^ Advice to Women, Courtfcip. Delicacy, lA- 
bercine^ ferV. 

Double Entendrt. 

It is an odious thing in a man to look Hy and leer> 
ingatawoman, whofe modeft'y is invaded by another 
by indecent hints or Double Entendre, iii. 165. [301]. 

What a groifnefs is there in the mind of that man, 
who thinks Co reach a Lady's heart by wounding her 
cars! iii. 186. [320-]. 

Well-bred men, who think themfelves in virtuous com- 
pany, will not allow in themfelves fuch liberties of 
ipeechs as tho' not free enough for open cenfure, are 
capable of conveying impure images to the heart, iii. 

193- [332]- 
Men who go Out of their way to hint free things, 

muft either be guilty of abfurdity^ meaning nothing j or 

jaeaning fomethine^ of rudenefs^ ihid,^ 

(JbfCenity is fo mameful even to the guilty, that they 

cannot hint at it, but under a double meaning, iv. 148* 

Even* Lovelace declares, that he never did, nor ever 

will, talk to a Lady in a way that modefty will not 

permit her to anfwer him in, vii. 222. [viii. 145]. 

See Delicacy. 

Drefs. Falhions. Elegance 

The genius of a man wha is fond of bis Perfim« (V 
Drefs, feidom flrikes^ deep into intellefkoal fisbjo^, u 
.26g. [278]. 

A man vain of his perfon, endeavouring to- adorn tC» 
frequently renders himfelf ridittiloas, /^rV. 

Women owe to themfdves, and td tkcir Sex, to be 
always neat, and never to be furprifed* by accidental 
viiitors, in fuch a di^abiik » would pain chtm to be 
feen in, ii. 158. [149]. 


iheHrflvry of Clarissa.' X15 

Alf that hoops are good for ^ fays Mi/s Honjoi^ is, to 
clean dirty ihoes, and to keep fellows at diHance^ ii. 
78. [168]. 

The mind is often indicated by outward Drefs, iii. 

199- [332]. - 

Homely perfons, the more they endeavour to adorn 
themfelves, the more they expofe the dcfedls they want 
to hide, iii. 240. [iv. 27]. 

If women, fays Lo'velacei would made themfelves ap» 
pear as elegant to ah Hufband, as they were defiroas to 
appear to him while a Lover, the Rake^ which all women 
love, would laft longer in the Husband than it generally 
does, iii. 34r. [iv. 126]. 

A woman who would preferve a Lover's refpe£l to her 
perfon, will be careful of her appearance before him 
when in difhabille, iii. 361. [iv. 126]. 

Full Drefs creates dignity, augments confcioufnefs, 
and keeps at diftance an encroacher, iii. 361. [iv. 145]. 

An elegant woman, in her earlieft hour, will, for 
her onvn pi^afiire, be as nice as others in full drefs, iih 
361. [iv. 126]. 

EHegant Drefs contributes greatly to keep pafiion alive, 
v: 26 [273]. 

Ejrefs gives great advantage to women who have na- 
turally a genteel air, and have Been weli educated, v. 
30'. [277]. 

Fefforis who thro^ misfortunes chufe not to drefs ,.ihould 
not, however, give up neatnefs, v. 282. [vi. 193, 

A Fop takes great pains to hang out a /&», by his 
Drefs, of what he has in Yix^Jhop, vi. 3.3. [3P2, 3^3]. 

A clumfy Beau feems to owe himfelf a double fpitc, 
snaking his ungracefulnefs appear the more ungraceful 
by his tawdrinefs in Drefs, Lcoel, vi. 34. [363], 

Singularity in Drefs fhews fomething. wrong ih the 
inind, ibid. 

Plain Drefs, for an ordinary mati or woman, implies 
at lead modefly, and procures kind quarter evert from 
the cenforious, vi. 34. vii. 266. [vi. 363. viii. 191]. 

The Fafhion or Drefs that becomes one perfon, fre- 
quently miibecomes another,, vl. 177. [vii. 95]. 


1 1 6 Sentiments, &c. . extralfed frm 

Natare and Eafe ihould be the guides in Dxefs or Fa- 
fhiori, vi. 177. [vii. 95]. 

See Advice to Women, Delicacy. Dignity. 


A MAN of honour cannot go to law for verbal abufts 
givenby people entitled to wear fwords,Z. i. 159. [165]. 

Duelling is fo fafhionable a part of brutal bravery, 
that a good maii is often at a iofs fo to behave, as to 
avoid incurring either mortal guilty or general contempt, 
i. 368. [ii. 60]. 

Thofe who throw contempt on a good man, for chufing 
tather to pafs by a verbal injury than imbrue his hands 
in bloodj know not the meafure of true magnanimity^ 

*Tis much more noble to forgive, and much morp 
manly to defpife, than to refent an injury, ibid, 

A man of fpirit (hould too much difdain the maiv 
who is capable of doing him wilfully a mean wrong, td 
put his life upon equal value with his own, ibid. 

What an abfurdity is it in a manr to put it in the 
power of one, who has done him a fmal/ injury, to do 
nim (as it may happen} and thofe who love him, an ir* 
reparable one I ibid. 

What a flagrant partiality is it in thofe men, who caa 
them/ehes be guilty of crimes which they juftly hold un- 

fardonable in their neareft female relations ! vi. 404.— 
vii. 336—]. . . . ' 

Yet cannot commit them without doing fuch injuries 
to other families, as they think themfelves obliged to re- 
fent unto death, when offered to their own ! ibid. 

An innocent man ought not to run an equal riik with 
a guilty one, vii. 107. 234- [viii. 26. 157]. 

He who will arrogate to himfelf the province of the 
Almighty, who has declared, that 'vengeance is His^ ought 
to tremble at what may be the confeqnence, vii. 107. 
233. [viii. 26. 157]. 

May it not, in cale of the offended perfon's giving the 
challenge, be fui table to the Divine juftice to puniih the 
frefttmptuons innocent by the hand of the fefjf'dt fending 
guilty^ refervin^ him for a future day of vengeance ? vii. 
107. 235. [viii. 26. 158, rj9]. Life 

the Hiftory cf ClarissXI 117 

Life is a ihort (tage when longefl : If HeaVen will 
afford a wicked man time for repentance, who fhall dare 
to deny it him ? vii. 107. 234. [viii. 25. 158]. 

The confcience of the offender, when it fliall pleafe 
God to ftrike it, fliall be fharp«rthan an avenger's Iword, 
vii. 108. [viii. 26]. / 

Duelling is not only an ufurpatlon of the Divine pre- 
rogative, but it is a:i infult upon magiflracy and good 
government, vii. 234. [viii. 157]. 

Tis an impious a6t; 'tis an attempt to takeaway a 
life that ought not to depend upon a private fvVord, 

An a.6kj the confequence of which is to hurry a foul 
(all its fins upon its head) into perdition, endangering 
alfo that of the poor triumpher ; iince neither intend to 
give to the other that opportunity for repentance which 
each prefumes to hope for himfeif, vii. 234. (viii. 157, 


. Where ftiall the evil of Duelling ftop ? Who ihal! 
avenge on the avenger? vii. 234. [viii. 158]. 

Who would not wifh, that the aggrcflbr (hould bs 
ft ill the gui/ty aggrefibr ? /^V. 

Often has the more guilty been the vanquKher of tho 
If/j guilty, 7^/V. 

See Guilt. Libertine. 

Duty. Obedienc?. 

A c o D child will not feck to exculpate herfelf at 
the expcnceof the mod revered charaders, i. 26. [27], 

Jf we fufFer by an aft of Duty, or even of generofity 
we have this comfort on reflexion, that the fault is in 
others, not in ourfelves, i. 121. [125]. 

Aitho* our parents or fnends ihould not do every- 
thing for us that we may wiih or expe£l, it becomes us 
neverthelefs to be thankful to them for the benefits they 
have adiually conferred on us, i. 126. [131]* 

A good child, upon ill terms with her parcftts, tho* 
liopelefs of fucccfs, ihould leave no means unattempted 
to reconcile herfelf to them, were it bat to acquit her* 
fclf to herfelf, i. 157. [163], 


1 1 8 Sentiments^ ^rc. , (xtrafful prom 

A fufferer may not be able to forbear complaiBifig 
of the ill treatment (he meets widi from her parents ; 
but it may go againd her to have even the perfon to 
whom (he complains take the fame liberties with them, 
i, 173. [180]. 

The want of reward is no warrant for us to difpenfe 
with our Duty, ibid. 

The merit of Obedience condfls in giving up an in- 
clii^ation, i. 200. [210]. 

In reciprocal Duties, ^he failure on one iide juftifies 
not a failure on the other, i. 2gi. 234. 366. vi. 316. 
[i. 240. 243. ii. 57, 58. vii. 243]. , 

Rrudence and Duty will enable a perfon to OTercome 
the greateft difficulties, i. 253. |26c]. 

Where is tlie praife-worthineis of Obedience, if it be 
only paid in inftances where wc give up nothing ? i. 
371. [ii. 63]. 

If a paffion can be conquered, it is a facrlfice a good 
child owes to indulgent parents ; efpecially if they would 
be unhappy if (he made not fuch a (acfi£ce, i. 405. Sse 
(dfo i. 253. [ii. 95. See alfo i..265]. 

No independency of fortune cari free a child from 
her filial Duty, ii. 174. [234]. 

Nor ought any change of circumftances to alter her 
notions of Duty, iii. 3. [147]. 

A Duty exadled with too much rigour, is often .at- 
tended, with fatal con(ecjuenccs, iii. 50. [192]. 

The Duty of a child to her parents may be faid to 
be anterior to her very birth, iii. 54. [197]. 

What is the prectfe fiature or age at which a good 
child may conclude herfelf abfolved from her filial Du« 
ty? iii. 56. [198]. 

A good perfon cannot look with indifference on any 
part of a vow'd Duty, iii. 1 15. [254]. 

A worthy perfon will make it her prayer, as well as 
her endeavour, that whatever trials Hie may be called 
upon to unjer^o, (he may not behave unworthily in 
them, and may come out amended by them, iii. 118. 

A duui^htor who chearfully gives up an inclination to 

, the 

the IJ^pry of Claj8l15S^. ;i9 

fire judgment qf her parents, may be faid to have l^id 
them under obligation to her, iii. 247. [iv. 34]. 

Can a fugitive Daughter enjoy herfelf. While her Pa- 
rents, are in tears ? IV. 58. [24.9J. 

Other peopleV not performing their Duty, is no ex-. 
<ufe for the negleft jof ours, y&yj €ijen Lot'ilAce» v. 291. 
[Ti. 203]. 

The world is too apt to fet itfelf in oppofition to a 
general Duty, vi. 134. [vii. 4^]. 

General Duties ought not to be weakened by our en- 
deavouring to juftify a iingle peribn, if faulty, however 
unhappily circumftanced, ibid. 

There is no merit in performing a Duty, vi. 1 80. [vii* 

A datifu] Daughter gives an earned of making a du- 
tiful and obliging Wife, vi. 255. [vii. 178 J. 

Duty upon principle will oblige to an uniformity of 
Diity in every relation of life, iBid. 

Rigour makes it difficult for Aiding virtue to recover, 
itfelf, vii. 5. [viii. 343]. 

See Parents and Children. 



Encouragement and approbation bring to llght^a- 
lents that otherwife would never have appeared, ii. 1 9. 

There is a docible feafon, a learning time, in youth, 
which, fuiFered to elapfe, and no foundation laid, feldom 
returns, iii. 364.. [iv. 149]. 

Some genius's, like iome fruits, dpen not till late, ibid, 

Induftry and perfeverance in fludy will do prodigious 
diings, ibid. 

Whiit an uphill labour mufl it be to a learner, who, 
has thofe firft rudiments to mafter at twenty years of age, 
which others are taught at ten I ibid. j 

Parents ought to cultivate the minds Qf their Daugh- 
ters, and infpire them with early nptipns of referve and 
diHance to n»en, I^o^vel, iv. ii7< [313]* 

It is not enough that a youth be put upon doing a^ 
of beneficence ; he mull be taught to do th^m from pro« 
per motives, iv« 121, [siSj* A 

120 Sentiments, &c. extraHed from 

A prous end, and a crown of glory, are generally the 
i^atural fruits of a virtuous Education, vii. 104. [viii. 

The^ perfon who aims at acquiring too many things, 
will hardly excel in any, vii. 283* [viii. 209]. 

Improvement muft attend upon thofe who are more 
ready to hear than to fpeak, vii. 289. [viii. 215]. 

See Advice to Women. Duty. Parents and Chil- 


Persons diflinguiflied by their rank, or their virtues, 
ate anfwerable to the public for their conduct in mate- 
rial points, i. 4- [4]. 

Perfons of prudence, and diflinguifh'd talents, fecm 
to be fprinkled thro' the world, to do credit by their ex- 
ample to religion and virtue, i. 257. [266]. 

No one fhould plead the errors of another, in jufttfi<- 
cation of his own, i. 391. ii. 253. [ii. 82. 336]. 

Perfons who are fond of being thought of as examples, 
(hould look into themfelves, watch, and fear^ iv. g. 

Dearly do I love, fays Lovelace (J^eaking ofMifs Rave- 
lins) to engage with^ the Precept-givers and Example- 
fetters, V. 68. [3,17]. 

The Example at church of perfons confpicuous for 
virtue, rank, and fenfe, gives a high credit to religion, 
vi. 311. [vii. 237]. 

See Religion. Virtue. 


There is more joy in expectation and preparation, 
than in fruition, be the purfuit ivhat it 'wiH^ i. 226. 

- [234]- 

Mankind cheat themfelves by their raifed Expedla* 

lions of pleafure in profpefl, i. 387. [ii. 78]. 

Very ieldom is it that high Expedlat'ons are fo much 
as tolerably anfwered, iii. 243. [iv. 30]. 

The joys of Expe6hmon are the highcft of all our 
jo)8, V. 25. [272]. 


tbi Hifiory of ChAVLi%sK. iiir 

A WEEPING Eje indicaces a gentle heart, iii. 362. 
[iv. 146]. - 

Sparkling Ry/es, fs^s Lyvelacey when the poetical 
tribe have faid what they will of them, are an infallible 
£gn of a rogue, or room for a rogue, in the heart, iii. 
388. [iv. 174]. 

The Eye is the cafement at which the heart generally 
looks oat, LoveL vi. 16. [344]. 

Many a woman who will not ihew herfelf at the door, 
has tipt the fly, the intelligible wink from the window, 
LoveL ihid. 

Ste Tears. 

Faults. Folly. Failings. Error. 

A M A N who gives the world caufe to have an ill opi- 
nion of him, ought to take the confequence of his own 
Faults, i. 20. [21]. 

Who ever was in Fault, Self being judge ? i. 68. 

[76] • 
What a hero or heroine muft that perfon be, who can 

conquer a cpnftitatlonal Fault ! i. 168. 314. Seealfiu 

115. [i. 174. ii. 5. Seealfou 126]. 

It is not enough for a perfon convided of a Fault, to 
own it, if he amend it not, i. 186. [195] 

An enemy wiihes not a man to be without the Faults 
he upbraids him with, i. 265. [275]. 
^ A woman who gives better advice than (he takes, 
doubles the weight of her own Faults, i. 393, [ii. 84]. 

Faults which arife from generous attachments, are 
not caiily deteded, iii. 53. [1Q5]. 

No man has a right to be difpleafed at freedoms taken.- 
with him for Faults which he is not alhamed to confefs^ 
iii. Z39. [iv. 26]. 

It ought to be our care, that whatever Errors we fall 
into, they (hould be thofe of our judgment, and not of 
•ur will, iii. 312. [iv. 97]. 

G Great 

122 Sentiment^ Bco. i»ff»S^dJ>m 

Great Faults^ and great Virtaes^ are often found in the 
fame perfonsy iv. 132. [330J. 

Repethlcm of Faulu revives .tl^ reoicttbrsmee of 
Faults forgiven, iv. 158. {357]. 

When we are drawn into an Error, wt fiiculd take 
care to make as few peopk as poftble fufer by ^le con- 
feqaence-of it, iv. a^i. [v. 52}. 

One Crime is generally the parent of another, v. 90. 

' It is kind to endeavour to eixtenuaite the Fault of One 
who is more rea4y to reproach than to excufe hcrfidf, 
V, zaiv [vi. 12S],: 

People are apt to make allowances for fuch Fauhs in 
others, as they will not mtuid in themMvcs, vii. 122. 
[viii. 4^42]- 

Wicked men will often abufe people for the confe- 
quence of their own Faults, v 354. £vi. 271]. 

Worthy minds IhOuld not be m6f e ready to fly from 
the Rebuke than from the Fault, vi. 87. [420]. 
,^ We may be mortified by a calamity brought upon our- 
felves ; but this, too often, rather for the calamity's than 
the Fault's fake, vi. 188. [vii. 107]. 

Per fens who will not be at the pains of corrcfting 
conftitutional Faults or Failings, frequently feek to gipfs 
them over by fome nominal virtues, vii. 253. [viii. i^?^* 
See Guilt. 


pAVOVKfi sure a&'d by fome with an air that calls 
for reje£lion, i. 54. {56]. 

To exalt the peribn we favour above his merit, is but 
to depreciate him, i. 390, See of/hi. 208. [ii. 81. Seg 

4^i. 215]. 

A worthy mind will tK>t alk a Favour, till it has coa- 
fideted whether it is £t to be granted, il. 103. [192}. 

In our expe&ations of Favours, we ihould diveft our- 
felves o£/eI/f (o far as to leave to others the option they 
hive a right to make, ii. 2f0> 211. vi. 89. [ii. 294, 
295. vi. 422]. 

Awe, reverence, and apprehended prohibition^ make 
A Favour precious. Love/, ii 316. [iii, 53 J, 


the HiftoryafC^ATLissA^ i^j 

To requeft a Favour, is one thing ; to cliallen|;e it aa 
our due, is another, iv. iig. £316]. 

A petitioner has no right to be angry at a repuBb, if 
he has not a right to demand what ^e (ues for as a dibt^ ^ 
itr. 120. [316, 317]. 

The grace with which' a FavourSs conferred^ may ht 
as accqptable as the Favour itfelf, vii. 273. [viii. 

Flattery. Compliments. 

I# "we have power to oblige, our Fkttercsrs will tell 
us s»f thtog fooner than what they know ^e diiike to* 
hear, i. 2^. [31]. 

Compliinental Aotirilhes art the -poifon of female 
mittds, i. 2f 2. [220]. 

Hyperbolic Compliments are elevated abfurdities, sL' ^ 
97. 1x76}. 

A mtsik Y^fo -flatten a.woiDatt hopes eiehef to UnA her t y( 
fooli^ or to make her one, thiJ. 

. It is not always wrong to take the nmn at his word, 
who, prettoding to depreciate htmielf, lays oat fbr a 
compliment, ii. 332. iii. 215. [iii. 68, iv. 3]. 

Undue compliments ought to be* looked upon as af^ 
fronts to the underftanding of the perTon: to whom they 
are addnefled, iii. 20Q. t334l* 

Wom^, by encouraging Flatterers, teach tnftn to be 
hypocrites ; yet, at other timcS, ftfgmaiix'e them for de- 
ceivers, Lo*ve/, iii. 216; [iv. 4]. 

Great men do evil, and les^ve it to their Flatterers to 
find a reafon for it afterwards, vi. 92. [vii. 5]. 

Officious perfons are always at hand to flatter, or 
footh, the paiTions of the affluent, vi. j68. [vii. 298]. 

Many perfons endeavouring to avoid the imputation 
of Flattery, or Hypocrify, run into ruiUcity, or ill- 
manners, Vii. 253. [viii. 17^]. 

. Sii Advice to Wi^men, 

Fond* Fondnefs. 

The vroman muft expe£l to bear flights from the 
husbandy of whom Jhc was too yifibly fond as a /^wr, i.. 
3<x [31 J." - - "^ - 

G z Fond- 

124 Sentiments^ &c. extraSei fr^m 

Fondnefs fpoils more wives than it makes grateful onesj 
SoJmes^ i. 276. [280]. 
. The fond mother ever makes a hardened childy i* 

Coy maids make fond wives, firfs Mr, Solmesy i. 370. 
Cii. 65]. 

, The Fondnefs of a wife to an hufband, whom in 
courtfhip (he defpifed for mental imperfections, muft be 
imputed either to diflimulation, or to very indelicate mo- 
tives, i. 380. [ii. 7if 72.]; 

We are apt, to be fond of any body that wiU iide with 
us when we are opprefled or provoked, ii. 1 12, 1 1 3, [zooj. • 

Fondnefs and Toying between a married pair before 
company, L^^^/err^ himfelf condemns, not only as in- 
difcreet, but as indecent and fcandalous, iv. 130, 131. 

Single Ladies who (hew too vifible a Fondnefs for a 
man, difcharge him fom all complaifance, iv. 208. [v. 

Single Ladies ihould never be witneiTes to &ofe free- 
doms between fond hufbands and wives (tho* ever fo 
much the wives friends) which they would not have of- 
fcred to themfelvcs, LoveL v. 316. [vi* 229]. 

Forgivenefs. Pardon. 

M A M Y a young offender againfi modefly and decen- 
cy, has been confirmed a libertine hy a too eafy For- 
givenefs, iii. 325. See alfou 213. [iv. iio. Seealfoi. 

An eafy Forgivenefs, where a perfon ought to be for- 
given, will increafe the obligation with a mind not un- 
generous, iv. 181. [v. xo]. 

A negative Forgivenefs is an ungracious one, iv. 197. 
[v. 27]. ■, 

The perfoa who would exa£l a promife of Pardon* 
tacitly acknowleges that he deferves it not, iv. 343. [v. 

May thofe be forgiven, prays Clariffk in the height of 
her calamities^ who hinder my father from forgiving me! 
and this (hall be the harfliell thing, relating to them, 
that falls from my pen, v. ^23. [vi. 129, 130], 

' the Hilary of Clarissa. 125 

Ah accident^ and unpremeditated Error, carries with 
it the llrongeft plea for Forgivenefs, v. 223. [vi. 130]. 
^ Tell Mr. Lovelace, nollj fir/s Clarijfay that I am en* 
deavouring to bring my mind to fach a frame, as to be 
able to pity him ; and that I fhall not think myfelf qua- 
lified for the (late I am afpiring to, if, after a few; 
ftrugglcs more, I cannot /br^/«u# him too, vi. 21. vii. 
37, 38. [vi. 349. vii. 378]. 

Nothing can be more wounding than a generous For- 
givenefs, vi. J2. [382], 

The eafy Pardon perverfe children meet with, when 
they have done the mod rafh and iindutiful thing they 
can do, occafions many to follow their example, vi. 
119. [vii. 333. 

To be forgiven by injured Innocents is neceflary, 
Lovelace thlnhsy to the divine Pardon, vi. 169. [vii. 86}. 

Men are lefs unforgiving than women, LoveU vi. 196. 
[vii. 116]. 


Friendship (hould never give a by as a^ainfi judgi^ 
ment, i. 53. [55]. 

True Friendihip admits not of referve, Und, 

How ihall we expert to avoid the cenfure of oor ene- 
mies, if our Friends will not hold a looking-glafs befbie 
us, to let us fee our imperfe^ions in it ? i. 62. [65]. 

Friend ihould judge Friend, as an indifferent perfon 
would be fuppofed to judge of him, i. 63. 75. [65. 

It is natural for the perfon who has the misfortune of 
Ibfing old Friends, to be defirous of making new ones» 
i. 159. [165]. 

Such a difference in temper and conftitution in two 
young Ladies as excludes all imaginary rivalfhip, mxf 
be the cement of a firm Friendfhip between theffl,i. 

167. [174]- 

The part of a true Friend is to footh, or conciliate,, 
rather than to flimulate, or provoke, the.anguifh of a 
complaining fpirit ill at eafe with her nearell relations, 
i. 173. 175, [i. x8i, 182]. . . 

G s A 

126 Sentiments, &C extraSidfrfim 

A brother may not be a Friend, but a Friend will 
always Be a brother, i. 324. [ii. 15]. 

An ingecQOus and worthy mind will fay with Clariffa^ 
•* Spare me not becaufe I am yoar Friend j but, rathef, 
«* for that very reafon, fpare me iiot," ii. 55- [146]. 

No true Friend can aft: to be relieved from a diflreis, 
which would involve a Friend in as deep a one^ lu 204* 
' [288]. 

But if, with a fmall inconvenience to onrfelyes, we 
cduld relieve €ur Friend from a great one, I would not, 
fays Mifi Howe, admit the refufer into the outermoft fold 
of my heart, ii. 2,04. See tf^ii. 153. [ii. 288. See idfa 
Yi. 239]. 

To be difpleafed with a Friend for telling us our 
faults, is putting ourfelves into the inconvenient iituation 
of royalty, ancf out of the way of amendment, ii. 2x0* 

• Verieratrbn is hardly compatible with that fweet fa- 
miliarity which is necefTary to unite two perfbns in the 
bands of Friend(hip, i^W. 

The perfon who has been mifled, is obliged^ as well ifi 
ptiMknce, • 90 in ^nei*ofity and juilice (that her own 
error may not fpread) to caution a troly-beloved Friend 
not to fall inte the like, iii. 53. [196}. 

FreHy to give reproof, and thankfully to receive it, is 
2(h indifpekifable conditicHi of true Friendfliip, iii. 54. 
63. [196. 205}. 

' An apology made ^-ot an honeft and friendly freedom, 
is a fort of civil aflfront, iii. 6^. [207]. 

It is kind \tho' it may he difficult] to conceal from 3 
dear Friend thofe griefs which cannot be relieved, iii. 
^2. [iv. 39]. 

Misfortunes give a call to difcharge the nobleft offices* 
df Friendfliip, ibid. 

Great minds carry their Friendfeip beyond accidents, 
and ties of blood, iii. 278. [iv. 65]. 

Fervent Friendfhips feldom fubnfl between two fifter- 
beauties, both toafts, ifi. 399. [iv. 183]. 

'There is a confentaneoufnefs in fome minds, which 
will unite them ftronger to each other in a few hours, 
than can be done in years with fome others, whom yet we 
fo^ not with difguil, iv. ipo. [294]. An 

tbi Hi0^of ChhU^i%%A^ 127 

An ad»re fpirit in one Fiiead* and a paffive one m 
the other, is likely to make their Fxicadibip durable* 

A great error oogkt lefs to be excofed in one we va* 
lue, than in one to whom we are indifferent^ v. 236. 
£vi. 1443- 

True FriesdAiip will make a perfon carefol to ihua 
fiftry appearance that may tend to debafe it by felfiOi 
or fordid view«, v. 551. [vi. 267]. 

No Frieodfkip, but what is virtnons, can be worth/ 
of that iacred name, y. 379^ 380. 383. [vi. 298. 301]. 

There are Friendihips ^at are only Jbottle-deep> vtj 
17. 238^ 239. [vi. 345. Yii. 160, 1613. 

FriendQiips wich gay people, who became intimate be- 
canfe they were gay, the reafon for their firfi intimacy 
ceafing, will fade» vi. 17. [345]. 

The Friendfliip of gay people, and of free liven^ 
9«ght more properly to be calWd Cwnfaniot^ipy ibid. 

Ladies, confpicttouily .worthy, gire ftgni&cance to 
thofe whom they honour with ^eir intimacy, vi. 42. 


The ties of pore Friendflup are more binding and ten- 
der than thofe of Nature, vi. 42. [372]. 

It is diigracefnl to be tho«|^t to be the intimate 
Friend of a profligaae and incoftsgible man, vi 68. 


There is an exalted pleafure in inteUc£lual Friendihip, 

that cannot be tailed in the grofe fumea of feafuality, 

vi. 74. [405]. 

Warmth becomes Friendihip when our Friend » 
Aroggliag with undetorved calamity, vi. 7^. [407}. 

I have no notion, fy^s Mifi Uon^t^ o£ coolnefs io 
Friendfhip, be it difgoifed, or diftinguifliedr by. the name 
of Prudence^ or what it will, ibid. 

It is not every one wlio has a foul capable of Friend- 
ihip, vi. 78. [410]. 

One day pi^^ate men wiU be convinced, that what 
they call Friendfhip is chaff and ftubble, and that no- 
thing is worthy of that facred nanie that has not virtue 
for its bafi^ vi. 23<^. [vii. 162}. 

The good opinion we iiave entertma'd •£ a perfon 

G 4 we 

129 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfrom 

we have once thought worthy of it, is not to be li^tly 
given up, vi. 286. [vii. 211]. 

Friendfhip, generally fpeaking, is too fervent a flame 
for female minds to manage, CqL Morden, vii. 243. £viii. 

— A light that, but in few of their hands, burns 
fleady, knd often hurries the Sex into flight and abfur- 
dity ; and, like'other extremes, is hardly ever durable. 
Col, Morderiy ibid. 

Marriage, which is the higheft ftate of Fricndfhip, ge- 
nerally abforbs the moil vehement Friendihip of female 
to female, ibid. 

What female mind is capable of two fervent Friend- 
ships at the fame time ? ibid. 

The following are the requifites, according to CoL 
Mordeny of fervent and durable female Friendihip ; to 
wit. That both (hould {UkeClariJfa ondMifs Howe] have 
enlarged hearts, a good education, and minds thirHing 
after virtuous knowlege. — 

That" they (hould be nearly of equal fortunes, in order 
to be above that dependence on each other, which fre- 
quently deftroys the familiarity that ia the cement of 

That each Ihould excel in diflerent ways, that there 
might not be room for either to envy the other.— 

That each Ihould fee fomething in the other to fear, 
as well as to love.— 

That it Ihould be an indifpenfable condition of their 
Friendihip, each to tell the other of her failings, and to 
be thankful for the freedom taken.— 

That the one Ihould be, by Nature gende % the other 
made fi by her love and admiration of her Friend, vii. 
243, 244. [viii. 167]. 


Gaming. « 

Gaming is equally a wafter of dme and talents, 
S. 66. [69]. 

It is making my friends a very ill compliment, fays 
Clarijfa^ to fuppote they wilh to be polTeflfed of what 
belongs' to me ; and I ihould be very univorthy, if I-de- 


the Hifiory of Clakissa. 129 

^d to make myfelf a tide to what it theirs^ vii. 286. 
[viii. 212]. 

'Except for trifles, what prudent perfon would fabmit 
to Chance what they' are already fare of ? ihtJ. 

' High Gaming is an immorality, a fordid vice, the 
child of avarice, and a dire£t breach of that command-* 
ment which forbids us to covet what is our neighbour's, 

Generofity. Generous Minds. 

Ressrvbs are painful to open and ftt€ fpirltSy ' 
i. 9. [9]. ' . 

GeneroBs mind«-are rather to be invited than iiitimi« 
dated, i« 46. 77. [48. 80]. 

A generoos'fpirited woman, to be happy, fhould 
take care not to marry a fordid man, i. 74. l7y]» 

A generous mind will love the perfon who correft^ 
her in love, the better for the corredion, i. 179. { 1 82]. 

The tendereft and moft generous minds, when harlhly 
treated, frequently become the mc^ inflexible, i. 388^ 

[2- 793- 

Generofity engages the nobly-minded as ilrongly a» 

Love, ii. 69. [160]- 

Undue difpleafure, when appearing to a generous 
mmd undue, will procure to the fuppofvd oSender high 
amends, ii. 71^ .[1^2}.- 

Noble-minded perfons, in the exertion of their muniii* 
cence,fxlently reproach the reft of the world, ii« 80. [170}. , 

Tho' a geberous perfon may w^ih fhe had not beeo 
laid under obligations for a benefit unrequeftedly con-' 
ferr*d on herfelf, or her dependents, yet ihe cannot bat 
love the obliger the more for the 'exertion of^ a fpirit fo 
likeherown, ii* 8i;'[^7oi}v ' • i 

A generous perfon highly pratfed will endeavour ta 
dderve the good opinion of the applaudery that (he may 
not at once difgrace his judgment and her own heart, 
iL 89- [178; 179]. . , 

A truly generous and candid nmid will often make 
eaecnfes for other people, in cafes where it would not 
have allowed of one lor itfelf; ii, 204. See alfo ii. 80; [lir 
tAZ. Stioifi i7o]« 

G 5 A 

100: Setuime]sts> &c. exira&sdfiw^ 

ii. 303. [iii. 41]. 

A trtoly geaoFOUiS^ fpirit will, >ti^'re<qiii6te^ cafes» give 
advice agaioft itfelf, iii, 53, $4.. [1:96}. 

' A fr«fik, or open-miaded perfoQ:» at oac<»» where ]^e 
like$4 mingles minds, aa4 i$ forwjird to. diffip^te difiU 
dances, iii. 168, [joo]. 

A generous fpirit cannot enjoy its happinefs withoafi 
communication^ iii. i8r.. [s'*^* 

The perfbn who h^s the advantage in an argument^ 
ipd'is incapable of tnfote ot txinmi^ op^« it, will dif- 
appoint envy, and fubdac ill-will, iii. 276. [iv. 6a]. 

TroeGenerofit/ is more than Potitenef^, k is i»i»re 
than good Faith, it is more than Hano^r, it is more 
than Jaflice; fihce ail tbefe are bat daties.^ iii* 30S. 
{iv. 94]. 

The maa who would be thought gf»eroiis» mxA && 
be jttft, iii. 313. [iv^ 98]. 

A generous Imind will not take pleafnre in vexing 
even thofe by whoask it has beeok diibref&'d^ iv. 360. 
[v. 198]. 

Leave ihould not. be waited for to do a right, a joft, 
a generous thing, if it be in one's power 10 do it, v. ij. 
lzS9,.t6o2. , - • • 

.It may be verygeoerous is one perfou to offer ^hat 
it would be ungenerous in another to accept^ v. ^%j» 
[vi. 3C5]. ^ V 

A Perfon of a mind not ungeneroas, will radier be 
forry for having given an ofteace, than diipleafed at be- 
ing amicably told of it, vi. 4. [331]. 

Generous mindfi ar& always of kin, Hid. 

A .gen^oae mixKi mv^ be uneafy when k i^ laid mi^ 
der oblfgations which arc beyond jits -.power to retunv 
vr.?4a.' [372]. :" ■■.^\!: ' - " . 

Love.:aiBi: Gtatttade will; not be-, narrowed. dowA tft* 
meer family>confiderations, vii. 178. [viii. too}. 

It is generous to take the part of an abfent perfoa if 
not flagrantly culpable, vii. 274. [viii. 199]. 

• Generofity is the happy mediam between ParimiOii]r 
aiid ;Profuienef«, yii..28i..fvui. 206}. 

A generous mind will not fcruple to ^va advafitsil^ 


tk H^^y ef Clarissa* i|I 

to a perfon of merit, du>' Dot always > ta h» own ad^ 
vantage, vii. 283. [viii. 206]. 

S40 Friexidfkip# Goodnefs. 

Goodnefs. Grace. 

A eoo» Berfon will not wilfulljr moot die ccafif^ 
cnwn of an adverfary, i. 63. \!^$\ 

A good man need not be afraid that hia condttft 
ihould be prjr'd iato» i. 68. [70}. 

Goodnefs is Grestnefs, i. 23S. [246]. 
'A good perfon, far from being goilcy of a faliiood^ 
will not have recourfe to equiTOcationy i. 25 S. [267]. 

People, fays Lovelatty who aft like angels ought to 
hare angels to deal with, ii. 9S. [177}' 

How great a fatisfadien i^ it to a good mind to- be 
able to i«£bdfe« that it has rather fitj^edy than cffef^ed, 
3Hnn>Dg \ n. 286. [in. 25 J. 

A good man will not make the ilambers of a weitl^ 
woman oneafj, iii. 131. [268]. 

A worthy perfon will be always ready to draw fa- 
vourable concluiions on the actions and words of othersr 
i«r. 356, [v. 194]. ^. 

A good perfon will wifli to make every one' happy, 
even to her very fervaaits, iv. 375, [v. 214]. 

Goodnefs and generofity of fentiments give grace and 
loAre to beauty, vi. 21, [350]. 

A good woman will have other view& in living than 
the common ones of eating, ikeping, dre&g, vifiting^ 
fcfr. vi. 66. [398}. 

Goodnefs muft be uniform, vii. i3*-[352}« 

The word Grace is the Rake's Shibboleth. There 
are no hopes of one who can make a jeft either of it, 
mt of him who iiie» it, vti. 142. [viii. 62}. 

A good-natored and polite perfon will not expofe even 
sreteoders to Science, in their abfenee^ to the ndicule of 
lively fpiritSy vii. 284. [viii. 210}. 
S49 Friendihxp. Virtue. 

Gratitude* Ingratitude, 

It is Ingratitude and Tyranny in a woman to ufe a 
JiBum the wojdic iot his re&ea to her, X 248. L^s?}- 

G 6 A 

1^2 Sentiments, &c. txtraSted frim 

" A thai^Icfal fpirit is the fame as a joyfal one, iy. 92/ 


We muft be greatly fetifible of the Ingratitude of thofe 

%ve love, vi. 47. £376]. 

To take advd|[\tage of an innocent creatoress good 
opinion, to her own detriment, or ruin, is the moft un- 
gxatefal wickednefs that can be committed by man, vi. 
^62. [vii. 292]. 

Particalar inftances of Ingratitude in another to as, 
ihoold not be permitted to narrow and cohtrad our cha- 
rity into general doubt or jealoufy, vii. 274. [viii. 199]- 

Grief. Sorrow. Grievances. 

When grievances are to be enumerated, flight mat- 
ters are often thrown in to make weight, that other- 
wife would not have been complained of, i. 211. [219]. 

That filence wants not either merit or amiablenefs, 
•which is owing to the perfoh^s being afraid of difcover- his <voicef the depth of his concern, ii. 82. [172}. 

What a poor paflive machine is the body, when the 
mind is diforder'd ! ii. 100. [188}. 

Sorrow makes an ugly face odious, Lo^eh iv* 190. 
vi. 93. [v. 19. vii. 5, 6). 

Thofe who mourn for a loft friend » will find their 
Grief very much abated, when they are themfelves at- 
tacked by a dangerous, or painful iilneis, Lo*viJ. iv. 126. 

Grief, fiys Lon;eIacf, is a (low worker, and gives time 
to pop in a little joy between its fullen fits, iv. 174. 

[375]- ^ ^ . 

It is the humble, fiilent Grief that only defervei pity, 

iv. 191. [v, 20], 

How anxioufly do we pray for the life of a dear child 
in its illnefs, which when grown to maturity we have 
reafon to wi^ had not been granted to oor prayers I vL 
116. [vii. 30]. 

1'hofe, who fly from home to avoid an heavy fcene^ 
labour under more diflrefs iv the intermediate fufpenfe^ 
tkan they conld have done were they to be prefent at it, 
vii. 25. [3643. . 

SeaU>aab> aai^ccefiarjc employments ihoold be fonad 


the Hifi^ry i/Claeissa.' 133 

OQt, to amufe and to divert perfons faffering nnder vio- 
lent Grief, or lofs of deareft friends, yii. 102. [viii. 

It is natural for us, in every deep and (xncere Griely 
to intereft in it all we know, vii. 149. [viii. 69}. 

Grief [for the lofs effrientis] may be mellowM by time 
into remembrances more fweet than painful^ vii. 180. 
[viii. 102]. 

See^ Adverfity. Confolation. 

Guilt. Vice, Wickcdncfs. Evil Hahiis. Evil 


Habits are not eafily changed, i. 236. vii. sir. 
p. 245* viii. 134]. 

Vice is a coward, and will hide its head when fteadily 
oppofed by ai) advocate for virtue, i. 327. [ii. 19]. 

What mnft be the force of evil Habits in a man, 
who thinks right, yet difgraces his knowlege by aBing 
njorong! \\u 13. [i57]- 

The guilty eye will fink nnder an examining one that 
is innocent, iii. 164. [300]. 

The Guilty lefs bear the dete^inp; truth, than the !n« 
aocent do the degrading falfhood, iv. 2c. [208]. 

Bad men take more pains to be wicked, than ft would 
coil them to be good, iv. .108. v. 96.* [iv, 303. v. 


The fun fliines alike opon the bad and the good ; 

bot the guiky mind it cannot illuminate^ v. 80. [330]. 

Every vice generally brings q^ it own puniihment, v» 

80, [33»]v 

The injured will often fweetly fleep when the injurev 
cannot dofe his e|ves, ihuL 

There can hardly be a greater puuifiinient hereafter, 
Ja^s Lemelaee, refltBing m his laft outrage on C//7r^,' than 
that which I at this inftant experience in my own re»> 
inorfe, ihid. 

What a detection muft ever fall to the lot of Guilty 
fajs hemelaeef on Ciari£a*s behaviour in the Penknife fcene^ 
were it given to Innocence always thus nobly to exert \u 
jclf 1 V. 150. [vi. 62]. 


134 SentimeniSi &c. ixtrnffedjr^m 

Masy people are deterrM fFom Evil raehev by tke fear 
pf dctcdion, than by principle, v. 286. [vi. 19]. 

To plunder a wreck, and to rob at a £re, are the 
p^Si barbarovs of all villainies,, vi. 65. [396}. 

Sins prefuroptuouily cdnanuCted againft knowlege, and 
a^ainft vrarning, are the moil unpardonable of all others, 
vi. 119. [vii. 33]. 

Thofe who caiinot (land the (hock of puhltc fliame* 
ought to be doubly pareful that they intcur not private 
Guilt which may bring them to it, vi. 287. [vii. 212]. 
. Gttilt* when dieite^^ed, is^, literaUy ipeaking, its owa 
puniiher, even in thisworld, fince it makes the haughtiefl 
Ipirits look like mifcreahts,- vi. 346. [vii. 274]. 
' Evil Courfe3 can no longer yield pleafitre than while 
thought and refieclion can be kept off, vii. 200, [viii. 

See Innocence. I]:^:atitiide. LibertiBe. Remocfe* 


Happinefs. Content. 

- « 

It is happy for a perion to leave the woiid pofeiTed 
of every one^s love, i. 5, £5]. 

Happinefs and Riches ^e two thongs, and very feldom 
meettogethe;, i. 123. [127], 

Were we perfect, which no one can be, we could not 
be happy in this li^ (eveii in tfeie nfaai acceptation of 
the word) unlefs thofe with whom we have to deal, and 
more efpecially thofe who have any controal over us, 
were governed by the principles by which we ourielYet 
are dive^d, 1. 125, [127, 12^}. 

To know we are happy, and not to leare it to s(fter« 
itfk^lion to look back upoi&the preferable Fall with a 
heavy and (elf-accofing bearr^ is the highelt of h^maa 
ftlid^es, ii* 77. [i'67}. 

What a happinefs muft that man know, who moves 
xegvdarly to uime laudable end, and has nothing to re- 
proach himfclf with in ht^ progrefs ta it f iir. ^t^* 


. T^ bcireft to .CdnMRt it tit: drchoft ImrfA ibst caa 
be fought after, v. 221. [vi. 127}. • 

^^ftdendfittp. Genen>&ty, Goodad^. 

Health. ; 

- SoTfHt) Health wi!! make the foul and bod)r pleafed 
wirit each other, i. 264. [274]^ 

Poverty is the mother of Health, ii. 16. fiio}. 

Temperance will give Health and'^goor to an ori- 
ginally tender eonftitotion, if. 289. pii. 28]. 

Health difpofes us to be pleafed with oiu-fehres ; stud* 
then we are in a way to be pleaOtd with erery one eHe, 

vi. 30- [359]- 

In Health every hope rifes upon ns ; every hour pre- 
fents itfelf to us on dancing feet, iBid. 

• What Mr. Addifon. ikys of Liberty, may, with iHIl 
greater propriety, be faid of Health ; for what is Liberty 
itfelf without Health ? 

It makes the gloomy face of Nature gay; 
Gives beauty to the Sun, and pleafore to the 
Day. iiiJ. 
Men of very ftrong bodily Health feldom know hpw 
to pity the fick or infirm, vi, 249. [vii. 171}. 
SecFhyfyc. Vapours. 

Heart. Hmnanity. 

He that wants a heart, wants every thing, i. 264. 

A wrong head mzy be conv»iced> but who can give a 

Heart where it is wanting ? iHJ, 

The perfot who wanc$ a fading Heait, wasft* the 
higheft 3^7^ 2ife> x.a96* [296]« yet ift ikved staa/' 
griefs by tbat defea^ i . .264^ [2.74}* 

Where the impOrtaat cafes iDvolittttarily^ 
a» may be faid* mifgivea^ its, Inifgivingfl^ ought generally 
tQ be attended to, a^ if die impaifes of Cotffciettce, ii* 
215. [3003. 

It is more to a laan^a praifeto ihew a kind Hearty 
than a cunning head, ii. Z26, [310}. 

Peifoitt of Humanity waU not bo ofhancd^ oa pro. 


13^ Sendmentty &c extraStdfr^ 

pfer occafion«» to fhew by their eyes ikat tibey have feel- 

xng Hearts, iv. 122. [319]. 

Women fhoal^ make it a rule to judge of ti^ Heart 
of a man, as he is or is not affeded by the woes of 
others, whether real or reprefented, ibid. 

. He who can place his. pride in a barbarous infenfibi- 
lity^ is ignorant of the principal Glory of the Uumaa 
Nature, ilnd. 

-Who can be happy, fayi Lontelace^ and have a feeling 
Heart ? yet he, who, has it not, mufl be a Tiger and 
no Man, iv. 339. [v. 1763. 

Even thofe people who have bad Hearts,, will have a 
veneration for thofe who have good ones, v. 283. Set 
44fo iv. 217. [vi, 194. Bit alfo v. 48]. 

What the unpenetrjiting world ^call Humanity, is of- 
ten no more than a weak mind pitying itfelf, Jjyueh v. 
J04, [vi. 217]. 

A capacity of being moved by the diftrefTes of pur 
fellow-creatures is far from being difgraceful to a manly 
Heart, v. 358. [vi. 275]. 

Sweet is the pain whicji generous natures feel for the 
diibeifes of others, vi. 2S0. [vii. 205]. 

A kind Heart is a greater bleihng to its pofleflbr^ 
than it can be to any other perfon who may receive be- 
nefit from it, vi. 295. [vii. 221]. 

Set Friendflup. Generoiity. Goodnefs. 


What a praife is it to Honefly, that every man- pre- 
tends to k, even at the inftant that he knows he- means 
to be a knave ! i. 229. [237]. 

Honefty is'the chief pride of the low; In the high, 
the love of power, of grandeur, of pleafure, mifleadr 
and induce a paramount prid^ which too often fwallows^ 
up the more laudable oae, ii. 59. [150].. 

What is there in this dull word, or thing, calPd Ho* 
nefty, stjks hoveUut^ that even I cannot help tMnktng, 
the temporary emanation of it in fuch a man as- Tom* 
Unfon, amiable \ iv. 367. [v. 205, 206J. 

It is fo much every one^s duty to be honeft, that no*' 
one has merit ia being fb i every: honeft nan thenefbre 



tke Hifiory cf CisAKissa} 137 

may call himfelf honeft without the imputation of va- 
nity, vii. 268.. [viii. 193]. [See Goodnefs. 

Human Life. 

The pkineft path in our journey thro' life, is, as ac- 
Antfwleges Lonjelace^ the fafeft and the bed, iii. 261. [iv. 


In all human affairs, the convenient and the ihconve* 
ntent, the good and the bad, are fo mingled, that there 
is no having the one without the other, iv. 46. [236]. 

As Human Life is chequer-work, a perfon of prudence 
will fct fo much good againft fo much bad, in order tO 
ftrike a balance* iv. 119. [316]. 

When can creatures, who hold by fo uncertain a te- 
nure as that of Mortality, be faid to be out of danger f 
vi. 55. [386]. 

This is one of thofe common forms of fpeech that 
proves the frailty and the prefumptioa of poor mortak 
at the fame time, ibid. 

What are ten, twenty, or thirty years to look back 
to, in the longeft of Which periods forward, we ihall 
all perhaps be mingled with the daft from whence we 
fprung? vi. 2^%, [vii. 174]. 

What is even the longell Life that in hiehiiealch we 
wiih for ? what, as we go along, but a lite of appre- 
heniions, fometimes for our friends, and oftener for our* 
felves ? vi. 402. [vii. 334]. 

And at lad, when arrived at the old age we covet, 
one heavy lofs or deprivation having fucceeded another, 
we fee ourfelves ftripp'd, as may be faid, of every one 
we lovM ; and expofed as uncompanionable poor crea- 
tures to the flights of jolUing youth, who want to pufh 
ns oi the ft age, in hopes to poiiefs what we have, ibid^ 

And, faper- added to all, our own infirmities every day 
increafing ; of themfelves enough to make the Life we 
wiih for, the greateft difcafe of all, vi. 402. [vii. 335]^ 

To wifh for an exemption from all infelicities, w^re 
to wifh for that Which can never happen in this world, 
and what perhaps ought not to be wifh'd for, if hy a 
wifh we could obtain it, flnce we are not to live ahvays, 
vi. 407. [vii. 359J. \Su Confolation. 


Human Nature. 

Nature gives us relations tlut choice would not 
have made fuch, i.- 194^ [£oi]. 

What a world is this ! one half of the people ia it 
.tormenting the other half, yet being themfelves tofment* 
ed in tormenting ! i. 346. v. 296. [ii. 38. vi. zo8}. 

What a contemptible rogue, whether in poor or rich, 
ii Human Nature ! Lo<veL ili. 25. iv. 328. Sg$ alfim. 
268. [iii. 169. V. 164. See^iljh'vr, 55}. 

How apt is Human Nature to judify a byas which it 
wo^ld give a perfon pain to conteud with! iii. 66. 31;^ 
[iii. 207, 208. iv. 97]. 

It is but ihaping the bribe to the tade, and eveiy one 
has his price, Lavel. iv. 328. [v. 164]. 

The clown, as well as his betters, pradlifes what 
he cenfures, and cenfures what he psadifes, iv. 403. 

Cv. 244I. 

In every human bread Tome one paffion generally 
breajcs throvigh principle> and eontrouU us au, Ltvel. 
Y. 104. [vi. j]. 

In toxoa things we all err, vi: 11. [338]. 

Thofe who err on the unfavourable fide of a judg- 
ment, are likely to be in the right five Umfi^ in fix : So 
vile a thing is Human Nature, fiys LrveUcM, vi. 97. 
[vii 9t]. 

See Detra6lIon» 


Humility muft be theoroammst of a. high condi* 
tion, i. i86.~[i93]. 

. Perfons of Humiiity and Affability, by their fw^etneff 
of nuuuiers, infenfibly draw people into their fentimcDtsi, 
iii. 276. [iv. 62 J. 

All human excellence is but comparative. There 
may be perfons who excel us, as much as we fanfy we 
excel the ineaneft, yii. 272. [viii. 198J. 

The grace that makes every grace amiable,, is Humi* 

^Duty. Goodnefs. . . 

' - . Hulband 

Hufhand and Wife. 

Wh A T a Hufband muft that man ms^e who is iwk 
of pceiQgative, and yet flands ip need of the infinidtion 
which a man fhould bo qualified co giro \ i. 205. [212]. ^ 

The heart, not the figure of the maOf is what &ouId 
determine a woman in the choice of an Huibftnd^ i. 
359. [268]. 

Sobriety in a man ii a great point to be fecured, ilnct 
fb many mifchiefs happen thro' excefe, L 260. [269]. 

A9 obedience h m?Jt^ a part of the matrimontial row, 
a woman ftionld not teach a man, hy a fuktre in that; 
to difpenfe witji perhaps mare material parts of his« 
i- 261. [271]. . 

The principal views of a good Wife, in adorning 
her porfon, fhoidd be to preferve her Hufband*3 affb^ion, 
9tA to do credit to his choice, i. 274. [z&^J. 

A married woman &ould be eren fearful of attrad*- 
ing the %yt% of any man bjit thofe of her Hu&and, ihU. 

A gloomy fpirit in'a Hufband will fivallownpa chear« 
fy\ one in his Wife, i. 324. [il 16}. 

Greatnefs of fool is reauired in a woman of ftnfe aiid 
generofi^r, to make her la her heart forbear to defpife 
a Ic^w-mindoi Hujfcand, i. 376. iv. 29. [ii. 6^* vti 

HnJbandt ar« o&esn jealoua of Am aathoii^. and con- 

(eqoence with wom«% who hayewk, ii. 204. [ii. 92]. 

A Wife is the keeper of her Htiiband's honour, ii» 
345. [iii. 81]. . 

A Wife's faults., in the world's eye, bring more dif- 
gra^e upon ^e Huiband than even upon herielf, ii. 345. 
1^. 317. [iii. 8<i., iv. loi]. 

The Wif^,. by infidelity, may do more injury ta tho 
Hulband than the Hufband can to the Wife, ii. 349* 
[iii. 843. 

Handfqme Huibands often make a Wife's heart ake^ 
iii. 29. [172, 173]. 

Handfome Hufbands think the woman they marry un- 
der obligation to them, ii. 29. [173].. 

A Hufband and Wife may be too much of one temper 

tft agree, iii..4ii» [189]. 


14^ Sentiments, &c, ex traced from 

Two perfons of tempers not cojDiparativeiy bad, may 
be very unhappy if they will be both out of humour at 
onetime, iii. 46. [199]. - 

It is a moil affecting thing to be feparated by death 
from a good Hufband, and left in deflitute circum- 
fiances, and that not by h's fault, iii. 164. fjoo]. 

A wife man will rather endeavour to infpire a con- 
fcioufnefs of dignity in the heart of his Wife, than to 
deprefs and humble her in her Wn eyes, iii. 295. 303. 
333. [iv. 81. 89. 117]. 

Prudence, virtue, and delicacy of mind in a Wife do 
a man more honour in the eyes of tlie world, than the 
fame qualities in himfelf, iii< 31. 7- [iv. loi]. 

A good woman will be as delicate of her Hufband's 
honour as of her own, iv. 30. [219]. 

A good Wife will think it her duty to lay up out of 
her own feparate' proviiion, if not a too fcanty one, for 
the family good, and for accidents, iv. 30, 31. [219]. 

A tyrant Hufband, /ays Lo<velacey makes ^ dutiful 
Wife, iv. 57. [248, 249]. 

The virtue of a woman who has a 'bad Hufband is 
always is danger, iv. 74. [266 — 268]. 

A proud and bad fpirit cannot bear a fuperiority of 
talents in a Wif«, tho* fhe and all her excellencies are 
his in full property, iv. i8y. [v. 14]. 

A bountiful tempered Wife flioold take care, thatl>y 
doing more than ju&ice to others, (he do<^ not /e/s than 
joilice by her hufband, iv. 220. [v. ci). 

To bear much with fome Wives, is to be under a nc- 
ceility to bear more, iv. 316. [v. 152]. 

Hufbauds and Wives who live together in good un* 
derilanding, give to ilrangers . an alnioft unerring proof 
of the goodnefs of their hearts, v. 283. Et i cmtra [vi. 
194. Ei e ctHtra], 

Happy is the marriage where neither Man nor Wife 
has any wilful or premeditated evil [or io^ju cunningl to 
reproach each other with I ibid. 

What good principles, fays Lcoiiace^ muft that Wife 
have, who, [/» temptation] preferves her faith to a man 
who has no fliare in her a^cdtions ! v. 396. [vi. 315]. 

It is impoffible that a man of a qruel nature, of a 
- fportive 

tie FSficry cf CtARissA. 141 

fporttre invention, and who has an high opinion of 
mmfelf, and a low one of the Female Sex, ,(hould make 
a tender and good Hafband, vi. 127, izS, [vil. 42]. 

A prudent Wife will conquer by yielding, vi. 1 29. 
[vii. 43]. ■ 

Women (hould confide;*, that a man who is made un- 
eafy at home, can divert himfelf abroad ; which a wo- 
man cannot fo eafily do» without fcandal, vii. 244, 
[viii. 168]. 

The managing Wife, . if prudent, may lay a fedming 
obligation on a meek, or good-natured Hufband, by 
the performance of no more than her duty, vii. 246. 
[viii. 170]. 

See Advice to Women. Conrtfhlp. Marriage. 


The man who has* dually prevail'd with a woman 
to throw herfelf into his power, has no occafion for Hy- 
pocrify, ii. 395. See alfo ii. 318; [iii; 128. See al/oiiu 

What an Hyaena is the woman who will put her 
handkerchief to her eye oftener than (he wets it 1 iii. 
164. 1^00], 

A text of Scripture is often, Lon;e/ace/ays, a cloak for 
an Hypocrite, iv. 96. [290]. 

See Human Nature. . . 


liUwill. Envy. Hatred. ^lalice. Spite. 

Whom we fear more than love, we are not far from 
hating, i. 19. [20]. 

Ill-will, if it cannot find occafions of difgufl, will 
make them, i. 20. [213. ^ <> - - 

Merit and excellence are the fuel that Jqeeps cnyy, 

alive, i. 53. 72. [5^.74]- : .. 

Envy and Ill-will often extend their malignancy to^ 
the whole families of the hated perfon, i. 72. [7j]. 

Ill-will has eyes ever open to the faulty fide; as 
cood-will, or love* i» blind even to real iimperfedlons. 

142 Sc(WAfeAA/^. iifil^^&edfivm 

Hatred is txt cuctery even to the comttxon forms of ci- 
tWitjr, i. 187, [195]. 

Projects formed in MaHce, fcttd founded in Sd£flmef5» 
oiight tabe difappointed, i. 194. [202}. 

Hatred mifreprefents all things, i. 243. [251]. 

Spiteftil people will ft)nietinrcs ihew gayety and fa- 
vour to one they vtiltie not, merely to vex another tvith 
whom they are difpleafed, ri. 82. [172]. 

Abfence heightens Majice, ii. 246. .[329]. 

Hatred and Anger are but nmporaty p^ons in wor- 
thy minds, iv. 8f?. [278]. 

Wliere tbe etir is open to atrtrfation, accufers ^vill 
not be wanting, vi, 157, 158. [vii. 74]. . 


The Female Sex haird great advantages over the other 
in all the powers ths« relate to di^ IxnaginafCion, ii. tS. 

]Perfecndon and DifcOuragcmeat depi^s ingenuous 
minds, and blunt the edge of lively Imaginations, ii. 
It). [113]. 

. Whatever we ftrongly iniagine is at t^e time more thanf 
imaginary, altho* it may not appear fo to others, ii. 93. 

Warm Imaginations are not without a mixture of £n«^ 
thnliafm, iii. 278. [iv. 64]. 

Fancy or Imagination,' bethe fubjeft either joyous or 
grievous, is able to outgo fa(^, vii. 25. [364]. 

. People pf l^ng Imaginations are generally diftin*> 
guiihed from people of judgment by their peculiar flights 
and whiftifies, vii. 195. [viii. 115]. 


Persons may be drawn in agaittft Itidination, 'tiB 
dlrf«dto^^Hvwiflh?'ai-f<icKnanoti, i. 59. t!6'2]. ' 

Some people need po greater 'punifiim^t than to* be 
fermiftfedU piirAie their own ItidiAatiotis/i. . 1 1 5 ^ [ 1 5 6] , 

Whatever our hearts »are in, fyys Lo'Velaci, our heads 
Hftllfdl!6w;ii.'-32V. [iii. 653. 

It 4« theiart <Jf 'Ae'l)evil,iand'6f L^bc^tncs, to fuit tern- 
jitatiQjs to Inclinations, ii. 344. v. laa. [iii.»^or/yi.'i43. 
' * vte Libertine. Love. In- 


tndifcretion. Inconfideratenefs. Prefump* 


Ta £ ladifcretions of % reputcdlx prudent peribo, are 
a wound to Virtae, i. 372. [ii. 6^]. 

A g^eat and wilful Indifcretioa* mot only debafes a! 
perfon in her own eyes, but weakens her audiorky and 
influence over others, ii. 310. [iii.47].. 

It is one of the crueleft circumftances that attends the 
faults of the Inconiidepat«, that die makes all who love 
her aahappy, and gives joy only to the enemies of ker 
family, ii. 397. [iii. 130]. 

Prefumption join'd to Inexperience is often the luin 
even of well-meaning perfons, iii. 244. [iv. 36]. 

A worthy mind drawn in to an Indiscretion, will have 
as much concern for the pain given by it to thofe ibe. 
K>ves, as for the difgraces brought up{}n herfelf, iv* 
xzi. Cv.52]. 

Ste Advice to Women. 

Infidel. Scofier. 


T h E !t E Can be no hope of a man of profligate life, 
whbfe vices have taken root in Infidelity, iv. 1 22. [319]. 
Thofe who know leaft arc the gteateft SoofFers, fays 

Belfordy vi. 64. tS'QS]- 

Scoffers generally cenfiire without knowlege, laugh 
without reason, and are noify and loud on things of 
whkh they know the leafl, Heif. ibid. 
See Guilt. Religion. 


An innocent man may defpife obloquy, i. 265. [^2^5 J. 
An innocent, perfon douoted, wiH not fear his trxal> 

ii. 350, [iii. 86]. 

Innocence (according to its company] had better have 
a greater mixture of the terpent with the dove, than it 
generally has, i^W. iv. 280. [v. 114]. ^* 

Happy is 'the perfon who can fay witli ClanllSj, ,** t 

^ ihbuld be glad that all tire wofrld-kncw iny Ifeartl "te^ 

3 " my 


144 Sentiments^ &c. extraBed from 

my enemies fit in judgment upon my adions ; fairly 
• fcann'd, I.fear^nottherefQlt, iv. 358. [v. 174, 175]. 

Let them even a(k me my moft fecret thoughts ; 

and whether the revealing of them make for me or 

againft me; I will reveal them," iv. 338, [v. 175]. 

An innocent perfon, being apt to judge of others 

hearts by his own, is the eaiiell to be impo& upon, vi. 

152. [vii. 68]. 

See Goodnefs. Virtue. 


The man who can creep and fawn to thofe by whom 
he hopes to be a gainer, will be infolent and over-bear- 
ing to thofe on whom he can have no fuch view, i. 165. 
ii. 93. [i. 171. ii. 182]. 

In-door Infolents who frighten women, children, and 
Servants, are generally cravens among men, i. 323. 
[ii. I cj. 

Infolent controul more effeflually fubdues fome female 
fpiritfe, than kindnefs and concefCon, i. 325. [ii. 16]. 

Some people ad by others, as if they thought patience 
and forbearance neceifary on 6ne fide to be upon good 
term? together, but always take care rather to owe^ than 
to//iythe obligation, ii. 32. [125]. 

People wjio find their anger has made them coniider* 
able, will feldom be pleafed, iii. 67. [208, 209]. 

Concefiions made to ungenerous fpirits, ferve only to 
confirm them in their Infolence, iii. 67. [209]. 

Infolence is the parent of meannefs, iv. 372. [v. 2x1]. 
Bee Guilt. Libertine. 


An error againji Judgment, is infinitely worfe than an 
error in Judgment, i. 263. [i. 273]. 

In order to form k Judgment of the tempers of men 
with whom we incline to have a clofe connexion, we 
fhould attend to their behaviour u^n (light difappoint- 
ments or provocations, and then we (hall be able perhaps 
to . decide what is to be afcribed to Art in them, and 
\Vhat to Nature, ii. 29. £122]. 


the Hiftory i?/ Clarissa. 14.^ 

She wlio a£b up to the heft of he/ Judgment^ at Che 
time (he is called open to a£iy has the lefs to blame 
herfelf for, tho^ the event fhould prove unfavourable^ 
ii. 296. SeealfoX. I2i.'[iii. 34. See aJ/o u 121^]. 

The eye and th^ heart, when too dofely allied, are 
generally at enmity with the Judgment, iii. 4J..270, 273; 
[iii. i88. iv. 57, 58]. 

To judge of the reafonablenefs of the conduA and 
refentment of others, we ought to put ourfelves exM&iy 
in their fituations, vi. 1^8. [vii. 43 J. 

Juftice* Injuftice. Right. Wrong, 

I N an unjuft donation, the giver and receiver [/Ar lot* 
ter knowing h to be fi] are both culpable, i. 78. 1 22» 
306. [18. 127. 318]. 

There is a Right and Wrong in every thing, let peo« 
pie put what glbfs they will upon their aftions, ii. 74. 

A woman may then doubt the JulHce of her caufe, 
when thofe who loved her, and are not principals in the 
point in debate, condemn her, iii. C4. [197]. 

, A man reflets upon himfelf, and upon the company 
he has kept, if he treats common inuances of Juflice, 
Gratitude and Benevolence, as extraordinary, iii. 309. 
[iv. 04, 95]. 

Libertine as I am thought to be^ fays Lovelace, I ne* 
ver will attempt to briog down the meafure of Right 
and Wrong to the ilandard of my own adlions, vi. lo. 


Thofe who take advantage of the neceflities of their 
fellow-creatures, in order to buy any thing cheaper than 
the real worth, are no better than robbers for the differ* 
cncc, vi. 65. [395, 396]. 

There never was a woman fo criminal, who had not 
fome to juflify and fide with her, vii. 9. [347]« 

In all Recommendations, the good and convenience 
of both parties ihould l>e confulted, yn» 164. 178. [viii* 
859 864 in the note, 99]. 

If reflexions are joftly thrown upon 01, we ouj^, 
iftilead of lefentiDg, to ^ftt by tfafo^ji vii. ^96. [vMi* 

H If 

14$ SemuQeiU^ &c. extra^4d from 

. If. jinjiill^ we ought to defpife them,, and the refle&er 
|oo,.finp.e it would be inexcu fable to itrengtheu by an- 
ger an enemy, .whofe malice might. ke difarmed by con-* 
tempt, vii. 1.98. [viii. 120]. 

r Juftice, no lefs than Mercy, is an Attribute of the 
Almighty, vii, 202, [viii. 125]. 

« K,. 

Xecpers, Keeping. 

Men who keep women, as little know how to part 
with 'them ae if they were married to them, iii. 347. 
[iv. 134]. 

A man may keep a woman, but not his eflate, iii. 

347. [iv. 131J. 

Rakes who defpife matrimony, often become the 
dupes of low-bred women, who govern them more ab- 
iblutely than a wife would attempt to do, ihid. 

Keepers who are in. pofTeflion of eftates by legal 
defcent, will not wiih that their fathers had defpiied 
matrimony as they do, ihid. 

Ought not Keepers to have the fame regard for po- 
fterity, as their fathers had ? ihid. 

How can any thing be expedled but riot and walle, 
from creatures* who know the uncertain tenure by which 
they hold, and who have an intereft quite different from 
that of their Keepers ? iii. 348. [iv. 134]. 

Many confiderations with-hold a wife from infidelity 
to a man's bed that cannot weigh with a millrefs, iii. 

348, 349. [iv. 132, 133]. 

Men will bear m^ny things from a . kept . miftrefs, 
which they would nqt b^r from a wife, iii. 349. [iv. 

Kept'women, who are generally low-born, low>eda- 
cated creatures, can make no other returns for the part- 
aerihip in a ihan's fortune into which they are luted, 
but the libidinous ones, which a man cannot boaft of 
but to the difgracc of both, iii. 350. [iv. 135]. 

A Keeper, as he advances in yean, will pxA his ap* 
petite to Iiibertiniim |ro oflFi, ax^xhat tlie iregplar family* 
life will be more and niore palatable to him>' ibid. 

^ ' Many 

MukY coniideratiolis, rpfpeding htmfelf and his ille- 
gitimate cbildreji^ fhould weigh widi a man who keep 
a miftrefs, and defpiies wedlock, ill. 350, 351. [iv. i35f 

The man who is capable of fondnefs to his offsprings 
and has a feeling heart, will marry, iii. 351. [iv. 136]^ 

The natfira^ fruits of treading Id crooked paths arc 
gangers, difgrace, and.a too late repentance^ /^V. 

I^eepers are often .the onllies of their own Libeitinifinv 
Hiding into the married flate with their welUworn doxies, 
.which ^ey. might have entered into with their ladies or 
/dp^riors, iii. 352.. [iv.. 136]. 

See the remarkable Jiory of Tony Jennings^ a noted 

Keeper^ ihid. 
And of Mr. Belton and hh ihomafine^ iii. 354. [iv. 

Old inen. Imagining' themfelves under bbligatiori ,te 
thdr young paramours^ feldom keep any thing froa^ 
thdrknowiege, fv. 206. \f, 36]. 

A confuming malady, and a confoming miftrefs \as 
in Bebons ca/ef art dreadful things to' ftru^gle with in 
thelaftftageof life, v. 401. vi. 172. [vi. ^21. vii. 90^. 

Hardly ever was there d Keeper,^ that' ma^e i^ a 
Keeperels, v. 403. [Vi. ^23]. ' ' , - '*' . j . 

In' the laH ilagfi of a Keepef V Itfe, the Miftrefs's -n^ore 
favoured gallant has been lometimes his.Phv^cian; the 
dying man'StWill hat been ready made For hini; and 
Widow*s weeds have been prdvided the^ moment he is 
departed^ in order to eftablifli a marriage^ vi. 172. ^vii. 

^^^ Libertine. ' ' . 

Law. Lairyer. * 

T H B Law aflerts not itfelf until it is offended^ i. i oigu 

Old Pra£Ufer§ in die Law^ valuie themfelves, (too mnqh 
for difpatch) upon t^j^ir ikill fm^ dradghtimen, iv. 44. 

'&ibe[Lav(^rS^o:feKfh^^ifiAteo# a p^krjr fte, un^er- 

.taUf#«ilk^i»lsrak^«w4nt^r'A^ whit« blacky endeavdin^ 

L H 2 •.,.-. do 

f48 Sentiments, &c, extraSled fram 

to eftablifh iniquity by quirks, and to rob the inttocent, 
iv, 2a8. [v. 8o].<^— And are as bafe, Lovelace fays , as his 
aildold Sinclair's vile implement Dorcas, v. 107. [vi. 9.] 

The Law is a word that carries in it natural terrors to 
a guilty mindy v. 159. [vi. 63]. 

No wonder it ihould, fi^s Lo*velace^ fince tbofe who 
will damn themfelves to procure' eafe and plenty in the 
world, muft tremble at every thing that feems to. threaten 
their methods of obtaining that eafe and plenty, v. 159. 
186. [vi. 63. 91]. 

It is but glofling over one part of a Hory, and omit* 
ing another, fays Lovelace^ that will make a bad caufe m 
good one, vi. 347. [vii. 276]. 


A L E T T E R^D education too generally fets the chil- 
dren of the poor above thofe fervile offices, by which 
the buiinefs of the world ii carried on, iii. 363. [iv. 
148]. . , 

Take the world thro* there are twenty happy people 
among the unlettered, to one among thofe who have luul 
a fchool- education, iii. 364. [iv. 148]. 

Yet who would not wi(h to lift to lome little diflindtioA 
and genteel u&fialnefs, the perfoa he deiires to reward ? 

The little words in the Republic of Letters, like the 
little folks in a nation, are the moil ufeful and iignifi- 
cant, iv. 82. [275]. 

A man of the deepeft Learning may hear fomething 
^om even a mean preacher that he knew not before, 
or at leaft that he had not coniidered in the fame lights 
iv. 125. [322]. 

The early Learning of women, which chiefly conMs 
in what they pick up from inflaming Novels, and im- 
probable Romances, contributes greatly to enervate and 
weaken their minds, vi. .334. [vii. a6i]. 

Libertine. Rake. 

The n^an wants bat an opvortUaity to pnt to praQke 
^he crimes he k noi aflkamed to liavc iinpiited to \am^ 
h 67* [69]* A 

the Hiftory ^/Claris s a. ' 14^ 

A Libertine Lover» if preferred to a virtuous one» is 
more likely to jultify the MJike of his oppofers, thaa 
the choice of his favourer, i. 256. [266]. 

Rakes are more fufpicious than honefl men, ii. 344^ 
[iii. 79]. 

LibettineSy by the frailty of thofe women they have 
triumphed over« judge of the whole Sex^ ii. 344. [iii.- 

*' Oncejuhduedf and aliuays fuhduedC* is an article in 
fIieRake*s Creed, ii. 352. iii. 302. [iii. 87. iv. 176]. 

A Libertine who is a man of ienfe and kno\ylege mud 
have taken great pains to fupprej& many good motions 
and reflexions as they arofe in his mind, op Uvity muft. 
be furpriilngly predominant in it, iii. 13. [icy].. 

The diief pleafures of a Libertine mud arife from the 
pain, the fuipenfe, the anguifh of mind which he g^ves 
to the heart of a woman he pretends to love, iii. 145.- 

. A Liberjine believes that no woman can be chafie 
or virtuous from principle, iii. 246^ [iv. 33]. . 

£very woman who favours a Libertine, confirms him 
ia his bad opinion of the Sex, . ihid. 

If a woman loves a Libertine, how will .flie bear the 
diought of iharing her intereB^ in him with half the town,; 
and ih(^e perhaps the dregs of it? ilii4- ^ 

Prayers, tears, and the moft abjedi fubmiffion, are fuel 
to the pride of a Libertine, Md. 

Fortunes fquander'd, eUates mortgaged or fold, and; 
pofterity robb'd, are too often the refuk of a marriage. 
with a- Libertine, iii. 246ft f iv. 34]*. 

A Libertine familiarized to the SAreffes he occafiont r* 
b feldom betrayed into a tendemefs foreign to his na- 
ture, iii. 3x4. [fv. 109]. ^ * 

A Libertine will be more aihamed «f (hewing c<mi-' 
paffion by a weeping eye^ than of the moft atrocious 
crimes, iii; 3*2 j*. [iv. tio^}^ 

Libertines [as tve// as nvominUve fhem\ have not the 
ardoi%, Mifi Howe fys, that honeft men have» iii^ %2j^ 
£iv. 112L 

* "^ iruoes jirt geaemlly more fevert exaders of im* 

H J fUci$ 

1^07 Sentiments, Sec. fictra^ed^fr^in 

l^icit obedience, and ligorous virtue, thaH other mto^ 
v% 20. [z66]. 

No man, who can think but of half the plagues that' 
pdrfcie an intriguing fpiiit, would ever quk- the fore^right 
path, V, 330. i vi. 244]. 

' A man who when old wotild enjoy ih peace' hi» oWn 
reflexions,. Lovelace cwifij/^s, fhould never be a' Rake, 
V. 394. [vi. 313J. 

The friendihips and intimacies^ of Libertines are only 
calculated for ilronz life and health, vi.- 59. [389]. 

What an ungratml, what an utimanly, what aiheatter. 
than reptile pride is his, whofe deli^ght is in the ruin of 
^ perfon wh6 confides in his hdnooW, and Whom he- 
ought to proteft J vii. 97. [viii. 15, 16]. 

' Men of gallantry afid intrigue are the inlbumeilts of 
Satan, to draw poor fouls into thbfe fabcle (hares which at' 
laft will entangle their own feet, vii. 20£. [viii. 125]. 

Libertines are infinitely worfe aninaals than beans of 
j^rey ; flnce tKefe dellrOy thro* hunger and neceffity on* 
ly i thofe from wantomS^fs and fport> vii. 284. [viii« 

See Adyice t^ Wmeif. Co\ire(hip. Crtielty. Meit 
and Women. Vtxtimdjtd&iidren. VoW^; Wtt; 

Little Spirits. Meanniefs; N^rrowntfe. 

Some perfons have Meannefs in th^ir very^ pride it 
tg4 their ^^arrow&c& g|9^s hand in h^nd with itj u ^4. 

Like Little Souls will find one another put, ai w<eU aa^ 
like Great ones. Hid, . 

'Little Spirits will ^ways aoq>miaodat6.themiUv€B to» 
the tempers of thofe they want to work upon, i. 320^ 

. Grudgingand luinpw $fnrits know not ho^ to woSw' 

a benefit with that grace, which ^ves the principsil^iiier 

sit'tCb«rb0iiefic£Ati9idUon,. i. %zi, [i|. ,1.2],' . 

.(Oo'q M^^nn^fs i^.not to b^ j]i^i£e4 byi||ipdiei;» ii. 24r 
[1^64]. • - • . ^ 

,...Topbe:a|i7u4-of liUtlo Spirits m Mk eft€Ouragil u^ts, 

.iS>v7f. [21S]. 


the fRfimy-^fXiLAKts^A. 15k 

Meanneis^muft ever be the 'portion of the maix who 
is deteded in a£king vilely, iv. 294. {v. 128]. ' * 

Tame Spirits will ever be impoled npon^ iv. 316, 
[v. 152]. 

There is a malignancy in Little Minds, which makes 
them wifl) to bring down the worthy to their own level^ 
vi. 366. [vii. 233J. 

Nothing fabjeds the human miird to fo much Mean^ 
nefsy as the conCdoufnefs of having done wilful wrong 
to our fellow-creatures, vi. 405. [vii. 338]. 

People of narrow Spirits will praife generous ones» 
becaufe they find it to their purpoie, that ail the worlds 
bat themfelves, (hould be open-minded, vii. 246. [viil.. 

Narrow-minj^d perfens, judging by their own hearts^ 
impute pride ana oilentadoa to worthy perfons, as their 
motives to good addons, vii. 271^ 27Z. [viii. ^97}. 
See Covetoufnefs. Partialicy. Seltl 

Ths Love which has not taken root deep enough to 
ihoot out into declaration, will not be brought forward by 
the blighting winds of anger <^ refentnient, i. to. [10} 

Love takes deepeft root in the fheadieil minds,' i 60. " 


Gratitude is not always to beconftrued intaLove,^ 
i. 62. [64]. 

That Lion Love is not to be turned into a» 
i. 63* [66}. 

Prodigies, tho* they obtain om* admiration, never at- 
t^ad our Love, i. 164. [170]. 

Love, to look back upon,* muft appear to be a very 
fbolifli thing, when it has brought a perfon, born t6 
affluence, into indigence, and laid a generous mind un'« 
der obligation and dependence, i. t75. [182]. 

What is commonly called Love, is a narrow, circum* 
fcribed, felfiih pafiion ; and^ where the objed of it is 
unwordiy, a paflion too ignoble for a pure mind to ear 
courage, i. 176. [183]. 

Pride and vanity are often the (barce of Love, i. 49r. 

• Hi. A 

t52 Sentiments, ice. extraffed/rom 

A perfoa truly in Love will be wholly engrofs*d by 
€neobje6l, i. 192. 196, 197. [199. 204]. 

Love will acquit where Reafon condemns^ i. 241. 

A prudent perfon will watch over the firfl approaches 
of Love, i* 244. [253]. 

/ It is a degree of impurity in a woman to love a fen- 
fual man, i. 263. [272J. 

Great encouragement mud be given to Love to make 
it unconquerable, i. 267. [276}* 

Unrequited [or flighted^ Love frequently turns to deepefl 
hate, i. 280. [290] . 

Love delights to tame the lion-hearted, 1.318. [11. 9]. 
What a worfe than Moloch-deity is liOve, if it ex* 
pedis an offering to be made to its ihrine of reafon, duty^ 
and difcretion I i. 379. [ii. 70]. ^ 

Love is a pallion that often begins in folly, or thought- 
lefljiefs, and carried on with perverfenefs,i. 385. [ii. jS"]. 
Love is as bufy as a Monkey, and as mifchievous as 
a School-boy, fays Mifs Hotwe^ i. 385. [ii. 77]. 

Violent Love is a fervor, like all other fervors, that 
lafb but a little while, i. 385, 386. [ii. yy"]. 

Love is generally founded on mere notjioaal excel* 
lencies, i. 386. [ii. 77]. 

Time and difcretion will enable a woman to get over 
a £rft paiTion, i. 40 j. [ii. 95]. 

Love that deferves the name, obliges the Lover to feek 
the fatisfa£tion of the beloved objed, more than his 
own, ii. 26. iii. 82. [ii. 119. iii. 222]. 

True Love is ever accompanied with fear and reve* 
rence, ii. 93. [182]. 

A quarrel, fays Lovelace^ has fometimes its conve- 
iliencies in Love, ii. 169. [243].— And more or lefs, 
adds he^ all Lovers quarrel, iii. 261. [iv. 48]. 

Love is a fleeting thine, little better than a name» 
where morality or virtue does not diflinguifh the objedi 
of it, ii, 169. [255]. 

Silent awe, the humble, doubting eye, and even the 
Heiitatine voice, are the natural indications of true and 
f efpedfuT Love, ii. 2^5. [iii. 24]. 
True Love is fearful of offending, li. 335. [iii. 71]. 



tbi H^wy ofChAK i sc A* I5|. 

Wesknefs, Lovelace fafs^ is the trwe name for Lotre^ 

II. 347. [ill. 82]. 

All the world is ready to excafe a fault owing to Love^ 
becaufe all the world is apt to be mifled by it, itid.- 
Love was ever a traitor to its harbourer, Lovel. ii. aca* , 

Love is not naturally a doabter,. ii. 385. [iii. iip]« 

That- avow.'d Love which is followed by marriage^, 
however headdrong and indifcreet, will have more ex- 
Cttfes*made for it £an generally it ought to find,, iii. 62-' 
[^04]. . 

It is all over with r/^^*ff^.Ladies». Lovelace fayi^ when* 
once Love gets into their heads » iii. 181. [^316]. 

Platonic Love is Platonic Nonfenfe,. lii, 35^. [iv.- 

A fjril paffion thoroughly fabdaed, often makes tbe- 
HKUiarover, thewomanatyrannefs, iii;j95; \iv\ 17^}! 

If Love is allowed to be an excafe- for the moft un« 
Ttaibnable follies'^ what is meant by the dodrine of Julh 
duingour fajjiom f iv. 87. [280]. 

What maft be' that Love which has not fome degree^ 
of parity for its objed ? ihiii 

A luorthy woman who confents-to marry» need not be-' 
nrged* ej^licitly to* declare her Lov«» iv. 119: £$96^ 
»3'27]; • 

The proof of true Love is refpeft^ not freeddai, vh- 
129. [3273. . ^ , 

Love is an encroacher-: Love never goe9 bacsward.- 
Nothing but the higheft- aft of Love can fatnfy an w— 
i&WLovse, iv. 134. [333], 

Love and'Gompaffion are' Hatdto be feparated, ir.. 
liSj. [v. 1^]. ^ 

Love is.feldom tli& friend oSyirtde, tov^li if*\9^i* 

Love homanizes the fieroeftfptrits» iv, 2Gf8; [1^.33]^. ' 

Love is a^ fire that, if played with, will barnthrfiogersr* 
ir. 209. [v,.39]- 

Love hardly ever wasooder the di^minion of priidence,^. 
OJT of anji xeafoning powjBTi LoveL vi I7'.-Ca6i],t 

What'MM a woman hopes inLove*raatters^-flie4i/<u;«;i^ 

boficsirtiite there iaroo» lor hope, ii0<v^A^^^ 32; [3613; 
• Jtlc ReliiPafbB 

tW Sen(!Hieftft; fte. ^ti 

• Rtefpeftful Love'i^* an infphrer of aCBons wortiy of 
itfelf^ vi. 96, [vii. 9]. . ' 

*"As the graces of the mind are improteablc in crcry 
added year of life, which will impair the tratifttor]r ones 
d^fifrfift^ apon what a firm bafis does that man biiHd 
his jLoye, who admires a woman for the former more 
thatl%r the latter! vii. 113. [viii. 33], 

'ILove will draw an Elephant thro^ a key^liole, vii* 
27^. fviii. 149]. 

' ILovenot always admits- of an air of even tku dignity 
to the objeft of it, vii. 7,\\, Wm- 168]. 

'A firft Love overcome, makfes a perfon indificrent to 
afecond| vii. 254. [viii. 179]. 

Love . at firjl Sight. 

Wx wi(h'j in compliment to our own (kgacity, to be 
confirmed in our firft-/lghted impreflionsy x. .268. [277!. 
Bii^t few firft-iighted impreiEoBs ought to be encouiaged^. 

A ShaU it be faid of any young Lady» that the powers 
of fancy are too hard forjher duty and prudence 2 ii|». 

^0i:\yf' S4l' . 

. ^AJl wo^py frj^it^the.Coui^tefc to t^ Coo)?:.maidv are 
put into' high good humour with themielves, when a o 
i|iii^,l6 t^en wji|tl>. th^. 2^ fisft Sigh^'£^#/. iv* 328. 
, [v. 165]. 

. .Andrbe (he ^vey^ (b plaioa (he will .£nd twenty good 
feafOM to d^^od, jd^ j,ii^gneft( of &ch a. maiv <|m^ 


The Lover^ains a great point when he ooli Mng a^ 
ychnigLadf ^^ort«rpoh<i'i^jeR-tt^^^ ag&ft 

prohibitiQn, i. 59*. [61I. . 

"V^en a Lover is eafy, he m fure^ iM. 
* LoveiT difpoled te write npon.a plaintive &l^eA, wiR 
often make their Ladies cruel, when they only ou^ t# 
be fo, and atrnot; -Ltn/eL u t^l l^^^^ 

The tempers 6f Dovefs, whuchet g^Aitle ^ ailgeirtfey 
afe t6 bc^ found - dtft 'by the txi^^^ ^ IhfitftddMfn in 


The manwho fiiews tendernefs for the calamities of 
others, gives a moral afi^rance that he will make a good 
httfi)ainC 1. 259. [26^]. 

A womair cai» have but fmall hopes of a Lover, over 
whom his own fwdrthy relations can hare nfo hifluence^ 
». 265. [272], 

The fmall ilill voice of fupplication, denotes and b^*^ 
eomes the modeft Lover, i, 377. Qi. 6S]. 

A Lady can hardly ever efteem as a hofband, the mail 
whom as a Lover ihe defpifes, ii. 41. [133]. ' 

How pleafantly can a falfe Lover pais his time, whild* 
ti&e gentle bofom of a Lady heaves with pity fov lUs fap» 
pofed fuffinrings for her ? ii. 64. [1^5]. 

A bltiilering braving Lover cannot deferve encouragGr 
juent; fi. 95. [1823. 

A -Lover has not a right to be di(plea(ed with a Lad^ 
on her fide of the folemnity, ii. 2(4. [29SQ. 

It h better fbr a Lady, that hef Lover (hould go awa^ 
diipleafed with her, than that he Ihould leave her diiTa^ 
tisfied with herfelf, ii. 220. [3041. 

A generous Lover mttfl reek to oblige the ob}e£^ of 
lit lovein 'every thing effencial: to her honouf, and peace: 
of mind, ii. 270. £iii. 10]. 

When people fer out wrong tbgether,, it is very dif- 
ficult tb avoid recnmination, ut. 2. [147]^ 

The more ardent the man is while a Lover,, the mord 
indiffbrenc, veiy probably, wiU he be When a: hufband, 
iSi 29. [172 J. 

Lovers chii£e to be alone, and are aflhatied to have 
evtfn a chiM prefent^ to witnefif to their foolifh. adions^ 
and more fooiUh^estpyeflions, iv. 150. [34BJ. 

Sig Aikvitit'fo ff^omen. Coartlhlp. Duty;. Love;. 
Marriage. ^^XttitH and ChMretu 

TClagnanimky. j*ortitudcv Hope. Steadinefi; 

• ■ 

8*rfi ADi'NEss of mind,, wheiv it finks not into obftina- 
ey, IB a higji virtue; which when tried and known, fets 
aperibn above the attempts of the meanly machinating,. 

fi[ 6. Td 


» * 

rsB Sentiments, &c. epctraffed frcm 

To hope for better days is half to deferve tliem ; for 
could we have ground for fuch a hope, if we did not 
refolve to merit what it bids us afpire to ? 11. 58. [149]. 

Some men behave as if they thought bloHer was Mag- 
nanimity, ii. 108. [196]. 

A man fometinies by braving a danger, efcapes it^ 
11. 272. [m. II J. 

To exert fpirit only where it is laudably caird for, i^ 
the true Magnanimity, iu 356. [iii. 91]. 

Hope is tne cordial that keeps life from ftagnating,. 
iii. 129. [266]. 

How elorioas is it for a woman reduced to the greateft 
dKbefs by an ungrateful Lover to fay, as CUa^a ibes^ 

You, Sir, I thank you, have lowered my^ fortunes ; 

but, I blefs God, my mind is not funk with my for- 
tunes : It is, on the contrary, raifed above I^ortune, 
•* and above you," iv, 294. [v. 129]. 

He who loves Bravery in a man, ought to admire 
Fortitude in a woman, v. 1^1. [vi. 4^}. 

Little do thofe know the force of innate principles, 
who imagine, that penury, or a prifon, can bring a right* 
turned mind to be guilty of a bafeneis, in ordec to.avoidr 
i|hort4iv*d eyils, >. 23, 24. [J52]. , 

Great fentiments uttered with digni^ by a eood per* 
{on, gives, as it were» a vifibility to the foul, vi. 24^ 

The finner in his laft hours will be generally fbcmd 
to be the real coward, the faiac in bis the true hero, 
vi. 59. [390}. 

The woman who can, for virtue^s, and fois honour*i 
fake, fubdue a paiEon which it is in &er power to gratify^, 
merits every-thing next to^ad oration, vie 31 1. [vii. a38]«. 
Sit Friendihip. Goodneft. 


ExA^LTBD qualities may be funk in ft low and Bncqual 
Marriage, i, 84. [87]. 

A iingle Lady, who can be brosght but to balance 
en the chaAge of her Hate, may be eafily determined bv 
the glare and (plendor of th^ nuptiil preparations, and 
the pride of becoming the miftrels of a famil/, 1.1304 
[>35]- ^ It 

It is neither juft nor honed to marry where there caa 
be no love» i. 183. [190]. 

Women ihauld be allowed to jodge of the perfon witk 
whom they can or cannot live happily, i. 199. [207]. 

It is dreadful, as well as SJhoneJt^ to marry a man m 
hopes of his death, ibid. 

Marriage, with the heft profpeds, is a very folemn: 
engagement : Enough to make a young creature*8 heart 
ake, when (he thinks ferioufly.of it, CL i. 200. [207]. 

Marry firft, and love will come after, is a ihocking 
aflertion ; iince a thoufand things may happen to make 
the date but barely tolerable^ when it is entered into with 
mutual aifedUon, 1. 206. [208]. 

How unhappy maft be that Marriage, in which the 
hufband can have no confidence in the love of his wife f ^ 

The woman who has a conipetency of her own» makes 
but an ill compliment to herfelf, when (he changes her 
condition for fuperflustiis^ if fhe has not fuperior or 
fbonger motives, 1.205. [2.13].- 

Honeymocai^ lafla^ now-a-day& but. a. fortnight, Jnu 
Harlotus,. i. 214. [z2»]. 

A prudent man will not wiih to marry a woman who^ 
has not a heart to give, i. 219. [227]. 

How much eaiier and pleafanter is it for a woman to> 
obey the man of her choice, thian one fhe would not; 
have had, could (he have avoide4 it, i.. 261. [270]. 

No matter whom that woman marries, who has a- 
(tight notion of the matrimonial duty, i. 340. [ii, ^2]. 

That woman, who accompanies 'to the Altar a mtLm 
to whom flie is averfe, will find it difficulty afterwards * 
if (he preiera her awn peace of mind, to avoid the ne* 
ceffity of playing the hypocrite with, him, i. 373. nj. 

Thofe who marry from motives of convenience and, 
djity, are generally more happy than, thofe wJio marry 
for love, i. 58c. [ii. yS"]. 

Perfbns of difcrction, /aysMi/s Howe, arc aptto f^a- 
JSdertoo much to marry, ii. 49. [141], 

Inve&ivet ^gainil Marriage are a refle£Uon upon the 
laws and good ordac of fodety, and upon a man's own 


anc«fton I and are more inexcQfeablein men of family,, 
dian in others, ii. 88.. [178]. 

A choice made by what is called Love, is feldom 
darably happy : becanfe Love senerally exalts the ob- 
ject abov« ks merits, and makes the Lover blind to faults,, 
which, on a nearer intimacy, are fo obvious, that both' 
parties often wonder how they could be fo grofsly cheat* 
0d, ii. 169. [255]. 

It is aMblutely necefiary, to compleat happinefs in 
the married date, fays Lovelact^ that one fliould be a 
fool : &it then that fool ihould know the other's fupe-' 
riority, otherwife the obftinate one would difappoint the 
wife one, ii. 388. [iii. 121}. 

A man of fpint would not marry a Princefs, if he 
thought ifiie-'but balanced a moment in her choice of 
him or of an Emperor, Lo<veL iii. 30. [173]* 

The man who knows it to be in his power to marry, 
yet delays, or refignedly leaves it to the woman to name 
the day, is to be both fufpeded and defpifed, iii. 100.* 

^76, 177* 178. [240. 311. 313]^ 
Marriage is the hieheft fate of friendflim : If happy^ 

it lefTens our cares, by dividine them, at the fame tim& 

thai it doubles our pleailures oy mutual participation>. 

iii. 152. [288]. 

Scings of confeience, from a wrong behaviour in a 
firft Marriage, may poffibly make the faulty perfon to-- 
lerable in a fecon^, iii. 321. [iv. 106]. 

It is die moft cruel of fates for a woman to be forced 
to mafry a man whom (he in her heart defpifesy iii. 3^a8«. 
[4v. 112]. 

The queermffes whidi old Antony Harlowe fayr he has 
(eea m fantilies, where the man and wif^ lived upon the 
bifi terms, made hun loth to marry, iii. 373. [iv; 15^7]- 

Marriage is a ftate that ought not to be entered into« 
with indim-ence on either fide, iv. 20. [208]: 

Large fettlements in Marriage make a woman inde-^ 
pendent, and a rebel of courfe, Lo^J, ivw 56. [747}. 
' Inunequd Marriages, thofe frequently incur cenfure, 
who, more happily yoked, might be intitled to praife, 
W. 375. [v. 214]. 

It 18 happy for giddy^men, as welt as for giddy wov 


aaeiiyMficoiDniOA cafes, tkflt ceMmoKy and parJide are 
neceifary to Wedlock, V. 99. [351]. 

Let a man do what he will uy 9 fifigle woman* the 
world is encoaragitt|ly apt to think Marriage a fitilkient 
amends, v, 14$. \yu 5 2 J* («>• 

"What is that injury, on this princifh infers LovflaeSr 
whkh a Church rite will not at diny tilfte repair f - iBid. 

Marriage, fir^s Lovelace^ is a true di^mnatic recom*- 
pence for the worR tilai «an be done to a woman ? 
V. 313. [vi, 227]. (a). 

See Advice- to Women, Coortfliip. Huiband und 
Wife, Love. Lorer. 

• Mafters. Miftrefles. Servants^ 

Judgments of perfons tempers are to b^m^de by 
di«br domeiUc Jbehavioar, and by tlieir tsrcatment of their 
Servants, i. 63. 207* [64. 2^5]. 

Servants flioald take care, if diere are any young La^ 
dios where, they live^ how th^ make parties, or affift^ 
in claikdeftii»)e€ori%fppBdenci«St.i. 155. [i6i]. 

Policy, as well as generofity, will induce Mafbvs^ 
a^d Miflre^e^: to repofe^ a confidence in their Servants^ 
ii. 59. [150]. 

People in Iqw ^tions have oftciv minds not forbid,' 
ibid. ^ ' . . 

Take number lor mimbef, dtere ate more honed low 
pfople,'than hig^ ibid* 

Many Servants will icorn to deceive a ponfidencCft 
ibid* *' 

TluilSerTanl(C4A|ij^hayjf ibuad prinqples, who caor 
allow herfelf to fay, that her Miflrefs ihall not fufped heijit 
for nothing, ibid* 

A Mafter*s communicativenefs to his Servants> i^ a 

{a) (#) {a) ^efi three artitlet are recommended' to the etmjidtration 
0/* tbtfe miho wdd ba^ff had Chriffk ta marry LomeUee, afker^ 'hi^^ 
mtrage omber hontar, l^be.doBrvu' iti^aUmed in tbtm ^tmi ^oba^' he 
depended on, and mas what encouraged him to commit the «M^f%|g-<« ^ 
ttfar naeffary that hejbould he eonvvued of bis nufiaktf . ^Tifcon-viBim 
was gtvert h dlarjfi | and hii uiur ruin ^«i foi eotf/fpcnce of bit 
4trociom» guiit, 

5 means 

%6o Sentiments, ice. epctraffedfrtm 

means for ati enemy to come at his, fercrets, ii. zz6^r 

. [309]' 

The Servants of people of q.«ality generally talk of 

their Mailer's pedigree and defcenty wim as much pride.* 

as if they were related to lum> iiivi 13^ v. izo. [iii. 157*. . 

vi. 22]. 

Servtmts feldom keejr their MafU;r^$ fecrets froniv one^, 
another, be thofe fecrets of ever fo much importance to 
their Mafter, iii. i^* [157]* 

Servants are generally worfe to have concerns with^ 
than their Principals^ iii. 3$. [180].. 

The greateft plagues people of condition meet with^ 
proceed from, the Servants they take with a view to lef.^ 
&n their cares, iv. 18. [205]. 

Servants will' be apt to- take libertie&with th^feMa- • 
iters who employ them in a way that, theiiv duty will not 
warrant, iv. 312. [y. 147]'. 

Servants united in one cau(e^ are intimate the nomenf 
they fee one another, iv^ 329. [v. 165, 166]. 

They know immediately the kin, and the kin^s kin,, 
of each other, tho* difperfed over the three kingdoms,, 
as well as the genealogies and kind's kin of thofe whonft^ 
they ferve, iv. 329. [v. 166]. 

See Lcue/ace^j opinion t^ Sern^ants 9 vi. z6a» [vii*. 

MHd-and humane-tempered Mailers are feldom duly 
•bferved by their Servants, ^u 250. [vii. 172, 173J. 

Servants often make-eiKufes for faults witn^fucb looks, 
as fhew they believe not what they themfelves fay, vi., 
250. fvii^ 173]. 

It becomes not {;endemen to treat with infolbnce peo'^- 
pie who by thdr fiiations are hnmbled beneath their feet, 

A Mailer owes protedlion to the. meaneft of his houfe*^ 
hotd, VI. 251. [vji. 17351 

He that rewards, well, and |pani(hei feaibnably and . 
propecLy, will be well fierved, vi. 260. [vii. 183]. 

The art of governing the under-brod. liei mojne in* 
teoks than in words, ibidi . 

The Mafter who pays not his Servants duly, or in« 
tnifts them! with iecrctSy lays himfelf at their mercy, ibid. 

^ Wit 

the Hifiory ^Clarissa. i6i 

Wit in a Servant, except to his companions, is fauci- 
Defs, Lo^eL vi. 261. [vii. 184]. 

If a Servant ventures to expoftulate upon a fuppofed 
tinreafonable command, he fhould wait for a proper fea* 
fon^ and do it with humility and refpe^, ibid* 
See Generofity. Goodnefs. 


Ts M p B R 8 that will bear much, will have much to 
bear, i. 29. 48. 50. i2i« ii. 86. 246. 397. [i. 30. 50. 
52. 126. ii. 175. 329. iii. 130].' 

The gentlefl fpirits, when provoked, are ufually the 
moft determined, i. 83. Sa alfi i. 48. [i. 86. See alfi 
i. 50]. 

The man of temper is moftly the truly brave man^ 
i. 368. [ii. 60]. 

Meeknefs of difpoiition, and fervility of heart,., are 
very diftind qualities, i. 204. ii. 108. [i. 212. ii. 196]. 

Meeknefs and Patience are chara£teri(lic virtues in % 
woman, iii. 29. iv. 32. [iiii 172. iv. 220]. 

Prefence of mind, on arduous occafions, is very con* 
iiftent with Meeknefs, iv. 356. [v. 194]* 
^ Meeknefs of temper (hewn by a perfon defending her 
nnjuftly-queftioned charadler, demonilrates a greatnefs of 
mind, fuperior, in that inftance, to that of the cenfurer« , 
¥^272. [vi. 182]. 

Meek men abroad are not always meek men at home, 
vi. 81, 82. [414]. 

And if they were, fivfs Mils Uvwe^ I (hould not, I 
verily think, like them the better for their meeknefs, 
vi. 82. [414]. 

Affability, Gentlcnefs, Meeknefs, are the chara£leriftics 
of a rea/Rne Lady, vii. 251. 254. fviii. 178]. 
See Goodnefs. Violent Spirits. 

Men and JVotmn. 

All that dangling fellows are good for, fays Mifi 
Btnue^ is to give Women an air of vanity and aJTored- 
Befs in public places, i. 31^^. [ii. 4}. 

Hecoes have their Fits Qt fear^ Cowards their brant 


i62 . Sentiments, 6rc. txtraBedfrom 

momeQtSy and virtuous Women their moments critical, 
LoveL iy. 164. £364]. 

It is not fit, Lo'velace faysi that at any age, or in any 
d'ation of life, a Woman ihould be independent, iv. 
224. [v. 61]. 

Girls who are quite difengaged, feldom hate, though 
they may nptlove, iv. 302. [r. IJ7]. 

A Woman generally defpifes the man (he governs, 
▼•13. [259]. 

A Man pf hosour will not excalpale hlmfelf by load* 
-ingaWpman, vi. o. [336]. 

Men am known oy their companions* vi. 33. [362]. 

So fenfible> and fa filly at the fame time f what a 
various, what a foolifh creature is Man ! vii. 28. [367]. 

A Wotaian of eiahtecn, Mift Howe takts mfon her to 
fivf (look the world thro"), is more prudent and con^* 
verfafale dianaMan at twenty- five, vii. 200. [viii. 202]. 

Thoie Women who take delight in wntiag, eemerally 

cfxeel ^« Men in all the gmces ^ the fiimiliar ftyle» 

vii. 276. [viii. 2163. ' 

Bee Advice to Wemnt. Coartibip. Doty* Friend* 

|hip. Lotc. Marriage. 

Merit. Demerit. 

There cannot be a greater fign of want of Merit^ 
than when a man feeks to pall down another^s charaddr^ 
in order to build up his own^ ii. 126, 127. [214]. 

Perfons of Merit have .a right to dl the benefits con- 
ferred upon them,'iii. 13. pSj]- 

There may be a Wordiineis and Merit fo fuperior, 
as will put envy itfelf to iUence, iii. 27c. [iv. 62J. 

It is prefnmption to expeft tokens of value, without 
refolving to deferve them, iv. 20. [ao8 1. 

We ihoald endeavour to like and diuike according to 
the real Merit or Demerit t)f the objtd, iv. 87. [280J. 

Great Merit is coy. Coynefs has not always its foun* 
datfea ill pride, vii.' 32. [372]. 
■ See Goodnefs. Pnufc. 


fbeHiftofy of CtAVi I St A. 163 

Great conrequences^ like great folks, fomedisear 
owe their greatfiefs to fmall caufes, and little incidentt, 
ii. joj. [iii. 4^3. 

In all matters that admit of doabt or jealoufy^ the 
fmalleft circumflances are of more importance than tho 
ftrongeft afleverations, iii. 43. [185]. 

Great, engines are frequently moved by fmall fprings^ 

■»v. 143- [34O. 

The minuteft circtunftances are often of ereat iervica 
in matters of the laii importance, v. 113. [vi. 14]. 

The Mintttise are of c^nfeqttence. to be attended toia 
all critical undertakings, v. 179, [vi; 83]. » 

Minutene^es may be obferved, where greater artidea 
arc not negle£led for them, vi. 378. [vii 309]. 

Modefty. Audacity. 

A MOD^s^T perfett challenged will be diffident,' the* 
innocent, i. 60. [63]. 

The Bold and Forward, sot being fenfible of defe£ls, 
aflame^ while the Modefty of tlie Teallj^ worthy nkn 
permitu him not to explain himfelf, i. 83. [87]. 

Why ihoald a perton who d^ights to mid ontnvliat 
is praife-worthy in another, b^ jGippofed ignorant of hii 
own wocth ? i; J74. pi. 66], 

A modeft Woman will not defpife thoTe^ who have 

St every iine qiialky that may b^ confpicuoas in her- 
f ? iiU. 

A modefl: Lady, who throws herfelf into the power 
of a Rake, is very unequal to the adventure, iii. 24. 
324. [iii. 167. iv. 109]. 

A modeft man has generally a tr^afure in his mind, 
that requires only the key of encouragement to uidiocli 
k| m make him fhincii iii» ^« [200^ aoi]. 

Shall not s^ modeft womari> wifli to confort with a 
modeftman, i^^r^ whom, apdr^^.whbm, ihemay open 
her lips, fecure of his ^pod opinipn of sdl fhe fays, and 
which dierefore muil impire her with an agreeable con- 
fidence ? iii, 58. [201]. 

1 54 Sentiments, &c. eictralhdfrom 

A truly modeft woman mav make even an aadacious 
man keep his diflance, iv. 46. [236, 237]. 

Rakifh hearts can no more tafte the jbeauty and deli- 
cacy of modeft obligihgnefs, than of modeft love. vi. 

60. t39o]- 

Modefl or diffident men wear not foon off thofe little 
precifeneffes, which the aiTured, if ever they had them, 
prefently get over, vi. 71. [402]. 

Well may women, Jayj Mi/s Hoavi, who are fond of 
I^iberdnes, be the fport and ridicule of fuch-— Would 
not a very little reflexion teach us, that a man of Merit 
jnuft be a man of Modefty ? vi. 83. [415]. 

The charafteriftic of Virgin Modefty, adorned by 
fOnfcious dignity ,^ is, freedom and referve happily blend* 
cd, vi. 280 [vii. 205]. 

A modeft man fhould no more be made little in his 
own eyes, than in the eyes of others. If he be, he will 
have a diffidence which will give aukwardnefii to cverjr* 
thing he fays or does, vi. 304. [viifc 230]. 

Su Advice to ffomu Blames. £)elicaqrr ,, \ 


Obligatioflu Oblige. Obliging Tempcn 

^ To oblige in tht £ia» and difoblige in the manner^ 
is obliginp; by halves, ii. 199. [284]. 

An obhging temper is evermore difobliging itfelf, ih 
2$o. [322]. 

He that can oblige, can difoblige. It is happy for 
fome people, that they have it not in their power to of* 
fend, Af(/5 Hwue^ u. 302, [iii. 40]. 

Perfons in a ftate of ObKgation maft not complaiir, 
ii. 3 10. [iii. 47]. 

. How precious, to a beneficent mind, is the power of 
obliging! ibid. 

It is good 1^ be eafy of perfoa£oii, in matters where 
one can ' oblige without endangering virtte and worth/ 
habits, vii. t^^:. [viii. 221]. 

^ii Friexidihip. Generefitjr« 


ibe Hijiory of Clarissa, 165 

Obltinacy. Pcrvcrfenefs. Frowardntfs. Pert- 


Pervehseness will both mifcall and mifinterpret^ 
i. 2IO, [217, 218]. 

It is better to be thought perverfe, than infincere^ 
i. 306. [yiS]. 

Frowardnefs often makes a girl objedl to propoials that 
come firft from a parent or . guardian, and for no other 
reafon, ii. 77. [167]. 

Pert, women-grown daughters think their parents old^ 
yet pay theQi not the reverence due to their years, iii* 

37 V Pv- »59]: 

To argue with a man who is convinced he is doing a 

ivrong thing, is but to make him ingenious to find out 

excufes for ^himfelf, and to harden his heart, iv. 364. 

[v. 203]. 

Men give not eafily up what they have fet their hearts 
upon, be it ever fo unreafonable to be carried, v. 393. 
[vi. 312]. 

Obilinacy and implacablenefs are bad figns in a per- 
fon declining in health, vi. 44. [374]. 

A pert daughter gives fair warning to a lover, of 
proving an unmanageable wife, vii. 245. [viii. 169]. 
See Duty. Parents and Children, 

General Obfervations and Reflexions. 

Who will wonder at the intrigues and plots carried 
on by undermining courtiers againft one another, when 
private families cannot be free from them ? i. 80. [83]. 

Every one can be good, who has no provocation to 
the contrary, L 170. [176]. 

Prudence is too often called covetoufnefs ; covetoufnefs, 
pmdcnccj profligacy, gallantry, &fr. i. 210. [217, 


Policy may make a man j^ive up one half of his cha- 
rader to fave the other hal^ when tiie difcuffion^ might 
tend to deted him of being genendlj wicked, i. zt^. 

Over-doers frequendy give the offence diey mWi to 
IFoid, i. a*?' £!!•«> ' AB 

i66 SendineoQ, ,2qc. ^xtrnSidfrom 

All extraordiaaries will foon fubiide, i. 370. [ii. 61 J. 

If .our fanarts do not harden and conlra^, as we ex- 
perience ill-treatment from the world, we ihall be apon 
very unequal terms with it, ii. 29. [121]. 

It is very difficult for a perfon who would avoid one 
extreme, to keep clear of another, ii, 73. f^^s]* 

What we moft delight in, is often made the inflra* 
ment of our punifhment, ii. 159. [246]. 

Jtle.who will be bribed by one perfon to undertake a 
faafenefs, .will be over-bribed by another to retort it^ 
ii. 371. [iii. 105]. 

ToiKirrow of relations, is to fubjeft one^s felf to an 
ioquif&tioninto one^s life and adlions, Lovei, ii. 3894 
[iii. 122]. 

. Traders are dealers in pins, and will be more obliged 
hy a penny <cuftomer, than by a pound prefent, becaufe 
it is in th^ir way ; yet will refufe neither, LonjeL iii. i5. 
iv. 327. [iii. 160. V. 164].- 

Wlutt UkdiluxMl! is there of corrupting a man who 
has no ambition ? iii. 18. [162]. 

The woman who will obdinately vindic^^e a faulty 
Hep in another, feems to indicate, that, in the like cir- 
cumdances, fhe would have been guilty of the fame 
fault, iii. J5. [1.97]. 

All the animal Creation is more or lefs in a ftate of 
hoftility, iii. 70. [211]. 

We are apt to regret what happens to our diflike, yet 
know not Aether we (hould have been more happy in 
the enjoyment of our own wiihes, iii. 134. [271 J. 

There is hardly any thing that a man will fcruple, who 
will break the feal of a letter not defigned for him to 
to fee, iii. 163. [299]. 

It is eafier to perAlt in a denial ^ven, than to give 
it at firft, iii. ^00. [359]. 

Be the motives to ^xcefs what they will, excefs is ex- 
ccfs, iii. 213. [345]* 

Mdfc of the Troubles that fall to the lot of common 
mortals, .arite either fr^m their large defires, or from 
|heir little deferts, iii. 277. [iv, 63]. 

Never was there a caufe io bad, but that either from 
^t)i,tOy^heHlQmd«ri» «r ilkvi^li totilie» ukjwed; it fesnd 
.iiyne advocates, iii. 350* [iv. I }4]« .la 

ibe Iliftory of Cx a ri ss a. 4-^7 

In the progrefs to any event we may have in view^ 
our minds may be too muchehgaged to fee tbings in thp 
fame light, in which they will appear to us whtn aU 
obftades are removed, and we have nothing to do bot to 
chufe, iii. 366. [iv. 151]. 

AU our purfuitSy from^ childhood to manhood, are only 
trifles of different forts^ and fize?, proportioned to our 
years and views, iv. 71. [263]. 

' The lower clafs of people are ever aiming at the ^u« 
pid wonderful, iv. 02. [286]. 

It is very eafy for a perfon to part with & fecondaty 
appetite; when, by fo doing, he can promote or gratify 

Zfrfty iv. 121. [318]. 

All human good and evil is comparative, iv. 161. 

Ceremony is not civility. Civility is not ceremony, 
iv. 232. [v. 63]. 

The mixtures which agreeable things generally come 
to us with, are great abatements of the pleafures they 
tring with them, iv, 281. [v. 115]. 

The ^reateft acquifition, even that of an imperial 
crown, is nothing, when a man has been fome time 
nfed to it, iv. 324. [v. 161]. 

Appeals give pride and fuperiority to the perfon ap- 
pealed to, and tend to leffen the appellants even in their 
own eyes, iv. 370. [v. 208]. 

Oppoiition frequently cements friendihip, arnd creates 
or confirms love, v. 9. [^54]. 

A' great difference will be generally found in the man- 
ners of the fame man, as victor and inmate, v. 25.- 

Every-^body, and every-thing, . has a black and a 
white fide, of which both weS-willers and ill-willers 
may make advant^^e, v. 251. 300. See aifo iv. 265* 
yL 347. [vi. 159, i&. 212. Seealfi v.98. vii. 276]. : 

Evils that are (mail in the beginning, and on)y con* 
£ned to a itsgle perfon, frequently fpvead, and involve 
whole families, v. 281. [vi. i92]« 
, Words of refped maybe fo pronoonced, as to mean 
fndignation andamfuk, v.. 297. [vi. 20^]. . 

Thofe whacan^l^ Jsmx ^ jeft iipM.tkiflliUves, 


1 68 Sentiments^ &c/ extraSled from 

will be mofl diverted with one pafTed on others, vi. 230. 
[vii. X41]. 

A bad caafe gives a man great difadvantages, vi. 
346. [vii. ?74]. 

Uocommoa minds can hardly avoid doing things out 
of the common way, vi. 380. 

We mult not expedi that oui^rofes will grow without 
thorns ; but then they are ufeful and inilruclive thorns, 
which, by pricking the fingers of the too hafty plucker^ 
teach future caution, vi. 407. [vii. 339]. 

Difiiculty gives poignancy to our enjoyments. Thofe 
which are eafily obtained, generally lofe their reliih 
with us, vi. 407. [vii. 339, 340]. 

The abfent generally bear the load, when the blame 
is apparently due fomewhere, vii. 18, 19. [347]- 

Adlual diftra£lion (take it out of its lucid intervals) 
muil be an happier ilate, than the-ftate of fufpenfe and 
anxiety which brings it on, vii. 24. [363]. 

Refolutions depending upon future contingencies, are 
beft left to future determinations, vii. 236. [viii. 160]. 

The greatefl punifhment that can be innidled dn us, 
would often be the grant of our own wiflies, vii. 257. 
[viii. 182]. 

Free- will enables as to do every-thing well; while 
reftraint and impofition make a light burden heavy, vii. 
291. [viii. 217]. 

Oeconomy. Frugality. Houfewifry. 

B y Frugality we are enabled to be both juil and ge- 
nerous, iii. 373. [iv. 158], 

Without Oeconomy no eftate is large enough ; with 
it, the lead is not too fmall, iv. 113. [309]. 

The man who runs away from his accounts, will in 
time be glad that he could ran away from himfelf, vi. 

«7- [345]- 
Frugsdity is a neceiDuy virtae, niggardlinefs an odioiit 

vice, vii. 281. [viii. 206]. 

It is incredible what may be done by early rifing^ 
and by long days well fill!d up, vii. 290. [viii. 217]. . 

Fertt»s wko rife early, a^a make good ufe of their 


the Hifiory (/Clahissa.* \6g 

hours, may be faid to have lived more years at fixteen, 
than fome others at twenty-fix, vii. 291 . [viii. 217]. 

Thofis who keep not a Arid account, feldom Icee]^ 
any, vii. 295. [viii. 221]. 


Palliation. Evafion. Excufe. 

A G o o D perfon will not palliate with a view to de- 
ceive, ii, t66. [252]. 

Artful Evafions are unworthy of a frank and open 
heart, iii. 60. [202]. 

It is no wonder, that he who can fit down premedi- 
tatedly to do a bad adlion, will content liimfelf with a 
bad excufe, vi. 58. [388, 389]. 

No Palliation ought to be made for wilful and pre- 
meditated vilenefs, vii. 275. [viii. 200]. 

Parents- Children. 

Severity in fome cafes is clemency, i, 49. [51]. 

Needlefs watchfulnefs, and undue reftratnt, often pro- 
duce artifice and contrivance, i. 51. [53]. 

Parents, by violently fighting againft a Lover, fre* 
quently fight for him, i. 54. 167. 192. ii. 137. [i. 61. 
173. 200. ii. 224]. 

Daughters, fays James Harlonve, arc chickens brought 
up for a ftranger's table, i. 71 . [73]. 

Moft unhappy is the fi tuation of that nvorthy Child, 
who is obliged, in her own defence, to expofe a Pa- 
rentis failings, i. 80.. 173. [83. 180]. 

It is impolitic in Parents to join two people in one 
intercft, whom they wifii for ever to keep afunder, 
i. 82. [85, 8^]. 

Tho' the parental authority ihould be deemed facred, 
yet Parents mould have reafon in what they do, i. 84. 


Where the heart of a Child is fought to be engaged, 
the eye ought not to be difguiled, i. 97. [toi]. » 

A worthy Daughter would rather wifh to appear ami- 
able in the eyes of he*- own Friends and Relations, than 
in thofe of all the world befi^, . i. 1 59. [165], 

1 Dif- 

170 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfrom 

Diroracefal treatment will often bring about the very 
«nd which it is intended to fruHrate, i. 183. 266. vii. 
^55. [i. 190. 276. viii. 179]. 

In family contentions, when every expedient to bring 
about a reconciliation is tried, whatever be the event, 
the perfon fo trying has the lefs to blame herfelf for, 
1. 185. ii. 308. [ii. 192. iii. 45]. 

How much greater muft be the comfort of that young 
MToman in as unhappy marriage, who can refi«£i, that (he 
followed the advice of her Friends, and owes not hes 
onbappinefs to her own headibong will ! i. 256. ii. 1 70. 
£i. 265. ii. 2$6]. 

The difference' between the hard, ufage a Child re- 
ceives from a ievere Parent, and the obfequious regard 
paid to her by^a flattering Lover, is enough to make her 
run all rifks with the latter, in order to get out of the 
Jiands of the former, i. 262. 264. [272. 274]. 

Parents fometimes make not thofe allowances for 
Youth, which, when young, they wifh'd to be made 
for themfelves, i. 386, 387. [ii, 78]. 

Parents muft not always expeA, that advice fhould 
have the fame force upon their Children, as experience, 
has upon themfelves, i. 388. [ii« 79]. 

In giving advice, and remonftrating, Parents and 
Guardians fhould proceed by patient reafoning and gentle » 
nefs, that they may not harden where tliey wilh to con- 
vince, ibid. 

Unkind oircumftances on the Parents part, and beed- 
lefs ones on the Child V, in a debate where both mean 
well, will make fmall differences great ones, ihid. 

A Parent, by forcing a Child to mairry the man (he 
hates, may occafion an utter diffipation of the Child^s 
morals, and, of confequence, her everlafUng perdition, 

I. 405. [ii. 95]. 

Averfion in a Child fhould be diftinguifhed from ivii- 
fulnefs, ii. 94. [183]. 

String? that ^re overflrained mufl either be relaxed o^ 

break, ii. 157. [MSI- . 

The time may come for a Child to confider, as the 
highefl benefit to herfelf, thofe meafures of a Pareat 
which at prefentihe may think j;rievoas« ii. 172. [2j;8]. 


the Wfiory of Cla% I &s A* 171 

The more obitinate a Child is in her oppofition to a 
Parent's will, the more will a Parent be apt to think hi» 
authority concerned to carry his point, ii. 182. [267]. 

Har(h and cruel treatment humbles a Child, and 
makes her feem cheaf in her own eyes, ii. 190. [277]. 
Is Jbe not then in the ivaj to become the eafy pnj of a 
man fwham othertvifi Jbe luould ha'Vi de/^i/ed? 

If Parents, by appeals or other wife, needlefsly expoft 
a Child, ihe will be apt to think, that, do what ihe will^ 
ihe cannot incur more difgrace than fhe already labours 
under, ii. \^z, [277]. 

To endeavour to force a free mind, is to diihonour it^ 
ii. 140. \^Z2J^' 

It is better for a good Child to be able to fay, her 
Parents were unkind to her^ than that (he was undutiful to 
them^ ii. 286. Seea//b\. 121. [iii. 25. See al/oi, 125]. 

The exertion of a feafonable lenity may fave a penir 
tent Child from utter deftrudion, ii. 311. 382. iv. 156. 
V. 222. vii. 5. [iii. 49. 116. iv. 355. vi. 128. vii. 

The Father and Mother who would fecure to them- 

felves the undivided love of their Children, fhould avoid 

fuch durable contentions with each other, as would 

diftrefs their Children which fide to take, wh^n they 

would be glad to reverence both, iii. 46. [189]. 

A good Parent muft have greater pain in the necejfary 
reftraint of a headftrong Daughter, than Ihe can give 
CO fuch a Daughter, iii. 56. [198] 

At every age on this fide matrimony it will be found, 
that a Parentis wings are the mod eifedual fafeguards 
of Daughters, from the villainous birds of prey that 
hover round them, iii. 56. [198,1993. 

A Parent^ for a failure 'in her own duty, is wot an- 
fwerable to her Child, iii. 57. [199]. 

Reverence is too apt to be forgot by Children, when 
Parents forget what belongs to their own charaders^ 
iii. 377. [iv. 161]. , 

.Parents and Childreii, when feparated, and feeing 
each 9ther but feldom, (ike other lovers,, (hew tbeir 
bed (ides to each other, iii. 388. [iv. 172]. 

The bad qualities in which fond Parents too often 

I 2 ^. 

iyi Sentiments^ &c. exiraffedfrcm 

indulge their Children when infants, not feldom, at riper 
years, prove the plague of their hearts, iv. 281 . [v. 11 5]. 

It is as neceiTary to diredi Daughters in the choice of 
their female companions, and to watch aeainfl the in« 
trigues of ^omen-fervants, as it is to guard them againft 
the defigns of men, Lo'vel. v. 11, 12. [257, 258]. 

Parents the moft indulgent in their own natures, often, 
from the errors of a Child, incur the cenfure of hard- 
heartednefs, v. 221 [vi. 128]. 

Doubly faulty is that Child, therefore, who, by a ra(h 
aflibn, not only difgraces herfelf, but depreciates the 
tnoft revered characters, thiJ, 

What confufion of mind mud attend the reflexions of 
a Child, who, from the moft promifing outfetring, has 
brought ruin on herfelf, and diflrefs on her Friends ! ihiJ, 

The voice of nature muft at 1 aft be heard in favour 
of a Child truly penitent, v. 223. vi. 371. [vi. 130. 
vii. 501]. 

When a Daughter is ftrangly.fct upon a point ; it is 
better for a Mother (if the point be of no high confe- 
quence) to make herfelf of her party, than violently to 
Oppofe her, v. 281. [vi. 192]. 

Parents (hould take care that they do not weaken 
their authority, by a needlefs exertion of it, v. 399. 
[vi. 318]. 

> What an enormity is there in that crime of a Child, 
which can turn the hearts of Parents, before indulgent, 
againft her ! vi. 20. [348]. 

The refentment which Children, and even the world, 
may afcribe to cruelty in an .offended Parent, maybe 
owing to excefs of love, and difappointed hopes, vi. 26. 


It is to be hoped, /ays Mi/s Howe, that unforgiving 

Paients were always good, dutiful, and pafilve Children 

10 their Parents, vi. 75. [407]. 

Parents who would cure a Child^s impatience of fpi« 
rit, (hould not betray a want of temper ii? themfelves, iM. 

Children, depending on the weaknefs of their Parents 
tempers, too ofen harden their own hearts, vi. ii9. 
fvii. 33]. ^ 

While Parents tUni a Child ia fault, a$ they have a 


the Hijiory of Clarissa. 173 

tight to judge for themfelvesy they ought to have 

treat allowances made for them ; efpecially if, till their 
ifpleafure took place, they had always been kind and 
indulgent, vi. 128. [vii. 43.]. 

Good Children make hotk their Psu'ents happy in eac^ 
othert as well as in them ;< bad Children unhappy in both, ^ 
vi. 126. [vii. 43, 44]. 

When the neareil Friend» give np an unhappy Child^ 
every one is ready to propagate ilander againft her, 
vi. 188. Tvii. 107]. ' 

A good Child will be careful of making a party againft 
even harfh and fevere Parents, vi. 287. [vii. 2.12]. 

It requires a high degree of underftanding and difcre-^ 
tion in a Daughter, when grown up, to let it be feen 
that ihe mingles reverence with her love to a Parent, 
"who has talents viiibly inferior to her own, vii. 245.. 
[viii. 169]. 

Parents, '^in order to preferve their Children's venera- 
tion for them, (hould take great care not to let them (ee 
any thing in their own conduct, behaviour, or principles, 
which they themfelves would not approve of in others, 

Such Parents- as have a viable narrownefs c^ heart, 
muft needs weaken their own authority with Children of 
fpirit> vii. 246. [viii. 170]. 

See Advke^ to fTomen. Courtfhip. Controul. Duty. 
Love. Lover. Marriage. 

Partiality* Impartiality. 

Mbh frequently give advice to others, when con- 
fdted, with an indired view to fomething iimilar in their 
own cafe, i. 5,9, 60. [62]. 

Good-will, or Love, is often blind to real imperfefUons^ 
i. 120. [124]. 

We a^re apt to praife our benefa£lors, becaufe they 
are »ur benefaflors ; as if every body did right or wrong, 
as they obliged or difobliged us, i. 148. [153J. 

We fhould endeavoiu* to judge of ourfelves, and of 
•very.thine that affefls us, as we may reafonably imagine 
others will judge of us, and of our afUons, i. 175. 

I 3 Wcr# 

174 Stwtxtaex!^^ ^c. extracted fr^m 

Were eacK pcrfon to tell his 6wn ftory, and to be be- 
lieved, there would aot be a gailty perfon in the world, 
i. 243. [252]. 

No one fliould plead the errors of another^ in jaftifi- 
cation of his own, i. 301. [ii. 82]. 

Human nature, feniiDle of its own defe£ls, loves to 
be corre6ling ; but chafes rather to turn its eye outward 
than inward, iii. 59. [201]. 

We often look into ourfelves with a refolution not 
fairly to try, but to acquit ourfelves, iii. 123. [261]. 

It is difficult for a woman to fubfcribe to a preference 
againft herfelf in love-cafes, tho' ever fovifible, iii. 172. 


Poor arguments will do, when brought in favour of 
what we like, iii. 344. [iv. 127]. 

An artful man, bringing a cafe home to the paflions 
or intereft of his judges, will be likely to fucceed where 
he ought nor, ivr. 263. [v. 96]. 

That caufe muft be well tried, where the offender 
takes his feat upon the fame bench with the judge^ 
iv. 346. [v. 184]. 

Whatever qualities we iviflf to find in one we love, we 
are ready to find, v. 58. [307 J. 

Self- Partiality is a dangerous miileader, r. 223. [Ti« 

• An impartial fpirit, having ran into a puniihablc 
error, will not forgive itfelf, tho' its friends flioald for- 
give it, V. 267. [vi. 177]. 

^ Thofe leaft bear difappointment, who love moft to 
give it, v. 363. vi. 3^4. fvi. 280. vii. 315]. 

Many men are apt to take their meafures of right and 
wrong from what they themfelves arcy and cannot help 
iiingy vi. 96. [vii. 8].— 

So aukwardnefs may be a perfedion with the auk- 
ward, ihid. 

It is difficult to go out of ourfelves to give a judg- 
ment againil ourfelves ; and yet oftentimes, to pafs a jud 
judgment, we ought, vi. 184. [vii. 103]. 

Spferiog perfons are apt to be partial to their own 
c^afe and merits, vi. 368. [vii. 298]* 

It is far from being difficult for a 'worthy heart to re.- 
>. • - jedl 

the Hiftory of ChAKi%& A. 175 

jeA the man (however once favoured) whofe adlioos it 
defpifes, vi. 405. [vii. 338]. 
See Prepofieflion. 


The command of her Paffions was ClarifTa^s glory^ 
and is one of the greateft glories x)f the haman mind; 
i. 262. 266, 267. [272. 276]. 

The Manners and Pafiions of men and wom^n are to 
be feen in miniature daring their childhood, i. 310. 
[ii. o, 10]. / 

It the irafcible paffions cannot be overcome, how^ 
ihall thofe be fabdued, to which bad habit, joined t6 
greater temptation, gives ibx>nger force ? ii. 29. [122]. 

It b eafy to make a paffionate fpirit anfwcr all our 
Tiews upon it, ii. 129. [216}. 

Turbulence and obfequioofnefs, ufed in turn; keep a 
woman^s Paffions alive, and at lafl tire her into non> 
reiiflance, Mi/s Howe, iii. 127. [268]. 

People in a Paffion, thoV within a few yards of each 
other, hollow like travellers who are gotout of their way^, 
and want to get into it again, iii. 132. [269, 270]. 

How univerfally engaging it is, /ays Lovelace^ to put 
a woman of fenfe in a Paffion. let the reception given to 
the ranting fcenes in plays teilify, iii. 194. [328J. 

T^iofe Paffions in women, which they take no paini 
to fubdue, may have one and the fame fource [anJ ten* 
dencf] with thofe which hurry on ^he head-flrong and 
Solent of the other Sex to the commiffion of the' moit 
atrocious crimes, iii. 213. iv. 3. [iii. 345. iv. 190]. 

Paffion gives bodily ftrength; Fear takes it away^ 
iii. 262. [iv. 51}. 

Paffion diilorts the features, and makes even an hand- 
fome perfon ugly, iv. 7. [194]. 

The paffions of the gentle, tho' ilower to be moved 
than thofe of the quick, are generally the mod flaming 
when raifed, iv. 10. [204]. 

It is both tmpndent and imprudent, fays Lovelace, fbt 
a wife to be in a Paffion, iv. 32. [220]. 

Paffion and ill*will are dieadful mlfireprefenters, W. 
111. [307L . 

I 4 Violence 

jy6 Sentiments, &c. extra^edfrom 

Violence of Paflion is too often admitted as a plea 
[at leajl as an extenuation] for violence and indecency of 
adion, both by the female fex, and by the world, iv. 
128. V. 149. [iv. 326. vi. 51, 52]. 

To be able to arreft a woman's Paflion in the height 
of its career [on an offence gi'ven to her modefty] is, fays 
Lo'Oelace^ a charming prefage, iv. 285. [v. 117]- 

A woman of a violent Spirit is often in more danger 
from an artful man, than one of a Readier difpofition, 
v. 8. [253, 254]. 

Paifionate women have high pulfes, fays Lovelace ; and 
a clever fellow will make what iport he pleafes with them* 
v. 392. [vi, 311]. 

' Who can account for the workings and ways of a paf* 
fionate and difappointed woman ? LoveL vi. 12. [339]. 

Paflion has different ways of working in different bo- 
foms, as humours or complexion induce, vi. 16. [344]. 

The Pailions of the Female Sex, if naturally drawn, 
will diilingui/h tbemfelves from the mafculine Paflions, 
by a foftnefs that will fhine thro' rage and defpair, vi. 
204. [vii. 124], 

See Anger. Violent Spirits. 

Patience. Impatience. 

Persons unaccuftomed to ccntroul, are Impatient 
of controul, i. 5. [5]. 

If afHidlions are fent for corre£iive ends. Impatience 
may lead into more puniihable errors, ii. i6t. [247]. 

An impatient fpirit fubjedis itfelf to deferved humilia- 
tion, ii. 410. [iii. 142]. 

When a point is clear and felf-evident, it is difficult 
to find Patience, on being obliged to enter into an 
argument in proof of it, iii. 212, 213. Seealfii. 83. 
[iii. 344, 345. See alfo i. 86]. 

Patience and perieverance are able to overcome the 
greatefl difEculties, iii. 262. [iv. 48]. 

No man ought to be Impatient at imputations he is 
not afhamed to deferve, iv. 358. [v. 197]. 

An innocent man nuill not be outrageous upon reports 
made to his difadvantage ; a guilty man ought not^ 
iv. 359. [v. 197]. 


ibe Hiftory of Claki%% A 177 

The injured has a right to upbraid ; the injurer ought 
to be patient, v. 122, 123. [vi. 24]. 

Perions who by their raihnefs have made a breach in 
their duty, ihould not enlarge it by their impatience, 
V. 221. [vi. 128]. 

Impatience is generally the child of felf-partiality, 
V. 223. [v. 130]. 

The perfon who is employed as a mediator, (hould 
not be himfelf over-ready to take offence, vi. 10. 14* 

[337- 340- 
People new to misfortune are often too eaiily moveJ 

to impatience, vi. 188. [vii. 107]. 

It is not juil for two friends, more than for man and 
wife, to be out of Patience at one time, vi. 197. [vii. 

In a deep dif^refs, a man of an impatient fpirit is apt 
to think that every face, and even the face of nature, 
&ould wear the marks of that woe which affe^ him,. 
▼ii. 25. [364]. 

Pedants. Colleges. 

Youths raw from the Colleges are not fit prefcribers 
to the gentler Sex, i. 182. [189]. 

Colleges are too often clafies of tyrants, itid^ 
Young men of (hallow parts, juft come from College, 
are apt to defpife thofe who cannot tell how an an- 
tient author expreiTed himfelf in Greek or Latin on a 
fubjed, upon which, however, they may know how, as 
well as the author, to exprefs themfelves in Eogliih, 
vi. 178. [vii.. 96]. 

See Brandos Letttn in the Hiftory^ VoL vi. /u 356, 
fcf fef. Vol. vii. p. 40—57. [VoL vii. /. 285— « 
291. aift/-38or-^398]. 

Phyfic. Phylicianr; 

PUNISH and prefcribe fynonymous terms in Phylic^ 
vr, 30. [228). 

Why, ajks Lovelace, when Phyficians can do no good, 
will they not ftudy to gratify rather than naufeate the 
palate of their patients ? ibid^ 

I S It 

17* Sentiments, &c. ixtraRtifrtm 

It is ill jefting with edged tools, and worfe with phy* 
fical ones, LofveL iv, 8i. [274]. 

Thofe who treat contemptuoufly the profeiTors of the 
art of healing, gener^iy treat higli^r invitations as light- 
ly, Clariffa^ iv. 86. [279]. 

Sharp or acute mental organs freqoently whet oat the 
bodily onfes, v. 172. [vi. 76]. 

A generoas Phyfician, where he is hopelefs of doing 
good, will pat on the Friend, and lay afide the Dodor, 
V. 386. [vi. 305]. 

When phy ileal men, f€t^s BeIfird,2LXt at a lofs what 
to prefcribe to their patients, they inquire what it is they 
hefl like, or are moll diverted with, and forbid them 
that, vi. 66. [397]. 

Phyficians, to do credit to their (kill, will fometimes 
Aiake a flight difeafe important, Lo<vei. vi. 201. [vii. 


. We oaght to begin early to fludy what our conilitu- 
tions will bear, vi. 265. [vii. 189]. 

Phyficians, when they find a cafe defperate, ihoald 
generally decline the fee, vi. 266. [vii. 190]. 
' Friendfiiip and Phyiician are not abfohttely incom- 
patible, vi. 330. [vii. 258]. 

A ikilful operator will endeavour to be intelligible, 
and, if honeft, to make every one a judge of his practice, 
vii. 137. [viii. 57]. 

Generally, fays Beljord^ when the Phyfician enters, 
the air is (hut oat, vii. 140. [viii. 61]. 

Quantity in diet is more to be regarded than quality, 
vii. 287. [viii. 213]. 

/.A fall meal is a great enemy both to (lady and in- 
dufky, ihid. 

A worthy Phyiician will pay a regular and'conilant 
attendance upon his patient, watching with his own eyes 
every change, and every new fymptom, of his malady, 
vii. 300. [viii.. 227J. 

He will vary his applications as indications vary, 

He will not fetter himfelf to rules laid down by the. 
fathers of the art who lived many hundred years ago, 
when difeafesp and the caufes of them, as alfo the modes 
•' i of 

of living, and cHmates, and accidents, were different 
from what they are now, vii. aoo. [viii. 22y'\. 

He ihould not be greedy of fees ;. but proportion his 
expedation of reward to the good in his confcience he' 
diinks he does, Wd, 

Ste Health. Vapours. 

Pity. Mercy* 

Pit Y is a good preparative to Love, i. 12. [12]. 

We ihould ihew Mercy or Lenity to unhappy per-" 
fons, whofe calamities, in a like iituation, xxiight have 
been our own, i. 183. [190]. 

Difgraces brought on perfons by themfelves ought 
not to be pitied, i. 214. [222]. 

In our attendances on a dying peribn, we pity him 
for what he fufFers ; and we pity ourfelves for what we 
tnulb one day in like manner fuffer ; and fo are doubly 
afFeded, ii. 39. [131]- 

The Pity which a rafh child often meets with, when 
fhe has brought upon herfelf an irreparable evil, fhoulcE 
generally be transferred to her parents and friends, iii# 
292. [iv. 78, 79]. 

Pity from one often begets Pity from another, whe<r 
ther die occaiion for it be either firong or weak, iii. 35 71^ 
[iv. 141]. 

God wants not any thing of us for Himfelf. He en^ 
joins us works of mercy to one another, as the means to 
obtain J^s mercy, v. 192. [vt. 9S]. 

The brave and the wife know both how to pity ami 
excufe, vii. 1.20. [viii. 3^ J. 

See Generoiity. Goodnefs. Magnanimity r 

Politenefs. Travelling. 

P o L 1 T E N E s s conib-ained, and not free, is to bo 
fefpe^led, i. 61. [64}. 

A perfon may not be polite, and yet not chara£leri(li- 
cally unpolite, ii. 72. [163]. 

A manly iincerity, and opennefs of heart, are very 
confiftent with true Politenefs, ti. 331. [iii. 67] ' 

Politenefs is, on the man*s part, neceflary to gain a 
footing in a wo>maa*s heart : But Mifs Howe qnellions, 

I 6 whether 

i8o Sentiments, Sec. extraSied from 

whether a little intermingled iufolence is not neceflary to 
keep that footing, Hi. 26. [170]. 

A man's mOr^ity is often the price paid for travelling 
accomplifhmentSy iii. 245. [iv. 32]. 

A polite man, refpedling a Lady, will not treat con* 
temptuoufly any of her relations, iv. 139. [337]. 

Men of parts and fortune frequently behave as if 
they thought they need not be gentlemen, iv. 342. [v. 
1 80]. 

Men iti years too often think their age a difpenfa- 
tion from Politenefs, v. 179. [vi. 84]. 

Nothing can be polite, that is not j aft or good, v. 376. 
[vi. 294]. 

See Drefs. 

Political Precepts. 

A M A N who thinks highly of himfelf, and lowly of 
his audience, is bell qualified to fpeak in public, iv. 51. 

An adminiftration is entitled to every vote a man can, 
with a good confcience, give it, ibid. 

Drags ihould not needlefly be put to the wheels of go- 
vernment, iv. 51. [242]. 

Neither can an oppofition, neither can a miniftry» 
be always wrong, ibid. 

A plumb man mud therefore mean more or worfe 
than he will own, ibid. 

The leall trifles, fays Lomelacij will fet pHnces and 
children at loggerheads, iv. 119. [315]. 

Poverty. Poor. 

The Almighty is very gracious to his creatures, ie 
that he make not much necefiary to the fupport of life } 
fince three parts in four of them, if it were, would not 
know how to obtain that much, ii. 16. [no]. 

Poverty is the mother of health, ibid. 

-1 be pleafures of the Mighty are obuin'd by the tears 
of the Poor, ii. 17. [iio]» 

The man who is ufed to Poverty, and can enjoy it» 
nox aiming to live better to-morrow, than he does te« 


' the Hifiory of Cuii^i%%A. igi 


day, and did yefterday, is above temptation, unlefs it 
comes cloathed to him in the guife of truth and truft, 
Lo<veh iii. 18. [162]. „ ^ 

Were it not for the Poor, and the Middling, Lo*ueiaci 
fayi^ tlie world would deferve to be deftroyed, iii. 1 86. 

Common or ir^^-beggars fhonld be left to the public 
provifion» iv. 31. [219]. 

In the general fcale of beings, the loweft is as ufefuT» 
and as much a link of the great chain, as the highe(l» 
vii. 272. [viii. 198]. 

Power. Independence. 

EvBRY one, more or lefs, loves Power, i. 120. 

Yet thofe, who mod wi(h for it, are feldom the fitteH 
to be trufted with it, i. 120. vii. 20. [i. 124. vii. 358]. 

An honeft man would not wifh to have it in his Power 
to do hart, iv. 158. [357]. 

Power is too apt to make men both wanton and wick* 
ed, iv. 158, V. 13. [iv. 357. v. 259]. 

If our Power to do good is circumfcribed, we fhall 
have the lefs to anfwer ror, iv. 220. £v^. 51]. 

People who have money, or Power, never want af* 
fiftants, be their views ever fo wicked, v. 113. [vi. i ^]. 

Who that has it in his Power to gradfy a predominant 
paffion, be it what it will, denies himfelf the gratification 
of it ? £dW. vi. 92. [vii. 5]. 

Both Sexes too mnch love to have each other in their 
Power, vii. 20. [358]. 

Even women of fenfe, fays Colonel Morden^ on Mifs 
Howis bebanjiour to Mr^ Hickman^ are not to be traded 
with too much Power, vii. 244. [viii. i68j. 
See Controul. Profperity. 

Praife. Difpraife. Applaufc. Blame. 

Praise being the reward for good deeds, and Dif-> 
praife the paniihment for bad, they ought not to be con- 
toanded in the application, i. 322. [ii. 13]. 

An ingenaons mind will haften to intitk itfelf to the 
griLces for which it is commended, if already it iuis them 

i82' SentimentSt &cc. ixfra&ed pdm 

iK>c» 1. 375. Seealfiu 89. andv, zz^. [ii 6^, Sa alfo 
i, 5. andsi. iji]- 

' How foothing a thing is Praife from the moath of 
thofe we love ! 1. 375. [ii. 67]. 

Would every one give Praife and Difprai(e <mly where 
due, (hame, if not principle, would mend the world, 
iii. 66. [2©8]. 

It is a degree of alFedation to decline joining in the 
due Praife of oar children, becaufe they are our own, 
iii. 285. [iv. 72]. 

Thofewho are accaftomed to Praife, will not be pfoud- 
of it, iii. 286. [iv. 72]. 

A perfon too fona of Praife is apt to be mifled by it, 
iv. 9. [196, 197]. 

Thofe are generally moft proud of Praife, who leaft 
deferveit, irl 55. [246]. 

Praife reproaches, when applied to the undeferving,- 
iv. 85. [278]. 

Praife will beget an emulation in a generous mind to' 
deferve, or to continue to deferve it, v. 224. [vi. 131]. 

Thofe who praife with warmth the laudable actions of 
another, where they themfelves are not benefited, may 
be fuppofed to bav« a fpirit like that which they applaud, 
vii. 246. See €d/o i. 374. [viii. 170. Sei alfo ii. 66]. 

Perfons who £nd themfelves heard with applaufe, 
ought to take care that they do not, by engroCmg the 
converfation, lofe the benefit of other peopie*s fenti- 
ments ; and that they fuffer not themfelves to be praifed* 
into loquacioufnefs, vii. 289. [viii. 215]. 

Sii Cenfure. Generoiity. Goodnefs. Merit. 

Prejudice. Prcpoffeflion. Antipathy. 

Early-begun Antipathies are not eaiily eradicated, 
i. 19. [20]. 

Thofe we diflike can do nothing to pleafe us, i. 89.. 
ii. 114. [i. 92. ii. 202}. 

An extraordinary Antipathy in a young Lady to a par-' 
ticular perfon, is generally owing to an extraordinary 
prepofle£oB in favour of another, i. 108. [112]. 

An eye favourable to a Lover, will not iee bis ftoltt' 
tkro' a magnifying glafs, ii. 50. [142], Pif- 

4b0 TUfhry of C l aici ss^a. rZy 

• PrepoiTeffion in a Lover's favour will make a Lady 
impote to ill-will and prejadice all that can be iaid againft 
him, ibiJ, 

Old prejudices [tho^ once /eemingfy removai'] eaiily re- 
cur, ii. J 1 4. [iii. 52]. 

To thofe we love not, /a^j Lovelace, /peaking of Mr. 
HicAmaUf we can hardly allow the merit they mould be 
granted, vi. i. [328]. 

Prejudices in disfaniour generally fix deeper than Pre- 
judice mfawmr^ vi. 306. [vii. 233]. 

Whenever we approve, we can find an hundred rea-< 
fons to juflify our approbation ; and whenever we diflike, 
we can find a tfaoufiuid to juftify our diflike, vi. 256. 
[viii. 181]. [^/cXove. Lover. 


Pa I DC, in people of birth and fortune, is not only' 
mean, but necdleis, i. i8jS. [1Q3]. 

Diftindlion and quality may be prided in, by thofe to. 
whom it is a nevo thing, ihid. 

The contempt a proud great jperfon brings on himfelf^ 
is a counterbalance for his gfeatnefs, ibid. 

It is fometimes eafier to lay a proud man under obliga- 
tion, than to get him to acknowlege it, i. 322. [ii. 13]. ' 

Pride ever muft, and ever will, provoke contempt,. 
i. 186. [iL 13]. 

There may be fuch an haughtinefs in fubmiffion, as 
may entirely invalidate the fubmifiion» ii. 72. [162}. 

A perfon who diilinguilhes not, may think it the mark 
of a great fpirit to humour his own Pride, even at the 
expence of his politenefs, iL 73. [i63]» 

It is to be feared there are more good and laudable 
adions owing to Pride, than to Virtue, ii. 207. [291]. 

Pride and meannefs are as nearly allied to each other, 
as the poets tell us wit and madnefs are, ii. 23 1 . [3 1 4I. 

Noming more effectually brings down a proud fpirit, 
than a fenfe of lying under pecuniary obligation, ii. 388, 
[iii. 121, 122]. 

Pride, wh^n it is native, will (hew itfelf fometimes in 
the midilof mortifications, iii. 33. [177] . 

Pride fre<|uently eats up a man*s pruaence, iii. 239. 
[iv. 27]. ^ ' Pride 

184 Sentiments, &c. extraHed from 

Pride is an infallible fign of weaknefs» or fomething 
wrong, either in the heart or head, or in both, iii. 240^ 
[iv. 28]. 

It is poifible for a woman to be proud, in fuppofing (he 
has no Pride, iv. 9. [196]. 

We ought not to value ourfelves on talents we give 
not to ourfelves, iv.- 30, vii. 272. [iv. 218. viii. 

How contemptible is that Pride which flands upon 

diminutive obfervances, and gives up the mod important 

iiutiesi iv. 30. [219]. 

Some women have from Pride, what others ^ [j»drr 
laudably] have from principle. The Lord help the Sex, 
fiv^s Larvelace^ if they had not Pride ! v. 1 1. [257]. 

Pride or Arrogance invites oiortiiication, v. 382. [vi. 

Baughty fpirits, when they are convinced that they 
have carried their refentments too high, frequeitkly want 
but a good excufc to condefcend,.vi. 371. [vii. 301]. 

Pride in man or woman is an extreme, that hardly 
fails, fooner or later, to bring forth its mortifying con- 
trary, vi. 406. [vii. 399]. 

Perfons of accidental or fhadowy merit may be proud ; 
but inborn worth, mull be always as much above conceit 
as arrogance, vii. 272. [viii. 1973* 

There is but one pride pardonable; that of being 
above doing a bafe or difhonourable a£lion, vii. 272. 
See al/oi, 186. [viii. 198. Seeai/oi. 193]. 
See Humility. Infolence. Little Spirits » 

Procurefs, Prdligate fVomen. 

People at vile houfes, by producing fometimes to 
their wicked clients wretches of pretended quality, caufe 
people of degree to be thought more profligate ^an 
they are, iii. 258, 259. [iv. 45, 46]. 

Even a Lovelace refu(ed to continue a commerce witk 
profligate women, tho* they were firft ruin'd by himfelf> 
IV. 74. V. 142. [iv. 266. vi. 45]. 

Men in bad company can think and fay things that 
they cannot think or fay inbetter^i La'veL v. 20. [267}. 


the Hijiory of Clarissa* 185 

Perfons may be led into crimes by the infe£lion of 
bad company, which once they would, have abhorred, 
V. 122. [vi. 24]. 

A profligate woman is more terrible to her own Sex, 
than even a bad man, v. 133. [vi. 37]. 

If a married man, fays Lo'velace^ gives himfelf op to 
the company of wicked women,, they will never let him 
reft, till he either fufped or hate his wife, v. 1 44. vit. 
lie. [vi. 46. viii. 34]. 

What can with-hold a jealoas and already ruinM wo* 
man ? v. 144. [vi. 47]. 

Little knows the public what villainies are committed 
in the houfes of abandoned women, upon innocent crea- 
tures drawn into their fuares, v. 333. 353. [vi.-248. 

O Lovelace, fays Belford, defcrihing the profligate crea^ 
tures at Sinclair s in tbetr morning dijhahille^ what compa* 
ny do we Rakes keep? and lor fucb company, what 
fociety renounce, or endeavour to make like thefe I 
vii. 141. [viii. 61]. 

What woman, nice in her perfon, and of purity in 
her mind and manners, did (he know what miry wallowers 
the generality of men of our clafs are themfelves, and 
trough and fly with, but would deteft (he thoughts of 
aiTociating with fuch filthy fenfualifls, whofe favourite 
tafte carries them to mingle with the dregs of flews^ bro« 
thels, and common-fewers ! Belf, ibid, 

A high phrenfy muft be the only happinefs that a 
woman, in her laft hours, can know, who has a£led the 
diabolical part of aProcurefs, vii. 143. [viii. 63]. 

See Advice to Women. Guilt. Libertine. Lover. 

Prolpcrity, Succefs, Riches. 

Prosperity is the parent of impatience, i. 30. 


Thofe.who want the feweft earthly bleffings, moft re- 
gret that they want any, ibid, 

'Riches are valuable, in that they put it in our power . 
to confer favours on the defcrving, i. 321. [ii. 12]. 


its Sentiments, Sec. . extraffed from 

Succefs in unjuftifiable devices often fets bad people 
above keeping decent meafures, ii. ii6. [203]. 

In great Profperity, as well as in great Calamity, we 
ought to look into onrfelves, zndfiar, ii. 159. [245]. 

Succefs has blown up, and undone, many a man, 
ii. 385. [ill. 118]. 

Who is there that Wealth does not miilead? iii. 186. 

Profperity fets up merit as a mark for envy to ihoot 
its (hafts at, iii, 277. [iv. 64]. 

The greatly Profperous bear controul and difappoint- 
ment with di^culty, iv. 30. [218]. 

Great acquirements are great fnares, iiid, 

Thofe are generally moft proud of Riches or Grandenr, 
who were not born to either, iv. 55. [246]. 

Succefs in projects is every-tning. Thofe fchemes 
wlU appear foolifh, even to the contriver of them, which 
are fruilrated and rendered abortive, v. 163. [vi. 66]. 

Profperity and independence are much to be coveted, 
as they give force to the counfels of a friendly heart, 
V. 230. [vi. 138]. 

People may be too rich to be either confiderate or con- 
tented, vi. 394. [vii. 326]. 

A life of Profperity is dangerous, in that it affords 
not the trials which are neceflary to wesin a perfon from 
a world that fuch will find too alluring, vii. 104. [viii. 


What have we to do, but to chufe what is right, 
to be fteady in the purfuit of- it, and leave the iiTue to 
Providence? i. 123. [128]. 

It is more juft to arraign ourfelves, or our friends, 
than Providence, iii. 274. [iv, 60]. 

The ways of Providence are unfearchable, vii. 110. 
[viii. 29]. 

Various are the means nxade ufe of by Providence to 
bring finners to a fenfe of their duty, ihiJ. 

Some are drawn by love, others are driven by terroi 8, 
t9 that divine refuge, /^iV. 
Sge Infolence. Pride, 


Ufe Hifi^ of CvAKi^SA. 187 

Prudence. Wifdom. Difcretion. 

* ■• 

The trials of the Prudent are geiierally. proportioned 
to their Prudence, i. 3. [j]* 

Prudent perfons will not put themfelves in the power 
pf a fervant's tongue, i. 84. [88]. 

Prudence will oblige a woman to forbear complain- 
ing, or making an appeal, againfl her hafl^and, i. 199. 


Deeds, not words, will be the only evidence to a 
prudent perfon of a good intention, i. 378. ii. 80. [ii. 
70. 170]. 

A prudent. woman; who is addre£ed by a ijian of 
fufpe^ed virtue, tho* hopeful of the le/f, will always, 
in doubtful points, be fearful of the tvorfi, ii. 382. [iii. 

We are often fatally convinced of the Tanity of mere 
human Prudence, iii. 274, [iv. 60]. 

A prudent and good perfon, who has been a little 
miiled, will do all m her power to recover, as foon as 
poflible, her loft path, iii. 27c. [iv. 61]. 

To avoid the fuppofed difgrace of retradtation, a 
prudent perfon will be backward to give her opinion in 
company of perfons noted for their luperior talents, iii. 
276. [iv. 62]. 

A wife woman, defpifing the imputation of prudery 
on one hand, and coquetry on the other, will form her 
condu6i according to what her own heart tells her of the 
J!i and uftfit ; and look upon the opinion of the world as 
joatter only of fecondary confideration, iii. 312. [iv. 

97]- , 

Prudent perfons will not need to be convinced, by 

their cnvn misfortunes, of the truth of what common ex- 
perience daily demonftrates, vi. 158. [vii. 74]. 
' £>ifEcult iituations are the tefts of Prudence and Vir- 
tue, vi. 191. [vii. no]. 

It is a happy art to know when one has faid enough; 
vii. 289. [viii. 215, 216]. 

Prudent perfojns will always leave their hearers wifli- 
iag them to fay more> rather than to give them caufe to 


i88 Sentiments, &c. extraSed from 

fhew, by their inattention and uneafmefs, that they have 
faid too much, vii. 290. [viii. 216]. 

See Advice to Women, ' Goodnefs. Generofity. 
Merit. Virtue. 


Purity of manners is the diftingnilhing chara^riilic 
of women, iii. 198. [332]. 

Women who fimper or fmile, when they Ihoald re(ent 
the culpable freedom of fpeech in a bold man, render 
queilionable the Parity of their hearts, ibid. 

Words are the body and drefs of thought, iii. 199. 


A pure mind on^ht not to ^ifti a connexion with one 
impure, iii. 244. [iv. 31]. 

Set Goodnefs. Religion. Virtue. 



The Violation of a woman is a crime that a man cia 
nevpr atone for ; efpecially when it is the oiccafion of 
dellroying good habits, and corrupting the whole heart, 
v. loi. [352]. 

The fmalleft conceflion made by a woman, refenting 
an Outrage actually made upon her honour, is as much 
to the purpofe of the Violator as the greatefi^ v. 173. 

[vi. 77J' 

The woman who, from Modefty, declines profecnte* 
ing a brutal Ravifher, and has his life in her hands, {% 
anfwerable for all the mifchiefs he- may do in future, 
v. 273. fvi. 183]. 

Will it not be furmifed, that fuch a wdman is appre- 
heniive that fome weaknefs will appear again ft herfelf, 
if fl>e brought the man to a trial for his life ? ihidi 

See Airs, Hotve^s further arguments on this b'ead^ 

Vol, v. f, 273, 274. [vi. p, 183, 184]. 
And al/o Dr. LcnAten'sy Vol, vi. f. 283 — 286. [vii. 
p, 208 — 221]. And OariJJas Anfwers^ Vol, v. 
p, 277. and Vol, vi. p, 287.^290. [vi. /. 188. 
andVoL vii. p. z\z — 215]. 


the Hift^ (/Clarissa. 189 

Indignities cannot be properly pardoned till we have 
ic in our power to punidi them, vi. 285. [vii. 210]. 

Injuries that are not refented, or honourably com- 
plained of, will not be believed properly to affe6t us, 

No trath is immodeft, that is to be uttered in the vin- 
dicated canfe of innocence and chaftity, ibid. 

Little, very little difference is there between a fup- 
preiTed evidence %nd a falfe one, ibid. 
Set Libertine. 

Rcfleftions on Women. 

Dejigned principally to incite Caution, and infpire Prudence^ 
Sec, ty letting them kno^w ivbat Libertines and free 
Speakers fay and think of the Sex, 

For women to do and to love what they (hould not, 
is, according to old Ant, Harlotuey meat, drink, and vef* 
ture to them, i. zii. [219]. 

The ufelefTnefs and expenfivenefs of modern women 
multiply Bachelors, i. 212. [220]. ^ 

There is a tragedy- pride in the hearts of young wo- 
men, that will make them rifque every-thing to excite 
pity, James Harlomje, i. 253. [263]. 

Young creatures are often fond of a lover-like dif- 
Xxei&t Ja. Harl, ibid. 

Women-cowards love men of fpirit, and delight in 
fubjedts of faife heroifm, Mifs Howej i. 318. [it. 9]. 

Women, according to Mifs Ho<we [fome only fl>e muft 
mean"] are mere babies in matrimony ; perverfe fools^ 
when too much indulged and humour'd ; creeping ilaves, 
when treated with harfhnefs, i. 325. [ii. 16]. 

Women love to trade in furprifes, i. 328. [ii. 20]. 

The man who can be fure of his wife*s complaifance, 
tho' he has not her love, will be more happy than nine 
parts in ten of his married acquaintance, fays Solmes, 
1* 371. [ii. 62]. 

If love and fear mud be feparated in matrimony, the 
fnan who makes himfelf feared, fares beft« Solmes, i. 371 . 
See etlfo i. 270. [ii. 63. See alfo i. 280]. 

Women always prefer blifterbg men: They only 


190 SentimentSy &c ixtnri^edfiriM 

wi(h to dired the blufter, and make it roar wketl abd 
at whom th^y pleafe, Mi/s Hoim, ii. 37. [129}. 

Women, when they favour, will make the flighted, 
and even bat 2^fanfyd merit, excufe the moft glaring 
vice, ii. 51. [142}., 

Women who have the rougher manners of meB, ma)r 
be faid to have the foals of men in the bodies of wo-s 
men, ii. 114. [201, 202]. 

Women love to engage in knight-errantry themfelves, 
^s well as to encourage it in men, ii. 155. [242]. 

A Rake, fays Lovelace^ has no reafon to be a hypo- 
crite, when he has found his views better anfwered by 
his being known to be a Rake, ii. 318. iii. 185. [iii. 56* 

How greedily do the Sex fwallow praife f LoveL ii. 
353. [iii. 61]. 

Lovelace calls upon the Female Sex to account for 
the preference given by many fnoiUft women, as they 
are accounted, to a Rake, when the moft imfudent of 
Rakes, fays hi, love tnodefty in a nucman^ ii. 372. [iii, 

It concerns every woman, infiruSli'vely fays Lo^elaee^ 
to prove by her adions, that this preference is not owing 
to a likenefs in nature^ ibid. 

There is, Lovelace fays , fuch a perverfenefs in the Sex, 
that when they aik your advice, they do it only to know 
your opinion, that they may oppofe it, ii. 387. iii. 23. 
[iii. 120. 167]. 

Women, fays Lotvelace^ love to be called cruel, even 
when they are kindeft, iii. 24. [168]. 

The beft of the Sex, fays Lovelace^ wifh to have the 
credit of reforming a Rake ; and fo draw themfelves ia 
with a very little of our help, iii. 185. [320]. 

Rakes and Libertines are the men, Mifs H^we Jays^ 
that women do not naturally diflike, iii. 329 [iv. 113J. - 

Oppodtion and contradidion give vigour to female 
fpirit of a warm and romantic turn, iii. 309. [iv. X'83]. , 

Women love Rakes, fays L^velacg^ becaoft Rakes 
know how to direct their ancertain wilU, and to manage 
them, iv. 57. [249]. 

Nothing on earth is to perverie as a wcsMii^ when 


/j^ i^^(/ Clarissa. 191 

&e is fet apoxi carrying a point, and has a meek man, 
or one who loves his peace, to deal with, LtwiL iv. 137.. 

HadlE found that a character for virtue had been ge- 
nerally neceiTary to recommend me to the Sex, I. would, 
ftys Lo<oelace^ have had a greater regard to my morals 
than I have had, iv. 162. [361]. 

When you would have a woman report a piece of 
intelligence, fap Lo^velacey you muft enjoin her to keep 
it as a fccret, iv. 248. [v. 80]. 

Women Ipve to have their Sex, and their favours, ap- 
pear of importance to men, Lo^eU iv. 275. [v. 109]. 
- Moft of the fair Romancers have, in their early wo- 
manhood, chofen Lovre. names, Jtys Lo*velacey iv. 276 • 
[v. no]. 

Many a fweet dear, adds he^ has anfwered me a Let- 
ter, for the fake of owning a name which her god- 
mother never gave her, ihid. 

An innocent woman. Loo; elace fays y who has been littlii 
in the world, knows not what ilrange ilories every wo- 
man living, who has had the leafl independence of will,' 
could tell her, iv. 283. [v. 117]. 

The whole Sex love plotting, and plotters too. Jays ' 
Lovelace^ iv. ^85. [v. 120]. 

Women like not novices. Love!, iv. 302. [v. 137]. 

They are pleafed with a love of the Sex that is found- 
ed in the kwywlegt of it — Reafon good — •- He proceeds to 
give the reafons in the fame JlyUy very little to the credii 
ojf the SeXy iv. 302, 303. [v. 137, 138]. 

Women are the greateft triliers in the creation, rudely 
fays Lovelace^ yet fanfy themfelves the moil important 
beioffs in it! iy. 231. [v. 168]. 

Thefe tender doves, fays Lovelace^ fpeaking of young 
Ladies, know not, till put to it, what they can bear, 
efpecially when engaged in love affairs, iv. 333. [v« 

The Sex love bufy fcenes, Lovel. ibid, 

A wx)man will create a ilorm, rather than be without 
one, Lovel. ibid. 

Mod; unhappy is the woman, who is obliged to liv^ 
in tumults, which ihe neither raifed» nor can contr^ul, 
Hid. Women 


192 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfhm 

Women are ofed to cry without grief, and to laugh 
without reafon, Lovel. iv. 339. [v. 176]. 

Jlny woman, fays Lovelace, could I make good ; be- 
caufe I cottld make her fear me, as well as itive me» 
iv. 381. [v.- 220, 221]. 

All women are born to intrigue, and pra£tife it more 
or lefs, Lo*veL iv. 404. [v. 244]. 

In love affairs women are naturally expert, and much 
more quick-witted than men, Lovei. ibid. 

Friendfhip in women, when a man comes in between 
the pair of friends, is given up, like their muiic» and 
other maidenly amufements, Lo'oe^. v. 8. [254].. 

The mother who would wifli her daughter to have one 
man, would fometimes better fucceed, if fhe propofed 
another, Lo'veL y. 9. [254, 255]. 

It is a common fault of the Sex, according to Lovelace, 
to aim. at being young too long, v. j2. [279]. 

Secrets of love, and fecrets of intrigue, Lovelace fays, 
kre the ftrongell cements of womens friendihips, v. 69. 

All w6men, fays Lovelace, are cowards at heart : They 
^ are only violent where they may, v. 178. [vi. 83]. 

Women, fays Lovelace, love thofe beft (whether men, 
women, or children) who give them moil pain, v. 363. 
[vi. 281}. 

Girls who are never out of temper but voith reafon, 
when that is given them, hardly ever pardon, or af- 
ford another opportunity of offending, Lovel. v. 392. 

[vi. 311]. 

Verials, fays Lovelace, hav6 been, often warmed by 
tiieir own fires, yi. ^. [337]. 

Revenge and obilinacy will make the beft of women 
do very unaccountable things, Lovel. vi. 11. [339]. 

Women, rather than not put out both the eyes of a 
man they are mortally offended with, will put out one of 
their own, Lovel. ibid. 

Vile men owe much of their vilenefs even to women 
of chara^er, who hardly ever fcruple to accompany 
and converfe with them, tho' they have been guilty of 
ever fd much bafenefs to others, vi. 82. [414, 4153- 
' Women being generally modeft and baflifnl them- 


the Hijioryof Clarissa. 193 

felves, are too apt to confider thaft quality in the mea^ 
whick is their own principal grace, as a defefl ; ?LnAfmfy 
>dothey jitdge,wheRthey think of fupplyiiigthat defeft by 
chufing a man thatcaiinot be aihained', vi. 8). [4r5]. 
^ Ladies, Lovelace hifrts, often give denials, only to be 
perfuaded to comply, in order to reconcile themfelves to 
themfelves, ¥$.97. [vii* 10]. 

No woman is homely in her own opinion, vi. 219. 
{vii.' 140]. ■' ' ■ * 

See Advice to l^ometr,^ Gourt(hip. • Lovd.^ Liber- 
> ^ titte.' Marriage; * Men «»/ m>«r^v. • 

Reformation. Convidtion. Converfion. 

'A MAM can hardly be exp^fted to reform, who re- 
folves not to quit the evil company he has been accufloin- 
ed to delight in,, i. 226. [^34]. 

Pretences to inftantanepus Coi^i6Uons are to be fufpeft- 
cd^ i. 236. [245 J. *''•'.. ' / 

Coriviftion is half wa^ to anrehdmcpt; i. 260. [zyo'].' 

To reform by an enemy's malevolence, is the nobleft 
revenge in the world, i.'265. [275]. ' 

Very few Conviftions arife frpm vehement debatings, 
i. 384. [ii. 75]. 

The firft ftep to Reformation is to f^bdoe fadden gufls 
of paiiion, and to be patient under difappointment^ ii» 
27.. [120]. V ' 

The moft abandoned of Libertines. generally mean on« 
day to reform, ii. 378. [iii. iii, 112]. Should they not 
therefore, e*ven As Libertines^ refalnje againfi atrocious guilty 
twer^ithut to make their future compunStion lefs pungent r*] 

Reformation cannot be a fudden work, ii. 378. 39c. 
[iii. 4 12. 124]. 

There is more hope of the Reformation of a man of 
fenfe, than of a. fool, ii. 393. See aljb L 262. [iii. 126. 
See alfo i. 272]. " ^ ' 

But this is a delufiije hope, and has leen the caufe of 
great mif chief \ for 'who thinks not the man fie lonns 
'W man of fenfe ? The ohJer*uations that follotu are 
nearer the truths and defer^e to be ivell confider ed, 

A man who errs witfi his eyes open, and againil Con- 
viftion, is thcworfc for what heknows, iii. 6. [151]. 

K ■ The 

194 Sebtimeots^ &c. t^troBtdfnpm 

The nan of parte and fbUiti^?, wj^o .«pgfige^ in r 
.bafencfs, knowing it to be fo, is l^sCs ]^$^y%^ ]^<|»- 
claimed, than one who i^rrs frpca want o^ kmowl^gc* lOr 
due Conviftion, y. 218. [vi. 1*5]. 
. Women think, that the redaimii^g of ^ ipjin from 
bad habits, ^i ImfiUue bm/g^ ol^ws^ is a m>i:b i^nfiir 
talk than in the nature of things it can hf^^ y. 299. [vL 


For Mr, Belford*s fcheme of Reformation fot Vfl* Fli. 
« 215 /^ ai.8. fviii, A. 13,8— 71413. 
Little hope cai^ tker^ oe.of recl^oiii]!^ ai mun, who 
is vile from prcmediutipn,^ vi. ^^.6. [376]. 

TOiWhat a Had choice is iMany a.#^Stliy wofiMnbe- 
^ay'd, by tbajt falfe and incpnfider^^e jootipff, rfifed 
;^nd prQpa|;ated no doiabt by the author of 7^ delufioR) 
T'W a reformed Rah makes the hefi Ifufianft! fi^f. vii. 

141. [viii. ^O: 

Little do innocents think what a total feypl^tion lOif 
simnners, wbaf a ck«i?gc of fix^ l^al^its, n?y, wbat a 
conqueft pf a bad nature, and w^t a portion .of dirine 

frace, is required tQ make a prpflj^ate mfiii a good 
u&andy a wor^y father, and a tr^^e friend, from 
Principle, vii. 142. fviii. 62]. 

It is a high 4qgre!6 of jprefuinptspn for a woman to 
fappofe her own virtue fo (ecure, as t^t ihe may maii^ 
a profligate in hopes to reclaim him, vii. %oz, [yiia. 


The fincerity of that man's Refonx^^ti^n is Mnilv to 
be doubted^ who (ian patiently bear ^e^ ireminded qf 
his paft follies, and when he ctixi pccafion^lly exprcfs aa 
abhorrence of them, vii. 251. [viii. 175]. 
See Goodnefs. Religion^ Repent^pj^. 


To borrow of Relations, is to fubjeft one's £$lf y^ 
an inquiQtion into one's Ufe and 9s<^ip{is, LsveL ii. 
389. [iii. 122]. 

Religion. Piety. Devotion. Sabbath. 

A GOOD man will pot eaiily be put Qi^t of countenance 
[hy /cojers], when the caufe of Vir^^e and Religicm is 
(o be vindicated, i. 327. [ii. 18]. TIktc 

There is fome^lM^^ bc^utifuUy foi«9»« In JDeiFotion, 
fiys 4f^$m L0^ei4€0t lit* I?k9. [3*4]. 

Tins Sabbath, y^j f^e^ is a moiVc^cctfUent ioftitiitiem Co> 
xipeep the heart right, iki4. 

|t i$ a fiqe %ht, ^t^s bj^ to Ate mfiltitii^es ^ yffM^ 
appearing p^<ip.le ^11 jpin^ig ia/xif i^yme^% ftft J aft c«^ 
«rcii« how worthy of a rational j^ii^ ! iHd^ 

lU aa feligion . teaches v^ we ih^l he j^giyl, in « 
great meafur^, by pur t>eR0Vole|it ^r <vil aAio^a to oi|<^ 
aooUmr, what i^uft be l^e cQ|id9i9i\aiM^j» of ihofe «4i9 
have wilfully perpetrated ads of the ^0^ atrpciou3 vio* 
bnce upon their innocaat feltowotwawes .^ iv. 58, [v. 

Libartin^s are gipier^ly f(^ «^kii^ a Rf^Ugion to their 

V. 310, [vi. 223]. 

Ildig^m will leach nf to j>e(Mr inevitable evil^ wjth 
l^atience, V. 390. [vi. 309]. 

Altho* I wifii not for life, fays Cl^rija^ yet wQuId I 
Ikot, like a pQor <;oward, doiArt A>y foji^ when I can 
maintain it, and when it i$ f^y daty to niaintain it^ 

vi. 4«. [377* 378]- . , 

I will do every thing I can, continues Jhe, to ' prefervc 
my life, till God, in mercy co me, (haU be pleafed to 
call for it, vi. 48. [378J. 

Religious confidcrations, timely enforced, will prevent 
the heart from being feized with violent and fat^l gria^ 
vi. 49. [379].. 

Difappointmeats may bring on an mdmerence to this 
life ; but a truly pious refignation to death requires a 
better und deeper root, vi. 55. Cs^S]- 

Enthnfiafts often depreciate the Scriptures th^y mean 
to extol, by abufed and indifcriminate applications, vi. 
95. [vii. 7]. 

Even a Lovelace difcUims, as ill manners, jefting » 
upon relieion, or religious men, vi. 97. [vii. xo]. 

A perfon of innate piety cannot think of fhortening 
her own life (whatever her calamities may be) even by 
w/jg/<?, muchlcfs by^Unce, vi. 102. [vii. 14]. 

K 2 Our 

1^6 Sentiments, &c. txtraSed from 

'CWr beft pra/cf in affliSion in doubtful or*critK:al 
fituations, is. That God's will may be done, and't)^' 
WC nftty be itfigned to it, vi. 1 16.^ [vii. 36J. ' 

Religion is the only refuge' 6f a heart labouring un- 
der heavy and unmerited calamities, vi. 175. [vii. 93]. 

Religion enjoins us not only to forgive injuries, but 
to return good for evk ; and ClariiTa bkfles God for 
eliabling her to obey its dictates, vi. 180. [vii. 98]. . 

Perfons of Piety cannot permit refentment,' pafiion, or 
^g^r^ to appear, or have place, in the laft dif^fition 
of their fecuiar alFairs, -vi. 403. [vii. 335]. 
( God will have no rivals in the hearts which he fandi- 
fies^ vii. 31. [371]. 

Perfons of Education and Piety will diftinguifh them- 
felves as fuch, even in their anger, vii. 10 1. [viii. 191. - 
' It i& a great midake to imagine, that Piety is not en- 
tirely conliitent with good nature and good manners^ 
vii. 263. [viii. 188]. 

Religion, if it has taken proper hold of the heart, 
is, fays Lovelace, the moft chearful countenance -maker 
in the world, ibid* 

Sournefs and morofenefs indicate but a novicefliip in 
Piety Gt Gotodnefs, Lovel, ibid. 
See Goodnefs. Virtue. 


The troubles of the injured are generally at an end, 
when the injury is committed; but when the puhifhment 
of the injurer will be over, who can tell I Lovel. v. 90. 

[3+3» 344]- 

How often, fays Lo*ve/ace, do we end in occafions for 

the deepell Remorfe, what we began in wantonnefs ! 
V. 100. [351]. 

The Remorfe that is brought on merely by difappoint- 
ment cannot be lading, v. 173. [vi. 77J. 

Nothing, fayj Lovelace, but the excruciating pangs 
which the condemned foul feels at its entrance into the 
eternity of the torments we are taught to fear, can ex- 
ceed what I now feel, and have felt for this week paft, 

vii. 3S- [375]- 


tb^ Wfi$ry ofChAKisijL.' 197 

What a dreaidfol thing is after- reflexion upon a per^ 
.verfe and unnatural conduft, vii. 148.. [viii. 68]. 

Heavy mu& be the reflexions of thc^e, who, on the 
lofs of' ^ worthy friend, huve a6b .jof uosiedted kind- 
nefs to that friend to reproach themfeives withy vii. 16^ 
[viii. 89],^ . . : . 

Repentance. Contrition. 

-What is it that men propofe, who pat off Repent- 
ance and Amendment^ but to live xx^fenfty as long as fenfe 
can .reliih, and to reform when they can fin no longer ? 
iii. 107. [246].' .. ; 

.^'iChat Contrition . ibr a guilty under which the guilty, 
till deteded, was eafy, is generally to be afcribed to the 
detedion, and not to a due fenfe of the heinoufjiefs of 
the guilt, v. 15c.. [vi. 58]. 

Repentance,- 1, havjc a notion, fa;^5 Liveiacey ftiould be 
fet about while a man is is good health and (pirits, v. 
3^6. [vi.-3i5]. ^ 

What is a man fit for [nst a nenv kvork, fureiy /] when 
he is not himfelf, nor mafter of his faculties ? LtneL 

Hence, as I apprehend, it is, that a dea'^h-bed re- 
pentance is fuppoled to be fuch a precarious and inef- 
fe£lual thing, Lo^vel. ibid. 

As to my felf,. proceeds be, I hope I have a great deal 
of time before me, fince I. intend one dct^ to be a re-* 
formed man, v. 396. [yi. 316], 

?LobeIace tibeD not to repent ! 

I have vtry ferious reflexions now and then ; yet am 
I afraid of what I was once told, that a man cannot ror 
pent when he will — Not to hold it, I fuppofe is meant 
—I have repented by fits and flarts a thdufaad times, 
Lo*vel. V. 396. [vi. 316]. 

Laugh at me, if thou wilt, fays Belford, but never, 
never more will I take the liberties I nave done ; but, 
whenever I am tempted, think of Belton's dying ago- 
nies, and what my own may be, vi. 268. [vii. 192], 

The moft hopeful time for Repentance is when the 
health is found, when the intelleds are untouched, and 

K 3 while 

J96 Seneienents, 20c. esctrdBidfiim 

while it is in a periiM^ poWer to maker i<Macrepftf scion to 
the injured or miildd^ vk 27^04 SuaJfiii, }So. [tti 19^. 
Bii aijfo uu 1 1 4}. 

R«par«ti0nlboald4^aysfolldwKepeiitaiiee^ yi< 33^1 
{vik 263], 

That Repentance for a wrong flep, which precedes 
the fufiering thai follows it, muft generally be well- 
grounded and happy, vii. 109. [viii. 2S]. 

Repentance, to fnch as h-ave lived onfy eanlefly, and 
in the omiffion of their regular dutiesy is not £0 eafy a 
tafk, nor fo macb in their power, as fonw tmagiQe, vii. 
202. Seeajfov, 100. [viii. 124. See a(/e t^ 3^i}* 

No fa^fe cokniring, no gloflrs^ does a truly penitent 
man aini at^ vii. 225. [viii. 148]. 
Seg Remorie; Kel%ion4 

Reprehenfibn. Reproof. Correction. 

The Reproof that favours more of the cautioning 
friend, than of the fatirizing obrerver, always calU- for 
gratitude, i. 249U [258]. 

Reproofs, to be efficacious, fhould be mild, gentle, 
and unrepr caching, ii. 354. [iii. 89]. 

How much more eligible is it to be correfled by a real 
friend, than by continuing either blind or wilful, to ex- 
pofe one's felf to the ceniure of an envious and pel haps 
malign ant world ? iii. 64. £206]. 

The correction that is unfeafonably given, is more 
likely to harden, or to make an hypocrite, than to re- 
claim, iii. loi. [240, 241]. 

A bad man reprehends a bad man with a very ill 
grace, iv. 160. v. 136. [iv. 359. vi. 38]. 

Perfons reprehcndii^ others fhould take care that, 
altho' they may not be guilty of the faults they con- 
demn, they are not guilty of others as greats iv. 162. 

The benevolaice of our pnrpofe fhould be very ap- 
parcntiy feen in all our Reprokenflons, vii. 2S2. [yiil. 

See Ceniure. 


tJ^l^i/lMf if Clakj^ba. 199 


.Trnb mtttk wlii» !& cardefs of Ins R^putaHofl, mnft be 
To either from an abandoned ntaitfre^ or from a con- 
Ibioufiiiefs that lie deferves ttat the world*s good opiniouy 
i. 6';, [69]; 

It isr jaft that a manfhotild bear to be evil-fpoken of 
who (et3 no valoe upon his Repatatton» i. 240. [249]. 

The Irian who hatf been srfways chary of his Reputa- 
tion, has an excellent fecurity to give to^. woman for 
Jkis good behaviour to her,* iii. 247. [iv. 34], 
$t^ Men and Wdmen, 


Persons who hai^e carried thdr Refentments too 
high, are not eafily broughc to retrldl or forgive, i. 26. 

1$ afA ifijHEH'y b^ not wilfully done^ or avow'd to be 
fo, there can be no room f6r h^ii^ Refentment^ i. 368^ 
pK 6o]-. 

The man who would refent as the highed indignity 
the imputation of a wilfttl- falfh(}bd, ought farely to be 
above the guilt of one, i. 389. [ii. 80}. 

*{* Be prefence even of a difl^^d ptrfen taikes off the 
edge or Kefentments, which abOrnce frequently whetsr 
and makes keen, ir. 13. [107 J. 

Women who, when treated with iwdecency, have no- 
thing to reproach themfehres with, may properly refent, 
v. 306. [vi. 219]. 

ReftmtAent and revenge otrght ever to be feparitcd, 
V. 370. Fvi. 288]. 

That Referrtflient which isr exprefsM with caTmnefs, 
andwirhoctt pafton, is moftfikeTytoIstff, vi. ii. [340]. 

Paffion refuifej thef dd of expteffloii fometimes, wnertf 
the Refentment frima facie declares expreffion to be need-^ 
Icfs, vii. 236. [viii. 161]. 

See Anger. Paflion. Revenge. 

Refpeft. Reverence. 

^ERSOKs who deferve Refpe^ wllF meet with it, 
withoat needing to tt^tm it, i. xd6. [i93}> 

K 4 J^erfons 

20O Sentiments^ &c. ixtraSed from 

Perfons who woold exa6l Refpe^ by an haughty be- 
haviour, give a proof that they mifh-uft ^heir own merit ; 
and feem to conftifs :cbat they im?*^, their adiQns ^yiU not 
attrad it» u i86. [193]. 

Familiarity deflroys Reverence; but not with, the 
prudent, the grateful, and the generous, ii. 73. [163]. 

Perfons in years exped the Reverence due to their 
years ; yet many of them (having not merit) are afhaia- 
ed of the years which can only intitle them to Reverence, 
ii. 86. [176]. 

A iludied Refpedfulnefs or complaiiance, is alway^ 
to be fufpededy iii. 152. 161. v. 179. See alf$ ii.,285. 
[iii. 289. 297. vi. 84. See alfo iii. 24]. 

Even a wicked man will revere a woman that will 
withftand his lewd attempts, iv. 362. [v. 200]. 

It ihall ever be a rule with me, fap Mifs Howfj that 
he that does not regard a woman with fome degree of 
Reverence, will look upon her, and fometiai^ XfcsLt 
her, with contempt, vi. 83. [416]. 

See Advice to Women. Courtlhip. Love. Men 


Revenge grafted upon difappointed love, is gene- 
rally the moil violent of all our pallions, i. 84. [88]. 

The highed Revenge a low female. fpirit can take, la 
to prevent her rivaPs having the tnaii Jhe loves, and pro- 
curing her to be obliged to maxry the man fhe hates, 
i. 85. [88, 89]. 

Even the ties' of relationfhip, in fuch a cafe, I0& all 
their force, i. 85. [89]. 

Revenge will not wipe off guilt, i, 265. [275]. 

What Revenge can be more effe^ual and more noble, 
than a generous and well diftinguiihed forgivenefs ? 
vii. 195. [viiL ir6]. 
See Refentment. 



True Satire muft be founded in good nature, 9nd 
directed by a right heart, ii. 55. [146}. 


4bi Uifiory of Clarissa. 20i 

When Satire is perfonal, and aims . to expofe rather 
than to amend the fabjedl of it; How, tho' it were to 
be juft^ can it- be ufeful ? ii 55* v. 228. ["• H^- ^*' 

1 35]; 
' Friendly Satire may be compared to a fme lancet^ 

which gently breathes a vein for health fake ; the male- 
volent Satire to a broad fword which lets, into the gadies 
it makes, the air of public ridicule, ii. 55. [146]. 
See Anger. Paiiion. Refentmenc. 

Secrets. Curiofity, 

No THING flies fader than a whifper^d fcandal, i v. 
205. [v. 35]. 

. Lifteners arc generally confcious of demerit, iv. 282. 
[v. 116]. 

It becomes not a modeH man to pry into thofe fe- 
crets which a modeft man cannot reveal, iv. 307. [v, 

People who mean well, need not afFed Secrets, iv. 

334- [v. 170- 

Few people who are fond of prying into the Secrets 
of others, are fit to be trnded, iv. 362. [v. 200]. 

Over-carious people will whifper a Secret about, till ' 
it becomes public, in the pride of fhewing either their 
confequence or fagadcy, iUd. 

Health and fpirits [but not Mfcretion or decency) allow 
bufy people to look oat of themfelves into the aifairs of 
others, V. 2QI- [vi.'202]. 

Secrets to the prejudice of the innocenjt ought not to 
be kept, v. 379, 380. 383. [vi. 298. 301]. 

There may be occafions, where a breach of confidence 
is more excufeable than to keep the Secret, Lo*velace^ 
yii, 226. See alfr Vol, Y« P» 379> 3S3. [viii. 150^ See 
alfo vi. 298. 301]. 

I believe I ihould have kilPd thee at the time if I 
could, y^i Lovelace to Beifordy hadft thon betray 'd me to 
vxy fair-one : But I am fare m^w that I would hav^ 
thank'd thee for preventing ray bafenefs to her, and 
thought thee more a father and a friend* than my real 
father and beft friend, vii. 227. [viii. 150]. 
See Obfervations General. 

. K J Self. 

act Scnnmencft, &c. 9Ktruffei firdtn 

Sdf. Self-Intcreft. Sdfilhnefs. 

W H AT is tli€ daFfOw SeUiihiiefs that roigii» m us, but 
relationfliipremember'dagainftrelatiQnfhip forgot? i, 44. 

SelflfttereH and Ambklon ttfo often eut tfander the 
bonds of relatiofily )ove, i. 9i. [84]. 

It i» iiv the power of tke^ ftighteft accident to blow up 
«nd deiboy the lofig-tfedekhig viePMFs of the SdlAH, t. 8i. 

A man's own hiteitlt or convenience is a poor plea. 
If there be n» better, on ti4iith to fbtfiid expe^dons of 
favour ^om another, i. 207. [215]. 

The addVefe ^tpfaieh is perMed in a^gainit riie cmdoabt* 
ed inclination of the beloved objeft, is too felfifli td b« 
encouraged; i. zip. [*27}. 

What 2 tow ^Ifiih ereatiire imift ehat chiM be, who^ 
is to be rein*d-in only by the hope of what a parent can; 
•r wiBd<$'ibr her? i. 379. [271 J. 
' The felfiih heart never wants an excafe' ^'not doing 
the^iT/^h has noincIi^alffen'tGfdbv ii^. i^f, C^sl- 

It is very low andfeiftlh to fbrm* our judj^eiits of th<f 
general merits of ethers^ as they are kind or fefervedto 
•urfelves, ii. an. 1:295]'. 

There muft be great Seliifluiers and meannefs in thd 
k>veof aman, vmo canwifii ayeuA« creature to fa- 
crifice her duty sind eonfeience to obi^e* him^ ti. 270. 
ill. 63. [iii. 10. 205]. 

Ttfe man Who has no other plea} for a woman's 
favour but that of his loving her, builds Only on t 
compliment made to her Self- Love by his Selfifhoefs, 
iii. 100. [239}. 

To ferve ones-Mf, and pnniih a villain at the fame 
time, is ferving both public and private^ Lovely iii. 257. 
fiv. 44]. 

Self, love wilt moft probably give thofc who advife 
With US on their moft intimate concerns, an interefl in 
our hearts whether they deferve it or not, iii. 356. [iv. 

Self is a grand mifleader, iv. 9. [197]. 
Thofe men, or even* ^t bod)^ of men^ who prefer 


i£exr^ivate intereft to the pirblic, are onword^ memhtrt 
of fociety, v. 25. [272]. 

SWf is ah odioQY devil, t&at irconcrles to fome people 
the moil crael and diihoneft adions, vi. 64. [395]* 
See CoYotoiilhers. Pactiality. 


ThiI Ms «f fod dyere w itf man ol: womafa^ tkr 
more fenfual are they, iv. 149. [3,4&3. 

Lore 2<raiift\ed 19 I^ve f^sfied, and io<ie fetisfied ie b- 
diflbk-eMie be|uil'» JB^t^il, iv. 149, rjo-. [949}* 

This deified paiiion in its greateft altitude is not fiKted< 
to tfand the day, iv*. 150. [34?]. 
. ShaH Inch a fneaking paflioft as feiiftial Idv^ be per* 
mitted to debafe the nobleft ! 1^/4^. 
See Love. Lovers. 

' Sicknefs. Infirmities. 

Gk'SA'Y allowanced ought to be made ftr the peta- 
hdaitt 6f paHkmn kboerMg Hinder ili^healthi ij 173, 174. 

WJteiA peoplear mind^ are weakened by a fenfe of thteir 
dWn inffirmkier, they will be moved on the flighted oc« 
caiions, v. 304. [vi. 217]. 

\Ar fick peH^n, tiio' hio^defs of recovery, fhould fry 
every means that is properly prefcribed to her, for tM 
fiaidsfSaibii' of h^r Mends; botlP prefttft and abfent, 
V. 38c, 3-96. [303. 305]. 

Sibkaeie pails every appetite, and m^dfees «s loadi what 
we once loved, vi. 30. [359]« 

When Sicknefs comes, free livers look round them, and 
upon one another, like fngbt^^* ^^^^^^ ^^ ^be fight of a 
Kite juft ready to foufe upon them, vi. 59. [389]. 

Sdckiiefsr enervates t&r mind as weir as' die body, 
vi. ZS7,, [vii. 179]. 

A loVig tedious SSidcnefs, /a^s Lo'veiace, will make .a 
bngbeaV of any tMn^ to a langai&ing heart, vi. 258. 
[viu 181]. 

An a6Hve mind^, tho* clouded* by bod3y illnefs, can- 
not be idle, vi, 308. Yyii. 235]. 

Tra^VeShtg ir tnkUmtediy the" betf phyfi«: for aU-ttofe 

' ' ' K 6 dif. 

204 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfrcm 

diforders which owe their rife to grief or difappointmentw 
vii. 20. [359]. 

See Adverfity. Health. Phyiic: ^pentax^ce. 
Vapours. / ^ 

Sufpicion. Doubt, Jealoufy, ' 

A PERSON who labours hard to clear herfelf of a 
faolt (he is not charged with, render^ herfeif fuQ>edafoley 
i. 115. [123, 124]. . . . »» 

Perfons-who have been dipt in lov^ -^emrelvesi are 
the readieft to fufped others, i» 249. ii ^^^^ Ji)k, z^j ^ 
ill. 87]. 

Safpicion, Watchfulnefs, Scolding/ ilf(/} Hon/oe fays^ 
will not prevent a daughter's writing,, or doing any thing 
ihe has a mind to do, ii. 303. [iii. 41]. 

When we doubt of a perfon's fincerity, ^ we. (hould 
obferve whether his afped and his words agree, ii. 377. 

111. I IlJ. .;;...'. 

Where Doubts of any perfofi^^Q remove<t arnund not 
ungenerous, will endeavour .to. i^^e th& iitipeftfid per* . 
fon double amends, iii. 170. [306]. 

Jealoufy in a woman is not to be concealed from wo- 
man, if both are prefent, and in love with the fame 
man, iii. 173. [309]. ; : . • 

Conftitutionail^dXoaiy preys not on the health, j^i. 261 • 

Jealoufy in^ a woman accounts ion a.tbiDufan4 ff^iQg* 
ly unaccountable a£\ions, Lo«veL iv. 265. [v^ 98^). > 
Se^ Appreheniion. Love. Parents and Cbildreu* 

T. ■ - - 


'1 ■ ' . ' • ! 

Beauty in Tears, is beauty heighten'd, iv^ 190.* 

[v. 19^. ^ . • ,jr li 

Anatomifts, fays the hard- hearted lUvf lace, .vn\[ allow 
that tvomeji have more watry heads than men, v. 1 29^ 

[vi. 30- 

Nothing driet fooner than Tearsy Lomd. v. 349. [vi. 

The man is to be Jionqur'd w&o f can • w^<^. ^r. the 

. the Hift^ry of C%ak i ss a. 205 

diib-eiTes of others ; and can fach a one be infe.ii£ble to 
his own? vi. 237, 238. [vii. 159, 160]. 

Tears eafe the overcharged heart, which, bat for 
that kindly a/id natural .relief, would barfly Vi. 238; 
[yii. 166]. 
' Tears are the prerogative of the human creature, iltJ, 

It cannot be a weaknefs to be touched at great and 
concerning events^ in which our humanity is concernM^ 
itid. ... . . f 

SeeBe9^\\ty, Crttrfty.;. Eyes. Heart,-] .. /. 

Knowlege by Theory, is a vague uricertain light, 
which as often mifleads the doubting mind, as pats it 
right, iv. 281. [v. 115]. 

The knowlege that, is obtained by The6ry without 
eicperience, generally fails, the perfon who trufi» /to it, 

^Theory 'and pra6lice mull be the fame thing with a 
truly wojrthy peripn^ Vi. ix>^. [y;K 22J. . .,^. . . 

Thou^tfulnefs. Scnfibility, '^ 

A THOUGHTFUL iiiind is hot a blefling to be coveted, 
milefs it has fuch a happy vivacity join'd with it as may 
enable, a perfon to enjoy the prefent, without being over- 
anxious about the future, 11. 92. [x8i], ,'.' 

A thguffhtful woman who has given her lover an un- 
due power over her, will be apt to Dehola him with 
fear, isihd' look upoii heffelf with contempt, ii. 268. 
[iii. 2^]. 

The difference which fuch'a one will find "in the looks 
s^nd behaviour of her lover, will very fopn convince her 
of her error, il^td. * . 

,The finer Senfibilities make not happy, iii. n6. [254]. ' 

Some people are as fenlible of a fcratch from a pin,, 
a^'btliers are ffom a'pufli of the fword,' vi. '257. '[vii. 
180]. ISee Heart. 


It is an high aft of tyranny, to infift upon obedience 

to an unreifonitble command, iii. 50. [193].* 


lotf SdPififnfertt^, &6. hcttuRtd firdm 

"tyrzXinfvtL ah fiafes is otHdu?;, h^tftithers rfnd Jfefe- 
thers who are. Tyrants can haVe mr bowieh, iih 28^4.- 

1[*he'woniati wft0 bfefdi'elaAd^ b^ha^e^ t!cr a m^n wiiK 
Tyranny, will make a poor figure in a man's eytir aftet« 
wardV, Mf-s. ffo<we, iii. 3^7. [iV. T71']. 

• CalKfyratirty an ungjeiydrouy pfeafirre; if tftoa wilt, 
AtyJ te^itaci^ Mxx frearty draii ntine hirf^e krnov^ it. 
Women to a woman know it, and^eov it too, whenever 
they are trufted* with ptr^er, iv. ±t\, '[v. 1 rfj. 

Su Hufband and Wifr^ ^ Bairents and Chil^en, Re^ 
. . flexions on Women' 

A' YitiH ifiaft wffl W iipt f6 t6nl!lf6e fd hTs„ ^^ 
vantage zhy, particularity fhewn him by a la^, meah b^ 
$wAat ftewiff, i, 16. iST. [17. 19]. 
• The perfon who' fs vaifl OT >jf/^r/V adVatafag^s, give's^ 
caafe to donbiliis inferior, K iBik 2tf7. [^93^ 256]. 

The outiide of a vain man generally runs aw:^ wdth 
irm, i. 269, [2783: 

Sbme petfons ar^ not able to forego tfre o/t^ntation of^ 
iagaeity, thV they fdcrificetd it the tendernefe due to^ 
friend fhip and charity, ii. 36*5. [2 89 J. 

Men v^hd hav€ a Conceit of their own v^TuWfity, 
Itive to find ears to exert their talent's upon, n. 330*. 
m. 66]. 

Men of parts, may, perhaps, think they have a pri* 
Vilege to be vain ; yet they have the leaft occafion of 
atty to be fo, iince the world is ready to find them out 
and extol them, iu 3,84. fiii. 117]. 

The nian who is difpofed immoderately to exaU him- 
(Wf, muft de{pife every body elfe in proportion', iii. 42. 
[igsQ. ^ 

Men vain of their learning and acquirements, pa« 
rading with one another before t&e other Sex. may pro* 
bably have women prefent, who, tho^ fitting in fmiling 
£!ence, may rather defpile t^an admire them^ iii. 202. 



The mm who in cowveifation takes, Jhffwkgfy^ the 
wrong fide of an argument, iha¥s Vanil^ is tke )Apt 
campliinenc h&pay&^to hi^own abilities, iii. 902. [^36}! 

The man Who w*«fts to be thoogfat wifer, or bett^j 
or ablei», thatv he is, doed but provoke a {ertt^ny iitk<>t 
bts preteftfieA^, yAd^ feldoia etds to his adv^ttcage, 
HI. 240. [iv. 28] . 

He that cua^ hiiftfolf infults his neighbofrn, ^ho 
are thos provoked t& fueftion even the merit wkiibl^ 
otherwife might have been allowed to be his diie, /W. 

A too gre&t conF^i^ilefs of luj^e^ioril^oltea Mugs 
Oft<lO{it»mpt> ii^v 274. [i^. 6oO.' 

Old bachelom, when- tHio/ like a woitMn, fr^quettdf^K 
think they have nothing to do bat^ to f9t^Jkai& thm/kln/es 
to marry, iii. 2^7. [iv. 83]. 

Affe^ation will* itaake a woman ibem not to underfland 
indecent freedoms of fpeech in menj; bat modefty,if the 
freedoms are grofs^ w31 xnake her refent tfaem^ iv. 36^ 
£224]* .J 

It is generally thd confcioos. overfulnefs of Vfnity or 
Conceit that makes the vaia man moft upon his gjoar^ 
to conceal his Vaiilty, Le^veL iv. 302. [v. 137], 

Opinionative woihen are in danger, whea they meet 
with a flatterer ; who will magnify their wifdom in order 
to take advantage of their folly, LtnteL y. 67. [3^1 7]. 

Self-fuiHciency makes a weak perfon the £tteft of all 
others for the artful* anddc£gning to w4>rk upon, v. 282. 
[vi. 193]. 

An open-mouth'd AfTe&ation to fhew white teeth^ 
Lifvelace confiders as an invitation to amorous familiatity, 
. Y. 289. [vi. 201]. 

The darkeft and moft contemptible ignorance, is thalj 
of not knowing one's felf ; and that all we have^ and 
allwc excel in,. 13 the gift of God, vii. 272. [viii. 197]. 
See Heart. Human Ifature, Men and IVa^n. 


Vapour- iaf» people are perpetual fobje^s for phyfi* 
cians to work upon, to*veL iv. 35. [228]. 

Low-fpirited people are the phyfical tribe^s milch cows» 
l9veL iv. 38. [228]. 


ao8^ Scnliaients, &c. ^traSedfrm 

yz,pwAQxvtof\^ draw out; fearful bills of indi^lment 
againft tbemiclves, Loi>el, iv. 38. [228]. 

If perfops of low fpirits have not real anhappinels, 
they can make it even fjrojn the overflowings of their 
iqod fortune, iv. jii. yi. 407- [y- «47' vii. 339]. 

,Th€ mind will at any cime.rQn away with the body, 

vi. 66. [396]. 

The mind that bufies itfelf to make the worft of every 
difjigree^le occurrence, will never want woe, vi, 367^, 

[vii. ^973« . 
-Thfl diftempcrs we ^lake to onrfelves, and wjuch it 

is' in our power to lefTen, ought to be our puniihment if 

wc do not^leffen them, vi. 407.} [vii. 339]. 

See Health. Phyfic. 

Veracity. Truth. 

- Those perfons have profited little by along courfe 
of heavy ftfiltdiions, who will purchafe their relief from 
tkem at the expence of their Veracity, iv, 106. [300]. 

* li h trefumedy that no man ever ruined a woman but 
at the expence of his Veracity, iv. 159. [358]. 

A departure from truth was hardly ever known to be 
a/»^/^ departure, iv. 267. [v. 100]. 

Were I to live a thoufand years, fays Clarijfay I would 
always fufpcd' the Veracity of a fwearer, v. 366. [vi. 


• HoW glorious is it for a child to be able to fay with 

Clariffa, that fhe never, to the beft of her knowlege,- 
told her mother a wilful untruth, vi. 160. [vii. 77]. 

I*have never lycd to man, fays Lofjelace^ and hardly ' 
ever faid Truth to Woman ; the firft is what all free 
fivers coftnot fay, the fccond, what every Rake can^ vii. 

212. [viii. 135]. 

See Advict to Women, Courtfhip. Love. Lover. 

• YoWs. 

Violent Spirits. 

Vehbi^ent arid obftinate SptHts, by tiring out op- 
pofition, will make themfelves of importance, i. 29. 

E3O. . . / 



.People whO'^llow «othiiig> ^wUl he granled iiOtMiig» 
Thofe who aim to carry too quaay ppHit% wlU^ot be 

We axe.tpp .4pt (iOi ip^jce alkfwanci^fi for Aich tempera 
as early indalgeAiCe ius made uacontroulable^ ii. ^« 

[140]. . . , " . . ' 

If a'bo4flerou$:Spirit> when it W under obligation^ is to 

be allowed for, what, were the tables to be tttm^4» 

^Wiidd it i^t e^pe^l |: if^idn . , }, 

♦ T^^P-*^^*^ j^lLQy-ftaces.^ imp^fioicis Spirit^ 
are neither happy for the perfon, nor for thofe who hav« 
to, deal with \i\ai^ ibid.- • • -, ^ .f ,• 

Providence often makes hoilile Spirits their q\i;ii 
puniihers, ii.. 151. [238]. 

• While a gentle Spirit will fufer frpm a bafe world, a 
violent one keeps impofition at diftance, iii. ^6. [208].^ 

. ; Imppii^g. Spirits and frow^d ^Spirits have A gteat ad- 
ya-nt^gf ov^r coarteoqs on^, i\u\^^,[z9^^. >. . 
/.Vi^ent spirits prov(^ed, yi'itl^ q^arn^l with the firft^ 
they meet, iii. 210. 265. [iii. 342. iv. 51}. 

Violent Spirits want ibme gr^at ikknefs Qr b^Avy mif- 
fortune to befal them, to bring them to a kaowlege 0$ 
themfelves, vii. 18. [357]. 

, The majp.Fwho .|s-y(ioleiDt in his refentments, when he 
thinks jhimfeif rj^hi^ .^^^Id pfteaer be foy h^a i^t tbai( 
violence, vii. 108. [viii, 26], - ,•..>. i,. 

H& is guilty <^i great injuftice, who is^ mpre <apt to 
give contradidion (»an able to bear it, vii« 108. [viil^ 

Impetaofity of temper generally brings on abafement» 

Se$ Anger. Infolence. Paflicxn. Prides ;Prpfpe* 
rity. Refentment. Revenge. 

Virtue. . Virtuous* Principle. 

W H A T a mind mnft that be, which, tho' not virtu- 
ous itfelf, admires not virtue in another f 1. 189. [197]. 
No woman can be lovely, that is not virtuous, ii. 66. 

[157].- • • 

ftirtiony againil unprincipled a^ons, what chettk- catt 

In a general corruption a ftand ^lanft iM^lifiadd l^Poftte* 
B?Riy, or Viitail'v/ftMN^ lofr: Af^ MIt it AM bie A will 
a Vir6#thy M«4 «fll» Wife fi»|]| amk6 ^ifb ftand I H. y^. 

Pi-of^catio^d and t^n^ptacdoiis art the ti^ft of Viitue, 

m, 85. [a. J503. 

Honours next to divine, are du^ f^ ^ womam wNoffci 
Virttfc l*'ft5pWil)r* to Ui^ 6r tdfSptftti^n', iJ. J-JJ-pii. 

^ftj. ...... 

Lively women feldom know the wortk> of a virtuoM 
MftB, H* 3^7. [iii. I jo]. 

Sound Principles and a good h^airt^ afre the only hik9ii 
#n wMch the lk>ped of a happy fttturci with refped to 
bodiWCrldj^ Cflto b«boife, iii. 321. [iv. i^Q. 

Th6^Vi#tud of a ^M&oM^ trkdv and* approved, pro- 
cures for her not oniy gecferai r^fpedi^ but » higher de^ 
^r6e «f l^e when: prdVtdy e^ei^ froih t^e^ teniipter^ 
V. 103. [vi. 6^}. 

A Yittaoii^ ^ffte^a wilt mm^n^ her afe£Sofr for a 
Aia^who ]s« tfapiible of infrftifig h«# modefty, ^. 192. 
[vi.97]. ' j ' 

WhatvittCieiiB #^Ma#ca<i ftfiM?t to fhtike* that riian 
her choiGtf,^ whdf# a^^nv w^f6^ aa^ ou^ to be htf 
abhorrence? vi. 45. [375}. -* ^ :' 

Ste^ G^tie^iNy. Goxydnefk InMtxienetf. Merit. 
Magittaifl^ity. NfedeHfy. fiaietucc. Purity. 


Persons of a£live fpirits and a pleafurable^ tutfr, 
fcMoia take pains t6 Jmprovtf tH«:nifif!kres-^ i. 65-. [&7]. 

Lively talents att cktfiev 'fyi!ft§ th^ a'l^antagesy 
J. 186. [194]. . - ,; 

That It a.lrt^py Vivi^ffywMdi eiramis a perfon to 
enjoy the profit, without heiog aaxkms abottt the /ie 
turt, ii. 9z. ti^i']. 

PerfoTis of Vivacity, do not always. content them&lves 
with faying what tdey think may be faid ; but, to (hew, 
their penetration or fagacity, will indulge thexafePves id 


ihi S^0y ^f Ch A^n irtrl-ikt- 1 iri 

fayii^ all ih^cwt be £aid on aibi^jed, iL 2-1 2» [29}» 
296]. . 

. It 18 difficalt for perfii^na.of lively dHpo£tioi» (a to 
J>ehave, as to avoid cenfure, v« 250. [vi. i $9^. 

It is irnpoiiible to ihare tbe ddights which vexy lively 
fpirits give, without, partaking of the incoxnreiiieiicies 
that will attend their volatility, vi. 54. [3843. 

Vows. Curies. Oaths. Promifes. Pto- 


A P R o M 1 s s ought not to precliede better confidera- 
tion, ii. 215. [299}. 

What mufl: be that man who woi^d be angry at a 
woman, whom he hopes one day to call his wife, fsr 
difpeniing with ^ ralh Promife when ibe is oonvinced it 
was ra(h, ihU, 

The Vows of a maiden may be difpenfed with by her 
Father when he hears them,* Num xxx. 3, 4, j. UU^ 

In like manner the Vowi of & wife may be difpenfed 
with by her hufband, thid. 

CocHd the Curfer punifh as he fpeaks, he wotddf &e a 
fiend, ii. 28^2. [iii. 2r-]. 

The Almighty gives not his affent to* ra(h<and inha- 
itranCnrfes, iir. i2'2. [260]. 

To pray for thofe that curfe u?, is toperfortn a duty, 
and thereby to turn a' Curfe into a bleffing, iii. 1 23. 

The man that is very reatly to promife, is feldom 
equally ready to perfoftn, iJi. pyo. [29'$]. 

It is a (hame for grown perfons to have frequent need 
to make promife^ br amendment, iii. 3:04. [iv. 90]. 

The moft rmraacnlate Vhtue rs not fafe with a maA 
who has no regard to his own honour, and* htakes a 
jeft of the Qioi loieiHn V^ows and Proteffations, Hi. ^32. 
[iv. 117]. 

One continued ftrin^ of Oathf, Vows, and Frotefbf- 
tions, varied only by time atid place, fill the mouth of 
a libefthaE^, v. i3'3« [vL 35]. 

Men, who gain their difiionourable ends by perjuries, 


felts Sendmeiitty tkc. tiit^aStdfrom 

*ko Ifefs prophane and 'd^ hesveit, than deceive and 
injure their fellow-creatures, v. 267. [vi. 177], 
<* Theman^hobiilds hisiPromifcs by Oaths, itdireAly 
confeiTes- that his word' is- not' to be taken; V. 366. ' 'See 
"isffii. 378.' [VI. 284. 'Se^^ H. 76].' 
* Is it Kkely, that he who makes free with his God*, 
will fcruple. any thing that may ferve his turn with his 
fellow-creatures? v. 366. rvi.i284]. 
> The aflhtions of a libertine, who is not allowed, to 
fwear to what he aversy. will lofe their principal force, 
Lo^el. vi. 95. [vii. 6]! 

./ Thofe n>en wJvcf are moft.Teady torcfent the Lye'given 
them by a man, leaft fcruple, gen.erallyy to break the 
;inoft folemn Oath to a 'v^oman^- vi. 340. 342. [vii. 268. 
-jft7o]. ^H • 

See Advice ioPFotoiff. Courtfhip. Libertine. Love« 
Lover* Veracity » 

'■■'■.■ 'Widow. 

. It is ill trnfling to the difcretion of a Widow, whofe 
fortune is in her own hands, iii. 372. [iv. 157]. 

That Wido>y is far engaged, who will quarrel with 
her child for treating with freedom the man who courts 
l^crielf, iii. 583- [iv. 167]. 

' , 4 Widov/s refufal of a lover, is feldom fo explicit 
as to exclude hope, iii. 386. [iv. 170]. 
- The Widow who wants nothing but fuperfluities,-b 
eafily attracted by thofe gewgaws that are rare to be met 
with, ibid. 

Widows ihould be particularly careful, with whom 
they trt;il t^iemfelves at public entertainments and parties 
of pleaXune, v. 67. [316, 317]. 

To lie a Widow in the firft twelve months is, Lovelace 
jfayi\ one of the greatefl felicities that can happen to a fine 
woman, vi. 197. [vii. 117]. 
See Reflexions on Women. 

Wills* Teftators. Executors, 6?r. 

!, ,Nb teftator, that can avoid it, (hould involve an Exe- 
cutor in a Law-fuit, vi. 133. [vii. 48]. It 

sh H0IHJ ^.Cl^xisiA. ^ ^1$^ 

. It oug^M to he ^ TeAator'^ i^dy, to make .his £xi^Qtt^ 
tors work -as light as poiTiblej vi. 2S0. iviu iS^. :£vii^ 
^05. .viii, .it)9], •. , ,;.:., 

Of all lail Wills, tliofe of monatchs are' generally, 
leaft regarded, vii. 194. [vHi. 117]. 

Survivors cannot more qharitably.beflow d^teiirtime,. 
than in a faithful performance of an fixecatorfhip, vii. 
175. [viii.94]. 

, Thisr iai]b a^t dtight not to be the.iaft in compofition 
or making ; but^ihould be- the refult of cool, deliboca* 
and (as^ i& more frequently than j^fUy faid) of a found 
tion, niind and memory ; which too feldom are to be met. 
with but in found health, vii. 175. 269. [viii. 96. 194]. 

When a Teilatpr gives his reaibns in his ilaft Teftgr 
meat for what he wUls, all cavils about words are ob- 
viated ; the obliged are afTured, and thofe enjoy the be- 
nefit for whom pe benefit Was int€fnded> vii; 175. 248. 
. [viii.; 196, 172J. . . • :;_i. 

I have for fome time paft. Jays Cl^rija, employ^d^ioy-. 
felf in putting down heads of my la^Teftament, which, 
as reafons offered, -I have altered and added to ; fo that 
I never was ab(blutely deHituxe of a Will, .had I been 
taken off ever fo fuddenly, vii. 175. [viii. 96]. 
.. The igril reading of a Will, where a perfon dies worth 
any thing conilderable, generally affords a true teit of 
the relation's love to the deceafed* vii* 195. [viii. 1 1 5]. 

What, but a fear of death (a fear, unworthy of, a crea- 
ture who knows that he mull one day as furely die as 
he was born) can hinder any one from making his lafl 
Will while he is in health, vii. 248. [viii.- 172]. * 
. . Perfons in making the;r laft Wills, fhould coniider the 
fleafure as well as the eafi of their Executors, and not 
put a generous man Upon doing .what would give him 
pain, vii. 268. [viii. 195]. . 

Wit. Talents. Converfation. 

There is no glory in being proud of Talents, for 
the abufe of which a man is ani^erable, and in the right 
afe of which he can have no merit, Lo^veL i. 191. [199]* > 

Men who make a jeft of facred or divine inflitutions, 


ZJ4 SeataxneM^ fsc. 49fttaSS0d fr^m 

tiMMildMofiitn ^fotbciie, iCthcy dM not fiMc tlt^ir Licen- 
UOnJhef^li^/y'ii.-tof. E>9^3* 

Wit witk gay men is one thing, with modeft' wome* 
li^otb«r, M 146. [344]. 

That cannot be. Wit, that puts mnodeft woman out 
of coanCeiiaiiclBy iv. 146. {3453< 

Tbtre h not fo much Wk in wtc^ednefe, as Rakes 
are apt to imagine, iv. 147. [346]. . L 

Tfie Wit of Libertines coiiMs m^ly in filing bold 
an^fiiooking things, wkh ibeh aourage as fltell make 
i^e fliodeftblttih, the imptMknt la«gh> and the innocent 
ftavf, iv. 147. Sei a//o i, 960, {iv. 346. Sti alfo i, fSg]. 

M#n who aiFf £t to be thought wi^, are apt to treat 
t)ie moftferiottsiabje6b with levity, vi. 4. [342]. 

Free-livers aK apt to miftake wickedneis for Wit, 

▼i. 38. [3sr]. 

Ml the liltienibbleK-ia Wit, - whofe writiiigs will net 
fiand the teft of criticifm, make it a commoh eaale to 
itiBdoi;vR€idtics, vi. 100. ^VM. idj. 

Many things in oonveHation occalton a roar of ap- 
plaufe, ' when the heart is open, and men are refolved to 
he meny, wMch will neither hear r^ating nor think- 
iftg on afterwards, B^y, vii. a6i. fviii. 180J. 

Comm9» things in the month of a mjin we a^tre, and! 
whoTe Wit ha« pafs^d upon as f^r'fteiiitig, bec(une^ in • 

^^ ^^Imagination. 


The tiiftaming defcrtt>tions of Poets and Romance* 
writers, often put a yoathful mind upon the fceat for an 
ohje& to exert its fkncy upon 1 

i« «//&<r> 4utfiri/i*«.*Qf|pn create beaii^, and pla«e it 
where^^nobody elfe can £nd it, 4. 190. t'97' ^9^3* 

Romance- writers never forget to give their (ieroine, a 
Cleanthe, a Violetta, a CleTia, or ibme fueh pretty- 
napied con6dante, an old nurfeat le^ift, (o hejp k^ out 
at a dead lift, ii. 78. [168]. 

Unnatural ^milies, drawn by poetical lovers to ilja* 
ftrate beauty, rather depr^cijite than ^sUt it> ii. zdg, 
fiil. 27]. 

4 A 


A f^rfon jow not Jj/b ^ ha4i^^> 4b<»' :#lHt fcwfirV * 
y^ry cji^pelli^.Writer, .ii^^.9. [204]. .^. 

Oiir .poets, Mr, Btlfordfays^ hardly kncxvr how jtflf 
f j:ca^^ fliftcef^witJbQut b(^xa^,ismr4er ; ^^4 0M9d&;.^nd 
f))ink ^€y 911^ A^Qck ysamx fisjuls to bfii^ tears ^ofn 
yjopr ^^8, vi. 2104. [vii. i^]- . 

Female words, tho' of uncertain derivation, hav^ ee* 

.arly familiar Lct^^writiqg ^s q|M5 of Ac .gref^^fift 

fm ^ ^mipm m* Wr sita* Lm> 1 67]. 

.^i$tq»b^^kj3tt^^tp4t^WW»yP9W»^ ^Hq 

are capable of exalting virtue, -a^d af putting vice out 

of coi^ten^nce, ichrpw awky their tifie upon fi>{>jeds 

merely fpeculative, diiinterelling, and unedifying, viL 

288. [viii. 214]. 

The ingenious authors of pieces of a light or indecent 

turn, which have a tendency to corrapt the mprals of 

youth, to convey polluted images. Or to wound religion, 

are diihoneil to their own talents, and ungrateful to the 

God who gave them thofe talents, ihid. 



LxTTLi indacesficint has an hea4ftrong Youth to cor- 
Tt&, a temper which gives hin^ confequence at home^ 
i. 7C. [78]. 

Young perfons fliould be caireful in giving advice to a 
young &end, in ca(es where p^fion and prudence are 
concerned, i. 392. [ii. 83]. 

Young perfons, whoie minds are not engaged by a6l6 
of kindnefs and condefcenfion, will be put upon con- 
trivances, ii. 59, [150). 

Youth is the time of life for imagination or fancy to 
work in : A Writer therefore, who would wi(h to pleafe 
a judicious eye, will lav by his works written at that 
time, till experience fliail dire£i the fire to glow rather 
than blaze out, ii. 61. [152]. 

Youth not qualified to judge for itf^clf, is often above 
advice, ii. 77. [167], 


ti6 Scndnients, &c. 

' yoon^ folks art jfftnetmiei very cdnfiing in finding 
out contrivances to cheat themfelvesi ii'.-zzg. iii.'i2o. 

pi.'izi. fif.1583. ■ . ■ ■■ ■ .-; ;. -- 

It is a moft iinpft)ving Sxercife, as well with regard 
to ftyle as tt morals, to actdflom iiJurfelve^ early to 
write down every thing of moment that befalls as, iii. 
60. ^203]. . - - ■ 

There is not fo much bravery in youthful titoler as 
yoDngmehirtagine, iv-.^S. f'ltjb].' ■ ■'■ 

In company where, theteitfc ftrangert,' ii is'right foil 
young gentlemen, who Wouia wifli'fti b« '^tfionglit^wdl 
of, to hear every^orie-fpieak before theyiHowtlieiriiyves 
to talk, vi. too. Oii. ij]. 

Ste Duty. Education. Learning. Wit. Writers. 

•[ 3»7 ] 


O F T H E 

Moral and Inftrudive Sentiments 


Contained in the 

Hiftory of Sir C. GR^NDISON. 

The Numerals, i, ii, iii, &c. denote the Volumes ; the firft Figures 
. . refer to the 0£kavo Edition ; thofe indofed thus f ] to the f lift 
and fubfequent Editions of the Twelves^ 



BSENCE from the beloved obje£l, is a cure 
for hafly love, vi. 224. [vii. 224]. And 
the rather, if tb« objed be worthy, vi. 226. 
[vii. 226]-. If unworthy, and the female be 
prodent, prefence may fooaer effed the cure^ 
as he will by it, the more expofe himfelf, ziU. 

Addrefs to Men of Senfe in the gay World. 

The eifence of friendfhip is the liberty to be mutually 
allowed 6f remonibance, expoftulation, advice, on oc- 
cafions that may affed the temporal and eternal welfare 
of a frieiid^«iii; 40. [200]. 

L A 

2i8 Sentiments, &c. txtra^tdfrom 

A prudent young man will benefit himfelf as much by 
the odioulnefs of vice in a profligate charafler, as by 
the 1> auty of goodncfs in .a virfuou^.one, iii. 40. [200]. 

Self-diffidence is often a weaknefs in young men, 
which foffers them influenced by men oi talents in- 
ferior to their own, iii. 41. [201]. 

A young man of natural good principles muH have 
his judgment mifled before he can allow himfelf in a 
deviation,, iii. 42. [202]. 

£bt let'him beware, %nce every faulty inclination has 
fomething to plead in its own behalf, ihU, 

Excufes are more than tacit cofifefllons, /i/V. 

The health of the mind, as of the body, is impaired 
by aimoft imperceptible degrees, iin'ii. 

An honi^^ young man cannot allow himfelf in medi- 
tated injuries to his fellow- creatures of either fex, thiJ, 
This is the true fneaning of e'very mans Addrefs to the 
inriocent creature he intends to ruin ; 

1 love you, my deareft life, above all w6men : Con- 
fide therefore in my honour, that I may deliver you over 
to (hame and dKgrace in this life, and, as far as is in 
my power, to everlafling perdition, iii. 43. [203]. 

Who in the leaft guilty inflance, and where fome falfe 
virtue may hold out colours to palliate an excefs, can pro- 
mife himfelf to flop, when once he has thrown the reins 
on the neck of lawlefs appetite f ibid, 

A good-natured young man is not always in his ovm 
power. He too often fufiers himfelf to be a led man, 


Would he thoofe his companyanew, and be a leader, 
every virtue then that Warms his heart, would have a 
fifter virtue to encourage the noble flame, inftead of a 
vice to damp it, ibid. 

Will a young man of condition fit down fatisfied with 
the honour of his anceflors ? ibid. 

Shall not he whofe family hac given him caufe to 
boafl of then- honbur, pvb them cauf<^ to boaft of his ? 


What right has a faulty man to dedami^ agataft the 
imperfedions of women ? ibid. . 

Who diat can glory in the virtae of his owa fifter, can 


tie Hi/idfj of Sir Ch. Grandisok. 219 

allow bimfelf in attempts upon the chaftity of the fifter» 
the daughter, of another I iii. 44. [204]. 

How can that crime be pardonable in a man» which 
renders a woman infamous i ibid» 

A generoas man will have motives fuperior to the 
dread of human laws, to keep himfelf within the boun* 
daries of his duty, iii. 45. [205]. 

The laws were not made fo much for the direAion of 
good men, as to circumfcribe the bad, iifid 

Would a man of honour wifh to be coniidered as one 
of the latter, rather than as one of thofe who would 
have diftinguifhed the fit from the unfit, had they fiot 
been difcriminated by human fandlioos ? ih'J. 

Men are to approve themfelves at a higher tribunal, 
than that of men, ihU. 

Shall not public fpirit, virtue, and a fenfe of duty, 
have as much influence on a manly heart, as a new 
face ? ihU, 

How contemptibly low is that commerce in which 
Min/i has no (hare I ihiJ, 

Virtuous h)ve looks beyond this temporary fcene, i^V. 

While guilty attachments ufually find a much earlier 
period than that of human life, ihid, 

Inconilancy on the one fide or on the other, feldom 
fails to put a difgraceful end to them ? ihiJ. 

But were they to endure for life, what can the re- 
flexions upon them do, towards the foftening the ago- 
nies of the inevitable hour ? i^J. 

Let it be remembred that man is a rational and im- 
mortal agent ; and that it becomes him to wBt up to the 
dignity of his nature, tk'd. 

Can fenfual pleafure be the great end of an immortal 
iipirit in this life ? /^/V. 

That pleafure cannot be lafting, and it mufl be fol* 
lowed by remorfe, which is obtained, either by doing 
' injuftice to, or degrading, a fellow* creature, /^/V. 

And does not a woman, when fhe forfeits her honour, 
degrade herfelf, not Only in the fight of the world, 
.but even in the fecret thoughts of a profligate lovtr, de* 
ftroying her own confeqnence with ium ? iW. 

L z fiuild 

220 Sentiments, &c. extraStd from 

Build not upon atonements : It is nobler not to o(Fend» 
than to be obliged to atone, iii. 46. [206]. 

7'here are innocent delights enow to fill with joy 
every vacant hour of life, ibid, 

Goodncfs is the beft cement of friendfliip, ihid. 

Were the examples fet by men purfuing guilty at- 
tachments to be generally followed, what would become 
of public order and decorum ? What of national ho- 
nour ? ibid. 

How will a regular Aicceflion in families be kept up ? 
Shall the man who boafts of his own defcent deprive 
his children of the like diftindlion ? ibid. 

Good children are bleffings to parents ; but what com- 
fort can a parent have in children born into the world 
heirs of di^race ? ibid. 

And who, owing their very being to profligate prin- 
ciples, have no family honour to fupport, no fair ex- 
ample to imitate, ibid. 

But mull be warned by their father, when bitter ex- 
perience has convinced him of his errors, to avoid the 
paths in which he has trodden ? ibid. 

How delightful is ti^ domeftic connexion f — For a 
fon or brother to bring to the paternal or fraternal dw.elK- 
tng, a iifler, a daughter, that fliall be received there with 
tender love ! ibid. 

To ftrengthen a man^s own intereft in the world by 
alliance with fome worthy family, who {hall rejoice to 
truft him with the darling of their hopes ! ibid. 

But can a man who lives a life of freedom, tho* but 
with cae woman, think of introducing to the relations 
moft near to him, the unhappy objeds of a vagrant af- 
fedtion? iii. 47. (207]. 

Mull not fuch men eftrancje themfelves from their fa^ 
mily, to conceal from their father, mother, fillers, bro- 
thers, children (hut out by all the laws of honour from 
their fociety ? ibid. 

The children fo (hut out, mufl hate the family to 
whofe interefts theirs are fo contrary, ibid. 

What fmcere union then, what famenefs of atfediOD, 

can there be between fuch a man, and the.objed of hb 

? ibid. 



tbi Hijiory of Sir Cn.GviAnvisojif. ait 

Does he flatter bimfelf that his (ingle example can be 
of no great importance ? Of what, may it, in anfwer, 
be alked, is general ^ra£i\cs made up ? iii. 47. [207]. 
■ If every one were to ofFenxi in the inilance moll fuited 
to his inclination, what a fcene of horror would this 
world become ! ihid. 

Affluence, and 3. gay dirpofition, tempt to libidinous 
plcafures ; Penury,and a gloomy one>to robbery, revenge, 
murder, ihU, 

Not one enormity will be without its plea, if once the 
boundaries of duty are thrown down ? iSU. 

But «ven in this univerfal depravity, his crime who 
robbed me of my child, from inftieations of riot and li« 
centioufnefs, and under the guifeof love and truil, would 
be much worfe than his who defpoiled me of my fub- 
flance, and had neceflity to plead in extenuation of his 
guilt, i^/V. ^ 

There is fuch a famenefs in the lives, the a^llonis, the 
purfuits of avowed libertines ; fnch a likenefs in the ac- 
cidents, puni(hments, and occafions for remorfe, which 
attend them, that it is ftrange, they are not warned by 
the beacons liglited up by ercry brother libertine at the 
conclufion of his (hort (lory ; but will be fo generally 
driven on the fame rock, o^^erfpread and furroundedas 
it is, in their very fight, by a dioufand wrecks ! v. 20. 

Did fuch know, what a variety there is in goodnefs 
and beneficence, they wonld certainly alter their notions 
of pleafttre; and follow the example of thofe who are an 
honour to fociety, iBii/, 

Sse Extravagance. Good Man. Modefty* Li* 
bertines. Magnanimity. Seduction. 

AdvcrGty. Calamity. Misfortune. Difap- 


Calamity, patiently fupported, endears an inno*. 
cent fufierer to the generous heart, i. 16. [ibi^]. 

Poor and rich, wife and unwife, are links of the fame 
great chain, i. 55. [/^/V/]V 

Calamity is neceifary to wean oar hearts from a too 
great love of this world, i. 279. [i^/V.] 

L 3 What 

^22 SentttnentSy &c. extraSedfrtm 

What an huinbling thing is the confcioufnefit of faave- 
ing lived faaltily, when Calamity feizes the heaxt I iL 
105. [206]. 

An unhappy perfon of merit has a kind of nzht to 
the good offices of fuch of his friends as are lels em* 
barrafied, ii. 123. [224]. 

Perpetual fammers would be a grievance, ii. 415. [iii. 

Happy k the man, who in diftrelTes befalling himfelf, 
or friends, can acqdt himfelf of the charge of having 
contributed to them, iii. in. [271]* 

Undeferved or unfbreieen Calamity, will endear a 
perfon tried with it, to a geaaerous mind, more, than pro* 
Iperity, iii. 12^. [285^. 

It is God-like to raife the dejeded and Gambled fpi^ 
rit, iii. 220. [iv. 6]. 

Misfortune will weave a band of love which will bind 
fellow- fuiferers in one intereft, iii. 230. fiv. 16], 

In a heavy Calamity it is natural to look out of oor- 
felves for the occafion of it, when perluips we ihould 
look inward for it, iii. 294. [iv. 80]. 

The impatience of a perfon unhappy, claims the allow* 
ance of a cohjiderate mind, iii. 294. [iv. 80]. 

It is a kind difpenfation of Providence, that adver* 
fity, fo painful in itfelf, ihould conduce fo peculiarly 
as. it does, to the improvement of the hum^n.mind^ 
iii. 359. [iv. 145]. 

Pifappointment has mortilied' me, fkyi Mifi Bjrm^ 
and made me good.natured^-«-I will welcome Adverfity, 
if it enlarge my charity, iii. 385. [iv. 171]. 

What is grandeur to. adifiorbed heart ? iii. 386. [iv. 

How much is that poor creature to be pitied, who^ in 
Adversity, is too ihort-fighted' to look forward to thstt 
only confolatlon which can weaken the force of worldly 
<di£ft|fpointments, iv. 171. [v. 42]. 

Adverfity is the trial of principle : Without it, a mam 
}iardly knows whether he is an honeft man, iv. U)6. 
[V. 673. 

IU-new$ obliges us to look around us for confolationy 
iv. 233. [v. 104J. 


th mfioryof Sir Cn. Gr ANorsoN. 2t^ 

How little do we know of ourfelves till the hour of 
trial comes f iv. 243. [v. 114]. 

The good man, who cannot be fd happy as he wiihes 
to be, will confider himfelf as in the hands of Provi- 
dence, and not give himfelf up to unmanly defpair, 
iv. 295. 306. [v. i66. 177]. 

It is difficult, at the inftant of forfeiting fome darling 
hope, to avoid impatience ; which, however, can per- 
haps be. jaftified only by felf- partiality, iv. 3 x 2. [v. 1 83J. 

The man who behaves well in Adverfity, muft not, 
generally, be one, who by his own extravagance, has re* 
duced himfelf from an affluence to which he was born, to 
a ftate of obligation and dependence, iv. 398. [v. 269]. 

A man in diftrefs (hould convince his friends, from 
whom he experts relief, that the juji man is not funk in 
the man in Adverfity, iv. 399. [V. 270]. 

An unhappy man will take care, that he afk favours 
only that ought to be granted, tii^, 

Happy is the man, whofe pity for a defponding ac- 
quaintance, is unmixed with felf-arraignment, v. 19. 

Since Calamity rightly fupported, is a bleiling, one 
weuld hardly wifh a ruined perfon, who has by it been 
made fenfible of his errors, to be again tempted by more 
than competence, v. 22, [293]. 

The confcioufnefs of integrity, and a firm truft in 
Providence, will carry a perfon through the greateft dif- 
ficulties, v. 235. [vi. 21 3J. 

What muft be the heart that melts not at another*) 
woe! V 243. [vi. 221]. 

Soothing and indulgence fometimes ,add to oar imbe- 
cility of mind, inflead of &rengthening our reafon^ 
▼. 244. [vi. 222]. 

We fometimes want trials to make us fupport ourfelves 
with outward fortitude at leaft, v. 244. [vi. 222}. 

The irrevocablenefs of an event will cure a difhirbed 
mind, when nothing elfe can, v. 246. [vi. 224]. ^ 

Happy the man, who when Calamity aflTails him, can 
fay, ** This I have not brouj^ht upon myfelf. It is an 
<' inevitable evil. A Difpehfation of Providence. I will 
" fttbmit to it as fucV' vi. 79. [vii. 79], 

L 4 The 

124 Sentiments, fyc. extra^ed from^ 

, The neareft evil to perfons in diftrefs, feems the 
he^vieft. To avoid that, they often fall into greater, 
Ti. 281. [vii. 281]. 

See ConfoUtion. Grief. 

Advice and Cautions to Women. 

Men» were women to give them importance with 
them, would be generally greater infringers of their 
natural liberty, than the moft fevere parents, i. 1 3. \thtd\ 

New faces are more fought after at public places, 
than fine faces condantly feen, i. 1 7. {ibid^ 

Women ihould not in converfation make an oflentatioa 
of knowlege : But franknefs and complaifance require, 
that when called upon, they (hould deliver their ienti- 
ments with freedom, i. 19. [ihid^ 

An ungenerous man will take confequence to himfelf 
for the diftin£iion paid him by a lady, inftead of being 
grateful to her for it in marriage, i. 20. \thid\ 

Women have more to lofe with regard to reputation, 
than men, i. 26. \ihid\ 

The Hysna is both male and female. The male is 
the mofe dangerous, iince he will come into the houfes 
^f women, fawn, cringe, lick their hands ; ' while the 
^en of the fema^le is by the highway-fide, ^nd wretched 
youths muit enter into it of their own accord, to put it 
into her power to devour them, ihid. 

The chief ftrength of men lies in the weaknefs .of 
women, ihid» 

r Women Qiould not add to the triumph of thofe who 
make their weaknefs the general fubje^ of their fatire, 


If women euard againii: themfelves, they may bid de« 
fiance to all the arts of man, ibid^ 

« Whofe leavings are they, that a virtuous woman takes, 
who marries a profligate ? i. 27. [ibid"]* 

The only merit a rake can have with a worthy wo- 
man, is, that he holds out a warning to her againft men 
^ fo bad a natuVe, ibid, 

A woman wiie, with her eyes open» marries a profli- 
gate man, generally, as to herfelf, defeats the good end 
of fociety, i. ;i8. [ibidl. 


tbeJIifiory of Sir Ch.Gkav;t>iso^. 225 

What a prefumptuoas rlfque runs (he, of her own 
principles, who marries a wicked man in hopes to reclaim 
him ! i. 28. [/fcW]. 

Evil communication corrupts good manners^ a caution 
truly apoftolical, Hid, 

The man is to be fufpefted, who, though not avow- 
ing free principles himfelf, {eems to enjoy the mad talk 
oi thofe who do, i. 29. {thW], 

Men who allow themfelves in freedoms of fpeech be- 
fore modeft women, as it is prefumed they intenJ not to 
s^ront them, muil think modefty in the fex only a pre- 
tention, ihid. 
. A woman of fenfe will not choofe a man for his per- 
fon only ; and who wants the mind, to the diredUon of 
which fhe can fubmit, i. 37. [HfW]. 

A good woman who means to perform her marriage 
vow, will fcruple to marry a man whofe want of know- 
lege may make her itagger in the performance of her 
duty to him, ihid. 

And who would, perhaps, command frqm caprice or 
defe^ of underAanding, what fhe would think unreafon* 
able to be complied with, ihtd^. 

A worthy woman will find a pleafure in giving up 
her own judgment in things indifferent, to a man who is 
older and wifer than herfelf. Of id. 

Doubt of an hufband's merit introduces difrefpeft ; 
and what but difobedience, which lets in every evil, 
follows ? ihid, ' ' 

Twenty four is ^ prudent age for women to marry at 
[for their own fakes] i. 46. {wid'\. 

Women who can figh for a coxcomb, defarve either a 
great deal of pity, or npne at all, 1. 82. lihid"]* 

A woman muft feldom expeft to be the wife of a man 
mth whom fhe is firft in love, if (he let him know it, 

Every woman (hoold have her heart in her own keep. 
ing, till fhe find a worthy man to beflow it upon, ihid. 

Women> by their over-quicknefs, fometimes encou- 
rage a man to own a meaning that he would be others 
wife afraid to avow, i. 99. lihidj. 

Let him who has no other plea to make to a lady 
.... S - • for 

226 Sentiments, &c. extraSled from 

for her favour, but his love, be afked. If that plea 
would weigh with him in favour of a w jman who fhould 
be in love with him, i. 1 16. [ibid']. 

* A man who can treat g^ily the paflipn of love in pre* 
fence of the obje^, will not be greatly hurt by a difap- 
pointment, i. 150. [ibid]. 

If a woman marry not till ihe is twenty-four, (he 
will have time to look about her, and having m^ore 
lovers than one, be enabled to choofe without having 
teafon to charge herfclf with haftinefs, i. 151. [ibid]. 

A woman mould be afraid to engage with a man who 
thinks too highly of her before-hand, ibid. 

A woman in choofmg an hufband, ihould confider, 
whether, in, cafe of a contrariety of fentiments, ihe caa 
give up her judgment in points indifiereht, from the 
opinion ihe has of his% i. 152. [ibid]. 

A prudent woman, doubtful of a return in love, wil!» 
in policy, place before her the imperfedtions rather than 
the perfedlioB^, of the man ihe could love, i. 261. [ibid]. 

Men are apt to think that women's hearts are made 
of comboilible materials : It behoves women, for the 
honour of their fex, to convince them of the contrary, 
)• 274. [ibid]. 

A man's kind behaviour to his dependents, is an ar- 
gumentin favour of his general charader, i. 300. [ibid]. 

A dutiful fon eives v^ry promifing hopes of making 
a good huiband, 1. 302. [ibid]. 

Women who wiih to be thought well of themfelves, 
Ihould difcourage every reflexion from men that tesdt to 
debafe the fex m general, i. 327. [ii. 12]. 

A modeft and prudent woman will not fuffer, unre- 
bnked, a man to boaft of his vilenefs to any one of hcf 
fex; iUd. 

If women would difcourage immodeft men, ihame, if 
Aot principle, would an(iend them, i* 331* [ii* 16}. — A^d 
principle might take root in policy or convenience^ 

U. 319. [ill. 63J. 

Youth, health, and a flow of fyirits, fhooM make a 
woman watchful over herfelf, i. 4.1 1. [ii. 96]. 

The love of admiration often involves woinen in great 
£fiicaititS| tt. 17. [u8}. 


ibe Hiftory of Sir Ch, Gr and ison;? 227 

Women who choofe for a hufband, a man who is ge- 
jierally admired^ mofl hardly expert him to be a domeuic 
man', ii. 29. II130]. 

Youn^ women ihould difUngaifli between the would 
and i\it fiouU^ ii. 127; r228]. 

Women of fenfe (bould defpife thofe men who feek 
by flattery and pertnefs, to commend themfelves to theif 
favour, ii. 159. [260]. 

Women who have fbible3 whic^ they choofe no^ to 
part with, fhould condder in their choice of a hun}4ndt 
which of their lovers, if they have' more than one, will 
bear with them, which will expe^ to be borne with^ 
ii. IC9. 161. [260,262]. 

Tne woman who would not incur difgrace and be un- 
happy, (hould not put herfelf out of her own power^ 
ii. 179. [28b]. 

All men love to have difficulties to conquer in court- 
ftip, ii. 195. [296]. 

Hope, or a date of doubt, gives an ardor to a lover^ 
which fubfides in certainty, ii. 203. [304.]. 

The woman who chufes a rake for a hirfhand doe$ 
not confider that all the fprightly airs for which (he pre- 
ferred him to a better man, either vanifh in matrimony, 
or are exhibited to. otJtLtx women, to her mortal difquiet^ 
ii. 204. [lof\. . * ' 

In other ivords — He will carry abroad the agreeable, 
bring home the difagreeable, ibid. 

If he reform (and yet bad habits are very difficult to 
fiiake off] he will probably from reflexions on his paft 
guilty life, be an nnfociable companion, Ihould deep 
contrition have laid hold on him, ibid. 

If he does not reform^ 'what has flie ^ofen } thtd* 

A ra):e marries not from hone^ principles^ Re is a 
defpifer .pf matrimony : A rake in paffion is not a man 
in love. His love deferves a vile name j ' and it will be 
too probable, that, in his eyes, a kwd woniaa will excel 
his modeil wife, ihid^ ^ ^ 

The good man, not the lewd the obfcene libertine, 
foul Harpy, glorying in has wickednefs, b the maa 
yvhpm good woimen mould diftinguiih by their fyy^var^ 
Shall not l&t turn to tike i Yu xXz, [iil c6L "^ ' ' 

L 6 • • ii 

f,zS .Sentiments, §cc. extraSfed frcm 

A young flame may be eafily kept under^ iii. 69. 

A woman flioul4 i^ot permit her lover to find his 
weight in her levity, iii. 73. [233]. 

* Men of great abilities are not always to be trufted. 
They feldom ftrike, till they are fure, iii. 84. [244]. 

A prudent woman will not put it in any man's power 
to prejudice her againlt perfons of unexceptionable cha- 
raflersy iii. 84. [244]. 

The woman who has been onc6 wrong, has' reafon to 
be always afraid of herfelf, iii. loi. [261]. 

Good men mufl be afFe£lionate men, iii. 223. [iv. 9]. 
' A woman of fenfe will not want to be perfuaded to 
do a thing (he knows in her heart to be right, the' not 
entirely agreeable to her liking, iii. 242. [iv. 28J. 

* There hardly can be a greater difference between any 
two men, than there too often is, between the fame man, 
a lover and a hufband, iii. 347. [iv. 133]. 

Lovers of unequal' fortunes often endeavour to en- 
jgage young ladies to fight their battles for them with 
;heir natural friends ; making them, by that means, 
their cat's paw, to help them to the ready-roafted chef- 
nuts, iii. 358. [iv. 144]. 

If we women, /ays Lady G. as they fay of horfes, 
knew our own ftrength, and could h^ve a little more 
patience than we generally have, we might do ^hat we 
would with the powerlefs lords of the creation, iv. 251. 
[v. 122]. 

A dutiful fon,'an affe^ionate brother, a faithful jfriend, . 
inufl give a moral .aiTurance of making an excellent 
■hufband, vi, 29. [vii. 29]. 

See the articles hxxiyA Men. Beauty. Compliments. 
Courtihip. I)|iighter. Female D/g^«//>r. Frank* 
ncft of Heart. Hufband iind Wife, Learned 
Women. Libertines* Love. Lover. Love atfrft 
Sight. Firfi Love, ^\xdon\SL\ Bickerings. Men 
andWomin. Modefty. Proteflations. ^in^tWomen., 
Stepr mother. Vincibility of Love. Widows. 


Affbcted ignorance cannot be either graceful, or a 
yjroof ofdeUcacy, i. 5o.[/^iV]. Af- 

tke Hifiory of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 229 

AfFe£lation is the only quality that can warrant ridi- 
cule, i. 55. [/W]. 

Travelling Yeldom cures AfFedlation, i. 56, [ibid']. 
There are fome cafes in which it is hardly poffible for 
a woman to avoid AfFedation, ii. 189. [290]. 

What is the veil an afFeftcd woman throws over hcr- 
felf, but a veil of gauze? iii. 12. [172]. 

See Franknefs of Heart. Ingenuoufnefs. Since- 

Age. 5^^ Youth. 

Anger, Paflion. Petulance. Wrath. Ill-will. 

A PRUDENT pcrfon, who fulFers in his after-regret, 
from a fudden violence of PafEon will be very careful to 
retrain its future firft fallics, i. 290. [ibid]. 

Anger has often its root in love, ii. 386. [iii. 130]. 
' Perlbns not willing to do right things, are apt to 
cenfure for officioufnefs the interpofition of their beft 
friends, iii. 236. [iv. 22]. 

• Hafty perfons, while warm with a recent niifunder- 
(landing, will not bear to be expoflulated v^ith, ibid. 

All angry perfons arc to be treated by the prudent, 
as children, ibid. 

Women were given to delight, not to torment, men j 
and there are vei'y few caufes that can juflify their vio- 
lent anger, iii. 237. [iv. 23]. 

People in a> Palfion lay themfelves under oblijgtition to 
tKofo^who bear with them, which* they will ncit be ge- 
nerous, if they do not repay, iii. 241. [iv. 27]. 

Wrath ought not to be io xt^Ay^ as fometimes it is^ 
to attend a female will, iii. 244. [iv. 30]. • 

Forced civility is but a temporary one, iii. 273. [ivj 
.59]. . • , .. 

A lively, good-natured woiban will fome^es be able 
to- fmile her. hniband Out W his Anger/iii. 306. [iv. 

Women, who ought to be the meekefl: and tendereft 
•f the whole animal cretitiott, dobafe diemfelvef when 
they give way to pafiioiia(e exceflei^ iv. 5^ [i77]. 


430- Sentiments, &c. exfraHed from 

To what mean fubmiffion does after- reflexion fubje^ 
a paflionate man,, who lias given way to rage, and is 
apt wholly nneenerous ! iv. 383. [v. 254]. 

What a milchievous fovereign would the private maa 
make, who gives no check to the violence of -his temper \ 
iv. 384, 385. [v. 25c, 256]. 

Let fuch a one look into hiftory, and fee which of 
the chara6ters that have fuUied royalty by the violence 
of their wrath, he would wifli to copy, iv. 385. [v^ 

Paffion is fo uffly, fo deforming a thing, that a pra- 
4ent perfon will oe careful not to be feen in it by ^ofe 
he loves, v. 94. [vi. 72}. 

Meeknefs o^ended has an excellent memory, and can 
be bitter, v. 153. [vi. 131]. 

Ill-will difables us from feeing thofe advantages and 
good qualities in the perfon who is the objed of it^ 
which would Qtherwife Ibrike us in their favour, v. 260. 
[vi. 238]. 

The man we. c^n pity, cannot eaiily provoke us, 
V. 290. [vi. 268]. 

See The Pai&ons. Prudence. 

Artful Men. 

The Man who cail raife an emulation in more wo- 
men than one for him, gives himfelf confeqaepce at theif 
^xpence, ii. i67, [268]. 

Women, before they are aware, ar/e often entangled 
by the arts of men, ii. 167. 1^0. [2^68. 271}* ^ 

Men take pains in courtlhip t;o gUNfs over in them- 
felves thofe defeds which they think would, if difcover- 
f4^ bemo0unfavouraUetothe^vic;ws, ii. 163. {274]. 

Men gain all their advantages over women, by teaz^- 
u>g» ^y yQW9, by importttiuties, ii. 167. [27SJ. 

Ai^ ^tfvj quui li9s ma»y ways to entangle a tendct 
heart, without making open declarations of love, iii^ 

.jkl ^^Umti^^* £om«fhip« DauglU^r. Libertine* 
X^Ter. Mp4e2y. PsoCciftatiQfis* Sedii£Uon, 


Artful Women. 

I T is eafy from fmall crerices to difcover day iiv the 
heart of an artftil woman, ii. 333; [iii. 77]. 

Nothing can be weaker in the eye of an obferirer, 
who himfelf difdains Artifice, than a woman who makes 
Artifice her ilady, ihid. 

In a woman*s departure from honeil nature, there 
will be fach carvings, as that the eyes, the countenance, 
will generally betray the heart, ibid. 

Aud if ihe either breal^s oat into uncalled-for apolo- 
gies, or afFedls undue refcrye, Ihe gives room to confirm 
Sie fufpicion, that all is not ri|ht in the mind, ibid. 

A woman who has a conimand of countenance, is 
ever to be fufpeded, ii. 374. [iii. 78], 
^^# Femaiities. Keepers, {ffr. 

Avarice. Selfiflmeis. 

Self is often afanflifierof aftions, which in others, 
we fiiouldhave no doubt to condemn, ii. 257. [iii. i]. 

Avarice thinks itfelf unfafe, if it do not wrap itlelf 
about in a general denial of good offices, ii. 313. [iii/ 


Men of the world, meaning to fcrve thetnfelves only 
Bever take pains to find out worthy attachments, ii. 222! 
[iii. 66]. ' ^ \ 

They imagine every-body they have to do with, has 
^e fame views upon them, that they have upon others ; 
and are in a ftate of hoftility with ail men, miftrufting 
and guarding ; and not doubting being impofed upon, 
were they to place a confidence inajiy map, j^/V. 

Thofe who wife for the death of relations, for the 
fake of enjoying what they ihall leave behind thpm^ 
are governed by ehc fame principles, as favages 0^ the 
fea-coaft, who look out impatiently for a wreck, ii. 388* 
[iii. 132]. 

No plea is too weak for folly, and felfifhnefs, to infiH 
fipoB, ii. 408. [iii. 152]. 

Covetous men, when their hearts are opened, will 
fbmetimes aft nobly, iii. 335. [iv. 121]. 

~ " rf • fayour^ftcj? Ihpwj )u nnch feMlh- 


23 2 ' Sentiments, &c. i^traSled from 

nefs in his application, as the refufer does in his denial, 
iv. 147. [v. 18]. 

, Thofe who will not be fatisfied with a coitipetence, 
will not with a redundance, iv. 227. [v. 08]. • 

The man who prefers not the happinefs of the objc£l 
beloved, to his own, may be faid to be in love with him- 
felf more than with her, vi. 77. 8i, 83. [vii. 77. 82, 
83]. {^ii Self.jpartiality. 


Beauty. Beautiful. 

A BEAUTIFUL woman mufl exped tobe more account* 
able for her deps, than one lefs attradive, i. i . \tbid'\. 

Women, too generally are more foUicitpus about the 
Beauties of perfon'than thofe of the mind, i. 3. \ihtd\ 

The bloom of Beauty holds but a few years — Should 
not therefore a. woman aim to make herfelf miftrefs of 
thofe perfe^ions, which will dignify her advanced age ? 
i. 18. vi. 29. [i. 18. vii. 29]. 

Chearfulnefs, and a contented mind, make a difference 
to advantage of half a dozen years, even in the counte- 
nance of a young perfon, i. 45, 46. \ihid\ . 

. Plain women, by cultivating their minds, may obtain 
a preference with the worthy to mere Beauty, i. 52. ii. 
387. [i. 52. iii. 151]. 

What advantages, in the eyes of weak people, has 
folly in a pretty woman, over even wifdom in a plain 
one I i. 78. \ihid\ 

Beauty in a man ought not to be loojced upon as a 
qualification, i. 254. \ihid\, 

A beautiful face is^ one of the Almighty ^s wonders in 
a little compafs, i: 103. \ihid\ 

Agreeablenefs is preferable to mere Beauty, i. 255^ 

In the charafler of a fine woman, mind ihould be 
always included, i. 333. [ii. »8]. 

Where Beauty and Goodnefs meet, they adocn each 
other, i, 396. [iL 77]. 

Thbfe parents muft want virtue, who depend princi* 
pally on the Beauty of thoir children, fpr t)ieijr prefer- 
faenty ii. 91, [19*]. ^ Vice 

tbi Hiftory of Sir Ch. Grandison. 233 

Vke turns Beauty into deformity, ii. 278. [iii. 22]. 

Beauty is an accidental and tranfient good> iii. 312. 
[iv. 98].. 

A wife man, in beholding a beautiful woman, will 
diftinguifli between admiration and love, ihid>. 

Beauty of perfon only, will have no higher an influence 
in a found and manly heart, in a view to marriage, than 
what it receives from the flowers of a gay parterre^ 
Y. 99. -[vi. 77]. 

A generous expaiiflon of heart, and franknefs of man- 
ners, mingled with dignity,, will far more recommend a 
woman to a man of fenie, than Beauty, V* 189. [vi. 

>67]. .: ' 

See Modefty. 

Beneficence. Benevolence. Charity. 

A Benevolent-minded man may be led into errors . 
and ralhnefs, even by the wslrmth of his Benevolence, 
i. 370. [ii. 55]. 

• Good oeconomy is very compatible with Beneficence, 
ii. 30. [131], 

The charities' which a good man will wi(h to pro- 
mote, are. 

To give little fortunes to young maidens in marriage 
with'boneft men of their own degree;— * 

To Extend his munificence tp the induftrious poor of 
all perfuafions, reduced by age, infirmity, or accident ;— 

To thofe who labour under incurable maladies ;— 

And to the youth of either fex, who are capable of 
beginning the world with advantage, but have not the 
means; ii. 273. [iii. 17]. 

The man who efteems not Benevolence in another, 
wants it himfelf, ii. 346. [iii. 90]. 
. Such is the blefling of a benevolent heart, that, let 
tlie world frown as it will, it cannot poffibly bereave it 
of all happinefs ; fince it can rejoice in the profperity 
of others, iii. 36. [196]. 

A feeling. hear( is a blefling, that no man who has It 
would be without, iii. 214. [374-]. 

It is alfo a moral fecurity of innocence ; iince the 


234 Sentiments, dec. mr^iStcd from 

heart that can partake of the diHrefs of anoth^, cannot 
wilfally give it, iii, 214. [374]. 

The bare mention of a behaviour ereatly generous, 
in another^ will warm and difcover a beneficent heart, 
iii. 285. [iv. 71]. 

Oftentation will (hew itfelf in the Beneficence of per- 
fons not accttftomed to a£ts of generofity, iii. 325. [iv. 

Policy, oftentation, love of praife, will frequently in- 
dace a perfon, tho' not natorally beneficent^ to do bene- 
ficent things, iv."i47. [^* *^*] 

Goodneis and Beneficence bring with them tiieir own 
rewards, v. 17. [288]. 

The good man's charity is not extended indifcriminate* 
ly to all. that aik him, v. 162. \yX. 140]. 

Among the obje6ls of it, are thofe who have fallen 
£rom competence : Such as ftjruggle with inftant di- 
ftrefs : Thofe who have large famnieSy and not ability 
to maintain them.*— But beegars born, or fach as make 
begging a trade, if in healthy or not lame, old or blind, 
have feldoin any (hare in his Beneficence, ibid. 

Poor houfekeepers, with large families, and the la- 
bouring and indunrious poor, who are a(hamed to ap- 
ply, and, fuch. as, if they did, cannot be importunate, 
are alfo the objedb of a good man's charity, and he will 
«^fe them to be fought out for, on all proper occafions^ 

V, 372- [yi. 3SoJ- 

Se€ Example. Generofity. Good Man. Uofpital 

for Femak Fer^tentu Pity. Proteftant AkiqM- 


BEMXveLEtici. ^^# Beneficence. 

Ungraceful Benevolence. 

Com PLiAHCE with a requeft, and reflexion caft upon 
the reqoefter, are not to be coupled, i. 326. [ii. 21]. 

Pecuniary furprizes, oflentatioufly made, are double 
taxes on the gratitude of a worthy heart, iii. 251. (iv. 

Pride, vain-^ory, muft be the motives of narrow* 

minded benefactors^ ibid. 


the Hiftory of SirCu. Granoisqn. z^s 

It is enough for a ^eneroas mind Co labonr under the 
fenfe of obligation, iii. 251. \iv, 37]. 

A truly beneficent fpirit cannot take delight in the 
grareful emotions of a fellow-creature, who, but iof 
anfortqnate accidents, would perhaps hare ihewn a more 
graceful Benevolence, ibid. 

When narrow-minded or hamourfome perfons are 
brought to tafte the fweets of doing a worthy adion, 
they will iometimes a6l nobly, iv, 146. [v. 17 J. 

We (hould not therefore too foon, and without make- 
ing proper applications, give up perfons of ability and 
fortune, on hafty conceptions^ formed upon their ge* 
neral chara^ers, ibid, 

S I a T u. See Vanity. 


Calamity. See Adverfity. 

Cenfure. Cenforioufnefs. 

Tt is difficult for a young woman to avoid blame, when 
her relations refolve to be Cenforious, i. 2$i. [ibidy. 

We (hould be cautious in cenfuring tne anions of 
another, efpecially of a goodperfon, for which we can^ 
not account, ii. 10. [in]. 

The truly good cannot be either cenforious or un* 
ciiaritable, ii. 319. [iii. 63]. 

Men who corred not their own errors, have no right 
to find fault with others, ii. 32^. [iii. 69]. 

We ought to put ourfelves in the fituacion of the per* 
fons of whofe actions we prefume to judge, iii. 15S; 

Cenforious people frequently give caufe of fufpicion, 
that their obfervations have either coft them their charity 
or their innoqence, v. 226. [vi. 204]. 

See Charity in Judgment. Good Man. 


A T a V L T brave man will not be fo much a coward, 
u to fear being banded for one, for refiafing ta accqit 

2^6 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfrom 

a challcttge ; the confcquence of which muft probably 
be murder [and everlafting perdition] i. 291. [ibid'\, 
' Such a one will not live to the world 5 but to the 
monitor within him, ibid. 

What is the magnanimity of the man that cannot get 
above the vulgar breath, ibid. 

How many fatherlefs, brotherlefs, fonlefs -families 
have mourned all their lives, the favage refort to the 
private {word! ibid, 

A man who, in a private quarrel, defies his fellow- 
creature into the field, mull iirfl defy his God : And 
what are his hopes^ but to be a murderer ; and to do an 
irreparable injury to the innocent family and dependents 
of the murdered ? ibid. 

Has the Challenger friends whom he loves ? who love 
him ?~ Enemies to whom his fall would give pleafure ? 
let him refolve to difappoint the latter^ and to gratify 
the former, i, 292. [ibid']. ' • ■ 

Where is the fenfe of giving a' chance to a fup- 
pofed injurer to do you and yours a flill greater, even 
the higheft, injury ? i. 293. {ibid}. 

A man of honour ought not to put upon a foot with 
■himfelf, a Challenger, who has teen guilty of a bafeoefs 
£to him, or his friend] ibid. , 

A man's life is not his own; much lefs is that of 
another his, ibid. 

A wife and good man will, onl^ feek to defend him* 
felf from infult or attack ; he will not wilh to kill or 
maim any man> ibid. 

He will as much defpife the man who thinks different- 
ly, as fuch a one can him, ibid. 

It is not a point of bravery to infult magiftracy, i. 
313, [ibid]. 

Much lefs for a man to take upon himfelf to be his 
own judge ; and, as it may happen^ another man's exe- 
cutioner, ibid. 

It is the higheft inftanceof bravery, to be able to rc- 
fufe a Challenge, and yet be fearlefs of infult on the 
refufal, i. 314. [ibid"]. 

How truly brave is the man, who can fay on a Ckal- 
Ung9 i ** I confider myfelf as a mortal man : I can 

« die 

tbi Hiftory of Sir Ch. Ga andison. 237 

** die but once : Once I mi^ft die : And if the caufe be 
*• fuch as will juftify me to my heart, I, for my own 
** fake, care not whether my life be demanded of me 
*' to-morrow, or forty years hence ? i. 314, [ibid'l. 

A good man will not be defied into a cool and deli- 
berate vengeance, i. 341. [ii. 26]. 

He will own no laws of hoaour bat thofe of God 
and his country, . /^/W. r 

He willfhew a Challenger that he has better niotives 
than fear, for his refufal to meet him, i. 342. [ii. 27]. 

•A good man will not play with another man's lifq, 
nor confent to make a (port of his own, i^ 35^. [ii. 


The man .who can think of juftifying one violent adlioa 
by another, mufl give a real fuperiority to his adverfary, 

A man who can be overcome by a geHerous adverfa- 
ry, is himfelf a conqueror, i. 360. [ii. 45]. 

Every opportunity that a man, who has compromifed 
with an adverfary, has, to exert his good qualities, or 
to repent of his bad, will contribute to his fatisfadion 
to the end of his life, i. 361. [ii. 46]. 

' A brave man challenged, will rely on his own inno- 
cence, and hope by generoiity to overcome a generous 
man, iii. 204. [364]. 

See Duelling, Fencing. Good Man. 

Chaftity. Unchaftity. 

C H A s T I T X is the crown and glory of a woman, 
ii. 332. [iii. j6'\. 

How unhappy muft be the unchafte mother, whofe 
very tenderne& to her illegitimate oflFspring, reminds 
her of her guilt, iii. 283. [iv. 69]. 

Yet what a creature muft (he be, who has not tender-^ 
nefs to innocence born to fhame from her fault ! ibid. 

When wonrien of family and 'education forfeit their 
characters, they double their crim^, iii. 284. [iv. 70]. 

What is Chaftity only ? She who will not be virtu- 
. tuous for virtue*& fake, is not worthy to be called a wo- 
man, iii. 3c I. [iv. 137]. 

S^e mutt be virtuous for her hufband's fake, ifor tlie 


23* Scfltimcnts, &c extraSedfrom 

fake of her vows ; for the fake of her eternal welfare : 
Bat to be a good wife, ihe mail alfo be complaifant, 
obliging, obedient, iii. 351. [iv. 137]. 

The honour of a woman celebrated for virtue, is the 
honour of her fex, v. 11. [282}. 

How can the woman, who has yielded up her chafli- 
ty, and is forced upon the violator as his wife, by way 
of doing her poor jullice, expe^l to be happy ? v. 19. 

What affiance can her hulband have in her virtue, 
were (he to meet with a trial ? v. 20. [29^ J. 

What weight with him can her arguments have, were 
(he to endeavour to inculcate upon him a regard either 
to his public or private duties ? ibid. 

A gloomy mind muft occafionally receive great con- 
folation from the foothings of a companionable love, 
when known to proceed from an untainted heart, ibid. 
See Advice to Women, Good Man. Good Wife^ 
or IVoman. 

Charity. See Beneficence. 

Charity in Judgment. 

In our judgments of men, we muft throW their me- 
rits into one fcale, their demerits into the other ; and if 
the former weigh down the latter, we muft, in charity, 
pronounce to the perfon's advantage, il. 202. [303] 

So, it is humbly prefumed, we (hall be finally judged 
ourfelves ; for who is faultlefs ? ibid. 

Charitable and great minds, however differing in fome 
even effential articles of religion, will mingle hearts, and 
love each other, vi. 222. [vii. 222]. 

See Duties Mora! and Riligious. Good Man. Mag. 

CoMMX/NiCATxvEKEss. See Concealment. 

Compassion. See Pity. 

Compliments. Flattery. 

A WOMAN exalted above what fhe can deferve, has 
reafon to be apprebeniive were fhe to put it in a man*s 
power to treat her bat as .what fhe is, i. 12. [ibid'\, 

A high Complimeiiter is to be boUi feared and de- 


ibe Hijlory of Sir Ck, Grandisok. 239 

fpifed by a woman ; dij^ifid^ either for his injudiciotf" 
nefsy Of Hattery ; feared^ left he ihould be able to raife a 
vanity in her, that would give him caufe to triumpK 
over her weaknefs, at the time that ihe is fall of her 
own wifdom, ihid. 

Flattery is the vice of men, who feek to raife them- 
felves on the rains of the pride they hope either to find 
or infpire, in women, i. i8. \ibid\. 

Humility beft becomes a flattered woman of all wo- 
men, ibid* 

She who is puffed up by the praifes of men, anfwers 
their end upon her, and feems to own that ihe thinks it 
a principal part of hers^ to be admired by them, ibid. 

No wonder that men in general think meanly of wo- 
men who have ears to hear, and folly to be pleafed 
with, the frothy things that pafs their lips under the 
naine of compliments, i. 21. [ibid"}, 
~ Difqualifying fpeeches on being complimented, inti- 
mate either that we believe the complimenter to be in 
earned ; or that we want to have the Compliment repeat- 
ed or confirmed, 1. 22. [ibid]. 

A prudent woman will not accept ^of a Compliment 
made her at the expence of her fex, i. 38. 49.' ii 404. [|. 
38. 49. iii. 148]. 

A prudent woman will not think herfelf either wifcr 
or handfomer for the Compliments made her by men, 
i. 41. 95. 113. [ibid}. 

Flatterers endeavoar to turn a woman^s artillery againft, 
her, and to raife her up« in order to pull her down, 
i. 48. [ibid']. 

There are not many m^n who can make a Compli- 
ment to one woman without depreciating others, of the 
fex, i, 319. iv, 174. [ii. 4. v. 45]. 

Women generally hunger and third: after Compli- 
ments. If men are not at hand to flatter them, they 
will [apiflily] flatter one another, i. 329. [ii. 14]. 

Compliments made to the heart, by one who is not. 

' ufed to flatter, and fach as it would be culpable for a 

perfon not to be able to verify, ihoald not be difclaimed^- 

1, 393, [ii. 78]. 

How painful is k to a m^»d not ^aite at eafe, to be 

2 ' obliged 

240 Sentitticnts, &c. exlraSed from 

oBHged to be civil to a profufe Complimenter, who mull 
think as highly of himfeif, as meanly of the perfon to 
whom he is addreffing his Flatteries ! ii. 2. [103]. 

<l"he man who makes a Compliment to the beauty onlf 
of a wpman of fenfe, depreciates her imderftanding*, 

A good man will not flatter either a prince, or a lady ; 
yet will not be rude. to either,' ii. 161. [262]. 

Faults complimented into virtues, joining with felf- 
partiality, may be of pernicious confequcnce to the party 
fo flattered, iii. 5. [16^]. 

A man of fenfe has no need to depreciate one wa- 
man, in order to do juftice to, or exalt, another, v. 118, 
ii9,[vi. 96, 97]. 

Silly men, not knowing what to fay with propriety to 
women, whom they take it into their heads to compli- 
ment, make angels [or funs or ftars] of them all at 
once, V. 225. [vi. 203]. 

The higheft Compliments to women are ever made 
by men of the loweft nnderftauding, ibid, 

Complimental men don't coniider, that if the woman 
they egregionfly flatter, avfr^ what theywould have them 
believe they think them, they would not be feen in fuch 
company as theirs, ibid. 

See Artful Men. Modelly. Proteftations. Se- 

Compulfion. , 

In fome love cafes, downright Compulflon is more 
tolerable than over earneft entreaty. A child compelled, 
may be hardened, may contraft herfelf within her own 
compafs : But the entreaty of friends, who undoubtedly 
mean the child's good, renders her miferable, whether 
fhe does, of does not comply^ v. 260, 261, [vi, 238, 

Our own choice makes that tolerable, which otherwHe 
would be infupportable, vi.'223. 242, [vii. 223. 242}. 

Perfuaiion againfl inclination, ought to be confidered 
as a degree of Compulflon; vi. 242. [vii. 242]. 

Had even the noble Clementina been entreated to rc- 

fufe the Chevalier Grandtfon, id all probability (he 

. ' herfelf 

tbel^fipryof Sir Ch, Grandisoh. 13^4^ 

would not have been fo happy as ih$ w^s, when finding 
herielf abfoluce miflrers of the quellion, ihe could ailoniOi 
and furprize every one by her magaanimity, vi. 242. 
[vii. 242]. 

Set Indulgence. Love. Parents and Children, Per- 

Concealments. Secrets. Communicativc- 


Husbands are generally the wlfer for what their 
wives know of other women's' fecrets, [tho' their <wi'ves 
can keep their own] i. 265. {ibid'\. 

Young women, in a beginning love, are willing to 
conceal themfelves, even from themfelves, i. 299. [ibtd']. 

An earneft denial of a love-afiair, or an ^officious eva- 
fion, often defeats the perfon's own end, and ftrengthens 
the conjectures intended to be weakened, i. 390. [ii. 


Women, Lady G. fays, have their free-mafonry as well 
as men, i. 401. [ii. 86]. 

A perfon who owes to another^s franknefs of heart, 
the knowlege of any Secret of that heart, ihould make 
a generous ufe of it, i. 404. [ii. 89]. 

A. perfon confulting or advifing with another on an 
intricate cafe, fhould lay before that other every parti- 
cular that is neceffaryto enable him to form a judg- 
ment of it, ii. 8. [109]. 

When we are folicitous to keep a fecret, the flighted 
hint will alarm us, ii. 9. [no]. 

Love reigns in the heart with the greater force for be«' 
ingconcea&l, ii. 52. [153]. 

Concealment gener^ly implies fomewhat wrong, ii. 
61. [162]. 

There are fome fort of Secrets, out of which a wo- 
man wilhes to be coarted, ii. 155. [256]. ' 

We (hould not obtain lights nrom any one, which we 
think he is not commifliond to g^ve, ii. 2^8. [iii. 2]. 

It is not in woman, in love- cafes, to be unreferved ; 
nor perhs^s ought they to be indifcriminately fO, if. 277. 
[iii. 2i]. 

M A 

242 Sentiments, &c. extraSled from 

A good man hai but few Secrets, ii. 282. [iii. 26}. 

There is a time in which two young perfons of dif- 
ferent fexes, and families, brought up, as it were, toge- 
ther, will find it prudent for diilance to take place of 
innocent familiarity ; and to draw into their hearts, that 
kindnefs and love which ufed to dwell on the lips of 
each ; altho' the love may increafe with the referve, ii. 
307, 308. [iii. 51, 52]. 

The mutual unbofoming of Secrets, is the cement o f 
friendfliip and love, iii. 81. [241]. 

Whenever any new light opens in an intcrefting cafe, 
the friendly heart refts not till it has communicated to its 
fellow- heart, the important change, ih'J. 

And this communicativenels knits the true lover *s knot 
the clofer, ti?id. 

No conilderation is flrong enough to induce any one 
to endeavour to make a worthy perfon reveal the fecrets 
he is intruded with, iii. 313. [iv. 99]. 

It is a bad fign, when a perfon is more willing to 
conceal a fault than to amend it, iii. 330. [iv. 1 16]. 

We young girls, /ays Emily, if we put our hands be- 
fore our eyes, are apt to imagine that nobody can fee 
us, vi. 90. [vii. 90]. 

An open heart acquainted with a Secret, the know- 
lege of which muft afflift its friend, will be fenfible of 
a tender pain, in longing, yet being afraid, to reveal it, 
vi. 134. [vii. 134]. 

How loth is fuch a heart to difturb the tranquillity, 
which is built upon ignorance of the event ? that very 
tranquillity (contemplated upon) adding to the pains of 
the compafiionating friend, who refledts, that when the 
unhappy news (hall be communicated, time, and chriftian 
philofophy only, will ever rcftore it to the heart of the 
lufFerer, ihid. 

See Franknefs of Heart, FriendHiip. Ingenuoaf* 
nefs. Love. Lovers. Modefty. 

Conceit. Obftinacy. Perverfenefs. 

Pride and Conceit will make a perfon contemptible 
in thie €ye of every one whofe good opinion is worth 
caltivatiug, i. 47. [/foVj. 


the Hiftory ofSirCn. Grandison. 14^ 

Vain men often millake contempt for approbation » 
i. 57. [ihzd]. 

Obftihacy in a weak man, is worfe than tyranny in a 
man of (enfe» if a man of fenfe can be a tyrant, i. 58. 

Thofe maligners who give themfelves the confequence 
of which they would deprive others, will foon be de- 
teded, il^id. 

Tenacious perfons fhould be very careful of prepof- 
feiSons, ii. 117. [218]- 

One error perfifted in, frequently produces others, 
ii. 164. [265]. 

Reproof leldom mends a determined fpirit, iii. 247. 
[iv. 33]. 

Yet a fulFerer by fuch a bad fpirit, cannot but have 
fome joy, when he hears his fentiments fpoken by a by- 
ilander to the delinquent, iiiJ, 

Some pervcrfe fpirits will not do even right things but 
in a wrong manner, iii. 315. [iv. loi]. 

It is ncceffary fometimes, in order to prefervc an in- 
fluence in greater matters, to treat lightly, and even to 
palliate, the fmaller faults of a perverfe fpirit, iv. 179. 
[v. 50]. 

Moft pragmatical mortals, however weakly they a6l 
in their own affairs, think themfelves qualified fjr coun- 
fellors in thofe of others, v. 194. [vi. 172]. 
See Vanity. Wit. 


The irreproachable man is the iittell mediator in 
cafes of Honour and Confcience, ii. 326. [iii. 70]. 

What opinion can a worthy man have of one, who 
can give up his Confcience, tho^ for the higheft confide- 
ration on«arth ? iv. 228. [v. 99]. 

What witneiTes to convid him needs the man, who 
knows himfelf to. be guilty ? iv. 400. [v. 271]. 

When Confcience acquits, who (hall condemn? vi. 
120. [vii« i2o]. 

The confcious integrity of a man^s own heart, will 
carry him thro" the mofl difficult fituations, vi. 290. [vii. 
290] . {See Duties Moral and lUIt'giosu. Good Man. 

M 2 Con- 

^44 Sentiment, &c txtraSsd ffom 


This life is but a dark and fhorc paflage to a better : 
Let one ioflle» another elbow a ^ood perfon in it, ihe 
will ftcadily purfue her coarfe, till rfic gets through it 
into broad and open day, ii. 146. [247]. 

Happy is the man who receiving ill-treatment, can 
ihank God he does not deferve it, in. 128. faSS], 

In all the diftreflcs of this life, wc ftiould refer our* 
^ felves to thofe motives, which alone c;in give fuppdrt to 
a rational mind, iii. 214. [374]. 

This mortal fcen^, however perplexioc;, is a (hort 
one ; and the hour is haflening when all tne intricacies 
of human affairs fhall be cleared up, ibid. 

And all the forrows that have had their foundation 
in virtue, (hall be changed into the higheft joy, ibid. 

When all worthy minds fhall be united in the fame in- 
terefts, the fkme happinefs, ibid. 

Who, that is not reproached by his own heart, need 
to grieve for inevitable evils, which can only be evils as 
he makes them f ? iii. 380. [iv. 1663. 

Our prudence, if properly exerted, is generally pro- 
portion'd to our trials, iv. iij. [287]. 

The Almighty will do his own workt and in his ow« 
way : And that muft be beft, iv. i63. [v. 39]. 

What a Confolation mufl he have in the hour when 
he moil wants it, who can reflect that he took not ad- 
vantage over confiding innocence, iv. 385. [v. 256]. 

In the inevitable hpur it will be a Confolation to a good 
child» to be able to reflect, that ihe obeyed her parents 
in their reafonable commands, v. 1 1 1 . [vi. 89]. 

Small crevices fometimes let in light upon a benight- 
ed mind, v. 244. [vi. 222]. 

Time is the pacifier of every woe, vi. 63. 21 j. J[vii. 63. 

Every thing we ought to do, we fhall be enabled to 
do, if we fet about it righdy, and with equal humility 
and truft, vi. 208. [vii. 208]. 

See Duties Moral and Religious, Good Man. 

CoHTRiTioN. 5/^ Penitence. 

CoQjjsTRT. f<#Frudcry. 


iii Hifiory afSirCn. GRAiiDiiOK. 245 


A LAD Y* 8 civilitjr to an admirer, is not always an 
indication of a preferable favour to him, i. 15. ii. 197, 
[i. ig* ii. 298]. 

Men in Courdhip take care to fet forward the ad- 
vantages by which they are diiiinguiflied, i. 38. [/^;V],. 

While fortune is the laft thing talked of by him who 
has little or none ; and then love, love, love, is all his 
cry, iiid. 

A good elbate gives a man confidence in Court(hip, 
i. 46, 47. [/^/^]. 

A man may ftand a chance for as good a wife among 
thofe who have fortunes, as among thofe who have 
none, i. 48. [/^/W]. 

Men profefs themfelves the fervants of women, in or* 
der to become their mailers, i. 51. [/ArV]. 

Can modefty in a lover, ever be an objefUon to a 
modeft woman ? i. loi. [/&V], 

A worthy woman will not give hope to a man ihe 
means not to encourage, i. 10 1. 116, 117. [/^/V]. 

A man who adts generoufly by a prudent woman in 
Conrtihip, may be faid to adt for himfelf ; and that in 
the moft agreeable manner, i. no, in. 152. [i^id]. 

Women will fometimes queftion the nncerity of a 
man's profeilions to them, in order to be aflured, i. 113. 

It is not honourable, it is not juft, for a woman to keep 
a man in fafpence, when ihe is not in any herfelf, i. n4» 
340. [i. n4. ii. 25]. 

Thofe diflikes which a woman takes to a lover, for 
which ihe cannot account, imply a natural averiion, and 
are the hardeft of all others to be got over, i. 1 17. yhid}. 

A woman who wifties not to 1^ idolized in Courtship, 
may reafonably hope not to be treated with indifference, 
when ihe has given a man her whole felf, i. 151. [/^/W]. 

The man of gratitude* of principle, whofe love is 
founded in reafon, and whofe objed is mind rather than 
perfon, muit make a worthy woman happy in marriage, 

The lover who can folidt the hand of a^ woman, 

M } who 

246 Sentiments, &c. extra^edfrom 

who declares fhe cannot give him a fliare in her heart, 
furnilhes areafon againft himfelf, i. 156, 157. [ihtd'\. 

Women are ever looking forward, whether for themfelves 
or friends, on matrimonial probabilities, i. 202. [ihidl^. 

Men love not all halcyon days in Courtihip, i. 395. 
[ii. 80]. 

It is a very happy circumftance for a young woman 
to look forward to a change of condition, with a man of 
whom every one of her relations, approves, ii. i4|j-[2443. 

A lady is warranted in her referves, if fhe has any 
doubt either of her lover's worthinefs, or of her own 
confequence with him, ii. 151. [252]. 

The fame man [or woman] cannot be evtry thing 
that is defirable, ii. 160. [261]. 

The woman who in Courtfhip treats a man with in* 
folence, yet receives his vifics, generally- fpeaking, gives 
him importance with her, ii. 197. [298]. 

The days of Courtihip are faid to be the happieil days 
of life [a woman may iay fo, becaufe ^hey are the days 
of her power] but the lover who thinks fo, is not to 
be forgiven, ii. 203. [304]. 

A politician in love-affairs, will not too foon declare 
himfelf, for fear of driving a lady into rcferves, which 
rr.i^^ht deprive him of the opportunity of developing the 
plaits and folds of her. heart, ibid. 

A man of uprightnefs and penetration, fliQuld not, if 
approved of, be treated with parade, ii. 222. [323]. 

A woman is not intitled to ridicule a* modeft lover, 
V'hom fhe defigns not to encourage, ii. 380'. [iii. 124]. 

A fingle man may fometimes, in the behaviour of a 
daughter or filler, fee that of the future wife, ii. 401, 
[iii. 145]. 

Men,y2r)'i Lady G, know no medium : They will either, 
fpaniel-like, fawn at your feet, or be ready to leap into 
your lap, iii. 72. [232]. 

While preliminaries arc to be fettled among the friends 
of lovers, they both fhould hold themfelves fuipended, and 
not enter upon fubjeds with each other, that might lead 
to prepofTeffion, iii. 102. [262]. 

A woman of principle will not yield her hand to a man 
who cannot deierve her utmofl kindnefs, iii. 225, [iv. 
J I J A 

the Hijiory of Sir Ch. Gr andiso>7. 247 

A lady's confent is often fufEciently given by her 
iUence, iii, 247. [iv. 33]. 

A petulant miftrefs ought to think herfelf obliged to 
make an obliging wife, iii. 299. [iv. 85]. 

A man who in Courtftiip allows his miftrefs to treat 
him like a fool, will, too probably, make her think him 
one, iii. 304. [iv. 90], 

In Courtfhip, both parties will turn the bed fide of 
the garment outward, iii. 323. [iv. 109]. 

A man, for his own fake, ihould give dignity to the 
woman he wilhes to be his, v. 47. [vi. 25]. 

Referve is unneceiiary, even of the woman's iide» 
to a man who is above referve ; whofe offers are un- 
exceptionable, and the refult of prudent deliberation, 
V. 50. [vi. 28]. 

A woman who by unneceiTary parade in Courtfhip, 
perplexes by delay s, the man fhe approves, and of 
whofe honour fhe has no doubt, a£ls as if fhe thought 
fhe was to be the greatefl gainer in wedlock, and there- 
fore Cufpended her confent for the day, to avoid the 
charge of feliifhnefs, v. 52^ 53. [vi. 30, 31]. 

It is a happy thing for a man, but not always for 9, 
woman, when he is fecure of her favour, v. 88. [vi. 66]. 

Refpe^, is a word that a young woman, in Courtfhip, 
will not be fatisfied with from the man (he favours, v. 98, 
[vi. 76]. 

It is a high pleafure to a woman to be addrefled by 
a man whom every one approves. What a poor figure, 
on the contrary, mufl (he make, who encourages the 
addrefs of a man who is generally deemed unworthy of 
her, V, 145. [vi. 123]. 

Such a one, indeed, ufually, indiredlly confefHs her 
folly, by carrying on the affair clandeflinely, ihU, 

Women love not that wife men fhould keep up to 
them the dignity of wifdom, v. 157. [vi. 135]. 

Much lefs that thy fhould be folemn,formal, grave, ibid. 
• Yet are they fond of refpeft and obfervance, ihU, 

Lady C/aysy that the man who would commend him* 
ielf to the favour of young women in Courtfhip, fhould 
be a decent rake in his addrefs, and a faint in his heart, 

M 4 There 

248 Sentiments, &:c. 49Ctratlii frcm 

. There are men who in Coardhip, infulttngly think they 
compliment a Woman by their urgency for the day, 
V. 167. [vi. 1 45 J. 

A woman (hould not be wholly unobfervant of caftora 
and the laws of her fex, however deferving the obje£t 
of her favour may be, v. 168. [vi. 146]. 

Young women will beft judge of the allowablenefs 
of fuch freedoms of their lovers in private, as they 
have doubts about, by being able, or not, to relate them 
to a friend, to whom they can reveal what in general 
pa/Tes between them, v. 170. [vi. 148]. 

The true modefty, after hearts are engaged, is to think 
little of parade, and much of the focial happinefs that 
awaits two worthy minds, united by love and conformity 
of fentiments, v. 183. [vi. i6i]. 

. A little over or under nicety on fetting out, in a love- 
affair, will carry even a generally fuppofed prudent 
woman into a road (he never, /ays Lady G. defigned to 
amble in, v. 187. [vi. 165]* 

A man of fenfe and uprightnefs, will not make a re« 
queil to a lady with tn expectation rather to be forgiven 
than complied with, v. 209. [vi. 187]. 

A fenfible man will addrefs a woman as a woman, 
not as a goddefs, yet be able to do honour to her and to 
4kcr fex, v. 225. [vi. 203]. 

What greater felicity can a young creature propofe to 
lierfcif, in the days of Courtftiip, than to find every one 
in her family applauding her choice ? v. 274. [vi. 252]. 

A man of fuperior fenfe, merit, and delicacy, will 
fometimes be able to engage the heart of a feniible 
woman, without faying a word, v. 296. [vi. 268], 

What additional pleafure muft a woman have, who 
is addreffed to by a man of merit, and with the appro* 
bation of all her friends, and Ris, to confider herfelf 
as the bond of union between the family ihe is of, and 
that (he is entering into ! thid. 

How dreadful, on the contrary, muft be the cafe of 
her, who is the occafion of prooagating diflfeniion, and 
irreconcileable hatred between her own relations, and 
thofe oi the man to whom, for life, flie engages herfelf f 

V. 29J. [vi. 269]. 



the Hiftory of Sir Cir. Gr Airorsaw; 249 

Men in Courtfhip, fays Latfy G. begin with the pro^ 
foundeil refpeA, and go on from freedom to freedom^ 
as indulged, till the refpedfulnefs is drawn oiF, and 
nqthiflg bat the lees are left; and within two ov three; 
months after marriage* the once fqueamifh palate will 
be glad of them, v. 306. [vi. 284], 

S^ Advice to Women. Delicacy. Female Dignity. 
Fcmahues. Franknefs of Heart. Hulband and 
Wife, Libertine. Love. Lover. Firft Lovem 
Marriage. Modedy. TartntsaadChiMreft. Pro- 
teflations. Single Women. Vincibility ofLove. 


One of the charafleriftics of a eood man, is, to be 
fludious to avoid danger, and to be unappalled in it, 
iv. 104. [276]. 

In a cafe of inevitable danger, the way to avoid it, 
IS not to appear to be intimidated. One man's fear gives 
another man Courage, v. £89. [vi. 267]. 

Coun^ is a glorious quality when it is divefled of 
ralhnefs, and founded on integrity of life and manners^ 
V. 296. [Ti. 274.]. 

But otherwife fouiided, it is rather to be called favage- 
nefs and brutality, than Courage, ibid. 

See Challenges. DaeUing. Good Man. Mag- 

Cupidity. See Love at firfl Sight, 


The £rft vice of the firft woman. Lady G. JaySf wasCo^ 
rioiity, and it runs thro* the whole fex, v. 317. [vi. 205]. 

Curiofity is a nail that will faften to the ground the 
foot of a Uftener, however painful what ihe hears may 
fometimes nuike her fitaation, vi. 226, 227. [vii. 22^ 
227]. l$ei Femalities. 


How few hate the coorage to k«ak tiiro* a bad 

now tew Mte the i 

Cuilom, i. 362. [ii. 47]. 

Tyrant CuftoA aakffs » woman idbuigt her name in 

M s mar- 

150 Sentiments, &c, extraSied from 

marriage ; yet, for the fake of name only, gives a fon 
the eft ate of the common anccftor of bow, ii. 157. 


Cufttm obliges young women, fometimes, to keep 
at fartheft diftance the man they wifti neareft to them, 
V. 87. [vi. 65]. 

Yet true delicacy is often wounded by the afFedlation ; 
fince it (hews the objeft of their favour, that they have 
formed greater expedlations upon him, than they have 
upon any other perfon, with whom they are more free 
and familiar, ihid. 

See ASt€tzxion. Concealment. Ttzx^n^is of Heart, 
Love. Modefty. 



Daughters who are invincible to the entreaties of 
their parents, are oft^n teazed out of their duty by men, 
who, meaning only themfelves,airume the name of lovers, 
i. 13. [ibid'\. 

Daughters who are earneft to choofe for themfelves, 
ihould be doubly careful that prudence juftifies their 
chdice, iii. 357. [iv. 143]. »' 

Every widow who marries imprudently (and many 
there are who do) furnifhes a ftrong argument in favour 
of a parent's, authority over a maiden Daughter, ihid, 

A defignine man looks out for a woman who has an 
independent fortune, and no queftions to afk, ihid. 

He feems afTured of hnding indifcretion in the young 
woman to befriend him, ihid. 

Ought not a prudent perfon to think herfelf affronted 
by the attempter, and to refolve to difap^int him, ihid. 

A young creature will be able to judge of the falla- 
cious prctenfions of fuch a one — By his application to 
J^er, rather than to her natural friends, ihid. 

By his. endeavouring to aJienatQ her affedions from 
them, ihid. 

. Byv, ifhing her to fivour private and clandefline meet- 
ings, ihid. 

By the ineqaality of bis fortune to hers j 


ibe Hiftcry of Sir Ch, Gr andisont. 251 

[By his feeking to engage her in promifes] iii. 358. 
[iv. 144]. . ' 

Young perfons, in love-cafes, fhoald not prefume to 
advife young perfons, /^/V. 

It (hould not be put from young friend to young 
friend, What world you do in fuch a cafe, but what 
eugbt to be done, ihiJ. 

The romancing elevations which fo often drive head- 
ftrong girls into difficulties, ihould, now-and-then, help 
a difcreet one out of them, iv. 52. [224]. 

When a young tvoman has not ftrong oppofition given 
her, with regard to the objed of her favour, ihe will, 
if not wholly loft to prudence, give herfelf leifure to con- 
fider what belongs to duty and difcretion, vi. 228. 24 1, 
242. [vii. 228. 241, 242]. 

See Advice to JVomen. Compulfion. Femalities. 
Girls. Love. Love at firft Sight, Marriage. 
Modefty. Single Women* 

Decorum. See Modefty. 


A WOMAN of Delicacy will not keep one man in 
(bfpence, \s(hile fhe is balancing in favour of another, 
1^309. \thid']. 

In a point of Delicacy, a woman is lefs excafable to 
be wanting, than a man, ii. 162. [263]. 

Women in love often fufFcr equally from the appre- 
henfion of difgufting the objed of it by their forward- 
nefs, and of difobliging him by too great a referve, 
ii. 195. [296], 

Delicacy is too often a mideader ; an idol, at whofe 
ihrine we fometimes offer up our fincerity , ii. 257. [iii. i]. 

Nothing can be really delicate that is not true, or 
that gives birth to equivocation, ibid, 

Tho* modefty becomes men as well as women, yet in 
certain cafes, it would be indelicate in a man not to 
prevent a lady^s wifhes, in fpeaking firft, iii. 102. [262]. 

The man who would not be denied a favour by a la- 
dy, fhould never fue for one, that it is not for her honour 
to grant, iii. 242. [iv. 28]. 

M 6 Deli- 

252 Sendcn€nls» &c exfrafied fr^m 

Delicate minds cannot be united to each otker bat by 
delicate obfervances, iii. 347. [iv. 133]. 

There is often more Indelicacy in Delicacy than very 
nice people are aware of, iii. 348. [iv, 134]. 

How few minds are there which are ddicat^ and can- 
did enough to fee circumflances in a delicate love-cafe, 
in the light they ought to appear in! iv. 40. [212]. 

When a woman gets over that Delicacy which onght 
to inclofe and defend modefty, modefty itTelf will foon 
lie at the mercy of an invader, iv. 119. [291]. 

Delicacy can never be feparated from iaflocence, iv. 

»54- [v. 25]- . , ' 

Delicate as the female ound is, or ihould be« there 

are cafes that regard a woman's honour, in which a man 

ihould be equally delicate, iv. 3;2. [v. 223]. 

Confultations on difficult [or nice] cafes, feldom turn 

to account. What are they, a/^j Liufy G, but the refuks 

of a parcel of people getting together, propofing doubts, 

puzzling one another, and ending as they beg^n, if not 

worfe? V. lie. [vi. 93]. 

Female Delicacy is of a more delicate texture than 

that of man, v. 134. [vi. 112]. 

Women confulted upon points of Delicacy, in anothtr^s 

cafe, generally over-do the matter : Were it their owB» 

they would probably relax, v. 183. [vi. 161] , 

Delicate minds can mix only with delicate minds, 

vi. 2 J 2. [vii. 252]. 

^^^Chaftity. Ftmzlt Dignity. GooHTi/i. Good 

Man. Love. Marriage. Modefty. Nnpcial 

Preparations. Nemr-married Woman. Signs ff 

Love. Single Women. Vincibility of Love, 

Descent. See Vanity. 
DEPaAViTYfl/* Manners. See Public Places. 
DiSAppQiNTiAENT. See Adv^rfity* 
Discretion. See Prudence. 
Dispraise. See Praife. 

Dreams^ Superftition. 

Superstition is, more or lefs^ a natural defeA ia 
every mind, v, 241. [vi, 219]. 


the H^ofy cf Sir Cn. Gft andIsok. ^55 

Dreams are illufions of the working mind, fetter* 
ed, and debafed as it is, by the organs thiXKigh which 
it conveys its confined powers to the groiler matter, body, 
then fleeping, inactive, as in the (hades of death, ilfid» 

What is the reafon, that tho^ we know, that the Beet* 
ing fliadows of the night, are no more than dreams* 
ycif that we cannot help being ftrongty impreiled by 
them, meditating interpretation of the flying vapoars» 
when reaibn is broad awake, and tells as, it is weaknefa 
to be diilurbed at them ? iHd. 

Happily poifed is that mind, which, on the one hand, 
is too ftrong to be aifeded by the flaviih fears fuperfti^ 
tion brings with it; and on the other, runs not 'into 
the contrary extreme, Sceptictfm, the parent of infideU<« 
ty, ihid. 

When realities difhirb, fhadows'will often ofHcioufly 
obtrude as fuch, on the buiy ixnaiginationy v. 281. [vi« 


Dress, ^r Fafhion. 


The word Hm§ur as abnfed, a^d ufed to induce 
Duelling, is the very oppo&c to duty, goodnefs, piety^ 
religion, i. 278. ylui'}.' * 

The eool man, ia a eontention, has great advai^ge 
over a warm one, i. 354. [ii. 39]. 

To die like a man of hoaoor, a man muft have lived 
like one, iiiii» 

A murderer never was a happy m^n, i. a6i. [ii. 46]. 

Self-defence will be the whole of a good man^s fyftem. 

The obligations a man owes to his country, his friends, 
kis family, and to avoid injuring irreparably that of 
another, and of incurring the Hnal perdition of both, 
ihould determine him againft deciding a diiference by 
the private fword, i. 367. [ii. C2]. 

The decifion by the private uvord cannot afluredly b« 
that of juftice, ihiJ. 

A challenger may owe to the man who refufks to meet 
him, not only his life, but all the good fortune that 
may attend him thro' ic^ i, 368, [ii. 53], 

4 Duelling 

254 Sentiments, &g. extraStifrom 

Duelling is contrary to all laws Divine and human, 
and particularly repugnant to the true heroifm which 
Chriflianity requires, of forgiving injuries and returning 
good for evil, i. 373. [ii. 58]. 

It owes its rife to the barbarous northern nations, who 
yet had pleas for itj which we have not, from their po* 
lity, a^d the nature of their governments, ihid, 
• The old Romans dzi/, the very Turks do, deleft the 
practice of Duelling. [See this barbarous practice ex- 
patiated upon, i. 374, 375. [ii. 59, 60]. 
. Of what ufe are the laws of fociety, if magiftracy 
may be defied by private men ? i. 375. [ii. 60]. 

.Who, if the challenge be received, and the challenger 
fucceedy is to challenge him ? Where is the evil to end ? 

How dare the challenger, to rifque ruibing into his 
Maker's prefence, from the confequences of an afi^ 
which, in the man who falls, cannot admit of repent- 
ance ; and leaves for the furvivor's portion nothing but 
bitter remorfe ? ihtd. 

Let the challenger coniider, whether^ were his adver- 
fary to meet him,- and both to furvive, he may not be 
obliged to put up with a real difgrace, inJlead of per- 
haps fuffering a mere imaginary^ ontf»^ Hid, 

[How poorly, how pafiivcly, how complainingly calm, 
looks the wounded patient under the (urgeon^s hands, 
when hoping, perhaps, but for a palliative cure !]. 

Courage is a virtue ; inordinate paflion is a vice ; fuch 
paflion therefore cannot be courage, i. 377. [ii. 62]. 

Does it not then behove every man of true honour, to 
fhew, that reafon has a greater fhaxe than refentment, in 
the boldnefs of his refolves ? ihid. 

And what by any degree, is fo reafonable, as a regard 
to our duty ? ihid. 

Defence is guarded ; offence expofes itfelf, r^d. 

The Council of Trent, with a naoft laudable feverity, 
determines againft Duelling, i. 378. [ii. 63]. 

Lewis XIV's. Edi'fl againft it is the greateft glory of 
his reign, t^d. 

The bafe arts of poifoning by treacherous agents j the 
cowardly praAice of aiTaffination by bravoe»>fo frequent 


the Hiftory of Sir Ch. Gr andisok. 255 

in fome countries ; arebrswches of the fame old Gothic 
tree. ibid. 

See Challenges. Courage. Fencing. Good Man. 

Duties Moral and Religious. 

Our Duties will encreafe as our power encreaies, 
i. 116. [j^/V]« 

Perfons often value themfelves for adlions which they 
cannot forbear doing from a conititacional byas ; whea 
they ought, in modefty, to diftingnifh between the 'oir^ 
tui and the necejjity that impels them, i. 120. \thid\. 

Hence it may he inferredy that many perfons are not fi 
good either as they think themfel*ueSf or as the <worId 
thinks them. Such ought to he thankful for, and 
not proud of J the benevolent hearts ^*oen them hy 
the Gi'ver if all good. 

He that makes light of oaths of office, wants but an 
inducement to make light of the higheft fandions, 
i. 238. \thid,'\ 

Truth never leaves room for felf-reproach, ii. 20. 

We ftiould be as ready to do jnftice to the veracity of 
others, as to our' own, ii. 21. [122]. 

We fhall not hereafter be judged by comparifon even 
with fuch as have been more faulty than ourfelves, ii. 21* 
157. [122.258]. 

To do ivilly and fujfer for it, is acceptable 'with God, 
ii. 61. [162]. 

Patience never yet was a folitary virtue, ii. 108. [209]. 

Glorious is the charity of that perfon who in pitying 
others for their errors, has no vices of his own to cover, 
by the exertion of that chriftian grace, ii. 124. [225]. 

Where a man finds it difficult to reftrain what he 
will call a conftitutional fault, he fhould diredi it to 
laudable ends, ii. 128. 130. [229. 231]. 

Who is the mortal man that will wiih to take an un« 
juft advantage of mortality ? ii. » 58. .[259]. 

Men, in order to extenuate , their own faults, fhould 
not throw blame upon the abfent ; much lefs . upon th^ 
evcrlailingly abfent^ ii. 165. [266]. 


256 SfisitimentS) Sec. aaraffedfrvm 

A pDiftciptil part of our benevelent religion, is. To do 
good to our fellow-creatures, ii. 242. [343]. 

The benefits we receive from the h^nd of Providence, 
ihould not be looked upon as dae to our own merits ; 
but as obligations laid upon us to extend them to our 
unhappier fellow-crcatares, iM. 

What, poor creatures are the beft of ns, that the very 
avoiding the occafions of a wrong adUon, ftiould gladden 
our hearts, ^ with the confciouuiers of fometbing meri- 

jtorious! ii. t43. [34+]* . ,^ , , r 

There are faults for which, tho a perfon may obtain 

forgivenefs from the party injured, he hardly ought to 
forgive himfclf, ii. 262. [iii. 6]. 

A perfoA who takes kindly a reproof, intitles him or 
herfelf to our higheft efteem, ihiJ. 

Self-denial is a do^bine ycry hard to be learned [the 
more hard, as there are but few pra£tical teachers of 

it], ii. 283. [iii. 27]- 

£very man has a right to judge ibr himfelf in thoTe 
articles for which he himfelf is only accounuble, ii. 3 1 3. 

[iii, 57]. 

The fon of a faulty father, who has a laudable tum, 
parses his own predominant paffion, whatever it be,. 
with as much ardor, and perhaps with' as little power to g 
ye6ft it, as his fadier had to reftrain his culpable one I 
[where then is his merit ?] ii. 314. [iii. j8]; * 

Our duties will rife with oar opportunities ; a man 
therefore may be as good with a fmall ellate, as with a 
> larger, ii. 369. [iii. 113]. j 

Be our ibition what it will, what have we lo do, but 
kumbly to acquiefce in it, and to fulfil the duties be- 
longing to it ? ihiJ. 

How can patience be patience* if it be not tried ? 

H. 414. [ip- iB^]. 

The chara^s of the heart are far more difplayed 
in minute inftanccs, than in the greater, iM. 

He that can difpenfe with one duty, will with another, 
if the inducement be equally ftrong, iii. 127. [287]. 

The itmocent heart will be a charitable one, iii. 38^^. 

[iv. 17T]. 
We may generally, in a donbtfd cafe, condnde our* 


felves in the right, when we deny our inclination^ iii« 
371. iv. 284. [iv. 157. V. 155]. 

What is this fpan of life, that a paiTenger thro' iff 
ihottld feek to over-turn the tnterefts of others, in order 
to eftablifh his own ? iv. 40. [2 12 J. 

A man who can value, even generally. faulty perfons 
for thofe qualities which are laudable in them, will be 
defiroas to draw a veil over thofe weaknefles which 
may be deemed human ones, iv. 356. [v. 227]. 

A good man wants no other proof of the largenefs 
of heart of profefibrs of different perfuaflons, than their 
living in friendfhip widi each other, v. 228. [vi. 206]. 

Where a Duty is reciprocal, the failure in it of the 
one, ac(^uit8 not the other for a failure in his^ vi. io8* 
131. [vii. 108. 131]- 

Sfe Confcience. Charity ia Judgmnt. Good Man* 
Modefly. Religion. 


EarlyRisivc. i9<v Oecofiomy. 

Ebriety. Intemperance. Riot. Falfe Shame; 

Ebrxety is a vice that leaves a woman no guards 
Hid makes her a Granger to that grace which is the 
glory of a woman, and hardens her to a fenfs of fhame^ 
li. 362. [iii. 106]. 

Other vices, perhaps, at firft, want this to introduce 
thcai, ibid. 

It is not agreeable to be the fpedlator of Riot ; but it 
is eafy to avoid being a partaker in it, ili. 223. [iv. 9]. 

A man who is known to have eftablifhed a rule to 
himfelf, from which he will not depart, will always be 
received into company upon his own terms, ibid. 

But if he would not be thought a ipy^on unguarded 
folly, he mud not refufe an urgency with funennefs ; 
but perfevere in his determined courfe with complaifance 
and good humour, iii. 224. [iv. 10]. 

Many a man owes his excefs [perhaps his rnin] to 
Falfe Shame, which hinders him from afierting'the free- 
dom to which every Englxfhman would claim a right in 
almoU vi^t^ other inftance. ihid. 


258 Sentiments, &c. extraHed from 

Reafon, health, fortune^ perfooal elegance, the peace 
and order of families, and all the comfort and honoar 
of their after years, are the facrifices that men make 
who are led, by Falfc Shame, into a riotous coorfe of 
life, iii. 224. [iv. 10]. 

How pcevifh, how wretched, is the decline of a man 
worn out with intemperance ! ibid. 

In a cool hour, refolutions might Be formed, that 
ihould dand the attack of a boiderous jeft, ibid. 

See Addrefs to Men o/Se^/e in the gay l^^orld. Good 


From feven years to fourteen, is chiefly the period 
in which the foundations of all female goodnefo are to 
be laid ; fince fo foon after fourteen, girls leap into 
women, i. 10. [ibid'\. 

What influence can a mother expefl to have, over a 
daughter, whole Education flie leaves to others, in or- 
der to fave herfelf trouble ? i. 22. [ihid^> 

Neither a learned nor a* fine Education is of any va- 
lue, than as it tends to improve th« morals of men, and 
to make them wife and good, i. 62. [ibidl. 

Prudent parents, in recommending a wife to their fon5, 
will have a particular regard to the character of thofe 
who have had a principal hand in the young woman^'s 
Education, as well as to her general charadler^ i. 302. 

The benefits of a good Education are of fuch a na* 
ture, that they cannot be recalled, ii. 231. [332]. 

In every cafe, the teacher is the obliger. Juilly is lie 
called mafier^ iii. 68. [228}. 

Such children of the poor, only^ as have talents for 
learning, (hould have that advantage endeavoured to be 
given them, iv. 14c. [v, i6]. 

Huibandry and labour are what are mod wanted to 
be encouraged among the lower clafs of people, ihid. 

Providence has given to men diflerent geniuses and 
capacities, for different ends, and that all might become 
.ufeful links of the fame great chain, iv. 145, 146. [v. 


the Hiftery of Sir Ch. Gr an d ison. 259 

Learning, of itfelf, never made any man happy, iy. 
146. [v. 17]. [Perhaps it only Inultiplied his wants]. 

The ploughman, from the contraAednefs of the fphere 
he moves in, makes fewer miftakes in the condudl of life» 
than the fcholar, ibid. 

If however, a genius, arife, let it be encouraged. 
There will be ruftics enow to do the common fervices for 
the finer fpirits, if, by our iudifcriniinate good offices, 
we do not contribute to their mifapplication, thid. 

By proper application of the talents of youth, thou- 
fands may make a figure in life, who o^herwife would 
be outcafts of the world. Of id. 

It is the privilege of people of quality now, /ays 
Lady G. fo to be educated^ that their time can never be 
worthily filled up, and as if it were a difgrace to be 
cither manly or ufeful, iv. 191. [v. 62]. 

See Filial Piety. Good Man. Learning. Learn* 
ed Women, Parents and Children. 

Elbgancb. See Politenefs. 


The Example of a beneficent fpirit, gracefully ex* 
erted, will awaken in others a capacity to enjoy the 
true pleafure that arifes from a benevolent adiou, i. 200. 
iii. 255. [i. 200. iv. 41]. 

The more a good man permits his heart to be known, 
the more good he may be the occafion of, i. 265; 

A good Example is necefTary to the fupport of good 
doctrines, i. ^562. [ii. 47]. 

LefTons of morality and difintereflednefs, given by 
Example are far more efficacious than thofe endeavoured 
to be inculcated by Precept, ii. 342. [iii. 86]. 

The Example of a good and generous man will be 
fometimes able to alter natures, iii. 335, 336. [iv. I2X, 

How happy are they who are fet up for Examples, 
rather than Warnings ! iv. 137. [v. 8]. 

A good man,' either from fear or fhame, makes all 
around him decent, if not good, iv. 220. [v. 91]. 


z6o SernhneiitSy &€. txtraHed frem 

We knov/ not, tUl tried, What emulation will enable a 
warm an<i generous heart to do, v. 60. [vi. 38]. 

M,<^ o^ genius, politenefs, and goodnefs, are litter to 
give than to take an Example in extraordinary cafes ; 
and ought not to be judged by rulgar rules, v,. 115. 
[vi. 93]. 

How exaltcdiy noble is the woman, who can give an 
£xample to her fex of a fervent paffion properly fubdued ! 
V. 138. [vi. 116]. 

A good man is not afhamed to avow in public, what 
he thmks fit to praftife in private, v. 145. [vi. 123]. 

A good man's iilent Example will generally have more 
efficacy on a bold man, i^an his pecepts, v. 227. [vi. 

A man that fos not from ignorance will ht affronted 
with a man who pretends to inilru6t him, ibid. 

Decency from a bad man, who errs not from want 
of knowlege, is as mach as can be exp^fted, ibid. 

The Examples of princes are of great force, either 
to amend or deprave ^ people, v. 229. [vi. 207]* 

People of condition fhould toniider themfelves, as 
Examples to thofe below them, vi. 12. [vii. i2]. 

They fhould ffaew a conformjty to the laws of their 
conntiy, as well ecclefiailical as civil, when they can do 
it with a good confcience, ibid. 

Let the parents who figh for an unhappy flep taken 
by their children, figh alfo for themfelves, if, tho' they 
may not have fet them bad Examples, they have not 
{iven them jg^W ones, vi. 14. [vii. 14]. 

^^f Beneficence. Generolty. Good Man. Mag* 


Whatevek good a man inclines to do, let him be 
bis own Executor, ii. 336. [iii. 80]. 

Were Executors to be ever fo juft, they, ading for a 
tnift, have no( a power to fulfil a teflator's uawritten in- 
tentions, ibid. 

See the generous Executor in Sir Charles Grandifons be^ 
hatdourto theDantys^WoX, II. Let. XXX. [xxxv]. 
See Wills. 


she Hjfl^ of Sir Cii. Gaakpisw. 261 

Extravagance. Profufion. 

M B N of birth and edixcation^ who are profufe, (hould 
^ndder, before they h^^e quite fquandered away their 
patrimony, that tho* there may be many ways of pro^ 
viding for bankrept tjradefmeo> there are but few for 
reduced gentlemen, v. 97. [vi^ 5}. 

The comptine-h^i^s af merchants^ the (hops of 
flouriihing tradeunen* the publip offices, will £nd cvn** 
ploy meat for the one; but how can the other; iio( 
brought up to figures ; knowing not (b much as the nAean- 
ing of t^ word diligence 1 never ufed to CQOtfinement ; 
.deeming attendance a flavery ; and expeding, pel-hapsi* 
to rank with his employer ; and to be allowed to iniult 
more ufeful fellow-domefti^s ; how can fuch a one be 
made uieful cither to Mmfelf or others ? y. 27, zZ, [vi. 

5. 6]. 

Profufion and pariimony are two extreme;} equally t# 
b^ avoided, v. aS. [vi. 6], 

St0 Addrefs u Men in the g«^ W^rU* 


Pamilie$ decojfed. 

Daughters of a decayed Family do not eafily 
get huibands, iii. 228, [iv. 14]. 

Men of great fortunes look hi^er ; men of fmall 
mud look out for wives to enlarge them ; and men of 

fenteel bufinefies, are afraid of young women who are 
etter born than portioned, ibid, 
A prudent young woman will therefore bend to her 
clrcumftances ; yet would fooner live fingle all her life, 
rather than not marry with fome profped of happinels, 

Fancy. Imflgination. Romances^ 

Young women deeply read in romances, are apt to 
expe^ to find in their own bofoms emotions and fervors 
in pafiion, like what are defcribed in thofe books ; and 
not finding them for a worthy man who may happen to 


262 • Sentiments, &c. extrnSedfrom 

be recommended to them, often become the prey of 
fops and flatterers, vi. 204. [vii. 204 J. 

Romancing girls are apt to look upon love as a blind 
irrefiilable deity, whofe darts fly at random, and admit 
neither defence nor cure, Vi. 205. [vii. 205]. 

Young women (hoald condefcend to be happy in fuch. a 
way as luits their mortal ftate, ihid. 

Liking is often miftaken for love. When indulged, 
it frequendy leads the inconliderate mind into the laby- 
rinths of that paiiion, and lays even a young creature, 
mt unworthy, under a neceffity of combaung all her 
life with a chimera of her own creadng, vi. 206. [vii. 

A young woman may poflibly meet with peribns more 
flccomplifhed in Tome points, than her deftined hufband : 
But, if (he be prudent, fhe wilt- not fuifer her eye to 
lead her into mifery, when an additional tie of duty for- 
bids its wandering, ibid. 

The duty of a reafonable and modefl young woman, 
were (he even without parents and friends, forbids Fancy 
to be her guide, as much as the facred engagement of 
marriage roibids it to be her tormenter, vi. 207. [vii. 

Young women ought to take their rules from pla/a 
common fenfe; and not from poetical refinements, ibid. 

Gratitude, with a generous mind, will fupply the 
place of love, vi. 219. [vi. 21c]. 

The exertion of that benevolence* which a good 
woman cannot but (hew to a worthy mind, will make 
an obliging man happy in marriage, tho' vehement love 
on her tide was not at £ril in the queftion, ibid. 

If the fecond man be worthy, a woman may be happy, 
who has not been indulged in her firfl fancy [Hence the 
faying, fo much decry *d by heroic girls. Marry, love will 
follow] vi. 225. [vii. 225]. 

Sge Advice t9 IVomen. Delicacy. Daughters. Fe- 
malities. Female D/grriVy. Girls. Love. Lover. 
Firft Love. Love at frft Sight, Clandefiim Mar- 
riages. Modefly. Single Women. Vincibility 
cf Lave* 


the Hiftory of Sir Ch, Grandison. 263 
Fafhion. Drefs, Novelty. 

Even goodnefs, when it condefccnds not to comply 
Wich the innocent faihions of the times, will fit ungrace- . 
fully upon a man, iii. 353. [iv. 139]. 

When the novelty of any change of condition is over, 
the principal pleafure is over, and other novelties ars 
hunted after to keep the pool of life from ftagnating, 
iv. 85. [257], 

Public appearances, whether at court or church, on a 
marriage. Lady G. /ays, are a compliment made to fine 
cloaths and jewels, at the expence of modefly, Hid. 

Faihion, tho' called decorum, has often beat modefty 
out of the houfe, ibid, 

. In the article of perfonal appearance, propriety and 
degree, as well as Fafhion, fhould be confuited, v.' 203* 
[vi. 181]. 

Singularity is ufually an indication of fomething wrong 
in judgment, i^d. 

See Good Man. Good f^t/e. Modefty. Prudence. 
Politenefs. Public Places. The World. 

Female Dignity. 

How can men expe£l that delicacy from the fex, 
which is their ornament and diftindion, if they hold 
women cheap, and treat them with indignity? ii. 317. 
[iii. 613. 

A generous man, for the honour of the fex, will be 
concerned, if he is in fuch a fltuation, as obliges him to 
decline propofals made to him l)y the friends of a lady, 
who honours him with her efteem, ibid. 

Ladies who fpeak favourably of a man in his ab- 
fence, who forms not pretenfions upon them, would, per- 
haps, fbon convince that man of his midake,. were his 
prefumption to rife upon their declared good opinion of 
Aim, ii. 319. [iii. 63]. 

The woman who declares her love of a good man, to 
proper perfons becaufe of his goodnefs, does more ho- 
nour to her own fex» than to the other, ibid, X 

The man who is not a friend to the fex in general, 
muft [be unworthy of a good mother, and good Metis, 


and] have fallen into bad company ; nor deferves to 
have been'favoured with better, ii. 321. [iii. 65]. 

Let not the want of cultivation of the inteileds of 
women, induce a man of letters to hold the (ex cheap^ 
iii. 44. [204]. 

The cftttfe of virtue and the (ex can haidly be fepa- 
iated> ibid. 

It is a grateful thing to all women to have a man in 
love, whether with themfelves or not [becaufe a man by 
it, recognizes the dignity and power of the fexj iii. 69. 

Politeners, as well as gratitude, will ever prompt a 
generous man to acknowLege a woman's favour to him, 
as a condefcenfion, iii. 100. [260]. 

Female Delicacy expe^ks to be argued with, courted, 
perfiiaded, iv. 504. [v. 175]. 

A woman, tho' ihe happens to be inferior in birth 
iand fortune to the man who addrefles her, ihould retain 
a Dignity that (hall fet her above either infuk or con- 
tempt, iv. 393. [v. 264]. 

The young woman whofe duty and inclination were 
never divided, will dignify the choice of a man of the 
higheil fortune and ment, v. 70, 71. [vi. 48, 49]. 

what a princeft, in the eye of aU her friends, will 
the declared love of a polite and good man, make a 
deiierving young woman >-How will his aflPedion for her 
augment her confequence with every-body ! v. 137. 

, Sh h^y^ttoWofiun. Courtfhip. Education. Ge- 
nerofity. Good Man. Modefty. Singh Wo- 


Woiixii who have feveral lovers (like women in a 
oercer's fliop, dtftradled with, the variety of his rich 
wares) often choofe the worft, and rejeA the beft, i. 30. 

Fcanale pride, like love^ tho' hid under a barrel, will 
fikme out of the bung (Mr. Seihy) i. 31. [thid"]. 

The love of admiration fMfallows up the hearts and 

Ibols ol women (JMr. Siliy) iUd* 


tbeHiJiofyofSirCH.GRAUDnov. 165 

There are points in which all women agree, and make 
a common caufe of them, i. 32,- [ibid"]. 

It is a fign, fays Sir Ro^dand Meredith, when women 
are clefirous to conceal their age, that they think they 
fhall be good for nothing, when in years, i. 46. \jhid\ 

Women can do no lefs than reward a man by their 
fmiles, who makes himfelf a monkey to divert them, 
i. 58. \ihid\ 

Women's eyes frequently run away with their under- 
ftandings, i, 255. \ihid\ 

Marriage, like Aaron's rod, often fwallows up female 
friendOiip, ibid. 

The fault of the women, in the prefent age, is, that 
they will hardly flay till they arc aflced ; yet confider not, 
that men value nothing highly, bat what they obtain 
with difficulty, i. 265. \}btd\ 

It is an eafy thing to alarm a woman on the iide of 
her vanity, i. 266. \ibtd\ 

Women and painters make vifitors who admire them, 
welcome, ibid. 

Women .are fo much in love with compliments, that 
rather than want them, they will compliment one another, 
yet mean no more by it, than the men do, i. 268. 

Love fecrets arc generally the cement of female friend- 
fhips, ibid* 

i'he De'viPs at home, a phrafe that feems to be verified 
by the pra^ice of the modern women, i. 270. [ibid'], 

A woman cannot be guilty of a meaner pride, than that 
of feeing a number of men in her train, i. 301 . [ibid}. 

The man, fays Sir Thomas Grandifonj who argues with 
a woman on points in which nature, and not reafon, is 
concerned, mull follow her through a thoufand windings, 
yet at lall be beat out of the courfe, ii. 69, 70. 75, 76. 
[170, 171. 176, 177]. . . 

Folly in women, fays the fame gentleman^ is a native 
of the foil : a very little watering wi^l make it fprout, 
and choak the noble flowers which education has plant- 
ed, ii. 71. [172]. 

I never in my life, fays he, knew a woman jvho was 
wife by the experience of others, ibid. 

N The 

266 Sentiments, &c. extraSled from 

The blind God, adds be^ often fets women on a pacc- 
ing bead : they amble, prance, parade upon it, ttU 
the r heads turn round ; and then they gallop over hedge 
and ditch ; leap fences ; and duty, decency, and difcte- 
tion arc trodden tinder foot, ii. 75. [176]. 

Matrimony and liberty, is a girlifh connexion, ii. 1 70. 


Giddy women feldom doubt a man, who doubts not 

himfelf, [tho' they fhould tlie more fufped him for hit 
audacity] ii. 171. [272]. 

The man who knows how to fay agreeable things to 
a woman, has her vanity on his fide ; iince to doubt 
his veracity, would be to quedion her own merit, ihid. 

Women, where love and their own happinefs inter- 
fere, are the moil incompetent judges of all others, 
ii. 182. [283]. 

What muft be the woman who mukjes contrivances 
neceffary to induce her to do a right, a kind, an oblige- 
iog thing ? ii. 390. [iii. 134]. 

A woman who hopes to encreafe her confequence, by 
appearing indiiFerent to the addreflcs of a man fhe likes, 
deals with him as common buyers and fellers do wick 
petty chapmen, ii. 392. [iii. 136]. 

Women, by pcrfeverance, may out-teaze, if the/ 
cannot out-argue, the wifeft man, ii. 407. [iii. 151]. 

The Female eye expedls to be gratified : whence men 
of appearance often fucceed, when men of merit fail, 
iii. 4. [164]. 

Women, by their little afFeAations in their love-affairs, 
frequently gratify their own pundlilio only : to a pene^ 
trating eye they difcover by them, what they wilh to 
conceal, iii. iz. [172]. 

Where is the fenfe of a woman's parading with a wor- 
thy man, of whofe affe^ion fhe has no realon to doubt, 
and whofe vifits (he allows? iii. 72. [232]. 

Mlifjo/nen, f<om the grandmother to the grand-daugb- 

ter, giv^'ig /h^ fortes of their* lov.s^ ^ff'^ ^« 

ba^ve it thought they <u:ere yery difficult to be ijuoa, 

ivhether they ijoerefo^ or not. 

Some women ad by their lovers, a^ if they thought 

coynefs and modefly the faixxc thing, iii. 72. £232]. 


Sb^ Hijioryof Sir Ch. Grandison. 267 

Others, as if they were fenfible, that if they were 
' BOt infolent, they muft drop into the arms of a lov^r 
on his firfl queftion, iii. 72. [232]. 

Handfome men may attach giddy women^ without 
faying a fingle word, iii. 125. [285]. 

Women do not often fall in love with philofophers, 
iii. 126. [286]. 

An humourfome woman is not always fo much to be; 
blamed as her mother, iii. 237. [iy. 25]. 

Women, whether in courtihip or not, diilike not vi- 
Vacicy in a man, iii. 243. [iv. 29]. 

Some of them will be better pleafed with an innocent 
freedom, than with profound refpe£l, ibid. 

Angry women are formidable only to thofeVho ar& 
afraid of their anger, or who make it a ferious thing, 

A man of dbmmon penetration may eafily fee to the 
bottom of a woman's heart ; a cunning woman cannot 
hide it ; a good woman will not : the difficulty lies in 
her not knovving her own mind,, iii. 246. [iv. 32]. 

Women, defigned to be dependent, as well as meek 
creatures, when left to their own wills, often know not 
what to refolve upon, ibid, . 

Women are fo ufed to courtfhip, that they know not 
h:w tp do right things without it-rNor always with it, 
iii. 247. [iv. 33] 

W hat a tormentrefs can that woman be, who can vex. 
ahufhand,yet keep her own temper ! iii. 316. [iv. 102]. 

Women love not to h^ prefcribed to, even in the points 
to which they are not naturally averfe, iv. 83. [2c 5]. 

And for this very reafon, /ays Lady G. — Becaule it be- 
comes them to fubmit to prefcription, ibid. 

I believe, addsjln^ if my good man wilhed me to ftay 
at home, I (liould torture my brain, as other good wivea 
do. for inventions to go abroad, ibid. 

The fex, fays Signorjeronyfuo^ never know their minds, 
but when they meet with obAacles to their wills, iv. 282. 

[v. 153]- 

Our fex, fa^s Lady G. is a foolifli fex — Too little or 

too much parade : Yet were it not, that we mud be 

afraid to appear forward to the man himfelf, we fhould 

N 2 " tr^at 


268 Sentiments, &c. tpetrailed from 

treat the Opinion of the w^dd with contempt, y. 114, 
115. [vi. 92, 93]. 

Women who aim at oirer-delieacy, and are iblicitoas 
to take their meafures from the judgment of thofe with- 
out them, generally behave like (impletons {Lady G.) v. 
115. [vi. 93]. 

Pragmatical fouU, adds fie, form their notions of what 
ought to be a mwi's behaviour in courtihip, either on 
what they have read, or by the addtefi'es to themfelvis 
of Tome favoui-ite filly fellow, who, perhaps, was equally 
auk ward and unmeaning [tho' in a weak hour he appear- 
ed to them the flower of courtefy] ibid. 

Wife or foolilh before, we are all equally fooliih when , 
in love, fays the fame lady ; the fame fro ward, , petulant, 
captious babies, occafionally \ and did not the fame idle 
pafiion make men as great fools as ourfelvesj they would 
hardly think us worthy of their parfuit, v, 116. [vi. 94]. 

We women, fays Lady G. muft have fomething to find 
fault with in a good man, v. 118. [vi. 96]. 

Women generally like not a man the lefs for finding 
fomething to mend in him, v. 147 [vi. 125J. 

Women, Mr, Selby fays, are but, the apes of one 
another, v. 165. [vi. 143]. 

There is a time in every woman's life, in which the 
eye, rather than the judgment, is the director of her 
heart, v. 178. [vi. 156]. 

We women, fays Lady G, are afraid of a wife man. 
No wonder therefore that we fcldom choofe one, when 
a fool offers, v. 183. [vi. 161]. 

Nor is, <idds fie, a piudent man a favourite with us 
[whence, fo many unhappy marriages] v, 184. [vi. 162]. 

For, the man who is prudent, or but fufpeftcd to be 
fo, in love, is guilty of an heterodoxy in the ^yts of 
women. .[The very word and thing called prudence, is 
excluded from the female notion of love] v. 186. £vi. 


We women, fays Lady G. are foolifh creatures in our 
love affairs, and know not what is befl for -oiirrelyes, 
i id, 

A 1 women, more or lefs [perhaps from the brilliancy 
0/ tueir imaginations] are romancefs, ibid. 


A)e Hiftory of Sir Ch. Grandison. 269 

young women, [every one loving to raife a duft, to 
fhew her iignificance]'are apt to look upon a ilate of 
tranquillity as a (lace of iniipidity, ibid^ 

Women love power ; yet feldom know how to make 
a right ufe of it, v. 201. [vi. 179!. , 

Women fometimes, by their very referves, betray 
their expe«5iations, v. 297. [vi. 275]. 

A proud woman flipuld be, aboye owing obligation 
to her man for^ bearing with her foibles, v. 307. [vi. 

You, maidcjis, fays Lady G. (in the ^wantonnefs of 
her wkvacity) are generally poor, proud, pragmatical 
mortals : yon profefs ignorance, but in heart imagine, 
you are at the tip-top of your wifdom., v. 308. [vi, 286] . 

True female refignation lies only in words, v. 309. 
[vi. 287]. 

The firft vice of the- firft woman was curiofity, and k 
runs through the whole fex, v. 317. [vi. 2^5]. 

Women, whether weakly or robuft, are hardly ever 
tired with dancing on Joyful occafions. On fuch they 
will tire the men j fome few of thofe excepted, who 
like themfelVes, are brought up to be idle and ufelel's, 
(Lady G.) V. 368. [vi. 346]. 

A petoLcnt woman is always increafing the number of 
her obligations ta thofe who hear with her, vi. 56. 
[vii. 56]. 

When a woman'^s eye lead? her choree, imagination 
can eafily add all good qualities to the plauftble appear- 
ance, vi. 201. [vii. 201]. 

Oppofitipn, or refiftance, is the foul, the effence, of 
all forts of herpifm, vi. 215-. [vii. 215]. 

The wgrds coftftancy and per^verf^nefi are oft^ fyno^y- 
mous terms, when ufed of girls in love, ibid. 

The parents aiid guardians of (bipe young women,. 
if they would fucceed in their wifhes in a young man's^ 
favour, will find it their fureft way, to quarrel with him, 
and forbid him their houfe, vi. 216. [vii. 216],. 

See Advice to Women, Daughters. Fancy. Girl.. 
ijirftZo«v^. \jOs^ at fir ft Sight. Modefty. Single 
Women* Vice^ Vanity. Widows, Wit. 

N 3 Fencingp 

270 Sentiments, &c. extracted from 


Young men in their warm blood, often feem to think 
they have in vain learned to fence, if they never ihew 
their fkill in a duel, (Mr. Locke) i. 370. [ii. 55]. 

It muil be remembred that Fencing is called the fcience 
«f defence ; not of offence, ibid. 

A dexterity at the weapons is likely to lead young 
•gentlemen into low company, Hi J, 

iS.f Challenges. Duelling. Magnanimity. 

Filial Piety. 

A GOOD man will, in all he may, do credit to his 
father's memory, v. 203. [vi. 181]. 

And will rather choofe to build upon, than demolifh, 
his father's foundations, v., 203. vi. 21. 23. [vi. 181. 
vii. 2t. 23], 

The lofs of a father, where a great eftate is to defcend 
to the fon, is the tell cither of a noble or ignoble heart, 
v. 242. [vi. 220]. 

See Good Man. Parents and Children. Youth. 

Fx A T T E R IT, See Compliments. 

Forced Mari^iages« See Perfuafion. 


That pcrfon makes another great, into whofc power 
he puts forgivenefs of an injury, vi, 251. [vii. 251]. 

Let all my revenge, fays the excellent Clementina^ 
/peaking of her barbarous Coufin Laurana^ be in her 
compundlion from my forgivenefs, and from my known 
viihes to promote her welfare, vi. 251. [vii. 251]. 
See Generofity. Magnanimity. 

Fortitude. See Magnanimity. 

Fortune Hunters. See Clandefim Maxrizges. 

Franknefs of Heart. Rcferve, . 

THE godlike man has nothing to conceal^ i. 41 3. [ii. 98 J. 
Franknefs of Heart is a criterion of innocence and 
goodnefs, ii. 149. [250]. 


, the Hiftory of Sir Ch. Gr ANorsow. sf 7 1 

Why (hoald young ladles be afhamed to own a love 
. for a worthy object, when proper perfons, for motives- 
not ungenerous, make enquiries ? ii. ic6. [257], 

Franknefs of Heart demands equal frankne4, iii. 4C^» 
64. [141. 165]. 

That may be an affedation in one companyyth:atmay 
be but a neceffary referve in another, iii. 42. [143]. 

The men are their own enemies, fays Mifs Byrofty if 
they wifh women to be open-hearted and fincere, and 
are not fo themfelves, v. 198, 199. [vi. 176, 177]. 

The women are inexculablc who play either the co- 
quet or prude with a man of unquellionable integrity,. 

See Advice to Womett^ AfFedlation. Concealment. 
Love.^ Lover. Ingenuoufnefs. yi^n and Women ^ 
Modefty. Single IVometi. 

Frlendfhip. Friend,^ 

Friendship and- Referve are incompatible, i^. 25a. 

Confidence engages confidence, i. 260. [/3/W]. 

Kindred minds will find out and aHimilate with each- 
other, i. 300. \ibid\ 

The tcndernefs (hewn to us by friends who-woujd keep 
from us the full knowlege of an unhappy event, wheti 
we fufpe^ all is not as we wi{h, is often as painful to* 
us, as would be the moil exphcit communication, i. 338* 
[ii. 23]. 

[Our imaginations are hereby fet at work, and more- 
over] the ftrength of mind and difcretion fuppofed iiu 
the concealer, and tHe weaknefs in that of the perfon 
concealed from, fometimes, carries with it an appearance- 
of infult, ibid. 

The perfon wh6 is confulted for his advice, (houl 
have no retrofpedlion to hirafelf, that might in the lea 
affedl the confulter, i. 359. [ii. 44]. 

Love may be felfifh ; but Friendfhip [that dcferves* 
the name] cannot, ii. 60. [161]. 

The man who conliders himfelf as the firft perfon in- 
a Friendfhip, in cafes that may hurt the other, fhould 

N 4 ' be 

272 Sentiments, &c. extra&ed from 

be reminded, that he judges as meaiily of the under- 
flanding as of the juftice of that other, ii. 131., [232]. 

No motive of Friendlhip can juftify a wrong adioo, 
ii. 265. [iii. 9]. 

Thofe who have a claim upon us for our Friendfhtp, 
ihould not be called other people, ii. 27^. [iii. 15]. 

Friendlhip is the balm and feafoning of life, ii. 318. 
[iii. 62]. 

A man who is capable of Friendftiip, in the true 
meaning of the word, cannot be defective in any of the 
fecial duties, ibid. 

No Friendfliip can be held with a man, who, alking^ 
advice, is angry with his friend for fpeaking his mind, 
ii. 325. [iii. 69]. 

We may love a Friend with all his faults ; but (hould 
r.ot be blind to them, iii. 5. [165]. 

Friendlhip ought not to byas againft juftice, however 
dear to us may be the one party, however indifferent to 
us the other, iii. 6. [166]. 

' Fiiendfhip cannot be kept with a young man, wh6 i^ 
under the dominion of difTolute companions, and will not 
allow of remonCtrances in cafes that concern his morals, 
iii. 48. [208]. . 

\Vhat a folitarinefs, what a gloom, what a darknefs, 
mud pofTefs the mind that can trufl no friend with its 
inmoil thoughts ! iii. 8f. [241]. 

The eflence of Friendlhip is communication, mingling 
of hearts, and emptying our very foul into that of a 
true friend, ibid. 

People of condition have more flatterers than friends 
about them, iii. 82. [242]. 

The Friendlhip of a good man is a credit to every 
one whom he honours with it, iii. 235. [iv. 21]. 

Difinterefted Friendlhip is the bafis of true love, iii. 
275. [iv. 65]. ^ 

The word /r/VW ought not to be polluted by affixing ideas 
to it, that cannot be connefted with it, iii. 312. [iv. 98]. 

True Friendlhip is a delicate union of like minds, 
that evalts the human nature, ibid, 

Ticre may be love, which, though it has no view 
but to honour, yet even in wedlock ripens not into Friend- 
lhip, ibid. An 

fhe^Hifimy cfSirQu. GvcAmm^otf. 273 

An open and generous heart will not permit a c]6u<i- 
to hang long upon the brow of a Friend, without en- 
quiring into the reafon of it, in hopes to be abi&to dif- 
pel it, iv. 155. [v, 26]. 

, An abatement in the freedom of a Friend, is a charge 
of unworthinefs upon one^s felf^ and ought to be obf 
viated the moment it is obferved, ibid. 

True. Friend (hip being difinterefted, and more intel- 
ledlual than Love, is nobler than that deified pafiton^- 

IV. ZQ%. [v. 74.]. 

That Friendfhip is only preteniion which, on proper 
(calls,, exerts not itf&lf in a£lion, iv..2X2. [v. 83]. 

A prudent man, when he lends his alTiilance to his 
idiftr^ifed Friend, aims only at practicable and legal, not 
zoraantic, redrefs, v. i l. [282]. 

The Friendlhip of a good man makes life deiirable,. 
x. 29, [vi. 7]- 

A generous man knows not felfy when )ui]lice, and thr 
fervice of his Friend, ftand in oppoiition to it, ibid. 

A worthy and modefl man will be thankful for ad^- 
vice ; and will be ready to doubt the love of the Friend,, 
who gives hijn caufe to queilion his friendly freedom^ 
With him, vi 80. [vii. 80]. 

Friendfhip will, at pleafure, make a fafe bridge over 
ieas ; it will cut an eafy paflkge tkro' rocks and moun« 
tains; and join together diftant countries, vi. 287. [vii. 

Kindred fouls are always near, ibid. 

$£( Duties Moral aed Religious • Good Man. Ingq-^ 
nuoufnefs. Love« Magnanimity. Modefty.- Pro*- 


Gaming. Gamefters. , 

.Who, but a man's felf ought to fuffier by his own- 
rafhnefs or inconfideration ? iv. 196. [v. 6j], 

Succefsful Gamefters, who, before they play'd, were 

poiTefTed of fortunes which would haye enabled them 

to anfwer the flakes they play'd for, had they been 

lofisrs, hav9 fome plea to make to the lof^r, ibid. 

If the lofer wov4d bav^ ^x.46led p^yn^m frooii tbsem^ 

N 5 had 

274 Sentiments, tec. extralled from 

had he been a winner, he ought not to complain if they 
ar^ rigorous to him, iv. 196. [v. 67]. 

The man who calls in the laws of his country to his 
aid, when be has been a lofer, will have this benefit, 
that he can never again be Teen in the fame company, 

A man diftrefTed by Gaming, ought to take care that 
he becomes not himfelf one of the very men he has fo 
much reafon to wiih he had avoided, iliti. 

And that he permit not creditors from valuable con- 
federations to fufFer by him, ibid. 

What honed man would not rather be the fufferer, 
than the defrauder ? ihiJ, 

What a diabolical nature muft that man have, who, 
having been ruined himfelf, will endeavour to draw, in 
cvcher men to their ruin ? ihid. 

A juft man will divefl himfelf of his whole fortune^ 
if necefTary, for the fatisfafiion. of his creditors, and 
live within the pittance their generofity will allot him for 
fubfiftence, iv. 197. [v. 68], 

And this not only for juftice fake ; but, were his dif- 
ficulties owing to his own inconfideration, as a puniih- 
ment for it, i6id. 

To what pity can a man pretend who will put to hazard 
a certainty, in hope of obtaining a fh are in the property 
of others ? ihid. 

Strange ! that a man fiiould be fo infatuated, as to 
put on the call of a die, the eftate of which he is in un- 
^ueftioned pofleffion from his anceftors ! iv. 398. [v^ 

Yet who will fay, that he who hopes to win what be- 
longs to another, does not deferve to lofe his own? 

A lofer at pky will have the lefs realbn for regretting 
theunhappy fituation to which he has reduced himftl^ 
if his lofles bring him to a right fenfe of his folly, iv. 
399. [v. 270]. 

General Oblervations. 

A N unworthy roan promoted, runs away with the re- 
ward due to the wocthy, i. 24%. [^/V]. 


the Hijiory of Sir Ch. Grandison. 275^ 

By the foftnefs or harfiinefs of the voice, fome judg- 
ment may be made of the heart and manners of a wo* 
man, /ays Sir Rtywland Meredith , i. 43. [ihid^. 

There are many bad wives, wlio would have been' 
good ones, had they not married to their diflike^ i; 101 . 

Good beginnings are neceflary to good progreffes, and- 
to happy conclufions, i. 102. [ibid']. 

The love of two worthy people for each other, is a- 
a proof of the goodnefs of both their hearts, i. 108: 

Difgufb and affedions cannot alwaye be reafonably 
accounted for, i. 1 14. [ibid']. 

An honeft man muft appear in every Ifght with fucli' 
advantages, as will make even iingularicy agreeable',. 
i^ 121. [ibid']. 

Bad habits are fooner acquired, than fhaken ofi>. 
i. irj. [ibid]. 

How many things muft a man do in an exigence, who* 
knows not what is right to be done ! i. 174. [ibid], 

Perfons who are ready to apologize for themfelves 
before they are accufed,. are to be fufpeded, i. 2C4.- 

What ftraws do we catch at, to lave our drowning ; 
hopes of the recovery of a dying friend, while life Con- 
tinues, i. 233, [ibid]i 

Singularity is a fault to which great minds are too* 
often fubjeft, i. 322. [ii. 7]. 

Thofe who have leaft to do, are generally the bufieft-^ 
people in the world, i. 345. [ii. 30]. 

A man (hould always miilruft himfelf, wh^en inclina* 
tion is ftrong, i. 417. [ii. 102]. 

Alarming fpirits love not to be alarmed^ ii; 7. [108]. 

Subjects may go o^ happily in converfation, which ^ 
will not bear recital, ii. 13. [114].. 

The wives and daughters of citizens, too • generally, . 
are the apes of the. gentry,. ii.. 5 8.. [159]. 

There would be no fupporting life, were we to feel 
quite as poignantly for oibeVs, as we do for ourfelves,, 
11.63. [164 J. 

N 6 Boillfous. 

a;6 Sentiments, &c. isstfa^ed from 

Boiflrous {pirits, whether fathers, hufhands, [or mafters] 
are generally moft obferved, ii. 80. [181]. 

Perfons of eminent abilities feldom err in fmall points, 
ii. 217. [318]. 

The merchants of Great Britain are the moft ufefbl 
members of the commonwealth, ii. 242. [343}. 

One weakness, [as one crime] is frequently the pa* 
rent of another, ii. 333. [lii. 77]. 

Thofe^men who are the readieft to give offence, are 
generally, when broaeht to the teft, the moft unfit to 
lupport their own infolence, ii. 354. [iii. 98]. 

The epithets, fretty^ youngs little^ are great fofteners 
of har(h words, ii. 380. [iii. 124]. 

Whifpers in converfation are no. more to be hetb-d 
than afides in a play, ii. 396. [iii 140]. 

Diiingenuous perfons do ra(h things, and tiy to find 
an excufe for them afterwards, iii. 222. [iv. &J. 
Fear will make cowards loving, iii. 330. [iv. 1 16}. 
A difappointed lover does not eafify fix again, iii. 
342. [iv. 128]. 

Different means may be taken to arrive at the fame 
end, iii. 348. [iv. 134]. 

Great fortunes are great fnares, iii. 384. [iv. i6o]. 
The man who builds a merit on his civility, (hews, 
tha^it is not natural to him, iv. 51 . [223]. 

When we have^taken a liking to any perfon, we are 
very folicitous that he fhould think equally well of us, 
iv. 53. [225]. 

It is no Ixid fign in a faulty perfoii, to retain a reve- 
rence for the good, iv. 57. [229]. 

It is generally the way of thbfe who intend not to 
amend, to fet their, hearts againft their admonifliers, 
iv. 175. [v. 46]. 

It often happens, that the man who was once noft 
likely to be happy in a near alliance with a refpedable 
family, is, on the fruftrating of his hope, looked upon, 
and f r that reafon, as the moft remote from its friendly 
love, iv. 338. [v. 209]. 

We are often punifhed by the grant of oor owa 
wiihes, V. 5. [276J. 
There are circumftances in which we think our be- 

tbfHiftoryefStrCn.GKAVDnorfi. tyy 

Txaviour was not right, yet know aot in what it waa 
wrong, V. 86. [vi. 64]. 

Good-natured men will often concede> when they are ' 
not cQnvinced, v. 107. [vi. 85]. 

The mind can be but full. It will be as much filled 
with a fmall difagrecable occurrence, having no other, 
as wich a large one, v. 312. [vi. 290]. 

The Englilh populace, are honeft, good-natured, wor- 
thy; and fhew themfelves to be fo, when perfons of 
good charadler attraft their admiration by a public ap. 
pearance on any folemn occafion [or engage their pity 
by an undeferved diftrefs] v. 348. [vi. 326]. 

We know not prefently, how to frame our lips to. 
new names, or new titles, v. 363, [vi. 341]. 

Bafhful people are always incrcafing their own diffi^ 
culties, V. 371. [vi. 343]. 

It is much eafier to find fa«lt with others, than to be^ 
faultlefs ourfelves, Hid. 

The refpedfbl Or flighting behaviour of poor neigh- 
bours, as a man of condition paiTe? by them, will give 
the general charader of fuch a one, vi. 43. [vii. 43J. 

The impending evil is always the mod dreaded, tho* 
the avoiding of that, frequently leads to a much worfe 
vi. 99. [vii. 99]. 

An eafy heart will give a very different appearance to 
profpedls, which from an uneafy one, ktm dark and 
cloudy, vi. 134. [vii. 134]. 

In alm9ft ^^cry thing, we ad but upon general pro- 
babilities. One exception out of a thoufand, ought 
never to determine us, vi. 207. [vii. 207]. 

Very few of us, poor mortals, know what is bcft for 
ourfelves, vi. 232. [vii. 232]. 

See Mi/cellaneous Obfervations. 

Generofity. Over-Generofity. 

What a confcioufnefs of inferiority fills a generous 
mind, when it labours under the fenfe q^ obligations it 
cannot return ! i. 287. \ihi(f\, 

A generous man will not wiih for the power of cir- 
cumfcribing a generous mind, ii. 122. [223]. 

Prudence is the meafure of Geilero£ty, iSui^ 

» A 

278 Sentimtnts, &c. exfraHed from 

A man cannot be generous if he be not jaft, il. 130. 

A generous man will delight in giving pleafure to 

others ; but it ought not to be expe^ed in inftance», that 

would give pain to himfelf, ii. 281. [iii, 25]. 

A generous fpirit will not infult the fallen, or dif- 
graced, however faulty they may have been, ii..338. 
[iii. 82]. 

Free minds bear not to be ungeneroufly dealt with^ 
ii. 345, [iu. 89]. 

Generoiity (which is an higher grace than even juftice) 
will not confine itfelf to obligations either written or ver-^ 
bal, iii. 43. [203]. 

True Generofity has no mixture of pride or infolence- 
in it, iii. 249. [iv. 35]. 

Were policy only to be confulted, a charader for Ge-^ 
nerofity and.Goodnefs is worth obtaining, iii. 328. iv. 
227. [ivv 114. v. 98]. 

A generous man values riches principally as they en- 
able him to lay an obligation, and exempt him from the 
neceffity of receiving one, iii. 348. [iv. 134]. 

A generous mind will be as ready to confer as to re* 
ccive a benefit, iv. 41. [213]. 

A difinterefted and generous man is born a ruler, iv: 
227. [v. 98]. 

How imperfedt will a fine-fjpirited man think that 
happinefs, which he cannot enjoy without giving pain- 
to another! iv, 259. v. 63. [v. 130. vi. 41 J. 

A generous mind will be pained to receive prefents^ 
which it knows not how either to deferve or return^ 
iv. 397. {v.. 268]. 

A generous man will rememberj that he-has two hand» 
to one tongue : he will ufe the latter to declare that 
both the former are at the fervice of a friend in diilrefs, 
iv. 399. [v. 270]. 

Princes are not above afl&ing money of^ their people, 
as free-gifts, on the marriage of their children, v. 72^ 
fvi. 50]. 

He that would a£l more greatly than a prince, may, be- 
fore he is aware, be lefs than a gentleman, v. 73. [vi. 51].- 

A maadifpofed to a6t nobly, and to facxifice his own 


the Hiftory of Sir Ch. Gr andisom, 2 79 

intereft, on particular occafionsy will meet with generous 
reflraint from a man of fpirit, v. 73. [vi. 51 J. 

A generous man will ba thought a weak man, if he 
fubmit to impofition, v. 173. [vi. 151]. 

A generous man, on being preferred by a lady who 
has feveral lovers, will not forbear pitying thofe whofe 
difappointment is owing to his happinefs, v. 299. vi. 
5. [vi. 277. vii. 5]. 

The lady, on fuch an occafion, muft, if worthy- 
minded, find a gentle figh arife in her bofom, whether 
ihe fees the lovers ihe has refufed, at ufual places, or if 
they forbear to come, where they were acctUlomed to 
fee or meet her, /^/V. 

A generous mind will not accept of all that is offered 
by a generous mind, vi. 33. 78. [vii. 33. 78]. 

A generous mind may be led into error ; but when it 
knows it to be error, it will not continue in it, vi. 25 2« 
[vii. 252]. 

^^« Beneficence. Good Man. Gratitude. Mag:* 
nanimity. Modefty. 


Girls, who among themfelves have anew Cet of 
company to talk over, and when a new admirer is on« 
of them, are not apt to break oiF converiation abruptly, 
i. 55-,[/^/^]. 

A very young wife often makes a vapouri^ mother^. 
ii. 48. [149]. 

Girls ought not to marry before they have done grow* 
ing, /^/V. 

An early bloom ia girls is not to be wifhed,for, ii. 300. 
[iii. 44]. 

There is as much difference in Girls as in fruits, witlv 
regard to their maturing, /^/V. 

When Girls begin to look out for admirers, their, 
friends had belter be aforehand with them, if poffible, 
than to leave them ta purvey for themfelves, iv. 56. 

To give a Girl confequence with herfe!f, and to feem 
to repofe a confidence in her difcretion, is often a pro* 
per waj to make her a6t.difcretely, iM.. 


28o Sentimeitts, &c. intra ffei from 

Parents Jhould not too long treat as Girlsf thofe daugb* 
ters 'who ha*ve found out that they art nvonu»y and 
rwho are treated as fucb hy others. 

LadyG, thus fets forth the beginning and progrefs of loaf e, 
in Girls ; 

Youn^G'irht fays fie, finding themfelves vefted with 
JDCW powers, and a fet of new inclinations, tarn their 
ftaring eyes out of themfelves, v. 184. [vi. 162]. 

They imagine that they muft receive as a lover the 
firft fingle man that fimpers at them, ibid. 

Then they return downcaft for ogle, that he may ogle 
en without interruption, ibid* 

They are foon brought to anfwer letters which con. 
fcik flames the writer's heart never knew, ibid. 

The Girl doubts not either her gifts or her confe- 
quence : She is more and more beautiful in her own 
eyes, as be more and more flatters her, ibid. 

Or if Jhe does doubt of her owon perfeBions bting fg 
high- at he feems ta think them^ Jbs queJHons not his 
fincerityy and Jhe has heard a thoufand inflames of 
the mighty po^er cf lo<ve^ transforming plainnefs 
into beauty, in the eye of a Iq^er. 

If her parents are ^-verfe, the Girl is per-verCs ; and 
the more, the lefs difcretion there is in her paflion, ibid. 

She adopts the word confttmcy : She declaims againft 
perfecution : She calls her idle flame love, which only 
was a fomething ihe knew not what to make of, a cu- 
pidity, that, like a wandering bee, had it not iettled on 
this flower, would on the next, whether bitter or fixeet, 
V. 185. [vi. 163]. 

• Love, adds this li*vely lady, is a word very happily at 
hand, to help giddy creatures to talk with, and look 
withoo^ confufion of face on, a man, who, for the fake, 
perhaps, of her fortune only, tells her a^thoufand falfe-^ 
hoods, ibid. 

Love is a paflion that is generally confined to the days- 
of girlhood. Even Girls in loye would laugh at a wo- 
man who was violently flung with that paflion, after flic 
was turned of honeft thirty, or was at years of difcre^ 
tion, vi. 214. [vii. 214]. 

fbe Hiftory af Sir Ch. Gr an wson. 2 8,1 

. See the articles Daughters. Fancy. Love at firji 
Sight, FirJILove. C/andefiineMdix'i^ges, Mo- 
defty. Parents an^ Children. Signs 0/ Lp<ve. 
Single Women. Vincibility of Love. 

Glory. See Honour. 

Good. Goodnefs. 

There is a kind of magnetifm in Goodnefs : Bad 
people, indeed, will find out bad people to ailociate with, 
in order to keep one another in countenance ; but the/ 
are bound together by aropeof fand, ii. 321. [iii. 6^'], 

While truft, confidence, love, fympathy, by a reci- 
procation of beneficent offices, twifl a cord, which bind 
good men to one another, and. cannot eafily be broken, 

Goodnefs is effential to true happineft, ii. 369. [iii. 

Goodnefs and Greatnefs are fynonomous terms, iii. 7; 

C167]. • , 

Goodnefs is an uniform thing, and will alike influence 
every part of a man's condudl, iii. 4J. [203]. 

A good man will not value himself on his anceflry 
alone, iii. 106. [266]. 

Honour fliould be paid to men for better reafons, 
than either for their riches or nobility, iii. 107. [267]. 

A man cannot be good, if not uniformly fo> iv. 221. 
[v. 92]. 

The man who loves a young woman for the fake 
of her Goodnefs, gives diflindlion to himfelf, vi. 3, 

[vii. 3]- 

See Duties Moral and Religious. Good Man. Mo« 
defty. Prudence. 

Good Man. Mzn of Honour. HoneftMan. 

Honesty is good fenfe, politenefs, amiableiief»» 
all in one, i. 121. [/^iV]. 

A Man of Honour qualifies not in points of veracity, be 
the occafion either light or ferious, i. 183. [ihid^, 

A good man, tho' above fingularity, will be govern* 


282 Sentiments, &c. extraUedfrom 

ed hy the laws of reafon and coavenieacey rather thaja 
by the fafhion, i. 190. [2^/V]. 

Vice- is a coward when it knows it will be refolatel/ 
oppofed, i. 197. [ibid'\. 

What has a good man, unavoidably engaged in a right 
caufe, to fear? i. 198. [ibid"], 

Grandeifr of air, accompanied with eafe and freedom 
of manners, good breeding, acceilibility, are qualifica- 
tions in a man, that will attra^^ the general love and 
reverence, i. 255. \tbid1,. 

The good fenfe of a really fine gentleman, is not rufled 
over with fournefs or morofenefs, ibid. 

He is above quarrelling with the world for trifles, ibid. 

But flill more above making fuch compliances with it^ 
as would impeach either his honour or confcience, ibid 

He will live to himfelf, and to his own heart, and 
make the approbation of the world, matter but of fe- 
cond confideration with him, ibid. 

He will not be miflcd either by falfe glory, or falfe 
ihame, the great fnares of virtue, ibid. 

Men of truly great and brave fpirits, are generally 
humane, tender, merciful, i. 272. [ibid^. 

While men of bafe and low minds are ufu ally* tyran- 
nical, cruel, infolent, where they have power, ibid. 
* Deviations, which in common men will be deemed 
ilight, are not to be excufed in men of exemplary cha- 
Taders, i. 274. [ibid']. 

A good man will not be brought to difavow a right 
meafure, i. 290. [ibid], 

A man who refolves to pay a facred regard to laws 
divine and human, has no reafon to fear a wicked man, 
i. 344: [ii. 29]. 

A Man of Honour would not marry a princefs.did he not 
think {he preferred him to all other men, i. 259. [ii. 44]. 

A good man, where either truth or juHice is concern- 
,ed, will not palliate, i. 360. [ii. 45]. 

Occafion calls not out every man equally to an exer- 
tion of great and amiable qualities, ibid. 

The man who can fubdue his paffion, and forgive a 
real Injury, is a hero, i. 362. [ii. 47]. 

A wife man will nQtfeek danger : But when he cannot 


the Hiftoty of Sir Ch. Gr andisow. 283 

avoid it, he will confider the occafion as a call upon him 
for fortitude, i. 363. [ii. 48]. 

Intrepidity in danger irfometimes the means of extri- 
cating a man from it, i. 363, 364, 365. [ii. 48, 40, 50]. 

A man who i'^> not a timid man, has more realon than 
one who is, to "be afraid of being provoked by infult or 
affront, i. 377. [ii. 62]. 

A Good Man will honour him who lives up to his re- 
ligious profeiHon, whatever it be, ibid, 

A Good Man will not engage even in a national caafe, 
without examining the juftice of it, i. 372. [ii. 57]. 

Extraordinary merit has fome forfeitures to pay, ii. 3. 

To make his enemies his friends ; to put wicked men 
into a way of reformation ; and to make it a bad man's 
intereft to be good ; are happy incidents in the life of a 
worthy man, li. 4. [106]. 

Equivocation as little becomes the mouth of a worthy 
perfon, as a downright falfity that of a lefs worthy 
man, ii. 15. [i 16]. 

What a glory, as well in its inflaencesy as in itfelf» 
belongs to goodnefs, ii. 115. [216]. 

An honeft man fears not a fcrutiny into his condu£l, 
ii. 119. [2-20]. 

Superior excellence, like funfhine, brings to light thofe 
fpots and freckles in inferior worth, on comparifon, 
which were hardly before difcoverable, ii. 123. [224]. 

A Good Man will not ftoop to flatter any one ; and 
lead of all the great and the rich, ii. 123. [229]. 

It becomes a eood man, in fome cafes, to foften the 
fevcrity of his virtue, ii. 164. J265]. 
. A Good Man will have a large charity ; but will not 
extend it to credulity, ii. 212. [313]. 

A worthy man will allow a third perfon, when que- 
ftions arife, to fit in judgment upon his adions, ii. 213. 


Goodnefs muft love goodnefs, ii. 222. [323]. 

A Good Man will not fuffer the narrownefs of other 
people's hearts to contrail his own, ii. 232. [333]. 

A man who has made a right ufc of the power in- 
truded to him, is amply rewarded in the confcioufnefa 
of having fo done, ii. 242. [343]. A 

284 Sencitneot^, &c. extraSied from 

A worthy man will make it his ftudy, as far as his 
power reaches, to raife the hearts of fuch deferving per- 
.£bns» as inevitable calamities have made fpiritlefs, ii. 242^ 


A Good Man will look upon every acceifion of pov/er 

to do good, as a new trial of the integrity of his iieart, 

ii. 243. [344]. 

A Good Man will not be guilty of falfe modefty, 
which, breaking out into iingularity, would give the 
fufpicion of a wrong diredlion, in cafips where it may be 
of ufe to fuppofe a right one, ii. 267. [iii. 11]. 

A Good Man lives to his own heart. He thinks it 
not good manners to flight the world*s opinion ; tho' he 
will regard it only in the fecond place, ii. 268. [iii. 1 2]. 

A Man of fpirit and' goodncfs will not, by his com- 
plaifance, countenance the enormities of the great, ii. 28 1 . 
[iii. 25]. 

A Good Man will be ready, to do what is right, with- 
out being compelled to do it by law, ii, 287^ [iii. 51.] 

A truly beneficent man, having power, will aim at 
^ amending the hearts, as well as fortunes, of his friends 
and dependents, ii. 342. [iii. 88]. 

A benevolent man will not wifh to hold in his hands 
the power, tho' he were not to exert it, of diftrefling^ 
the heart of a worthy man whom he has obliged, and 
whofe honour he diilrufts not,^ii. 34,3. [iii. 89].. 

A Good Man mud have difEculties to encounter with,, 
by which a man of the world would not be embarrafied, 
ii. 346. [iii. 90]. 

How much more glorious a character is that of the 
friend of mankind, than that of the conqueror of na- 
tions I ii. 357. [iii. 10 1*]. 

The life of a ^ood man [however unfafliionable the 
dodlrine] is a cominual warfare with his paflionsy iii. 69. 


A Good Man, tho' he will value his own countrymeD, 
yet will thmk as highly of the worthy men of every na- 
tion under the fun, iii. 180. [340]. 

A Man of Honour will deem his good name his 
riches ; his integrity his grandeur ; princes to him are 
only princes as they ad^ iii« 181. [341]* ' 


the Htjiory <>f Sir Ch. Grandison. 285 

A good nfan, is a prince of the Almighty's creation, 
111.183. [343]. 

The publ.c has a luperior claim in the abilities of a 
wife and good man, iii. 217. [iv. 3]. 

Wherethere afe two lights, inwfech the behaviomrof 
any perfon may be fet, a good man will always choofe 
the moft favourable, iii. 220. j]iv. 6]. 

A Good Man has no demands upon his edftte or for- 
tune, but thofe of reafon, [and therefore will have it in 
his power to do generous things] iii. 248. [iv. 34], 

The heart of a worthy man is ever on his lips. He- 
will be pamed when he cannot fpeak all that is in it, 
iii. 277. [iv. 63]. 

It is fometimes difficult for really good people, to for- 
bear doikifg fom&thing more than goodnefs requires of 
tliem, iii. JJ82. [iv. 68]. 

A Good Man, in humble imitation of the Almighty, 
will be an encourager of the penitent, and ^n humbler 
of the impen'iteilt, iii. 284. [iv. 70]. 

If a Good Man cannot be happy in his own affiairs, 
he will rejoice in every opportunity put into his hands to 
promote the felicity of others, iii. 296. [iv. 82]. 

To be refpeded by the worthy is to be ranked as one 
of them, iv. 42. [214]. 

This reward have good perfon«, that thofe who will 
not imitate them, neverthelefs, revere them, iv. 57. 

Thofe who love a Good Man, do honour to themfelves, 
iv. 61. [233]. 

A Good Man will take his meafures of right and wrong 
from his confcicnce only, iv. 158. [v. 29]. 

Whether his goodnefs be gracefully accepted, or not, 
he will rejoice in having been enabled to ao a jufl and 
generous thing, ibid. 

Let a Good Man travel all the world over, he will 
^o from friend to friend, iv. 165. {v. 36]. 

A Good Man is fuperior to all attempts that are not 
.grounded on honour and confciencc, iv. 167. [v. 38]. 

Women of flight fame have no way to come at a pru- 
dent and virtuous man, ibid. 

While women of virtue are fecore from any attempts 
oi his, ibid. It 

2i6 Sentiments, Sec. exiraHed frem 

The Good Man will be ready to queftion the reAi- 
tade of his own heart, if, on examination, he has not 
reafon to hope, that charity is the principal of his graces, 
iv. 195. [v. 66]. 

It is a great point gained with a Good Man, when, 
ot looking impartially back on ))is own conduct, on 
fbme great event, whether profperous or not, that he is 
entirely fatisfied with himfelf, iv. 262. [v. 133]. 

A generous Man can enjoy the reward, in the good 
adllon, and look for no other, iv. 274. [v. 145]. 

Such a one can forget his own intereft, when a right 
and juft meafure is to be taken, iv. 289. [v. 160]. 

The Man, who, in the greater adions of his life, 
thinks himfelf: under the All-feeing eye, will not be 
afraid of a fellow -creature's ear, iv. 291. [v. 162J. 

An impartial fpirit will admire goodnefs or greatnefs 
where- ever he meets with it, and whether it makes for 
or againft him, iv. 313. [v. 184]. 

The condud of a good and prudent man, will be apt 
to make a considerate perfon, who has connexions with 
him, afraid ; fmce, if there be.a fault between them, it 
will probably be all that perfon's, iv. 366. [v. 237]. 

A Good Man will be able to pray, that the Almighty 
will, in mercy, with-hold from him wealth or alHuence* 
and make him dependent even for his daily bread, were 
riches to be a fnare to him ; and were he not to find 
his inclinations to do good, as occafions offered, enlarge 
with his power, iv. 384. [v. 255]. 

Intrepidity and tendernefs are infeparable qualities ia 
the heart of a man truly brave and good, v. 21. [292]. 

A Good Man can be happy in his own company, v. 
89. [yi. 67]. 

Low, narrow jealoufies, will never enter the heart of 
a Good Man, v. 154. [vi. 132]. 

From whom can fpirit„ chearfulnefs, debonnaimefs, 
be expeded, if not from a Good Man ? v. 224. [vi. 

Aufterity, uncharitablenefs, on one hand, oflentation, 
alTedlation, on the other, are qualities which can have 
no place in the heart of a Good Man, v. 227. [vi. 205]. 

What a bleiung to all around him is a Good Man ? 
y. 370. [vi> 348]. A 

the Hijiory of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 287 

A Good Man will have an unbounded charity and 
tiniverfal benevolence to men of all profeflions : Imitate* 
ing the Divinity, he will regard the heart, rather than 
the head ; and much more than rank or fortune, even 
were it princely : Yet is no leveller ; but on the contra- 
ry, thinks that rank or degree, intitles a man not utter- 
ly unworthy of his rank, to rcfpefl, v. 374. [vi. 352]. 

A Good Man will be able to pity and conible a dying 
friend, without faddening his own heart i for, living 
the life of duty, as he goes along, he fears not the in- 
evitable lot, vi. 14. [vii. 14.]. 

Good Men, by perfeverance and uniformity, may 
bring all their friends and vifitors to allow of, and, occa- 
fionally, to join in, his family devotion, vi. 33. [vii, 

A Man of Honour is* more valuable to a fingle woman 

in. trouble, than all the riches of the eail, vi 148. 

[vii. 148J. 

A Good Man has an intercft in every worthy perfon's 
aTedions, vi. 150. [vii. 150]. 

The intention of a Man of Honour is his a£l, vi. 190. 
[vii. 190]. 

A Good Man will rather be a fufFerer than an aggref- 
for, vi. 251. [vii. 251]. 

A vGood Man cannot allow himfelf to palliate or tem- 
porize with a duty, vi. 290. [vii. 290]. 

The intervention and charafter of a Good man will 
obviate many difficulties, ibid. 

What cannot be efFeft ? What force has his example ?, 
ibid. His love, his friendOiips are to be gloried in. 
Magnanimity and tendernefs are united in his noble 
heart, ibid* Littlenefs of any kind has no place in it, 
ibid. All who know him are ftudious to commend them- 
felves to his favourable opinion ; they will be follicitous 
about what he will think of them ; and^fuppreffing com- 
mon foibles before him, £nd their hearts expand, an4 
will not know how to be mean, ibid. 

What is there in the boafted charader of mojft of 
thofe who are called HfiROESi-to the un-oHentatious me*- 
rit of a Good Man ? In what a variety of amiable lights 
does fuch a one appear ? Ijx how many ways is he a 


28^8 Sentiments, &c. extruded from 

bleiTing and joy to his fellow-creatiires ? vi. 299. [vii. 


See Beneficence. Charity in Judgment, Duties Mo^ 
ral and Religious* Ejcample. Friendfhip. Ge- 
nerofity. Goodnefs. Magnanimity. Modefty. 
Prudence. Religion. Virtue. 


Good Wife. Good Woman, 

H o w do the duties of a Good Wife, a good mother, 
and worthy matron, well performed, dignify a woman ! 
i. z8. [ibid'\. 

A woman, to make a Good Wife, ihould be acquaint- 
ed with the theory of the domeftic duties, and not be 
sLfhamed, occafionally, to enter into the direction of the 
J>ra£tic, i. 36. [ihid], 

A Good Woman refleds honour on all thofe who had 
any hand in her education, and on the company (he has 
kept, i. 50* {if^id']. 

Such a one will not allow herfelf to marry any man, 
with the hopes of his death, ii. 160 [261]. 
* A Good Woman is one of the greateft glories of the 
creation, ii. 278. 389. [ii. 379. iii. 133]. 

A woman of virtue, of good underSanding, of fa- 
mily, ikilled in, and delighting to perform the duties of, 
the domedic life, needs not fortune to recommend her 
to the choice of the greateft and richeft man, who wiihes 
his own happinefs, iii. 225. [iv. 11]. 

A Good Woman's profpefts of happinefs with a good 
main, reach into eternity, v. 227. [vi. 205]. 

See Advice to Women. Education. Female Dig - 
ftity. Marriages. Mbdefly. Prudence. Sing/t 

Gratitude. Ingratitude. 

Who that Ires under the weight of an unretnrnable 
obligation, can -view the obliger but with the moft de- 
licate fenfibilities, i. 20. [ihid']. 

There are dark fpirits who are capable of hating the 
perfons who oblige them beyond return, i. 266. [/^iVj. 

Where high relpeft is entertained, grateful hearts will 
te always- ready to accufe themfelves of imperfefiions, 



ibe Hijlcry if Sir Ch.Gkavdiso^. 2J5 

which no one elfe can charge them with, i. 347. [ii. 

Grateful hearts will always retain a fenfe of favours 
conferred upon them, ii. 226. [527]. 

Too great obligatioils from one fide will create awe 
and diftance from the Qther, ihid» 

A grateful mind will be thankful for benefits paft, 
altho' its further expedations Should not be anfwered, 
2. 231. [3^]. 

Love and Gratitude cannot be eafUy feparated, iij« 
232. [iv. 18]. 

If a benefaflpr comply not with all our hopes, we 
ought to retain a grateful fenfe of the benefits we have 
aAually received at his hands, iii. 279. [iv..65]. 

A right heart cannot be sngrateful, iii» 290. [iv. 76]. 

Little offices, if done with tolerable g^race, will make 
a noble fpirit think itfelf under obligation, vi. 164. 
[vii. 164]. 

See Generofity. 

Grief. Melancholy. Tears. 

When the heart is foftened, either by Grief or Pity^ 
light impreflions will go deep, i. 150. [/^/V]. 

Surprizes from joy arc generally fooner recovered from, 
than thofe from Grief, i. 287. [ihU]. 

Tears, ^hen time has matured a pungent Grief into 
a fweet melancholy, are not hurtful. They are as the 
dew of the morning to the green herbage, ii. 35 . [ 1 36]. 

There is a pleafure as well as pain in MeIancholy»; 
iii. 102. [262]. 

A talkative Grief is fooner got over, than a filent one« 
iv. 254. [v. 12^]. 

When the ivhole mind is taken up with a difafirous 
fabje^, the entering into it with a faithful friend can- 
not be a renewal of Grief, iv. 322. [v. 193]. 

Tho^ we need not feek for melancholv fubje^lt to 

Sive us diftrefs of mind, yet we ought no( perhaps, to 
mn them,' when they naturally come to our knowlege^ 
V. 248. [vi. 226]. 

A fliy young woman, eh/era/es Lady G, may poffibly^j 

O when: 

spo Sentiments, &c. txtra^edfrmn 

when a fubjed of Grief occors, be caught by her lover 
in a weeping fit, v. 339. [vi. 3!7]. 

The heart, foftened by Grief, will turn to a com- 
forter, ihid, 

A woman's own caufe of Grief, produces pity *for 
another : Pity begets love : They are next neighbours^ 
and will call in Co afk kindly how the fufFerer does, i^id. 

And what a heart muft Grief have, if it will not be 
grateful to lo've, when it makes its neighbourly call ? 

A truly beneficent man will find out the fighing hearty 
and relieve it, before it is overwhelmed with calamity, 
vi. 45. [vii. 45]. 

See Adverfity. Confolation. 

Guardian. Guardianfhip. "V^ard. 

Where the reputation of a lady is concerned, 9 
Guardian not in years, fhonld not depend too much upoa 
his own character, however uneocceptionable, ii. 260. 
[iii. 13]. 

A worthy Guardian will endeavour to make his female 
ward the wife of a man^s love, rather than of his own 
convenience, iii. 280. [iv. 66}. 

A generous Guardian will not require implicit obe- 
dience from his ward, iii. 290. [iv. 78]. 

A good man will be very careful in the cafe ,of his 
Guardianfhip, how he advances himfelf or family, by 
virtue of the truft repofed in him, v. 63. [vi. 41]. 

Were his ward to be advanced by an alliance with 
him; he not with her ; orwere theadvantagercciprocal; 
io thofe cafes is the Guardian juftiiied, ibid. 

But in this delicate cafe, the Guardian putting him- 
felf in the Jituation of the dtceafed parent, and a^* 
ing as he confcientioufly thinks the parent j ifU'vivg^ 
^ould haii d^ne, he 'willhave the hefi rule for bit 
conduct on fuch an occajien, 
A young woman from fourteen to twenty, is often a 
troublefome charge on a friendly heart, v. 178. [vi. 

A Guardian will be rtry careful not to influence his 
"Ward in favour of his friend or relation^ however near 


tbtHiJhry d/SfrCn. Ghandison. 291 

and dear he is to him ; efpecially if fhe has a great for- 
tune, vi. .37. [vii. 37]. 

Bat if fach a near relation or friend, and the yoang 
lady, voluntarily prefer each other to every one elfe, and 
the young lady mean not a compliment to him, he will 
not, upon mere motives of delicacy, Hand in their way» 
iM, ISee Indulgence. Parents anJ Children* 

Happinefs. Unhappinefs. 

He that builds his Happinefs on the favour of the 
great, pins his tranquillity to the feather in another man*s 
cap, ii. 368. [iii. 112]. 

In the general oeconomy of providence none of the 
fons of men are unhappy, but lome others are the hap- 
pier for it, iii. 97. [257]. 

High pleafure and high pain are very near neigh- 
bours. They are often guilty of excefles, and then are 
apt to miilake each other's houfe, iii. 175. [335]. 

That only is Happinefs which we think fo, iii. 317. 
[iv. 103]. 

An eafy heart goes a great way to the cure of dcfpe- 
rate maladies, v. 139. [vi. 117]. 

In the domeftic or private life, after all the buftle 
and patade that can be made, lies the true, becaufe 
untumoltuous Happinefs, vi. 6. 35. [vii. 6. 35]. 

When we are not quite happy in oar own thoughts, 
it is a relief to carry them out of ourfelves, vi. 37. 
[vii. 37]. . 

The Happinefs of human life is at befl but compara* 
tive, vi. 201. [vii. 201]. 

The utmoft Happinefs we fliould hope for, in thi's 
life, is fach a fituation, as, with a felf- approving ^mind, 
will carry us bed thro* this fcene of trial, ibid. 

That woman may be faid to be happy, who marries 
the man of her choice; and he chofen^by her friends, 
and generally efteemed by thofe who know him, ihid. 
SeeDutics Moral and Re/igioHs. Good Man. Mar- 
riage. Prudence. 

Honest Man. ^^^GoodMan. 

O 2 Honour. 

i^z Sentiments» &c. iPCtraSed from 

Honour. Glory. Pundilio, ReputatioiUi 

The word or thing called glory, what mifchiefs has 
it not occafioned? ii. 183. [284]. 

Pandlillo is not to be ftood. upon, where conceifion is 
a duty, ii. 364. [iii. 108]. 

People, thro' Pun£lilio, are frequently unpunailioas. 

What is life without reputation ? I>o we not wifli to 
b^ remembered wjth honour afterdeatji? iii. 222. [iv. 8). 

The confcioufncfs of inferiority and obligation, will 
fet a proud and punctilious mind upon hunting for tea- 
fons to juftify its caprices, v. 81. [vi. 59]. 

Pundilio is but the (hadow of Honour, v. 207. [vi. 

Funailio begets Pun^lio, and has no determinate end, 
V. 210. [vi, 188J. 

$ge Challenges- Duelling, Duties Moral /md Kg- 
ligious. Example. Gcnerofity. Good Man. 

Hofpital for Female Penitents. 

MAtiY young creatures, drawn in by the artifices 
of men, had they an opportunity given them, would 
willingly make their firft departure from virtue their laft, 

iii. 556. [iv. 142]- 

Their own fex are often more inexorable to fuch 
poor creatures than the other, ihid. 

Thofe men who pretend, that they would not be the 
firft deftroyers of a woman's virtue, look upon thefe un- 
jbkppy creatures, as fair prize, ihid. 

But What a wretch is he, who feeing a poor creature 
^xpofed on the fummit of a dangerous precipice, would 
father pulh her into the gulph below, than lead her his 
liand, to convey her down in fafety, ibid. 

Credality, the child of good-nature, is, genpally, 
rather than vicioufnefs, the foundation of the crime of 
fuch unhappy young creatures, ibid. 

See the Jcheme for fuch an hoffttah Voi. ui. 357. 

fiv. 143]- , . 

S£e Libertine. Sjeda6Uon. 

the Hifi&ry of Sir Ch. Grandison. 29J 

Humanity. . 

The traly braver, moil be humaqe, v. 42^ vL 190* 
[vi. 20. vii. 190]. 

The truly brave man can hardly ihew s greater in-« 
fiance of Humanity, than by looking back with tender- 
nefs and companion upon the infantile and heiplefs fiato 
he himfelf was once in, ihid. 

' See Beneficence. Friendfbip.^ Generosity. Good 
Man. Goodnefs. Gratitude. Ingjeottoufners.. 

Human Nature. 

Human Nature is pretty much the fame in every 
country, allowing for different cufloms, and different eda«^ 
cation, i. 259. [ibid']. 

If ihe human mind is not adi vely good, it will gene-* 
rally be actively evil, i. 348. [ii. 13]. 

A clergyman who h an honour to his cloth, may be 
faid to be an ornament to Human Nature, 1. 330. [iir 

Libertinifm, by fome, is called a knowlege of the 
world, a knowlege of Human Nature ; but the cha- 
rader of Human Nature, it is hoped, is not to be taken 
from t]ie overflowings of dirty imaginations, ii. 83 « 

Attention, love, admiration, cannot* be always kep|^ 

upon the firetch [Human Nature will not bear it} iii. 

345. [iv. 131]. 

On the return of a long-abfent friend, for example, 
the rapture lafts not more than an hour, iifid. 

Gladdened as the heart is, the friend received, and 
the friend receiving, perhaps in lefs than an hoqr, can 
fit down quietly, together, to hear and tell ftories of whac 
lias happened to either in their long -regretted abfence,. 

Human Nature in general, Is not fo bad a thing as 
fome difgracers of their own fpecies have feemed to ima^ 
gine, iv, 146. [v. 17]. 

O 3 Humi- 

294 SentlaientS) &c. ixtraSeifrmn 


Humility and good humoar will give a weak man 
a preference to an arrogant or conceited one, i. 52. 

To look forward to thofe who excel us» rather than 
backward to thofe whom we fuppofe we excel, is necef- 
fary to obtain the grace of Humility, i. 256. [ihW], 

The HumiHty and Diffidence of a worthy young 
per/on, will be increased with the truft and conhdence 
repofed in his or her difcretion, .ii. 245. [346]. 
See Modefty. 

Humour. See Ridicule. 

Hulband and Wife. 

A WOMAN is more the property^ of her hufband, 

than he is hers, i. iii. [ibid^. ^ 

Thofe perfonal qualities which make a man generally 
admired, fometimes occafion an abatement in his Wife's 
happinefs, i. 255. [/^zV]. 

It is a tranfporticig thing for an affediionate Wife to 
receive a worthy Hufband returning to her after a long 
abfcncs, or an efcaped danger, i. 345. [ii. 30]. 

The man of middle capacity, Lajj G, fayt^ makes 
the bed Hufband to a woman who has talents, i. 389. 
[ii. 74]. . 

Such a one knows juft enough, y^/y2ry/, to .induce 
him to admire in her, what he has not in himfelf, ibid* «^ 

If ihe has prudence enough to give him confequence 
before folks, fhe will be able to manage him as ihe 
pleafes, ibid. 

But a fool and a wit are equally unmanageable* i. 390. 

["• 75]- 

Managing women are not, generally, the beft to live 

with, i. 394. [ii. 79]. 

Married women need not to look out of their fami* 
lies, fo often as fome of them do, for employment ; and 
that not only of the moil nfeful, but of the snoft de- 
lightfulfort, 1.412. [ii. 97]. 

The woman who has a gay Hulband ihould never re- 


ibi IHftofy af Sir Ch.Gkavduos. 295 

itife him her company abroad, when he deiires it, ii. 29. • 

The prudent woman who has an expenfive Hufband, 
will endeavour, (if (lie cannot reflrain him) by heroeco- 
nomy, to enable him to fupport his extravagancies with 
as little difcredit to himfelf, or hurt to his family, as pof* 
fjWe, ii. 30. [131]. 

The duty of a worthy Wife will be founded in prin- ^ 
ciple, not in tamcnefs or fervility> ii. 31. [132]. 
. The vices of a Huiband, call forth the virtues of a 
Wife, ii. 83. [184]. 

; A Wife can do no more than her duty by a Hufband 
who is not a favage, ii. 229. iv. 34.2. [ii. 330. v. 21 3]. 

The mod happily married woman mud have a will, to 
which (he muft refign her own, [or broBk her marriage 
vow] ii. 226. [iii. 70]. 

A Wife may allow, in general, of a Hufband's fupe- 
rior underftanding [where it is very apparent] ; but in 
particular cafes, and as they fall out one by one^ the 
man may find it diBicult to have it sUlowed in ^ any one 
indance, ii. 401. [iii. 145]. 

^ There ihould not be a rivalry in particular qualities 
between Man and Wife, ii. 379, [iii. 123]. 

The world will find occafions enow for exercifing the 
patience of a married pair, without their needing to llady 
for them, ii. 415. iv. 71. [iii. 160. iv. 243]. 
. Contempt, or the appearance of it, in a Wife, what 
man can bear? ii^. 4. [164]. 

Tke exafperated fpirit of a meek man is more to b« 
apprehended, than the fudden gufts of anger of a paf* 
fionate one, iit. 4. 243. [iii. 104. i v. 29]. 

A lively woman, who marries a man of inferior un«, 
derflanding, ought to be more careful of refraining her 
vivacity, than ihe need to be, if the difference were in 
his favour, iii. 6. [166]. 

The woman who depreciates her hufband, flill more 
depreciates herfdf, ihii. 

The woman who fets out regardlefs of her Huflband's 
difpleafure, may make her petulance habitual to him^ 
and live to rejoice in feeing him pleafed with her, iii. 
504. [iv. 90]. 

4 Men 

296 Sentiments, &c. exiraSed from 

Men in the former age ufed to have many ways that 
women had not, to divert themfelves abroad, when they 
conld not be happy at home, iii. 304, 305. [iv. 90, 91]. 

But modern women, as Lady G. Qhfer<ves^ fan every 
hour of the twenty-four be up with their- monarchs^ if 
they are undutifkl, iii. 305. [i^. 91]. 

If a woman would have the world refpeA her Hulband, 
ihe muil fet the example, iii. 329. [iv. 115]. 

The Wife who gives the Icaft room to fufpedt that Ihc 
defpifes her Hufband, fubjeds him to contempt if he re- 
fent it not ; and if he do, can fhe be happy ? ibid. 

There is a kind of immorality in the pablic fondnefs 
of a married pair, iv. 22. [194]* 

A woman cannot more efiedually diflionoar herfelf, J 
than by expofingher Hufband, iv. 33. [205]. ^ 

A fond Hufband^ Lady G, faysy is a mrfeiting thing ; 
yet fhe believes mofl women love to be made monkeys 
of, iv. 74. [246]. 

Lord and mafi:er, fayi Lady G. do not always jgo to- 
gether, tho' they do too often for the happinefs ofmany 
a meek foul of our fex» iv. 86. [258]. 

Thofe Httfbands, ^ays the fame linjely Laiy^ are not to 
be forgiven, who will argue when they have nothing to 
fay, iv. 87. [259]. 

Many Hufbands praife their Wives, many Wivti 
thek Hufbands, LadyG. fays^ to do credit to their choice* 
who, were they at their option, would be hanged rather 
tlian renew their bargain, iv. 2lf2. [v. 113]. 

Happy the Hufband, happy the wife, who on the 
death of either, has no material caufe of felf-reproach; 
on feHedting on his or her behaviour to the departed, 
ir. 243. [v. 114]. 

When harmony reigns between a wedded pair, their 
Very foibles will make them fhine in twtxy eye, v. 4. 


If a Hufband has foibles, a wife (hould be very care- 
ful how fhe expofes him for them, v. 14. [285]. 

The tender and polite, yet difcreet, behaviour of a 
Hufband to his Wife in public, does as much credit to 
his own heart, as. to her^ v. 174. [vi. 152]. 

Real and unafieded tendernefs horn a healthy Wife to 


the Hijiary of Sir Ch. Gr andisow. 297 

an Hofband labouring under ficknefs, or the infirmities 
of age, is the very elTence of generous love, vi. 36. 
[vii. 36]. 

.A good Huiband and good Wife are the world to each 
other, vi. 37. [vii. 37]. 

An Huiband feldom cares to be convinced by a Wife*» 
arguments ; the lefs, if he is jealous of the fuperiori^ of 
her underftanding, vi. 73. [vii. 73]. 

JVhat hopes then can a nvoman have of reforming an 

habitual rake; <who holds her cheapj perbapsy for 

the *uery choice fie has made of him in preference t9^ 

a better man f 

A fcoffer is a wit in his own opinion ; his conceit, as^ 

well a^ profligacy^ will render him impenetrable to a 

Wife's arguments, tho* ever fo reafonable and condufive, 

vi, 73. [vii. 73]. 

It feems neceiTary, to the happinefs of comqjon minds^ 
in wedlock, that the woman fhould have a greater opi« 
nion of her Hufband's underftanding,*than ihe has of 
her own, vi. 131. [vii. 131]. 

See Good H^ife, Love. Marriage. Marriage J^/V* 
kerings. Men and JVomen, Prudence, Wit, 



Consciousness of demerit, is often the parent 
of Jealoufy, iii. 222. [iv. S]. 

What will not Love and Jealoufy united,' make a man 
do ! V. 152. [vi. 130]. 

As a woman*s honour is of a more delicate nature 
than that of a man, ^with regard to^per/bnal \ove, a man 
may be as jealous of a woman's warm civility to anotlier 
man, as a woman may be of a man*s love to axK>tlief 
woman, v. 276. [vi. 254], 

Ill-wii*l, Sej Anger, 
iMPAariALZTY. See Ingenuoufnefs, 

O 5 In. 

298 Sentiments) 66c. txtraStei from 


Indulgence will be a fbonger tie upon a gene- 
i-ous mind, than either intereft or indinackHi, i. 38. 

A generoas reliance placed by parents and gaardiana 
in the difcretion of a young lady who wants not grati- 
tude, will make her more difficult in the difpofing of 
herfelf, than if (he were made uneafy by diftrnft and 
confinement, i . 3 8 . 45 . [ibid'] . 

How can palfied age, fays the g&od old Mrs, Shirley, 
which affords but a terrifying obje£t to youth, expe£l 
the Indulgence, the love, of the young and gay, if it 
do not ftudy to promote thofe pleafures of which itfidf 
was fond in youth ? v. 288. [vi. 266]. 

Enjoy innocently, your feafon, girls, once /aid fie, 
fetting half a fcore of young ladies into country- dances, 

I watch for the failure of my memory, and ihall ne- 
ver give it over, for quite loft, till I have forgotten 
what were my own innocent wifhes and delights in the 
days of ray youth, ihid. 

The way to judge of the propriety of a prefent In. 
dolgence, is to look back to what we fhould have thought 
of it, before we allowed ourfelves in it, vi. 90. [vii. 

By an Indulgence growing upon us in the paiTed 
year, we may be apprehenfive of the head it will gain 
upon us in the next, if not prudently reftrained, ihid. 
See Generodty. Good Man. Gratitude. Guardian. 
Parents atrd Children. 

Inferiority, Superiority of the two Sexes. 

' Men, in the pride of their hearts, are apt to fup- 
pofe that nature has deligned them to be fuperior to 
women : the higheft proof that can be given of fuch 
fuperiority, is the protediion afforded by the flronger to 
the weaker, iii. 45- [205]. 

What can that man fay for himfelf, or for his haughty 
pretenfion, who employs all his arts to feduce, betray, 
aiid ruin the creature whom he ihould guide and pro- 
led, Hid. After 

tUtiifiory of Sir Ch; Git andison. 2^ 

After 7^y faysMifs Byfm, fpeaking erf courage in men, 
J think we muft allow a natural fuperiority in the minds 
of xnen over women. Do we not want protefiion ? 
And does not that want imply Inferiority ? v. 287. [vi. 

Vet, if there be two forts of courage, acquired and 
fiaturaly why may not the former be obtained by women>^ 
as well as by men, were they to have the fame educa- 
tion ? Natural courage may belong to cither, ibid. 

But women have more filly antipathies than men^ 
which help to keep them down: Which, however, may 
be owing rather to afFedlation, at firft, than to natural 
imbecility of mind, ibid, 

A frog, a toad, a fpider, a beetle, an earwig, will 
give us, proceeds Jhe, mighty pretty texider terror j whilp 
the heroic men will trample under foot the infed, and 
look the braver for their barbarity, and for our delicate 
fcreaming, ibid. 

^ But, for an adventure, concludes fie, if a lover gets us 
into one, we frequently leave him a great way behind 
us, ibid. 

For the notion of the Inferiority and Superiority of men 
and nuomen, fee the amicable debate bettueen Lady G* 
Mrs. Shir ley f Sir Charles Grandifon^ and others^ 
Vol. V. Let. Iviii. [Vol. vi. Let. Iv]. 

Ingenuoufnefs, Impartiality. Juftice. 

An ingenuous mind will not be afraid of a monitor, 
i. 16.. [/^/W]. 
. Wc ought to judge of our friends as they defervc j 
DOt as being our friends, i. 31. [/^/V]. 
. A noble mind will be ever ready, on convidion, to 
acknowlege its miftakes, i. 290. \ibid\ 

Efteem and love (hould be founded on merit, not 01& 
mere relation, ii. 89. [190]. 

Mercy and juftice are fifler- graces, and, in a virtu* 
ous bofom, fhould not be feparated, ii. 107. [208]. 

No one can judge properJy of another, that cannot^ 
in imagination, be that other, when he takes the judg- 
ment-feat, ii. 108. iv. 315. [ii. 209. V. x86]. 

O 6 The 

300 Sentiments, &c. ixtraSedff$m 

The laws of truth and juilice are ever the fane, 5* 
157. [258]. 

What others woold n§t have done in a like fituatioiiy 
will not be confidered. by a good man, ii. 157, 158. 

Jaftice will be thought a fevere thing by the nnjud, 
ii. 158. [259]. 

A man of intriniic merit will not feek to raife his 
own charader at the expence of that of another, ii. 162. 


7 ho" 1 fay it, that jhould not fay it% a faul^ phrafe, 
'when it is fpoken of a deferving relation, ii. 239, 240. 

[340, 540- 

Mercy Ihould never be feparated from jnHice, ia. 242. 


It is a weaknefs to look without abatement of efteem 
on thofe faults in one perfon, which we fliould hold 
utterly inexcufable in another, ii. 265. [iii. 9}. 

A worthy man will not plead his privilege^ to defend 
himfelf againft a le^al purfuer^ ii. 325. [iii. 69]. 

The perfon who treats even a faulty perfon with inr 
j.uftite or hardfhip, makes himfelf enemies, and the cri- 
minal friends, [pitiers at leafl] ihid. 

Let not even the faulty have juft caufe to complain of 
OS, ii 3^64. [iii. 108]^ 

We ihould do proper things for our own fakes, whe- 
ther perfons are capable of gratitude ov not, ii.. 366^ 
367. [iii. no, III]. 

In cafes of right and wrong, we ought not to know 
either friend or relation, iii. 7. [166]^ 

f'or the honour of the fex, let it not be faid, that a 
^'Oman, whofe glory is companionate tendernefs, is not 
ro be prevaiYed upon to do an ad of fcindnefs, mock 
kfs of juftice, iii. 23:8. Qv. 24]". 

An ingenuous perfon who has infilled upon a wronjg 
Rieafure, will, when convinced, recede with a graces 
iS. 24 r. [Iv, 27]. 

We ought not to be difpleafed with, nor depreciate, 
the perfon, who cannot do for ns, or be to us, all we 
"Wifli, iii. 279. [iv. 65]. 

It is a degree of meri^ to ackaowlegcwitli fomegrac» 
ancrror,. iv. 3j. [205 ]w ..>^' ^ - . The 

tin Hifiory of Sir Ch. Grandisok. 301 

* The acknowlegement of a fault affords as much ho* 
nour as could be gained by a viftory, iv. 136. [v. 7]. 

Were the aggrefibr»in a quarrel, the neareft and deareft 
of all others to us, an impartial perfon will xondemn 
him> and efpoufe the caufe of the lufFerer, iv. 172. [v. 


To what we know to be right, we ought to fubmit ; 

die more difficult it is to do fo, the more praife-worthy^ 

V. 60. [vi. 38]. 

To do juftice againft ourfelves, is intitling ourfelves 
at leaft to a fecond merit, i^/V. 

A perfon is guilty of falfe heroifm, who in doing more 
jaftice than is due to one perfon, does lefs than is due t# 
-another, vi. 252. [vii. 252]. 

See Good Man. ModeHy. Sincerity. 

Ingratitude. See '(Sratitude. 

Innocence. Innocent. 

Ak injured perfon muil have dignity on feeing the 
injurer, which the latter muft want, i. 382. [ii. 67}. 

A protedtor of injured Innocence, if a generous man, 
will be careful of ading in fuch a manner, as ihaU 
leffen the merit of his proteftion, i. 385. [ii. 70}. 

Innocence is an attractive equally to the attempts pf 
men and devils, ii 91. t'92]\ 

An Innocent man, if calamity befal him, or thofe he 
loves, will rejoice diat he was not the occafion of it> 
ii. 322. [iii. 66]. 

She who loves another for her Innocence and worthy 
heart, has reafon to love herfclf, vi. 175. [vii. 175]. 

Whom (hall an innocent and injured man fear ? iii. 20}« 

Su Education. Example. Duties Mora/ and Reli^ 
gious. Good Man. Goodnefs. Happinefs, Mo^ 

Insincerity. ^^ Sincerity. 

Intempbrance» ^r^Ebriety. 

Joy. See Mirth. 

JviTicB. £<^ iDgcaaottfnefst 

^ Juftlcaa 

$02 Semiment^, ^c. exftaSti frcm'^ 

Juftices of 'Peace. 

WovLD perfons of fenfe and diftindion more fre- 
quently than they do, aft aa jfuiltces of Peace, the of- 
fice would be lighter to every one, and would keep the 
great power vefted in this clafs of magiilrates, and which 
is every year increafing, out of mean and mercenary 
hands, vi. 263. [vii. 263]. 

And do not men of confideration in the world, owe 
St to their tenants and neighbours, to employ in their 
iervice thofe advantages of rank and education, which 
make it eafy for them to clear up and adj oft matters that 
would be of endlefs perplexity to the parties concerned \ 


Keepers* See Kept Women. 

Kept JVatnen. Keeper, Keeping. Guilty 


W H A T a frail tenure is that by which a Kept Woman 
holds! ii. 94. [iQj]- 

Keeping men often yield up points to the teazing arts 
of a low-born miftrefs, which they would not concede 
to a worthy wife, ii. 98. [199]. 

Keepers (made by their vices real flaves) imagine 
themfelves mafters of their liberty, and fit down fatisfied 
with the found of the word, ihid. 

'The reputation of a woman is above all price, ii. 324* 
[iii. 68]. 

Every quarterly payment, every prefect made, to a 
perfon engaged in a guilty Attachment, muft ftrike her 
to the heart, when overtaken by compundlion, to be- 
hold in it the wages of her fhame, ii. 324, 325. [iii. 
68, 69].' 

The woman who has forfeited her own reputation will 
not be careful of the man^s, ihid. 

Folly encounters with folly in a Guilty Attachment, 
ii. 326. [iii. 7d]. 

Unprincipled women bear teflimony to the hcHiour of 


tbi Hifiory of Sir Ch. Gramdison. jaj 

virtue, by the high price they generally fet upon their 
iirft departure from it, ii. 327. [iii. 71]. 

The woman who ftipulates a price for her virtue, 
knows the uncertainty of the tenure by which ihe holds. 

How can a Keeper complain of the mifbehaviour of 
his woman, be it ever fo bale ? Does ihe not firft mi/be- 
have to herfelf, to her fex, and break thro' all laws 
divine and human ? ii. 328. [iii. 72]. 

Ought a man who brings a woman to violate her firft 
duties, to expert from her a regard to a mere difcre->> 
tionary obligation ? iBid: 

It mud be a wretchednefs beyond what can be con^ 
ceived, for a man and woman to live together a life of 
guilt, yet with hatred, animoftty, or even indifFerencoy 
to each other, ihid. 

God knows what he will forgive ; but his forgivenefs, 
however, depends, in a great meafure, upon the offen- 
ders themfelvjss, ii. 329. [iii. 73]. 

Where hatred or diifil^e has once taken place of like- 
ing, in a Guilty Attachment, the firft feparation is always 
beft, ihiJ. i 

Guilty perfons render themfelves contemptible in the 
eyes even of thofe very minions who adminifter to their 
unlawful pleafures, iBid. 

The woman who has not virtue, has no title to fpirit 
or refentment, ibU. 

The daughter of a cottager, who keeps her virtue, is 
foperior to the greateft man on earth, who feeks to cor- 
rupt her. [He himfelf allows her to be fo, in. the 
court he makes to her, as well as by the indignity he 
offers both to her and himfelf] ii. 329, 330. [iii. 73' 


Keepers are generally, tho' bravoes of the law, cowards 
and cullies to their paramours, ii. 330. [iii. 74]. 

Indeed the courage of the men, who can defy the 
laws of fociety (to magnanimity they muft be fb-angcrs) 
is ever to be doubted, /^/V. 

The Keeper, by the fame aft, finks his own confe- 
quence, and generally raifes that of an inferior and low- 
bred woman, ii. 332. [iii. 76]. 


,304 Scnticncncs, i&c. extraffedfrom 

The private man who quarrels with his woman for 
no reafon bat to take another, is a worfe man than 
Henry VIII. for he allowed not himfelf to be either a 
Keeper or Polygamift, ii. 341. [iii. 85]. 

Guilty Attachments are often the caafe of mens dc- 
fpifing a legal one, iii. 44. [204]. 

And what arc the invcdlives of free livers againft the 
legal one, but meanly ftudied attempts to juftify the way 
oflife they have fallen into ? ibid,, 

A good heart, a delicate mind, cannot afTociate with 
a corrupt one, ihid* 

What tie can bind a woman who has parted with her 

honour ? iiid. 

What, in a Guilty Attachment, muft be a man*s alter- 
native, but either to be the tyrant of a wretch who has 
given him reafon to defpife her, or the dupe of one who 
defpifes him ? iM. 

It is the important leflbn of life in the prefent union 
of foal and body, to reftrain the unruly appetites of the 
latter, and to improve the faculties of the former, ibid. 

Can this end be retrained by licentious indulgencies, 
and profligate aiTociations ? ibid. 

How much in the power of women are the refolutions 
of a feniual man! iii. 48. [208]. 

See Addrefs to Men o/ScnJe in the gay World. Li- 
bertines. SeduAion. Vice. 


Kindred minds will foon recognize one another, 

i. 204. {ihid\ 

Two fitters agreed to manage a love-aifair, have ad- 
vantages over a lady and her woman, i. ^91 . [ii. 76]. 

Sifters are fometimes convenient to each odier in a 
balhful or beginning love, ii. i6. [117]. 

Brodiers and filters, when they are deprived of one Of 
both parents, (hould endeavour to fupply to each other 
the irreparable lofs, ii. 136. [237]. 

Relations have a right to exped to be made eafy and 
)iappy, by fach of their Kindred as can make them fo^ 
without hurting themfelves, iii. 253. [iv. 39]. . 

Men of rank, if men of merit, muft be of Kindred, 


thilSfiwj of ^ir Cu. Gr ANDisoK. 305 

asd recognize the relation the moment they meet, iii. 
25 c. [iv. 41]. 

What is the relation of body to that of mind ? ill. 
336. [iv. 122]. 

True brotherly love will ever hold the principal feat 
in the heart of a eood man, when he fits in judgment 
upon aMer's conduct, vi. 132. [vii. 132]. 

Why, taking advantage of the defencelefTnefs of her 
fex is a filler to be treated by her brothers in a love 
cafe (not difgracefally circumftanced) as if ihe had not 
a will of her own, when, perhaps, ihe is not inferior to 
them, either in difcretion or underftanding ? vi. ^38. 
£viL 138], 

$c0 Love. Perfuafion. Single Women. 


L A N o V A GJB s • See Learning. 
Laughter. ^/# Mirth. 

Law. Lawyers. 

Tub Law was not made for a man of confcience, 
ii. ti8. [219]. 

If two contendine parties, before they commence a 
Law-fuit, would fit down and calculate the probable ex« 
pences, and agree, the one to give, the ouier to taJie^ 
what, if they Were to profecute the fuit, would probably 
be the Lawyer*6 fliare, the compromiie would be fre- 
quendy a great faving of expence to both, as well as 
of time and vexation, v. 24, 25. [vi. 2, 3]. 

A good man will not appear to fupport his nearefl 
and dearefl friend in an unjuft caufe, v. 27. [vi. 5]. 
See Mediation. 

Learning. Learners. Languages. Science. 


The man of the town, and the pedant, are two ex- 
treme points in comparifon with each other, i. 58. [i^/V]. 

Vail is the £eld of Science. The more a man knows, 
the more he will find he has to know« i. 60. [>'^'V]» 


go6 Sentiments^ &c iXfrsStd/hm 

Good-nature, a general philanthropy^ but not a love 

•of perfons for their faults^ mark the true faiirift, i. 6i# 

The world is one great Univerfity, J. 62. [/3/V]. 
' The knowlege that is to be obtained in the lelTer Uni- 
veriity, fhould not make a man defpife what is to be ac- 
^ quired in the greater, in which, that knowlege was prin- 
cipally intended to make him afeful, i. 62. [ihid"}. 

Smatterers in Learning are the moil opinionated, i. 

64. [iiriJ]. 

Learning confiils not in the knowlege of Langaagnes, 
i, 66. [ibidi, 

A Learned man, and a Linguifl, may be two perfons, 

The firft great genius had not human example, and 
human precepts, to improve by, i. 66. [ibid']. 
, Language is but a vehicle to Science ; it is not Science 
itfelf, i. 67. [ibid]. 

Great refped fhould, however, be paid to Linguifts ; 
but ought that confufion of tongues, which was intend- 
ed to punifli prefumption, to be thought our greateft 
glory now ? i. 71. ybid'], 

. It were to be wiihed, that in all Nurferies of .Learn- 
ings the manners of youth were propofed as the principal 
end, ibid. 

Morals and good breeding are too generally obliged 
to gtve way to that Learning, which is of little moment, 
but as it inculcates and promotes thofe, ibid. 

Sir Hargrawe Pollexfen fi^Sy that many of the young 
men at the Univerfuies, in the prefent age, are in more 
danger of becoming fine gentlemen, than fine fcholars, 

As it is faid of the advantages of birth and degree, 
fo may it be faid of Learning, fays Mr. Walden^ no one 
that has pretentions to it, defpiies it, i. 72. \ibid\ 

Too great a portion of life is beftowed in the learn- 
ing of Languages, i. 72. 76. \ibid\ 

Are not the works of many of the antients, Harriet 
ajksy more to be admired for the ftamp which antiquity 
has fixed upon them, and for the fake of their purity in 
Languages which cannot alter, than for the lights 


tbi Hifi^rj of Sir Ch. Gr andisok. 307 

obtained from them> by mea of genius in ages more en • 
lightened than theirs ? i. 72. [i^/V]. 

The reputation of Learning is often acquired by writers 
who 'treat on fubjedls that only ferve to amufe inquifitive 
minds, and in themfelves are of very little ufe to the 
greater purpofes of life and knowlege, ibid. 

People who lead know how to argue, are generally 
the moil contentious, ihid. 

Homer, Virgil, Milton, were learned men, yet wrote 
their immortal works in their refpcdtive native Lan- 
guages, i. 73. [ibid]. 

Milton's frequent recourfes to the pagan mythology, 
in a work, that fo greatly adorns a much nobler, the 
chriftian, thought by fome to be a condefceniion to the 
tafte of perfons of his time, who had more reading than 
genius, ibid. 

Much noble knpwlege is to be had in the Engliih and 
French Languages, (Bijbep Bumet) i. 76. [ibid], ^ 

Geography, hiftory, the knowlege of nature, and the 
more pradical parts of the mathematics, may make a 
perfon very knowing, without a word of Latin (Bijhap 
Burnet) ibid. 

^here is a fineliefs of thought, and a noblenefs of ex« 
preflion in the Latin authors, that will make them the 
entertainment of a man's whole life, if he once under- 
ftands them, and reads them with delight : But if this 
cannot be attained, I would not (fays the fome Prelate) 
hdve it reckoned, that the education of an ill Latin fcho- 
lar is to be given up, i. 77. Ubid], 

The Language of nature is one Language throughout 
the world, iho' there are different modes of fpeech to ex- 
prcfs ir by, i: 260. [ibidl. 

Every learned man is not a man of fenfe, i. 302. 

A man may be illiterate, yet not ignorant, ii. 209. 

The foliloquies and afides in a play, are generally 
unnatural expedients of authors to make their per- 
formances intelligible to an audience, ii. 396. [iii. 140]. 

Learners (honld not wi(h to be every thing at onca> 
iii« 50. [210]. 

3o8 ScntMnents, 2rc. extraSedfnm 

SeeYohV. Letter Iv. [Vol. VL Letter ItHi]. Jbr 
thijuftici Sir CharUs Grandifin dots to the cauje vf 
LoHguageSf €u *well as Learning i from am afpre- 
henjkn that it fufferedfrMn the nueaknefs of its ad- 
nfocate in the debate hettveen Mr, Walden and Mifs 
Byron, at Lad; Betty Wi/^ams\ in Vol. I. /. 6z. 
to 77. 

See Education. Learned Women. 

Learned Women. 

ALbaenbd Woman, with her own fex, is as aa 
owl among the lefler birds, i. 63. \ihid\ 

Men generally are afraid of a wife who has more 
underllanding than themfelves, ihid, 

I9 it a neceflary confeqaeace, that that knowlege which 
ihall make a man (hine, muft make a woman vain and 
pragmatical ? ihid. 

May not a lettered wife, and a learned hnfband be 
Hint and fteel to each other ? ihid. 

Many men, like the Turks, think that empire fafefl, 
which is founded in ignorance, ihid* 

In what a iituation are women, who. if they have ge* 
nias, will be thought guilty oi aflnsdation, whether they 
appear defirous to conceal it, or fobmit ta have it called 
forth, i. 66. [ihid}. 

Women (hould not be afliamed either of their talentt 
or acquirements, i. 77. [ihid"}. 

They (hould only take care, not to give op their do- 
meftic ufefulnefs for Learning, ihid. 

They will then, by reafon of their acquirements, be 
more faitable companions for men of fenfe aad learn- 
ing, ihid. 

The man muft have a narrow mind who is apprehen- 
five of his prerogative froni a Learned Woman, ihid. 

A woman who does not behave the better thfe more 
(he knows, would make her huiband uneafy, and think 
as well of herfelf, were fhe totally illiterate, ihid. 

Do not men court for wives whom they pleafe ? A 
conceited, a vain mind in a woman, cannot be hidden, 


the Hi^0ry cfSir Ch. Gr akdison. 30^ 

Young women who are writers, ihould not fnffer their 
pen to run away with their needle, i. 140, [/^/V]. 

Nor their love of reading to interfere with that honfe- 
wifery which is ^a indifpenfible in the character of ^ 
good woman, ihU. 

Tho* Learning fhould not be the principal diflindion 
of a wo^lan, yet, where talents are given, they ihould 
not he either uncultivated or unacknowleged, iiuf. 

When no duty is negle^d for the acquirement ; when 
modefty, elegance, and a teachable fpirit are preferved, 
it is not a difgrace to a woman to be fuppofed to know 
fomething, i, 141. [i^iV]. 

Why ihould women, in compliance with the petulance 
of narrow*minded men, forbear to ufe.a word which 
indicates knowlege, when no other iingle word will fo 
well expreis their fenfe ? i. 245. [i^/V]. 

TTet the confining themfel'ves to the ufually-knonun and 

fandliar ijoords in language ^ tvill al'ways give them a 

fimplicity and eafe^ that ^11 make tbemjhine in the 

true grace of expreffion above men, efpecially above 

the generality of fcholafiic men* 

> A young woman will rather choofe to diilinguifh her* 
felf by her difcretion and prudence,, than by her wit and 
poetry, ii. 206. [307]^ 

Yet the eajy productions of a fine fancy, not made 
the bufinefs of^hfe or its boaft, confer no denomination 
that is difgra^eful i bjat very much the contrary, ibid. 

Libertines. Rakes. 

liSBEiiTiNC men confider alllntelledual attainmenty 
in women, as either ufelefs or impertinent, i, 4. \ihi4f\, 

A wife, a iearned woman, they look ufx>A as an un- 
natural chapader, ibid. 

They want women to be all love, and nothing elfe, 

A man of free principles, (hewn by pra£lices as firee» 
^can hardly make a tender hoiband, i. 26. \ibid\ 

Who ihall truft for the performance of his fecond dtu 
tfet, the man who avowedly defpifes his/iry? f ihid. 

The profligate who had a good education, anuft itave 


gio Sentiments, &c. txtraSed from 

taken pains to render vain the precepts of his inftra6lorS) 
and ftill more to make a jefl of them» i. 26: [/^/V]. 

The man muft have a very hard heart, as well as bci 
a moil abandoned man» who can pafs from woman to 
woman, without remorfe for a former, whom he has by 
folemn vows feduced, i. 27. [/^//]. - 

Of what a dreadful abufe of paflions, given for the 
nobleft purpofes, are profligate men guilty ! ibid. 

Libertines have all one dialedt. They fay nothing 
new, or deferving attention, i. 143. 320. £i. 143. ii. 5J. 

Libertines delight to fport with the healths and hap- 
pinefs of credulous young creatures, whom they pretend 
to love, i. 223, [ibid'], 

A man who has infulted a woman, mud have a hish 
opinion of himfelf, and a low one of her, if he thinks 
marriage will be an atonement, or do her honour, i. 
311. [ibi(i'], 

RakiOi men are generally fufpidous tyrants : They 
live in continual fear of retribution, ii. 12. [113]. 

Men of ftrong health, and of a riotous turn, ihould 
not, ' in mere compaflion, alTociate with men of weaker 
conftitutions than their own, ii. 40. [141]. 

Neither fhould extravagant men, of high and low for- 
tunes, afFociate ; fince the expences which will but (hake 
the eftate of the one, will demolifli that of the other, 
ii. 40, 41. [141, 142]. 

Rakifh men feldom make good huibands, good fa- 
thers, good brothers, ii. 74. t'75]' 

Libertines arc generally narrow. hearted creatures, who 
cento: all their delights in themfelves, ii. 74. 84. [175. 

The notion that a reformed Rake makes the bed 

hufband, is equally vulgar and pernicious, and becomes 

only the mouth of an inconfiderate woman, ii. 75. 


Rakifli men frequently endeavour to juilify their vices 
by general reflexions on the fex [which fo often prefers 
them to better men] ii. 83. [184]. 

Such men think one half of a woman^s virtne is 
pride ; the other conning, which they call the wifdom of 
women, ibid. 


/itf Hijiory of Sir Ch. Gr ahdison. 3 1 1 

Were they Cure, /ays Sir Thomas Grandt/hn^ that the 
nan would not think the worfe of them for their forward- 
nefs, they woald not wait for a fecond queftion^ ii. 83. 

Who fhall anfwer for the darable reformation of an 
habitual Libertine ? ii. 9 1 . [ 1 92] . 

Mercy is a virtue : Can it be expeded from the wick* 
ed? ii. 94. [195].- 

A reducing Rake has more foals to anfwer for that\ 
his own, ii. 95. [196]. 

It is an high degree of confidence in a man of. free 
principles, to think of approaching a woman of piety 
and prudence wijth any hope of fuccefs, ii. 142. [243]. 

Rakes often have contentions with themfelves, which 
they own to one another, whether they Ihali vouch/a/e to 
offer themfelves in marriage to a lady, before they con- 
clude to do her that favour, ii. 142, 143. [243, 244]. 

Thofe who pretend to know the fex beft, think them- 
felves intitled, among one another, to treat it with the 
leaft refpeft, ii. 178. [279]. 

The moft profligate men love modcfty in the fex, at 
the very time they are forming plpts to deftroy it in in- 
dividuals of it, ii. 332. iii. 327. [iii. 76. iv. 113]. 

What abfurdities are free-living Men guilty of f What 
misfortunes to others do they not occafion ! iii. 261, 

[i^- 47]- 

What a poor, creeping, low thing is a Libertine, 

weighed in the fcale againil a man of true honour ! iii. 

301. [iv. 87]. 

Libertines think that women prefer a fervent Lover to 

a difcreet one ; and, prefuming upon their undiflinguifh- 

ing weaknefs, aim at deceiving them accordingly, v/6g, 

[vi. 47]- r . . 

There are more clumfy and fooliih Rakes, than po^ 

lite ones, except women can be fo much miftaken as to 

afcribe to impudence the name of agreeable freedom^ v. 

"i^ll' [vi. 135]- ' , 

Bad habits. Lady G, /ays, are of the Jerufalera -arti- 
choke kind, which once planted, there is no getting 
them out of the ground, v. 187. [vi. 165]. 

See Addrefs to Men of Sen/e in tke gay World* A^- 
I vice 

1 12 SentimentSt &c. extra fftd jfrom 

v\ct and C^^^ons to Wofften. Complimeilti. De- 
licacy. Feiiialities. Lovt at Jirft Si^kt. Cian^ 
MineMzxxizgts. Modeily. Proteihuion&. Single 
Women. Sedudion. 


Love dignifies -the adored obje£b in the eye of a 
Jpver, i. 5. [ibiiT]. 

True Love is always modeft and diffident, i. 48. 10 <. 

Trifles are acceptable from thofe we love, i. 61 . [ibtd']» 

Women ought not to be alhamed of ownine a fufcep- 
tibility of a natural paflion, when doty and prudence 
are their guides, and the objeA worthy, i. Z-y. [ibiJ'}. 

Women, when they begin to liiif fhould look into 
their hearts ; fince Lon;^ is not then far off, Md, 

Young women often given way to a paflion, which 
they /ufpo/e unconquerable, becaafe they will not take 
pains to fubdue it, ibid. 

A prudent woman will (hut the door of he^ heart againft 
Ihe blind deity, when ihe finds he has fet his incroaching 
foot on the threlhold, i. 88, 89. [ibid]. 

Such a one will endeavour to keep her heart her own, 
till duty adds force to the lambent flame, i. 89. [ibid'}. 

Making Lo*ve^ as it is called, 4s an ungenerous abufe of 
the ears of a young woman ; fince a man can addrefs 
whom he pleafes, and a woman muft wait his motions ; 
and iince we are all ready to believe what we wi(b, i. 113. 

A man who truly loves, cannot, without paih, allow 
himfelf to teaze, by importunity, the objed of his paf- 
iion, who favours him not, i. 122. [ibid}. 

One of the greateft pains that a grateful heart can 
know, is to be obliged to deny a worthy man, who ten- 
derly loves her, i. 124. [ibid}. 

Kefpeflfal Love is not the indication either of a weak 
head, or a faint heart, i. 143. [ibid}. 

Violent Love is not likely to be lafting, i. i c i . [ibid}. 

It is one of the fweeteft pleafures imaginaole, to hear 
a whole circle join in applauding the abfent perfon who 
ftandi high in our opinion, i. 410. [ii. 95]. 

Love is a felf-mortifier, i. 41 1. [u, 96 J. Love 

ibeHiJiotyofSirCii.GxAiimsQ^. 513 

Love is made k cover to bafenefs of heart, when the 
pretender to it feeks to gratify his own paffion, at the 
expencc of the happinefs or duty of the objed, ii. 60. 

In a pnre flame Love and Friendfhip cannot be fe- 
parated, iM. 

Love is a word, that is often made a cover to the vileft 
cupidity, ii, 92. [193]. 

Love [howcvcx dignified by romancers and poets] is 
a narrower of the heart ; fince, while its fuccefs is in fuf- 
pence, it is the parent of envy, jealoufy, dilTimulation, 
ii. 141. 283. iii. 32. [ii. 242. iii. 27. 192]. 

That Love which is founded on fancy, or exterior ad* 
vantages, may, and oftentimes ought to, be overcome, 
ii. 144. [245]. ^ 

But that whi(fh is ibunded on interior worth, generally 
acknowleged» cannot be eaiily retrained, damped, fup- 
prcfled, ii. 144. v, 6y. [ii. 245. vi. 45]. 

Women do not often with earn'>Jinef$ rejedl a man, 
who is not quite difagreeable^ if they are not prejqdiced 
in another's favour, ii. 160. [261]. 

It is no wonder that a man who is always worthily^ 
cmploy'd, is not in love ; iince Love is the child of lei- 
fure and indolence, ii. 185, 186. iii. 21S. [ii. 286, 287. 
iv. 4]. 

A woman who means not preferable favour to a man, 
will allow herfelf in faying civil and polite things to 
him, ii. 192. [2^3]. 

There are fubje€ls that, cannot be touched upon, with- 
out raifing emotion in the bofom of a perfon who hopes, 
and 'is uncertain, ii. 193. [294]. 

Why fhould women be afhamed of owning a laidahU 
pafiion ? There is nothing fhameful in difoeet Love, - 
w. 439. iv. 66. [ii. 340. iv, 238]. 

Love is a fclfim deity : He puts two perfon? upoii pre- 
ferring their own intereil, nay, often a gratification of 
thdr paffion againft their intereft, tathofe of every -body 
elfe ; and rea^n, difcretlon, duty, are frequently givea 
up in a competition with it, ii, 240. [341]. 

Bat Love, neverthelefsy will not do every thing fojr 
Che afdcnt pair, ihid^ 

P Parent* 

3.14 SentimentSf.&c. extraSlid fr(m 

Parents know this, and oaght not to fuffer for the 
raflinefs they )vifh to prevent, but cannot, ii. 240. [341]* 

Is a father, who has, by his prudence, weathered ma- 
ny a ftorm, and got fafe into port, obliged to re-imbark 
in the voyage of life, with the young people» who per- 
haps, in a Tittle while will look upon him as an incum* 
brance, and grudge him his cabin ? ibid. 

Parents fhould be indulgent [to thofe who are to fuc* 
ceed them in carrying on the bofinefs of the world] : But 
children, when they put themfelves in one fcale, (hould 
allow parents their due weight in the other, ibid, 

A worthy woman will bani(h that love from her heart, 
which would corrupt its fimplicity, and make herguilty 
of artifice, ii. 258. [iii. 2, 3]. 

Womens eyes are wanderers, and too often bring home 
guefts that are very troublefome, and whom, once in- 
troduced, they cannot get out of the houfe, ii. 268*. 
(iii. 12]. 

The voice, as well as the heart, is fweetened, mel- 
lowed, harmonized by Love, ii. 306. iii. 350. 378. [iii. 
50. iv. 136. 164]. 

It is a hard matter for women, in Love-cafes, to avoid 
aFeftation, ii. 391. [iii. 135]. 

A lady, in fufpending unneceiTarily the happinefs of 
the man to whom (he has no obje^ion, and whom (he 
refolves to marry, feems to confefs felf-denial, ii. 392 . 

[iii. 136]- 
Efteem is the female word for Love, ii..403. [iii. 

The woman who has been difappointed in Love, will 
be able to play with another flame without buming her 
fingers, iii. 4. [163, 164]. 

A prudent man or woman will never leave Mind out 
of his or her notion of Love, iii. 12^ [171]. 

Women often take pains to cheat themfelves. into a 
btlief that they are not in Love 3 but detedjt thomdblvea 
' by the very pains they take to obviate fuch a charge^ 
iii. 14. [173]. 

Of what abfurd things does, the paiHon called Love, 
makes its votaries guilty ! iii. 37. [197]. 

The woman who circomfcribes her paffion by the laws 


tb$ H^ory of Sir Ch. Gr ANDtsoiiir. 315 

of reafon and duty, will never fubjedl herfelf to lading 
difturbance from her recoUeftions, iii. 37. [197]. 

The tendernefsy and even veneration which a worthy 
man ihews to a defervedly-beloved objed, is not a dero- 
gation from his charadler, iii. 52. [212]. 

Love, like water, will work its way thro** the banks 
that are fet confine it, if not watched, and dammed 
out in time, iii. 93. [253]. 

The poifon of Love once taken in at the eye, will 
foon diffufe itfelf thro* the mafs, iii. 125. [285]. 

Seldom, as the women fappofe, is there that tervor in 
a fecond love, as in a firft, iii. 153. [313]. 

Women, in Love-cafes, fee into each other^s hearts 
from fmall openings, iii. 2^7. [i v. 43]. 

A young woman, challenged with loving a man whd 
has made np declaration, if the challenge be juft, need 
not to labour under a greater difficulty, iiiii. 

Reverence will not eafily allow of the innocent fa- 
miliarity that is requifite in love, iii. 260. [iv, 46]. 

What a remembrancer is the heart in a Love- cafe ! 
Not a cxrcumftance efcapes it, iii. 260. [iv. 60]. 

If a woman loves a man for his merit oniy, may (he' 
not love merits equally great in another, and even ift 
one of herownfex ? iii. 275. [iv. 61 ]• 

True Love makes every taik eafy, eyery burthen 
light, iii. 332, [iv. II 8J. 

Yonng people often, in compliment to their own un<- 
derftandings, perfevere in a iirll flame, which ought to 
he difcouraKed, itid. 

Love gilds every objedt that bears a relation to the' 
obje^ beloved, iv. 27. [199]. 

There is, fays Lady G, a great deal of free-mafonry 
in Love-: The^fecret, likrthat, when found out, is hardly 
worth the knowing [The Paphian Love (he muft mean] 
iv. 84. [256]. 

Lov9» however, at beO:, is a flame founded on a but 
fnppofed merit. The proof may be wanting in matri* 
2nony» iv. 203. [t. 74]. 

. Whu^'isT that Love wKi«h we women, /ays Lady G* 
▼ow at the altiir ? Surely not adoration, iv. 246* [▼. 

P t Not 

3,r6 Sentiments, &c, extraB^dfrom 

Not a preference of that objed abfolutely, as in ex- 
cellence fuperior to every imaginable being, - iv. 246. 
[v. 117]. 

Nq more, furely, in moft cafes, than fach a pre- 
ferable choice (all circumflances coniidered) as (hall make 
a woman with fatisfa^ion of mind, and with an affe&ion- 
ate and faithful heart, unite herfelf for life with a maa 
fhe efteems, ibid. 

Who fhe thinks is no difagreeable companion; but 
defer ves her grateful regard, ibid. 

That his interefl, from thenceforth, fhould be her own ; 
and his h^ppinefs her iiudy, ibid* 

And is not this very coniiilent with feeing and pitying, 
in this partner of her life, fuch imperfedlions as make 
Ivim evidently the inferior of angels? ibid, 

Difappoinment in Love may operate in different minds 
different ways, iv. 258. [v* 129]. 

Young women often go on courageoufly with a Lover, 
while the end in view is diftant, or there have been dif- 
ficulties to encounter with, iv. 261. [▼. 132]. 

But when thofe difhculties are overcome, and they 
liave climbed the hill they toiled up, they often look about 
them with fear as fljong as their hope, ibid. 

The controul of thofe we truly love, is freedom, iv. 
395. [v. 266]. 

How fweet is the afHance which a woman has in the 
declaration of a man of principle, whom fhe loves ! v. 
51. [vi. 29]. 

Love-matches, Ladf G, /ays, are generally foolifh 
diiDgs, v. 65. [vi. 43]. 

Violent Love on one fide, is enough in confcience* if 
tiie other party be net a fool, or in grateful, ibid. 

The wall-climbers, the hedge, and ditch-leapers, the 
river-forders, the window- droppers, always find reafon 
to think it fo, ibid. 

Who ever, proceeds Jbe^ hears of darts, flames^ cupids, 
venus*s, and fuch fort of nonfenfe, in matrimony ? 
■ ibid. 

PafTion is tranfitory ; but difcretion, that never bosb 
over, givds durable happinefs, ibid. 

Love, merely perfonal, fiiat fort which commences 


the Hifiary of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 3 17 

between the age of fifteen and twenty, and where there 
is no extraordinary merit in the obje^, may, and gene- 
rally oaght to be fabdued, v. 67. [vi. 45]. 

What tumults, what a contrariety of pafHons break 
the tranqaility of the woman who yields up her heart to 
Love ! [The more, as cuftom has made the man eii* 
tire mailer of the'^queftion, and the woman can but 
follow as he thinks fit to lead] v. 88. [vi. 66]. 

A man of ienfis, in Love, will preferve his dignitv ; 
yet, for his own fake, will give/confequence to the 
lady, whom he one day hopes to call his wife^ v. 135. 
[vi. III]., 

Love will plead for its votary in a fingle bread, when 
confultation on the fuppofed fit and unfit (the objefl ab- 
fent) will . produce delay , v. i68. [vi. 146]. 

A little cold water will quench a beginning flame in 
a young perfon ; or, if it do not, its blaze may b^e di- 
rected by prudent management to another and more pro« 
per object, v. 184. [vi. 162]. 

Love on one fide, difcretion on the other, is much 
better than love on both ; iince in the latter cafe, if the 
Lov« be of the ufual giddy fort, there can be no jpoori 
at all for difcretion, v. 186. [vi. 164]. 

Love ever makes a woman think meanly of herfelf, 
in propoKion as ihe thinks highly of theobjed, v. 196. 
£vi. 174]. 

It is a drcumfiance to be wiihed for, in a Love-aiFair» 
that the affe^ion of the man (hould be firil engaged » 
vi. 38. [vii. 58]. 

A man of honour, who is^ not difengaged himfelf, 
will be veiry careful of engaging the afFed^ions of a youn^ 
woman, vi. 39. [vii. 39J. 

What a fad gradation is there in that Love, whicbt 
tho' begun in hopelefnefs of fucce^ding, rii'es by felf- 
Aattery, to a poflibility, then to probability, and to 
hope; and, iinking again to hopelefnefs, ends in de- 
fpair, vi. 137; [vii. 137]. 

Reafon and duty will give a preference in the afF^dion 
of a prudent woman, to the man« who is moft fuitabk 
to her, vi. 202. [vii. 202]. 

P 3 Efteepi, 

3^8 'Sentiments, .^c. ^xtraStid ftom 

Efleem, heightened by gratitade, and enforced' by 
duty, will foon ripen into Love^ vi. 204. fvii. 204]. 

A tender, a faithful affedlion, is the only fort of Love 
ihatTuits this imperfed ftate, ibid. 

There is a fuperior ardor that is due only to fepreme 
perfedtion^ vi. 205. [vii. 205]. 

Love, authorized by reafonable profpefis, and guided 
and heightened by dut^, is every-thing excellent that 
.poets have faid of it, vi. 208. [vii. 208]. 

Yet, even this Love mud fubmit to the awfnl difpen- 
fations of Providence, whether of death or other difap- 
pointment, ibid. 

Such trials ought to be met with chearful refignation, 
and not to be the means of embittering our lives> or of 
rendering them ufelefs, ibidj 

Love is a paffion that is oftener the caufe of mean- 
.ncfs, than of laudable greatncfs, vi. 251. [vii. 251]. 
4^ .Advice ,«»/ Cautions to Women. Compliments. 
Daughters. Delicacy. Example. Fancy. Pe- 
nalities. Female Dignity Franknefs of Heurt, 
iGfsperoilty. .Girls. Good Man. Good Wifi. 
H^(bar>d a^ndWifi* Libertines. , Lover. Love 
^t firft Sight. Firft tonfe. Difmiffion of a Lover. 
l4Arnages. Clandeftine Marriages. Modefty. 
Parents and Childnen. P^rfoafion. Prudence. 
Proteilations. Politenefs. Signs ^I>v^. Single 
Wopiw. Seduction. Vincibmty of-Loivi. 

Love at firft Sight. Cupidity. Paphian Love. 

None but the giddy Love at firft Sight, i. 4$. 106. 

Love, proftitttted name ? is often made a cover for all 
ads of violence, indifcretion, folly, i. 582. [ii. 67]. 

Poor paffion would be aihamed to fee the fun, were 
.difcretion only to be attended to by lovers, ii- 5S« [154]* 

Conftancy, in the language of loven, too often means 
only the facrifice of filial duty to the addreffes of a man 
x).f inferior merit ; and who aims to eftabliih himfelf on a 
young woman's credulity, ii. 71. [172]. 

Loy^ at firft Sight muft indicate a mind prepared for 
Impreftion, iii, 358. [iv. 144]. It* 

ikdti^i^fy of Sir Ch: Grandison. 3:19 

It 18 generally a fadden gufl of pafiion, and that of 
the ignobleft kind ; fince it affords not an opportunity of 
knowing the merit of the objeft, ihiJ. 

What -modctl woman would have herfelf foppofed 
capable of fuch a tindery fit ? iii. 358. [iv. r44}. 

in a man, it is an indelicate paroxyfm : But in a ivomati 
who expe6ts>^F€yte£lion and iixftru£)4on iVom -a huiband, 
much more fo, ibid. 

Love at firft, may be oxHy fancy : Such a young 
Love may be eafily given up, and eug^, to a parent's 
judgment, /^/V. 

The woman who falls in Love ut fit& Sight, were 
the man to be a Solomon, cannot have his merit or mind 
for her inducement, iv. 2J2. [v. 123]. 

Bars, bolts, waMs, rivers, feas, will no more hofd 
the fupercilious than the lefs referved, when flung with 
• the paffion mifcalled Love, iv. 39r. [y/262]. 

Love, as it is called by boys and girls. Jays Lady G» 

(hall ever 'be the fubje£t of my ridicule. Does it not 

lead us eirls into all manner of iticonveniencies, un- 

dutifuhlclrcs, difgraces, abfupdities ?-i— Vilhinons Cupl- 

'dity 1 irdoes, V. ii'8. [vi. 96]. 

The parturient circumftances are humbling and awful 
' ones, /ays Lady G. and yet, with fuch profpedls, dd fome 
girls leap rivers, xlimb walls, &c. v. 311. [vi. 289]. 

What, /ayj Lady G. is "die ftuiF, the nonfenic, that ro- 
'mantic girls prate about, and din our ears with, of /rfi 
Love J ^rfi Fhime,hvLtfrfi Folly P v. 354. [vi. 332]. 

Do not moft of fuch give indication of gunpowder 
conftitutions, whibh want but the matth to be applied, to 
fet them in a. blaze ? i'bid, 

Soixh of tinder ; difcretions of flimfy gauze, 'which 
conceal not their folly, ihtd. 

One day, adds 'this Lady, [who intends, by the free- 
doms fhe takes with her iex, both inftruftibn and warn- 
ing, and to infpirc in them a generous fliamc] they will 
think as I do ; and perhaps before they have daughters^ 
who will convince them of the truth of my affertions, ibid. 

Abhorred be that Love, fays Sir Charles Gnmdifm^ 
which is pleaded in excufe for any extravagant, unduti- 
fal> or unnatural condud, or aflion, vi. 252. [vii. 252]. 

P 4 What 

320 Sentiments, &c. extraSled from 

What is the inclemency of feafon ; what are winds) 
mount^ins^ f^as, to a woman who has fet her heart on 
an adventure ? vi. 276. [vii. 276]. 

See Daughters. Delicacy. Fancy. Femalities. 
Girls. Libertines. Love. C/andefiineMiTrisLgjes. 
Modcfty. Parents ami Children, Proteilations. 
Single Women. Vincibility of Lofve. 

Firji Love, 

First Love is generall) firft folly, ii. 57. [1 583. 
Wife and experienced people will not allow of that 
facrednefs which young people are apt to imagine in a 
Firft L(yve, iv. 245. [v. 116]. 

The woman narrows her own ufe and confequence, 
who refolves, if fhe have not her Firft Love, never to 
marry? vi. 214. [vii. 214]. 

Few women have their Firft Loves, vi, 213. [vii. 

Few Firft Loves are fit to be encouraged, ibiJ, 
For example. A young woman may £x her afFedions 
on a man who may prove perfidious, vi. 214. [vii. 214]. 
On a man who may be engaged to another woman, 

On a married man, not kncujing him^ in her hafij ft, 
to he Jo i or, i/Lcve he an irreffiihle fajjion^ knonu* 
ing him to ha^ve a nxiife. 
On a man who may be fuperior to her in degree or 
fortune, of whom fhe can have no hope, ihid. 

Or on one who may be greatly inferior to her in both ; 
an hoftler, a groom, a coachman, a footmaa ; a grena- 
dier, a trooper, a foot- fold ier, ibid. 

Her Lover may be taken from her by death, ibid. 
Do we^find many of thefe conftant nymphs, ajks Lady 
G. when they have had their foolifh way given them, 
as to a firft ftame, and they have happened to bury the 
man of whom they were Jo dotingly fond, refufe to mar- 
ry again ? ibid. 

No, fays fie ; They have had their whimfy put : Their 
fit of conftancy is over ; and they go on without ranti . 
pcling, in the ordinary courfe of reafonable creatiires, 


rf Ce/^'"''''- J^^^.?^y- Parents WCfeV^r.;!. 

to^'^'^x Lover. 

-r^^^^deA "^^ cpnjPetition, feldom prefer a whining 
12?*^^ i , "%^5/^''«^^"^g i-over will make a tyrant 

r 5 ^^^^;* J. 37- [/^V/] 
"•-overs u/li/^ «1:. .i!-_. -* 

Ci^^-Lr^'^ ^et n, F'^^ *^® 0^ ofe to a Lover, to enable 
^J. over the flights of a beloved, objeft, i. 276. 

l'^/^?*8:e tJ,!^?* *"*** ^^^^ not to have great qualities 
^ J. ^e jicarts of the generality of women, i. 500. 

^f \L ^av ^' '''^^ " Aandfome, and is a man of vi- 
«>^e. tK^^^e^ r^^^ where he pleafes, i^iV. 

^f ^« Of of ^^'^ S*"^'^ ^" difcovering the beginning 

CoiT^^^^iice. Ik" T^^ P^y ^^^''" ^^^^ '•a^^^r ^y external 
Q ^§ed 7 **^ interior worth, ought not to be en- 

j«6^ §eu ^''^' ^J^ Myi^MJkS fi'om the temptation, ii. 4. 

;l ^^^^^I ^^.''i.^over will bind, himfclf, but leave the ob- 

/^<, .fkt^ ''^not pvi^. «fc young woman upon doing 
obiL^^b^^ '^^^^e^ i^ :«-^ipea her filial duty or her 

^S^^^ in^^U?^'"'> i/" ^« :fi*id fufpenfc painful to the 

llZ^\h!Hr' ^i^t^ 3t>3^ aa explicit declaration, put 

W ^^kP^^cr of' -tm^ex-, whofe honour and deU- 

*ou>^fe J ^'earcr Cr<:> Jl^^m than his own, ii. 203 

• No>4|'^co»c^«^:«-:«^<3, the hearts of Lowers, 
W>orl€i «:^c=»^ «=:^<::i other, ii. 209. [3 ^^ J. 

^^iU a^.C'cM. s:m^ ark to thi^k of any woman 


3f ft Sentiments, Sec. t^traSeifnm 

fdyr a wife, who balances ia hcjr cboice of hiqA, or an- 
other man, ii. 211. [312]. 

Womens objections to a Lovef are fometimea fo ilight, 
as make it evident they wi(h to have them obviated, 
ii. 218. [319]. 

The Lover may fhine ont in an addrefs to a beloved 
objeA, yet the man may not be forgotten, iii». 52. [21 2]. 

Lovers, in fome cafes, are die weakeft people in 
the world, iii. 75. [235]. 

It is difficalt for a Lover, talking to a fecond perlbn, 
to be iincere, iii. 86. [246]. 

In Lovers abfences, the face of the meaneft fervant 
of the beloved objed gives joy to the other, iii. 114. 

The ielf-confeqaence of a Lover is either heightened or 
lowered, as he is, or is not, encouraged, iii, 156. [316]. 

Modefly in a Lover enables a bafhfiil woman to be* 
have before him with eitfe, and (as may be fiud) with 
feCt^-ity* in the confciottfnefs of a right intention, iii. 328; 
[iv. 114]. 

The man whom a lady may fafely encourage with a 
view to happinefs, is he who is diilingaiihed by the gen- 
tlenefs of his manners, by the evcandfs of his temper ; 
by his general defire to oblige ; iv. 42. [21 4], 

Lovers labouring under difficukiea. will look back, to 
the beginning fervors of the pafiion (when not . any of 
thofe difficulties were forefepn) as thehappieft days of 
their lives, iv. 311. [v. 182]. 

Thus Liuiy ClctMintina often ncolUBs ^wiih diUgbtf the 
happy time *whenjhe was /earning of her iWr. GroM' 
M/on tht EngRfo tongne. 

In a great difappoiDtment, a Lover is 4i^Stfis|ed with 
himfelf, perhaps he knows not why; wants fomebody 
to accufe, but Hardly can blame, even if faulty, the be« 
loved objeA, iv. 312. [v. 183]. 

How few women are there, who, for one reafoa or 
.other, have the man of their choice ? It is well there- 
fore, that the paflion of Love is vincible, v. 67. [vi. 


A lady will often defend an arraigned Lover in his 

abfence, for faults which flie in her heart condemns him 

for, V. 91. [vi. 69]. Such 

tbi Hijhry of SirCn. GRAtrDisoN. ^23 

Such a one, if belovod, ihould, for his own fake, be 
-moderate in his requeib, in order to leave to her the 
merit and pleafnre of obHg^ng him beyond his expedta*- 
tion, V. 279. [vi. 257]. 

WlieK a hfjvet &as had former engagements^ the* 
they took not place, a fecogd miftrefs will, on the leaft 
occaficto, appreliend a fl^ht/tito* none may be intended,. 
V. 201. [vi. 1793, 

A woman ought not to be fiiy of giving conieqaence 
to a man, who, through delicacy, ailames not any, from 
her filent tendernefs for him, v. 243^. [vL 22iJ« 

A fervent Lover will have the whole heart of the be* 
loved objed, in the gratrt of every requeft he makes ta 
her, or will 4:hearfully give up his will to her, v. 278.- 
[vi. 2c6J. 

See Advice ami CihrtSons to W^men, Compliments. 
Delicacy. Fancy. Female Dignity^ Libertines. 
Love. £kmiefiine Marriages. Modefty. Pa- 
rents and Children. Prudence. Yincibility 9/ 

. Difmffim or Refufal of a Lover. 

How excellent, in a Love cafe, mull the repulfer be, 
how eenerous the repulfed, when the latter can find no 
fault in die former, to comfort himfelf with, on his dif* 
miHion! i. 108. 124. [ibid"]. 

The man who addreffes a woman for her confent, 
has no right to be difpleafed with her for refufing him. 
Is {he notmiftrefs of theque^on ? i. 131. 157. [/?/V], 

A young woman's refufal of a propofal of marriag?; 
that is apparently unexceptionable, is a ftrong fign of 
prepoiTei&on, ii. 14. iii. 51. [ii. 115. iii. 21 x]. 

Courteoufnefs mingled with dignity, obtains refpefl^ 
even for the refufer of a requeft, ii. 17. [i 1 8]. 

Many perfons have found an ardor when repulfed, 
which they would never have .known had they fuc- 
ceeded, ii. 386. [iii. 130]. 

A generous man will rather wifh to recei*ve a repulfe, 
where a lady's honour and delicacy is concerned, than 
to be obliged to give it, iii. 93. 97. [253. 257]. 

• P 6 DeliaU 

324 Sentiments, &c. extraStdfrom 

Delicate minds have many ways by which to exprefs 
denial, iv. 363. fv. 234]. 

A lady who always avowed her love, who had no 
uncertainty to contend with, yet, fpontaneouily thinking 
it proper to change her mind, is likely |o adhere to her 
refolution, v. 7. [278]. 

Ferfeverance in a reje£led Lover, after the lady has 
ran thro' her circle of humble fervants, and found her* 
felf difappointed in her own views, has often been 
crowned with faccefs, vi. 119. [vii. 119]. 
See Love. Lover. 

. . M. 

Magnanimity. Spirit. Fortitude* 

Men of true courage do not threaten, i. 289. [thid'i. 

Honeft policy, as well as true greatnefs of mind, re- 
commends that noble do£irine of returning good for 
evil, ii. 57. [ijS]. 

Creatnefs of foul, and goodnefs, are infeparable, ii. 
126. [225]. 

A brave and good man will declare his mind to a 
prince, were he called upon to do it, and if he were 
likely to do good by his boneft freedom, ii. 319. [iii. 


What greater Magnanimity can be (hewn by mortal, 

than by a woman of fenfe, who having been prevailed 

upon to marry, to her diflike, a man who proves to be 

of fordid manners, and a tyrant, and deeply fenfi^le of 

her unhappinefs ; yet irreproachably and meekly bears 

her part otthe yoke laid upon her f ii. 321. [iii. 65]. 

A good man will not palliate the faults of a falkn 
perfon ; yet he >vill not fuffer his zeal for virtue to caufe 
him to infult an objeA in diftrefs, ii. 327. [iii. 71]. 

What a roble mind is his, who having been rendered 
vnhappy in his own affairs, can give himfelf joy in pro- 
moting the felicity of others ! iii. 8. [168]. 

A great heart undervalued, will fwell. It will be pat 
perhaps upon o«v^r- valuing itfelf, iii. 163. [323], 

Infolence from a great man, a rich man, or a foldier, 
is a cdl upon a man of Spirit to aflert himfelf, iii. 173. 
f333]- Tkc 

ibe Hiftvry of Sir Ch. Grandison. 325 

The greateft triumph a man can obtain, is to fabdae 
his own paflions, iii. i8i. [341]. 

Silence on the contempt of an infolent perfon, may, 
in fome cafes, be tliought fubfcribing to the jaftice of 
that contempt, HU. 

A man of Spirit cannot be offended at a man exert- 
ing Spirit on proper occafion, without leileniag himfelf, 
iii. 183. [343]. 

It is difficalt, bat very laudable, for fafFerers to aA 
with Spirit and Temper at the fame time, ihiii. 

Difappointment in Love is one of thofe cafes in which 
a woman cauLihew fortitude, iii. 215. [iv. i]. 

A man cannot complidn, .cannot afk for compaffion, 
as a woman can, iii. 383. [iv. 16^]. 

Women, for the honour of their fex, in which their 
own is included, ihould not rally and ridicule a woman 
in love, iv. 57. [iv. 229]. 

A man of true Spirit will not be foHcitous to enter 
into a family that thinks meanly of him ; nor will he 
feek to fubje£t the woman he loves to the contempt 
of her own relations, iv. 129. 327. [iv. 301. v. 198]. 

A weak man made a tyrant, is an infupportable crea- 
ture, iv. 205. [v. 76]. 

Women love not to be fufpedled. Oppoiition arifes 
firom fufpicion and contradi^ion, iv. 272. [v. i43][. 

A good man n»ay bend beneath a heavy weight, 
when It is firft laid upon him ; but if he cannot relieve 
himfelf from it, or finds he ought to bear it, he will 
endeavour to colled his whole fbensth, and make him- 
felf eafy under it,* iv. 321. [v. 1 92 J. 

A noble heart, however difappointed, will not ftoop 
to artifice and contrivance, in order to engage pity, 
iv. 323. [v. 194]. 

The noble heart, on a difappointment, not given up 
to unmanly defpair, will lay hold of the next good to 
that it has loft, iv, 3«8. [v. 209]. 

Great niinds are abdve being governed by pundlilious 
forms, where decorum is not negleded, v. 104. [vK 


Stg Beneficence. Example. Good Mom, Good 
PFi/e, or IFoman. MoitStjr. 


^26 SeodmentSL &c. exsraffedjr^m 

Mah ^ HowouR.. £«f Good Mtfff. 


PAMiLi&a are litde communities. There are but 
few folid friendihips out of them. They make op wor- 
thily, and help to fecore, the great community of which 
they are fo many miniatures^ i. a8. [i^]. 

A religious education is the beft fecority for the per* 
formance of the matrimonial duties* i. 36. [i^V]. 

Weak men of high fortunes, ihould not marry either 
for beauty or wit ; but feek lor a woman of humble 
views, who would think herfelf r^iaid, by his fortime, 
the obligation flie would lay him under by her accept- 
ance of him» i. 53. [i^/V]. 

The woman who marries a man to get rid of his im« 
portunity, falls upon an wid, but perhaps y^/, expedient 
i. 83. [/^/V]. 

ToHfig people of fmall or no fortunes, ftould not be 
difcouraged from marrying, i. 133. [i&V]. 

Marriage is the higheft Sate of Friendihip that mwtals 
can know, i. a eg. [1^]. 

£<uiality of fortune and degree, tho* not abfolntely 
neceflary to matrimonial felicity, is, however, a dr- 
can^ance not to be flighted, i. 309. [iM}. 

The kind, but not oftentatious regard which a man 
and wife pay to each other, are equally creditable to 
themfelves, and to the married ilate, i. 32S. [ii..i3]. 

Marriage is a duty, whenever it can be entered into 
widi prudence, ii. 19. vi. 223.- [ii. 120. vii. 223]. 

It is a ftate that binds a man and woman together by 
intereft^ as well hs afieflion, ii. 324. [iii. 68]. 

Infirmity requires indulgence : In the very nature of 
the word and thing, indulgence cannot exift with fervility. 
Between equals, as man and wife, either of them ill, it 
may^ ii. 339. [iii. 83]. 

Who can enough value the joy, die tranquillity of 
mind, that refults from mutual confidence? ii. 340. 

[iii. 843. 

Womens fphere is the houfe, and their fliining-plaoe 
the iick chamber, in which they can exert aU their 
amiable, their lenient qualities, iiuf^ 


tymjl^ of &V Ch. Gr andiscw. 327 

A man ^ves confc^uence to (he woman he marries, 
and finds his own increjifed in the refpedt paid ^ her, 
ii. 340. [iii. 84]. 

They are not the ftrUdng, dazlins qualities in men 
and women, that make happy in Marriage, ii. 399. 

Good fenfe, f<did jadgment, a natural complacency x>f 
temper, a defire of obliging, ajnd an eafiaefs to be obliged, 
procure the iilent and ferene happinefs in wedlock, to 
which the tumultuous fervors of paflioa coatribttte not, 

Men and women, admired by every one, and adjmro* 
iag each other, before Marriage, tho' neither of them 
unworthy, may not be happy in it,- ii. 400. [iii. 144]. 

Some ladies, co be boneft to iSieir matrimonial engage- 
mim^j fliQuld condition with their men, to exchange 
vows with them at the altar, ii. 403. [iii. 147]. 

The married man, who is known to love his quiet, 
will often find it difficult to l>e the mafter of his family, 
ii. 404. [iii. 148]. 

Confidbration is not always a fdend to wedlock, iii. 
334. [iv. 903. 

Thofe who marry for convenience, and deal honeftly 
with each other, are moft likely to be happy in Mar* 
l-iaw, iii. ^23. [iv. 109]. 

The woman who marries the man to whom fhe is inr 
difFereot, if fhe prefer no other to him, may be npon a 
par with eight women out of twelve who marry, yet 
make not bad wives, iii. 343. [iv. 129]. 

In the wedded life, more obedience is fometimes 
pra£tifed by the party who vow^d it not, than by the 
party who did, iii. 344. [iv< 130]. 

Convenience, when it is made a motive to Marriage^ 
will hold out its comforts, when a gratified love is eva* 
porated, iv. 9$. [267]. 

The happinefs of a married pur will not be proved 
under a year, two, or three ; fince Love, which^ may be 
the inducement to the parties to enter into the flate, does 
not always ripen into Friendihip ; to do which, the merits 
of each muft appear on full proof to the other, iv. 203. 


328 Sentiments, Sec. exf raffed from 

A woman who has not prudence^ fhould not many a 
man of lefs. underilanding than herfelf, iv. 255. [v. 

A foft man and a faucy woman, Lai^ G. /ays, are 
bcft matched for happinefs, v. 4, 5. [275, 276]; 

The man, J^e nuhimfically addsy ought to be meek and 
humble, who will not let the woman be quiet till {he be 
his [yet knows her indifference to him] v. 5. [276]. " 

Great inconvenjencies muft generally attend a mar- 
riage between perfons of different perfuaiions, one of 
them zealousy the other not indiflerent, iv. 304. [y, 

A lady politely treated, and politely returning the 
treatment^ in coortfhip, will not, when love is heightened 
by doty, and the obligation is doubled, be lefs deferring 
than before, of the polite affection of the hufband, 
V. 286* [vi. 264]. 

The daughterly, the fiflerly, duties of a young woman 
are ftrengthened, not weakened, by Marriage, v. 371. 

[vi. 349]- 

Happy are thofe Marries, which give as much joy 

to the relations on both fides, as to the parties themfelves, 

vi. 127. [vii. 127]. 

Early Marriages, as well for the fake of ih^ parties, 

as for that of pofterity, are by no means to be encouraged, 

Yoang people, moreover, fhould be allowed time to 
look about them, th^t they may not repent of the choice 
made for them, ibid. 

Marriage is a flate that is attended with fo much care 
and trouble, that it, is a kind of faulty indulgence and 
felEihnefs to live fingle, in order to avoid the difficulties 
it is attended w&h, ibid^ 

See Advice and Cautions to Women, Good IF(/K 
Hufband and Wife. Love. Marriage. Matri- 
monial Bickerings, Parents and Cbitdrin. Pra- 
dence. Single Women* Widows. 


the Hiftory of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 329 

Marriage in advanced Tears ^ and with an In- 
equality as to Age. 

Men in years, and labouring under infirmities, are 
far more excufable for marrying a young woman, than 
a woman in years is for marrying a youtfg man, ii. 340. 
[iii. 84]. 

The difference arifes from the tendernefs and hclp- 
fulnefs of women in their attendance on a fick or infirm 
hufband : While male-nurfes are unnatural' charaders, 

The man in years, who has no children to repine at a 
mother-in-law, and to vex him by little jealoufies arifing 
from a contrariety of interefts and views ; who is weakly, 
and often indifpofed ; may marry without impeachment 
of his prudence, ibid. 

Nor would his relations be worthy of his kindnefs,who, 
for felfifti views, would wiih to continue him in mean 
hands, rob him of the joys of confidence, and the 
comfort of tender help from an equal, or one dcferving 
to be made fo, ibiJ. ^ 

Such a man has only to take care fo to marry, as not 
to defeat his own end j not with a gay woman who will 
be fluttering about in public, while he is groaning in his 
cllamber, amd wilhing for her prefcnce, ibid. 

If he be a man of family and fortune ; lie (hould not 
aim at a fortune with her : She (hould be a gentlewoman 
by birth and education : Of a ferlous [but not melan- 
choly] temper : Not a girl as to years ; yet, if he has 
no children, not pafl the probability of bringing him aft 
heir [which would add to their mutual good underftand- 

ing] n. 34»- [iii- 85]. 

She ought to be one who has been acquainted with 
afRidlion. Muft confider her Marriage with him, as an 
a6l both of condefcenfion in herfeljf, and preferment, 
ii. 387. [iii.. 131]. 

Her tendernefs will, by this means, be engaged, and; 
her dignity fupported, ibid. 

350 Sentiments, &c. extra^ed from 

A woman for her morality's fake, ought not to marry 
a man in years in hopes of his death, iii. 2jo. [iv. 16]. 

If a woman has but the fhadow of a doubt, whether 
file can behave in Marriage with condcfcenfion and in- 
dulgence to a man of unequal ye2u*s» ihe ought not to 
be temptedy by the moft advantageous propouls, to ac- 
cept of him, iiiii, 

Clandejiine Marriages. Inferior Marriages* 



A WOMAN who marries beneath herfelf, muft expert 
to be rejedted, fcorned for one while, if not for ever^ by 
her natural friends, ii. 168. [269]. 

What right has a daughter to eive to her father and 
mother a fon, to her brothers and lifters' a brother, to 
whom they are averfe ? ibid. 

Have, not they at leaft as good a right to rejedl him 
for their relation, as (he had to chooie him for her 
hufband? ibid* 

The woman who marrie& a man of mean underhand ing, 
as well as of mean birch and fortunci muft bluih at every 
civility paid him in her own family, ii. 184. [285]. 

While he, perhaps, will have the higher opinion of 
himfelf, for their very civilities, and for having facceeded 
with her, ibid. 

Inferior men, and Fortune-hunters, now find an eafy 
introdudlion to women of fortune, at public places, 
Si. 268. [iii. 12]. 

A woman of the greateft fortune is but a woman, 
and is to be attacked and prevailed upon by the fame 
methods, which fucceed with one of the ilendereft, ii. 268. 
[iii. 12, 13]. 

And perhaps is won with equal, if not with greater 
eafe; fince, if Ihe have a romantic turn, and the man a 
great deal of art and flattery, ihe will mifcall that turn 
generofity ; and, fuppoiing (he can lay a lover n^ider obli- 
gation, will meet him her full half way, ii. 268, 269. 

fiii. 13]. 

Hoiv neceffary is it then^ for parents or guardians, to 

ha<u€ a 'watchful eye over their nuards and daughters 

ibeH^<fry of^trCn. Grandison. 331 

ef rank and fortune ; tbs rather^ as Fortuni-hunters 
are generally the mofi un^worthy of men. 
In the addrefs of a man of fmall fortune, to a woman 
^f great, his love may well be fnfpefted, ii. 269. [iii. 

See Advice to PTomen, Daughters. Fancy. Female 
Dignity. Femalities. Girls. Libertines. Love 
at firft Sight. Firf Love. Modefty. Parents 
and Children. Prudence. Proteflations. Single 
Women, Vincibility of Love, 

Marriage Treaties. Settlements. 

Marriage Settlements ought not to be made fo 
large^ as to. make a wife ii\dependent of her hufband, and 
to put it out of his power, with difcrction, to engage her 
gratitude by his generofity, iv. 194. [v. 65]. 

The hearts of young women are apt, unjufiy^ to rile 
againft the notions of bargain and fale, as fome phrafe 
it, in a Matrimonial Treaty, v. 62. [vi. 40]. 

The reproach of Srnithfield bargains, in a Marriage 
contra£l» is an .odium call upon prudence, princjpaU/ 
by thofe, who .wKh a young woman to enqourage aclaa- 
deiline and unec^ual addreU, ibid. 

But Jhould not the flagrant felfjhnefs of fuch he /<- 
nitrated ; fince they can mean nothing hut their omon 
intereftt at the viry time they ^would have a young 
ivoman fay no regard to hen ? 

Previous ftipulations are furely indifpenfili^le ^provifioos 
among us chai\geable mortals, however promiiing tlie 
fun&ine may be at fetting out, v. 62. [vi. 40]. 

A man, whofe propofals of Marriage are unexception- 
able, (hould be (pared the indelicacy of aikii\g queftioas 
as to fortune, v, 71. [vi. 49]. 

Generofity requires not, of even a generous man, that 
in a Treaty of Marriage, fince- the intereft of himfeif 
and his wife will be one, that he fhould ipake a compli- 
ment to his aflfe^ion, by giving up her natural right % 
efpecially if there be no one of her family in low circum- 
ftances, v. 73, 74. [vi. 51, C2]. 

A prudent lover will not be either romantic or often- 


33^ Sentiments, &c. ixtraStd from 

tatioas. He will be as glad to follow, as to fet, a good 
example, v. 74, 75. [vi. 52, 53]. 

If the lady*s fortune be an afcertalned one, and he in 
eafy circumftances, be will not accept of contributions 
from fuch of her friends, as are not the neareft to her 
in relation, and who have others who (land in an equal 
degree of proximity to them, to make it up, ibid* 

Marriage Propofals. 

T H fe R E never was a Treaty of Marriage fet on foot, 
that carried not its copveniencies and inconveniencies, in 
the face of it, iii. 229. [iv. 15]. 

A polite and good man will not make a propofal to a 
lady in behalf of a friend, which, for the fake of her fex, 
has not her honour and dignity for its firft objeft, ihid. 

A perfon who has a right to choofe, ought not to in- 
cur difpleafure for making ufe of it, thU, 

Explicitnefs in every cafe becomes the propofer, iii. 
230. [iv. 16]. 

A man of llri£t honour, propoling an advantageous 
alliance, will not feek flrongly to attach the friends of 
the young lady in favour of his propofal, till he know 
her mind, left he impofe a difficulty upon her, that nei- 
ther for her own fake, or the man*s, ought to be laid, 

A declared, and not unreafoiiable averfion, (bould not 
be attempted to be overcome, iii. 231. [iv. 17]. 

A generous propofer will, in cafe of a reafonable op- 
pofition to his propofal, be an advocate for the perfon 
refuiing, rather than the perfuader, ibid 

It is an indelicacy hafttly to urge a modeft woman for 
an affirmative to a propofal of Marriage, when (lie has 
received it without giving a negative, iiid, 

A lady's confent is enough implied in an early pro- 
pofal, if fhe declare herfelf difengaged, and refer her- 
felf to her friends, ibid. 

Matters. Miftrefles. Servants. 

Masters and Miib'efies are anfwerable for the cha- 
racter, and even for the behaviour^ of their domefiics, i. 
*3- Ubid]. 


the Hiftory of Sir Ch. Grantjisom. 333 

Wages to a good Servant are not to be flood upon, 
i. 134. [ibid]. 

An honeft Seivant fhoold be enabled to lay up for age 
and infirmity, ibid. 

What has not a Mafler to anfwer for, who. puts a 
fervant on a wicked action ? i. 238. {ihid\. 

By the behaviour of Mafters and Servants to each 
other, the good and bad qualities of each may be judged 
of, i. 321, 322. ii. 302, 303. [ii. 6, 7. iii. 46^47. 49]. 

Servants are as fenfible as Mafters and Miflrefles. 
They fpeak to their feelings, ii. 302. [iii-. 46]. 

Servants, when they find themfelves of uf6, will not 
be always Servants, ii. 339. [iii. 83]. 

A man of honour will not accept of intelligence from 
another pcrfon's Servants, tho' to ferve himfelf, iii. 157. 


A man, to have good Servants, will treat them as nc- 

ceffary parts of his tapiily, iii. 352. [iv. 138]. 

He will not entruil fecrets to them, the keeping or 
difclofmg of which, might make them of importance to 
him : 

He will give them no bad example : 

He will not be angry with them but for wilful faults : 

If thofe are not habitual, he will fhame them into 
amendment, by gentle expollulation and forgivenefs : 

If they are not capable of generous fhame, and the 
fault be repeated, he will part with them ; but with fuch 
kindnefs, as will caufe their fellow-fervants to blame 
them, and take warning : 

He will be fond of occafipns to praife them : 

Even when they*miflake, if it be with a good inten- 
tion, they will have his approbation of thaty and endea- 
vours to fet them right as to the a£t : 

He vrill make fobriety an indifpenfable qualification 
for his fervice : 

He will infift upon his Servants being kin^ and com- 
paffionate to one another : 

And, as a compaiTionate heart cannot be habitually an 
unjaft one, he will by this means make their good-na-^ 
tore concribttte as well to his fecurity as quiejL 


334 Sentiment3i &c. t^Una^edfrom 

Generally fpeaking, a Mailer may make a Servant 
what he pleafes. Hi. 352. [iv. 138]. 

Servants judge by example, rather than by precept ; 
and almoft always by their feelings, ibid. 

The moft insupportable of all dominion, is that of 
Servants j iv. 223. [v. 94]. 

A truly religious Servant, of whatever perfaailon, 
cannot be a bad one, iv. 224. [v. 95]. 

A good Mailer, if his Servants live bat up to their 
own profeffions, will indulge them in all reafonable op- 
pbrtunities of purfuing the di£kates of their own con- 
iciences, ibid. 

The worthinefs of a man will be frequently known by 
his kindnefs to his domeilics,^ and by their general good 
behaviour and civility, v. 81. [vi. 59]. 

Mailers Ifind it their intereil, as well as duty, to pro* 
mote family devotion among dieir Servants, vi. 32. 
[vii. 32]. 

See Example. Generoiity. Good Man. Magna- 

Matrimonial Bickerings. 

Few women, in a Matrimonial Debate, have reafon 
to lay all the fault at the hufband's door, iii. 242. [iv. 

What fooliih things are the quarrels of married peo- 
ple ! Since they muil come to an agreement again s and 
the fooner the better, before hard blows are ftracJc, that 
will leave marks, ibid. 

A petulant wife makes that huiband appear unpolite, 
who with a good-natured wife would have been thoaghc 
a polite one, iii. 244. [iv. 30]. 

Shall there be a mifunderftanding between man and 
wife, and an huiband court a refufed hand ? ibiei. 
' In a contention between man and wife, there muft 
pafs fome mutual recriminations on their maldng op, to 
keep each in countenance on their paH folly^ iii, 245. 
[iv. 31]. 

Women are of gentle natures ; accuftomed to bo ha< 
moured, oppoiition fits not eafy upon thens tkid* 

Women indire^y allow of the fuperiority of men, 


thtUiftitry df Sir Cui Grandisoji . 335 

when they expeA them to bear with their perverfeneiTes, 
iii. 245. [iv. 31]. 

What then has an hufband to do, but, in pity to his 
wife, and compliment to himfelf, [if he find her fer* 
^enf\ to bear with her foibles ? iii. 246. [iv. 32]. 

A prudent man, if he find his wife in the wrong, 
will endeavour to be in the right ; and if fhe be inclined 
to difpute, leave her to recover herfelf ; for arguments 
with 2iftedfaft woman, will beget arguments, ibid. 

Thofe reconciliations will be the moft durable, in 
which the lady makes the advances, ibid. 

Married people (hould not be quick to hear what is 
faid by either, when in ill humour, iii. 248. [iv. 34]. 

Married people, who openly difi«r, make byftanders 
judges over them, iii. 333. [iv. 116]. 

Thofe byftanders will remember, when the parties 
are willing to forget, ibid. 

And their fame will be the fport of thofe beneath 
them, as well in underllanding, as degree, ibid. 

How maay debatings, if not diredi quarrels, are faved, 
by the frequent abfence of the good man, from his meek 
wife ! iv. 84. [256]. 

In what can men and their wives, who are much to- 
gether, employ themfelves, but in proving and defend- 
ing, quarelling and making- up ? (Lady G,) ibid. 

Efpecially, if they both marry for love; for then, 
both honeft fouls, having promifed more happinefs to 
each other, than they can poilibly meet with, have no- 
thing to do, but reproach each other, ta<;i^ly at leaft, 
for their difappointment, (Lady G,J ibid. 

Married people, in their debatings, (hould not choofe 
either mediators or witnedes, iv. 86. [258]. 

Married folks, brought up difierently, of different hu- 
mours, inclinations, need not Jludy for occafions of de* 
bate, iv. 190. [v. 61]. 
See Fem.alities. 

Matronly StaU. 

Good wives, mothers, miflreffes,, dignify the Ma- 
tronly State, and make it the mdl eftimable fhqge of fe« 
male life, iv. aoo. [v. 71]. 

S When 

3j6 Sentiments, &c. ^nraSiedfrom 

When health and a good confcience accompany the 
Matronly State of life, chcere cannot be aa happier for 
woman, v. 52. [>vi. 30]* 
^ee Good Wife, 


All men, who can be guilty of a premeditated bafe- 
nefs, are mean, i. 290. {ibidl. 

It is a Meannefs, as well as Injaflice, to depreciate a 
worthy perfon, whofc favour we are not fo happy as to 
obtain, ii. 18. [up]* 

Little-fpirited men choofe to be obliged to [good-na- 
tured] relations, in hopes that they will lefs vigorouily 
cxa£b payment than a Granger, ii. 131. [232]. 

The man who habitually degrades himfelf, will be 
liable to be defpifed, perhaps infulted^ by his own me- 
nials, ii. 315. [iii. 59]. 

Violent fpirits, when over- awed, are generally tame 
in their fubmiflions, ii. 331. [iii. ^i'\ 

' When a woman has fubmitted to take a price for her 
honour, fhe muft, at times, appear defpicable, even in 
the eyes of her feducer, ii. 332, [iii. 76]. 

The fawning, crirging flaves of perfons in power, are 
the firft to infult them in their difgrace, ii. 338. [iii. 82J. 

Cardinal Wolfey, in a train made up of perfQjis even 
nobly defcended, in his fall, found but one Cromwell, 
ii. 338. [iii. 82]. 

A fpirit that will fawn and cringe, will be a tyrant 
in power, iii. 52. [212]. 

Ungenerous perfons detected in a Meannefs, hardly 
know how to forgive the man to whofe forgivingncfs 
tbey are obliged, iv. 291. [v. 162]. 

. What a narrownefs mud there be in the heart of that 
man, who cannot allow himfelf to look with pleafare 
and kindnefs on a worthy heir, becaufe he is hiis heir, 
V. 234. [vi. 212], 


Officious Mediators frequently make light cUffe* 
rences heavy, iii. 317. [iv. 103]. 


tbeHiftorjofSirCn.GKAYim^oyx. 337 

OfHcious Mediations oftea widen wounds that would 
heal of themfelves, iv. 175. fv. 46]. 

An Umpire or Mediator, who wiihes to reconcile par- 
ties at variance, may, when the point in difpute is re- 
ferred to him, beft effed his end, by enquiring of each 
party feparately, what his expedlation is ; and when he 
has brought them near, pronounce ; having prepared 
the one to advance, the other to concede, as of their own 
motion, beyond what was to be pronounced by him, vi« 

53'[vii. S3]- . ^ . 

See Friendfhip. Generoiity. Good Man, 

Melancholy. See Grief. 

Men and Women. 

From fixteen to twenty -four, Women are generally 
aforehand with Men in ripenefs of underflanding, i. 259. 

Tho* after that time. Men may ripen into a fuperlority. 

The intelleds of Women ufuaUy ripen fooner than thoie 
of Men ; but Men, when ripened, like trees of flow 
growth, generally hold longer, are capable of liigher 
perfeftion, and ferve to nobler purpofes, ibid, ^ 

As Men and Women are brothers and fibers, can 
Womens failings be peculiar to themfelves I i. 266. 

Mufl it needs be, that a daughter of the fame father 
and mother, muft be more filly, more unfteady, more im« 
pertinent, more abfard, than her brother ? ibid. 

Women, in general, want not to travel abroad to render 
them eafy and polite in converfation,. i. 271* [ibid^. 

Yet thisf perbafty muft tie alltnjoedy that Women nvba 
travel, generaUf return mere fantaftic than Men ; 
and yet Jeiv if the. latter improve themfelves by 
going abroad* 
To judge comparatively of the geniuses of Men and 
Women, inftances (hould be drawn from equal degrees 
of both, and .who have had equal opportunities of im- 
provement, i. 272. [ibid'\. 

Men in their raillery are generally lefs delicate than 
Women, i. 275. [ibidl. 

Q Women 

33$ Sentiments, &c. txtra^eifr^m 

Women can better account for the approbation ftnd 
diflikes of Women, than Metf can, f. 318. [ii. 3]. 

Were Men in general lively, chearful, good, there 
would be but few bad Women, i. 415. [ii. 100]. 

Woman*s weaknefs is man*i ftrength, ii. 83. [184]. 

Men who inveigh againft' Women indifcriminately, 
ODuft be fuppofed to have kept bad company, ihid. 

Men who hope to carry a point with a Woman by 
paffion and infolence,^ behave quite differently to Men, 
ii. 180. [281]. 

Appreheniiveners, the child of prudence, is as cha> 
raderiftic-ln a Woman, as courage is in a Man, ii. 1 83. 


Men and Women are fo much abke, that, put cuilom 

and difference of education out of the q.ueilion, the 

meaning of the one may be generally guef&d at by that 

of the other, in cafes where the heart is concerned, ii. 

197. [298]. ... 

Men and Women are devils to oile another : They 
need no .other tempter, ii. zi8. r3i9]- 

Womens minds have generaify a lighter turn than 
diofe of Men [owing perhaps to their finer imajginations : 
But if fo, how watchful an eye ought to be &pt upon 
daughters F] ii. 267. [iii. 11]. 

Were Men in general to value Women for thofe good 
qtrafities only,' wnich are charadleriftic of the fex, they 
would never want objedls worthy of their love, ibr com- 
panions, ii. «i. [iii. 65]. 

AfFedtion between Man and Woman once forfeited, 
can hardly ever be recovered, ii. 339. [iii. 73]. 

When two perfons, who have lived in lamiliarity with 
each other, differ, the fault is feldO'm wholly on one fide, 

U. 332. [iii. 76]. 

Women difHke not that a Man fhould be decently 
free with them, ^t not impertinent, iv. 152. [v. ^23] 

A Won\a]i may be eloquent in her grief; when a Mmt^ 
tho' his heart were torn in pieces, mud hardly be heard 
to complain, iv* 335. [v. 206]. 

Greatly, therefove^ are the diftrefl^ of a manly heart 
to be pitied« ihid* 

Men and Women can hardly have great tcoublct bat 
what muft asife from each other, iM. It 

tbi Hi/hry $f WrCii. Or aUdison. 339 

Ic i& in the power of titlter fex to mend the other, 
V. 47, 48. [vi, %$,x&\, ^* 

The fame Men and Women are not always the fame, 
V. 224. [vi. 202]. 

The Woman who knows herfelf ta be wrong, may, 
one day, mend : Bat what hopes is there of her, who, 
however faulty in het^condufit, believes herfelf to be 
right? V. 307. [vi. 285]. 

^H Duties Moral and ReSgious, Education. Ex- 
ample; Friendfhip. Good Man, Hafband and 
Wife, \.0'<f^. Marriage. Magnanimity. Mo- 
deny. Prudence. Single Women, Wit. ' 

Military Men. 

ASoLDiER is the lead mafter of his own life, df 
any man in tfhe commaiittjr, i. 372. [ii. 57]. 

The principal officer of a corpi in his quarters, hovr- 
ev^r fiibordinate and low, is looked upon in the neigh- 
bourhood, as a general, ii. tb'j, [268]. 

A Soldier muft generally be a flave to his fuperiors, a 
tyrant to thofe beneath him, ii. 182. [283]. 

Womeo are the moft delicate parts of the creation ; 
conscious that they Hand in need of protection, they na- 
turally love brave men, ibid. 

The army is, perhaps, more indebted Yot many a gal- 
lant man, to the gay appearance* ib' dlRcers are ex- 
pend to malire, and to the favour of women on that 
account, than to a true martial ijpirit, ii. 182. [283], 

But how can a Soldier's wife expeft conftant pro- 
tefHon from her hufcand, who is fefs his own, and, cott- 
fequentlv, lef? hers, than almoft atty other nian ; a Sailor 
excepted ? ibid. 

Mirth. Joy. Laughter. 

The general Laugh that is excited by a man^s laugh- 
ing at what he fays himfelf, has nfoally more of con- 
tempt than approbation in it, i. ^5. {ibid\ 

Mirth, however inftprd, will occafion fihiles, tho* 
ibmetiine& at the expcncc of the mirthful, »• jS. [M//]. 

Gloom^ feverity, norofenefs, will be di^nftfut even 
ia a Sotomoii, iHd^ 

<i.a Tke 

340 Sefitiinents, &c mtroBedfrom 

The man, who laagb$ «t ius own abfurdities, leaves 
U3 at liberty to fuppofe, dutt hki folly is his choice, i. 59. 

Laughing is almoft is catching as gajHiig, when peo- 
ple are difpofed to be merry, hoivevcr filly the occafion« 
i. 79. [ibtd'\. 

Comfort approaches nearer t» happtnefs^ than Joy, 
iii. 222. [iv. 8]. 

The Joy of feniible people is eafy, ferene^ deep, full % that 
of others is madyloudy tumultuous, noify, iv. 48. [220]. 

In the highe^ of our pleafures, the fighing heart will 
remind us of imperfedioa, iv. 231. [v. 102 J. 

Abundant reafon for Joy has the perfon, who has it 
ftill in his or her power, to avoid an evil, and choofe a 
good, iv. 383, [v. 254]. 

Immoderate Joy is the parent of many a filly word 
and adion, iv. 198. v. 13. [v. 69. 284]. 

There may be a fulnefs even in laudable Joy, that 
will mingle dUTatisfaftion with it, v. 48. [vi. 26]. 

Hence may be deduced, fays Mi/s Byroji, an argument; 
that the completion of our happinefs muft be referred 
to a more penedt ftate than this, v. 49. [vi. 27]. 

To weak fjpirits, fudden Joy is almoft as painful at the 
time, as grief woold have been, v. 83. [vi. 61]. 

There is nothing fo nnwelcome as an unfeafonable 
jeft, V. 83. [iFi 6iJ, 

, There are loud i.aughs, which betray more vezed- 
nefs than mirth, v. 90. [vi. 68]. 

The joy that feems to be of an eafy and familiar na- 
ture, is the Joy that is likely to laft, v. 334. [vi. 312]. 

Men of fenfe are moil capable of joyful lenfadons ; 
and have their balances ; fince it is as certain, that they 
are moft fufceptible of painful ones, v. 354. [vi. 332]. 

Mifcellaneous Obfervations. 

Good hearts are apt to be credulous, i. 25. [iii/}. 

Men give not themfelves their intelleds: No one 
ihould be defpifed for want of genius, i. 52. 55. lihiJ}, 

What we want to tell, we wifh our fiiend to have ca- 
riofity to enquire about, i- 55* [ibid}. 

Over-wifdom is as fooliih a thing as moderate ibily. 
•i. 59. [/^/V/].* A 


the Hifiary of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 341 

A gracefal yielding in debate, is more repatable thaa 
avidory obtuned by heat and obftinacy» i. 67. [ibidl. 

The honeft poor are a Tsdaabk part of the creation, 
i. 133. [ibidy 

Riches never yet of themfelves made any body happy, 
i. 157. iv. 227. [i. 157;' V* 98]. 

Marriage is too generally thought an amends for every 
outrage, 1. 213. [ibid']» 

Odious circunifbinces may invert the force of the 
kindeft words, i. 217. [jbid\* 

One of the heavieft evils, to a worthy mind, is to be 
flighted by thofe whom it loves, i. 1275. [MiW]. 

People long ufed to error, fubmit not without re* 
lu£bnce to new methods of proceeding, i* 319. [ii* 4]. 

Goodnefs to goodnefs is a natural attraction, i. 330. 
[ii. 15]. 

The man who finds himfelf more feared than beloved, 
m\ilb. generally have fomething in his outward behaviour 
to correft, i. 3357 ii. 20. [ii. 283. iii. 27]. 

True meritwill never want admirers, i. 392. [ii. 77]. 
Thatt to fome« will be thought wtA ^nd iiUy in write* 
ing or fpeaking, which, to others, will appear as a beauty, 
i. 397. [ii. 82]. 

We are apt to try to recolledl circumftances in another*s 
flory, when the c^fe is likely to be our ifywn, which at 
the time, we difregarded, i. 406. [ii. 91]. 

Mortification is fometimes the happieft thing that can 
befall a proud man, as it may teach him to think better 
of others, and not fo highly of himfelf, i. 411. [ii. 96]. 

Too much emotion on a flight charge, is a kind of 
tacit confefiion, ii. 7. [108]. 

The eye and the ear are too often great mifieaders^ 
ii. 29. [130]. 

We know not to what inconveniencies a fmall de- 
parture froin principle will lead, ii. 164. [26c:]. 

He that will not impofe on another, will himfelf leafl 
bear to be impofed upon, ii. 172. . [273]. 

The expedtation of a favoured perfon's company, di- 
Biiniihes the pleafure, that would be full in the com* 

tany we have, were not he ot (he expedted, ii. 296. 
iii. 40]. 

Q^ 3 There 

34^ Sentiments, &c. exira&fdfrem 

There are faults that mvil be left to heaven to puniih, 
and againft the confequences of which, it behoves us 
Ofily, for our own fakes, tp gimrd, ii. 364. [iii. 10^]. 

Things out of our power have often a very different 
appearance (o wh#t they had when we believed they 
were in it, ii. 368. [iii. 112]. 

Uncalled*fpr ^>ologie9 ^e tacit tonfe£ions» iii. 16. 

Men are t«o apt to goirern themielves by events, with- 
out lookii^ iuto caufesy iii, 205. [365]. 
. Ill ufe of power wiU take reputation from the op- 
prellbr, and give it to the opprefled, iii. 238. [iv. 24]. 
. Perverfe tempers, when jH-operly touched, are ibme- 
times capable of fudden and generous turns, iii. 250. 

[iv. 36]. 

Perfons to whom the world has been kind, generally 
make a great deal of a little pain, iii. 327. [iv. 113]. 

Aggrefiprs lay thexnfelves open to fevere reprifals, 
iv. 330. [116], 

When our hearts are fet upon a particular fubjed, we 
are apt to think ev«ry odier impertiaeiit» and befide the 
purpofe, iii. 344. [iv. 130]. 

TrlHes, infilled iipon^ make frequently the wideft 
breaches, iv. 18. [190]. 

Odd chara&ers are fometimes needful, to make even 
ones ihine, iv. 5^4, [226]. 

All human excellence . is but comparative, iv. 55. 

Many a one may be thought well of in converfation, 
who, by putting pen to paper expofe themfelves, iv. 67. 

A rooted malevolence, tho", for a time^ appeafed, will 

occaAonally recur, iv. 127. [299]. 

On a firft vifittrom one we greatly refpe£t, and wifli 
to oblige, a kind of uneafy fenfation will perplex as, 
lifter he or Ihe has left us, as if fomething was omitted 
or done, that might weaken us in the perton's good opi- 
i^ion, iv. 153. 193. [v. 24. 64]. 

We pray for long life ; and what for, ajks Liufy G. f 
but for leave to put^^live our teeth and our friends ; to 
Hand in the way of our elbowing relations ; and to change 


the Hiftory of Sir Ch*. Grandison. 343 

oor fwan-lkins for flcins of buiF; which, neverthelefs, 
will not keep out cither cold -or infirmity, iv. 250. [v. 

As well the courage as the quality^ be it ever (o high, 
of the man who can be premeditatedly unjuil, is to be 
defplfed, iv. 197. [v. 68]. 

Great princes are not always great men, iv. 22!. [y, , 

'^I'hofe who can allow themfelves in Tome deviations, 
may be fiifpefted in others, ibiJ. 

In competitions, we may af^rd to fpeak handfomely 
of the man we neither eavy noi fear, iv. 356. [v. ,227]. 

Every one is not called upon, by the occaiion,.to ad / 
nobly, iv. 364. [v. 235]. . 

- It is not always given us to know what is beft for 
ourfelves, v. 4. [275]. 

Tampers, as well as oomplexiofiSy generally are beft 
fuited by contraries^ f^/V* 

Were we all equally tp like the fame perfon pr thing* 
we ihould for ever be engaged in broUs« UiJ. 

Early perfe6Uon generally induces an early decsy, 
V. 9. [280]. 

We may be very dilFerently affedled by the fame event, 
when judged of at diftance, or near, v. 56. [vi. 34}. 

A bufy mind (hoald be always employed, in order to 
keep, it oat of miArhief, v. 81. [vi. 59]. , 

It is QOt anufual for a perfon to leek, as his greateft 
good, what found, would be his greateH misfortune, 
V. 184. [vi. 162]. , 

Difagreeable qualities cannot always be feparated from 
good ones in the fame perfon, fiuce the one, perhaps, is 
the conftitutional occafion of the other, v. 189. [vi. 


Ihofe are the trued admirers of 6ne flowers, who 
love to fee them in their bonders, and fejdomeft pluck 
the fading fragrance, ilfid. 

The leis delicate crop, pot them in their bofoms, and- 
in an hour or two, after one parting and carelefs fmell,. 
throw them away, /^/V. 

Women love to fnrprize, and to be forprized^ but it 

0^4. i* 

344 Sentiments, &c extralled from 

is a love that often draws them into inconveniencies, 
V. 268. 270. [vi. 246. 2483. 

Things are generally befl as they are, v. 315. [vi. 


Pec ple-of condition, when either their cnrioiity or plea- 

fure is concerned, like fometimes to engage with dif- 
ficulties, and to be put to little inconveniencies, for no. 
velty fake, and that they may have fomething to talk 
of, V. 318. [vi. 296]. 

She that boafts of her good behaviour on particular 
occafions, when fhe a£ts bat as flie ougbt^ refleds upon 
herielf, v. 326. [vi. 304]. 

It is a common thing for a perfon in a coach, to call 
for the attention of his company in it, to fomething that 
paffes as they ride, and at the fame time to thruft his 
head oat of the window, fi> that nobody can fee but 
himfdf, V. 346. [vi, 324]. 

Trne jefts are not always the moft welcome. Tell a 
woman of forty, that (he is fixty or feventy, and fhe 
will not be fo angry as if her true age were nearly guefled 
at : The one nobody will believe j the other every -body, 

▼• 347- [^i- 325]. ' 

The man who is officious to excufe, or jpalliate an evi- 
dent fault in another, may give a fufpicion of his put- 
ing in an indired claim to an allowance for the like faults 
of his own, vi. 55. [vii. 55]. 

When once the mind has been difordered, there \$ 
danger, on extraordinary occaiions, of its {hewing itfelf 
capable of extravagance) even after the cure is fuppofed 
to be perfedled, vi. loi. [vii. loi]. 
See General Ohfemjatiom. 

Misfortune. Zee Adverfity. 

Mistresses. See Mafters. 

Modefty. Decorum. 

A M A N who deferves the name of a gentleman, will 
be careful in his converfation not to offend a chafte ear, 
i. 49. {ihid^ 
. Modefty is eafily alarmed ; the proper anfwcr to one 


tbe^Hiftoty of SitQn. Grandisom. 345 

who had faid, that women, on certain fabjedls, were 
very quick, i. 50. [ibid^, 

A woman of virtue would be wanting to her charaidter, 
if (he did not refent reflexions made in her company 
that might be conflrued an infult on Modefty, ibid. . 
■ A pure heart, whether in man or woman, will, on- 
every occafion^ in every company, be pure, ibid. 

Volubility of fpeech, is generally owing to want of 
doabt, i. 56. [tbid^. 

To hear more, and fpeak lefs, is a rule that deferves 
to be remembred, ibid. 

Modeft men muft have merit, i. 104. [ibid']. 

Self* diffidence is a quality, from which the worthy of 
either fex cannot be wholly free, i. 304. [ibid]. 

Ought a Modeft woman, who would not wiih to look 
filly under the flaring, confident eye of a bold man, to 
choofe fuch a one for a hufband ? iii. 3. [162]. 

Modefty in a man give^ an agreeable felf-confidence 
to a woman, iii. 2, 3. 8. [162. 168], 

All men, good and bad, admire Modefty in women ; 
What a refle&on on their own fex, then, do thofe wo* 
men caft, who do not admire the fame grace in a man ! 
iii. 227. [iv. 13]. 

Mecknefs and Modefty are charafterillic qualities in 
women, of which men are juftly fond, iii. 307. [iv. 93]. 

A modefl man lofes nothing by fubfcribing to the vi- 
fible fuperiority of a worthy friend, iii. 345. [iv. 131]. 

A young woman*s Modedy will often cover her with 
confufion, for what people of fenfe and candour will 
confider as a beauty, v. 4. [275]. 

Something is due to the fa(hion in drefs ; and (hall not 
thofe cufloms which have their foundation in Modeily, 
and are characierilHc of the gentler fiex, be in titled to 
approbation ? v. 168. [vi. 146]. 

See MvicQ and Qz,\xt\Qtk% to fVomen. Delicacy. Fe- 
male Dignity. Good Man, Goodnefs. Liber- 
tines. Love. Marriage. Single Women. 

CLs N. 

34^ Sentinieat^ tw, ^iftr^Hed frcut 

. NeW'^married fVman. Wedded Love. 

A PRVDENT Bride, entering into her new family ,wiU 
n^ake no unneceiTary changes. If (he think herfelf hap- 
py, ihe will lef every one who deferves it^ find their 
luippinefs in hers^ vi. 27. [vii. 27]. 

It is a pleafure to eood fervants to be directed by a 
nilflTers, who herfelf knpw« when fervices ai^e well per- 
formed, vi. 28. [vii. 28]. 

To be refpeded by fervantSy It is neceiTary to be able 
tp dire^ them in their feveral offices; and not to be 
found ignorant in the articles that it behoves a oiiftrefs 
of a family to be acquainted with, iiU. 

Happy is the New-married Woman« who finds her 
hufband's refpedfulnefs to her increafedy and her own 
reverence for him augmented, without abatement of 
their mutual love, vi. 30. [vii. 30]. 
. Difcretion and gratitade are the coraer-ftonea of the 
matrimonial fabric, vi« 35. [vii. 35]. 

What a heart muft that wjoman havei which, tboo^b 
ihe married with IndifFerence to the man, love and gra- 
titude cannot engage I i^V. 

A New-married woman of prndence, will acquaint 
h.erfelf with the methods obferved in her hniband^s hoofe, 
and will put nobody out of their good way, merely to 
fbew her authority, vi. 40, 41. [vii. 40, 41]. 

Folitenefs iningledwith familiarity, becomes a Wedded 
Love, vi. 132/ [vii. 132]. • 

Happy is the woman who marries a good man ; fince 
fuch a one will do obliging thiiags for principle's fake» 
vi. 135. [vii. 135]* 

He will pity involuntary failings ; he will do bftioe 
to good intentions -/ and give importance to ^1 his fellow- 
creatures, knowing that &ey ^nd he are equally creatures 
of the Almighty, ihU, 

A generous man will not fubjed his wife to the dan- 
ger of her being either a refufing V^^fi* or a too- 
meanly mortified Either, vi. 177. [vii. 177]. 

The maternal circumllance will fubdue the excentric 
\ ( irit 

fbe Hlflory of SirCn. Gr andtson. 347 

fpirit of a Newly. married yoong woman of too great 
vivacity, and, if her heart is not. bad,. make her an ob- 
liging wife : Since flie will doubly difgrace herfelf, if (he 
love the child, and behave improperly to her hufband, 
vi. 190. "Fvii. 190]. 

See Good Man. Hufband and VTife. Matrimoniat 
Bickerings. Mafters, Miftrcffes, Servants. 

Novelty, ^^r FafliioD. 

Nuptial Preparations. Wedding-Day, 

F I M s ladiea, who think fo flightly of the matrimo^ 
nial office, as to prefer the chamber to the church, iot itt 
p^rformaBce, ftioold not wonder if fine gentlemen think 
flill more flightly of the obligations it lays them vaaAety 
iii. 344. [iv.xioo]. 

Marriage is one of the m<^ important engagements of 
a woman's life ; If the lady mean a compliment to her 
]over, by a chamber, rather than a church, marriage, let ' 
iMr declare as much ; and that fbe was in a korry to* 
oblige him, ibid, 

A perfon who means to fhame a free lady into delicacy y. 
may be forgiven for nfing free images, and ^ong ex*^ 
jtreffions, iii. 314. 326. [iv. 101; iiz]. 

The anniverfary-day of marriage, when doubt of hap>> 
ptneis is tamed into certainty, maft be happier to tne 
lady, than tbe day itfelf, iii. 236. [iv« 122}. 

A prudent young woman, m her bridal dreife^, will' 
not wi(h to be fantaftically equipped, v. 274. [vi.. 252]^ 

Hanility becomes perfons of degree ; fuch being. 
knowa to be able to afford rich dre^s, need them iio« 
to give them coaiequence in the eyes of tke many, ibid. 

[Fancy f artj ftody, fiiould not be feen to have been conw 
hlted on the occaiioa ; for fimplicity only can be ele- 
gance], ihiJ, 

Every thoughtful yoang creature, as her NuptiaJ-Daf 
draws near (a change fo great, and for life) muil have- 
eonfli^ in her aund, be her profpeds ever fo hatppy,. 
V. 294. [vi. 272]. 

If/o, of 'wiai mm^iah mufi th^ heaHt of runiFwayr, 
U men abnefi firangers to tkenty be compounded? 

0^6 Ao 

348 Sentiments, Sec. e^traSedfrom ^ 

An obliging woman in courtfhip, parts with power to 
a generous man^ but to take it back with augmentatioa» 
V, 298. fvi. 276]. 

There is fomething awful to a woman^ in the cir- 
cumflances of her cpnfenting to a fixed day of marriage^ 
V. 30 1. \yu 279]. 

Let private Weddings, fays Mr. Se/iy, be for doubtful 
happinefs, v. 302. [vi. 280]. 

Chamber-marriages, fayj the famt facetious gentleman, 
are neither decent nor godly, ibid. 

When a woman, adds Be, is to do any thing (he is 
aihamed of, (he is right (for fear of fettiog an ill example) 
to be private, ibid. 

We women, fays Lady G. are ftrange creatures for de- 
laying diings that muft be done, to thelaft moment, 
V. 315. [vi. 293]. 

We put GUI' men in a hurry : We hurry our work- 
. women, milaners, mantua-makcrs, friends, allies, con- 
federates, and ourfelves, ilfid. 

When once we have given the day, night and day, we 
neither take reft, nor give it, ibid. 

When, had we the rare felicity of knowing our minds 
fboner, all might go on fair and fofdy, ibid. 

But then, the gentle pa£on, I doubt, fays jSbe^ would 
j^ide into infipidity, ibid. 

Yet all theie honeil fouls, proceeds fhe^ as mantna« 
makers, attire-women, workwomen, are ddighted with 
a hurry that is occaiioned by a wedding, v. 315, 316. 
[vi. 293, 294]. 

And why fhould not we women, adds fhe, contrive 
hurry-fkurriesy and to make the world think our af- 
fairs a confide r able part of the bufinefs of it, and that 
nothing can be done without us, v. 316. [vi. 294]. 

Since, after a it'ti months are over, new novelties take 
place, and we get into corners, figh, groan, look filly 
and meagre, and at laft are thrown into lira w ? ibid. 

Every woman's heart leaps^ fays Lady G. when a 
Wedding is defcribcd, and longs to know all how and 
about it, V. 347. [vi. 325]. 

A con£derate young lady, near marriage, will be 


the Hifipry ^ Sir Gh. G& andisok. 349 

thoaghtfuly when fhe contemplates the following cir- 
cunftances, lft)wever excellent the man may be; 

That fhe is beginning a new courfe of life : That, pcr- 
fon^and will, flie is foon to be the property of another : 
Her name funk in that of her hufband : That ihe is to go 
toanewhoufe; Be ii^rafted in a new family : To leave 
her own, which dearly loves her. An irrevocable dc-. 
ftiny ; and for life, v. 364. [vi. 342]. 

From fuch confiderations as thcfe, Lad^ G. infers^ that 
yoang women ought to be indulged in their choice, if 
not a difgraceful one» of the man they love, v. 366. 
[vi. 344]. 

For the bebavimtr of a nefw-married pair to eacb^tber 
fee Vol. V. 373. [vi. 351]. 


Obstinacy. ^^/ Conceit. 

Oeconomy. Early Rifing. 

Women who fet themfelves to acquire the knowlege 
that is proper to men, often negledt for it, that which 
indifpenfibly belongs to their own fex, i. 93. [tbid'}. 

The habit of Early Riiing enables a perfon to do eve* • 
ry-thingwlth eafe, ]^eafare, and without hurry and con* 
fufion^ i. 253. [ibid^. 

Servants cannot for fhame, be in bed at a reafonable 
hour to be up, when a principal fets the example of 
Early Rifing, ibid. 

An Early Rifer earns th« pleafures fhe allows herfelf 
in innocent recreations, ibid. 

Perfons of the higheft quality ought not to be above 
valuing themfelves as Oeconoxniils, i. 394. [ii. 79]. 

A wiie man will plant, as well as cut down, ii. no. 

Women, ftiort as their power is, are generally better 
Oeconomifls than men, ii. 238. [339]. 

Thofe who look into their own- affairs will avoid the 
©eceffity of doing or fufFering many, things difagreeable 
to a perfon of ipirit; ii. 314. [iii. 58]. 

Many men of large eftates pay intereft for their own 
snoney, ibid. 


Good OeconoaiKliy whaierer be their fbrtuBes, will 
make it a rale to conclude the year witfi difcharging 
every demand that can be made upon thera, and to cohx- 
meoce the new year wkh caft in hand, lii. 227. [tv. 1 3]* 

The man will be well ferved, and greatly reQ>e£led, 
who faiFers not a j»ft demand to be -twice made upon 
him, ii. 346, [iv. 132}. 

Early hours and melhod, and eafe withoat harry, wilt 
do evevy thing in/amily management, iv. 243. ['v* 114}. 

A pradent man» in the management of his affairs, 
will fee with his own eyes, «nd Itfpenie with his own 
hands, vi. 6. [vii. 6]. ^ 

In chooiing men of principle and Yerfoofnefs to deal 
with, we have their repatation, as wcU as confcience for 
ouE fecurity, vi. 42. [vii. 42]* 

The prudent man attends to the minotei^, as well as 
greated things, in his Oeconoipy, vi. 44. [vii. 44]. 

A prudent landlord will immediately caufe necefTary re* 
pairs to be fet about, and will do any thing that tends to 
impove his eftatd; but will not be impofed upon by 
craving or anreafonable tenants, iM. 

A good landlord will faffer his tenants to grow into 
circumstance under him^ i^id. 

He will n€>t tv(^ice put himielf in the power of a man 
who impofes on him ; were it only, that he will not be 
c^liged to a^ the part of a fafpictous man, and be a 
watchman over people of doubtful honefty, vi. 45. [vii. 


Sii Generofity . Good Man. Good fFoman. Pta- 


Old Bachkrs. Old Maids. 

Old Eachelor« often infift upon qualities in a wife 
for themfelves or relations, not one of which perhaps the 
chofen woman^ if they marry, will have, i. 36. [ibid'\. 

They often make exceptions for themfelves, till no fa- 
mily thinks it worth while to receive or make propofaU 
to them, ibid. 

Grown fplenetic, and difregarded by every -body, their 
pi;ide is levered, and th^y freqaend)r confefs obligation 
to a wom^n, for accepting of them, whofe betters 'they 
^"wmerly dcfpifed, i. 37. J/^/V}. Women 

Women who have had ao ^av&s, or,, having had 
loversy hare not found a huiband, have, perhaps, as men 
go, rather had a mils than a lofs, i. 326. [ii. 11]. 

Thofe women who join with the men, in their ridicule 
of Old Maids, ought not to be forgiven, if the iingle 
ilate, and not the oad qualities of the perfon, is what 
l^y mean to ^xpofe. Hid. 

In .the abufive fenfe of the word, there are Old Maids 
of twenty, and among widows and wives of all ages and 
complexions, ^iid. 

A fmgle woman, tho^ either difappointed, or not ad- 
dreifed to, has inBnitely lefs cares, lefs anxieties to con« 
t^nd with, than, a married one, ii. 146. [247}. 

Bachelors and Maids, when long fingle, may be com- 
pared to houfrs long empty, which nobody cares to 
take, ii. aoa. [303]. 

As the hottfe in time, by long difufe, will be thought, 
by the vulgar, haunted by evil fpirits, fo will the other* 
by the many, be thought ipoSkSod by no good ones, 

Many an Old Maiden lady, /ttyi Ln/fy G. has fubihui* 
tial notions of ideal love, v. 7. [278]. 

Thofe notions, this livefy Lady fancies^ laft a long time 
with thofe who have not had the opportunity of grati- 
fying the fi4y pafBon, ibid. 

Would a woman who ridicules Old Maid^, hav« one 
think that (he is over-joyed that fiie has put it out of 
any one's power to reproach her on that account ? v. 13. 

If fo, how thankful, on all occaiions, ought (he to 
be to the man who has fo generouily kept her from the 
odium! ihid* 

It looks like a want of decency in women, to cail re- 
flexions on others of their own fex (for what ?) probably 
for their prundence and virtue, ibid. 

Such refle£lers confider not, how much they» by their 
ludicrous freedoms, exah the men, and depreciate their 
own fex, ihid. 

It is no wonder that the men join in the ridicule : It 

is thtir infierefi to do fo ; and it augmeots^ their confe- 

quencci ilni». 

4 Many 

35^ Sentiments, &c. extroBedfrom * 

Many of the foibles for which Old Maids are ridicufed, 
they would have been guilty of had they been old wives, 
V. 13. [184]. 

Wives (hoold not fall into the miftakes for which 
diey would make Maids the fubjed of their ridicale, 

Women of fenfe. fhould be above joining to hunt 
down a clafs of people of their own (ex, whom they 
deem unfortunate, v. 15, 14. [284. 285]. 

Multitudes of the fex owe their ruin to the odium Jo 
uumeritedfy caft ufon Old Maids ^ by both fixes, 

[Whereas this cla^ ot females rather merit companion ; 
lince] a fingle woman is too generally an undefended^ 
unfupported creature, vi. 202. [vii. 202]. 

Her early connexions, year by year, drop off: No 
new ones arife, and ihe remains folitary and unheeded in 
a bufy builling world, perhaps foui'ed to it by her un- 
connedled ftate, ibid. 

But yet if no proper match offer to a fingle woman, 
muft (he make an. improper one to avoid the ridicule of 
a mere name ? vi. 209. [vii. 209]. 

An unfupported ftate is better than an opprefied, a 
miferable one, vi. 209. [vii. 209]. 

How many raihly-chofen hufbands, and repentant 
wives, juilify the women who having not had an offer 
they can with prudence accept of, choofe to live fingle ? 

May not the woman who makes a raih choice, be faid^ 
to throw herfelf out of the protedion and defence upon 
which every one may depend, in the ftate of life mark- 
ed out to her by providence? vi. 218. [vii. 218]. 

Unfuitable matches cannot be called a fupport and de- 
fence, ibid. 

The fingle Hate may be faid to be fitly marked out by 
providence, tothofe women who never have it in their 
power fitly to change it, ibid, ' 

Yet it muft be owned, fays Lady Gertrude^ that a wo- 
man is mod likely to find her proper happinefs in the 
married ilate, ihd. 

But there arc furely man)^ exceptions, in favour of 
fingle wumen ; Women of large and independent for- 

tbe Hi/lory of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 355 

tunes, who have hearts and underftandings to ufe them as 
they ought, are often more beneficial, to the world, than, 
they would have been, had they bedowed them on fuch 
men, as look for fortune only, vi. 218. [vii. 218]. 

Nor need women, who have by their numerous rela- 
tions many connexions, feelc out of their own alliances 
for proteflion and defence, vi. 218,219. [vii. 218,219]. 

lil-health, peculiarity of temper or fentiments, unhap- 
pinefs of fituation, of perfon, afford often fuch reafons 
as make it a virtue to refufe what it would be right in 
others to accept, vi. 219. [vii. 219]. 


Pafuiam Love. See hove at Jtrft Sight. 

Parents and Children. 

The Parent who finds more faults in a Child, than fhe 
is goilty of, may make her inattentive to thofe fhe ought 
to corrca, i. 87. [ibid']. 

What honour do good Children efled back on their 
Parents! i. 327. [ii. 12]. 

Wives and mothers who perform their domeftic duties, 
arc an honour to the age in which they live, ibid. 

What have thofe who do not, to anfwer for to God, 
to their Children, and even to their Sex, for the contempts 
they bring upon it, by their ufelefnefs, and perhaps ex- 
travagance! i. 327, 328. [ii. 12, 13]. 

There are Parents who cover by the word indulgent, 
that remifnefs in the education of their Children, which 
rathdP fhould be attributed to indolence, and a love of 
their eafc, than to their own good-nature [and who be- 
come thereby their children's word enemies] i. 339. 
[ii. 20]. 

A worthy child will always choofe to walk within its 
limited bounds, i. 399. [ii. 84]. 

A dutiful Child will reludantly mention the failings of 
its Parents, ii. 28. [129]. 

Sv'.eet is the remembrance of good Parents departed, 
to good Children, ibid. 

• Of what plcafure do thofe Parents deprive themfelves, 


354 Sentiments, &c. extraSedfrom 

who neglcdl or think themfclves above attending to the 
dawnings of their Childrcns reafon ? ii. 31. [1323. 

Worriby Children yvho have faulty Parents, may im - 
prove by the bad example, as well as by the good, ii. 33, 

34- ['34^^35]- 

There is no merit in performing a duty to a good Pa- 
rent, ii. 33. [134].^ 

In reciprocal duties, the remifnefs of one Ade, is not 
an acquittal of the other, ii. 33. 61. [134. 162]. 

The daughters of antient families are ufually too hardly 
dealt with, in regard to their portions of the family eftate, 

"• 34^ 37- [i 35- -258]. ^ . , 

Children who make thenifel ves judges of the mea lures 
of their dvKy, will be in diJi^ of facrificing it to their 
inclinations, ii. 43. [144]* 

Parents may hav« reafon for their conduct, which may 
not appear to their Children j nor for which they are ac- 
countable to them, ii. 44. [145]. 

Children very feldom owe thanks to the fai^cies of 
thofe mothers, who have given them a rake for their fa- 
ther, ii. 48. [149]. 

Parents ought to be made acquainted with any addrefs 
ihade to their daughters, before liking has taken root in 
love ; and while their advice may have its proper weight 
with them, ii. 58, 59. 70. [159, 160. 171]. 

Some Children a£l as if they thought their Parents 
had nothing to do, but to iee them efiabliihed in the 
worlds and then quit it, ii. 69. [170]. 

Thofe Children who engage their hearts without con- 
fulting their Parent^ would make no fcruple to inarry 
without aJQcing queilions, did they not think it neceflary 
Itrft, to know what they would do for themy tho' they 
had left their Parents no option, ii. 70. [171]. 

Parents, in fuch cafes, if not paffive, are accounted 
tyrants, ihid, 

• Daughters at marriagable years [whatever forae of 
them think] have then more need than ever of the care 
and advice of Parents, ii, 'f^, iii. 374. [ii. 176. iv. 

Parents (hould be the judges, if not of their daughters 
likings of their own, ii. 77. [178]. 


Modeily never forgets duty, ii. 78. [179]. 
The man who has daughters, feldom knows difcom- 
fort with them, till they look out of their father's houfe 
for that happinefs, which they feldom find, in equal de- 
gree, but in It, ibid. 

No provocation from a Parent can jnftify a ra(h flcp 
in a Child, ii. 87. [188]. 

The lofs of a good mother, is a call upon the pru- 
dence of a worthy daughter, ibid. . 

Where duty to a Parent is wanting, all other good 
qualities arc to be fufpeded, ii. 89. [190]. 

A father is not accountable to his Child for what he 
has a right to do, ii. 109. [eio]. 

Parents (hould take care how they give caufe to their 
Children to think meanly either of their juftice or under- 
ftanding, ii. 166, 167. 170. i8i. [267, 268. 271, 282]. 

A good Child muft recolleft with pleafure thofe in- 
fiances of duty in which he or (he gave joy to a depart- 
ed Parent ; and regret thofe of a contrary nature, ii. 
175. [276]. 

What pleafures do mothers lofe, who want tendernefs 
to their Children ! ii. 207. [308]. 
. All fathers are not wrong, who expe£t a fortune to 
be brought inco their family, ki fome meafure equal to 
the benefit the new-€omer hopes to receive from it, ii. 
240. [341]. 

Prudent Parents will watch when habits begin to 
change in their Children ; and will be more-efpecifilly 
afraid of young creatures cxpofins; themfelves when 
they are between eirls and women, it. 277. [iii. 21]. 

Children ihoula never be made parties in the mifun- 
derftandin^s that may happen between father and mother, 
ii. 288. [iii. 32]. 

Children, when they come to be Parents themfelvs, will 
think, in certain arduous cafes, as their Parents think, 
ii. 314. [iii. 58]. 

Who, in his own decline of life, can expe6l a comfort 
from his Children, who never adminiftred any to his 
own Parents in theirs ? ii 388. [iii. 132]. 

The Parent who condeftends to put his or her autho- 
rity into mediation, deferves the utmoft obferv^hce and 
duty, iii. 52. [212]. Parents 

35^ Sentiments, &c. txtraEtei from 

Parents are entitled to know the reafons of their daugh- 
ter's objedions to the man they wi(h her to have, and to j 
judge of the force of them, Jii. 80. [240]. I 

Parents who have even hopeful Children, are not always * 
happy in them, iii. 96. [256]. 

She that can wilfully give concern to good Parents, 
may juftly make a Lover afraid of her, iii. 1 37. [297]. 

It is not every woman who will fhine in a flate of in- 
dependency, iii. 374. [iv. 160}. 

Avarice in a Parent, and Love in a Child, are almofl 
irrefiftable, when their powers are united to compafs the 
fame end, iv. 118. [290]. 

What plea can Parents make uie of to an oppofing 
Child, in recommendation of a man they like, but that 
of filial duty ? When the Child can juftly plead con- 
fcience in bar, the duty fiiould not be infifted apon, 
iv. 316. 318. [v. 187. 189]. 

The Almighty every-where, in. his word, fandifies 
the rf^7/^»/i^/^ commands of Parents, iv. 352. [v. 225]. 

So that it may juftly be faid, that to obey Parents 
in their lawful commands, is to itry^ God, iv. 352. v. 
39. [y. 223. vi. 17]. 

Childrens faults are not always their own, v. 42. 
[vi. 20]. 

Good Parents will be placable : Such as have not 
given good examples, ought to be fo, ibid* 

Sweet to a gentle temper are the chidings of paternal 
love, v. 268. [vi. 246]. 

A ^TUnvi/fu/ ralhnefs in a young lady, is to be fc- 
verely, yet not unindulgently noticed, left it fhould be a 
prelude to ftill more fatal enterprizes, v. 269. [vi. 247]. 

A good young woman will grieve to be in fuch a fitaa. 
tion, as to be obliged to iniift on conditions with her 
Parents, vi. 169. [vii. 169]. 

Oppoiition has its root in importunity, vi: 283. [vii. 

See Duties Moral and Religious, Filial Piety. Good 
Man. Love. Vincibility of Love. 


tbeHiftory ofSirCu. GRANDISO^^• 357 

Parliament Men. 

A G o D man in Parliament will not be under engage- 
ments to any party, vi. 264. [vii. 264]. 

Nor will he, in ftanding for a county or borough, con- 
tribute to deftroy the. health and morals of all the coun- 
try-people round him, in order to make himfelf what is 
csdled an intereft^ ibid. 

Young men are apt to be warm: When they have 
not ftudied a point throughly, they will acl upon hafly 
concluiions, and fometimes fupport, fometimes oppofe^ 
on infafficient grounds, ikd. 


Whek we are difpofed to like a perfon, we make 
out his or her charader to our wi(hes, i. 133. [ibid'\. 

When we are flrongly pofiefTed of a fubjed, we are 
apt to make every thing we fee, hear, or .read of, that 
bears the leaft refemblance to it, turn into, and ferve 
to illvftrate it, i. 189. [ihid^* 

How eaiily do we glide into, and bow do we love to 
dwell upon, fubjeds that delight us! 1. 273. [ibid'], 

Charaders eiven by the mouth of declared prejudice^ 
are not to be depended upon, ii. 329. [iii. 73]. 

The Paffions. 

ENyT is a felf-tormentor, i. 405. [ii. 90}. 

Pride generally produces mortification, ibid. 

Our raflions may be made fubfervient to excellent 
purpofes, ii. f8i. [282]. 

Oar beft Paifions, fi^s Cburkne Grandifony have their 
mixtures of felf-love, iii. 286. [iv. 72]. 

Our Pafiions are ever apt to run away with our judg- 
ments, iii. 300. [iv. 86]. 

4^requently we need but apply to the Paffions of men, 
who have not been remarkable for benevolence, to in- 
duce them to do rieht things xnfome manner, if -not always 
in the moil graceral, iv. 146. [v. 17]. 

Pride will often do greater things for women, than 
jreafon, iv. 367. fv. 238]. 

A good man will be at continual war with his Paffions : 



35^ Semiment^i tec. ixfraSteifrm 

But without wifhing to overcome thofe tender fufcepti- 
bilities, which, properly direded^ are the glory of hu- 
man nature, iv. 370. [v. 241]. 

To what purpofe live we, if not to grow wifer, and 
to fubdoe oar Paifions? iv. ^83. [v. 1(54]. 

There is a pride that max ^^^ ^ improperly encoarag- 
ed as a prop, a fapport, to an imperfe^ goodnefs, f^hick 
rightly direded, may in time grow into virtue, iv. 386. 

The Paflions are itttended for our fervaifts, not oor 
mailers ; and we have witlnn us a power of controuling 
them ; which it is the duty and the bttfine^ of oor Hvct 
to exert, vi. 205. [vii. 205]. 

This will be readily allowed in the cafe of any FalEon, 
which the poet$ and romance- writers have not fetosff' with 
their falfe colourings, ihid.- 

Pa^siom. 5r# Anger, 

JPcnitencc. Reformation. Remorfe. Con- 

True Penitence is to be encouraged, left the tref- 
pafier, made defperate, (hould take fuck courfet, as 
might be fatal not only to himfelf^ but to many innocent 
perfons, i. 236. \tbi^\. 

The Reformation of a crhntnai takes from the num- 
ber of the profligate, and increafes that of the hopeful, 
and may infloence others of his acquaintance, i. 237. 

Contritsoa is all the atonement that can be made for 
a perpetrated evil, i. 315. \thid\ 
., When a. miM^ who has lived freely, caft be ferious on 
ferious fubjefls, yet be fo chearful as to ibew that hit 
ferioufnefs fits eafy upon him ; 

Whea h& can prefer the company and converfatioR of 
a worthy man of the ckxh, and wifh to ftand welt in the 
opinion of fuch a one ; he then gives^ hopefat figns of 
Reformation, i. 331. [ii. 16}. 

Repentance is too hard a taik to be learned on a fick 
bed, ii. 95. [1961* 


fke Hifiary of SirCn. Grandison. 359 

Shall not virtue be appeafed, when the hand of God 
is acknowleged in the Penitence of the oil'ender ? ii. 106. 

A generous perlon will make the getieroua confeiHon 
of a fault eafy to the contrite feiraccaler, ii. 1 69. [270]. 

An error gracefully acknowleged, is a vidtory won, 

Reformation is fooner to be hoped-for from a woman 
who was once good, if not totally abandoned, than 
from one who never had worthy principles, ii. a 16. [iik 

All that is wifhM.for in the latter, is, that fhe may be 
made unhurtftil. The former, when in a Hate of true 
Penitence, caiuiot be eafy tiii fhe is what ihe once was, 

Refolutions of Reformation, to be efficacious, mud 
generally be built upon a better foundation, than occa- 
Sonal difguft and difobligation, ii, ^20. [ili. 64]. 

To little purpofe does a great man keep a chaplain* 
if he encourages him not in doing his duty ; but the con- 
trary, ihid. 

The good man^s pity, where he fees compundion, will 
be ftron^erthan his cenfure, ii. ^33. [iii. 67]. 

The ipirit of a true penitent, is an humble, a brokeni 
not a rageful or recriminating, one, ii. 332. [iii. 76]. 

If a nnger laid upon a guilty p^rfon will make her 
feci, the weight of the whole hajtul ihould be fpared, 
ii. 334. [iii. 78]. 

The trued, the iincereil» Penitence, may atone for, 
but cannot recall, the guilty paft, iii. 220. [iv. 6]. 

Remorfe will ever accompany the reflexions of a man, 
not wholly abandoned, who can accufe himfelf of be* 
tng the wilful caufe of the calamity of a worthy fellow- 
creature, iii. 272. [iv. ^8]. 

Inftantkneoos Reformations are unnatural, iv. 189^ 
[v. 60], , 

What a wretched creature k a man vice-bitten, and 
fenfible of detedled folly and obligation! v. 186. [vi* 

»64j. . 

Very profligate people, when touched with Remorfe, 

are apt to pafs from oae extreme to another, v. 19.1. [yi. 

169J. The 

360 Sentiments^ &c. extraSedfrom 

The def pendency of a wicked man is blacker than Re- 
morfe : It is Repining, without Repentance, v. 230, [vi. 

His Reformation wants reforming who is not able to 
look back to his former companions in iniquity with 
pity ; who diCdnguiibes not between the men and their 
crimes ; and thinks he cannot be in carneft, if he hates 
not both, V. 232. [vi. 210]. 

The fears of that man muft be ftronger than his 
hopesy whoy on his fick-bed, has nothing Qf conibla- 
tion to give himfelf from reflexions on his paft life, v. 
232. [vi. 221]. 

Perfuafioni Forced Marriages. 

There may be cruelty in Perfuafion, when the heart 
rejefts the perfon propofed, whether the ur^er be either 
parent or guardian, iii. 280. [iv. 66]. 

And Hill more to a foft and gentle temper, than to a 
stubborn one, iv. 261. [vi. 239J. 

Marriage is an awful rite : It can be only a joyful 
one to the woman who is given to the man fhe loves, 
iii. 342. [iv. 128]. 

What a vi£tim muil that woman look upon herfelf to 
be, who is compelled, or''(^eti over-perfuaded, to give 
her hand to a man, who has no (hare m her heart ? ibid. 

A parent or guardian, who compels her child to marry 
againft inclination, ought to think himfelf chargeable with 
the unhappy confequences that may follow from fuch a 
cruel compulfion, ibid. 

Tyranny and ingratitude from a man beloved, will be 
more fupportable to fome women, than kindnefs from 
a man they love not [how dreadful to fuch, therefore, is 
a Forced Marriage 1] iii. 3^7. [iv. 143]. 

Perfuafion ftrongly urged by parents, is more than 
compulfion [becaule it feeks to make a young creature 
acceffary to her own unhappinefs] v. 109. [vi. 87]. 

Perfuafion, as it may be circomftanced, is compulfion, 
vi. 76. 99. 104. 119. 143. [vii. 76. 99. 104. 1 19. 143]. 
See Guardian. Indulgence. Love. Parents and 

Perverseness. ^^^ Conceit. 


PtTULANCE. See Anger. 

Phyficiahs. Surgeons. 

S p i R I T» pietyy'tendeFnefs of hearty reading, pra^ice^ 
and critical courage^ are the reijaifitet of a good SuC" 
geoQ,^ iv. 109. LI a. {2^1^ 284]. 

In lingering cafes, patients or their friends, are ofte« 
too apt to liflen to new recommendations, iv. no. 
[2823. . " 

How crael is pundilio in cafes of difficulty and dan- 
ger, among the medical tribe ! ihid. 

Phyfical advifersand c^peratovs, are often too com« 
plaifant to die appetites of their patietits^ iv, iii, iis. 
[283,2843. , 

The mind has great power over the body, iv. iiiR. 

£2843. ^ 

In chronical cafes. Physicians go their rounds with 
their patients. The new one only afks, what the old 
one prefcribed, that he .may guf/s at fomething elfe t9 
make trial of, (Lady G.) v. 66: [vi. 443. 

When a patient has money, it is difficult^ a Fhyfi* 
cian to fay, till the laft extremitv,. that the parfon and 
fexton may take him, (Lady G,) ihid. . 

Patients, Lady G. in a ludicrous iMt^f hints f might 
have a chance for recovery, if Phyfkians gave them over 
earlier than they generally do, v. 191. £vi. 1693. 

Piety. See Religion. 

Pity. Compaffion. 

Pity is but one remove from Love, 1. 39. vi, ^9, 
fi. 39. vii. 89]. 

How affecting to a gentle mind are the vifible emo* 
tions of a manly heart ! i. 12$. [iiid'}, 

A compaiHonate heart is a blefiing^ tho^ a painful one, 
ii. 63. [164]. 

We pity others, then moft cprdially, when we v/ant 
pity ourfelves, ii. 164. [2653. ' 

Xhofe moralifts, as they affed to call thcmfelves, who 
fuffer by fuch libertine principles a$ caauot be piufued^ 

<l but 

35a Sentiments, &c. ^xHraStdfrw^ 

but by the violation of ^e firft laws, of morality, are not 
intitled to Our Pity, ii. 328. [iii. 72]. 

There is more generefity, more.tendemefs, in the 
Pity of a woman, than in that of man, iii* j^, [237]- 

fn the Pity of a man for a woman, there is, too pro- 
bably, a mixtm-e of infult or contempt, iUi, 

Unhappy indeed muf^ the woman be, who has drawn 
upon herielf the hdplefs Pity of the man ihe loves! 

A pitilefs heart deferves not Pity, iii. 269. [iv. 55]. 

God will pity him who pities his fellpw-creatare, 
iv. 163. [v. 34]. 

Wl^ Codipaffion proceeds from tendernefs of na- 
ture, and not arrogance, it is greatnels, even in a woman, 
to accept of it from a man of honour, iv. 343. [v. 


It is the glory of the human heart to melt at another's 
woe, iv. 385. [ir. 256]. 

We cannot be angry at, or alarmed by, the perfon 
whom, we Pity, iv.. 392. [v. 263]. 

Who would not fa ad, as to invite the admiration, ra-^ 
ther diati the Pity of a worthy man ? v. 122. [vi. 100]. 

Platonic Love. 

pLATOKic Love is a dangeroas allowance; and, 
with regard to the other fex, a very unequal one ; fince 
while the man has nothing to fear,' the woman has every 
thing, from the privileges that may be claimed in an ac^ 
ittowleged confidence; efpecially when alone together, 
iii. 320. [iv. 106]. 

An offered and accepted friendfhip between a man 
and woman, neither of them indelicate, may lead them 
into great perplexities, tho' both (hould mean honourably, 
i. 32X. [iv. 107]. 

It a man forbear to a(k of a young lady, in abfence, 
Chofe favours, (of correfpondence, for example} which 
their avowed friendihip might warrant ; or if he aik, and 
(he decline granting them ; in either cafe, and on either 
fide, fomething more than common friendihip feems to 
b/P indicated, Uid* 


tbetiifimy of Sir Ch. Orandison. 363 

Ifeat^en^ for laudable ends, has implanted fach a re- 
gard in the fexes to each ocher, that both man and wo-* 
man, who hope to be innocent,' cannot be tod circum- 
fpe6i in relation to the friendfhips they are fo ready to 
contrad with each other, iii. 376. [iv. i6z]. 

Platonic Love is generally an infidious pretenfion^^ 
vi. 39. [vit. 393- ^ . ■ ^ , 

See Advice gmd Cautions to Women, Artful Men^ 


• • 

Posts Ykzvj^ neceffarily heated imaginations, which 
generally run away with their judgments, ii. 128. [rzgj. 

Poets have finer imaginations than other men ; b^ 
imagination and judgment jfeldom. go together, iii. 59, 

Poets nuhen pro*voAeJ, are thenfiaj^s and hornets of for 

Men and women are cheats to one another : But, fays 
lady G. we may, in a great meafure, thank the Poetical 
tribe for the fafcination, v. 310. [vi. 288]. . 

Are they not, proceeds J^e, in her ufual li*veJy manner , 
inflamers of the worft paffions ?• Md, 

Would Alexander, madman as he was, have been fo 
fHuch 2L madman, had it not been for Homer ? ibid. 

Of what violences, murders, depredations, have not 
the Epic Poets, from all antiquity, been the occafion, by 
propagating falfe honour, falfe glory, and falfe religion I 

Thofe of the amorous clafs, rants Jhe m^ ought in all 
ages (could their talents for tinkling found and meafure 
have been known) to have been ftrangled in their cradles, 

Abufers of talents given them for better purpofes, and 
avowedly claiming ai right to be licentiousy and to over-' 
leap the bounds oT decency^ truth and nature, ibid. 

They fhould have been banilhed our commonwealth, 
as w^U as Plato's, concludes that over-li'vely Lady^ ibid. 

Polite. Pditenefs. Elegance. 

P E R s oii s who are willing to return e&eem for qivi^ 

R 2 iity4 

564 ;iSca|iineQts^ &q* txfrc&iififf^ . 

lity, Qftea draw diemfelves into incoavoiicAcies, i. iizo. 

. A man i^ay ^^r^ to 4hew Politenefs to thofe he is re 
iolved to keep at diflapce from his heart, ii. 227. [328]^ 

Police men, whenever ladies are retired with ladies 
9^y» wiU.coniider them as in their own apartaient, and 
will not intrude withoat leave,' iii. 315. [iv. 10 1]. 
.t%Pf J^w; many failel^>Qds. docs what is called Polite- 
neisy make people who are deemed polite, guilty ! iv. 
17. [189]. . - 

A well-bred perfpn.will not flight the innocent plea- 
Iwes in which others delight, iv. 44. [2 16 J. 

A'trikly gillanc and polite man will find his heart re- 
^^, *at the tfabttght of a denial of marHage to a woman 
6f chara^to Who expeds the ^flfer* iv. 397. [v. 268]. 

Eafe with propriety is the foundation of true £iegance» 
V; 88. fvi. 66r]. 

A polite and generous man will diilingutih and en- 
Courage a doubting mind, V. 137. [vi. 115]. 

A 'polite perfon will double an obligation, by the grace^ 
ful manner of conferring it, v. 183. [vi. 167]. 

Praife. Sclf-Praifc. Difpraife. 

tt is lawful to repeat thofe thines fpoken in our own 
praife, which are neceflary to be Known, and cannot 
otherwlfe be come at, i. 40. \iUd\ 

It will be eafily difcovered whether perfons repeating 
their own Praifes, are elated With them, or not, ihii. 

The heart hardly deferves Praife, that is not fond of 
it from the worthy, i. 392. [ii. 77]. 

We are too apt to give Praife or Difpraife to the 
"aflions or fentiments of others, as they fquare with oar 
own, ii. 224.. [325]. 

\i may be concluded, that nothing extraorJ^nary can be 
faid of a man whom his friends praife highly for the 
performance of thofe common duties, which, if he failed 
in, he would be juiUy deemed a bad man» ii. 318. [iiL 
62]. • 

A worthy mind will wilh to be thought well of by the 
worthy, ii. 388. [iii. 132]. 

' Praiie and Difpraife ikould be jiiftly given,' iii. 5. 
ti^sJ- What. 

tie Hiftory of Sir Ch. Gr an*is6w. ^^5 

"Whatever men |>raife> they ihoiild endeavoar to imi- 
tate, ill. 1 86, [346]. 

A good roan, looking upon himfelf only as the inflrur 
ment of Providence in the good he difpenfes, will, with 
reludance, receive the overflowing thanks and Praife^ ^ 
of grateful hearts, iii. 253. [iv. 39] - 

Modcfly may look up, and be elated with the Prfiifei 
of a good man, iii. 338. [ir. i24]> > 

We are fond of Handing high in the opinion of thofe 
we love, tho' we may be conlcious of not delerving aU 
the Praifes they may give us, iv. 169. [v. 40]. 

We may allowably repeat the fxsifcs given us by grfttO" 
ful and benevolent fpirits, when we cannot otherwife fo 
well do juflice to the generous warmth , of their friend^ 
ihip, IV. 212. [v. 83J. 

Thfe Praifes given to tKofe we really love, are qften 
more grateful to us, than thofe conferred, on purfelvc's, 
iv. 251. V. 276. [v. 122. vi. 254]. 

The reafon is, we doubt not perhaps our o^^n merit!; 
but may be afraid, that the favoured obje6^ will not 'be 
confideFed by others, as we are willing ^to confid^r him.: 
But if he is, y/e take the Praifes grven hiin, as a cpm- 
pliment to our own judgment, iv. 251, 2^i>\[y»i2t$ 
123]. ; .- 

A perfon may be praifed into a good behaviour whic"^ 
he never deiigned to ihew, when he has. an opinion of 
tht Praifer, v. 4. [275]. 

Men, Mr\ GrevilU Jays, may take to themfelves, thi 
advantages and good qualities, which every-body attri- 
butes to them, V. 147. [vi. 125]. 

Praife will flimulate^ a worthy mind to deferve Prfdfe, 
V. 215. [vi. 193]. 

Sweet is the incenfe of Praife from a good man, of 
his wife, in prefence of her furrounding friends, vi* 2;& 
£vii. 26]. 

See Friendihip. Good Mafi, Good Woman. Love, 

• - ■- « 

Professions. See Proceftations. 
Profusion. See Extravagance. ' ■ ' ^ 

Promises. See Froteftations . 

R 3 Pro- 

3^6 S^timmtSf &c« txtraSiifrm 

Proteftant Nunneries. 

In England many young women marry men they 
would rcfifc, if the ftatc of a fingle woman there were 
not fo peculiarly unprovided for and helplefs, iii. 554. 
[iv. 14.0]. 

Proteftant Nunneries, under proper regulations, woul4 
be a moft deiirable ioftitution for young women of flen- 
der fortunes^ and genteel education j and at the fame time 
feminaries for good wives. Bee a fcheme for this, VoL 

*"• 354> 355» 35^* D^- H^, H^ H^]- 

Pioteftations. Profeflions. Promifes. Vows. 

Large Proteftations of love and honour, imply, that 
the Protefter thinks them needful, i. 81. [i^iV}. 

And are a tacit implicatioa of fuperiority, aa well in 
degree, as fortune, ibid. 

A woman*s credulity is a greater proof of her inno- 
cence, than mens Profeflions are of their Sincerity, i. oc, 

t,w]. , .^ . , . 

Volubility in love-fpeeches, makes fincerity queftion- 
aWe, i. 113. [i^/W]. 

It would, in fbme cafes, be an affront to herfelf, were 
a woman to cnvn to a man who pleads honourable views, 
that (he doubts hi& honour, {even tbo' ihe fufpeAed him] 
i. 117. [thid']. 

The man who teazel k woman to make a Promife, as 
j;ood as tells her, that he intends to hold her to it, let 
'what will happen to mak-e her repent of it, ii. 77. [178]. 
' Women fhould never be drawn in to fetter themfelvea 
by Promifes, ii. 173. [274]. 

To what end is a Promife endeavoured to be obtained, 
]f the urger fufpedt not the fitnefs of his addredes ; and 
if he did not either doubt the lady*s honour, or feared 
her returning difcretion ? ihid. 

The woman who is induced to make a Promife to a 
L^^ver^ as he is called, makes father,' mother, brother, 
of no confideration with her, but as they give into hit 
views, ibid. 

A young woman, therefore, ought to defpife a man 
from the moment he feeks to engage her to make a Pro- 
mife, lu 180. [281]. A 

tbi tis/icry of Sir Ch. Gr andison. 367 

A man who ieeks to engage a Promife from a La^fyt 
malt doubt either his own merit, or her fteadinefs ; and* 
in either cafe, ought not to be complied with, ii. 2io» 
211. [311, 312]. 

Where a man is afinred of a return in love, there is 
|io occafion for a Promiie, ii. 211. [312}. 

Silly men, in love ProfeOions, aim at fayine to their 
miftrekes all that can be faid, becaufe they know no| 
bow to fay things proper t9 be faid, iii. 72. [23*^]. 

A worthy man will be known by his aftions, rathcx 
than by his Profeffions, iii. 276. [iv. 62]. 

The Promife of a man of honour is followed by ab* 
folate certainty, the firft opportunity, not that eferj, 
but which^he can make, iii. 283. [iv. 69}. 

A worthy man will never, recede from his Ofiers or 
Promifes, circumftaaces continaing the fame, iv. 114. 

Large Profeffions are equally a difgrace to true love, 
and to the merit of the object, vi. to8. [vii. 108]. 

See Advice t9 IVomen, Compliments. Good Man. 
liOve. Modefty. Single JVomen, 

Prudence. Difcretion. Wife M^n. 

F o a T V N B» in the choice of a wife, (hould be tli« 
leaft thing ftood npon by the man who is in circumo 
fiances not uneafy : But Prudence will advife, fsr^s Sir 
RffwlandMtrtdifby that (he ihould have fo much as would 
ferve to (hew, that the man was rather captivated by the 
underftanding, than by j}xt eye, i. 26. [f^V]. 

Where a woman is poflefled of a moderate fortune^ 
it will be an eameft, fcv^s the Knight^ that the family fhe . 
is of, wants not to lie under obligation to the man who 
nuurries her, ihid, 

A Prudent perfon will refolve to amend by the faults 
found in her ; and endeavour to confirm herfelf in the 
virtues afcribed to her» i. 40, 41. [ihidl^. 

A young lady who fpeaks little, and hears what is faid n 
by her elders with attention, may be pronounced difcreet^ 
i. 325. [ii, 10]. , 

. The Difcretion of a perfon is often feen in minute* 
nefleSf i* 393. [ii. 78], 

R 4 The 

The troubles of the Difcreet proceed from other peo- 
ple ^ of the Indtfcrecti from themfelves, i. 405. [ii. 90 j. 

A Prudent woman will not give way to an hopelefa 
paffion, ii. 19. [120]. 

A Prudent and uniform man will be able to create 
frienddiips, even by a graceful non-compliance with an 
undbe requeft, ii. 1 27. [228]. 

Prudent benefa^iors will not make the young persons 
to whom they wi(h well, independent of their own dili- 
gencei ii. 272. [iii. 16]. 

Difcretion is not always the companion of age, ii. 
341. [iii. 85]. 

A Wife man will bring his mind to bear inevitable evils, 
and to make a virtue of necei&ty, ii. 375. [iii. 119]. 

Can a proud^ vain, or arrogant inan have any hold 
in the aifedions of a prudent wojiia«? iii. 216. [iv. 2]. 

A Prudent perfoUj by remembering pad miftakes, will 
avoid many mconveniencies, imo which forgetfulneis 
will plun^ imi>rudent ones, iii. a22. [iv. 8]. 

There is a bright fide in every event } a Wife man will 
not lofe iight of it; and diere is. a dark one, but he will 
endeavour only to fee it with the eve of Prudence^ that 
he may not be involved by it unawares, iii. 380. [iv. 

A Wiie man, if he cannot be as bappy as be wiihet. to 
be, will cejoicc in the felicity he xun have, ilndn 

The tri^ of profperity is a much more ardnotts one, 
tiban that of adverfi^, iv. 329. [v. aoo]. 

A Prudent man fees before him lak great diftance* 
He will have nothing to reproach himfelf with in future^ 
that be can obviate at prefent, iv. 336. [v. 207]. 
V A Prudent and good aian will not be above comply* 
ing with the innocent cuftoms of the world, v. 73, 74. 
[vi. i;i.C2]. 

A Wile man will thankfully enjoy the prefent hour, 
and leave the future to the AU-wife difpofer of events, 
V. 138. [vi. 116]. 

. People who are prudent in die ndvice they give to 
others [fuch is the difference between theory and practice} 
are not alway& prudent in the- management of their own 
affairs [efpecially in love-cafes] v, 187I [vi, l6j]« 


the Hificry tf Sir Gh. G r andison. 3 69 

A woman of fuperior mind will not permit the fo]Ue$ 
of her nurfes, in her infantile ftate, to be cinrried into 
her maturer age, fo as to depreciate herwomsuily reafon^ 
V. 309. [vi. 287]. 

People, /ays Lady G, may be very happy, if not moft 
happy [She mentions inftances in point] who fct out with 
a> moderate ftock- of love, andfopply what they want of 
the rage of that, with Prudence, v. 354. [vi. 3^2]. 

A rrodentperfon will not fuffer diffidence of the fu- 
ture, to leifen his prefent enjoyments, vi. zS. [vii. 28]. ' 

A Prudent man will be always prepared for, and afore - 
hand with, probable events, vi. 45. [vii. 45]. 

See Advice a»4 Cautions to Women. Good Masf^ 
Good Wife. 

Prudery. Coquetry. 

Wisdom oat of its place, is a Prude^ ^•4^7* D^* 


Modefiy, under the name of Prudery, is in danger of 
becoming ignominious, and of being baniihed from th^ 
behaviour and converfations of all thofe who frequent 
public places, iii. 353. [iv. 139]. 

The word Piudery has two fenfes. As derived from 
Prudence, it were to be wifhed it were reilored to- its 
primitive iignification, left virtue fhould fuffer by this 
flhnfe of it, as religion once did by that of the word 
Foritan, v. 170. [vi. 148]. 

Coquets, when the general attention towards tkem 
grows languid, will regain it, by often flirting out and 
IB, or not flaying fo long in a place as to tire their com^* 
pany, v.. 226. [vi. 304], » 

Public Places. Modern fine Ladies and Gentle- ' 
men. Depravity of "Tii/us and Manners* 

CoDld it have been thought- twenty or thirty years 
ago, that the high mode would require, the gaming- 
mafler to be added for completing the female education ? 
1. 23. [ihid]. 

if a young woman finds in herfelf a rclu6lance to go 
often to Public places, let her not try td overcome it, 

R 5 left 

370 Sentiments, &c. txtra^ed from 

left (he turn gadder^ and make lier home undelightfal to 
her, i. 125. [ibid'], 

Italians fay, they fufFer not often their fineft voices, 
tnd fineft compofers, to turn ftrollers, i. 146. [ibidl. 

Many perfpns of low eenius amone the gentry, have 
fach a tafte for foreign diverfions, that they think not 
tolerably of thofc of their own country, however pre- 
ferable, ibid, 

^ Mafauerades are not creditable places for young la- 
dies to be known to be infolted at them, i. 99. [ihid'\. , 

They are diverfions that fall not in with the genius 
of the EngllQi commonalty, ibid. 

They are f;ud by thofe who fpeak moft favourably of 
them, to be a diverfion more mly than wicked, i. i6c. 

Prudent and good women may, with reafon, be allow- 
ed to fay, that their lot is caft in an age of petit maitret 
and triflers of men, i. 253. [ibid]. 

The taile of the men of the prefent age is drefs, eqoi- 
vage, and foppery : Muft a woman, who is addrefled 
by a man of inferior talents to her own, hide hers, ta 
keep him in countenance? i. 324. [ii. 9]. 

A woman cannot pick and cboofe as a man can ; what 
can (he do, if her lot be caft only among fuch fbplings ? 

The luxury of the age, and the turn which women 
take, in undomefticating themfelves, occafion an increafe 
of bachelors, i. 326. [ti. 11]. 

Women who are folicitous to go to Public places, 
with a view to engage the attention of men, may give 
over their folicitude, if they ftrike not at once, and be- 
fore their face^ become cheap and familiar, ii. 72. Fi 73]« 

Men in their hearts defpife for their fbrwardnefs, thoft 
women whom they mod compliment, ibid. 

If women of fenfe, virtue, honour, give in to the fa- 
shionable amufements of an age of diffipation, who (hall 
make the ftand of virtue and decorum ? ii. 200. [301]. 

No wom^n can be a prude at a Mafquerade, ibid* 

Repartee and pertnefs are the current wit at that wit* 
lefs place, ibid. 

What are other peoples follies to a woman of pru- 
dence ? 

ibe Hi^ory of S^ Cn. Git andisok. ^71 

dence ? 1$ fuch a one to make an appearance that (hall 
Want the countenance of the vaineft, if not the fillieft^ 
part of the creation ? ii. 201 • [30a]. 

The afTumed characters at a Mafauerade, are hardly 
ever attempted to be kept up [that ot the arch-fiend and 
his infernal minifters excepted] iBiJ, 

Places of Diveriion [or diffipation rather, as' they 
flionld be called] become dreadfully general, ihiJ. 

Young women ihould be indulged [once or twice in a 
ieafon] at the innocent Public Diveriions, that they 
may not add expedation (which runs very high in young 
SDinds, and is ieldom anfwered) to the ideal fcenes, ii. 
267. [iii. Ill 

By this indnlgence a bound is fet to the imagination* 

What Icnowlege a young perfoQ will gain by her intro- 
dodioh to Public places, if the diverfions engage her 
attention, (he had oetter be without, ihid. 

A wife man need not run into |;rave declamations 
againil the times, to prove, that EnglUh men and women, 
are not what they were in their manners and public be- 
haviour, ii. 269. [iii. 13]. 

A wretched effeminacy prevails among the men : Mar- 
riage, the bond of civil fociety, is more and more de- 
fpiied; and even women deemed virtuous, difcourage 
not by their contempt the free-livers, ii. 271. [iii. 15]. 

Flippant women love to affociate with empty men, 
becaufe fuch keep their folly in countenance, iii. 353^ 
[iv. 139]. 

They are afraid of wife men. Bat wife men fhould 
not turn fools to pleafe them, r^iV. 

They will defpife the wife man's folly, more than the 
weak man's ; and with reafon, becaufe being uncha- 
rafteriflic, it muft fit more awkwardly upon him, than 
the other's can do, -I'^/V. 

How ihould modern fine gentlemen know any thing;^ 
of delicacy, when the women they affociate with, have 
forgot it? iv. 72. [244]. 

Women, fince they have been admitted fo Ircentioufly 
to ihare in the Public diverfioos^ want not courage, iv. 

R 6 They 

j7^ ScntiflMno, See; mraSid from 

They give men ftare for ftarc, whcre-ever they meet 
Acm iir. 73. [245]. 

The next age, on this account, muft farely be all he«r 
roes and heroines, ihid. 

Among the Modern fine people, the company, not 
the entertainment, is the principal part of the raree- 
flicw, iv. 83. [255]. 

Pretty enough, Jay$ Lady G, for tU, to make the en- 
tiertainment, and pay for it too, to the honeft fellows^ 
who have nothing to do but to projed fcheines to get lu 
together, iiid. 

What, aj^j thi fame Lady^ are our Modern fine gentle- 
men fit for, but to purvey for news and fcandal tor oar 
ffex ? ihid. 

What times are we fallen into, that chaftity in a man 
will fubjed him to the ridicule of the one fex, and to 
the contempt of the other ! iii. 174. [v. 45 J. 

Joyful people are not always wife ones, iv. 198. [v. 

Women, Lady G. /ays, marry not now fo much for 
love, as for the liberty of gadding abroad with lefs cen- 
fure and lefs controul, iv. 255. [v. 126]. 

Yet the number of fingle women that croud to Rane- 
lagh and Vaux-hall markets, to be cheafetudt will con- 
vince us, Jhefaysy that maids will be ^s foon above ihame 
and controul,, as wives, ibid. 

But were not the fathers* proceeds Jhe, willing to get 
the drugs ofF their hands, thofe freedoms would not be 
permitted, ihid. 

As for mothers, concludes this fret'fpeaking Lady, many 
of them are for efcorting their daughters to Public places, 
in order to take their (hare of the Racketing, ibid. 

It is the intercil of gay and deligning men, to promote 
this almoil univerfal diifipation ; yet, tho' women would 
not croud to market were there not men there, they 
find, that men worth a wifb, rather cheapen than purchaft 
at places of Public refort, v. 126. See al/o vol. v. 245. 
[vi. 223]. 

We live in an age, in which more good may be done 
by feeming to relax a little, than by flridinefs of beha- 
viour, v. 227, 22%. [vi, 205, 206]. 


the Hifhry of Sir Cm GitAiqrDisoit. 375 

Yet thofc are to be mdft app1aaded» >Vhb from a full 
perfaaiion of what their duty requires of them, do nof 
relax ; and the more, if they have got above moroienefs, 
aafterity, uncharitablenefs, v. 227, 228. [vL 205, 206]. ' 
'Women are not fo foon tired of Public diverlions, 
particularly of ^ndng, as men, vi. 35. [vii. 35]. 

^heir minds are generally more airy f' more 'volatile^ and 
more fufceptibk tf jty^ and fefihvi^ : They flfould 
not therefore he too much indulged in them ; and the 
lefs^ as a decM and becoming rifeirve is an ornament 
tf their fexy and one of the principal huhoorks .of 
^ee Advice ar Cautions to Women, Chaftity, Fa- 
ihioQ. Femalities. Polity. Prudery. 

Punctilio. ^/« HpuQur. , 

R A € K B T I ifG. ^e Public Places, 
H A I L L fi a Y. See Ridicule. 
Rakes. See Libertines. 


A M A N. flioiihi nbt engage his intercfl tb fcrvc an un- 
worthy and incapable man, ii. 217. [318}. 

A man fiiould think himfelf accountable for warm He- 
commendations ; efpeciaily in cafeS wherein the public 
is concerned, ihid, 

A good man, when he engages his intereft to {trvt a 
£iend, will not be cool in his favour, ibid. 

He will think himfelf anfwerable to a worthy man, 
and to all connected with him, were he a means of lift- 
ing one lefs worthy over his head, ibid. 

See Friendfhip. Good Man. Gratitude* IngcQU- 
oufnefs. Prudence. 

Recrimination. Reproof. 

There are no great hope^ of amendment in a per- 
fon who (hews uneafinefs at Reproof or admonition, 
i. 325. [ii. 10]. 


374 Sentiments, &c. ixtraSidfram 

We Ibottld not remind perfons of faults of which thef 
repent, and wiih to forget, ii. 366. [iii. no]. 

The aim of a good-natured Reprover is to amend, not 
to wound, ii. 383. [iii. 127]. 

Indifcretions repented of, and not repeated^ fhonld 
free a perfon from reproach^ iii. 6. [165 J 
Sei Penitence. 

Reformation, ^m Penitence. 

Religion. Piety. 

pROTBSTANTs who perTccute one another, diigraor 
their profeffion in the eyes of people of different cojamii- 
ikions, iii. 64. [224]. 

What can this (hort life give, to warrant the fiicrifice 
of a matt*s confcience ? iii. 93. (253]. 

What pity that Religion and Love, which heighten 
our reliih for the things of both worlds, ihould ever 
run the human heart into enthufiafm, fuperfticion, or ■&• 
charitablenefs ! iii. 160. [320]. 

Moderation, properly £ewn, muff ever create effecm, 
iii. 183. [343]. 

The man who for fear of beine branded fot an hypo- 
crite, declines performing his public duties, will incur 
the charge of cowardice, without being acquitted of the 
other, iii. 353. [iv. 130]. 

The proteffant churches, tho' they allow of the pof- 
fibility of falvation out of their pale, allow not their 
members to embrace error againff convidion, iv. 24. 

Over-doers make ReligioA look unlovely ; and put 
under-dqers otst of heart, iv. 174. [v. 44]^ 

That devotion which is owing to true Piety, never 
makes a good perfon four, morofe> or melancholy, iv. 
aoo. [v. 80]. 

when Piety engages the heart to give up its firff fer- 
vors to its faperior duties, all temporal impulfes will re- 
ceive abatement, and k>ve 4>f the creature, will become 
but a fecondary fervor, iv. 287. [v. 158]. 

A man convinced of the truth of his own Religion,, 
muft have a generous and great mind, to allow to another 


the Hifiory of Sir Ch. Gr andison: ^y^ 

of a different perfaafion, lyhat he expeas ihail be allow* 
cd to himfelf, iv. 298. [v. 169]. 

A good man will be afraid of prefcribing to tender 
confciences, v. 228. [vi. 206]. 

The man who in Roman catholic countries, would 
think it hard to be treated as an heretic, cannot, con- 
fidently, flame out againft his countrymen at home, for 
fmaller differences in the articles for which the party 
hilnfelf is anfwerable only to the common Father of all 
men, ibid. 

Piety is the beft fecurity for good behaviour, in man 
or woman, vi; 40. [vii. 40]. 

Pity, fa^s Lady Grandifony that different nations of the 
world, tho' of different perfuaiions, do not, more than 
they do, confider themfelves as the creatures of one God, 
the fovereign of a thoafand worlds, vi. 159, 160. [vii* 
159, 160]. 

A day fpent in doing good, be the obje£ls of it ever 
fo low, is more pleafing to reflect upon, than a day of 
the mod elegant mdulgence, vi. 263. [vii. 263]. 

^ee Beneficence. Duties Msral tmd Reltgi$ms. Bx- 
ample. Generofity. Good Man. Goodnefs» 
Magnanimity. The Paflions. Penitence. Vir- 

Remorse. See Penitence. 

. Reproof. ^^/Recrimination. 

Reputation.. See Honour. 

Reserve. See FnaikAeCi 0/ Heart. 


Young women who marry old men, when advanced 
in years themfelves, often take a young man for their 
fecond hufband : That fecond hufband, when manumitted, 
in his advanced years, marries a young woman : Whence, 
each having wifhed to bury the elderly mate. Retribu- 
tion takes its courfe with each, ii. 205. [306]. 

The violators of the focial duties are frequently pu* 
nilhed by the fuccefs of their own .wifhes, rh'd. 

It is (uitable to the Divloe Benignity, as well as Juilice, 


^y6 'Scntimtnts^ 6cc. exiraSled from 

to lend its fandlions and jpuniihments in aid of thofc da- 
tK$, which bind man to man, ii. 205. [306]. 

Ridicule. Humour. Raillery. 

HvMovR and Raillery are very difficult to be reined- 
in. They are ever curvetting, like a prancing horfe, 
iuid will often throw the rider, ii. 274. fiii- i3]. 

Many a perfpn who fets light on tlie Ridicule playM 
off upon another, would be extremely fenfible of it in 
his own cafe^ iv. 171. [v. 42]. 

Some men cannot appear with advantage, as they feem 
to think, without making their friend a butt to fhoot at, 
V. 146. [vi. 124], 

Humour is a gentle, a decent, tho* a lively talent, 
Ti. 71. [vii. 71]. 
See Wit. 

Riot. SeeEhfhety. 


False Shamb. ^«/ Ebriety. 
Science. See Learning. 
Secrets. See Concealment. 


The Sedu£lion of a young creature from the padi 
of virtue, in which flie was fafely Walking till fhe was 
overtaken by the Seducer, if a capital and moft ingrate- 
ful crime, iii. 44. [204]. 

Who that can glory in. the virtue.of his own iifter, can 
allow himfelf in attempts upon the fider, the daughter, 
of another ? iBi^. 

Can that crime' be pardonable in a man, which renders 
a woman infamous ? /^/V. 

A man who can betray and ruin an innocent woman, 
who loves him, ought to be abhorred by meft, as well as 
by women, iv. 96. [268]. 

Would he fcruple to betray and ruin them, were he 
not afraid cither of the law, or of a manly refent- 
ment ? iv. 96. [268]. 


ibiHyicfypf Sir Ch.Gkasi>i90v. 377 

The pooreft hMuft girl in Britaio, fedoced by promifes 
of marriage, is intitled to the performance of the pro- 
mife, iv. 197, [v. 68]. 

See Addreu ta Men •fZenfe in the ge^ World, Liber- 
tines. Proteilations. Vice. 

S c L F I s H N E s s. See Avarice. 


W H A T a mifer calls Prudence, an extravagant ma& 
caHs Avarice : The mifer is even with him, and properly 
calls that Profaiion, which the other, in felf-complaifance, 
calls Generofity, ii. 313. £iU. C7]. 

Men are loth to think themselves wrong in thofe pur- 
fuics in which they are willing to indulge themfelvea* 
iii* 18. [178]. . 

When tlie hearts of men are engaged in a hope, they 
are too apt to think every flep they take for promoting 
it, reafooable,. iv. 14. [186]. 

Self-love, Ladf G. fs^st b generally at the bottom tf 
|dl we fay and <&, iv>. 252^ [vi 123]. 
^ee/Av9xko. Ingontiouiheili. 

Self-Pkaisb. f^Praife. 


Ths French, at this day, are more fond of Senti* 
mencs in their authors writings, than the £ngli(h, v. 354. 
[vi. 332]. 

Story, in works of imagination, is what the Englifh 
hunt alter, whether probable or improbable, ibid. 

Servants, ^/r^ Maftffs. 

Settlements. See Marriage-Treaties, 

Signs of Lave. 

Reverence mingled with admiration^ 1. 80. 11. 306. 
[i. 80. iii. 50]. 

Avoiding naming the perfon's name in converfation ; 
fubftituting inflread of it, the words him and be, fomehody^ 
certain fc-r/on^ &C. W J97. [il. "82], 


$y8 .Sentiments, &c. ixtraffedfr0M 

Obferving to the advantage of the objed, trifles, that 
would efcape coounon obfervadoay i. 397. [ii. 82]. 

A pleafure in fighing, that cannot be defcribed ; yet 
that it is jnvoluiitaryy i. 406. [ii. 91]* 

When a young woman is ready to quarrel with her- 
felf, yet knows not why, thid. 

When file has a frettine, gnawing^ pain in her fto- 
mach, that ihe can neither defcribe nor account for ; , yet 
Is humble, meek, as if looking out for pity of every- 
body, and fhewing a readinefs~to pity every- body [efpc- 
cially thofe in Love] il^d. 

When her attention is eagerly given to Love-ftoriet^ 
and to difficulties in them, iSid. 

When her hnmaiiity is raifed, and her iielf-confequenct 
lowered, ihid. 

RtSt broken ; fleep diflarbed $ frightful dreamt^; ro- 
mantic refveries, i^V. 

A kind of impatience, next to petnlance, wlren her 
retirement is broken in upon of a fudden ; yet employed 
about nothing of confequence, i. 414* [ii. 99]. 

She muft be indeed in Love, who nfually dunking 
well of herfelf, can think ftill more highly of her lover> 
ti. 68. {169]. 

Where a woman exprefles indifference to a change of 
condition, with an unobjedible man who makes advaun- 
tageous offers, (he gives caufe to imagine a prepofleffion 
in favour of fome other, ii. 214. iii. 64. [ii. 315. iii. 

When a beloved perfon cannot be named or praised, 
but a young creature's eyes will fparkle, and be taken off 
either work or book, ii. 276. [iii' 20]. 

Idlenefs is a great frieno of Love, ii. 299. [iii. 43]. * 

She will devour his praifes with greedtnds ; her cheeks 
will glow, and a iigh will efcape her own obfervation 
on fnch occafions, ii. ^00. [iii. 44]. 

A trick of fighinc;, whkh,' on being challenged, ihe 
is foUicitous to attribute to any other caufe than to the 
true one, ii. 303. {iii. 47]. 

Owns an Eiteem ; but denies a Love, ii. 305. [iu. 49]. 

A weight at her bofom, that urges iighing, and which 
ffcms to be relieved by it, Uid, 


ibiHiftofy ofSirCn. Grandisoit. 379 

Difordered by farprlzes ; pat out of breath by fuddea 
hurries, as if fhe had run down an high hill, ii. 306. [iii- 

Emotions that can no more be defcribed, than account-^ 
cd for, ii. 307. [iii. 51]. 

Tender fentiments, fweetnefs of manners, fofthefs •f 
voice, are indications of a mind harmonized by Love, 
ii. 376. [iii. 120J. 

Refpedful modefty in the looks of a man, in pre- 
fence of a beloved objed ; a look of languor ; a with* 
drawn eye, when hers is call upon him ; are figns of true 
Love in a man« iii. 2, 3. [162]. 

Sudden turns in health or temper, the reafon for which 
appears not ; a love of folitude, filence, are ftrong in- 
dications of Love, iii. 60, 61. [220, 221}. 

Liuiy G. /ays9 it is one of the trueft Signs of Love, 
when men are moft fond of the women who are lead fit 
for them, and ufe them worft, iii. 72. [232]. 

The woman who delights in the praifes given to a~ fa- 
voured man, more than in her own, gives undoubted 
Signs of Love, iii. 223. [iv. 9}. ' 

When a young woman finds both pleaiure and pain ii| 
fighing, (he ihoidd look to her heart^ iv. 63. [235l. 
Ssf Delicacy. Female Dirnii^/ Pemalities. Love* 
Love at firft Sight. Vincibility of Love. 

Sincerity, Infincerity. 

It is no impeachment of Sincerity, if a perfon an« 
fwers not every queflion ptt to her, by thofe to whooL 
(he is not accountable, i.. 1 1 $. [xir^]. 

The Sincerity of a young woman whb pretends to love 
*a man much older than herfdf, is to be fufpe^ked^ ii. 92. 

What a litdenefs is there in the couom that compels 

us to be Iniincere? ii. acS. [iii. 2]. 

Perfons who are folicitous to be thought plain-dealers, 

ihould take care to avoid raftidty or indeoorumy iv. 289. 

[v. 80]. 

There may be cafes in which Sincerity can hardly be 

feparated from unpoUtenefs, iv. 356. [v. 227]. 

Ste Daties J^a/ ami JU/igious. Franknefs o/Hearfi. 

Good Man^ Single 

Single Women. 

Sweetness of temper illoibates plain features' 
and makes tkem fhme, i. 4. [/Af^]. 

From fixteen to twenty, all women, kept in hnmoiir 
\i^ their hopes, and by their attractions^ appear to be 
good-natured, ihid. 

To what evils may a fole and independent woman be 
expo&d ? i. 84. \ibid\ 

Many men are to be looked upon as wild beafts of 
the defart ; a Single, an independent woman they hunt 
after as their proper prey, i. 85. [rfiVJ. 

Thofe young w<>men are happieft, whofe friends, con- 
fulting their inclinations, take the tronble of Settling 
nuptial preliodaari^s fQi* them, ihid. 

Ye^ are young women too fond of being dieir own 
miftreiTes, iUd. 

The young woman who takes upon herfelf the difpofal 
of her perfon, lays a heavy talk upon her circumfpedtion^ 
i. 85. \ibid\ 

A young woman of delicacy will be ready to think it 
bas^pearance.of confidence in her to ftand oot to 
receive, as a creature uncontroalable, the firfl motions to 
an addrefs from a man with whom ihe is but little ac- 
quainteds i. 86. [f^iV]. 

It is much eafier for- a young woman in conrtihip to 
fay No, than Yes, ibid. 

The young woman who engages to keep her lover*s 
fecrets from her friends, b brought into a f^ot againft 
herfelf as well as them, i. 121. \ihid\ 

And is not fuch a ftep an indired confeffion, thai ihe 
\% doing fomething wrong and unworthy ? ibid. 

A good woman ought to have an opinion of the mo- 
rals of the man, on whofe wortbinefs fhepropofes to build 
her hopes of prefent bappinefs, and to whofe guidance 
fntrufl her future, i. 133. [ibid'], 

Ta fay nvihing of tie cvujequenct /hi'p*vts him, and 
takes fr^m herfelf, by her imtUcite reliance on him, 
and him only, in preference to all her natural friends * 

It carries with it an air of arrogance for a woman to 
fey, fhepitief a man jhe will not accept, i. 1 50. [ibid\ 


The time from eighteen to twenty-fotir, is generally 
the happied of awoman^ Bfe, i. 151. {titd'}, 

A woman when (h« is alone with a mat), fiionld hot 
allow in him, even thole liberties of fpeech^ geHore, ad« 
drefs, which iti eompM^y mig^t ticft beixliimeabley i. 153. 

Daa^lieers' oftia» iii a be^iinmg a4drefs, declare, that 
they will not marry without their parents confent ; but 
they wilt frequently fofier ^eir.afiections to be engaged* 
without letting them know a fyllable of the matter : [and 
what then is die cafe, but th^t the child, who would navtf 
deemed a parent a tyrant, had he fought to compel her to 
Inreak olP her engagement, anally hopes to compelhim 
to approve of her ingrateful rafhnefs ?] i. 391. [ii. yS"]. 
Yoong women frequently, in certain caies, as much 
dread to find out themjfelves, as to foe found out by others, 
i. 399, 400. [ii. 184, 85]. 

The age of fancy is a dangerous time in a young wo- 
snan^s li^, ii. 27. [128]. 

How anworthy of encouragement mud: he be, who, 
for felfifli confideratioQs,feeks to involve a young woman 
In diffitoltiles which Ihe never knew in her father*s houfe ? 
ii. 50. [151]. 

Young women who encourage the firft man that offers, 
frequentty fkcrifice their future preferment to their want 
of patieAce, rUd. 

Women qualified to adorn the domeflic life, may, in 
the prefent age of diffipation, be eileemed bleffings, tho* 
tAicy ihould have but fcanty fortunes, ii. 54. j8. [155. 

A young woman tMight to be fure, that the man to 

whom, as a lover, (he gives a preferable place in her 

afiedions to her parents, and brothers and filters, fhould 

be a man of merit, ii. 65. [166]. 

Young women fliould refufe a libertine man, if not 
for their own fakes, for the fake of their poilerity, ii. 84. 

Young women often, in rafh engagements, dread to 
make thofe communications winch only can be a means 
to extricate them from them, ii. 174. [275]. 

It is more fafe, in a doubtful cafe^ to check, than to 
give way to an inclination, Usd. Single 

f 02 Sentiments, 9cc, ntraS^frm- 

Single women ihould be fure of tfaclr men before they 
think of embtrking with them in the voyagf of life, 
ii. 177, 178, 179. [278, 279, 280]. 

Inextricable are die intanglements of love, when yoimg 
women are brought to correfpond with men, ii. 212. 

Men have opportunities of knowing the world, which 

women have not» ihii. 

Experience therefore^ engaging with inexperience, 
and perhaps to a great difierence in year&, the ccMubat 
muil be unequal, tbid* 

. Mod young women who begin a correfpondence with 
men, find themfelves raiflaken, if they think they can 
ftopwhen they will, ii. 218. [319]. 

The Single woman who' has but a middling fortune, 
has more perfons to choofe out of, and Ibinds a bettcar 
chance for happinefs, than ihe that has a large one, 
ii. 268. [ill. \z\. ^ 

A Single woman, in a love-affiur, ought to fear nothing 
fo much as to be more in a man's power than in her 
own, iii. 100. '[260]. 

Thofe who fet out for happinefs in wedlock, will be 
moft likely to find it, if they live fingle till the age of 
fancy is over, iii. ji6. [iv. 102]. 

The longer a woman remains fingle, the more appre- 
henfive {he will be of entering into the ftate of wedlock, 
iii. 354. [iv. 140]. 

At feventeen or eighteen, a girl will plunge into it, 
often without either fear ^r wit, i^/V. ^ 

At twenty, ihe will begin to think, ihid. 

At twenty- four, will weigh and difcriminate, ihid. 

At twenty-eight, will be afraid of venturing, zizJ. 

At thirty, will turn about,, and look down the hill Ihe 
has afcended, and fometimes rejoice, fometimes repent, 
that fhe has gained that rummit,^//^, ihU, 

What a happinefs is hers^ fays Mifs Byron, (Vol. i. 
p. 13). [fbid^. 'who is abli to look down from tht 
ele*vation of thirty years , her principles fixed, and 
hanging no capital folly to reproach herfelf ivith ! 

Women are generally in as much danger from the 
livelinefs of their own imaginations, as from the devices 
of men, iii. 374. [iv. i6oj* The 

Tke Single life ia cufiable of the nobleft tenderaefTes, 
and cannot be a grievaBce, [except in indigence, or de« 
pendence] iv, 40. [212]. 

Yoong women Have high delight in commanicating 
their love-progrefles to a mend who interefts herfelf in 
her tender concerns, v. 26. [vi. 74]. 

Let a good man, A^s the revered Mrs. Shirley y to a feC 
of favourite young Ladies ; let good life ; let good man* 
ners, be the principal motives of your choice : In good- 
nefs will you have every fandion ; and yotir fathers, 
mothers, relations, friends, every joy in your nuptials^ 

▼. Z70y 37«- [vi- 348» 349]- 

We women, fays Ladf G. prate and prate of what we 

£atty and of what we can jw/, of what we vught^ and 

of what we ought mt^ to do ; but none of us buy-till- 

we-are-aiked mortals know what we fliall or can do, 

till we are tried by the power of determining being 

put into oar hands, vi. 261. [vii. 261]. 

See Advice and Cautions to Women. Compliments. 

Delicacy. Daughters. Fancy. Female D/j's/'/y* 

Femalities. Girls. Good Man* Libertines.' 

Love. Lover. Love atfirfi Sight. Firft Love. 

. C/^M^inr Marriages. Farehts and Children. Pro- 

teftations. Prudence. Public P/ac^i. Sedudiort; 

Vincibility of Love* 

Spirit. See Magnanimity. 

Step-mother. Mother-in-law. 

A HVSBAND*8 mothcr and his wife had generally 
better be vifiters than inmates, i. 324. [ii. 79]. 

One perfon*8 methods may be different from another*s> 
yet both equally eood, and reach the fame end, ihid. 

^A prudent mother-in-law will not give a fon's wife, if 
(he means well, caufe to think,, that in family-manage- 
ment (he prefers her own methods to hers, iBid. 

She n'ever (hould give her daughter-in-law advice in 
family-matters, but when (he aiks it, ihid. 

And then, ihould not be angry, if (he takes it not. 

People who are anfwerable for their own aftions (hould 
^ gene- 

1 84 SeRttmenct, &c. fktrafhijrm 

genendly be left to judge for themfelve^ i. 394. [ii. 


Shall a human creature perifli, and its fellowr crea- 
ture not be moved ? Shall an immortal Being fix its 
eternal flace, by aa a6l dreadful and irreverfible ; by a 
crime that admits not of repentance ; and fhall we not 
be concerned ? How ill is the foul that can give way to 
fuch an aftj prepared to ruih into eternity ? vi. 277. 
[vii. zj'j^ 

See Sir Charles GraHidifoiCs njlexions on the putMner rf 
Lauranai death. 

SuiLGBONS. :«S«tf Phyficians. 
SvFBRtoRiTTfff//&^ t'tuo Sexes, See Inferiority, 
. S y p £ a 8. T 1 T I p N. See Dreams, 


S'uscBFTiBiLiTiEsiQ fome, will (hew themfelves 
In outward ads ; in others, they caanot burft into fpeech» 

v»4 [»75]- . 

Where words are reilrained, the eyes often talk a great 

dealy ibid. 

See Love. Signs of Love, 


A STATE of Sufpenfe to a lover, is the moft cruel 
of all ftatcs, ii. 193. [«04]. 

It ia ungenerom to KC^ an expecting mind in Sa* 
fpenfe, tho* with a view of obliging in tlw end, ii. 234. 

The furprizc intended to be ratfed on fuch an occafioa, 
carries in its appearance an air of infult, ibid. 

Doubtful minds will increafe theic Su(penfe» by fan- 
ciful circoflflfiances, ii. 357. [iii. loi]. 

A woman of honoar when ihe knows her own mind, 
will not leave a worthy lover in Snfpenie, iii. 7. [167]. 

Certainty ill what mmfl be, however aAiAing, is much 
better than Suipenie, iii. 79. [239]. 

See Artful Men^ hp^t^ lAHrer. Signs 0/ Love. 
Sincerity. T. 

the Hijiory of Sir Ch. Gkandison. 385 



W E (hould conform, whenever we innocently can, td 
the Tafte of the times in which We live, ii. 267. [iii. 


Expenfivenefs is not always the mark of a trae Tade, 
ni. 74. [234]. 

A man of Tafte, in buildings and alterations, ftudies 
fituation and convenience, J if id. 

He pretends not to level hills, or to force or diftort 
nature ; but to help it, as he finds it ; without permiting 
art, if he can pofliDly avoid it, to be feen in his works. 

He would rather let a ftranger be pletfed with what 
he fees, as if it were ainvays fo, than to feek to obtaia 
comparative praife, by informing him what it was, in it^ 
former iituation, ibid, * 

And fwby ? Becaf^ there is as much praifi due /• d 
mafif vuho knontn honu to let a thing remain «wf //, that 
' • is 'welly as to him ivho makes rt/os nvhen other*wi/e^ 

Thofe who have a Tafte for trifles, if innoceftt 6nes,| 
fhould not be diverted from purfUing it, unleft there 
were a likelihood, that they- would- beftow their' tim^ 
better, iv. 59. [231].' . •* 

The beft any thing, carries with it the appearance of 
excellence,* ihid. 

Who can forbear to think flightly of a man, who by 
a Tafte for trifles, undervalues ^/w/f^/* iv. 105. [v. 76]. 

Tbars. See Grief, 

Temptittlion'. ^ ^ • 

How happy is the peifon, who,' tempted to "do a 
wrong things has it yet in his or her^ rejedl the 
Temptation, and, to do a right one ? li. 261. [iii. 6]. 

In a Temptation yielded to with' our eyes X)pen, it is 
ipean to^accofc theTcnipter, ii. 263. [iii. 7]. 

Temptation, ftrengtliened by power, is often the cor- 
rupter of a before wnfufpedled heart, iv. i jo^ (v. 21]. 

,f Tra- 

|S6 ScndmentSy &c. tkiraSted from^ 

Travellers. . Travelling. 

Human nature is pretty much the fame in every 
fCOuntry, allowing for difierent culloms, i. 259* [ibid\! 

Let men, fays Mifs Byron, make ever fuch ihong pre- 
tenfions to knowlege, from far-fetched and dear- bought 
experience ; cannot a penetrating fpirit learn as much of 
liuman nature, from an Engliiliman at home, as he could 
from an Italian, a Frendiman, or a Spaniard, ia ^eir 
rc/pcdivc countries ? i. 260. [i^iV/J. 

Men not bad, may poffiUy, in their Travels^ ni^ake, 
and import fome gay weeds for flowers, i. 274. [i^V/]. 

A prudent and goo4 nian» vifiting foreign gauntries, 
will not either prevaricate, or deny his religious prind- 
pies I yet, tn^goed manners, will ihew refpeSto the reli- 
gion of the country he pafies thro\ or refidcs ip, and vene* 
fate the good men of all communions, iii. 66. [226J. 

Honour, and the )aWs o^ hofyitality, will Ue eke 
guides of a young Traveller's comUiA, iit. 69. [229J. 

What can Travellers fee, but tke ruins of the gay, 
once bnfy world, of which they have read ? iii. 361. 
£iv. 47). . 

At bell» but ruins of mins.; unce the imaglimtion, aid^ 
ed by reiexion^ maft be left, after all, to make out the 
greater glories, which the grave-digger time has buried 
too deep for difcovery, iliJ. 

Mifi Byron^ in a petulant fit^ quefiions, whether taking- 
In every cenfideration relating to time,. expence> rif^oes 
^ life, health, morals. Travelling abroad, is fo aiefal 
a part of education, k% fome feem to think ir, iii. 262. 

Confirming her opiniOfi by the little improvement 
which (he fays, fix parts out of eight of tiie Travelled 
young men tetnm with, ihid. 

A prudent youth, by Traveling, kams to prefer his 
owncbunti^y: animprndfent one, the contrary, iH. 311. 

[iv. 157]. 

Did many of fh^ y^inmg men ^hb Trdvtl ^ infipiiove. 
ihent, ffetter anlw^r W^ ttd than they do, ihcir conn- 
try, and ^e Tefigibn jbey Wdre tdtictetd in,- ^v^uhi foflfer 


fefs thati they do, frbm the fcandals they g?ve to both 
in the eyes of enemies, iv. ill. 300, [^..83. xj'i]. * 

A prudent yoang oiao, on bis Travels, will endeavour 
to live well with people of all religions ; bnt, whert called 
upon, will not i?e afraid difci'eetly tt> avow his own, 
ii^. 309. [v. I So-]. 

Such a one will fo behave, as to deferve the prote^kMi 
of the Aate thro' which hc-paflSi»i iv. 3 J?. [<r. ^^^» ' 

Vanity, Birth. Dcfcent. Bride. • 

A VAIN m!iTi will praife a woman fc^ -her talle, aixA 

food, qualides, and gfve th^ proof iti tht 'dHHhtai'6ri:^i 
as paid him, vi. 14, ^: [vii. i.^; i^'j, '''^ ' • '' '^" ''* 

A man proud bf his *dcrcent, 'ht)W6vrf fenfifrb^H 
fortune, will be ready to apoibgizjc foi htmf^l'f fe ^Wi 
iK^quaintanc^, for mairying aTneaner-'defcended^wrtAan, 
thoitgh fhe has raifed him in the world by^hicr fortune^ 
vi. 15. [vii. ic]. J 

He "will look upOn the diftiti£bion (he has paid Mm; as , 
his due ; and that he will foffici^rrtly reward her, "by hii 
civility to her, and her family and friend^,' iii^. 

She who can give Pridfe td others' by her cotidefceiij* 
fion, ihould ttot'condefcend tp be proiid ;'/^;V. ' . * 

What, in a nation the ftrength and glory of whith 
are trade ^and commerce, is Gentility, What even Nobi^i 
lity, where the defccndants depart from the vircue of the 
firft ennobling anceftor ? vi. 131. [vii. 131]. • '," ' 

'Vice. Wicked. Wickednef^. ■ , 


Vice is a degradet tveii of 'high fpliits, m. 91. 
{192]. ^ 

Wicked men are generally fhe fevfereft pon?flicrs of 
thofe Wicked people, who miniller not to their own par- 
ticular gratifications, ii. 93. [195]. 

Habitual Wickednfefs debafes, as habitual goddnefs' ex- 
alts, the human mind, and giyes an 'lirftdal^rupenorvty 
and inferiority fefp6$Uvely, to jJcffinsnatariliy of equ;^l 
j)arts and abilities, ii. 327. [iii. 71-]. . ', . .' .* ^ 

Wickedttefs may be tilways put oht oif counfenancc 
by a perfon who has iai eftablifhed* character fo> gb6d- 

S z nefs ; 

588 Sentiments, &:c. extrallidfhm 

nefs ; and who is not aOiamed of doing his duty in the 
public eye, v. 145. [vi. 123]. 

Vincibility of Love. 

T H s woman who woujd have conquered her paffion, 
had the objcft of it been married, gives a proof that 
ic m^y be overcome, ii. 90. [iQi}. 

Few women marry thor firil Loves, iii. 258. [iv. 44]. 

Like merits, where ferfou is not the principal motive 
of love, may produce like attachments, ihU. 

To love with aa ardor that would be dangerous to a 

Scrfon*s peace of mind, there muft be more tendernefs 
lan reverence for the objeA, iii. 260. [iy. 46]. 
A woman of delicacy will deprecate being in fuch a 
fitnation, as to warrant the compaflion of the bed man 
in the world, iii. 264. [iv. 50]. 

The pailion that can admit of raving on a Jifappointr 
ment, is temporary, and feldom dangerous, iv. 354. 
[v. 125]. 

If the head be fafe, pride and fuppofed (light will in 
time harden the heart, and refentment, in a woman of 
fpirit, will take place of Love, iv. 255. [v. izii]. 

The unexperienced virgin is to midrud her heart, when 
(he begins to meditate with pleafure the good qQ<.Iities 
oi an object, with whom {he hias frequent opportunities 
of canvcrfmg, iv. 340. [v. 211]. 

To fuppole that kind of Love, which in its very be* 
ginning is contrary to duty, difficult to be overcome, is 
to deny ourfelves a title to virtue, as well as. difcret'on, 
vi. 208. £vii. 208], 

^ee Advice iz//// Cautions to Women. Female Dignity, 
Love. Lover. Firft Love. Magnanimity, Mo^ 
defty. Prudence* Single JVoincn, 


VinTUiK cannot be proved but by trial, ii. 61. iv. 15. 
fii. 162. iv. 187]. 

Virtue may pity and be atoned with the penitence of 
the lapfed, ii. 123. [224]. 

The man who loves Virtue for its own fake, loves it 
ffcfcere-evcr he finds it, iii. 350. [iv. 136]. 


tht Htjiory of Sir Ch. (5r amdisoit; 3?^ 

Such a man may dipnguijh more Virtuous vyomen thati 
one ; and there will be tendernefs in his dillinftion ta 
every one, varying only according to the difference of 
circumftance and fituation, iii. 351. [iv. 137]- 

It is fometimes the fault of good people to be too ri- 
gorous in their Virtue, iii. 3&5. [iv. 171 J- 

It is neccflary for Virtue to be called forth by trials, 
in order to be juftified by its fortitude in them, vi. 31, 
[vii. 31]. 

See Duties Moral and Riligious, Good Man, Mag- 
nanimity. Prudence. Religion. Temptation. 

Unchaste. See Chaftity, 
Unhappiness. See Happinefs^ 
Un 1 V e a s I t y. See Le^irning. 
y o w 8 . See Pioteftations. 


Ward. See Guardian . 
WbddbdLovb. See New-married Women. 
Weddikc-Day. See Nuptial Preparations ^ 
Wickedness. SeeViz^, 


The worthy Widow of a worthy man, will, in mate- 
nal cafes, determine by what (he imagines her hufhand 
would have done, or wifhed her to do, were he living, 
ii. 22. [123]. 

The laft refuge of battered rakes, and the chief hop« 
of younger brothers, lie in the good-nature of Widows ^ 
and, fometimes, of forward maids, v. 187. [vi. 165], » 

Cenfiderate women will not defpife a diligent plain man 
for a iirft huA3and, (ince fuch a one is Hkely to raife k 
fortttue, which, if he be fo kind as to die in good ti^e, 
may recommend her to the arms of a gayer fecomH 
V. 188. [vi, 166]. . .. , r . 

When fuch a worthy couple fet out in talle, bufinefsi 
the good lady*iB firft rife, will probably be defpifed^ and 

& 3 the 

590 5cntiment$, &e^ MraHtdfrm 

the grateful couple will lea<I np a frolic daDce on the 
grave of the honcft plodder, v. i88. [vi. i66]. 

Weak reafons will have great weight with a Widow 
who 18 inclioed to marry, Hid, 

S0e Fancy. Femalities. Vanity. 

La^ Wills. Funerals. 

It is a kiad of prefiunption to be a week without « 
Will, ii. 115. [216J. 

Monuments for the dead (hould rather afford matter of 
initrodion to the living, than panegyrics on the departed, 
[where thofe panegyrics are not in chemfelves inlhu^yej 
ii. 102. [203]. 

The difference \fi the expence between a decent and 
a pompous Faneral, may be made a relief to poor 
tenants, decayed houfekeepers, Sec. ihid, 

A worthy fuccefTor will perfDmt what he knows to 
have been die intentions, as well as tJie written injunflions 
of the deceafed, ii. 118. [219]. 

Where a father dies inteftats, it is glorious fi>r a 
fon to make fuch a Will for him, as it may be prefumed 
he woaldy or oo^tto^ have made, for himfilf, Ik 133. 
135, 136- [234-2^6,237]. 

The intention of the bequeatber, in doubtful cafes, 
ought always to be coniidered, iv. 148. [v. 19]. 

Wise Men. ^^r Prudence. 

Wit. Witty M^»- Wittj U^omm, 

I T may perhaps be fome degree of m^it, 10 be abl« 
to repeat and apply other men*8 Wit with fome toles^bte 
propriety, i. ao. [ibidy. 

Wit and Wifdom are diffitrest qnalities^ and afe rarely 
Teen together, i. 47. [AW]. 

Woxnen who defpife their own fex, are as defervedly, 
as generally, laughed at by both, i. 53^ [i^]. 

, Perfpn^ of q(4ck p^ut^ ffeqii«Dtly, by their imp coW- 
deBce>4&y.theiiifehr^s under o^liga^oA 80 thofe of flower, 
whom they have been accu^med to defpife, i. ca, 

A «iaa of underikndiii^ i» greatly to be pieferrcd to 
•.man of Wit, ii, 62. [103). Sprightly 

Sprightly perfons often mak^ it aeeeffary for them to 
8I& two forgiveoefies inilead of one, ii.> 165. {266]. 

That fpecies of Wit, which canpot {hine without a 
foil, is not a Wit to be.^oad of, ii. 381. [iii« 125]. 
• A Witty Woman ihoaki not think of m^^rrying a man 
of inferior underftanding, if ihc cannot refolve to fliielj 
him, not only againit hier own, bat e^rery other per(bn*8 
ridicule, ii. 393 J [iii. 137]. 

Such a one ihould confine her vivacities to time and 
place, ii; 394,, [iii. fjS], ' 

The lively woman, who has not the oflfer of a man of 
underftanding fnperior to her own, fhould encourage the 
addreilcs of one who will be likely to allow the fope- 
rioaity of hers, ii. 40 z. £iii. 145]. 

A Witty Woman's vivacity may left become the wxfe^. 
thin the fingle U'Oman^ iii. 3. [163]. 

Vivacity fhould never carry us beyond the bounds of 
prudence and difcretion, iii. 7. {167}. 

Witty people feem to think they ci^Q<iot flitw their 
-pym crnleauence, but bv putting » fbol^s coat «i the 
back of a friend, iii. 7t. [b3;2]. 

Sterling Wit requires not a foil iff fet it qC iiid- ' 

It is fometimes the misfortune of a Witty Womati her* 
{elf, fometioies that of hfr companions, that fhe cannot 
i^e/p being Witty, Ui. 34S. [iv. 134]. 

Witlings iludy for thfir pleafantncfi# ind hunt for oc- 
caiions to be fmart, iv. 54. [226}. 

There ean be no firm friend&ip; where there is a. 
rivalry in Wit, Hid. 

Mere Wit is a foolilh ihin^, ^iv. 25^4. {¥» IH^J* 

That ought not to be called Wit, in the good fenfe 
of the word, that has not jolHce in its falties $ nor hu- 
mour, that preferves net decorum, v. 14. fC'$5]- 

Wicked Wit, /ays Mifs Byrm^ what a foe art tho« '«> 
decent ehaarfuinels I v. 1^94. [vi» 172}. 

^/# Conceit. Poete. Ridicule.' Van^f. Yofltb; 

Where this World is inclined to favoui^ it wp 
0vcr-rate, at much m it will aiidef rate wlim it' dif- 
Cavoors, i« 39. [f^«^]. . 

S 4 In 

39 2 Scnrimcnts, &c. exlra^ed from 

« In fuch a World as this* people fhould not lay them- 
felves open to the temptation of a&ing contrary to their 
duty, i. 102. [/^*^]. 

The World, thinking itfelf affironted by fupcrior me- 
rit, takes delight to bring it down to its own level, 1. 260. 

This. World is a fiate of trial ^nd mortification [it was 
inttiided to be fo; and not a ftate of feftivity and difllpa. 
tionj i. 279. [ibid"]. 

> A wife and modeft man will not defpife the woHd^ 
'<>f inion. When it will have patience to Hay till ic is 
sn^fler of fa^s, it will be oftener right than wrong, iv. 
316. [v. h87]. . 

T he World if we can enjoy it with innocent cheaF- 
falnefs,' and be fervicable to our fcllow-creatttres, is not 
to be defpifed even by aphilofopher, iv. 358. [v. 229]^ 

The World will not (ee with our eyes, nor judge as 
we would have it ; and, as it fomecimes oaght to judge* 
♦iv. 383. [v. 2543. 
. BiiTatisfadions wiU mi^le with our higheft eiijoji- 
ments in this life, v. 86. \yu 64}. 

W a A T H. See Anger. 

X, Y. 

Youth. Young Men. 

- Yd vTu is the feaibn for chearfulnefs, i. lo. [thid}^ 

It is difficult for Young Perfons of genias to rein-in 
their imaginations, i. 21. [/A/^Q* 

Such are apt rather to fay all ^at «u}^ be faid, 00 
their favourite topics, than what is proper to be faid, ibiil^ 

It is a great virtue in good*aatured Youth to be able 
no fay NO, 1.238. [ibil\. 

YQung Men of charader an4 ability (kould not bejpiit 
to cliiBcuities at their entrance, into the world. The 
greateft expenccs are then incurred ; and in fcanty be- 

f [innings, fcanty plans mud be laid, and purfued, ii. 344. 
ill. 88}. 
A prudent Young Man will propofe to himfelf a Jiving 
example of goodnefs, to ferve him for a kind of fecona 


ibe Hiftory ef Sir Cn. Gr and ison. ^93, 

confclence, and to whofe jitdginent he will fuppofe him- 
Telf accountable, iii.^io. [170]. 

lie will particularly avoid the company of gay and 
light women, however diilinguiOied by perfonal beauty 
or rank, and tho* not known to be diifolute in tbeiir mo- 
rals, ihid. 

By avoiding intrigues, or giving offence to ferious or 
pious, people,' a Young man travelling, willintitle him- 
felf to the refpe6t o£ every worthy foreigner, as well as 
native, iiU, 

Good-nature is the charaderiftic of Youth, iii. i8j« 


. Yoong people ihould confider, that they may often re* 

joice in the company of one other, when they cannot 
have that of parents, and friends in yiears, iv. 248. [v.- 

A good Young Man, not occaiionally queftioned in 
his condudl by a faithful monitor, will be diffident of ther 
ground he (lands upon, iv. 323. [v. 203]. 

It is a lovely fight to fee blooming Youth fond of 
' declining age, v. 242. [vi. 220]. 

Thofe who refpedl age, deferve to live to be old, and 
to be refpe£led themfelves, ^. 349. [vi. 327]. 

Youth is rather to bepi^d than envied by people in 
years f fince it is doomed to toil thro^ the rugged road of 
life, which the otKers have pafTed through, in fearch of 
happinefs that is not to be met with 1 and which, at the 
hi^heft, can only be compounded for, by a contented! 
mind, vi. 11. [vii. It]* 

Young people fet 'Out with fsdfe notions Of happinefs ;■ 
gay, fairy-land imaginations, vi. 201. [vii. 201 J. 

Sii Addrefs to Men o/Sen/e in the gay World, Du- 
ties Moral and Religious, Education. Example. 
Friendfhm^ Generofity. Good Man. Good- 
nefs. Gratitude. Ingennoufnefs. Men and 
Women. Magnanimity. Parents and Children, 
The Paffions. Penitence. Politenefs. Public 
Places. Self-partiality. Virtue. Vice. Wit. 
Tho World. 

• • ■ 

S 5 Z. 

394 SeodotfiRa, ice. 


Zeat Zealous. 

ZiAt willbeZaalr u perboiaf n^atmer dcBomi. 
nation, iii. 8j. [243]- 

Ntw 4o«Tert» .aM gnwrally^ nnrc Setfaft and xealou 
in tkair Biinclplesi Oan oibcrt are w thole wbkfa llwj 
iwVtbc fro^ dtcir aBsdhw^ iii. 11 1. {a/i}. 

Religious Zeal [when noc imfnpttly direAcd} ii ■ 
ftrcagtheaer, a confinacr of iba foetal ftirfttaw, v. ti2. 
tvi. 90]. 

Bat,fi-M|MnH]p,rd^ooaZMl» I finr th>>& ▼- ^29. 
tvi. ao?}. 

. A gocd man, if Mt orcr.haated bj Zed^ viS be ft 
good msui, wliatwer be liii religioui pcrfuafion, itid. 



TABLE to the Sentiments, ^a 

Extracted frooi 

^tf History of ? hi/f.'Ei^ k. 

A. ConfoUtioB #» ^i** P«w 17 

4'OMCttoiheUich Pa^e x Contenti- S^t Con^Uxiom to tbe 

A<kanug« *f Mm aotr Pot, H«w!c Poverty^ p. 38. 

omen, owing to fTomen them- ' Low Lifi, p. 49. 

frkres —• — -* A Courtflup *ttA. • ■■ " ' ■ iS- 

Advcrfity — »i'Vi. Credulity — 19 ' 

A^icttojmmgmmrnedWomon 3 Cuftom tbtd^ 

Advice f Toung Wvmm thiJ, 

ilngcr *--^ — ^ 6i «'- 

Peath -•-— — *• lo- 

B. Diffidence. See Baflifulncfs, p. 6. 
Btflifttlneif. Sheepifliiirfi < Merit, p^ 53* Mcdefly^ p. 54*. 
Beauty — * '-^•^ 7 PoubJe EntcadM — * aia 
BncfifiCAce — •— ihii» T)ref« ar 

Duty to Sfpfrioet -— ^ »^;^,. 


Calumny. Cenfiire. Cenforlouf- E;. 

jiefi ■' — -^ 8 £DUCATOfff — — iiiif^- 

Cautions to young Pematt Servants On « Heme '^^ %cho(A Educa- 

ihi4* tion ■■!■■» * « j. 

Cbkarity. Alxn reiving -«^— 9 ji middk -way of 'EducaJUon U- 

ChaiU^ See Virtue p. 78 /we«M hotb 24: 

CHcaifulneft '■» ■ . «o Female Educatio* ft8 

Children i» /itriV earJy Infancy Bnvy * ". ■ ftg^ 

«Wi/. Exampit — iiA/4^ 

Chtldixn .bow to U treated in tbfir 

Jnfaatiii StAte, witk a ttitw fo • f, 

ibeCuliiHiaiim rftboirMJndt a I Fafiiion ■ n . icr 

Childcea ^nJ SgrCem* — X^ FrnaJc Dignity — li^iv. 

Clergy — — 13 Filial Pwfy 3r 

Cl«««ym»li'i ^* "—- 35 Flattery - -^— ihii. 

iiwnedy. Set FaUk Enftrtflin- Forgiveneft -^-. i^'iT.. 

iMffTx, p. 62. Fortitude ^ -■ 34. 

Competency . — tS Friendflnp — — -»• r^/V. 

* ConUitncr. Coakiouiheit j^*(/. • « 

OotkyiitXPmy -^^^ 17 G. 

^Vr'^''^^'* '-^ -^-* *^* Ceoeral I«/?r»£!)w0f p.— 331 

396 T AB L E tc the Sbntiments, 6?r* 

General Ohfermatiwt 34 

^nius -- — — — jjS 

CSood Mtn — ihidt 

Cood m/e — ,— ibid. 

■CratiCude ■ 37 

Cuardiao •— — ibid. 


^appinefs — — — 37 
Heroic Povtrty — ■ - 3^ 

Higb Lafe \ a PiBure of it^ fnm 

infancy to MatuHty . 39 

Ijiftories and CbaraQers of partis 

cular Ladies ** 40 

Honour — — *— 41 

Human Lift *•— • •*- ibid. 
Human Nature ■■ 1 41 

Humility — — ibid, 
Hufljand mid JFifa ^ i^V. 


Impartiality. Partiality 43 

Impropriations^ Set Clergy^ p. 13. 

induilfy , 

fancy, p. 11. Maternal Duij^ 
p. 52. 
Nuriery Talet. £<« Pamela, Vol. 
iv. 477, 6f y/f. i2«vi. and Vol^ 



Gld Maidt 
Old Raket 




Lawyer — 

Libertines. Ra^tes 

•— »■ 

Love at frfi Sight 

, JBiatonie Love •*- 

Low Lift - 








— 49 

- 50 
Unequal Marriages -— 5 ' 

Alafquerades. See Public Enters 

tainmmti., p. 62. 
J4aiier*< Behaviour to his Femste 

Servant — » •-• 51 

Maternal Duty ^- — 5 s 

„„. — —• ,,s 

- . 54 

Miftrefs 0^ « Family 
Modefly ■■ 

Moral Rdati • < n 

— ^- — ihs^» 

Opera. See PuUic Entertainments^ 

p. 62. 

Parents and Children 55 

Paffioo. Fiffiottits 56 

Patrons -— . iBiJ. 

Penitence — — - ibid* 

Piays. Sae Public Entertainments^ 

p. 62* 
Plutalities. <$0r Clergy, p. r3» 
Political Objervations ■■■ 58 

Poor not to be defpijed by the Rieh, 

Praiie — ■ 59 

Pride, Proud ■ ■ ■ ' ibtid, 

Promifes. Vows •— 6x 

Pfofpcrity —— — . ibid. 
Public Entertainn:ents 62 


Rakes. 6V« Libertines^ p. 44. Old 

Rakes, p. 55. 
Re^itude of Mind — 64 
Refcrmation ■■ ibid. 

Rela tiers — — — 46 

Religion. Religkyus Conf derations 

Repentance. ^f< Penitence, p. 56. 
Reproof — — |g 
Reputation — ^-— ibid, 
Refignation ' tbid. 

riwAich. Ricbes — *- 69 
, Ridicule ■ -^— 70 

Romances. Romantic Time if 

Life • — — — ibid* 

Kurffi. See Ciuidica in their Jn* 

Scholar ■ - 

SeU-lnteteA — ~ 

Servamt — ^- ^— > . 
Sbamc. Sbamelefiicis 


-* ibkU 

— ihid, 


iiihrdffei from Fam £ l a. 397 

Sliecpi/hiKfs. 5«Bafhfuliicft, p. 6. V. 

Stcknefs. y\fiun% the Sick 75 Vapouriihnefs — — 78 

Spiritual Pride — — ibid. Vigilance — -— ibid. 

Steward • *^'<^ Virtue. Chaftity — ibid. 

Stile in fyriting -— ibid. Voluptnournefs 80 

Suicide -. ■ 74 Vows. See Promifes, p* &z* 
^wearine and Curfinr ibid, 

W. . 

T. Wife — r- — 86 

Temptations — — 75 W*^ 8i 

Town Diverfisns > 5/e Public £«- Writen — — iWrf. 
Tragedy i tertainmetttr, 

p. 62* JCf * • 

Travelling •— 75 Young ;^»</owj 84 

Tutdts — 77 Youth 83 

TytbM — — »** 

T ABl-E to the Sentiments, &^c. 

Extracted from 

The History ^Clarissa, 

A. Cruelty. Hatdbeartedaeft 208 

ADverfity. Affliaion. Cala- 
mityi Misfortune 85 R 

Advice tf»</ Cautions r«M^fl««r 87 Death, Dying — - rog 
Mt and Manner, Addre& 93 Delicacy. Decency. Decorum in 

Anger. DifpleaOrc — 94 De^wndcncy. Defpair ii» 

Apprehenfiont. Fear — 9s Deviation ibid;, 

Dignity* Quality — 113 

B. Double-Entendre — it^ 
Beauty. Figure — — ihid* Drefs. Faihions. Elegance ibidn 
Bhjflies. Bluibiog — 9^ Duelling — . — n^. 

Duty. Obedience — — - tij 


Oenfure. Charader i^id, E. 

Charity. Beneficence. ' Benevo- Education — — 1T9 

lence — 98 Example — — lao 

Chuivh. aergy -^— 99 Expeftation ibidi^ 

Comedies. Tragedies. Mnfic« Eyes — — im 

Dancing — r— 100 

Condefeenfion 101 F. 

Confcienct. Cbnfcknrfnc's ibid. Faults. Folly. Failings. Error 

Confolatioa — • — i— ' 102 ibid. 

CoAtrool. Authority — 104 Favour — ^ . la* 

CovctouOiefk. Avarice >* los Flattery. CpnipHments 123 

CfMitftip ' — *— • — 106 Fond. Fondneis — ibid* 

Cr«dulity — ^ — 108^ Forgtvenefi. Patrdon — 124 


0t TAftI* ¥/*/*# 

irriendfliip •»-«» — 



Ckoerofit^ GenerontiMfMr idlf 
GooduTs. Orac«» . ly 

Gratitude. Ingratitude f^/</. 

Grief. Sorrow, Griewncea 131 
Ouilt. -Visa. Wicictdoefs. £Vil 
Jb^jVf. Evil Cd»i^ - III 

Happinefi. Content 

Health -^ 

fleart. Hvmaiutf 

Honefty - 
Hansen Life — 
'tiuroan Nature 
HuBiiUty . w- 

I. . 

BI-DnU. Bun- i****«** Malio^ 



M^rrlagft ■ *■ > ■ ■ ' 156 
Mafterg. Mitfeifi^a. Scrv«ati 15^. 

Matkneis -« ■ ■■ ' 161 

Meo 4ii^^^«e« ■ «^/V^ 

Merir. .Dement — ~~- s6aL 

Minutiae . . — ?»- — 163 

l^o^ily*^ A«4acUy -*— ^ i^id* 

ObtigatiQO* jQblige* OUigiiig 

0]^{lijiacy» Perverfeoefi. Fro- 
wardnefs. Pertnefa 165 

General OhTervauooa and Rtfit*- 
xitmt *^ — • UiJ, 

.OeOMiomju Ffogality. vHpi»le>' 
wifery ■■■ 168 


ImaginatiQa - ,. 

inclination — ^'<»' 

lodifcretion. Inconfideratcnefi. Pre- 

iiiinptioo — •— . .J4S 

Jnfidcl. Scofter t^'fj 

Innocence — * •— ^^ 
In&Jence. — — — .M4 
udgment ■■■ — '^'* 

ufticc. Xmufttce. Big^t. Wrong 


Keepcra. . Kflc^ng *^ . *4v 

Palli«t!on. EvafioDt Exc«fe 169, 

Parenta. Children .»— t^/V. 

Partiality* Impartiality 173. 

Pailions — ^^^^ ■■ . X75 

Faticnce* trnpAtaenOt 1.7O' 

Pedanta* OsU^ei <— 177 

i^ Phyfic. Phyfiofuia •— iiia. 


Law. I^avyer 


,. . > 148 

LibcTiine. Ralw — i^i^* 

little 5>tr>iVi. Mcanntfa. Nar- 

rownefs .^— — 150 

Love — — — 15 « 

Lover — — - *^'»» 

AfagnaQimity.. F«rti(tii4% Hiap** 

Sttadioeik -^>^ Mm 

Pity. Merqr — — I79» 
Politenefs. T^VfUm^ i^s^. 

Political Pret^ff ^^ — 180 
Poverty. Poor — -^ ihid* 
Power. Indep^qdence * iSi 

Praife. DifpnUie. Applaofe. Blame 

Prejudice. Prepofleifioa. Amipa- 

thy :: lU 

Pxidc . i%i 

Procurers. Profligate XTmim 184 
Profperity. Succrla. Rkfaca 185 

PfQvidenoe . ^— x86 

Prude^^e.. /WUilon. Diiaetiap 

Purity — — -— — ► x8| 


Kapca — — — —— an, 

Rcflexigos m IVamm r^ 189 

RcibriiiatiQji. Coavi^lioo* Con- 

verfiflD .-•— * -— 193 

Kalatiom . 1 ■ 194. 

Haligimu Piety, J)wotion* Sabr 

Remorie r*^ •-. . 196 Tywnpy *-— • — — iM& 

JUpen^MBce* Conukion 1^ 

ReprehcAfioD. Reproof. CoTK^Bon V« 

198 VMtty« Conceit. Aife^latioil «rt( 

Ilepvtation — ^ — i99 V»p<»M» •"•— -■■ > ■ aojr 

Reientnaefit *-~ *»■ 7 I'^/V^ Veracity. Truth 2oS- 

Rcfpe^ Revcmqice — itM, Violent S^its — » M/dl 

Revenge ■ ' ■ ■ > ai09 Viriue* Virtuous^ - I^rincifle a6<^ 

Vivacity ■ — jti© 

S. Vow«. Carfis. Oaths. Promifes* 

ffitTre •!— ^ — - — — »^^ Proteftationa --m-* •«« affr 
Secret^. Coiiofity — ^-^ aoi 

Self, Self-l&tereft. Selfiihaera %o% W« 

ScBfoalilJF -— — *oi Wid«» -^^— — -^ — ^ 2tft 

Sidtneli. lafinnitiec — iM^ WiUs« TeOatanh. Ekecoteri, fi^ 

SBipicWii. DOHbu Jeaiowfy M4 i*iV^ 

^Mit.. Tftleatfc CoaveyfatiBii at^ 

T. Writen — — — ** 914 
fean « ■ ■ ■ *♦— — /^tt/« 

Tllear^ --hh — 40$ Y. 

Tb«iitht^U«f8« 3eQ6biKty «<&Ai Vouth. ■ 1 r u 'l n m .- at^^ 


TABLE /fl fA? Sentiments^ ftPr^ 

Extrafted from 

^he HistoRy g/*«S/r Ch. Grand i^oi?, 

A. Vn^raafid.BesfeulkttCt mm %^ 

Bfenee p. 217 K«»b« *» Vanity > fu 387., 

A^ A4dreft t$ Mm of Swft in 

iU««rfity. GiJanity. BGsfWtQaB. OOaniity, ^ Advwfity , p. aar 

Difappointment — ^ »»i Cenfurc. Ceoforioofneia 235 

ii«itke .«N< €witi«ii *» fFmiek ChaBengca . ihid^ 

sa4 Cimftity. Uiichatte — <-» 937 

A&aadoit -I ■ ' 1128 Chtfil^n. ^<fBq|Mfico)ce, ^3131. 

Age. «»Yw«h, p.3fa.. Chvity iVi 7»4f««»/ — »3l 

Anger. PaflwB. PWulance. W«th. Oowmowctlitwicii ^uOwmaU 

IU*wUl — — — aa^ ment, ^%^u 

AnfalMen -*— »J« Ctoapaflion. ^ Pity, p. 367. 

MKthXW^mm ^-^ S3i- Cooipliments. Elattary — ^31 

AvaiiM. SetfftMfa OmA Campulfina ^i 140 

Ceftawwtit* Sccftta. Oomiwih 

^ akativQieft . ■ 241 

Bktu^* Bcttrtifbl *«-rf ^3t Coacek. Obftioacy. Pumicflefi 

rity ■ .« «33 Conrsienee >» ' " S4| 

' - ' " "^ . PwiWuiftn 0^ ««4Mi 944 

400 TABLE tatht Sbj^timewts, GV. 

CootrittOfi. 5ee Penitence, p. 358. MarrUiges, p. 330. 

Coquetry. 5m Pradery, p. 369. Franknefs o/" flpa»'^ Referre 270 

Courtfliip I 245 Frieodfliip. Friend — — 27 1 

Ctmiage ■ — — 249 

Cupidity. Ste Love titfirft Sight, G. 

p. 318. Gamingr Gamefters *-» ayj 

Cttriofity • ■ 249 General Obfervationt — 274 

Cttfton ••— - — — ibid, Oenerofitjr. Ovcr-Bcnerofity 277 

Girls — 279 

• • D. Gloty. See Honour, p. 292. 

Daugkftri '■ — — 250 Goodnefs ' — — 281 

Deconin. 5«« Modefty, p. 344. CooAMan, Man of Honour, Ho- 

Delicacy _— .— - 251 nt^Man — *— /^^/, 

DeTcent* Set Vanity, p. 387. Good fTtfe, Good H^ema« 288 

X)epr»,yHy of Mataiers, om Pub- Gratitude. Ingratitude — • Hid, 

Ik Flaces, p. 369. Grief. Mehuicholy. Tein 289 

Difappolntmcot. Sit Adverfity, Guardian* .Guardiaaihip. Ward 

p. 221« ' 290 

Difaetion. See Prudenee^ p. 367.. H. 

Pifpraire. See Praife, p. 364. Happinefs.^ UnKappineis 29« 

Dmni#« Sttperflition 252 Honeft Man, Set Good Mmw, p. 

Drefs. ^^Faihion, p. 263.^ . 281. , 

'Duelling — 253 Honour. Glory. Pun£lilie, Re- 

Vntia MeraJ and lUiigiei/a 255 put^rtion — — 292 

Hofpita 1 for Female Penitents iM, 

E. HumaiMiy — — 293 
Early i^i^fl^. 5« Oeconomy, p. Huihan iVafffw — — iSid^ 

249, , . Humility — .— — — 294 

Ebriety. Ihtemperance* IMot. FaUe Humour. See Ridicute, p. 37C 

Shame — 2^7 Huiband andfFife -^— 294 

Education — — — 258 

Elegance. See Politeneft, P* 3^3* ^* 

Example 259 Tcalouijr — . — — 197 

Executor _— 260 Ill-will. See^ Anger, p. 229. 

£xtKivagance. Profufioa a^t Jmptitiality. Sea logenuoofnefi, 

p. 299. 

F. Indulgence ■ - 29S 
Families rf«r/iy«/ ■ ■ ■ »64 Inferiority, Superiority 0^/A< ^I09 
Fancy. Imagination. Romances Sexes — — Und, 

ibid, Ingenuoufbefa. Impartiality. Ja- 

FaihiM. Dreff. NowltjT ft^J «>«» *99 

VemsAt Dignitj ibid. Ingratitude. £«« Gratitude, p. 288. 

Femalities — a^4 ^w««ce — 301 

Fencing ■. 270 lofincerity. Ste Sincerity, p. 379. 

Filial Piety — - -—— ibid. Intemperance. See Ebriety, p. 257^ 

Flattery. 'S«Q>mplimct)«», 7.238. Toy. 5«tf Mirth, p. 339. 

Forced Marriages, ^rPcrfuafion, Ju(fice. See IngcBttoolneft, p^ 299^ 

p* 360.. • . • Jnitiec of Peace —• ' — •• 30s 
Forgivingneis — — . 270 

Fortitude) £'reMagnanimity,p*3,24. K*- > 

FortuneijMHiterak See Cband^ine Kjeepen* SHKR^Jfrntitj^loi^ 


cxiraSted from Sir Cfi, G». akd rsoi/. 40 i 

K pt JVomen 

— 30a 


Languages. See Learning^ p. 305. 
L4U|hter« Set M'uih, ibi'^ 
Law. Lawyers, ihid. 
Learning* Learners* Languages. 
' Science Uiiiveility — 305 
Learned Womtn — • ■. 

Libertines. Rakes ■ 

l^iivt at frji Sight, Cupidity. 

phiaji Love — < — -•-> 
Firfi Love ■ ■ ■ -«. 

Lever ■ 

DifmiJ^tm. of a Lover 








M. ' 
Magnanimity. Spirit. 


Man of Honour, See Good Man, 

p. 2S1. 
Marriages — — . 3x6 
Marriage iif advanced Tears, and 

with an Iitequality as to Age 

. 3*9 
ClandeJHne Marrtages. Fortune- 

hunteis — ^ 330 

Marriage Treaties. Settlements 331 

Manra/e Prop-fah ■■ 332 

Mafteis. MiftrelTes* Servants ihid. 

Matrimonial Bickerings 

Matron!y State ; 

Meanneis — — 
Mediation — « >- 





Melancholy. ' Sie Orttf, p 
Men ard JVomen — — 

Military Men — « — 

Mirih. Joy. Laughter 
Mircel!?ncoiis Obfer^<ations 
Misfortune. See Adverfity, p. 221. 
Miftrefles. See Maftefs, p. 332. 
Modefiy. Decorum -^ 344 

New- married ^Women, Wedded 

Love 346 

Novelty. See Faikion, p. 263. 
Nuptial Preparations, Wedding 

Day ~ — 347 


Obftinacy, 5^* Conceit, p. 142. 
Oecnnomy. Early Rifing 349 
Old B.icbelots, Old Maids 350 
Over-geucrofity. See Oenerofuyi 
. ^ i„; ^ 

Paphian Lowe. SeelASt 9t firjt 

Sight f p. 318". 
Panntt and Cbi/dren — 355 
Parliament Man — — 357 

Partiality ibid. 

The Paffions — ^ ibid, 

Paflion. See Anger, p. 229^ 
Penitence. Contrition. Refoima- 

tion. Remorfe • 358 

Perfuafion. Forced Marriages 

Perverfcneft. See Conceit, p. 242* 
Petulance. See Anger, p. 229. 
Phyiicians. Surgeons — 361 
Piety. See Religion, p. 374. 
Pity. Compiffion — — 361 
Platonic Love > — 36* 

Poets — 363 

Politenefs. Elegance — ibid, 
Praife. Difpraife. ScW-praife 364 
Prufeflioas. See Proteftatlons^ f, 

Profufion. See Extravagance, p* 


Promifes* See Pioteftations, p. 

Proteftant Nunneries . ■ 366 

Ph>teftations. Proftflions. Pfo- 

mifes. Vows — - — - ibid. 

Prudence. Difcretion. Wife Men 

Prudery. Coquetry ■■ 309 

Public Places. Depravity of Man- 
ners, Racketing* — ibid* 
Punctilio. See Honour, p. 29.2* 

- R* 
Racketing*. See Public Places, p. 

Raillery* <S«tf Ridicule, p* 376* 
Rakes. See Libertines, p.. 309. 
Recommendation — 373. 
Recrimination* Reproof ibid. 
Reformation* See Penitence^ p. 

358. Re- 

402 XASLE t^th S«HTIMEHTS, 6?ir-. 

Kc)i|ion. Piety 

374. Tears. See Grief, p. aS9< 

Keimrie. £4^ P«fM(«nc^t IV358. Temptation 

R^rouiw Sfc Recrimioaliuo, p. Travellers. TraveliiJig 

Rq^uutktfv Set Htwfr, p. »9«. V. 

Referve. Sie¥vzokat(s9fH<srt, Vanity. Birth. Defcent 

p. 270. 
HeciibutiQii *— — — " 375 
Ridicule. Humour. Raillery 376 
Riot. SaEbt'ifity, p. %S7* 



Ftf^r Shame. See Ebrkty^ p, 257. 
Science. See I^carnicf > p* 305. 
Secretf. ^^rConctaiment, p. H<* 
Se^'jaioQ — • •*- 376 
Sclfiihncfe. $«# Avarice, p. 231. 
S«K partiality — 377 

$df-praire. Ste Pialfr, p<.364* 
Sentiflpents — ^ -^ 377 
Servants. 5#* Mailers, p. 3 32. 
Settlements. See Marriage Ttea- 
ties, p. 331. 


Vice. Wicked. Wickednefi rW. 
Vincibiiity tf Love — 388 

Virtue — iSid, 

UrYchafte. See Chaftity, p. 237. 
Unhappinefs. See Hap(ane&, p. 

Univcrfity. See Learning 1 p. 505. 
Vows. See Proteft^tions, p. 3&6. 


WarJ. See Goacdtan, p. 290^ 
Wedded Love. See New-married 

fyomartf p. 346. 
Wedding-Day. See Nupual Pre- 

parations, p. 347. 
Wickedncfs. See Vice, p. 387. 

Widows — 389 

£^ Wills. Funerals — 390 

Signs ^ X«v " " ' ■ • 377 

Sincerity, lulificerity — • 379 ^^, ,,.-.^ . 

$\nghmmea — - 3%> wffcifiiT 5w Frudencc, p. s'iV 

€^iC 5#^Magpanimity>p.3H» Wic Witty Men. Witty ITcw* 

' 390 


€^iC 5#^ Magpanimity> p. 3H» Wic Witty M*». Witty 
Step-a¥>ilmv .Mother-»-tow 3»S • • 

Suicide --—- — 3H 7^ World. T-fc" World 

Surgeons ^#< Phy^cians, p. Sf.*- Wrath. 5r# Anger, p. 229. 
Superiority »f the two Sexet, See 

Inferiurity, p. 299* X Y 

Superftition. See Dreams , p. 25a. Ymni Men 

BufceptihiUty ■ " ■■*-^ 3*4 * 




7fi^\, Zetlom 




F J N I 9. 

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By De/irej ihe ^wo fdlovrng Litters art 

inferted here, 

Offy 0/ aLETTEK t& a L Ai>y, <wfjo nvai JhlUifous 
fir an adAtional*oohcme ta theYiizt o'^Y ofSirCnAUhE^ 
Grandison J f^pp^fi^-g '^ ended ahruftly.^ and exfr effing 
herfelf dejtrousto fee Sir Charles //9 tha Favtntal Cha- 
ra^4r » .and to knonjj if the Story tmere intended tg iti 
carried further, 

I Write to your oom^iancts font* me ytAerday. 
I liaise no intcntiip^ of pufftiWig ftivther th« Niitoiyi •# Sir 
Charles GftANDisoivs And hope, whtri ymi confider ttio eii^ 
cum(iagce& oi the Stcury, you wiU ^o of opinion, that it en^s very 
properly where It does 9 tho"^ bt the Mk pefvfsJ k may feetti/to a 
Lady^ who honours the piece with her approbation, to conclude a 
little abrupt \ and the rather, as the aeceflTaiy delay in ptfblifliing 
the laft Tolmne, occafioned by the treatment I met with. f)mn 
Dubttn, made perfons ima^imo that* marvelloiM eveDte, and vloleiic 
caudrophis*, were preparing; afi4 but fo^ which tMacmerM the 
tiiree laA volpimee would have been pubKAed fogether. 

The Steiy of PA MB LA wae fuppofed to ba¥e taken pA^e 
witlun thirty ye«irs, that olCLARISSA wfHtin twenty, of their 
refJ9edW« pnblicatiens. In either €f thofe'f^cet ef time, thefe 
was room* to marry and bury half a generation ef people. 

That of Sir CHARLBS ORANDISOK is feppofed to be 
more recent. In his recital of what pa/red- between himfetf and 
Clementina^ long before the Story be^an, and before he had* hope^ 
of being altewed by hisFirther (then living) to return to Engltrt^ 
he tnentlona the r^Ilioii iii 1745 *od 1746 V *"^ ^^^ *^ exult- 
ations made orer him in Italy, on' the reported fticcefs of the yoimg 
Adventurer, obliged htcfi to go toViemia. 

What paflfed between him and Cleifientina, and her Family, dn 
.his return from thence to Bologna, till he quitted Italy, and (on Mt 
Father's de^th) arrived In England, may be ftippofed to take up a 
coDfiderabie ^co of time. 

He %uk been about fifteen monthe ift Xnglaad when tlw Story 
begins. That ukes up a year and half. ^ 

. AIL thia mwf bo fappiofisd to brlbg it do^^ pi^ttj^ neir ttfthe 
prefent time. > 

Emily, uoder the dire£Hon of (b nndent a guardian, wiaa not^ 
for example fake, to be married till the waa near twenty. > 

Ladp GaitNpMoii's ciraui»ftan«ee and h«r \fiaf^\t^t woul^ot 


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permit her to leavcl&gU^nd for a voyage to Italy, fo Toon as migfet 
be hoped for by Clementina and her friends. Sir Charles had a view, 
I ianfy, to tbofe delicate circumitances, when he offered to make 
them judges of the reafons, (hould he and his Harriet be unable to 
attend them within the Mst year, why they could not. 

Do you think Harriet >v^Bld not be a Nurfe as well as Lad/ O? 
It would be a defirable thing, we may fuppofe, to all their Italian 
friends, as well as fuirable to the maternal fondnefs, for her to 
take her child with her : But would (he do fo, till it was at leaH 
a year old ? There is no doubt biit it would be a very fine and 
forward child : But the heir of Sir Charles Grandifon muf^ not be 
needlefly, or for a compliment, expofed to dangers and difficulties. 
Read again the paffage by land over mount Cenis $ acquaint your- 
felf with the Bay of Btfcay, were they to go by fea. 

At to the good Jironymo, he is happy where he is. Lady C. 
makes him- alive and merry : And have you not an intimation that 
he is to go to Bath ? And do you think that thofe falutary fprings 
will not, for the honour of our country, quite efUbUlh him ? 

Clement IMA, at the year's end, may cither marry the Cowit 
of BxLVEDXRE, her malady not returning ; or, as Sir Charles has 
engaged all her friends to promife, may, at her own requeft, be 
allowed more time. You have feen that the Count acquiefces 
entirely with whatever (hall be her will, in this particular. 

Do you think, Madam> I have not been very conciplaifant to mf 
Readers to leave to them the decifion of tMs imporunt article ? I 
am apt to think, from what I have already heard from feveral of 
them, of no fmall note, and great good fenfe, that a confiderable 
time will pafs before this point will be agreed upon among them : 
And fome of my correfpondents rejoice that Clementina is not 
married in the hook ; hoping tliat (he will never marry ; while 
others exprefs their fatisfa^Lon in the time given her, and doubt 
not but (he will. Some are pleafed with the Count ; others not. 
^ome are of opinion^ with Jeronymo, that her compliance with 
the filent wilhes of her friends, . when left entirely to her own 
will, was the only duty wantiiig to complete her chara^r $ (he 
having voluntarily renounced, fo nobly as (he did« the only man 
whom (he preferred to bim who was the choice of her parents^ 
and given up her wi(he8 to be allowed to take the veiL 

Let us take a furvey of what is done for the other charaders. 
^ ;No moxm lioed be'faid, than is»-of EvEmAmo Gsamoisox ; or 
of Aunt Eleanok. 

Mr. Deane, yOjLi^fee, is providied &)iv^ to bis owa, and every 
one^s content. 

• So is good Dn BARTtETTi 

The ikilful Lowtmee alfo. 

WrJ£j>w,BEAtfcHA»» Mid tniLY avc in a way to be happy. 


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Who ««o be more Co than Mrs. Smiilxt ? Wh/, Madj^m, 
^ould you wi(h to have further time taken in, to conclude a kfi 
fio valuable, fo exemplary ? 

Sir Rowland and Mr. FowixR are not unhappy. They ai4 
going to Caermarthen ^ and you remember. Sir Rowland fays, 
there are fine girls in Caermarthenihire* 

Mr. StLBY goes on at Selby-houfe crowing over his Wife, and 
hi$ Nieces ( and, tho* always defeated by their good-humoured 
arguments, and fuperior fenfe, crowing on, and making all around 
iiim pleafant. 

Wlu> can be happier than Mr* an^ Mrs, Rxxtis f 
LvcY has already her PxxR. 

I could have given Nakcy Selby to Mr.OtMx $ but that it is 
not right to put together two perfons who neither of them have 
entire health, till they are quite recovered ; and that would take 
up time. He, accompanied by his Sifter, is a lecond time gone to 
Liibon, you know. And (he, Emily hints^ is not without her Lover, 
Mifs Or ME is a good girl, and muil be happy. 
As for Grxvills and Fxnwiok, who cans for them ? 
The fate of Sir Hargravc, of Mxrcsda, of Ba«xnjiall, is 
abfolutely, and exemplarily, decided. 

James ScLBY is as good as provided fer : But if he had not, 
it would not have been much matter. 

Lady Betty Williams indeed,, and her forward Daughter^', 
and Mifs Can TIL Lov, are defervedly unhappy; and there ane 
too many of fuch characters, in e very- body 'sknowiege, to i^eire 
tUirs to be further dwelt upon. :•> 

Lady Beau CRAMP, Lady Mansfield and her family, L<vtl 
and Lady W. Lord and Lady L. are all happy. Lord G. alfo. 
And his Charlotte is as good as^^ can be. Her Lord wiAiet 
her not better than we leave her. 

Sir Charles is the happieA cf men. Plans of his beneficence) 
oeconomy, charity, have been a^uajly 4^14 down.. 

His Lady i&, as (he deferves to. b^ the happieft>of womeii.' , 
By Nvhat we have feen of hrh, we know how they w)U 'behave 
on every future call or occaiion. • , , \ .. -xr -: 

Clementina, let me add to the notice I have taken of hersi ^ 
miflrefs of her own will. By the power Sir Charles, in the 
articles he drew, ftipulated for her, we know ihe will maJKi 
iierfelf happy in a^s of beneficence; and, as he has foretold, 
will fee every-thing in a chearful light, that 'before, appeared tp 
htr in a cloudy one. What will b^ the refult ? 

Lav R ANA has been puniihed, in kindj as we may iay. 
Lady Sforza alfo. . . * 

The Marquis, the MABCHXOi«xss,.the O x y eji,> t, the 
Bishop, in (hort,' the whole Pforrftta family^ are happy to xhe 
extent of their wi(hes. 
Mrs. Beaumont is highly fo in the general felicity* 
5o is Father Mar£Scotti« Shouli 

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that feehcis to be txpt&96, \9^»M like op nwre dtHe^ thmigh iiot 
qaantity of matter, than it has already take* op, be coAtmaed for 
iihe tiike of OtkViA f Stirtif, No. 

Can It, then, be more happily c($nchidecl than it is ? 

As to what you are pleafed t6 hfnt 0f the Hero*s appealing to 
Asiie iii the yiaMfitftl chlMft«r, lilair^ I hot fn P a m £ l a entered 
ItetD tfaHttfikJea pwtty la^gcAjr f Atid 4ittve I i\ot tH thi^ hiilory 
tvoMMl liMlhiiitttiMt tht Umt Hbfitt9 thK^ i hAve treated tm is 
either of the two former ? 

But you w^ll bis apt t5 i&y, Tofi e3C|>e£^c!d fnOt« «ii thefe fub* 
jedts from Sir Charleses chara^r> than from that of Mr. B, or 
even nf fils Ptmt/iib. 

But (to (wf KtfkHA^ «f Ills oar6 Ibr th6 «dueation of his Father's 
naltursd thiMrtfl*bf Mrs.OMhsjn) fei we nOt, from his tendemefs 
t0 Mrs. Rxevie»'« JtCdo bOy ^ittsm his-|t>odh^s tb^Lady L^s fon } and 
toiLfldy 0*8 liMts "^Hi) fnaM'th)6 oBftrVatioitbfhis Lady, that the 
3rave are always flWHtof Md ftlihiltA^ ; fro^ Ifi^eiftral prudence, as 
well as from ttis "h^mk Hiity to »'bKftmeabk» Fsfther, whofe facings 
ke ccckho/mMf d^lof^ with a piety Worthy of himfelf ; that b« 
would have ihone in every part Of the paret^tai chara^er ? [Who 
€Ver kne^ a d6«(f\il 8bn that ttiade ftet a g^od Father?] And 
where, and at what age of his children, hftd I entered into fuch par-* 
"fiealars, flioiJkJ'X'hiaT^t btett aitlott^ 'to ftopj fiftcc, as they grew 
Hk' years, th*y would Ki^fe had larger demands on his cares? 

I miglft kkteed, in- vAfHth ihne, have introduced a converfa- 
tion in which th^ Education of ChUdi^n might have been touched 
^pCfk, And his d)$intoH g?v%h : Hut t\ie tevers of Storjr would have 
fdund fiiiflt with me for it, Ai they have done with the few indc- 
^nd'^nt conV^fetioRs that appear in the book, however ufefcl 
others have thought them : And betides, the occafion mud have 
iMftltro^od^m. Not- Would the fiibjeft have appeared with the 
requifite advanti%6', hatted by, <jr before, fingie mein and women, 
or ^f^fkhf ydiirt^ maWed people, who had 'no opportunities to 
UrtiWj^ben thaitopiiricns by eaiperieiice. 

Permit me further to obferVe, that th^-conclufiort of vl Jingle fior^ 
Is lAdfeed gfencir&Hy foihe great and decifive event ; as a Death, or a 
l^i¥hge: -But' in ftenes of. life carried down nearly to the prefent 
ihno; and in wWch tt tfariet^ of intei^ejiitig cbaraBers is introduced, 
ftl) '¥f^x.% canhot be decide, unlefo, as in the Hlftory of tm 
mitf^ fht<^etif-, «ft the aaori at* killed in the laft fceno 5 fmce 
perfons prefumed to b^^fl'livifig, ihuift &e fii]3rpOfed liable i9 the 
various ta#Ms 6f htiihiih alflit^; . ' - 

AH that can be expefted therefore in fuch -ar ^;<roS*k, If its ending 

h'j)rot>df<«tb i^rd%hc«fAdft bbfWjaeteVcShfe of fe»3ty of which 

fMftrt«kh IHbM^ i&paMt, Mb» tW tb leave the pHiicipil chAiiGen 

happy, and the reft with fair profpe^s of bctn^'^O. 

. I am, hoover,- freiaWjr eWij^d b you, Mddarii, for fia^og r« 

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lar tAfierefted fwnftU in . the (korj, as to write to me upon it j 
and b«g leave to fuMBribc myfelf 

Twyr wkkgtd and Hmfi eteditnt Strtrnm* 

iKi limU^^»il Um !■ liMliOini ati«<-^*t*<< 

Answer /d^i LETTER /•«/*» ^ FRIEND, '^vfe *^i 

his baiightin h i^^'Cl*E.MEN.TiNA, had bis Mar'fi^^* 
luith her taken: Effe^^ to.he Sflnutt^d A^jtmiH Catbolks* 

I HAVE reeeived, my dear frleiA], feveral anonymous Letterc 
wiltten on the fame fubjedl wIHi your favour before me of the 
I ^h ; finding fault writh Sir Charles Grapdifon for his oflfered 
com^promife with the friends of Clementina, in the article of Re^ 
^igion ; all of ih^m ex;preffing, as yours does, a laudable zeal for 
the interefls of the ICrofedant caufe. . 

One of the geiitlemen deflred kn ahfwer fo what he wrote, $- 
reding whithef it w4s to be fent. t do not think myfelf at liberty 
td tr^nfcrlhe for you his Letter, though an anonymous one, and 
Which \^ould do credit to any writer : Btt as your lifter and his 
are in fubltance pretty much the fame^ you will allow me to hdpe 
^or your attention to the extracts I ihall make from my anfwer to 
fiis J and if ^ty are not of fufficient weight with yoa to excuie 
tlie Hero in this important article, I ihall he ready^ at yottr com- 
ftiand, to re-confider it. 

This gentleman wifhes, as you do, that I had gone further into 
the Tubje£t: That I had expofed the iniquity of fuch compromifes, 
and fhewo, that the fouls of girls ought to be as much regarded 
as thofe of boys \ and the rather, as fuch ilipulaticns are now 
made a point in courfe, in the marriage-treaties of perfons of dif« 
ferent religions. He is fo good iis to call for my opinion on the 
fubje^. Thus I anfwered. 

Give me leave. Sir, to fay, 1 Tiave ihewn in the work, w^en the 
fubjedt required it, that I have the honour to be of your opinion 
as to this compromife. I have, in Vol. iii. O^avo^ p. 105, io6. 
made the Blfhop (Clementina's Brothejc) thus fay to Mr. Grandifon^ 
ifter a debate between them on' the two religions; ** You will 
'* call to mind^ Chevalier, that jovr cburch allows of a poflibility 
** of falvation out of its pale— 0«rj does not/*—" My Lord,, 
infwers tlie Clievalier, ** our church allows aoc of its membeis 
^ indulging themfelves in capital errors, againfl convi^on/* 

Mr. Orandifbn was a young man t He pretended not to be di-! 
vefted of paflion. It was nece/Tafy to let the Porretta iamily, andf 
the Reader, who it was fuppof^d, would not be unconcerned in 
the dediny of Clementina, fee, that he was vt^jlling to make fome 
facrlBces, for thofe the family made, in coniideration of fo excel- 
lent i creature, who had fui^ered fo much, and was a^uaUy in a 


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iijkte of fuffiering, for li0r Love of him. 'Wiiat could be doriori^ 
he a(ks Dr. Baitlett, than to make fvch an offer ? He confiders it 
as a very great conceflion, though he muft know> that it vras, as 
yoUf Sir, obferve, a (oo ufual one : ' And he tells iter warmeil re- 
lations^ the General in particular, '* that he would not have come 
*' into fuch a cbmpromife, no^ not in favour of a princefs, in a 
** heginnif^ addrefs.** And this he Otys in anfwer to the GeneraPs 
^ueilion, '< What, Chevaher, mtift the poor 4^ughters have done, 
'' that tbejf (hould have been left to perdition ?** And this put by 
that haughty^ man, vi^hen he knew that Mr. Grandifon was of a 
religion which infpires its .profeflbrs with more chanty, than 
does that which allows not (alvation out of its own pale ; and 
^fite fouls of whofe daughters therefore, in his opinion, could not 
be endangerM merely by fuch an education. 

Who that thinlcs the Porretta family bigotted, pva^ hot have 
sSllowed them to think Mr. Grandifon fo, had he not made fome 
fuch fort of concefllon as be expected them to make ? Nay, they 
a£lu^ly made a, much greater than he offered fThe Sons of 
the family] ; and befides, were more apprehenfive of their Daugh- 
ter's change of religion, . were the marriage ' to take' place, than 
hopeful of his. 

Some conce{rioD& are cxpedied to be made in all marriage 
treaties ; and (contrary to what was propofed'in thh) greater, fre- 
quently, pA tfie rnan's than on the woman's part j fince it is under- 
ftood', that A'e wife Is fnore the property of the Rufband, than he 
is hers j >nd he. the,reforc in marcJiage makes an acquiiition. 
^ecuxiiary facrifices could not have a^efted Mr. Grandifon : No- 
thing 'but what touched his principles could. 'This was a fcvere 
trfal to hihi. Clementina, at the time, was the only woman he 
coyld have loved. He knew not then Mifs Byron : But we have 
reafon to believe, from different parts of the ftory, that he thought 
hlmfelt hot Ufthappy, that a marriage, to be entered into on fuch 
terms, took^ot eflfe^ j as well as tlv^t it was owing to Clementina 
lier'fejfjafid not tohfin, that it did not'} frequent as fuch compromiies 
iV6 ih niarflage-ireaties betyveen people of different perfuafions. 
•*^ Tliaft tltefe obrei*vations lie fcattered, as I may fay, in different 
pt\*H of tlh^ ftory, is owing, a good deal, to the manner of writing, 
(to the moment, as it rhay be called) as occafions arofe in the pro- 
grefs of th<i' ftory : A manner of writing that has its conveniencies 
and^ incoriveniencies. The iatter, in fucli cafes as that before us j 
4he former f ih gi^ih^; opportunities to defcribe the agitations that fill 
thp heart, ift th)5'|^rogrefs of a material and interefting fubjefl^, the 
ev^nt of which' regains undecided. 

You will be ple^fed to obferve, that J had a very nice and dlf- 

ficiiTt talk to nlariage, X6 convince nice and delicate Ladies, who, 

ii^iniglrt be ima^ned, wiJuld fit in judgment upon the conduS of 

a man in a Love- cafe (who was prefumed to be nearly perfcft, and 

i>>op^d as a pattern) that a Lady fo eJccellent as Ckmentiiui j of 

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fi> high a fiamliy 'and fortune > all her relations adoring her ; f4 ' 
deeply in love with him ; yet fo delicate in her whole behaviour 
to him J was not flighted by bim. What would the Ladies, and 
«he men of gallantry, have faid, had he not done all it was poflible 
Cor him to do, to obtain fo rich a prize ? 

Allow me to fay, that if his diftrefs, in diifbrent icenes of th* 
<lory, were duly attended to (attacked as he was on the fide of 
his Cenerofity, his Compaflion, his Gratitude, hi« Love) together 
Vrith his iledfaftnefs in his own Religion, I prefume, that, in the 
vrhole affair between him and Clementina, he would be rather 
thought a confeflbr for it, than a lukewarm man in it. Be pleafed 
to repenife what he fays to Mifs Byron on this fub}^, in the 
library at Colnebrook, yhl, iii. Offavo, p, 29, 30. Vol, iii. p, 189, 
290. DuodeciiM, 

' What mull be my grief, to be obliged to difappoint iuch ex • 
' pedations as were raifed by perfons who had fo iincere a value 
^ for me ! You cannot, madam, imagine my diilrefs : So little as 

* could be expeded to be allowed by them to the principles of a 

* man' whom they fuppoied to be in an error that would inevitably 

* caft him into perdition i But when the friendly Brother implored 
' my compliance J when the excellent Mother, in effed, befought 

* me to have pity on her hearty and on her chilcTs head ; and when 
' the tender, the amiable Clementina, putting herjelf out of the 

* queftion, urged me, for my foul's fake, to embrace the do^rinei 

* of her holy mother the church — What, madam — But how I 

* grieve you ! 

* [He ftopt, fays Mifs Byron — His handkerchief was of ufe to 

* him, as mine was to me — What a diftrefs was here .'] 

* And what, and what, Sir, fobbing, was the refult ? Could 
' you, twli you refift ? 

* Satisfied in my own faith ! Entirely fatislied ! Having infu- 

* perable objections to that I was wilhed to embrace !—• -A Lover 

* of my native country too— Were not my God and my Country 

* to be the facrifice, if I complied ? But I iahourtdy Iftudied, for a 

* compromlfe. I muft have been unjuft to Clementina's merit, and 

* to my own character, had fhe not been diear to me. And indeed 
' I beheld graces in her then, that I had before refolved to ihiut 
' my eyes againft $ he^ Rank Aext to princely j her Fortune high as' 

* her rank ; Religion ; Country ; all fo many obftacles that had 

* appeared to me infuperable, removed by tbmfekm ; and no ap- 

* prebenHon left of a breach of the laws of hofpitaltty, which had, 
' till now, made me ftruggle to behold one of the moft amiable 

* and noble-minded of women with indifference.* Then- he 

relates his offer of compromife. 

And let me add here that noble apoflrophe of his, when hfb 
had been contemf^ting the perfe^ions of Clementina, the wor- 
thinefii of her family, and their great offers to him — *' But, O my 
** Rel^ion^ and my Country I I cannot, cannot renounce you. 

T <' Wliat 

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f Whtr ctn this world give^-.whatf jp«A it pronOTe^ to wgMraftt 
*' Aich afacrifice?** . r, * 

Kor are thefe the ftrongeft inftaoces that he gives of Ins at- 
tadunent to hU IUti8i<m an4 Country in the courfe of the work ; 
. to fay nothing 6f what fnight be fuppofed to pafs between him 
and the6tfiwp> to. their debate on the two Religions ; io whti^ he 
convinced the Preiate. (who from that tinie forbore to attack him 
OD thatiubje^) that he had a great deal to fay^ in b^h^lf of his own. 

In an omii&ott in the Sixth Volume^ 0£l«v«^ w^ch is fu]^lied 
|>. 401,402. LuCy Selby is tm^ thus to cjt^efi herfelf, with 
regard to this compromi^i in order to weaken tlie danger to Reli- 
fioB that might be appr^iended fpom the «xampi6—» *< How could 
<* 91r Charlesy^ fo thorough an £ngUihman> have been h^py with 
. ** an Italian wife ? His heart indeed is generoufly^opoi and bene* 
*^ volent to people of all countrks. He is^ in the nobleft fenfe, 
^ a Cittlen of the World : But fye we not, that Ins long residence 
*' a'broad' has only the mfre endeared to him t;lie Religion, the 
*' CoYernmeat, the Manners, of Epgland U-i^^ 

*' Havr was this noble-minded man* protends ihe, enungied 
.^ by deltcades of iituatiofk, by friendi^ip, by compaiUon, that he 
*' (hould ever have been likely to be engaged in a family of Ro- 
<' man Catholics, asd lived half of h» days out of his beloved 
*' country ; and the other half to have fet, as to the world*s eye, 
*^ fuch an example in it ? 

« I know, adds Mifs Selhy,. h«;woiiM have naade it bis ftudy 
" to prevent any mifchief to his neighbours from thea^vezeiU 
** of his Lady*s CQo£e0br, had ascertain ccdApriomife taken eflfed. 
*' I remember the hint he gave to Father Mareicotti {a) ; Bat 
'< would even that good .maik hUrff thougbt hjmfelf bonmi to ob- 
•* fervc faith with heretics in fuch a cafe ? " - ' 

And in the Concluding Note toi the work, I have further en- 
deavoured to obviate the apprehended miftshief, by declining to 
co^rW with fuch of my Readers, whofe laudable zoil led them to 
confiderthtscompromiie asafauU. > 

Thus, my dear Friend, you will fee, that, however ufuai It 
may be f6r people ' of different Religions, when they iatenparry, 
to ientferinfo corapfomi^ of this kinc^.tbey ana sot countenanced 
by the judgmim bi Sir Charles 43randi£bnf } who confidered, as 
M greatcfl micSertune that could have beff Hen him, the fituati<m 
he was in { which in a ctanner compelkd hint to make fome con- 
ceOions, in companion to ah excellent woman, who laboured under 
a diforder of mind on his account. 

After all, if this conceffion of Sir Charles is to he deemed a 

bletnifii, it is rather a blemiih in his conduct than in his oharader. 

^^Vei'y few in bis circiQmflatices would liave done bettef \ few fo 

wrell • And what he offei*ed, in fo pecuUar a fstuation, is by fio 

.means 'a precedent to be pkaded in cemmtm. cafes. 

■' Believe me to be, with equal truth and affeOion, Sir, 

Tour mofi obedien9^trv^ntt 
{a) Vol. i»n p. 122. Octave— Vol. v.^p. 93. Du.odecimo^ 

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